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The differences between men and women – the ultimate inexhaustible topic. The one dead horse that we’ll probably keep beating for centuries to come. It seems that everything possible is already said. There are thousands of books and advice columns written about it, movies, TV shows, podcasts – you name it. Yet we’re still here – talking, reading, and writing about it.

This particular thread has gotten quite a lot of attention. When one netizen asked, “Women, what do you find the most confusing about men?“, almost 30k people flocked to the comments to share their thoughts. From what men really think when they fall silent to why pooping takes so long for them – the women of Reddit had many unanswered questions.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men I'm a man. But something that confused my wife is when I suddenly take a deep breath for no reason. She's like "are you ok? You sure? Anything you need to talk about? What's going on?" And I just say "nah I'm fine, think I just forgot to breathe and catching up". 

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men My wife's biggest gripe is that I will spend time hiking / drinking / driving / whatever with friends I haven't seen in months, and when I get home I will have absolutely nothing to report back despite having talked solidly with them for six hours.

My wife on the other hand will casually pass a friend in the street and within ten minutes knows what theyve done every day since they last spoke, the health and financial status of them and all other friends and relatives, and a forward facing calendar for the next three months.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men I cannot understand the logic that you want me to get a full time job and work just as hard as you during the week, but also want all the comforts of a 1950’s housewife without putting in any of the work yourself.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

but...but...but...they take out the trash and mow the lawns once a week, it's even!

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Are men and women really that different? Are we bound to not understand each other for the rest of time? It's true that many Americans think that way. The Pew Research Center did a survey in 2017 where they asked men and women whether they see gender differences. The majority claimed they do, but their opinions on whether it's biological or societal differ.

Women believe the differences between men and women appear because of societal expectations. Men, on the other hand, say that these differences are biological.

The researchers asked the respondents about such things as physical abilities, how each gender expresses their feelings, and hobbies and personal interests. Interestingly, both men and women agreed that both genders are basically the same when it comes to work-related skills.

#4

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men I don’t find this confusing, more sad. A lot of men aren’t told how handsome, sexy, good looking they are. I tell my husband how much he turns me on daily, and I feel like women get that all the time but men, not so much.

Edit: Dang this blew up. I just want to say all you guys deserve to be told how sexy you are and you should definitely let it be known! I don’t think a lot of partners out there realize how much you’d appreciate it.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i recently grew beard my best friend told me i look like a hot Viking it made my year

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men When my boyfriend is quiet for too long and I ask him what he’s thinking about, and he says simply, “nothing”, and shrugs. This happens at least twice a month.

What … what do you mean … nothing???? You can actively sit there and just wipe your brain clean??? No buzz buzz?? Just elevator music behind the eyes???
What kind of f*****g superpower is that and where do I sign up??

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"nothing" just means we are well into a train of thoughts, and we don't really want to share because it would take way too much time and explanations, so we would very much prefer going on with our musings undisturbed.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men You can be completely oblivious to any mess in the house but can spot a wall has been brush painted in the wrong direction from 20ft away.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mess in the house is something that can be quickly and easily rectified. A badly-painted wall is an abomination that you've got to live with for some time.

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Is there a way to find out which is really true? Are the differences between men and women biological or is it actually nurture, not nature? It's a difficult topic to approach as an academic. Bias can even exist in research. There is no consensus on the issue even at this time. Some researchers believe that people are born being more masculine or feminine. English clinical psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen is in that camp with his E-S theory

Others, like philosopher Judith Butler, assert that gender is performative. According to her, we establish gender identity through behavior, so different behaviors can construct different genders. Not-so-academic and more easily digestible proponents like British science journalist Angela Saini invoke science. 

She's the author of Inferior: How Science Got Women Wrong – And the New Research that’s Rewriting the Story, and says that we shouldn't have equality because science says it's possible. "There's no reason why we can't have equality if we want it," she told Slate. "Science doesn't say that equality is impossible. We are adaptable and plastic as a human species. We can have society any way we want."

#7

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men You know that meme, where a woman is thinking "huh, he's probably thinking about other women" and in actuality the guy is thinking the most random of things. Yeah. That.

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#8

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Why they can’t find anything that is right in front of them I swear to god I find everyone’s things for them at work!

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This drives me nuts! I swear, I even started to put things out on the counter for him when I know he will need them later and he still just doesn't see them. He's also not able to find things behind other things, even when they are in the same spot as always. It's like this barrier he just can't overcome. Also, it's just so much more convenient to ask me after the first half-assed attempt to find something instead of searching for just 1 more minute.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes we can't find stuff because it isn't where we left it.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! I have a friend says this. He has a big workshop where he repairs and renovates cars as a hobby. The workshop is a TOTAL mess, but he magically knows where everything is remembering where he left it. If you move it out of place and even put it stupidly visible, he won't find it.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because someone moved it. There is this picture where the guy left a paperclip on the ground and someone asked him if they had a paperclip and he could cleary say where it was.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because its not where it was when I last saw it. Get something in the fridge and notice the mayonnaise is on the second shelf. Make a sandwich a few days later and its not there, so we keep searching the second shelf when its been moved to the side shelf.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But the thing is, I LOOKED THERE! Three times! It was. Not. There. Yes, I can see it is NOW. It's probably quantum.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have long been able to overlook things I'm looking straight at. One day recently, I was looking all over for my cell phone and a stranger asked me what I was looking for and I told her. She then pointed to my hand.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my boyfriend cant find the nutella if its moved to the left 3 cm, but he will find my earrings, keys, sd sticks or other small things on random places

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Richard Willis
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just yesterday, at my MiL's house, I actually moved a trug into a step in a step ladder while looking for something on which to stand in the garden!

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I constantly lose stuff. Stuff that will be right in front of me. But because I am used to it always being in that spot, I can’t see it. Easier to rectify in the dark, believe it or not. Then I can use my flashlight app and only see a small area at a time and suddenly I can find it. I’m also a bit mindless when I set things down and until I can actually get into a routine of placing an item in it’s assigned home, I’ll lose it every time I set it down. This means some items I completely lose because it’s been too long since I last used it. Other items, I find myself desperately trying to find about three times an hour. I drive myself crazy like this. And I cannot begin to tell you how often I find that I was sitting on the lost item. My vape always finds its way there. Cannot figure that one out to save my life.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let them be without? Even children learn how to not need a mommy for everything. It's called f**k around and fund out, as I've heard, or being a second mommy (eldest sister)? Who should totally be irresponsible for a change!

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that starts young! I have taught Kindergarten and Transitional Kindergarten for decades now. I will never forget when one little boy was looking for his backpack so he could go home (I had half day K, he was a morning kid.) Mom was refusing to help because a) she wanted HIM to do it, and b) her very active two-year-old son was on the playground and she needed eyes on him! I got my afternoon kids settled on an activity, went over to where little guy was throwing up his arms and saying "But I don't see it!" I told him he needed to move other backpacks out of the way, not just stand there, and moved one to show him how to do it. He goes "There it is!" Yeah, you're a boy.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always thought this was a husband thing.....until I had 2 daughters. One can find anything, anywhere (like me), the other cannot (like her father). Go figure.....

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anything in the house 'Ask me" Any tool in the garage "Right to it, no hunting, no asking"

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They see but don’t observe. I’m married to Captain Oblivious.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband is a freaking *genius*, literally builds robots, but can't find the damn remote sitting on the top of an otherwise empty coffee table. Like....just..I...What?

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, it’s not always guys. I had to find things for my mom all the time.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. My kids say "You're the mom. You know everything."

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know why this is either but it's 100% true. I can't find s**t, and can just yell to my wife from another room, and she will just tell me exactly where something is. This happens daily.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It never really bothered me when my ex-husband couldn't find things. I was the SAHP for nearly a decade so almost everything in the house was organized in the most efficient way for me. A couple of times a year, things needed reorganizing, so they weren't always in the same place as 6 months ago.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely not gendered, this! My wife has similar tunnel vision when looking for things, especially in the fridge. That said, I am the queen of losing my cell phone 2 feet to the right of me! Mostly because my desk is an unholy mess and it blends in shockingly well with all of the other junk!

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When Roseanne Barr was funny, her routine about being a domestic goddess suggested that men thought a woman's uterus was a homing device.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Opposite for my wife & me—I have to find things for her, including things that are literally right in front of her. Yet, she typically does much better at word search games than I do.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men have a different vision. That is a fact, we are build to focus on the danger or whatever while women are build to observe a wider range. That is why we can not find the butter in the fridge unless it is allways in the same place 🤣

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if we just moved it 0.2 inches to the left? That's what happen here, I slightly move something and suddenly it's invisible to man's eyes!

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

we can find it right where we left it, not where you have moved it or rearranged it.

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#9

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men I find it confusing how men are so forgiving. It’s one of the things I adore the most about men and find the most baffling. I’m learning now that men will get over things like 40 minutes after they happen and genuinely get frustrated and sad when their girls hold grudges. I’ve found that the people I’ve had falling outs with and was able to rekindle my friendships with were mostly all men.

I also find it weird how men will fight each other and then be best friends the next day.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Why do men always have the prettiest and longest eyelashes?

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men That "we ain't going to the doctor" but the limb has fallen off.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad walked around on a broken leg for weeks before my mom demanded he go to the doctor. Guys, your health isn't trivial, it's vital to you and your family and not going to the doc in some cases is a very selfish act.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Why they take such a long time to poop.

Do you go in there when you actually need to go or just because you think you might need to go so you just sit for a while to see what happens?

As a woman both kinds of trips to the toilet take the same amount of time for me. But every man I know makes pooping a 30 minute event.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's quiet time. Close the door, guaranteed solitude, do some thinking, read the paper in peace, etc.

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#13

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men I'm a man, but let me offer something I find confusing about other men, which I'm sure women do too.

Why do you get so defensive when a woman points out some trait of men they've been around that they don't like? Why do you feel personally attacked? If you don't like the accusations that some men are pervs and rapists, what does it matter if you're not a perv or a rapist? The term "not all men" gets thrown around a lot but a) no one said it was and b) it being "some men" is enough that women have to be careful.

All you need to do is not be that guy, and call out s****y behaviour when you can. That's it.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're making generalisations that imply all, or even most men have any given flaw or bad trait then you really are making a personal attack on me. Of course I'll defend myself and my fellow men against it.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men My gf is still baffled at the fact that I can just turn off my brain and not think of anything

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know about other men, but it is VERY rare that I'm not thinking of "anything", but I can certainly not think of anything important. Just random thoughts, the kind you can't remember because they never make it out of short-term memory.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men How they're able to have so much fun with their friends all the time
They make digging a hole in the beach with their friends look like the most fun thing in the world I really admire that

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not the activity that's fun. It's just the fact that we're hanging out with the boys.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men The obsession some men have with sports. Personally I don't get it, it's just a bunch of guys throwing a ball around for two hours. I'm not bashing anyone who likes sports, I just don't get it.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never got it myself. I'm not a typical man though. I only think about the Roman Empire about once a week instead of every day.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men When they behave as the smartest man in the world and five minutes later as the village idiot.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seen girls do that, too. Financial/budgeting wiz one moment, then boyfriend arrives, she's a total ditz.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Some men have absolutely no problem picking after themselves at work, but forget how to do it the moment they step into their homes.

I swear it’s like a switch.

How can you keep a whole workshop at work neat and tidy, but forget that the laundry basket exists?

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Out of my wife and 3 daughters I am the one always picking up, Women / girls are absolute disasters. Hair brushes, clothes, dishes everywhere!

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men When a guy will slip something very heartbreaking into a convo , like something an extremely abusive parent did or whatever and he’s talking about it very casually and your like holy f**k my dude are you alright but you can’t actually say that or overreact too much because he’ll never tell you anything again if you do so you have to sit there and be like ahhh yes that sucks dude but inside ur like sir may I hug you please

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

we don't like being pitied, probably because it makes us feel even smaller or helpless

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Why some men don’t go to the doctor or dentist, unless someone else makes the appointment for them.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do the same. Not because I'm lazy but I hate the fuss. My wife has saved my life more than twice by getting me to a GP. I came out of hospital a week ago with kidney failure because I didn't want a big fuss over a kidney stone.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men So many men I know pass off just this really chill vibe and they all seem to just be cool with each other. How tf do they do it!?!?

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don’t care who has the better outfit, eyelashes, shoes, makeup, hair, purse, butt, etc…

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men What happens to your d***s when you run? Do you feel them flop around? And what do you do with it when you ride a bike?

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men I’m a dude, but why do we all pretty much collectively enjoy digging random holes? Especially at the beach.

Edit: just got back from the beach and yes, I did dig a hole there!

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men When guys are seriously injured but act like its just a scratch… that they can somehow walk it off. All the guys I know are like this.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men I’ve learned a lot being married to my husband, but there’s one thing I fail to understand in general. Why do you guys like to stare out the window so often? It’s usually just going up to a window or looking out the front door, and you fall into a trance. What’s up with that?

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men I always tell my wife if it's not (was not): moving, on fire, or naked I didn't see it.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Why can’t they find things? If you ask them to bring you something from the closet, refrigerator, living room, whatever, they can’t find it!

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh I know this one. It's because we lack the ability to look in the right place. In our male brains, it's logical to keep the ketchup in the broom closet so that's where we look.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Why do guys just sit in silence sometimes. I thought for a long time my boyfriend was sick of me but he was just sitting there with his brain off ig…

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men How their crotch doesn't hurt when they run or go up the stairs. Like, even with underwear, you just have stuff hanging down there. I don't even have a large chest and it hurts to run regardless if I'm wearing a bra or not

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

TBH I just don't feel it down there. Then again I don't feel much of anything anymore. Not since "The Incident". The only time I feel anything now is when I think about The Roman Empire.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men How can they be so smart, and have so many knowledge about something, but they can be so, so stupid, do they have a switch about topics?

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Once upon a time my girlfriend sent me into a gas station to get her a “can of Mountain Dew”. So I go in and search all over the place but they don’t have single cans of Mountain Dew, only bottles. But then I see it... a 12 pack of canned Mountain Dew. Now in my guy brain she said “can” so I was not coming out of that store with a bottle. When I go back to the car with the 12 pack she asked why I got 12 cans of Mountain Dew. I explained my logic and she started laughing uncontrollably. She brings this up all the time with other women when explaining how “guys think differently”.

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I don’t understand why it is so hard to take no. Why do I need to justify a straight to the point no. Like no I will not go to this basically empty of people area almost in the woods or no I don’t want to sleep with you.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some guys learn that being pushy works. I remember from my sales training as a door to door salesman (I managed about 3 weeks lol) - 3 nos, you need to get told no 3 times before you move on. All the established guys in my team were either married or going out with gorgeous women and a couple had side pieces too despite being average at best. Sadly being pushy in this life works.

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How do you just go to sleep?

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#34

Why some men feel insecure when their girlfriends/spouses earn more than him.

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30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men How do I know they are interested in me? How do I make it known to them that I'm interested in them?

I'm way too shy to confess face to face, and yet I also find confessing though a text insincere.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Difficult one if you don't want to expose yourself to potential hurt. I I would recommend against vague flirting and signals. Sometimes better to come out and say it. Men can be notoriously bad at interpreting flirting.

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#36

Me after men's league golf:

arrive home

wife: Who'd you play with?

me: Joe, ummm ummm John, ummm don't remember 3rd guy

wife: What'd you talk about?

me: hockey

wife: what else?

me: ummm I don't know.

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#37

Speaking for my wife here: Missing the toilet almost every time I pee to some degree and then failing to recognize that I’ve missed until she points it out with physical evidence.

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sit, much more relaxing. Good for prostate as well, I read!

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#38

I'm 36, married, and never sent a d**k pic in my entire life. I'd only do it if my wife asked me to send her one, even then I'd question it. If she wants to see it she can just take my pants off...

Edit: Have asked my wife if she's ever sent one to anyone and the answer was no, because she didn't want it used against her one day if anything bad ever happened.

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, pretty sure your wife is not going to send a d**k pic

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#39

Why they won't buy a new wallet even tho the one they're currently using is literally hanging by a single thread.



Edit: I love and appreciate the fact that it's because it holds some sentimental value to most of you. Will keep in mind to gift those close to me in the future!

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Jan Hyde
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's nothing to do with sentiment. It's to do with my old wallet being the exactly right shape for my butt when it's in my back pocket. A new one would talk a long time to break in.

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#40

The refusal of basic hygiene some men display.

Like I had a friend who absolutely refused to wipe of those last drops of pee after using the toilet.
For no reason.
He just said it's unnecessary, even tho you always could see a nice wet spot in his pants.

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Adrian
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm male and sit down to pee, and wipe afterwards. Guy, believe me, girls LOVE this...

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#41

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Friendship between men!

It’s like you guys find a group of friends in your teens or college years and be like that’s it, enough socializing for the rest of our life and actually manage to maintain those friendships. How do you do this? I admit I’m a bit jealous. ;)

But then again so often dudes admit to me they can’t open up with their male friends, hide their feelings and problems and keep conversations shallow which I think is kinda sad. Maybe that’s the secret why those friendships last. But it adds to the confusing part, because I question a friendships worth if it doesn’t provide a safe space between the individuals.

Disclaimer. I am aware both of those paragraphs don’t apply to all men. I’m talking to the ones it does apply to.

Edit; Thank you for sharing your experiences and opinions guys! You’re amazing and you gave me me a lot of insight. I’m still catching up with reading all comments since it’s quite a lot more than expected, but thank you very much for your efforts and for opening up.

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is because we invest so much in such friendships. When you have buddies you can actually trust with deep stuff, friends who have known you for decades, you don´t let them go.

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#42

How most of your fights with friends are like, 'punch each other and then you're good'. Like how?!?!

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You girls should try it, it's easier than making new friends

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#43

My wife along with her friends is amazed their sposes and I can fall asleep within a minute or two of my head hitting the pillow. I blame working a labor intensive job but I know some men don't fall asleep no matter what. She is also amazed that I can't properly load a dish washer or put food away into the pantry.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hm. I usually take a few hours to fall asleep, do properly load the dishwasher, and I'm the only one who even attempts keeping order in the pantry. I'm not a man, I'm a Muppet!

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#44

That some will show immense interest in you, but as soon as you give them the same energy in return, they back off. I don’t like that and usually I’ll back up and move on. It’s confusing and very frustrating

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably because they don't want the disappointment of finding out that you were just being nice and weren't really that interested in you. They've been burned in the past. Men aren't good at picking up on subtle signals from women.

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#45

men that are willing to pay a lot of money just for pictures of feet or boobs when p**n can be free

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that there are two possible reasons. One is a "collector" drive, always looking for what turns them on and collecting it. And the other is that there are certain things that will turn them on and at exact picture they are looking for is in the pay area.

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#47

My girlfriend is blown away that I can text/call friends to hang out. That I haven’t hung with in months. And they are down!!! No questions asked. “Yeah sure I’ll be over in 20 minNo questions asked

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Šimon Špaček
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Life is short and full of duties. If somebody didn't call in 6 months, he had good reason. We have both a free evening? Let's have some beer.

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#48

I still don’t understand d**k pics. Do they really think we look at a picture of a d**k, in terrible lighting, sweaty, untrimmed pubes, with your 10 year old briefs and gym shorts pulled down.

And go… oh yeah this is it. I’m glad I didn’t ask for this. The surprise during a fun conversation is so much better.

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Gustav Gallifrey
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, a lot of us don't understand d**k pics, either. We, too, think that men who send them are weird.

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#49

Rules seem to make you happy. My boyfriend plays a lot of tabletop rpgs and Battletech and he’s said before that he’s not enjoying a game because I quote “there aren’t enough rules, it’s all a bit confusing”. Also follows for tasks ie. Can you microwave x for me? No that’s confusing. Microwave x for 1 minute 30 seconds exactly. He’s a happy happy man 😅

Edit:

To answer general queries:
He has not been diagnosed with autism, he does have the spicy panic aka anxiety. I think this maybe partly why he likes rules/specific instructions? Though he does get a lot of autism/adhd tiktoks and has related to them so maybe?

He’s a historian specifically, war history.

Our microwave is 900w.

The game recs are very welcome and lovely, he is aware of the thread and enjoying seeing what people are recommending for him.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Rules make things easier. There's no room for indecisiveness when there are clear rules

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#50

The obsession with being the one who is the master of the barbecue.

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Gustav Gallifrey
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Obsessed? No way, you (or anyone else) wants to cook for me? Go right ahead, here's the tongs.

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#51

The things they find brag-worthy absolutely boggle my mind

Like they brag about the things that don't even register, and the things that do matter they don't realise even counts

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Con O Cuinn
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because it's boastful to brag about serious things. But bragging about eating 2 whole chickens, that shits funny

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#52

They barely complain, even on very important things they need to complain about.

Probably due to parents that suppressed the s**t out of anything they ever say unless it's ez for them to handle.

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#53

Not a woman, but I'm confused on why I want to dropkick an alligator.

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#54

They like boobs to a level that can be pretty concerning at times lol

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa)
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everybody likes boobs. Men, women, straight gay. Everybody loves boobs. I've been saying that for years and nobody has proven me wrong.

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#55

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men How they can’t answer or respond to more than one thing in a text message.

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#56

How they are easy to repress all feelings and emotions except anger (usually). It must be hurtful for them as much as it is for everyone around them.

Edit: Just a few days after I made this comment I saw this [video by SALARI](https://youtu.be/bomWsgjLQjc). I recommend watching it, and I think it made me understand this matter.

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because anger is the only safe emotion for a boy to express. It creates space when he's feeling overwhelmed, without showing weakness in front of the bully looking for the weakest member of the herd. The trick is to learn to express other emotions when the childhood dynamic is no longer helpful.

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#57

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men How is it that I know so many older level headed men who have good values, passion for their work and opinions and they aren't afraid of expressing themselves, the way they speak about their wives and families makes me want to go back into dating, but when I look at men my age, suddenly most of them are dodgy, scared of commitment and scared of having and expressing their opinions.

I don't want to date men who are 50-60 but I'm so envious of their wives for finding such a good men to spend their lives with.

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#58

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Their inability to close drawers and cupboards properly despite being practical and intelligent. This may be isolated to one individual though.

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just the opposite in my house (I'm a man), and I'm the one that wants them all closed, but it doesn't seem to bother her in the least if they are left open. So, I don't think this one should be on the list, it is an individual thing that has nothing to do with gender.

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#59

Guys that say they don't want a clingy girl.


Proceed to date a less clingy girl and feel neglected.


EDIT: I have to clear up my comment.
I intend this as men finding women with this toxic trait of clingyness. But once they come across a partner who is more independent and wants a healthy communication boundary. They find it not enough and yearn for the toxic trait they had been use to before.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

id say women do this as well but they want a bad boy and not someone nice until they get treated badly by the bad boy and then yearn for the guy who is too nice again

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#60

30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men Acting like a person you are not at all in front of your boys, just to be cool. And every single one the boys does that and no one feels comfortable with that. How the f**k does that make sense?

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#61

Why pooping takes so long

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