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It’s been said that advice is only worth what you pay for it, and it’s also true that nothing comes for free. When asking for tips on a particular situation, then, it’s a good idea to find someone who has gone through it before and can hence speak from experience.

With this in mind, X user Sahil Bloom had a smart idea. In the month leading up to his 32nd birthday, he reached out to senior citizens to ask them for one piece of advice they’d give to their 32-year-old selves. Bloom then took to X to list the top 40 pearls of wisdom he received.

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#1

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Allow your kids to fail. You will hate it, but it's so important.

SahilBloom , Luis Alberto Barrera Diaz Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a good one. They need to learn to deal with failure, and it's better to learn it when they're young.

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#2

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier If something has a minor issue, repair it. Minor issues become major issues over time. Applies equally to love, friendships, health, and home.

SahilBloom , freepik Report

#3

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Now and then, break out the fancy china and drink the good wine for no reason at all.

SahilBloom , Melike Benli Report

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RabidChild
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's the point of having things you can't enjoy? Sometimes those things you're saving for a "special" occasion are what makes any occasion special.

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With the pace of modern technology, social media, and more news channels than ever before, it’s easy to dismiss the elderly as being out of touch. However, one thing that shouldn’t be forgotten is the wealth of knowledge these senior citizens have racked up over their long lives. 

A lot of their wisdom has been hard won over a lifetime of experiences. They’ve been through a vast number of failures and successes, positioning them particularly well to divulge the truths of a life well-lived and lessons learned the hard way.

#4

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Do one good deed every single day, but never tell anyone about it.

SahilBloom , freepik Report

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Serena Myers
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's what my old mum used to tell me. She said if you do something kind, or nice, and you tell someone, it doesn't count.

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#5

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Find the things that make your eyes light up. Do more of those.

SahilBloom , Vladimir Kudinov Report

#6

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier It doesn’t have to be perfect for it to be wonderful.

SahilBloom , cottonbro studio Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. If an action gets you moving in the right direction, do it. Or as a riding instructor once said, "First get the horse moving, then start to guide her."

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A great deal of the advice in the X thread deals with things like avoiding regret, overcoming fear, improving the world for yourself and those around you, and seizing every day for all that it’s worth. 

These fragments of wisdom are at once both thought-provoking and poignant and might have you questioning things. Topics dealt with include work, self-awareness, wellness, romance, and morality. One senior dispensed this gem: “Treat your body like a house you have to live in for another 70 years.”

#7

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Tell your partner you love them every night before falling asleep. Someday you’ll find the other side of the bed empty and wish you could.

SahilBloom , Yan Krukau Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Mom and Dad were married for 58 years. Up until he retired, every single time he came home from work, my Mom would greet him, and they would do two smooches. Without fail, no matter what was going on or who was around. I always thought of it as one kiss was my Dad kissing my Mom, and the other was my Mom kissing my Dad. It was adorable.

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#8

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Always remind yourself that your track record for making it through your bad days is perfect.

SahilBloom , Alex Green Report

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#9

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Treat your body like a house you have to live in for another 70 years.

SahilBloom , Marcus Aurelius Report

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UncleJohn3000
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people consider their body a temple but mine is more like a somewhat neglected Methodist youth center ~ Emo Phillips (paraphrased)

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Bloom’s 40-point list is a virtual treasure trove of keen insights and hard-won advice. Having mined the minds of these senior citizens, he’s uncovered wisdom that younger generations would do well to pay attention to. A recurring theme seems to be that one shouldn’t sweat the small stuff; too much time and energy is wasted on things that don’t actually matter that much in the end.

Another topic that came up was to be intentional about the people you choose to surround yourself with; it’s best to be around friends and loved ones that lift you up and inspire. One further piece of advice on this was to, “Never let a good friendship atrophy. Send the text, make the call, plan the trip. Good friendships must be treasured.”

#10

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Give everybody a second chance, but never a third.

SahilBloom , teksomolika Report

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Lee
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope. This is entirely dependent on what they have done, some actions do not warrant a second chance. I'd say don't feel obligated to give people a second chance, don't feel guilty about that and don't let people pressure you into it. Do what's right for you.

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#11

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier There’s nothing wrong with shedding old relationships as you grow and change.

SahilBloom , Pixabay Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people were never meant to be in your life forever. It's taken me time to accept that, but I accepted it.

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#12

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Stubborn pride is the downfall of many men and women. Learn to forget the slight hurts and avoid grudges.

SahilBloom , Stanley Morales Report

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On experiencing the sheer joy of life, one senior said, “Laugh loudly and unapologetically whenever you feel like it.” This one rings so true; the world would be a better place with more laughter in it, don’t you agree?

#13

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Stop trying to change people who don’t want to be changed.

SahilBloom , Liza Summer Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never try to teach a pig to sing. It only wastes your time and annoys the pig.

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#14

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Time doesn't heal anything when it comes to relationships. Don't delay difficult conversations.

SahilBloom , Alena Darmel Report

#15

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Don’t fear sadness, as it tends to sit right next to love.

SahilBloom , Lukas Rychvalsky Report

#16

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Do one thing that challenges your mind every single day. A crossword puzzle, math problem, anything. Daily “exercise” will keep your mind sharp for the long haul.

SahilBloom , Karolina Kaboompics Report

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Leigh James
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Read instead of listening or watching, type instead of dictating. Use your own computer, your brain, instead of AI.

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Turning to the elderly to find out what’s really important in life makes sense. Time is a teacher, after all. In an article for The New York Times, reporter John Leland writes that the population age 85 and up has been growing at five times the rate for the city as a whole, doubling since 1980 to about 150,000.

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He goes on to say that a paradox of old age is that older people have a greater sense of well-being than younger ones - not because they’re unreservedly blissful, but because they accept a mixture of happiness and sadness in their lives, and leverage this mixture when events come their way. They waste less time on anger, stress and worry. 

As Ping Wong, 90, put it: “When you’re young, the future is so far away, and you don’t know what will happen to you and the world. So when you’re young you have more worries than the elderly. But I don’t worry now.”

#17

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Never let a good friendship atrophy. Send the text, make the call, plan the trip. Good friendships must be treasured.

SahilBloom , Pixabay Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once in a while stop reaching out to friends, then wait to see if they value you as much as you do them, you'll be shocked

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#18

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier If your kid wants to dance in line at the store, join them.

SahilBloom , Barbara Olsen Report

       

#19

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier The most damning lie you can tell is the lie you tell to yourself.

SahilBloom , animationscreencaps Report

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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"This, above all, to thine own self be true. As surely follows the night the day, thou canst not be false to any man." William Shakespeare

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If there's something bothering you, ask yourself whether it will matter in one month. If not, let it go right now.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read that if a worry isn't going to kill you in the next 2 minutes - then don't worry about it - not sure about this though.

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Bored Panda reached out to the mentioned The New York Times Journalist John Leland for insights he gained after a spending a year with six people over the age of 85, a project that produced a book titled "Happiness is a choice you make: Lessons from a year amongst the oldest old." When asked about the most poignant piece of advice he'd received, Leland says, "I think the most important advice is the one encapsulated in the book's title. Whatever your age, life is going to happen to you, and sometimes it's going to be harsh. We can't control it. But we have some say in how we process it. Do we focus on the harshness or on, say, our resilience in facing it? We all know people who thrive despite serious problems in their lives, and we know people who are knocked sideways by tiny setbacks. Which way do you choose?"

#21

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Looking presentable is a matter of self-respect.

SahilBloom , lucas souza Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Clean your room, make your bed, dress like you know there will be a photo taken (whatever that means to you). Self care is a critical step to self confidence.

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#22

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Smile and say good morning to strangers on the street.

SahilBloom , Matheus Ferrero Report

#23

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier You may occasionally disappoint others, but make sure to never disappoint yourself.

SahilBloom , Liza Summer Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know if I disappoint myself, I'll never let myself forget it! Years later, 3am, there I am reliving that disappointment for no good reason whatsoever and berating myself all over again!

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#24

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Never raise your voice, except for at a ballgame.

SahilBloom , Andrea Piacquadio Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...or if you're singing 😀 Sing loud. Sing proud. The only caveat? Don't be annoying.

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#25

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Getting old is no picnic, but it's much better than the alternative.

SahilBloom , Brett Sayles Report

When we asked Leland whether or not it's difficult for younger generations to meaningfully connect with the elderly, he said, "Our society separates people, including by age. If you don't know any (or many) older adults, that's not your fault. And if talking to someone much older makes you uncomfortable --- or if you'd rather avoid it --- that attitude is baked into our culture and the daily messages we receive.

#26

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier If it's raining on a warm summer evening, go outside and dance in it.

SahilBloom , Muhamad Lutfi Report

When prompted for one piece of advice he'd like to share with the readers about asking advice from the aged, Leland had this to say, "I'll paraphrase the avant garde filmmaker Jonas Mekas, who was in his 90's when I spent time with him. An interviewer asked him what advice he had for a young person who wanted to be a filmmaker. His answer was perfect: Get a camera! So that's it: just jump in. Don't worry if the conditions aren't perfect or you don't know what you're doing. If you want an answer, ask a question. Chances are that the older person will be glad to share the wisdom he or she learned from living a long time."

Have you ever asked the elderly for advice on a pressing issue in your life? Did you find it meaningful or valuable? Let us know in the comments!

#27

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier No amount of money is ever worth trading for your peace of mind.

SahilBloom , freepik Report

#28

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier When you meet someone, look them in the eye, give a firm handshake, and call them by their name.

SahilBloom , katemangostar Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Saying someone's name back when you meet them can help you remember their name.

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“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier When in doubt, love. We can always use more love.

SahilBloom , Katie Salerno Report

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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That doesn't necessarily mean physical or romantic though. My way of showing love is to bake! If I bake you something, especially something that's difficult to do, it's me saying "I love you enough to put this much effort in". Or drawing.

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“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Travel as much as you can. Collect one token from every trip to remember it by.

SahilBloom , Porapak Apichodilok Report

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#31

If something isn't working and your gut tells you to try harder, first ask whether there's just an easier way to do it.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Step away. Take a break. Often the solution will occur to you while you are doing something else. I have to remind myself of this often. I am tenacious to a fault.

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#32

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Laugh loudly and unapologetically whenever you feel like it.

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#33

The "good old days" are always happening right now.

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#34

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Taking no risk is the biggest risk you can take. Regret from inaction is always more painful than regret from action.

SahilBloom , Jahoo Clouseau Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Only if you first do a thorough evaluation of the risks and possible damage involved if things do not go OK. Do not take foolish risks or risks just to impress your peers.

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#35

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier If you’re going to lose a fight, make sure the other person thinks twice before fighting you again.

SahilBloom , fxquadro Report

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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's a school of thought that this why humans are all homicidally insane - it's an evolutionary survival strategy from when we were in the middle of the food chain in the African veldt. A predator needs to be fit to predate, so a human doesn't have to *win* a fight with a lion, just be violently crazy enough to get a few good licks in - if enough lions get injured eating humans, they'll prey on something easier instead.

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#36

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier No one has ever argued their way to happiness.

SahilBloom , Tim Samuel Report

#37

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Dance at weddings until your feet are sore.

SahilBloom , Danik Prihodko Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Revel in other people's happiness. Celebrate the good times. Experience joy.

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#38

“Here’s The Life Advice Everyone Needs To Hear”: 90YOs Share 40 Things They Wish They Knew Earlier Whenever you hug someone, make sure they are the one to let go first.

SahilBloom , cottonbro studio Report

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In yoga, I usually pick someone about my skill level and use them for motivation. One night, it was the guy who can do a headstand forever, me, and the woman I was using for motivation. "I'm staying up until she drops." But after a while, I started wondering, "What if she's using me for motivation and is waiting for me to drop?" That broke my focus, I dropped and she came down with a 'whew' a split second later. Headstand guy carried on.

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#39

You may win the argument, but if you lose the friend, what was the point?

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#40

When you’re feeling down, smile at yourself in the mirror for a full minute.

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