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Going no-contact with anyone, especially your loved ones, is a huge decision. And yet, it might be the only option left for you if your parents constantly trample over your boundaries and aim to hurt you, your spouse, and your newborn.
One woman vented online about the massive chaos that her own mother unleashed in her life after filing a fake Child Protective Services report full of lies and fake accusations. She suspects this was her mom’s revenge against her for setting boundaries. Scroll down for the full story in the author’s own words, including an update.
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Going no-contact with someone toxic is a big decision, but it can create enough space for you to rest, heal, and recover
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Filing a report with CPS is a huge deal. It’s not a decision that you should take lightly. If you strongly suspect that a child is being mistreated, yes, you can and should contact CPS as soon as possible.
But you should never file fake reports because you want to get revenge against someone. What’s even more concerning is that the author of the viral post noted that her mom is actually a CPS worker. Misusing one’s position to settle personal vendettas is unethical and also harms the reputation of the organization.
“Because she works for CPS in another state, she knew the exact language, trigger phrases, and wording to get it to land despite her having never met our daughter,” the author wrote about her mother’s retaliatory CPS report.
If someone repeatedly ignores the boundaries you’ve set, repeatedly ignores your warnings, and actively tries to damage your life, it might be worth considering cutting off all contact with them.
The Cleveland Clinic explains that one of the main benefits of going no-contact with someone toxic includes mental and emotional clarity. When you remove yourself from a bad situation, you can reduce the symptoms of anxiety and depression and boost your sense of self-worth.
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What’s more, going no-contact can empower you, offer you stability, and give you space for self-care and healing. On top of that, this can be your way of putting a stop to the toxic conflicts and behaviors that you grew up with.
“You’re breaking trauma cycles because you’re modeling healthy behavior for others who are watching, like your kids or your friends,” psychologist Chivonna Childs, PhD, stressed.
That being said, no-contact isn’t a perfect solution. It comes with a host of drawbacks. For one, there is no guarantee that cutting off contact with a toxic individual will make them reflect on their actions and change their behavior.
Other potential issues include things like family dynamics becoming even more complicated, new logistical issues popping up, and you feeling guilt, loneliness, or even grief. Moreover, the toxic individual that you’ve cut out might decide to retaliate and not respect the new boundaries that you’ve set.
Boundaries are healthy. And yet, just because you went no-contact with someone doesn’t mean that they’ll respect your decision
According to Dr. Childs, planning helps when choosing to go no-contact. You first have to set a goal that you hope cutting off contact will achieve, and consider other options like therapy, limited contact, or a short-term break. Try to think of a few ways that cutting the individual out of your life might go.
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Next, it’s always helpful to find social support during this time. You should prioritize your healing and consider speaking to a mental health professional before, during, and after going no-contact with the toxic person. Most importantly, have a safety plan to protect yourself and your loved ones.
“When you go no-contact, it’s usually because that person’s already crossed your boundaries. So, them not adhering to a no-contact request is something you need to be ready for,” Dr. Childs warns. She notes that you should keep records of any unwanted attempts at contact, including calls, trespassing, etc.
“That’s when you can take it to the courts. You can ask for a restraining order or protection order if necessary.”
As Wondermind points out, the entire goal of boundaries is to help people maintain healthy relationships, not keep them apart. Someone who keeps disrespecting your boundaries, even when you remind them of your limits, might not be willing to change their behavior.
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“I believe that if someone is being hateful and they have been told how this is hurting you, yet they continue to do so, this is a person who does not have your best interest at heart. They are likely not capable of having a reciprocal healthy relationship with you,” Whitney Goodman, LMFT, told Wondermind.
What are your thoughts about the entire tense family situation? How would you react if someone you knew filed a fabricated CPS report against you? How do you protect your boundaries and peace from the toxic people in your life?
After sharing the follow-up post, the author revealed even more details
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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real.At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design.In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle.I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.
Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real.At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design.In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle.I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.
I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda, crafting captivating visual content to enhance every reader's experience. Sometimes my mornings are spent diving into juicy dramas, while afternoons are all about adding extra laughs to the world by editing the funniest memes around. My favorite part of the job? Choosing the perfect images to illustrate articles. It's like imagining a story as a movie in my mind and selecting the key shots to tell the story visually.
I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda, crafting captivating visual content to enhance every reader's experience. Sometimes my mornings are spent diving into juicy dramas, while afternoons are all about adding extra laughs to the world by editing the funniest memes around. My favorite part of the job? Choosing the perfect images to illustrate articles. It's like imagining a story as a movie in my mind and selecting the key shots to tell the story visually.
Holy helI what did I just read 😬😬 As a person living with this "suicideDecease" I admire the husbands ability to not go and strangIe that crazy b***h, because this pain is always there, mudding your brain and sucking the life out of you and if there's anything causing extra shi_t in your life it drives you insane.
I want to know why this poor man is living with Trigeminal neuralgia all this time. I developed this terrible neuralgia suddenly about 1½years ago & had an operation on my head last year which immediately almost totally stopped it. There were several possible options, and a medicine which also stops the pain though with heavy side effects. I used the medication for several months till a complete diagnosis & treatment was decided. None of this cost me anything, but i live in Europe not America.
All my parenting vibes just sat down and cried. The thought of ANYONE, let alone family members being this disgusting just terrifies me. I have been incredibly lucky with my families (blood and in-laws) and would confidently leave my children with just about any of them. I send all the healing strength I can offer to this family and hope their lives continue to improve.
Me to it was awful wasn’t it ,I felt all her pain her hurt her emotions even via a post being an empath as well as a mum makes tough reading , just wanted to reach out n give her a hug tbh ,💔
"I run an etsy shop and do freelance writing" few words have surprised me less than OP saying she does freelance writing. Props to anyone who made it through her whole story, I am not one of them.
What in the holy telenovela did I just read?! It is taking every part of me to not go on a road trip to hunt this broad down and introduce her to my Kung Fu Sifu. I am the last person to go NC, because I have been ghosted and ignored before, and it really hurts me. But in this case, I would go complete sever.
I would contact mom's employer and let them know she filed a false report on you and file a complaint with the police for harassment. In addition to cutting her entirely out of my life forever.
I know there's going to be some who read this find it to be totally fake but here me out; these people do exist. They are often attracted to jobs like this or nursing, or anything that lets them feel powerful over others. So IRL a close friend of mine has one of these mothers. She would purposely date men with some kind of criminal record (I assume for plausible deniability) and if they "crossed her" in any way (even some unsaid stuff that, "they should have known she wanted it X way instead of Y way") she would talk them up real good, get them drunk, then start harassing and manipulating them until they got mad and try to leave. She already got their car keys so they had to walk to get away from her and that's when she would go give them a little tap with her car, take them to the hospital, and completely fabricate some story about drunk abusers, then tell the guy next day or two her version of what happened (which of course was her saving them from their inner demons...)
Holy helI what did I just read 😬😬 As a person living with this "suicideDecease" I admire the husbands ability to not go and strangIe that crazy b***h, because this pain is always there, mudding your brain and sucking the life out of you and if there's anything causing extra shi_t in your life it drives you insane.
I want to know why this poor man is living with Trigeminal neuralgia all this time. I developed this terrible neuralgia suddenly about 1½years ago & had an operation on my head last year which immediately almost totally stopped it. There were several possible options, and a medicine which also stops the pain though with heavy side effects. I used the medication for several months till a complete diagnosis & treatment was decided. None of this cost me anything, but i live in Europe not America.
All my parenting vibes just sat down and cried. The thought of ANYONE, let alone family members being this disgusting just terrifies me. I have been incredibly lucky with my families (blood and in-laws) and would confidently leave my children with just about any of them. I send all the healing strength I can offer to this family and hope their lives continue to improve.
Me to it was awful wasn’t it ,I felt all her pain her hurt her emotions even via a post being an empath as well as a mum makes tough reading , just wanted to reach out n give her a hug tbh ,💔
"I run an etsy shop and do freelance writing" few words have surprised me less than OP saying she does freelance writing. Props to anyone who made it through her whole story, I am not one of them.
What in the holy telenovela did I just read?! It is taking every part of me to not go on a road trip to hunt this broad down and introduce her to my Kung Fu Sifu. I am the last person to go NC, because I have been ghosted and ignored before, and it really hurts me. But in this case, I would go complete sever.
I would contact mom's employer and let them know she filed a false report on you and file a complaint with the police for harassment. In addition to cutting her entirely out of my life forever.
I know there's going to be some who read this find it to be totally fake but here me out; these people do exist. They are often attracted to jobs like this or nursing, or anything that lets them feel powerful over others. So IRL a close friend of mine has one of these mothers. She would purposely date men with some kind of criminal record (I assume for plausible deniability) and if they "crossed her" in any way (even some unsaid stuff that, "they should have known she wanted it X way instead of Y way") she would talk them up real good, get them drunk, then start harassing and manipulating them until they got mad and try to leave. She already got their car keys so they had to walk to get away from her and that's when she would go give them a little tap with her car, take them to the hospital, and completely fabricate some story about drunk abusers, then tell the guy next day or two her version of what happened (which of course was her saving them from their inner demons...)
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