35 “Manic Pixie Dream Girl” Things Women Used To Do, Thinking It Made Them So Cool And Mysterious
InterviewA Manic Pixie Dream Girl is defined as a female character who's "quirky" and "unusual" but really exists only for the development of the male lead. Think of a female damsel in distress that film critics argue is edgy and fun at best and a cliché or even a sexist stereotype, at worst.
Recently, the term resurfaced again after TikToker Amy Lovatt asked everyone to share "the most Manic Pixie Dream Girl thing" they used to do.
Hers was bringing a trifle (a particular dessert) whenever she’d go to a party. “It was like, look at me, I am so quirky,” Amy recounted in her viral video.
More people joined the trend to share their own MPDG moments and it’s both hilarious and somewhat painfully relatable.

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Bubbles in my purse when I would try to stop smoking, so I would take bubble breaks.
I used to do that when I was recovering from post-partum depression. It was helpful. Makes you take a deep breath and got me out of the house without the baby for a little "bubble walk", even if it was just around the block.
OP didn’t understand the assignment. Yeah it’s pseudo quirky but for a valid reason.
One of my dear friends kept rubber snakes in their pocket to chew on when quitting, and an old neighbor used toothpicks. Anything that helps to ween yourself out of addiction is good
Load More Replies...It really is a good idea; it utilizes a lot of the same movements and muscle groups, as well as a similar breathing rhythm, so it feasibly could work...
To find out more about the significance of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl character, we reached out to Lauren McMenemy, a writer, a journalist, and marketer dedicated to running workshops and training to help people get their words down right. Lauren was happy to share some insights into the topic.
Lauren told us that there was a time when the Manic Pixie Dream Girl was everywhere, especially in the indie scene. “Heck, I idolized those girls on screen: Natalie Portman in Garden State, Zooey Deschanel in literally everything. I did the '50s dresses with Converse trainers. I did the black-rimmed glasses and had (still have) a fringe (or bangs for our American friends),” Lauren recounted.
I would drop pennies as I walked so people could find them and have good luck.
That's a really sweet & cool reason. Trying to spread a little magic into the world isn't a bad thing.
... we glued a few coins to the ground in my school, in a hallway in the administrative part of the building, so that only staff and no students would try to find it ... and they did. Nails broken, and we could just sit there as if we were called into the principal's office, and watch our beloved torturers bend down despite prehistoric birthdate and according age, try and not succeed in picking up a Groschen (10 Pfennig coin), mumbling curses into themselves ... great times? Not really, but that has other reasons. This is one of the more lighthearted, innocently funny things we did.
I once bent down to pick up a coin in hospital grounds, only to find it glued to the pavement. it occurred to me that it probably wasn't the best place for a prank like that!
Load More Replies...I always flip pennies on tails over that I find on the ground so others will have “good luck.”
You should super glue them to the pavement and watch them trying to pick them off. Or not
I still do this when I stop to think about. I also used to leave quarters on the ground near bus stops because sometimes you're just simply short a quarter.
I'd read books, but up in a tree *so mysterious*
I’ve done it. It’s very peaceful and if it’s a good tree, you’re comfy, it’s hard to find you, and it feels really magical. I’ve found that pine trees have the best spots, and are the easiest to climb.
Load More Replies...I did this, almost daily, from about the age of 12 to 17. Hell, I still do it sometimes if I find a comfy tree. I'd bring a snack & soda with me & climb up as high as I could go. Why? BC NO ONE COULD BOTHER ME WHILE I WAS READING!!!! They can't pester you if they can't see you, or you can ignore them if they find you bc they can't reach you. I could hide from my step father for hours & let the world dissolve up a tree with a book. Or three. ~~ The only problem was whenever I broke something he'd insist I must have fallen out of a tree. I've NEVER fallen out of a tree. Not once!! That accusation is an insult!!!
I used to do that too! I'd take couple books with me and spend all day up there reading too avoid my cousins
Load More Replies...I don't think that's weird or mysterious at all. Although it might be a bit creepy for the tree to have to see one of its relatives in chopped-up form.
I would wear thrift store clothes and tell people it was because “I like wearing other people’s stories on me.” *HEAVES*
Lol I like buying used books because I like that they have been on a journey before and hopefully when I die I'll pass it on to someone else and so on.
San Francisco has a great book sale every September. All year people donate used books to the library and then they're sold for $5 or less to support the library.
Load More Replies...Even better is doing the three-point model swish 'n turn and telling people how much it cost.
Load More Replies...I’m all for vintage clothing. It’s often better made and better cared-for.
I think that's actually pretty neat. Admittedly, if YOU feel cringey about it, then it gets weird. But if you honestly feel that way, I don't see anything wrong with that.
I buy from thrift stores and estate sales and sometimes say when people say I have a old lady fashion sense " Well this was a dead lady clothes"
She said she used to call herself quirky, just like many girls out there. “I met my now-husband on a dating site under the username 'QuirkyWriter' - and I still do. Because to me, and to many women out there, these aren't tropes but aspects of our personality.”
Lauren explained that the issue with the Manic Pixie Dream Girl is the way these characters are handled by the writer, who is inevitably a "sensitive" man.
“It was film critic Nathan Rabin who, when referring to Kirsten Dunst's character in Elizabethtown, said the Manic Pixie Dream Girl ‘exists solely in the fevered imaginations of sensitive writer-directors to teach broodingly soulful men to embrace life and its infinite mysteries and adventures.’”
I wore fairy wings to class a lot and wore vintage ball gowns to punk shows (those poor dresses)
Nah let's be real, fairy wings in class are just obnoxious lol. Imagine sitting behind her.
Load More Replies...I had a Fairy Wing girl in my English and Science class senior year of high school. The best part (to me at least, it may have bothered her) is that not once did I hear someone acknowledging the fact; Nobody ever stared as far as I know, nobody ever asked "Hey, why're you wearing those?"...it just WAS, and people took that and moved forward. And if you're gonna be "different" while being yourself, well then damnit, I wanna live in the world where nobody is questioning you about being comfortable in your own skin
Nooo vintage gowns are great but there’s a time and a place… Ren fairs are my favorite
yesss Ren fest! I'm so excited for October/November. I'm already getting my costume together, it'll be my first time dressing up. I've already bought the fabric I'm going to be using to make a drawstring pocket belt, along with the flowers to go on it. I've been obsessing over it to distract myself from other issues going on
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My best friend would bring a lemon to every party and very casually eat it.
Ok, this is an important question: would they eat the rind too?
My mom used to eat lemons, but she wouldn't eat the rind. I did many things in childhood with the sole purpose of grossing out my very straight-laced older sister, so I'd grab the rinds from my mom's lemons and eat them slowly in front of my sister, much to my sister's horror. To this day, I've gotten in the habit of eating fruit rinds... many of them are quite good! I'm partial to lime rinds and watermelon rinds.
Load More Replies...I have to give OP’s friend credit for making sure he or she had a decent vitamin C intake.
My brain for a split second first interpreted that as legos and was very confused for a very short amount of time until it realised that's not a typo.
Load More Replies...Especially good if there's someone at the party who thinks they can sing
I can eat a lemon slice, rind and all. I do it occasionally just to freak out my friends.
I’d take my journal everywhere to write down funny moments and quotes I wanted to remember. Now I’m a journalist
No, it's journal ist. Like archaeolog ist. As in, someone who journals.
Load More Replies...me and my friends write down 'quotes of the year' (funny/random things we want to remember). i highly recommend
the quote that started it all: "two lizards can beat one winner" i don't even know
Load More Replies...Sooo many lists: digital, handwritten on little notes, sometimes journaled. Thrilling to peruse and take delight in again and again!
Load More Replies...I still do that, mostly from a childhood reading Lemony Snicket and getting the "common place notebooks" Idea from there
“At that point, the quirky girls ceased to just be quirky girls and suddenly became tropes and white male fantasies. This problem isn't just confined to the MPDG; it's the problem with any two-dimensional character in any story who serves to provide important life lessons to the protagonist while having no discernible inner life. They're just a plot device.”
Lauren believes that the same is true when this carries over to young girls finding who they are. “If they only have Garden State's Sam, they're going to focus on looking right and having some weird quirk and being available to interested, sensitive men. But if they have Clementine in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, or they have Summer in 500 Days of Summer, then they'll at least meet MPDGs who have flaws and seem more real to anyone who's not the sensitive male soul attracted to them,” she explained.
What didn't I do? I used to take my shoes off and splash in every fountain I saw because I was 'living in the moment'
That's just fun to do, as long as you don't get caught & it's not snowing.
And you sanitize afterward...public fountains have a lot of (literal) s**t in them...
Load More Replies...If the fountain was commissioned to depict an historical event, you'd be "living in the monument".
We were so poor we couldn't afford a fountain. I had to make two with a bird bath
You were lucky! All we had were a tea pot which we had to lean over to have our fountain pouring from the spout.
Load More Replies...I'm 33 and did this last year while drunk and returned to the bar when I was done lmao but I really did have fun! My friend did not join me lol
If it was allowed (many places it is strictly NOT) sure. I am the neighbor who stomps in the mud puddles in her hot pink polka dotted rain boots. I'm 60, btw
I drew on my converse to show that I was artistic and quirky I also stood pigeon toed so that you could recognize I wasn't like other girls hehe
We all drew on/decorated our Converse or Docs in the 80's/90's. Hell, I had a minor side business in HS painting combat boots for my classmates. My own were painted white & covered in literary quotes. It's just being artistic & bored in class.
Thank you. Also came here to say who *didn't* draw on their converse? That's more common than quirky.
Load More Replies...Flashbacks to when I was in high school and wore mismatched Converse high tops (one black, one white) with My Chemical Romance lyrics written on them and thought I was so cool and edgy lmao
I painted Holstein cow print on one side and giant daisies on the other.
I was partial to Skechers-brand shoes and similar brands, but I honestly wanted a pair of Converse badly at times!!
For years, I had a pair of converse with algebra equations written on the inner sole for one math test.
Pigeon toed is when your toes point inwards right? I naturally do the opposite.
Used to research unknown bands with terrible music and know just enough about them to seem indie and mysterious.
Because no one would listen to them. Then you could just say they didn't "get it". My 16 year old daughter is doing this now...
Load More Replies...I like a few obscure and whimsical groups (Emile Autumn, Johnny Hollow, etc) that plays off chaos and harsh notes, and personally I love it. But don't waste your time listening to music you deem “terrible” because you want to uphold your “aesthetic.”
I love Emilie Autumn! She's such a great violinist
Load More Replies...i bought a bunch of miniature people like the tiny ones for model train sets and would give them out randomly to ppl with no explanation
I’d be terrified lol but it’s kinda cute
Load More Replies...For awhile at work someone would put tiny duck figurines on the fireboxes on each floor in the stairwell. Made me smile every time I saw them.
towards the end of my 8th grade year people bought a bunch of those weird colored mini plastic babies and we're putting them everywhere lol. Some of the teachers also started hiding them around their classrooms
Load More Replies...I cast random things in glass and hand them out to strangers saying "This is a random act of art". Sometimes, I would notice someone's tattoo and cast something in reference (one woman had a small lady bug on a flower that was a tribute to her grandfather so I cast a ladybug for her). When out on walks, I would hide things in peoples yards (skulls, dinosaurs, 'Hello Kitty', Boba Fett and so on). I moved to a new apt and do not have the room to cast any more (I plan on moving out of here as soon as my lease is up)
I had a friend many, many years ago who would find random items on Brighton (UK) beach then mail them off to the US embassy in Toronto (I think) with little notes like ' greetings from Brighton' or ' String for you' etc. I have no idea why, nor did he offer any explanation. He was a bit odd. Kept it going for years until he died under quite suspicious circumstances.
One guy at a bar pulled a light bulb out of his pocket, also, his girlfriend was a dental technician who made some goofy teeth he could wear.
I would accept that tiny person and take it to my grave. That thing would never leave my possession.
l used to take books to parties and read while drinking wine while my friends were normal college kids and partied accordingly.
I did this, but mostly bc the book was usually more interesting than the conversation. Sometimes I'd get into great conversations with others about the book, the author, or the genre. Got turned on to some great books like that.
My mother never let me live down the time I took a book to a pro football game. Her and dad had season tickets and he couldn't make it for one game. She begged me to go, knowing I hated football, the gripped at me for bringing a book. Was too loud to read anyhow 🤣.
Load More Replies...I used to bring cross stitch at my ex's black metal band rehearsals. It's a great conversation starter anywhere you go.
What sort of cross stitch do you do? I'm so glad patterns have caught up with geekdom finally.
Load More Replies...I have autism and sometimes I don’t do so well in social situations and before I had a phone to hide in I would almost always have 2-3 books on me now I usually only have one paper book my bluetooth headphones my phone and my portable charger but I vibe with this post
I alway carry a book just because Mainly cause I get bored
OMG. Are you the mirror of time? I used to live in a punk house in Michigan in the 80's. I would be reading a Kurt Vonnegut novel and bust out laughing. When they asked me what was so funny I would just start reading out loud.
I'm in my 30s and still want to do this at parties. It's just easier being "that girl" than trying to carry on conversation with people I don't know that well.
Again, as a lifelong and current bar reader...I don't see the weirdness in this.
I had a guy at the bar ask me how I could read with all the noise. I replied that it was a good enough book that I didn't notice the noise once I started reading. If I feel like being social I'll bring my knitting or go out for a smoke, otherwise let me drink in peace.
Load More Replies...Nowadays you can do that with a smartphone. A great way to become invisible at a party.
I would wear a mini skirt and knee high leather boots, and carry a hiking backpack to parties. What was in the backpack? That was the mystery
I have a problem relating to this. I used to carry a Mickey mouse lunch box!
Tbh I carry my backpack everywhere I go, except it's Harry Potter themed and doesn't look very mysterious
me too. Mine's a blue cork backpack, but the problem is I don't have the choice lol. I have epilepsy and my emergency medication doesn't fit in the purse I already own. Tbh I should probably just buy a new one. I still love that bag and carry it whenever I have one or multiple of my stuffed animals
Load More Replies...I went to school with a black leather briefcase when all the other kids had backpacks.
Wrote “die young” on the heels of my converse in 8th grade then had a teacher pull me aside to ask if everything was ok at home.
“Celebrate Oblivion,” was what was written on my Converse. Sharpie held up nicely. Ball-point pens always smeared. No one took me aside, hence the resulting poor life choices which followed, including my Panda name. I would have probably complimented you in class.
Because I'm a singer and a huge Iron Maiden fan I kept saying I was Bruce Dickinson's daughter. The teacher called my mom. Later on I found out that they all thought I was double delusional talking about my dad because they were convinced I was an IVF baby. Nope, my mom was single and my dad was neglectful but visited us sometimes. Being a teen was already pretty insane, I was the subject of faculty gossip.
I carved People = S**t in my arm with a plastic one time during lunch in like 6th-7th grade so yeah... Coulda been worse
Use something overly utilitarian as purse: lunch box, old camera case, thermos, basket.
I hated how the lunch box never really fit in my Jansport backpacks. 😺
Jansport best backpack! I have some decades old ones still in prime condition
Load More Replies...I did that cause my bags would wear out so I'd dump my c**p into the nearest empty container with a strap or handle, then it would take a few weeks/ months for me to hunt up another bag & actually transfer everything. ~~ I didn't realize I was trying to be 'edgy & mysterious'. I was just lazy, in a hurry, & lazier.
I got sick of my bags wearing out so I treated myself to a nice one and managed to get two years out of it. Then I found a place where they guaranteed bags for life and became a $300 purse person. I never thought I would be a $300 purse person but here we are.
Load More Replies...Not me carrying my Strawberry Shortcake lunch box as a purse for a year after seeing Reality Bites.
Prom dresses and combat boots
I wore my DMs with absolutely everything as a teen in the 90s(as did many of my school friends) so that's not especially unusual.
it's a cute look. I used to love pale pastel pink floaty summer dresses with my New Rock boots
I'm a country girl and wore my favourite RM Williams boots to my wedding. Had a beautiful, hooped gown and nobody knew!
I had “more energy” on days where I felt like it would rain because it was “more beautiful than sunshine”.
There's actually science that backs this up. Like natural circadian rhythms, there are people that naturally feel 'more energized' when the weather/ time of day corresponds with what they find the most soothing or comforting. It's why you have night owls, morning people, solar babies, people who feel the most like themselves during a certain season or during certain weather, etc. It has to do with what gives you serotonin, which is part biology & part personality. ~~ Personally, I'm very much a night owl, my sleep cycle naturally shifts to me being awake at night & asleep during the day if not forced into 'normality' by work or school. I'm also happier during the summer & autumn. And I like rain. Good book reading weather.
interesting. I too have always been a night owl and I LOVE it when it rains. Or when It's winter but the wind is dead so it isn't too cold but it's like the right amount of dark with little light reflecting off the snowflakes...... Im weird. I lay in my driveway staring at the sky
Load More Replies...I live in one of the top gloomiest cities in the US, and I would never live anywhere else in this country, especially not in places where there's almost nonstop sunshine, it would drive me nuts.
I hate the sun. Hate it. I live in the south and for 8.5 months at is hot. And I constantly sweat. I like the rain and moon.
Load More Replies...I find grey skies amazing. I mean, it's "just" a bunch of grey-- until you really look and see the infinite variety of shades of grey. Absolutely amazing.
Intellectually, I know that dark clouds are gray, but I so don't focus on the state of grayness that I didn't comprehend it until your post. I love cloud shapes, and I can tell when the rain will come by the heaviness of the color. It just feels like a different gray from gray, the paint color.
Load More Replies...Some people actually do prefer rainy days to sunny days. There’s nothing cringy about that!
I am the exact opposite. I should see the sun to feel okay. Rain ad greyness make me sick. Th only appropriate time for the sun not to be seen in the sky is night.
Oof, I'm still this. I'm a Seattle native tho, it's not like I could hate the rain if I tried, especially with now living in a desert. I am rather annoying about my love of the rain though
I would wear 2-3 cereal box watches at once and put flowers in my docs and tell people I knew how to palm read when I couldnt I'd just make it up.
exactly. It's just what palm readers are supposed to do.
Load More Replies...Now we have NO toys or accessories in our cereals. Thanks, healthy people!! (Banned bc of marketing sugary cereals to kids or something like that). Any Panda know why this is so? 🤔💫
I intensely studied a book calledThe Science of Palmistry regarding changes in lines, handshapes, nails etc that had actual scientific data to support their interpretations. Eg. Horizontal likes on the lateral edge of a palm can be related to a nervous disposition from handwringing, or changes in nail shapes being related to certain vitamin deficiencies or vascular changes… used this to “read palms” at parties… I’m a doctor now….
You younger folks probably wouldn't remember a Spongebob/Burger King campaign in which Joel Hale (I think) went around flashing his Spongebob watch low screaming "What time is it?" Well, I still say it the same way to this day and it was probably 20 years ago. Or it could be a Mandela effect. Who knows.
To be fair: everyone who says they can read palms is making it up.
With me it was handwriting analysis. Amazing what people will believe!
I used to carry 5+ apples in my bag at all times so I could give them out to people. I also had a month in 2006 where I wore roller skates everywhere.
Imao, I have a friend who *spawns apples*-- whenever she's hungry she pulls them out of her pockets and bags. Just munches an apple. I've seen her do it in the middle of a carnival ride!
I have very vivid dreams that I'm roller skating through a shipping mall or airport or other indoor area that isn't a roller skating rink. I haven't roller skated since 2007, and that resulted in a severe sprain of my right ankle!
I can just imagine them going to their parents "Mom, I need more apples." "Again? That's the third time this week."
Wore an Elvis Presley T-shirt with an Aladdin looking vest and drank rain water out of mason jars.
I strung individual faux pearls onto my actual hair (this was when feather hair extensions were popular) but I did pearls because I was different
I remember doing this with those big plastic pony beads. I was very young though so I think we just thought it looked cool.
Wore coloured contacts everywhere and stared at people like this until they noticed.
Or gold, or black. I got some gold contacts for Halloween once and it looked really cool.
Load More Replies...I always wore blue ones and thought I looked so cool. I look at pictures now and know they made me look Ai. Lol
I’m ashamed to admit I was ukulele girl
Don't be. Ukulele is a fun and easily transportable instrument. Just try to expand your repertoire beyond "Riptide", "I'm yours" and "Somewhere over the rainbow" :-)
Maybe the shame is in the "was," because she didn't stick with learning an instrument?
Load More Replies...I would read in public but actively try to ~look mysterious~ and wait for people to ask me what I was reading (they never did)
Especially if you're reading Terry Pratchett. Full on belly laughing on a bus....
Load More Replies...People only ask you when it gets to a really good part and you want to keep reading. They ask LOTS of questions then. Also, don't read "The Unlikely Pilgramage of Harold Fry" on a train after night shift. Can't show my face again after several people heard me break down in loud uncontrollable sobs and came to check I was OK. Love them all though for checking.
I did that with All The Bright Places by Jennifer Niven. Broke down in the middle of my English classroom. When I was googling the author to make sure I spelled it right, "Theodore Finch aesthetic" came up in the results, and omfg it's so terrible and sad if you've read the book, other wise it wouldn't make sense
Load More Replies...That's because, as a rule, don't interrupt readers since it's f'ing rude.
I had an opposite experience where I was writing in a notebook at a bar and a guy accused me of trying to look mysterious. Smh.
I'm guilty of this. But in my defense, it's a really good book and I want people to know about it.
I remember laying in the grass while drunk to feel wild and free and it was just in a weird spot to do so and my friend was like “uh can you get up?”
My friend Kenny laid in the grass for a couple hours the first time he ate shrooms. We just let him chill because he seemed so happy. Then we grilled chicken. It was delicious.
Aww ☺️ When my friend Kenny ate shrooms the first time he forgot how to speak, so one of our friends decided to translate what he meant, and he spent the whole night nodding and laughing at our friend's "translations." Happy memories with friends named Kenny, cheers!
Load More Replies...One time I came home from the bar very wasted to the seasons first freshly cut grass. I was so excited cuz it was desperately needed that I immediately flopped down and started rolling around in it. My 19 year old daughter who was witnessing me being drunk for the “first” time kept yelling at me to get up and I steadfastly refused
People lie down. Objects are laid down. This bad grammar is taking over!
... I only dated people for a month, and in that month I would make sure I changed their life by enrolling them in school or getting them a job...
This is a movie, but I can't think of the name. The girl is dying though and dates a different guy every month but only for a month
Wearing the tweed jackets of dead old men.
In middle school I used to wear an old tweed hat that belonged to my dad. It looked like something a reporter in the 1940's would own. Didn't match any of my clothes either. I looked like such a dork. At one point I also stole a pair of his red suspenders and pinned them to a skirt - which I of course wore with the weird hat. I cringe when I think about it. And during my first year of high school I refused to wear anything that wasn't black. LOL! I was REALLY trying too hard.
Still do. My hubby and daughter give me a bad time about it because my fave one came with an embroidered hanky in the pocket. Apparently they just think that's weird. 🙄 🤷🏼♀️
I would just like quote Clementine from eternal sunshine and pretend it was my own thoughts.
It is! And a fun role reversal to see Kate Winslet playing a spontaneous, rambunctious character while Jim Carrey played a quiet introvert
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Does reading while walking down the halls at school and running a library out of my locker count?
If you've never said 'Excuse me!' to a lamppost or barked your shins on a fire hydrant you're not reading enough.
My teachers always say I have a talent for walking while reading. I also read very, very quickly
same! In a couple of stores my grandma goes to often, i am known as "the girl with red hair and a book"
Load More Replies...I was the one who would sometimes get in trouble for reading too much in class!
Same! I also learned to read while playing handball so my friends wouldn’t tell me to get out of my book and play with them.
Load More Replies...I've upgraded to Audio books. Reading while literally doing anything else is a godsend! I even have a watertight Bluetooth speaker in my shower!
I always read while walking to the point where I no longer walk into things.
I tried this and found I was not at all coordinated enough to do it lol
For me it is much harder to read on a smartphone than in a book while walking. I have to focus more somehow.
Load More Replies...I would doodle on my backpack and write song lyrics on everything and when people asked what they're from I'd be like 'you haven't heard of them...'
already posted but i feel like showing them off,, these are my drawn-on shoes ,, they have the last part of the poem "Ulysses" by lord alfred tennyson on them.. but if anyone asks what they i tell them where its from lol rat-6421d3...f06cf.jpeg
I seriously love these and will upvote every time
Load More Replies...I wouldn't be the one to not tell people, but I had lyrics EVERYWHERE
Project my internalised misogyny on every other women I met.
Turns out most women are pretty cool! I grew up hanging out with guys because I thought most girls were catty or boring girly girls, but it turns out that there are many more who are smart, creative, bold, and kind. Now I have tons of girlfriends.
Embroidered the knees on my jeans with flowers. Writing my journal CONSTANTLY. Nothing more dull than a tween stream of consciousness.
Embroidery is an awesome skill that can create some amazing works of art, & writing is another good skill to have & practice.
Whenever my jeans acquired a hole or thin spot (provided it wasn't anywhere near the "undies" area), I just wore them like that for the rest of the school year, at which point I "acquired" a "new" pair of jean shorts. The rest of the kids in my class just thought I had finally been able to afford a "fashionable" pair of "designer" jeans (bear in mind that this was back in the late 80s early 90s, so that kind of thing was the "it" trend)
Did you write or draw flowers in ink where the holes were?
Load More Replies...I actually think there are both pretty cool things to do for a tween. Yeah, the journals are cringey to look back on but that age is basically walking around with twice the emotions of the typical human with barely any life experience and a only a general sense of your own trauma/issues without the education or tools to process or understand it. Journalling constantly is an excellent outlet, even if it's just to look different or interesting.
My friends and I went through a phase of embroidering our jeans in the last year of high school. It was kind of hilarious, sometimes 4 of us would go hang out in one of our houses to sit around, drink tea, embroider our jeans, and gossip.
I pretended I snorted when I laughed! I ONLY read ~classics~ in high school. I did go on to get a lit degree so ig I'm still living the dream
I was one of those kids who would do it for real if you made me laugh hard enough. I will admit to embarrassment just about every time I did it until about midway through college.
I pretended i snorted when i laughed and now I actually do. same thing with biting my lip
i used to stick a guitar pick in my hair clip/barrette so people would know i was a musician
No picks for singers, unfortunately, so when I started singing in bands I developed habit of singing everywhere, all the time time, like the Disney princess I am, and get super embarrassed when people pointed out how good I was. I don't deal well with compliments, so I wasn't really pretending, but the habit of singing stuck with me and I learned to deal with people pointing out. Now when people compliment my singing skills I'm like thank you, I'm a singer. It's true we live for the applause.
I very rarely sing in front of others because it's the one thing I've always been complimented on, the one thing I've always thought I was GOOD at, and if anyone criticized me harshly, it would CRUSH me
Load More Replies...I went to school with a girl who made a huge deal about being scared of stickers
Not sure either.... it's either the sticky paper cute things OR the prickly thorny grass plants.
Load More Replies...I worked at Kmart as an assistant manager. We got to do stupid things like put stickers on one sheet of paper on to another sheet of paper so all the useful ones were on the same sheet, then throw away the others. I would cover myself in the throw away stickers. I was a bad employee. I also put the swimsuit security tags in the crotch.
tbh i hate stickers and sellotape. irrational(?) fear that they will get stuck on my nails and pull them off
In high school I would wear one green converse and one blue converse and both had neon green laces
Again, we ALL did this in the 80's. That was the cool thing about Converse, they were highly interchangeable & mix n match. You can buy Converse that are deliberately dual colors nowadays.
My 70 year old uncle STILL does this... he'll also occasionally wear a fedora with a feather in it lol
I was in college during the height of this trope and I wore massive cassete tape earrings or rubber goldfish earrings or heart shaped glasses.
Carried tarot cards wrapped in a vintage scarf and bubbles in my purse at all times “just in case”
I know plenty of adults that carry tarot decks with them to this day. We all have our comforts. ~~ Also, I carry bubbles on me as a matter of course. Nothing stops a tantrum or makes people smile like unexpected bubbles! I started blowing bubbles at the kareoke dj at the bar the other night, & I never got my bottle back. It got claimed by the bartenders. Those heathens owe me a bottle of bubbles!
reading all your comments, it sounds like maybe you're still in your manic pixie dream girl stage? ;)
Load More Replies...Whatever. I'm almost 40 and carry a container of assorted sized googley eyes for "just in case". I might need googley eyes.
Is there ever a situation googly eyes wouldn't improve?
Load More Replies...Going out in the rain on purpose
I do this though. I like the rain, unless I'm going somewhere I need to be dry I enjoy walking through the rain, especially if I'm on my way home. I'll walk even slower.
I'd wear bright rain boots everywhere... when it wasn't raining... incase I found a puddle to jump in.
YEESSS with my labrador! She always gets so confused by the splashing :)
Load More Replies...I had a vintage fedora that I wore A LOT with non-vintage outfits... I still feel the shame when I see the photos
I miss my fedora. It was black and I used to wear it with slinky dresses when I went out to clubs. I was very mysterious.
Instead of saying hi to people for a solid year i used to say happy birthday
I say Merry Christmas to people instead of hi lol. I also used to lend my friends things and say 'theres you chrissy present' when i gave it to them but i had to stop because I did it to one of my autistic friends and they got annoyed at me because 'thats a s**t Christmas present'.... Lol.
I say Hennessy. I keep hoping someday someone will reply Haggerty.
Army boots with beads threaded on the laces. Feather boas. An insane number of beads, clips, hair glitter, ribbons in my hair. oh and bindhis
Only ever having one fingernail painted and wearing a mohican hat
Sounds like Penn the magician is halfway on his way to being a Manic Pixie with that red fingernail of his. (Actually a tribute to his mama, so sweet.)
wore a vintage army uniform shirt for a jacket and actual ballet slippers for shoes.
Ballet slippers with our prom/homecoming formals were a thing for a bit in the 80's. I also wore mine with my pegged jeans. I thought I was so cool!
Wearing JAZZ SHOES AS SHOES
I had to look up what those even are and... I might need to get a pair. Those actually look comfortable AF.
I have them, they're comfortable but idk if they would fit as shoes since theyre dance shoes and have no sole
Load More Replies...I so wanted a pair like Audrey from Twin Peaks but could never find any 🙁
Yes! In the 80s, I had a pair of split-soled shoes, but they were a hybrid of a jazz shoe and a sneaker. I wish I could find a picture of them, but I LOVED them!
i did mascara on one eye to look like the Clockwork Orange guy. I watched that movie once and didn't even fully understand it
😂 the characters of a clockwork orange are not exactly what you want to be compared with...
It's hard to listen to signing in the rain now lmao 🤣
Load More Replies...Once when my son was in high school, him and his friends wanted to go as those guys. So I immediately made them watch the movie - guess who didn't dress up like them lol
Wore a belt I made out of my grandfather’s GM seatbelt parts.
I had 2- both gifts from my family. But I come from a long line of GM employees.
I would put daisies through my ears as earrings
I used to run into doors and trip on purpose.
I do this all the time (unfortunately not on purpose, I'm just clumsy AF)
same there’s a kid at climbing who says I’m the clumsiest person in the world which I very well might be
Load More Replies...for some reason mine was that I used to claim I couldn't ride a bike... even though I could ride a bike?
I never learned how to ride a bike, and now as an adult I'm too scared of falling/crashing as my balance has gone down over the years. This is definitely not a point of pride, those of us who don't know how to ride a bike really wish we did.
Ate bell peppers like apples in class
I eat them raw as well, much to the horror of my mother, who thinks they're "spicy" and "hot" because they have "pepper" in their name. Can't even get her to try a piece XD
Load More Replies...i walked around school in just my socks no shoes for two years
European here. In every elemantary and high-schools, there are shoe shelfs at every entry. Even on PT days, most parents take their shoes off as well.
huh? not in the school i work, and not in the school my niece went to. I assume you're from Scandinavia, and i absolutely believe its common there, but not in Western Europe?
Load More Replies...ran an Elvish blog
There was a time in my life in my teens when I memorized a great deal of Quenya XD I knew how to write it as well. I'd write in my diary in Quenya or the Norse runic alphabet so that my parents and sister couldn't read it XD
I used to say spring onion crisps made me hyper. When I ate them I used to run around and act manic
I used to talk about Bob Dylan all the time and I don't think I've heard a single song
Painted a toilet
... meaning, you painted a painting OF a toilet, or you painted an actual toilet ...?
I suspect the latter but it's cruel not to tell us the color
Load More Replies...I don't get the embarrassment here. Creativity is great! And -- shocker! -- teenagers aren't exactly design professionals. The attitude shown here is far worse: used clothes are from "old dead men"? I buy a lot of used clothes & there's never been a death certificate attached. In more than a few of these, I like the BEFORE person better than the AFTER.
You’re missing the point. They aren’t just being creative, they’re seeking attention for being “different” and not out of genuine fulfillment. Also that OP isn’t saying all thrift clothes are from old dead men. She’s saying she TOLD people she was wearing the jacket of old dead men because she thought she’d get positive attention for being so unique and different.
Load More Replies...The list of weird things I've worn or done is so long since early childhood, I wouldn't know where to start. Mismatched shoes, or walking barefoot all the time, wearing 6 different socks at the same time, a suspender belt over jeans, all possible hair accessories (even shoelaces or clothes pegs), umbrella when it's not raining, painting on the face, wearing 6 watches on one arm and 2 around the neck, bracelets up to the elbow, etc. etc. etc. but I was not the "Manic Pixie Dream Girl", just the weird eccentric girl. But that didn't stop me, I'm almost 36 years old, I regularly repaint my shoes, my hair is green, I put big fake flowers in it,...
I’m sorry, I still haven’t got it quite figured out. everyone on this was just going through a common phase that many kids/teens/young adults do and don’t really stand out as unusual. As a result I still don’t understand what exactly a “manic pixie dream girl” could anyone please tell me what that is and how it applies here?
Load More Replies...There’s several layers to this. For one, Pandas don’t get it because most of the people here are Manic Pixie Dreamgirls and still in the phase. That’s why all the comments are like “oh me too! That’s so cool! How quirky was your feathered ukulele? What book did you read? 🤩🤩” Because lots of people here are trying extra hard to be quirky and different. Second layer, people are missing that the OPs are saying that they specifically were doing this for attention and not because they genuinely enjoyed it. Which I think most pandas won’t admit. Third layer though, is that we need to kind of lighten up about what women and girls are doing for the “male gaze.” There’s technically nothing inherently wrong about women / people doing things for male attention if that’s what makes them happy or confident or attract a partner. All of this s**t is cringy and lame but at the same time, some guys like that cringy quirky s**t, and if women want to date those guys, so be it.
So here in the US we had little gumball machines, put in a quarter and get candy or whatever. We also had ones with small toys. I had a collection of little plastic ninjas, all different colors. When visiting friends houses I would sneak a ninja somewhere, like hanging from their ceiling fan or in a potted plant for them to find. I called them "fruit loop ninjas" because they were brightly colored.
I am in my late thirties and I have recently gotten on antidepressants, and, Surprise! When I'm fully medicated, I wear rainbow colors, unicorns, and silly earrings. Because they make me happy. If you're feeling pressured to do these things in order to be cool, then it's not healthy. But if you're doing these things because you enjoy them... Heaven's sake, just do them! And if you're drowning in embarrassment because you're so worried about what people think of you... Well, you might just be a teenager, in which case, wait a few years to a couple of decades and that feeling will slowly dissipate.
I only date women like this even nowadays. Quirky is cool, even if it is "studied" or fake. I've googled this term and it seems like it is apparently a sexist trope in movies. I disagree. I think it's ok for someone to come into your life and help you get back on your feet. I don't think that being helpful while being quirky is sexist. That's like saying Dr Who is a sexist because he/she tries to rescue people from Daleks when they should be rescuing themselves, etc. If you met me in real life you'd know for sure that I was quirky, you'd not miss it at all. So... does that make ME a sexist trope now because I choose to be 'unusual' and help people? I don't think so.
The issue isn't them being quirky and helping someone, it's when it's used in a way where that's all they are no deeper personality, no growth, everything is focused on using them like a prop. It essential removed their humanity and made them just some way to help the guy. There are movies that do it better. Quirky and helpful but with their own character. I hope that helps
Load More Replies...It is a bit sad that all these folks are just doing these things for attention, in creating a persona or a mask, when almost all of these things are delightful and valid in their own right. I was happy to see so many positive comments to each post, as the world does need magic and fun infused into it!. It breaks up the drabness and monotony, doesn't it? I hope the truly quirky folks don't get judged too much for being posers when they're just trying to shine their own little unique light :-).
There's nothing wrong with being creative and trying to be different but being interesting and unique shouldn't be so forced. That's a fake person. That's an insecure person who is hiding behind a façade of being 'quirky' because it's borrowing a personality and they're afraid to be normal. It makes me kind of sad how many comments praise that behavior. I'm not saying everything is horrible. In the grand scheme of things it's not the worst thing and some things are even fine if it makes you happy. But don't let other people try to keep you in a childish place when you want to grow and are actively trying to be a better adult that people can rely on, and you can feel stronger and more stable. Realizing this is a sign of maturity and it's a positive thing.
Sure i can see that but in another post on this site I argued that all of us put on personas/faces/masks in each situation and it's ok. When we are at work we act professional, when we are with our kids we act childish, which is the "Real me"? I don't really think it matters. I don't buy the "real me" idea. I think we just respond to others around us.
Load More Replies...Aren't we all embarrassed by things we did for other people's opinions? Some of these things are fun and harmless others are mean spirited. Leave the cruelty behind and choose kindness every day.
Some of these are just normal things? Ahm...reading? Pretending to like reading and acting superior - that's a 'i'm better than the other girls syndrome'...simply reading because you enjoy it? Not an issue. Drawing on converse because you enjoy it? Normal. Embroidery on your clothes because you have that skill and like it? That's normal. Playing an instrument - normal.
I don't get the embarrassment here. Creativity is great! And -- shocker! -- teenagers aren't exactly design professionals. The attitude shown here is far worse: used clothes are from "old dead men"? I buy a lot of used clothes & there's never been a death certificate attached. In more than a few of these, I like the BEFORE person better than the AFTER.
You’re missing the point. They aren’t just being creative, they’re seeking attention for being “different” and not out of genuine fulfillment. Also that OP isn’t saying all thrift clothes are from old dead men. She’s saying she TOLD people she was wearing the jacket of old dead men because she thought she’d get positive attention for being so unique and different.
Load More Replies...The list of weird things I've worn or done is so long since early childhood, I wouldn't know where to start. Mismatched shoes, or walking barefoot all the time, wearing 6 different socks at the same time, a suspender belt over jeans, all possible hair accessories (even shoelaces or clothes pegs), umbrella when it's not raining, painting on the face, wearing 6 watches on one arm and 2 around the neck, bracelets up to the elbow, etc. etc. etc. but I was not the "Manic Pixie Dream Girl", just the weird eccentric girl. But that didn't stop me, I'm almost 36 years old, I regularly repaint my shoes, my hair is green, I put big fake flowers in it,...
I’m sorry, I still haven’t got it quite figured out. everyone on this was just going through a common phase that many kids/teens/young adults do and don’t really stand out as unusual. As a result I still don’t understand what exactly a “manic pixie dream girl” could anyone please tell me what that is and how it applies here?
Load More Replies...There’s several layers to this. For one, Pandas don’t get it because most of the people here are Manic Pixie Dreamgirls and still in the phase. That’s why all the comments are like “oh me too! That’s so cool! How quirky was your feathered ukulele? What book did you read? 🤩🤩” Because lots of people here are trying extra hard to be quirky and different. Second layer, people are missing that the OPs are saying that they specifically were doing this for attention and not because they genuinely enjoyed it. Which I think most pandas won’t admit. Third layer though, is that we need to kind of lighten up about what women and girls are doing for the “male gaze.” There’s technically nothing inherently wrong about women / people doing things for male attention if that’s what makes them happy or confident or attract a partner. All of this s**t is cringy and lame but at the same time, some guys like that cringy quirky s**t, and if women want to date those guys, so be it.
So here in the US we had little gumball machines, put in a quarter and get candy or whatever. We also had ones with small toys. I had a collection of little plastic ninjas, all different colors. When visiting friends houses I would sneak a ninja somewhere, like hanging from their ceiling fan or in a potted plant for them to find. I called them "fruit loop ninjas" because they were brightly colored.
I am in my late thirties and I have recently gotten on antidepressants, and, Surprise! When I'm fully medicated, I wear rainbow colors, unicorns, and silly earrings. Because they make me happy. If you're feeling pressured to do these things in order to be cool, then it's not healthy. But if you're doing these things because you enjoy them... Heaven's sake, just do them! And if you're drowning in embarrassment because you're so worried about what people think of you... Well, you might just be a teenager, in which case, wait a few years to a couple of decades and that feeling will slowly dissipate.
I only date women like this even nowadays. Quirky is cool, even if it is "studied" or fake. I've googled this term and it seems like it is apparently a sexist trope in movies. I disagree. I think it's ok for someone to come into your life and help you get back on your feet. I don't think that being helpful while being quirky is sexist. That's like saying Dr Who is a sexist because he/she tries to rescue people from Daleks when they should be rescuing themselves, etc. If you met me in real life you'd know for sure that I was quirky, you'd not miss it at all. So... does that make ME a sexist trope now because I choose to be 'unusual' and help people? I don't think so.
The issue isn't them being quirky and helping someone, it's when it's used in a way where that's all they are no deeper personality, no growth, everything is focused on using them like a prop. It essential removed their humanity and made them just some way to help the guy. There are movies that do it better. Quirky and helpful but with their own character. I hope that helps
Load More Replies...It is a bit sad that all these folks are just doing these things for attention, in creating a persona or a mask, when almost all of these things are delightful and valid in their own right. I was happy to see so many positive comments to each post, as the world does need magic and fun infused into it!. It breaks up the drabness and monotony, doesn't it? I hope the truly quirky folks don't get judged too much for being posers when they're just trying to shine their own little unique light :-).
There's nothing wrong with being creative and trying to be different but being interesting and unique shouldn't be so forced. That's a fake person. That's an insecure person who is hiding behind a façade of being 'quirky' because it's borrowing a personality and they're afraid to be normal. It makes me kind of sad how many comments praise that behavior. I'm not saying everything is horrible. In the grand scheme of things it's not the worst thing and some things are even fine if it makes you happy. But don't let other people try to keep you in a childish place when you want to grow and are actively trying to be a better adult that people can rely on, and you can feel stronger and more stable. Realizing this is a sign of maturity and it's a positive thing.
Sure i can see that but in another post on this site I argued that all of us put on personas/faces/masks in each situation and it's ok. When we are at work we act professional, when we are with our kids we act childish, which is the "Real me"? I don't really think it matters. I don't buy the "real me" idea. I think we just respond to others around us.
Load More Replies...Aren't we all embarrassed by things we did for other people's opinions? Some of these things are fun and harmless others are mean spirited. Leave the cruelty behind and choose kindness every day.
Some of these are just normal things? Ahm...reading? Pretending to like reading and acting superior - that's a 'i'm better than the other girls syndrome'...simply reading because you enjoy it? Not an issue. Drawing on converse because you enjoy it? Normal. Embroidery on your clothes because you have that skill and like it? That's normal. Playing an instrument - normal.
