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Sis Accuses Woman Of “Ruining Family Bonds” Because She Won’t Babysit Niece For A $25 Coupon
It’s been said that family helps family, but just how much help should you be willing to give? Are you expected to do endless favors for them for your whole life? When do you put your foot down and say enough is enough?
One woman has rocked the family boat by refusing to babysit her niece. The reason? Her sister is offering to pay her with a Chick-fil-A coupon, some candy, and a promise that she’ll stop stealing her snacks for a whole month. Livid, the woman turned to Reddit to vent.
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Family is expected to help family, but this woman’s cheapskate sister asked too much for too little
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The sister asked her to babysit her 3-year-old niece for a few hours while she went out
Image credits: Mike Mozart / Flickr (not the actual photo)
After declining at first, the woman asked her sister what she’d be willing to pay for her childminding services
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That’s when her sister offered her a $25 Chick-fil-A coupon, a bag of her favorite candy and a promise not to raid her snacks for a whole month
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Thinking her sister’s bribe a joke, she turned her down again, but that sparked family drama, so the woman turned to netizens to ask if she was being a jerk
OP begins her post by telling the community that she has a 28-year-old sister, Amanda, and a 3-year-old niece, Lily. She admits that she’s no babysitting queen, what with school, work, and the rest of it, and besides, she’s just not interested in watching a toddler do her best impression of Taz the Tasmanian devil.
A few days ago, Amanda asked her if she could watch Lily for a few hours while she went out, but she politely declined. A few days later, Amanda asked her to babysit Lily again, this time offering payment. She was in for a shock though, because Amanda told her she could only pay her with a $25 Chick-fil-A gift card.
Well, OP thought she was joking, but then Amanda tried to sweeten the deal by offering her a couple of bags of her favorite candy and, to top it off, a solemn promise not to raid her snacks behind her back – for a whole month, at that. Of course, OP refused, but now Amanda’s acting like she’s the worst person on the planet.
Her family thinks she should suck it up and help Amanda out, but she turned to the web to ask if she’s being a jerk for drawing a line at payment in food.
From what we can tell from the woman’s post, Amanda seems a bit toxic, considering she’s accusing her of, in her words, “ruining family bonds.” Perhaps if Amanda had made a more convincing offer, she wouldn’t be so mad at OP’s refusal.
Image credits: Mike Mozart / Flickr (not the actual photo)
Long before we had cards, cash, and Bitcoin, humans bartered for goods and services. Bartering had its downsides though, because it relied on a coincidence of wants and needs. If you didn’t need a goat and your bartering partner had no use for your cow, you were out of luck.
This snag led to humans developing currency. According to the Britannica website, some of mankind’s earliest currencies were objects sourced from nature, such as cowrie shells, first used as money about 1200 BCE.
Though this may seem like a fairly random choice, the shells had a number of unique advantages – they were small, hardwearing, and similar in size to each other, making them easy to transport and make deals with.
What OP’s sister lacks is a deal that works for everyone because, in this instance, bartering clearly isn’t going to do the trick.
According to Cirrus Insight, two of the biggest deals in US history include the Louisiana Purchase, which saw the United States buy the Louisiana Territory from France for $15 million (effectively doubling the size of the United States), and Henry Ford’s 1914 deal with his workers to shorten the workday by an hour and double their salary. We’re sure anyone working today would agree that that’s nothing to be sniffed at.
Considering OP’s not inclined to spend her afternoons chasing after a toddler who thinks glitter glue is a new form of edible art, Amanda’s new deal better be sweeter than a coupon and a couple of bags of candy.
What would you do if you were in OP’s shoes? Do you think the sister’s deal was fair, or does she need to consider forking over some cold, hard cash? Let us know your opinion in the comments!
Readers in the comments slammed the sister for her bogus bargaining chips and told the woman that if her family are complaining, they can babysit too
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KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
I swear YTAs are tripping balls with their unhinged FAMMMILLLYYY comments - clearly they live in a disney world where wimmin have no lives and should absolutely run after someone else's crotch goblin. The only kid you are OBLIGED to sit is one you either made yourself or adopted. And that's parenting. Offering chick Fila? Nah, Felicia - also stop stealing from me?
A girl 1 year ago
As a child, i had to watch my younger brother a lot. We lived in the same house so it was mandatory. As an adult, I rarely watched nieces/nephews. If you have kids, you arrange for sitters. In an emergency, yes, I'll watch them
Dog Mom to Zoe 1 year ago
Upvoted to remove the downvote because I whole heartedly agree with you.
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SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
Once again YTA fuggnuts, learn that "family" isn't an answer to just expect someone to drop everything for your entitled behinds. Also, I hope you get straddled with a hyper-active tyke that just fueled up on sweets for eternity and see how you like it. SMH!!! P.S. I like the response that OP created a mock schedule of who was supposed to babysit and when, leading to numbskull family members suddenly dropping the case faster than a freshly baked potato XP
whineygingercat 1 year ago
"BuT iT's FaMiLY!!!" Is merely a way of manipulating someone into doing, or giving, something they don't want to.
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TribbleThinking 1 year ago (edited)
Putting aside the extreme cheapskatedness of the offered rate, what's with the paying in gift cards rather than cash? Is she trying to get rid of unwanted gift cards or trying something weird to shortchange the OP(as in the card will only have $1 on it)?
Alexandra 1 year ago
Family is as family does. This family member steals your snacks and wants to 'pay' you with gift cards that offer you less-than-healthy food. Is that a way to treat a family member? Stealing from them and getting them to eat unhealthily? Bringng up children doesn't take a village unless the village had a say in the conception of said child. it takes the parents.
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
I wouldn't trust her with the amount on the gift card either.
Load More Replies... notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
Wait- so she made part of the payment to stop stealing your snacks? She's a real peach there. An entitled thief from the beginning. Made it even worse when she pulled out the world famous " but family " guilt trip card. I hate that one. They always do that for 1 of 2 reasons. 1- when they aren't getting their way. 2 - to absolve a person of a despicable behavior so they don't have to be involved themselves in a serious family argument. Don't fall for the " but family " guilt trip card. She's acting entitled because you're related. It's nonsense. You're not obligated to become a built-in babysitter just because she is related to you. NICE TRY. On top of that she admitted she's been stealing food from you. So her statement about stopping as part of the payment is NOT A PAYMENT AT ALL. She's rude and entitled. Why do parents believe that child free relatives should drop everything and cater to them? It's not right and selfish. People have lives of their own. I don't care if you " need a break " . I don't care if you're a single parent either. You're the parent and it's your responsibility to care for your OWN child. Not p**n it off on others. You need to learn to accept the word NO without throwing fits or using guilt trip cards. NO IS NO. Parents also need to stop getting other relatives involved as flying monkeys when a sibling says no to scold and call them selfish. After hearing the theft part, I would definitely make sure sister wasn't at my house or lock up my food. Food is expensive. I'm poor and obviously she can't be trusted. The entitlement will not be tolerated. I don't accept guilt trip cards. I'm not a doormat.
whineygingercat 1 year ago
Whenever my cousin would ask me to babysit her kids, I'd name an OUTRAGEOUS amount of $$$. She wouldn't want to pay that much. I'd inform her that it's the bare minimum for me, one person, to watch her three kids. She'd usually decline. The ONLY times I babysat for her was when my mom stepped in and volun-told me I'd be babysitting. As a teenager, I was stuck. And didn't get paid, either
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
I swear YTAs are tripping balls with their unhinged FAMMMILLLYYY comments - clearly they live in a disney world where wimmin have no lives and should absolutely run after someone else's crotch goblin. The only kid you are OBLIGED to sit is one you either made yourself or adopted. And that's parenting. Offering chick Fila? Nah, Felicia - also stop stealing from me?
A girl 1 year ago
As a child, i had to watch my younger brother a lot. We lived in the same house so it was mandatory. As an adult, I rarely watched nieces/nephews. If you have kids, you arrange for sitters. In an emergency, yes, I'll watch them
Dog Mom to Zoe 1 year ago
Upvoted to remove the downvote because I whole heartedly agree with you.
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
Once again YTA fuggnuts, learn that "family" isn't an answer to just expect someone to drop everything for your entitled behinds. Also, I hope you get straddled with a hyper-active tyke that just fueled up on sweets for eternity and see how you like it. SMH!!! P.S. I like the response that OP created a mock schedule of who was supposed to babysit and when, leading to numbskull family members suddenly dropping the case faster than a freshly baked potato XP
whineygingercat 1 year ago
"BuT iT's FaMiLY!!!" Is merely a way of manipulating someone into doing, or giving, something they don't want to.
Load More Replies... TribbleThinking 1 year ago (edited)
Putting aside the extreme cheapskatedness of the offered rate, what's with the paying in gift cards rather than cash? Is she trying to get rid of unwanted gift cards or trying something weird to shortchange the OP(as in the card will only have $1 on it)?
Alexandra 1 year ago
Family is as family does. This family member steals your snacks and wants to 'pay' you with gift cards that offer you less-than-healthy food. Is that a way to treat a family member? Stealing from them and getting them to eat unhealthily? Bringng up children doesn't take a village unless the village had a say in the conception of said child. it takes the parents.
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
I wouldn't trust her with the amount on the gift card either.
Load More Replies... notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
Wait- so she made part of the payment to stop stealing your snacks? She's a real peach there. An entitled thief from the beginning. Made it even worse when she pulled out the world famous " but family " guilt trip card. I hate that one. They always do that for 1 of 2 reasons. 1- when they aren't getting their way. 2 - to absolve a person of a despicable behavior so they don't have to be involved themselves in a serious family argument. Don't fall for the " but family " guilt trip card. She's acting entitled because you're related. It's nonsense. You're not obligated to become a built-in babysitter just because she is related to you. NICE TRY. On top of that she admitted she's been stealing food from you. So her statement about stopping as part of the payment is NOT A PAYMENT AT ALL. She's rude and entitled. Why do parents believe that child free relatives should drop everything and cater to them? It's not right and selfish. People have lives of their own. I don't care if you " need a break " . I don't care if you're a single parent either. You're the parent and it's your responsibility to care for your OWN child. Not p**n it off on others. You need to learn to accept the word NO without throwing fits or using guilt trip cards. NO IS NO. Parents also need to stop getting other relatives involved as flying monkeys when a sibling says no to scold and call them selfish. After hearing the theft part, I would definitely make sure sister wasn't at my house or lock up my food. Food is expensive. I'm poor and obviously she can't be trusted. The entitlement will not be tolerated. I don't accept guilt trip cards. I'm not a doormat.
whineygingercat 1 year ago
Whenever my cousin would ask me to babysit her kids, I'd name an OUTRAGEOUS amount of $$$. She wouldn't want to pay that much. I'd inform her that it's the bare minimum for me, one person, to watch her three kids. She'd usually decline. The ONLY times I babysat for her was when my mom stepped in and volun-told me I'd be babysitting. As a teenager, I was stuck. And didn't get paid, either
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