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We all have different expectations in life. Some people are happy with the basics. Others believe you should be treated like absolute royalty - and honestly, neither is wrong. But when it comes to relationships, things get especially blurry. What one person calls “the bare minimum,” someone else might see as full-on princess treatment.

So where do you draw the line? In this poll, you’ll see 26 everyday relationship acts that people love to debate. Your job is simple: decide what counts as real effort and what shouldn’t be getting a medal.

And if you’re in the mood to judge even more dating moments, you can check out Part 2 here - because apparently, we all have very strong opinions about romance. 💬💖

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#1

Letting Her Control The Music In The Car Every Time

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43 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Given that I have to air drum to Rush every time it comes on, it's probably best that my wife has some control over the music in the car.

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    Opening Bottles/Jars For Her

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    Jenka666
    Jenka666
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    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, sometimes we are just not strong enough

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    #3

    Remembering Her Friends’ Names And Drama

    Group of women enjoying drinks in vineyard, illustrating dating gestures and social connection beyond the bare minimum.

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    26 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Names should be a given, but I don't know many guys who care about drama.

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    #4

    Letting Her Vent Without Trying To “Fix” It

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    Grape Walls of Ire
    Grape Walls of Ire
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    39 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a sore spot. I'm an engineer. I solve problems for a living. It's my instinct. But I have to shut it off when my wife tells me about her problems. I understand her perspective, but it's a challenge to always have to fight my instincts.

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    #5

    Letting Her Steal Your Fries Without Complaining

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    Phantom Phoenix
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    Premium     53 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you end up really feeling like you didn't get enough chips and you're still a bit hungry; fụckin' buy more... or have some toast when ya get home, mate. You 100% will not die from having 8 fewer chips than you wanted

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    #6

    Putting Her Picture As Your Phone Wallpaper

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    Phantom Phoenix
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    Premium     52 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's what pics of pets are for

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    #7

    Planning Surprise Date Nights

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    #8

    Bringing Her Soup When She’s Sick

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    #9

    Complimenting Her Regularly

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    #10

    Holding Hands In Public

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    Carrying Her Over Puddles/Mud

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    #12

    Walking Slower To Match Her Pace

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    Grape Walls of Ire
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    37 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't have much choice but to slow down.

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    #13

    Ordering Two Drinks So She Can Taste Both And Choose Her Favorite

    Two colorful cocktails on a table symbolizing dating gestures and questioning accepting the bare minimum in relationships.

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    Grape Walls of Ire
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    37 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's princess treatment, but I'll do it anyway.

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    #14

    Letting Her Win Arguments In Public

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    Armac
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    Premium     1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or be civilised and don’t have arguments in public.

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    #15

    Waiting With Her While She Shops

    Woman browsing white shirts in a modern store, reflecting on dating gestures and whether we accept the bare minimum

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    Grape Walls of Ire
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    36 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on whether there's a record store nearby.

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    #16

    Driving Her Instead Of Letting Her Take Public Transport

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    #17

    Telling Her She’s Pretty When She Says She Isn’t

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    #18

    Remembering Small Details From Months Ago

    A couple sharing a joyful moment indoors, highlighting dating gestures and questioning the acceptance of the bare minimum.

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    #19

    Paying For Her Uber

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    #20

    Apologizing First To Keep The Peace

    The word sorry spelled out on cards next to pink flowers, relating to dating gestures and apologies.

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    #21

    Giving Her Your Seat When There Aren’t Enough

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    #22

    Checking If She’s Cold Or Hungry

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    Jenka666
    Jenka666
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    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can we just say when we’re cold or hungry?

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    #23

    Refilling Her Water

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    #24

    Letting Her Go Through Doors First

    Young woman in a leather jacket opening a door, illustrating dating gestures and questioning accepting the bare minimum in relationships

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    #25

    Sharing Your Location With Her

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    #26

    Making Tea When She’s Tired

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    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish there were a few more options in the poll. Some people don't like tea. I can't carry my wife across puddles, Some people don't like to be the first one entering a room, etc. I'd like a N/A or "other" choice, cause somethings are not well defined in life.

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