“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier

It's an important thing for kids to learn how to lose and to fail. It's going to happen to them when they are older. The worst thing they ever did was invent " participation trophies". The worst thing they did was worry about their feelings getting hurt. Once they get older they are going to fall apart once they realize those things aren't going to count at all in the real world. As a Gen X we were taught that it's ok to fail or lose. We were taught that when it happens that you can learn from it and do better next time. These days kids are so coddled that they fall apart or throw tantrums. You're seeing this now in the work force and in public. They cry way too easily or need their hands held too often. These are adults as well and it's ridiculous

I think this is especially important when you advised them and they ignored it. They are more likely to listen later when it might be something critical. I remember a couple of cases of "I would not do that and here is why" that went exactly as described and then the realization hit that maybe the old fool really does know some things.

A stitch in time saves nine

A stitch in time saves nine. I learned early on what this means.

Just like a snowball rolling down a snowy mountain.

No point having "the fancy booze" if no one is around to enjoy it

We ALL Deserve to be the reason for the "fancy occasion". Sometimes a giver needs to receive if only to recharge a little by seeing others appreciation for them, that will help them continue doing what they love which is seeing others happy 😌💝

Long ago I decided to use my 'good china' for everyday use. It's definitely a mood-lifter, and such a simple thing. I've incorporated that into other things--If I have it & it has a purpose, I use it. I try not to have stuff 'just because'

I used to work for a tableware company, so I have service for 12 in several different patterns. I use them all the time. Having dinner with my husband IS a special occassion.

None of it is machine washable but heck yah use it

That's basically the opposite of what influencers do.

I wish people who film themselves helping the homeless etc then put in on the Internet so they can be told how amazing and good/kind they are would learn this! You're not doing it because you're a decent person, you're doing it for likes and you're a narcissist.

You can brighten someone's day just by telling a stranger how nice they look

I'm almost 50. A few years ago my older son got into rollerblading and he asked me to join him. I got a cheap pair of rollerskates, not expecting to be doing it long. Wow. It made me feel like a kid again. It brought back all these memories of going to the rink as a kid. Had to invest in a better pair. This year I bought a bicycle. Me and my younger son (17) ride to the top of our neighborhood. It's built on a hill. There is a walking/bike path that runs through it. We go up so we can ride really fast going down. It's a blast. I'm basically just revisiting the things that made me happy as a kid and realizing I can still do them. But I'm still afraid I'll throw my back out if I do a cartwheel.

"Don't worry, be happy"

I'm still trying to convince myself this.

Another way to put this one I've heard, is that anything worth doing is worth half-assing, meaning it's better to half-a*s something important than to not do it at all.

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This hit hards, lost my GF on 7/7/21 my last words to her were “I love you porpoise, I’ll see you later” I did see her later when I found her x

And it takes three times for your brain to believe what you hear. Tell them three times. My husband does this every morning.

After 51 years my husband and I tell each other “I love you” many times a day.

No worries, I'm definitely dying first

I do it every night, even if she is sleeping by the time I'm finished closing down the slaptop, and setting the breakfast table, and flop into bed.

That is getting me through a tough time right now. And my husband and friends being patient with me.

Sometimes it wasent me who made it tho

Suppose this depends on what you consider "making it through"...

I treat my body like a temple, you treat yours like a tent! Oops reverse that for me. Miss You JB 🥹

then realize that your house has very poor resistant to elements, inefficient open sewer system and requirement of constant supply of different (but carefully selected) elements

"my body is a temple... old, dusty, falling apart, probably haunted"

As I'm in my early fifties, I'm finding this is the same advice I'd give my younger self. And adding to that: take care of your dental health and your skin, especially the skin. You can't replace your skin so easily, if at all.

Yes! I tried and tried and tried for literally decades to resolve issues with people like my parents. Finally I cut them out of my life entirely. I just got so tired of forgiving people. If you feel like it's time to draw a line, do it. You will be better off for it

No, some people don't deserve second chances.

I have my own three strikes rule. I tend to draw chaotic people. I have many successes in my past helping them understand different realities of life that helped reduce their chaos. Unfortunately, I've also had the experience of long-term friends that simply couldn't keep the chaos to themselves, destroying the relationship. The longest friendship I've managed with any of my chaotic friends was 20 years. I grieved the loss when it became necessary to completely sever that tie. Each time there was a breach of trust, we discussed the problem and took a break from each other ( the longest almost 2 years). I hate to give up on people, but will not tolerate being abused because their life is difficult.

also accept that you can be shedded as well

some people are brought into your life for you to learn a lesson; sometimes the lesson is that they shouldn't be there

We all need to do relationship "housecleaning."