It’s that time of the year when people put all of their focus on the holiday rituals. Decorating trees, singing Christmas jingles and looking for the right gift for their loved ones. No one can deny that exchanging presents is a significant part of the whole celebration. We all know it feels great, right? Especially if you receive something special and thoughtful that lets you know much others care about you.
When it comes to relationships, creativity, kindness and humor are very important in keeping the spark alive. And there are plenty of boyfriends and husbands who can’t seem to stop surprising their partners in the best possible way. We at Bored Panda want to show off some of the most wholesome and dreamy Christmas gifts people have ever given their SOs, so we put together a list for you to see.
Scroll down, upvote your favorites and let us know if you find them inspiring in the comments below! Also, don’t forget to check out our previous post about it right here.
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Husband Spends 2 Years Planting Thousands Of Scented Flowers For His Blind Wife To Smell And Get Her Out Of Depression
When it comes to thinking of the right gift, there are plenty of factors to consider. What the person enjoys, what is the message you want to express and how to surprise them with it. We already talked about how some people ended up getting the worst gifts ever and what were the mistakes behind them. If you wish to avoid getting involved in such stories, just remember that there are two main goals when it comes to buying things for your loved ones: to make them happy and to strengthen your relationship.
In order to achieve them, you have to come up with a memorable gift that will show how much you care about them. Usually, people think that the most special gifts are the ones they come up with themselves. But more often than not, people tend to be happier when they receive something they actually wished for. So the obvious solution is to ask them directly, although it may seem like failing in the thoughtfulness area.
Often, spending so much time thinking of the perfect gift can really make you feel anxious. What if the person will think this is a terrible gift? Or what if others will buy something better? When it comes to this, there’s always a social risk involved. A thoughtful gift can strengthen your relationship and make you feel even more connected to each other than you were before. A bad gift can do the opposite.
My Dog Passed Away Last Month And My Boyfriend Got Me Flowers In The Shape Of My Dog And I Am In Love
Research shows that undesirable gifts can have an impact on the way we see our partners or spouses. Gifting plays a big role in determining if there’s a similarity in tastes and interests between the two people. After a couple of experiments with 62 participants, it became clear that the things we buy have an influence on how we see the future of our relationships, and sometimes not in a good way.
When people received an undesirable gift, "men viewed themselves as relatively dissimilar from their girlfriend and reported a more negative outlook on the relationship’s future. Women responded to their boyfriend’s poor gift choice by inflating their reports of similarity to him, leaving their relationship outlook intact," the researchers explained.
"Although we suggest that this gender difference emerged because women marshaled psychological defenses in response to the threat posed by receiving a bad gift, it is possible that women were less displeased with the bad gift than were men."
“Safety Glasses” That I Made For My Wife’s Optometry Office
He's One Heck Of A Wholesome Boyfriend
If done right, gift-giving can actually be one of the best ways to manifest your love. In 1992, Gary Chapman released a best-selling book called The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate which revolutionized the way we can see our relationships. According to him, there are five romantic ways people give and receive love: physical touch, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation and gift-giving.
And today, we are particularly interested in the gift-giving one. It means that we actually "speak" through the way we choose and give presents to our better halves. This does not mean that people who identify themselves with this love language are constantly buying statement gifts and doing grand gestures. It’s mostly about small tokens and cute surprises and not about greediness at all.
My GF Loves Fairytales So, To Propose, I Built Her A Fairytale Storybook With Secret Puzzles Inside
Made My Girlfriend A Custom Desk For Her Tiny Apartment So She Can Stop Working At The Kitchen Counter
Mark Williams, a licensed mental health counselor and relationship coach said, "If you or your partner’s love language is gifts, that means you feel loved [or that you’re demonstrating love] with a tangible item." It doesn’t matter if it’s a pair of comfy Christmas socks or a brand new car, the important thing is the idea behind it—showing that you are always on their mind. There’s also a sentimental value to it, because every time you’ll look at the present, it will remind you of the experience.
This Lady Getting A PHD Graduation Postponed But Also Getting A Graduation Gift From Her Husband
My Dad Surprised My Mom For Their 30th Anniversary And Had A Bench Dedicated To Her At The Park Where They Always Walk Together
My Mom's New BF Literally Built Her A Wall To Display Her Collection
My dad used to get so mad every time my mom would come home with a new coffee mug (she likes to collect them). This is why we don't settle for loser boys, ladies.
That is a very nice thing to do and it looks great. If collecting something makes someone happy then why not (as long as it doesn't over take your home)
It’s not always easy to determine what love language your partner prefers most. “We often speak the love language to our partners that we ourselves want to receive. Meaning, if your partner buys you an album two days after you talk about how much you love a new band, or gets you a subscription to a magazine they think you’d like, it’s likely that their love language is gift giving,” Williams explained.
My Husband Is A Firefighter And He Built This Indoor Playhouse For Our Foster Children
Today’s My 25th Birthday, My Husband Is A Pastry Chef And Made Me A Cake
I Made This Tree Skirt By Quilting My Daughter's Old Baby Clothes For My Wife This Christmas
I’m a novice sewer and this was my first go at quilting. I’m kinda proud, to be truthful.
Also, if your SO is extremely enthusiastic about the gifts they received from you and brag about them to their friends, that’s also a pretty obvious sign that gifts could be their preferred love language. "If you pass a bakery every day on the way home from work, look at it through the lens of ‘My partner really feels loved when I bring them gifts’ and stop in for a pastry before heading home. They don’t have to be big purchases, and they don’t have to be all the time," Williams suggested.
I Made My Girlfriend A Smart Mirror For Her Birthday
We Were In A Long Line At The Grocery. This Man Said He Had To Go Use The Restroom, But Instead He Secretly Bought Flowers For His Wife And Hid Them Behind His Back
My Boyfriend Told Me I Had To Come Home Late Last Night. Surprised Me With This
If your other half’s love language is gifts, it might be really beneficial for you as well because it turns out that giving might be even better than receiving. According to research in Psychological Science, it seems that happiness does not decline or at least decline slower for those, who repeatedly gave gifts to others, compared to people who received those same gifts over and over again.
That's A Thoughtful And Beautiful Anniversary Gift
My Wife Asked For A Gold Bicycle. I Bought An Old 70’s Ross Kids Bike And Turn It Into A Low Rider
Fixed My Makeup After Ugly Crying From The Gift My Husband Gave Me
"If you want to sustain happiness over time, past research tells us that we need to take a break from what we’re currently consuming and experience something new," Ed O’Brien, experimental social psychologist and co-author of the research, said. "Repeated giving, even in identical ways to identical others, may continue to feel relatively fresh and relatively pleasurable the more that we do it."
My Husband Made Me This When We First Started Dating
All the guys at his work were making fun of him at first until he was done and then they wanted him to make them one for their girlfriends. I just wanted to share his talent somewhere.
Wedding Day Gift From My Husband. Inside That Glass, Ball Is Crushed Up Petals From The Very First Bouquet Of Flowers He Ever Got Me
Those Everyday Life Things Of Knowing Each Other So Well
I'm doing this every year for new years. such a great way to capture what happened that year.
One of the experiments that researchers did was giving 96 university students $5 every day for 5 days to spend on the exact same thing every time. They were randomly selected to spend the money on themselves or on someone else and at the end of each day, they reflected on their experience and overall happiness. And it showed a clear pattern: "Those who spent money on themselves reported a steady decline in happiness over the 5-day period. But the happiness did not seem to fade for those who gave their money to someone else."
A Bouquet Of Chicken Nuggets
He’s Definitely A Keeper
My Husband Built My Dogs A Dream Dog House
One reason behind this seems to be that people who focus on the outcome, like getting paid or receiving a gift, tend to become less affected by the experience itself. However, when people focus on the action, they are not thinking about or comparing the outcomes but rather focus on the experience which brings them happiness.
My Girlfriend Loves Giraffes – So I Made Her One
Boyfriend Goals
Outstanding Gift
I love this charming book case and that fact it will benefit children :)
Looking through the list makes you think that these boyfriends and husbands should feel just as happy and excited as the sweethearts who were pleasantly surprised by such thoughtful and wholesome gifts. But remember, the most precious thing you can give your significant other is actually pretty simple: your attention and your love.
My Husband Had Rotator Cuff Surgery Yesterday. I Found This On Our Whiteboard This Morning And He Must Have Wrote It With His Non-Dominant Hand
My husband has taken pride in what he’s dubbed “Fresh Flower Friday” and hasn’t missed a Friday in almost six years. It’s the best bouquet he’s ever given me.
My Wife Needed A Background For Her Zoom Calls. So I Made This
A Picture I Made For My Wife To Celebrate 10 Years Of Marriage
Something I Made For My Girlfriend. Been Practicing A Lot Since September And Here’s The Result
My 35 Year Wedding Anniversary Gift To My Wife
He Has The Biggest Smile Right As He's About To Give His Girlfriend Her Valentine's Gift For The First Time
My Long-Distance Girlfriend Loves The Outdoors, So For Her Birthday, I Made Her An Automata
On Our First Date, I Jokingly Told My Boyfriend I Loved Jeff Goldblum’s Half-Shirtless Scene In Jurassic Park So Much, I Wished I Had A Giant Painting Of It
Four months later on my birthday, he gave me this painting.
My Wife Wrote A Book, So For Her Birthday I Bound It
My wife wrote a novel over the course of the last 2 years. It's the first book of a trilogy. For her birthday I got the idea to hand bind it so she could see what will one day be a printed reality in bookstores across the world!
Wholesome
A Genius Idea
It says: "One year. One year of laugh, love & memories. I want to spend so many more years with this woman. She brought a light into my life that I never knew could of existed. I love you Sophia, happy one year baby. Tim"
My Boyfriend Made Me A Pretty Paperlamp With My Travellers In It
Thank you so muuch I love youuu and thiiis AAAH.
You can change the color of the lamp with a remote too.
It's My Birthday. My Husband Made Me A Blanket Fort In The Living Room, Bought Me A Season Of Bob's Burgers And A Bottle Of Wine. He's A Great Man
This Is What I Have Waiting For Her Instead
My wife got up at 2 am this morning to hike a mountain with some friends. She's on her way home right now and probably thinks she's going to have to immediately take over taking care of the kids so I can get my work done.
A Blanket Chest I Made For My Future Wife, We Get Married On Saturday. Its Make Out Of Walnut Wood And Brass Plugs
I Ran Out Of Way To Express My Love To My Girlfriend So I Started Learning How To Paint So I Could Paint For Her
I Made My Girlfriend A Huge Doll's House As A Proposal
I Sent My Boyfriend The Post Earlier With The Taco Heart That Someone Made - This Was Waiting For Me When I Got Home From Work. I’d Say It’s A Darn Good Effort
Husband Built Me A Greenhouse For My Succulents. Much Needed When It Monsoons Every Single Day In Mobile, AL
That's Sweet
What A Keeper
My Boyfriend 3D Printed Me A Wreath (We Are Going To Paint It Green And Red, Just Wanted To Show Off)
I Made My Wife A Pensieve From Harry Potter For Her Wedding Gift
I glued a magnet to the tip of the wand. Each of the bottles also has a magnet glued inside the bottom. Again, the bottle sticks to the wand due to the aforementioned magnets. To anyone who thinks this may sound callous, getting attacked is kind of the point of Stingray City. When you get in the water, they give you a piece of squid to hold onto. This attracts the rays so they swarm you. It's in Grand Cayman and super fun.
DIY Watch For My Girlfriend
The blue part of the dial is a star chart, representing the positions of the stars on the day we met, from the place we met.
My Husband Put Serious Thought Into The Paper-Themed 1st Wedding Anniversary And Cartoonized Our Relationship. I Love It So Much
My Boyfriend's Christmas Gift To Me. Heart Is Full
It Became The Family Joke To Watch Me Go Ballistic Over The Fabric Scissors. So Hubby Made This
My Husband Built This House For Our Cat As A Christmas Present. Stan Is Always A Content Meatloaf In His Little Home
My Super Cool Boyfriend Made This For My Birthday. Thanks For Making Me Feel Special
Boyfriend Gave Me This Poster Of Prison Mike Made Entirely Of Pictures Of Us
A While Ago I Built A Mario Themed Planter For My Wife
Colored Pencil Mother's Day Popcorn Bowl For My Wife
Home Made Scrabble Set As Gift For My Wife
Lego Flower Bouquet
My Man's Got The Sound Waves Of Him Saying He Loves Me Printed On A Canvas
My Husband Gifted Me With A Trip To Europe To Visit Family I Haven't Seen In 20 Years
for those who don´t know, it means ´See you soon then´.
Load More Replies...hihi you translated from English, love it. Dutch people say "until soon". Being "Tot zo!" "Tot straks" or "Tot binnenkort!" and also more streettalking wise: "gonna see you" being "Ga je zien!"
Load More Replies...My Boyfriend Got Me This As An Anniversary Gift
My Boyfriend 3D-Printed Me A Tiny Toothless
My Boyfriend Made Me This For My Birthday. I’m Feeling A Positive Energy From This Gift
Now After 2 Years, My Husband Surprised Me With The Most Amazing Wedding Ring I Have Ever Seen. He Picked The Design Himself. I Can’t Believe It
When we eloped, my husband and I were on a tight budget. I used my mom’s ring (a gift) as my wedding ring.
He's learned he's descended from royalty. It even has cabochon rubies!
I Made My Girlfriend A Rose Out Of Copper For Valentines Day
Big Props To The Hubby
DIY Project For His Girlfriend
I Made A Jewelry Case For Christmas For My Girlfriend
I Built A Custom Engraved Wedding Bench Set As A Gift To My Wife For Our 5th Anniversary
The wife has no idea I am doing this, and it won't be revealed to her until the morning of our anniversary.
For My Girlfriend's Birthday I Made Up This Wine Featuring An Illustration Of Her With Her Best Friend - Named After Their Favorite Book
My Valentine's Gift For My Wife. I Bought A Chest At A Craft Store. Sanded It, Stained It, Sealed It, Engraved It, And Filled It With 365 Love Notes: One A Day Until Next Valentine's
My Husband Made A Ring Out Of Parking Tokens From The Day Each Of Our Kids Were Born
I Built A 5-Speed City Bike For My Wife
My wife had been wanting a bike, and I wanted her to have one too since I love riding and always wish she could come with me.
Advent Calendar I Made For My Girlfriend Last Year, I Definitely Got Some Things Wrong But Enjoyed The Chance To Try Some New Skills
I might give it another go in a few years but I’m happy with it for now.
My Husband, Who Is Not A Hp Fan Himself, Bought Me The Hogwarts 3D Puzzle And Built It With Me While Watching All 8 Movies
My Husband Built Me This Beautiful Wall To Hold All My Spices And Blends
Before, they were in various containers in a cupboard. It brings me such joy! No more having to take everything out of the cabinet to get what I need. For anyone wondering, it cost about $100 to build not including the jars.
I've Been Saying Since Quarantine How Much I Miss Getting Massages. So For My Birthday, He Bought Me A Massage Table And Learned How To Do Deep Tissue Massages
My husband is the absolute cutest. I went in to take a nap and when I woke up he had transformed our living room into a massage studio.
Anniversary Gift From My Husband. An Amish Crochet Basket He Commissioned - He Knows Me So Well
I love all kinds of baskets, but especially ones with only one special purpose.
My Boyfriend Made This Light-Up Star Map For Me, And It's Easily The Best Present I've Ever Gotten
Today Is My Birthday And My Husband Wrote Me A Book
This Is Too Pure
Looks kind of weird shaped, but also it looks like it would be more comfortable to write with than a regular straight pen!
Amazing Present From My Husband To Celebrate Our 1 Year Anniversary. Traditionally A Paper Gift. So Excited For This Set, I've Wanted It Forever
Great present. We're in the US. I gave my husband the set from the UK when the final edition was released.
My Boyfriend Made Me My Very Own Portfolio Binder To Help Motivate My Career In Art For Valentine’s Day. I Almost Threw Up I’m So Happy
He made it from scratch and engraved the cover with my weird signature that I have tattooed on my back.
I’m Going Through Some Bad Depression Right Now And My Husband Surprised Me With Sunflowers. It Made Me Ugly Cry With Happiness
My Fiancée Finally Got To See Her Anniversary Gift. Anniversary Was In April But Covid
For Our 10-Year Anniversary Today My Husband Gifted Me A Potting Shed To Help With This Natural Therapy
Over lockdown, I found gardening really helped with my anxiety and depression. I couldn't think of a more pure and perfect gift.
My Boyfriend Built Me The Plant Stand I’ve Wanted Forever With Leftover Wood We Had Laying Around
Been having a really rough week mental health-wise and just got home after a horrible day at work to see this.
My Boyfriend 3D Printed Me A Cat Yarn Bowl
I Made My Wife A Side Table For Our Anniversary, Then Planted It At IKEA With A "Happy Anniversary" Price Tag To Surprise Her
This Is What Love Looks Like
My Husband Made This Book-Holder-Opener For Me To Ease Hand Cramping
Cat Knocked Down My Christmas Tree. Told My BF To Look For An Ornament Which Was Given To Me By His Mom. Found It Broken. Without Telling Me, He Ordered A Whole Set
I found these a day later. Honest to goodness, made me almost cry.
That's Sweet
What A Cool Gift And A Creative Husband
I Made A String Art Of My Beautiful Wife For Mother's Day
My Girlfriend Loves Tsum Tsums So I Built A Holder For Her Collection
I Carved Harry Potter's Mum's Magic Wand For My Girlfriend's Birthday Present
My girlfriend is a massive Harry Potter Fan, so for her birthday, I decided to make her a magic wand, based on the description of the wand of her favorite character, Harry's Mum, Lily.
My Boyfriend Made Me A “Clinical Survival Kit”
I start my nursing clinical this Wednesday at the hospital and he knows how nervous I am... The thought he put into this. Like even put it some “Aleve” in case I get a headache, and SB gift card and lunch money.
That Looks So Good
"An Oven Cooks Things And I Put The Tomatoes In"
I Made My Girlfriend A Timeframe For Our Anniversary
I Had An Absolutely Soul-Destroying Day At Work
I came home to find my boyfriend had done this. Complete with a homemade bath caddy, my favorite cheeses and chocolate-dipped strawberries. It looked even better by candlelight.
This Was His Gift To Me For Valentine's Day. I Cried Happy Tears
My husband and I have been leaving notes for each since we got married last June because we have different sleep schedules.
I Made A Thing For The Girl I Love
Anniversary #1 is supposed to be paper, so I decided wood was close enough and I made a thing out of wood!
Hubby Made Me A Potting Bench
When He 3D Prints You A Brush Stand He's A Keeper
I Dropped My Travel Blush And Broke Off The Part That Kept It Shut, So My Boyfriend 3D Printed Me A Container That Keeps It Secure
Hubby Made Me A Nail Rack Out Of An Antique Clock
That's AT LEAST $500 worth of nail polish right there. (And yes, I am definitely jealous 😆)
He's A Keeper
I Have Been Sending Handwritten Letters To My Wife For Almost Three Years. For Our Fifth Wedding Anniversary, I Built My Wife A Sour Cherry Custom Box To Store Her Letters In
I love her so much, I wish I could do stuff like this for her everyday.
I Made A 50 Nanometer Thick Portrait Of My Girlfriend For Her Birthday
I Created A Valentine's Day Makeup Box For My Girlfriend
Today My Boyfriend Surprised Me With A Digital Keyboard For An Early Birthday Gift
I have been dying to learn how to play for years. He did a ton of research and got me everything I could possibly need to learn. I can't express how happy this makes me. It means everything to me.
My BF Gave Me The Cutest Gift For My Birthday Yesterday
My Boyfriend 3D Printed Me Some Plumbobs. I Love Them So Much. I Keep Them On Top Of My Computer Monitor Ft. A Plumbella Vid On It
My mom has cancer and won't survive, I always look at the moon and think of her, so my boyfriend bought me a ring with a little moonstone in it so I "always have the moon with me to think of her during cloudy nights" :)
That’s so sweet, yet a little sad. May you have lots of hugs and wonderful memories with your mum in the time she has left xx
Load More Replies...One day I came home to a coffee mug that that said "To my wife. I wish I could turn back the clock to find you sooner and love you longer. I may not be your first kiss, your first date or your first love, but I just want to be your last everything." With a picture of the old couple from "Up" on it. Made me cry.
Seriously, where are these men? Are they internet myths? I've never known or seen a man ever do anything like this for the woman in his life. It's wonderful, but dammit i'm riven with envy, I'd love to experience someone caring about me this much. 36yrs old and I've never had a man do anything more than pickup flowers and a box of chocolates from the gas station on his way home for my birthday. WHERE ARE YOU GUYS?! I'll move where you are if i have to!
My husband is one of these men. Literally: he built the playhouse in number 12! He is astonishingly caring and considerate and is amazing. He is a volunteer firefighter and he is a professional Airstream restorer. He built this playhouse for our foster children, who moved the flowers out of the window boxes and took apart the cardboard play campfire we had to pretend the playhouse was on fire!
Load More Replies...After meeting my husband online, our love blossomed from afar. After 6 months, he flew 12,000 miles to say I love you to me face to face. We celebrate our 10th anniversary in the coming weeks :)
Why is this "raising the bar". These are examples of people demonstrating love and respect for their partner. Some of them are over the top, but most of them are just what people, regardless of gender, do when they genuinely care for someone.
Wanted to add... BP recently had a post in which we criticized a society that put men on a pedestal for doing the bare minimum in parenting their children. This post is exactly the same. Why are we celebrating men for simply loving their partner? This post should either not exist, or it should be about PEOPLE demonstrating their love for their partner, regardless of gender.
Load More Replies...My darling husband isn’t a big gift giver but when he does it’s out of the blue and perfect. My favorite is a silver and cut gemstone ring that changes color depending on natural or artificial light that a friend made. I admired it at a show she was at and bought it when I wasn’t looking. He gave it to me at Christmas and there wasn’t a dry eye in the house! But also, he makes me coffee twice a day, every day- the best coffee ever, tells me sweet things all the darn time and cooks dinner every night. We’ve been together over thirty years now and I would gladly do another thirty, or more, if we could. Best. Partner. Ever.
I wish I could add my husband to this list. He had a custom engagement ring made for me. The center stone is his birthstone, there's a smaller stone on the side that's mine; he had it made in rose gold because he knows I love it; on the opposite side to my birthstone he had the band engraved with the Old Norse runes for romantic love (a shout out to my Swedish heritage), and the main stone is flanked by Celtic knots (a shout out to his Irish heritage). It's *gorgeous*.
My wife gets breakfast in bed almost every morning. For 16 years and counting. How does that stack up?
Does he clean all 3 toilets because he knows you hate it? Buy your favorite chocolate from Home Depot? Makes sure your car has gas? Gets flowers because they were there and pretty? Yeah, mine does. He ain't tall or magazine handsome but boy, he's generous to a fault.
My husband starts the heater in my writing cottage makes us breakfast and coffee. Took him 3 years to convince me he was a nice as he seemed.
The most precious gifts aren't the ones bought with money. Most of these items, if they would have been bought, would not have the same value. It's because they got an idea, and it took time, effort and sometimes learning before the idea is realized. It's looking at a person, seeing that person and knowing what they like. Making a gift can hardly get more personal. But also still, flowers. And yes, I do agree that it is something that goes both ways, but -in general- men don't appreciate flowers the way women do (sure, they like them, but not as much as women do.) But also a handmade card, handwritten card or letter with or without reason, from a friend to a friend, child to their parent, or to an aquiantance...it is so much more thoughtful and meaningful than a fb post or app.
My dad left my mom and me when I was 5. He was not in contact with us, and on my 6th birthday, my mom gave me a Cinderella watch and said it was from both of them. I wore the watch to death, but still had what was left of it. My husband, in a pre internet world, searched high and low and bought me the exact same watch never opened, mint in box.
I LOATHE mornings. My husband wakes up like a cheerleader already on her third espresso. For the past 5 years my wake up time has been 4:45 am. He does not need to be up until 7:30 am. But every single morning he gets up at 4:30, makes my coffee, puts out my outfit, packs my bag, and lines up my “pocket things” on our table. He sits silently while my coffee kicks my brain into high gear, waits patiently while I throw my clothes on, carries my things to my car, opens my car door, and then lets the sassy cheerleader out for just a second with a cheesy line or corny joke before he shakes his imaginary pom-poms and celebrates the morning kiss. He does this every day just so I can have the 9 minute snooze button. After I leave, instead of going back to bed for a bit, he cleans or does laundry and always leaves a cute little note on our dry erase board.
Awesome! Now I am waiting for 50 GF's and wives who raised the bar for other women.
Nahh, people would say it is patriarchy... *eyeroll*
Load More Replies...Ok, is it safe to say that most of us are starting divorce proceedings? You stirred the pot once again, BP 😂
It seems like most of the women who demand their boyfriends and husbands do these things aren't doing these things for their boyfriends or husbands either.
Load More Replies...My husband always writes me a love letter, which is my favorite gift - BUT, I am not a girly girl, so he has completely NAILED it a few times over the years. He has gifted me with a "Defiant" ultra Lumins Military type flashlight (so cool), a "Pro Master" 5 piece pliers set, in a canvas wrap AND - my favorite so far: A complete set of professional chef's knives (with scissors) in an embroidered canvas roll. He just gets me.
These wonderful, giving people - offering their talent, time and thoughtfulness to manifest love in beautiful, creative ways. I'm floored. And they're so much more meaningful than scripted movie scenes cos they're real and unique. Love love!
I once arranged for my partner at the time to come to my house, where he was given a clue to the next clue in a poem. He had to follow about 10 of them until he found me in a secluded nearby nature spot with tealights, sleeping bags under a parasol and freshly delivered domino's pizza.
This was very wholesome. I am a huge fan of unique and handmade gifting!!!
This is so beyond sweet meanwhile I can't even get a guy to message me back. I hate it here.
Have you done nice things like this for the boyfriends in your life?
Load More Replies...My dad took a piece of tree trunk, carved a heart in the middle of it and painted it and that was his Valentine's Day present to my mom one year. When my mom went back to college, he took one of the rooms that wasn't being used in our house and turned it into her personal study area that we were not allowed to go in.
Start by doing these kinds of things for your boyfriend. It seems like women want these kinds of things, but never want to be the one to give them to other people.
Load More Replies...I arranged for a local florist to deliver 1 rose a day each day for the month before our wedding. Each rose had a note with one line of a poem I had written for her. This went fine for a week, then the florist broke her leg and couldn’t deliver anymore. So I gave her the the roses personally for the rest of the month.
My dream is to find someone who loves me that much but I feel I'm so ugly it will never happen
Your ugly can be someone else’s beautiful. Maybe you are beautiful according to someone else who loves you and is thinking of you from afar. Don’t lose hope ❤️
Load More Replies...Romance in this house is when hubby buys me a chocolate Flake bar! One of the things we had in common when we met, so it always brings a smile, but still. 20 years together next month, so something's working :-)
My boyfriend surprised me with a visit, on my worst day in a long time by knocking on my door as we were talking in the phone. Then he handed me 5 hand painted rocks he had made. I am the golden Queen bee, the on for my oldest is orange and black striped, my middle is yellow and black, my youngest, who is gay, is rainbow and the one for him is green and blue. The amazing thought and time that went into it made me cry and fall in love with him all over again.
I would so much rather have a man that participates in the day-to-day. The laundry, the cooking, the dishes, errands. So much better than the once in a while gestures. I don't know why guys seem to think that mowing once a week, taking a car to a mechanic once every few months, or giving grand gesture gifts occasionally is remotely equivalent. But I work with a boatload of them.
Society expects men to protect women from harm, give them gifts, and support them financially, as well as do grand performances of love like in the above post. It seems like women are held to a much lower standard than men are.
Load More Replies..."Boyfriends And Husbands Who Raised The Bar Too High For Other Men (New Pics)" and "This is why we don't settle for loser boys, ladies." After reading this I wonder how women would react if the qoutes were: "Girlfriends And Wifes Who Raised The Bar Too High For Other Women(New Pics)" and "This is why we don't settle for loser girls, gentlemen."
So where is the list of girlfriends and wives that raise the bar? It seems like society expects more effort from men when it comes to showing love than it does from women.
If you want that list, then make it. Make an ask pandas post for men to tell stories of what their girlfriends did. These things do happen, you don’t need to comment on every. single. thing. anyone has said on here about what men did. This was the list for men, there’s probably one for women somewhere else.
Load More Replies...I don't speak for all feminists (because we are a spectrum), but as a feminist.... I would like to say we actually love men portrayed as loving caring partners. Except ....this is not "raising the bar". This is what a healthy loving relationship looks like and men should not be put on a pedestal for behaving like decent human beings capable of expressing love and devotion. I mean, don't you get sick of being thought to be incapable of showing love? My husband does. For the record, we also love posts demonstrating love by women, bi, trans, gay and the whole rainbow, because you know, equality.
Load More Replies...My mom has cancer and won't survive, I always look at the moon and think of her, so my boyfriend bought me a ring with a little moonstone in it so I "always have the moon with me to think of her during cloudy nights" :)
That’s so sweet, yet a little sad. May you have lots of hugs and wonderful memories with your mum in the time she has left xx
Load More Replies...One day I came home to a coffee mug that that said "To my wife. I wish I could turn back the clock to find you sooner and love you longer. I may not be your first kiss, your first date or your first love, but I just want to be your last everything." With a picture of the old couple from "Up" on it. Made me cry.
Seriously, where are these men? Are they internet myths? I've never known or seen a man ever do anything like this for the woman in his life. It's wonderful, but dammit i'm riven with envy, I'd love to experience someone caring about me this much. 36yrs old and I've never had a man do anything more than pickup flowers and a box of chocolates from the gas station on his way home for my birthday. WHERE ARE YOU GUYS?! I'll move where you are if i have to!
My husband is one of these men. Literally: he built the playhouse in number 12! He is astonishingly caring and considerate and is amazing. He is a volunteer firefighter and he is a professional Airstream restorer. He built this playhouse for our foster children, who moved the flowers out of the window boxes and took apart the cardboard play campfire we had to pretend the playhouse was on fire!
Load More Replies...After meeting my husband online, our love blossomed from afar. After 6 months, he flew 12,000 miles to say I love you to me face to face. We celebrate our 10th anniversary in the coming weeks :)
Why is this "raising the bar". These are examples of people demonstrating love and respect for their partner. Some of them are over the top, but most of them are just what people, regardless of gender, do when they genuinely care for someone.
Wanted to add... BP recently had a post in which we criticized a society that put men on a pedestal for doing the bare minimum in parenting their children. This post is exactly the same. Why are we celebrating men for simply loving their partner? This post should either not exist, or it should be about PEOPLE demonstrating their love for their partner, regardless of gender.
Load More Replies...My darling husband isn’t a big gift giver but when he does it’s out of the blue and perfect. My favorite is a silver and cut gemstone ring that changes color depending on natural or artificial light that a friend made. I admired it at a show she was at and bought it when I wasn’t looking. He gave it to me at Christmas and there wasn’t a dry eye in the house! But also, he makes me coffee twice a day, every day- the best coffee ever, tells me sweet things all the darn time and cooks dinner every night. We’ve been together over thirty years now and I would gladly do another thirty, or more, if we could. Best. Partner. Ever.
I wish I could add my husband to this list. He had a custom engagement ring made for me. The center stone is his birthstone, there's a smaller stone on the side that's mine; he had it made in rose gold because he knows I love it; on the opposite side to my birthstone he had the band engraved with the Old Norse runes for romantic love (a shout out to my Swedish heritage), and the main stone is flanked by Celtic knots (a shout out to his Irish heritage). It's *gorgeous*.
My wife gets breakfast in bed almost every morning. For 16 years and counting. How does that stack up?
Does he clean all 3 toilets because he knows you hate it? Buy your favorite chocolate from Home Depot? Makes sure your car has gas? Gets flowers because they were there and pretty? Yeah, mine does. He ain't tall or magazine handsome but boy, he's generous to a fault.
My husband starts the heater in my writing cottage makes us breakfast and coffee. Took him 3 years to convince me he was a nice as he seemed.
The most precious gifts aren't the ones bought with money. Most of these items, if they would have been bought, would not have the same value. It's because they got an idea, and it took time, effort and sometimes learning before the idea is realized. It's looking at a person, seeing that person and knowing what they like. Making a gift can hardly get more personal. But also still, flowers. And yes, I do agree that it is something that goes both ways, but -in general- men don't appreciate flowers the way women do (sure, they like them, but not as much as women do.) But also a handmade card, handwritten card or letter with or without reason, from a friend to a friend, child to their parent, or to an aquiantance...it is so much more thoughtful and meaningful than a fb post or app.
My dad left my mom and me when I was 5. He was not in contact with us, and on my 6th birthday, my mom gave me a Cinderella watch and said it was from both of them. I wore the watch to death, but still had what was left of it. My husband, in a pre internet world, searched high and low and bought me the exact same watch never opened, mint in box.
I LOATHE mornings. My husband wakes up like a cheerleader already on her third espresso. For the past 5 years my wake up time has been 4:45 am. He does not need to be up until 7:30 am. But every single morning he gets up at 4:30, makes my coffee, puts out my outfit, packs my bag, and lines up my “pocket things” on our table. He sits silently while my coffee kicks my brain into high gear, waits patiently while I throw my clothes on, carries my things to my car, opens my car door, and then lets the sassy cheerleader out for just a second with a cheesy line or corny joke before he shakes his imaginary pom-poms and celebrates the morning kiss. He does this every day just so I can have the 9 minute snooze button. After I leave, instead of going back to bed for a bit, he cleans or does laundry and always leaves a cute little note on our dry erase board.
Awesome! Now I am waiting for 50 GF's and wives who raised the bar for other women.
Nahh, people would say it is patriarchy... *eyeroll*
Load More Replies...Ok, is it safe to say that most of us are starting divorce proceedings? You stirred the pot once again, BP 😂
It seems like most of the women who demand their boyfriends and husbands do these things aren't doing these things for their boyfriends or husbands either.
Load More Replies...My husband always writes me a love letter, which is my favorite gift - BUT, I am not a girly girl, so he has completely NAILED it a few times over the years. He has gifted me with a "Defiant" ultra Lumins Military type flashlight (so cool), a "Pro Master" 5 piece pliers set, in a canvas wrap AND - my favorite so far: A complete set of professional chef's knives (with scissors) in an embroidered canvas roll. He just gets me.
These wonderful, giving people - offering their talent, time and thoughtfulness to manifest love in beautiful, creative ways. I'm floored. And they're so much more meaningful than scripted movie scenes cos they're real and unique. Love love!
I once arranged for my partner at the time to come to my house, where he was given a clue to the next clue in a poem. He had to follow about 10 of them until he found me in a secluded nearby nature spot with tealights, sleeping bags under a parasol and freshly delivered domino's pizza.
This was very wholesome. I am a huge fan of unique and handmade gifting!!!
This is so beyond sweet meanwhile I can't even get a guy to message me back. I hate it here.
Have you done nice things like this for the boyfriends in your life?
Load More Replies...My dad took a piece of tree trunk, carved a heart in the middle of it and painted it and that was his Valentine's Day present to my mom one year. When my mom went back to college, he took one of the rooms that wasn't being used in our house and turned it into her personal study area that we were not allowed to go in.
Start by doing these kinds of things for your boyfriend. It seems like women want these kinds of things, but never want to be the one to give them to other people.
Load More Replies...I arranged for a local florist to deliver 1 rose a day each day for the month before our wedding. Each rose had a note with one line of a poem I had written for her. This went fine for a week, then the florist broke her leg and couldn’t deliver anymore. So I gave her the the roses personally for the rest of the month.
My dream is to find someone who loves me that much but I feel I'm so ugly it will never happen
Your ugly can be someone else’s beautiful. Maybe you are beautiful according to someone else who loves you and is thinking of you from afar. Don’t lose hope ❤️
Load More Replies...Romance in this house is when hubby buys me a chocolate Flake bar! One of the things we had in common when we met, so it always brings a smile, but still. 20 years together next month, so something's working :-)
My boyfriend surprised me with a visit, on my worst day in a long time by knocking on my door as we were talking in the phone. Then he handed me 5 hand painted rocks he had made. I am the golden Queen bee, the on for my oldest is orange and black striped, my middle is yellow and black, my youngest, who is gay, is rainbow and the one for him is green and blue. The amazing thought and time that went into it made me cry and fall in love with him all over again.
I would so much rather have a man that participates in the day-to-day. The laundry, the cooking, the dishes, errands. So much better than the once in a while gestures. I don't know why guys seem to think that mowing once a week, taking a car to a mechanic once every few months, or giving grand gesture gifts occasionally is remotely equivalent. But I work with a boatload of them.
Society expects men to protect women from harm, give them gifts, and support them financially, as well as do grand performances of love like in the above post. It seems like women are held to a much lower standard than men are.
Load More Replies..."Boyfriends And Husbands Who Raised The Bar Too High For Other Men (New Pics)" and "This is why we don't settle for loser boys, ladies." After reading this I wonder how women would react if the qoutes were: "Girlfriends And Wifes Who Raised The Bar Too High For Other Women(New Pics)" and "This is why we don't settle for loser girls, gentlemen."
So where is the list of girlfriends and wives that raise the bar? It seems like society expects more effort from men when it comes to showing love than it does from women.
If you want that list, then make it. Make an ask pandas post for men to tell stories of what their girlfriends did. These things do happen, you don’t need to comment on every. single. thing. anyone has said on here about what men did. This was the list for men, there’s probably one for women somewhere else.
Load More Replies...I don't speak for all feminists (because we are a spectrum), but as a feminist.... I would like to say we actually love men portrayed as loving caring partners. Except ....this is not "raising the bar". This is what a healthy loving relationship looks like and men should not be put on a pedestal for behaving like decent human beings capable of expressing love and devotion. I mean, don't you get sick of being thought to be incapable of showing love? My husband does. For the record, we also love posts demonstrating love by women, bi, trans, gay and the whole rainbow, because you know, equality.
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