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50 People Who Had Someone Else’s Back Online And Did It In The Most Wholesome Way (New Pics)
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It can be satisfying to see a niche thing you love – a book, a band, an artist – become popular in the mainstream. Yet it can also be upsetting. You root for their success for so long, but once everybody knows about them, it doesn't feel as special. That's gatekeeping, the grown-up cousin of "You can't sit with us."
But there is a community that doesn't gatekeep: the Gates Open, Come In subreddit. It's where people invite each other to like and enjoy stuff others might tell them is inappropriate or uncool, and generally have each other's backs. Like the kids say these days, "In the clurb, we all fam."
Bored Panda got in touch with one of the community's moderators, u/Merari01, and they kindly agreed to tell us more about the subreddit. Read our short chat with them below!
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#1
If Anybody Has A Problem With That I'm Going To Let It Go
u/Merari01 told us that the theme of the subreddit drew them to become one of the moderators for the community. "The internet can be a negative place, full of angry people and content, which in some form makes people feel excluded," they told us via a message. "This subreddit is positive, inclusive, and shows a welcoming atmosphere."
The Redditor believes that people want their feeds to have more positivity. "Having a space that is explicitly inclusionary resonates with a lot of them," the netizen added. While moderating the subreddit's comment section can sometimes be challenging when members get into petty arguments, u/Merari01 is pretty happy with the job overall. "It's a fun space to be in, so, it's not a real challenge."
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#3
Dogs And Cats My Favorite Animals
We can gatekeep many things: the recipe for our favorite pasta, where we bought our fabulous shoes, our favorite sports teams, and many other things. In 2022, Vogue actually chose "gatekeep" as the word of the year. What, according to them, used to mean institutions or people withholding power now means not sharing information or access to something.
On TikTok, not gatekeeping means sharing where you got that sweater from and how much your tickets to see Taylor Swift cost. But Vogue writes that this is slightly ironic: if anything, the app made information and the world itself more accessible than ever. "Want to find out where a media-only fashion party or sample sale preview is taking place? You can probably hunt down the invite on TikTok."
#4
Finally Someone Who Gets It!
#5
Happy Lunar Year Everyone
Robert Trebor 1 year ago
Someone with authority setting an example for self-styled dictators. Bravo.
Licensed psychologist and lecturer on the psychology of metal and punk rock Steve Byrne explains that social psychologists have observed our tendency to divide into groups. We make friends with people who have similar interests and outlooks on life, and we align ourselves against those who are different.
Byrne points to the Robbers Cave experiment, carried out in the 1950s. In it, social psychologist Muzafer Sherif studied 22 boys who, during the experiment, divided themselves into in and out-groups. It reflected the most basic truth that we divide ourselves according to many things: political beliefs, likes and dislikes, and even for the benefit of our own social standing.
#7
Everything Turned Out Just Fine, Then
#9
Struggle Has No Inherent Value
Byrne writes that it's natural for us to see those who are different from us as a threat. Then we want to appear stronger, more sophisticated, and cooler in front of them. And that's where gatekeeping comes in. In essence, we gatekeep because we're insecure. Putting others down is one of the ways we cope with insecurities. "At least we're not as bad as them," we comfort ourselves.
#10
Literally The Gate Was Open
#11
Mentally Empathetic Dad
#12
Brooklyn Librarians Subverting Censorship & Allowing Any Teenager In America To Have A Library Card
Mochi 1 year ago
In my town there's a new library with a room with access to free wifi, coding programs, a 3-d printer, and of course e-books, books, C-ds, and audiobooks. There's also a genealogy center so you can trace your heritage and a teen room with games and crafts. There's also private study rooms, and conference rooms, and there's classes for everything imaginable. And it's all free with a library card!
Perhaps now more than ever, division into insiders and outsiders is hurting us all around the world. Byrne suggests that some political leaders thrive on sowing division with the "us against them" mentality. In reality, there must be very little that's actually different about us.
#13
What An Adorable Man Doing Such A Lovely Thing ❤️😍🥰
quentariel 1 year ago
Amigurumi in this size and complexity takes a lot of time. This man is not only thoughtful and kind but also really skilled.
#14
It Got A Little Aggressive, But I Like The Message
MicrowaveGoddess 1 year ago
I'm Indian and 100% approve of this message. Culture is something to be shared, no kept exclusive.
#15
For The Waiters
Julia Mckinney 1 year ago
The above reason plus I used to work the same type of jobs and know how hard it can be.
"Those who are seemingly kept out by these gatekeepers might be seeing the gate as some hulking castle drawbridge, sealed up tight and ready to defend a kingdom against marauders when it’s really just a broken garden fence, easily stepped over," Byrne writes.
#16
Just Let Them Be They
#17
Stress Relief
Kise Miarse 1 year ago
I really thought that as a grown a*s adult I wouldn't encounter this so much anymore. LET PEOPLE LIKE THINGS. It doesn't mean it has to become your obsession - you can still enjoy something just for what it is.
#18
Friendly Incentive
Interestingly, some people see gatekeeping as a good thing. In an article for The Cut, Ann Friedman suggests that some communities gatekeep to preserve their culture. She writes about Anthony Bourdain worrying about sending tourist masses to mom-and-pop restaurants, as well as Black creators feeling conflicted when white creators use their aesthetics, language, and memes and calling it appropriation.
#19
Every Job Is Valid!
Beak Hookage 1 year ago
I went to an expensive private school and can tell you for a fact that quite a few of the other kids ultimately went to trade school instead of university. And are now gainfully employed. (Ironically, I got three degrees and am currently... not employed).
#20
Shout Out To The Solo Eaters
HighNMightyBigshotBossOfWorld 1 year ago
I don’t understand how people don’t do what they want to do because they don’t have someone to do it with. They lose so much.
#21
Emotional Rollercoaster! (Pls Remove If Posted Before)
Kare Deter 1 year ago
So sad that annoying neighbor is missing, but just look at my rose bushes! They're gorgeous this year!
Kelly Elizabeth Wright, a lexicographer with the American Dialect Society, explained that gatekeeping in this context gives minorities back that little bit of power they lose in this age of vast media consumption. "You could be making a piece of content that is for other Black people or for your community, but then it's public or it gets algorithmically exposed. There is less control in the way social media is surfaced and served to people."
#22
Luke Skywalker Makes Young Star Wars Fan Feel Loved
#23
Depression Gateopening
Sergy Yeltsen 1 year ago
People at work wouldn't think I have MDD. It's easy to hide while others are around. It's when I'm home by myself that it comes to the fore. This is a perception that needs to change.
#24
That's His Whole Thing
Sirena Bergman writes for Business Insider that the boom in tourism in Hawaii during the pandemic caused native Hawaiians and Pacific Islanders to "gatekeep" the state. The natives talked about the rise of COVID-19 cases and the environmental impacts of tourism and asked people not to travel there, but still faced backlash.
#25
You're Not A Machine. You're Garden
#26
Moms,,,/-
Pandemonium 1 year ago
I would have been able to finish the butter if they hadn't ganged up on me
#27
You Don't Have To Be Good At Something To Enjoy Doing It
Kise Miarse 1 year ago
I need more upvotes to give. When I was younger, so many things I enjoyed were ruined by other people's negative reactions. We're not all born being perfect at everything. Let others enjoy. Let them learn. Don't be a d*ck.
That's how "gatebreaking" came to TikTok, the opposite of gatekeeping. The idea is that there should be no barriers to information, expertise, places, or knowledge. But Bergman observes that there's more nuance to this problem. While being against gatekeeping is, in essence, standing against inequality, it's alright for some people to sometimes stay on the fringes of certain spaces.
#28
Pls Info Dump On Me I Love It
Kise Miarse 1 year ago
I always start off so excited to share my nerd sh*t and then get self-conscious that nobody probably wants to hear it and I don't want to be "that guy" so I taper off. It makes me sad though.
#29
Slow Down
#30
Drink What You Like!!!
However, in most cases, the old cliche "sharing is caring" might just be true. Sharing information, access, knowledge, and just genuinely having each other's backs. If this wholesome list is right up your alley, Pandas, check out the previous ones that we've done about the "Gates Open, Come On In" community here and here!
#31
Words To Live By
Glen Ellyn 1 year ago
"Be kinder than necessary. Everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."
#32
Good Parentin
Glen Ellyn 1 year ago
Oops. I first read it as "There is a family next to me at the stove." My thought was, I hope it's your family! 🤭🤦🏻♀️ Now that I've confessed my reading blunder, this kid has a great dad!
#33
Definitely Mercedes! Wait...what?
#35
Sh*tter’s Open!
Libstak 1 year ago (edited)
I've never understood the toilet issues. I mean if you have male and female guests in your home they all use the one bathroom and nobody blinks. Nobody checks their friends and family for proper hygiene eitquette in some questionnaire or some c**p before they come either, they are literally unknown in their toilet habits and everybody is just okay. So wtf with the outrage everywhere else?
#36
Found My Weekend Plans
#37
Really Behind You
#38
I'm Sure Many Of Us Needed To Hear This
Donkey boi 1 year ago
My lane is supporting all of youse on the internet and wasting the trolls' time, when I get a little spare time. Because I simply don't have the time (and truthfully, often can't be arsed) to be "active".
#39
As Someone Who's Gone For 6 Years, It Really Does Make A Difference
Susie Elle 1 year ago
Waiting for my ADHD/depression/whatever it is diagnosis (or no diagnosis, perhaps) :) Due to insane waiting lists I'm only due october next year, but I guess that's something.
#41
Sometimes You Win Sometimes You Learn
#42
Another Good One From Tumblr
#43
All Fans Welcome
#45
Japan/America Cultural Exchange
#46
Something Wholesome From Facebook
#47
Do You, No Matter What!
#48
Women Wearing What They Like In Peace
Donkey boi 1 year ago
A unicorn onesie would be pretty awesome. I wonder if they do them in my size?
#49
Gay Body Shaming Is Real
#50
A Wheelchair Accessible Swing At A Public Park
Huddo's sister 1 year ago (edited)
That's gotta be the least secure wheelchair swing I've seen though...We have had wheelchair swings where I live since before my older brother died (2002) so I've seen a lot. I do like they also have the other adapted accessible swing next to it though, those are less common.
#51
Soup And Bread, Mate
#52
Ice Cream
QijianSanek 1 year ago
B-but I'm non binary and DONT like ice cream * cries in doesn't exist * /j
#53
At The Minnesota United Game Last Night
Shelli Aderman 1 year ago
Beautiful sign! (Although I’d be a tad píssed off to be sitting BEHIND it! 🤣)
#54
Life Is Short: Play Nintendo
Donkey boi 1 year ago
'How sad is it...' Ask the people that use puppets to represent themselves. But I bet they thought that those puppets are really cool and didn't care what anyone else thought... You see how easy it is guys, right?
#55
Some Comfort
#56
You Are Still Valid No Matter What
Tiny Dancer 1 year ago
Been bi for as long as I can recall. Told my Mum in my 20s and she was cool. "As long as you're happy!". I'm 60 now (female) and lost my (male) partner of 24 years just last year. Met up with my Mum a few months ago after getting a haircut and colouring it dark purple. "Oh, so you're all GAY now, are you? Between the hair and that rainbow pin, you're just begging for a woman!" I had to remind her that I'm still the purple in that rainbow and didn't change because I was with a man for two decades.
#57
And A Good Wisdom It Is
#58
This New Train Station Has Baby Changing Stations In Both Restrooms
#59
Paper Books Are Great
#60
Just Like The Pied Piper LED Rats Through The Streets... 🎵🎵
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 1 year ago
I dragged my mum into Star Trek in exactly this manner. Now she LOVES it, and I love watching it with her :)
#61
You’re Such A Girl
#62
Restroom Sign At My Gym
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 1 year ago
I would love to run into Batman in a public loo! Wait, that doesn't sound right does it? O_o
#63
Metallica Invites Y’all To Come On In
Gavin Johnson 1 year ago
Gatekeeping has no place in life. You only like Nothing Else Matters? Cool, that’s one more than the next person along. Only just heard of Metallica? Man, you’ve got an amazing rollercoaster of a ride ahead of you, tell me how it goes and welcome to the club!
#64
Super Mario Chess Has No Time For Gender Stereotypes
#65
All Love Is Good ♥️
#67
Nsp Holding The Gate Open
#68
Life Is Much Better Offline
#70
Sharing A Love Of Music Does Not Have To Be Limited By Genre
Gavin Johnson 1 year ago
I’m a music obsessed individual, I’m a vinyl lover, I’m a huge fan of live music, I’m normally to be found immersed in something noise related, I listen to all sorts of genres, variety is the spice of my life.. My partner loves music but she’s limited by her illness to listening to small chunks of music or she’ll end up getting totally overstimulated and that’ll slay her, she’s more interested in mainstream music. We share a love of music but we approach it from different directions and in very different quantities. There’s no wrong way to love music.
#71
With All The Brouhaha About Whether Marvel Movies Are True Cinema, Here's Steven Spielberg's Take:
#73
You Are One Of Us Now
Robert Trebor 1 year ago
Only code I ever wrote was in 1973 on the Univac 1219. An Admiral was impressed and pleased. Can I still say that?
#74
Star Wars Is For All
#75
I Found This Lifesaver Gummies Packaging Very Wholesome :)
#76
The Country "Georgia" 🇬🇪 Or The State Of "Georgia" 🇺🇲?
#77
November Reminders
Pandamonium Pandas Pandie 1 year ago
how I want to spend my time: Spend time with my family and make sure the last thing I say to them is I love u bc I never know if I'm gonna come home from school and find that their not there.
#78
Testing Your Fluency
#80
People Only Like You Because
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago
All my friends are a******s, lmao. But it’s a friendly assholery. S calls everyone short. K pokes people. I insult everyone as creatively as possible. And then we play D&D. It’s great.
#81
This One Has Been A Long Time Coming
#82
No Gates In Gaming
_-DungeonKeeper-_ 1 year ago
Mobile games are still games they're just more simple and more microtransactions
#83
A Surprise, To Be Sure, But A Welcome One
#85
Xbox With The Wholesomeness
#86
No Gatekeeping Here, Kings
#87
Don’t Let Anyone Make You Feel Bad For Feeling Bad. These Are Big Things And It’s Normal To Be Upset
#88
Wholesome Avatar Meme
QijianSanek 1 year ago
I joined the fnaf fandom just after ruin came out so I get this energy a lot
#89
Wholesome Venom
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
Or perhaps tell him that he is still a good person even if he can't bench 10 pounds.
#90
Anyone Can Appreciate Kind Words ❤️
#91
People Who Know How To Sew But Don't Call Themselves Girls Are Also Valid, We Love You Too :)
ColdSteelRonin 1 year ago
Had to sew the pocket of my coat this morning after it got caught on a gate arm and tore
#93
Found This And New It Fit Here
#95
🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷
#96
(They’re Both Sports Cars)
Igor914624 1 year ago
Being the owner of a sportscar that is the bottom end model of a prestigious brand, I appreciate this.
#97
Just Tell People Their Shirts Are Cool!!
Gavin Johnson 1 year ago
Yeah, he’s an utter scumbag, zero positivity from using him in memes.
#98
Old Players 🤝 New Players
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago
I remember I joined a little bit before the World of Color update. It’s so amazing how far it’s come!
#99
Narcissistic Survivors Have My Heart
TruthoftheHeart 1 year ago (edited)
They all were great until this garbage last one. This one just sounds like somebody who is narcissistic and abusive who wants to not be called out anymore. And then they're going to turn around and usually abuse their own family.
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Not-a-Clue (she/her) 1 year ago
THIS is what BP used to be all about. Really positive. More, please.
Kylie Chapman 12 months ago
Is feeling hemochromatoicy the appropropriate term for the not being able to access more meme’s about inclusion because they’re now caught behind a Paywall? Is there another more appropriate term for too much irony? Or do we just now use the term “Panderish?”
Makenzie McNeal 11 months ago
I love how this has 50 items and only the 50th one is cut off. lol.
Kare Deter 12 months ago
BP WTAF!?!?! Unless I subscribe I have no access to MY OWN FREAKING POSTS or responses to them once you cut the original post from 99 to 50? On top of everything else, you don't DESERVE anyone's money for stealing material, repackaging it and calling it "writing". UTTER BS. Your ADS support your service stop being such twatwaffles.
Forrest Hobbs 12 months ago
Chill, dude. You can see your own posts (albeit not in context) by looking at your user page. Meanwhile - well, you say BP doesn't deserve any money for providing this small service for us? And then go on to say that BP gets "support" (that is, money) from advertising? Do you not see a small inconsistency? Everything costs money. Posting a comment here on BP costs money - paid by BP, mostly from ad revenue. Just - hey, chill a bit?
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Not-a-Clue (she/her) 1 year ago
THIS is what BP used to be all about. Really positive. More, please.
Kylie Chapman 12 months ago
Is feeling hemochromatoicy the appropropriate term for the not being able to access more meme’s about inclusion because they’re now caught behind a Paywall? Is there another more appropriate term for too much irony? Or do we just now use the term “Panderish?”
Makenzie McNeal 11 months ago
I love how this has 50 items and only the 50th one is cut off. lol.
Kare Deter 12 months ago
BP WTAF!?!?! Unless I subscribe I have no access to MY OWN FREAKING POSTS or responses to them once you cut the original post from 99 to 50? On top of everything else, you don't DESERVE anyone's money for stealing material, repackaging it and calling it "writing". UTTER BS. Your ADS support your service stop being such twatwaffles.
Forrest Hobbs 12 months ago
Chill, dude. You can see your own posts (albeit not in context) by looking at your user page. Meanwhile - well, you say BP doesn't deserve any money for providing this small service for us? And then go on to say that BP gets "support" (that is, money) from advertising? Do you not see a small inconsistency? Everything costs money. Posting a comment here on BP costs money - paid by BP, mostly from ad revenue. Just - hey, chill a bit?
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