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“It Is Nasty, Stop”: Women Share 50 Things Men Do That Are Total Turn-Offs
Interview With Expert
I have a friend who recently entered the dating game after being in a long term relationship for more than ten years. The stories this woman has told me are wild. From a man accusing her of catfishing him for not disclosing her race, to another expecting her to foot the entire bill and drive him home - on the first date. She’s seen and heard a lot. It appears she’s not alone. According to this Reddit thread, there’s no shortage of men behaving badly but believing they aren't. Redditor RedemptionKingu racked up thousands of comments when they asked Women of Reddit: What's one thing men do that they think is attractive, but actually isn't?
The OP told Bored Panda they'd seen the question before directed at men. "I wanted to see what the answers would be like when I switch the genders," they said. "There were lots of answers like 'being an alpha male' which didn't surprise me, but some stories and anecdotes were interesting and surprising." Keep scrolling for some of the worst things a man can do when trying to impress a woman. And don't miss the chat we had with dating coach Blaine Anderson about how to improve your game.
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#1
Support Trump (or any other politician who thinks they have authority over women's bodies).
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
The only people who have authority over women's bodies are the women.
Blah Blah Blah 1 year ago
Narrow that down even more... the woman whose body it is is the only woman who can made decisions for their own body.
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BeesEelsAndPups 1 year ago
"Danged" is the most Texan thing I've ever seen used by anyone not in a Looney Toons.
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Alexia 1 year ago (edited)
People often forget the lesson of history. Search for "Children of the Decree" on youtube; it's a documentary about the effects of banning abortions in communist Romania, and the countless tragedies that came out of it. !!Warning: it's disturbing and upsetting.
iseefractals 1 year ago
Oh it's much more f****d up and stupid than that. It's not only that abortions were banned, and contraception limited, it's that the government made it illegal for romanian children to be adopted by anyone living outside of romania.
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Id row 1 year ago
I can't be bothered to deal with idiots who support that bloated sack of rancid cr@p.
Melody 1 year ago
I mean, there are female Trump supporters, too, and women are actually frequently leaders in the pro-life movement. This is a bad example.
General Anaesthesia 1 year ago
It's not pro-life. It's anti-choice, pro subjugation of women to flaccid old men's will.
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Chelsea McKee 1 year ago
Or apparently set up fake charities and not spend the money in it's designated area, JD Vance.
Philly Bob Squires 1 year ago
Trumpers on masking and vaccines: "My BoDy My ChOiCe" On women's bodies: "Hol' up now..." Wankers.
If you pull your smoothest move, thinking it’s going to help you score. But all you get is a sigh of disgust. The problem might lie with you, my friend. Blaine Anderson is a dating coach and founder of "Dating By Blaine". Anderson recently did a survey of more than 2,000 American women to find out what they considered "creepy." Here’s what she discovered...
The number one creepiest thing you can do to a woman is stare at them. More than half of the respondents told Anderson they’d experienced intense, creepy staring in the past 12 months. To be fair, some men might not even realize they’re doing something wrong. For them, Anderson has this advice: commit to what she calls the ‘two look max’ rule. Basically, it’s normal to look at someone that crosses your path. And it’s normal to sometimes give them a second glance. But that’s exactly it. A glance. Which means a look that lasts less than five seconds. And don’t do it more than twice.
Anderson agreed to speak to Bored Panda and give some advice to the men who think they're cool when they are in fact, ice cold. We began by asking her what things men do that they might think are attractive but really aren't.
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#2
I can’t stand when a man looks at you and does like a little licking his lips thing that just grosses me out. You’re not sexy. It is nasty. stop.
bob12 1 year ago
wait now i'm scared. i offhandedly lick my lips sometimes because they're dry
Bartlet for World Domination 1 year ago
They're dry because you do that. Don't look anyone in the eye while doing it :)
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DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
The one that gets me is when they do this and also the hand rubbing...like what??!
Jasmijn 1 year ago
Or when they do the smirk and chin rub thing, which I can only assume has been adopted from shaving adverts when the guy rubs his now baby smooth chin.
Aelin Wildfire 1 year ago
I (a woman) started doing that when I'm thinking just because I thought it was funny, and the habit stuck.
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I burst out laughing when I saw that. Fortunately, it only happened once. It was so absurd. I actually felt bad for the guy.
“Many guys incorrectly assume that talking about money — particularly boasting about how much money they make — attracts women, when it's actually a huge turn-off to anyone but extreme gold diggers,” Anderson told Bored Panda. “Talking about money is a turn-off because the underlying psychology is approval-seeking. If a woman senses you're trying to wow her with your finances, all it actually tells her is that you're not on her level.”
Anderson is now happily married. But admits she had her fair share of “braggy” men during her dating days. “I've had multiple guys try to tell me how much they make on first dates. Super cringe. A guy once invited me on an expensive Europe trip on a first date,” she said.
The dating coach added that men should pay close attention to the cues they get from women. “If you're meeting a woman for the first time, the key signs she's not attracted to you all have to do with how much attention she pays you. If she's not making an effort to engage with you in conversation, and especially if she's turning away from you or physically moving away from you, it's a sign she's not attracted to you.”
"The way you turn the situation around is by moving on. You probably can't change a woman's mind about you — at least in the short term — but you can always find someone else you're attracted to who will give you a shot!"
#3
Talking about how sore i'm gonna be the next day. Some guys for some reason think they're doing sex the best when they're hurting their partner (outside of consensual kinks), and I don't think that's attractive or good.
BeesEelsAndPups 1 year ago
At my age, I'm going to be sore tomorrow regardless of what I do the night before.
Doctor Strange 1 year ago
I mean, it Might be acceptable, if the date is something like taking her rock climbing or hiking or kayaking. Still a little bit odd, but if she is into excercise maybe it would be an ok conversation?
Ace 1 year ago
Bragging about staying power, not being err, over-quick, what a stallion they are. Sure, give your partner pleasure, but there's a lot more to it than hammering away for hours and anyone thinking that this as a good thing is most likely very inexperienced.
Aelin Wildfire 1 year ago
When women talk about having a power tool in the bedroom, we don't mean a jackhammer; we mean a dremel.
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“The key mistake I see men make in dating is wishful thinking. Many guys, especially less experienced guys, will misinterpret friendliness for romantic interest,” she revealed. “So, the key red flag men need to look out for is unavailability. It doesn't matter how much a woman texts you, or how flirty she is when she texts. If she won't meet up with you in-person for dates, you're wasting your time.”
“Focus less on dating, and focus more on upleveling yourself. Once you get your life into a place where you're proud of yourself — because you're proud of your career, and you have real friends, and you're taking care of your health and fitness — dating tends to take care of itself,” advised Anderson. "Carve out a couple hours a week to spend time in places where women you like spend time, and start conversations! You don't have to ask anyone out, just be friendly, and you'll be surprised at how much you'll learn, and how much progress you'll make."
#4
When they aspire to be an "alpha male".
CalamityOne 1 year ago
I think the whole "alpha" thing has been disproven, anyway - IIRC the whole thing came about from somebody studying wolves in captivity that had been disconnected from "normal" wild wolf behavior and hierarchies for most if not all their lives. "Alphas" in the wild are actually the *female" leader/matriarch of the pack. Don't tell the romance writers, tho, or an entire genre of smutty fiction will go up in flames...
quentariel 1 year ago
No amount of facts can steal the omegaverse trope from fanfic writers. They are far from realistic, and every other writer invents some new rules to it anyway.
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Lavern Defazio 1 year ago (edited)
I'm sorry, but when I see or hear the term Alpha Male I think of gay porn.
Doctor Strange 1 year ago
Fun Fact: The whole 'alpha male' thing has been thoroughly debunked, even by the person who first proposed it. His conclusions were based on watching wolves in captivity, which is the equivalent of studying prison behavior. In the wild, the 'alphas' of the pack or the mother and father, and it is their responsibility to make sure that the pack is fed and happy. So the guy at the amusement park with the waistpack full of snacks, making sure his kids are having a good time and not dehydrated or cranky with hunger? That is the truest alpha male you will ever meet.
Anne Home 1 year ago
I wouldn't touch an alpha with a ten foot pole! That is the first test version with the most flaws, I will wait st least until beta testing is finished
Floeckchen 1 year ago
Alpha also means not fit for public release which I think is pretty fitting.
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#5
When they give advice I didn't ask for.
Chelsea McKee 1 year ago
I'm 32, older coworker starts talking to me about kids. I told him I don't have any and I'm not in a position to do so. He proceeded to tell me that of course I can and there is still time, all of this junk like I've never considered that before.
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Aleksandras Tvardauskas 1 year ago
Sometimes I as a man have the opposite problem. "Why didn't you tell me that I am doing it wrong?" I can hear my girlfriend saying. So if I see a disaster about to happen, I would rather step in and offer a word of advice than see her failing out of my fear being accused of mansplaining. Some people just lack the sense of tact to read the room properly and act accordingly.
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago
You should always do that. If you see something disastrous about to happen. That's not mansplaining, that is looking out for others. To me, mansplaining is when a man can't/won't/refuses to accept knowledge from a woman, or refuses to accept that a woman knows what she's doing because she's a woman, and therefore must explain it to the "poor, dumb, naive female." You keep helping people. That's a nice thing to do 🙂
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Lotekguy 1 year ago
It took an unfortunately long time to learn to ask if I can help, rather than just starting to do so.
James Campbell 1 year ago
I always ask if someone needs a hand. If the answer is a polite no thanks I appreciate it. People have their way of doing things that is comfortable for them. Trying to take over or help without asking is a big no-no. Respect in all its forms is what I aim for.
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AgingBull 1 year ago (edited)
Maybe you just didn't understand what mansplaining is, let me explain
Bilja M 1 year ago
Omg, went on first date with some man and he told me I am raising my daughter "wrong" (adult daughter who is almost completely independent and very smart and capable). Then he proceeded to tell me what he would do if he was in my situation. I never asked.
⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝ 1 year ago
"You're doing it the wrong way! You should do it as so and so." Why do you think I was doing it differently? Because I figured it would work. I don't have to do it exactly as the instructions say. If I find a better way for me to do whatever it is, I'm going to.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
Sometimes the advice is good and useful, but that doesn't happen in a dating situation but in everyday life.
#6
Put down other men to try and elevate their image to me. It does the opposite to their desired effect.
Richard Graham 1 year ago
See other comment in this thread "When they aspire to be an "alpha male'."
Nimitz 1 year ago
Putting people down is generally a douchebag thing, but it's astonishing how much of our social interactions are just people trying to invalidate others. "My pain is worse, my life is worse, my blank is blank." Honestly there are entire industries and political parties that are based around invalidating the struggle or suffering of others. That's why I love modern "woke" culture. People talk a lot of s**t about being judged, and even though it's not perfect, we are learning to give a single f**k about other peoples' problem, and I think that's an amazing and beautiful achievement for our society
Michael Largey 1 year ago
And this sometimes includes men who put down other men to show what a feminist they are. If a man really feels that women should be treated equally, he doesn't have to tell them. He'll already be doing it.
Anderson also suggests turning eye contact into conversation. If can’t you can’t stop staring, start speaking. Go over and introduce yourself. She says staring can be creepy because the starer's intentions are unknown. And adds that by introducing yourself in a friendly way, you can avoid problems, and make new connections. Here are some pick-up lines for when you need inspiration. And here are some some savage comebacks you might encounter if your flirting falls flat.
She had the following advice for women, "If a man is doing something that makes you uncomfortable, I'd recommend calling it out (assuming it's safe!) then moving on. So, for example, if a guy is sending you messages that feel creepy, it's OK to say something like, 'Hey, I'm sure you don't mean to make me feel this way, but I feel uncomfortable with this conversation. Please don't contact me again,' and then hit the block button."
#7
Wearing too much cologne, if I can smell you from across the room you're doing it wrong! It should act as a small enhancer of your natural smell, so that *if* someone does get close to you they won't have to hold their breath.
Rebekah Fuentes 1 year ago
This. So much. I know someone that wears so much it gives me a headache.
David 1 year ago
Same for women actually. There was one woman at a military facility I was training at who wore so much perfume you could track her down the hallway. Like when you reached a T you could tell which direction she went by the perfume cloud in the air. She was one of the few civilians there which I guess is why she could get away with it.
TotallyNOTAFox 1 year ago
Pfft, Pfft is enough - Pfft, Pfft, Pfft, Pfft, Pfft, Pfft, Pfft, Pfft is a no go
marianne eliza 1 year ago
And then there's the guys who use a scented shampoo, a scented deodorant, a scented aftershave, and a cologne. And none of the scents match! OMG!
Lavern Defazio 1 year ago (edited)
Avon's Skin so Soft. In the summertime!! In 115 degree heat. And some guys who bathe in cologne seem to like axe spray. I think that's what it's called.
CD Mills 1 year ago
I think a lot of guys fall into the "Axe Spray Trap" when they are teens. They don't take the time to shower and then they spray a cloud of Axe on themselves. Because they are nose blind to their own stench all they smell is their overpowered spray. Not realizing that all of the people who are NOT him are going to be smelling all of his rank BO and the far too-strong Axe cloud. Just shower guys.
Becky Samuel 1 year ago
Those of us who are sensitive to smells don't just suffer from this from those few. I don't think most people realise just how strong the smell is from the average person. Add together the scents from body wash, shampoo, conditioner, lotion, hair products, laundry detergent, fabric softener, etc and it's overwhelming. It's not good for us to be covered in these VOCs (volatile organic compounds) all the time, and nobody knows what the long term health effects are of having them on our skins and up our noses all the time are. I don't know if it's a coincidence that the rise in usage of these smelly products comes at the same time as a rise in allergies, asthma and autoimmune conditions, but I wouldn't be at all surprised.
#8
When they think they’re being a gentleman but actually being possessive/controlling : ex. Ordering food for you without asking what you like, being randomly aggressive to other men for supposedly “looking at my woman”, critiquing woman’s outfit to cover you up when you go outside cus he doesn’t like other men looking.
Putting down other women aka “you’re not like other girls/my exes”.
Little Wonder 1 year ago
"You're not like other girls". I can assure you, I am. I am like many other girls. Don't pretend it's a compliment, I'm not trashing other women.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
“You’re not like other girls/my exes.” "Not yet, but I'm starting to figure things out."
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
Biggest Red flag! Guys like that are insecure. When they start that BS,it's time for a girl to RUN FAST
Chelsea McKee 1 year ago
This one guy, who walked slower than I'd care for, would rush to open the car door for me, adding time to the travel. I tried explaining that I could open my own door, and already set the precedent that I wasn't interested. He'd blow a gasket over how that's what polite men do. Silly me, I thought it was listening to your friend/other party/ whatever.
June 8 months ago
There was this guy at my new job, he was friendly and also a gamer, so I invited him to play on my server with my friends. One day he dropped an aggressive "I don't care about your friends... blahblah". That was the end of it. Restrospectively he was a walking red flag, but I'm pretty bad with social cues 🤦♀️
Amy Hall Keenan 2 months ago
I had a guy who ordered for me while I was in the restroom, I asked him why???? He wouldn't tell me he , just trust me you will love it. Food came and was Salmon with Lobster cream sauce, I looked at him and let him know I have a seafood and shellfish allergy...asked the waiter to take it away. That was the 1st and last date :)
#9
Send unsolicited pics.
Bonesko 1 year ago (edited)
Why?! Why does this happen?! If you are thinking about sending a 🍆Pic, imagine that it's not a text or email, but rather in front of a person in real life. Would you think it's ok to just whip your 🍆 out in a bar? No? It's creepy? YES! Yes it is!
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
I never understood it either. Never met a single woman who is actually into it.
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Awkward Momma Panda 1 year ago
A rare slam dunk for whomever on the bored panda staff chose the pic to accompany this entry 🤘🏼😝🤘🏼
Little Wonder 1 year ago
I have found that if you reply with "awww it's so lil and cute!" they generally block you. Pro tip.
Ge Po 1 year ago
You know those stories we heard about creepy men in long raincoats with no pants on, flashing things to unsuspecting girls and women? That's the vibe you're giving off.
The Doom Song 1 year ago
Please don't send d**k pics unless you want all our friends to.see it
Charlie the Cat 1 year ago
Hey! Nothing wrong with a duck pic. I want all your friends to see my duck 🦆
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Insomniac 1 year ago
When he sends an unsolicited portrait of his shrivelled sack of skin and sadness, have a good Taco Bell binge, empty your bowels, take a pic, and send it back to him. 100 percent return on never having to see the shaft of disappointment again.
Nikki Gross 1 year ago
I laughed way to much at "shaft of disappointment" and I'm totally stealing that. 😂
Load More Replies...On the subject of messages... You think you’re being sexy sliding into someone’s DMs? There’s a good chance you aren’t. The second creepiest thing women reported in Anderson's survey was unwanted messaging from strangers on social media. 43% of all women and 48% of single women said they’d experienced creepy, unsolicited contact. Anderson says men should avoid doing this unless the woman has given them permission.
But, as you might have read, some love stories have actually begun in the DMs. Anderson says if you’re going to try it, make sure you have mutual friends, that her profile is easily discoverable and she’s using her real name (don’t be a stalker), and that you’ve met her in person and have a valid reason to follow up. No random small talk.
#10
Play mind games. The whole « treat her mean to keep her keen » thing is simply incredibly cruel and manipulative.
Damned_Cat 1 year ago
I was shocked recently to overhear my 16-year-old neighbor kid give this advice to his 14-year-old brother. And he called the younger boy's girlfriend a gold digger because she wanted him to buy her a $1 Slurpee. I laughed sarcastically and told the little one that his brother was full of hooey.
Liz The Biz 1 year ago
My ex-husband was a master at mind games. When I asked him why he kept doing this he replied, "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen." Erm, nope it didn't make me keen. It just made me feel humiliated, unwanted and wishing that i was with someone else.
M B 1 year ago (edited)
Glad to read "ex"...hope that AH doesn't hurt other women..(or men)
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Monique Pol 1 year ago
A lot of teenage boys do this 😡 I told my daughter that is not the way a girl or woman should be treated
quentariel 1 year ago
Sometimes the line between playful teasing and outright bullying is quite thin. Sometimes they can both be misunderstood for the other. Still if you truly like someone, you should know do they even like teasing in the first place. And dont be too forceful.
Chelsea McKee 1 year ago
I really hope more young women or those interested in men catch on to some male behavior. Not responding here and there is normal in a friendship, but to intentionally and regularly not respond with the intention of making you angry is not a good start to a healthy relationship.
Edward Treen 1 year ago
Girls "playing hard to get - to test your resolve" is also both dumb and manipulative. It's not limited to men.
#11
I care more that your car is clean and you drive it safely than the make and model.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
My car is clean and I have my dash cam as proof of my non-reckless driving...you might hear a swear or two though lol
Denise Indoung 1 year ago
Well, they never said they expected you to drive your car cleanly, so your good.
Load More Replies... Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
Joke's on you - my car's a rust bucket AND it's dirty inside. So there. (disclaimer: I have many animals, and my car is grubby because my most common passengers are my dogs and various horse-related supplies)
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
My car is a bicycle. I haven't driven a car in almost 20 years. I now have the ultimate "Buns of Steel" and endurance that can go on for hours. Does that sound more fun than Mr. Midlife Crisis and his Sporty Sportsmobil?
Aleksandras Tvardauskas 1 year ago
According to other entries in this post, bragging and putting down other men is not attractive, so I guess the answer to your question is a "no" ^^ In any case, thank you sir for not contributing to the destruction of the planet with your daily commutes :)
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Jess Smith 1 year ago
Much younger sibling won't - they're obsessed with cars, particularly identifying them. I mean, I am too, just with flags.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
You can bet my car is clean, that's my pride and joy. Only issue you might have is probably seeing red in the car (carpets match the exterior and some parts are covered in red cloth protectors, sorry not sorry XD). Don't get angry though, it's just a colour preference XP
#12
On Tinder I see a bunch of guys list “whiskey” as their only interest. Not even a sentence, just the single word. I think they think it makes them look sophisticated, but it just makes them look insufferable.
Lotekguy 1 year ago (edited)
If anyone lists "dry martini, shaken, not stirred " don't even pause to read the rest. Move to the next one immediately.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
No but without any other interest it seems safe to assume that it is a great part of his life.
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Hodge Elmwood 1 year ago
I grew up with an alcoholic father. If someone listed their one interest in life as "whiskey" I'd run the other way. I refuse to EVER live with or even be close to an alcoholic again.
Doctor Strange 1 year ago
I happen to enjoy whiskey, but it's not what I'd call an 'interest'. And certainly not a hobby.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
If that is a mans only interest I must assume that he is an alcoholic.
Steer clear of commenting on a woman’s body or her outfit, advises Anderson. The third most disturbing thing women reported was receiving a creepy comment disguised as a “compliment”. As Modusoperandi40 noted in the Reddit thread: “Giving sexual compliments or compliments about certain body parts when they first meet you. Thanks, but sir…you are still a stranger, that’s just making me uncomfortable. Can we get to know each other first?”
#13
Brag about how successful they are with women. It always comes across as desperate and not really believable.
PunnyPanda 1 year ago
Most bragging is born of insecurity... bragging just advertises it. Not an attractive feature for anyone.
David 1 year ago
Never understood that one either. The implication is "lots of sexual partners". But he's now talking to you. Which implies either 1. He's "DTF" and nothing more and moves on or 2. He has lots of failed relationships and now it's your turn. Either way, that would be a hard pass for me if I was a woman.
Cindy Brick 1 year ago
Once again, if you're bragging about 'being successful with women' -- you aren't.
Becca not Becky 1 year ago (edited)
Or the opposite, when they whine about not having success with women. Both are desperate and very "pick me."
Alicia M 1 year ago
Plus, it's disgusting. We're all adults and most people realize adults are going to have a past. When people are obsessed with talking about all their "conquests" it's tacky, uncalled for, and makes the person seem like that's the most important thing to them. Get to know someone first.
Angelshark 1 year ago
I find this particularly ridiculous because of the double standard. Men are expected to sleep with as many women as possible like it's some kind of Olympic event, but a women is expected to be chaste and 'virginal.' Yet she's also supposed to know what to do in bed like a porn star. It's not just a double standard it's a triple standard! Women can enjoy sex just as much as men do, and men need to get the f--- over it.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
I cannot believe that any man would brag about that to a date, or does such a man thinks that if you are interested you are willing to compete for him? That is downright dumb.
viimatar 1 year ago
Because some people always fall for the hoax - the first time. Rare are the persons who would be willing to test it for a second round? Or then it's a matter of scores, nevermind the actual outcome. I'm not sure if half of those numbers are actually real. I guess some of them might be - and that, of anything, is sad.
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Reckless driving with me in the car, especially when it's MY car. It's not showing off your skills, it's giving me an anxiety attack.
Being (repeatedly) ultra competitive with mundane things, especially when I say I don't want to compete.
Grabbing me when I'm in the middle of doing something, then just standing there, not helping.
Interpreting "being manly" as being unhygienic, and refusing to shower/groom because then it will wash off your "natural musk". No, you're a lazy f**k that smells.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
"Natural musk" from a guy to a guy...it ain't good...just go shower dude lol
Zoe's Mom 1 year ago
I picked up a guy once for a dinner date and he walked around to the driver side and said, "I'll drive". I told him no one drives my car unless it's an emergency. He walked right to the passenger side and got it without issue.' 1st and last time we went out.
Pandapoo 1 year ago
Oh, I probably would have ended the date right then. That’s creepy. And for the first few dates just meet somewhere so you have your own transportation.
Load More Replies... Lori Bartlett 1 year ago
Why would a woman let a man drive her car (unless she had a drink)? When my husband and I go out in my car, I always drive (unless I had a drink lol). And when we go out in his, he drives.
I need a nap. 1 year ago
I don’t understand what people’s obsessed with musk is. Musk, and being musky in of itself is just nasty. Also, do I even need to mention the guy with the last name “Musk”?
Tabitha 1 year ago
If you knew what the musk sac on a musk ox contained, you would never want to wear, or smell, musk again.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
Don't give your keys to a person like this! Weird to do it once, but why on earth would you let it happens a second time?
Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)
I avoid being competitive, and I'm much better at avoiding it than most people.
#15
Listen to Joe Rogan or Elon musk.
⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝ 1 year ago (edited)
I don't know who Joe Rogan is. Can someone please inform me? ((lol i got downvoted for asking a question)) (ah ok, seems like someone who doesn't know what he talks about and isn't a good dude. thanks yall for telling me)
Gale Christensen 1 year ago
He's a loud mouthed idiot who has a.. podacst or something? That needs to take a bottle of vallium and chill TF out. I think he and Trump have a thing going on TBH.
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Lavern Defazio 1 year ago (edited)
I confused this guy with alex jones. For the longest time I thought they were the same person. They both seem unnecessarily loud and fanatical.
Ben Aziza 1 year ago
Alex seems insane even by the standards of warhammer 40K. So absurd i think it is a persona. A very bad one at that. But the hate against joe rogan on this website is unexplained for now.
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Ben Aziza 1 year ago (edited)
Yeh that thing needs to be locked up. Actual trafficking (allegations) and inciting treating women like cows. Just for the last one he needs to be locked up.
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Ronald Robin 1 year ago
Not even. Joe Rogan has some really interesting podcasts with interesting people.
Mistyam got over 5,000 upvotes for their reply: “Send unsolicited d*ck pics.” And redditors jumped in with what their perfect response to receiving one of “those”. “Just reply with ‘Aw, he is so small and cute!’ wrote SoThrowawayy0. While werewere-kokako quipped, “What are we supposed to say? ‘You have the conversational skills of a brick but, wow, your unwashed, slightly crooked penis has won me over. The banana for scale is an inspired touch. Take me; I’m yours.’" Bored Panda has this advice: Just don’t do it. If you do, you might just end up having this happen to you. You have been warned.
#16
Sleeping with as many women as they possibly can while demanding his future wife be a virgin.
Christopher Crockett 1 year ago
I would rather have a partner who knows what they’re doing, honestly.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
Insisting you wife be a virgin is like insisting your plumber be an apprentice. Absence of experience is not an advantage.
Aelin Wildfire 1 year ago
Or maybe - and this is just an opinion - but MAYBE you shouldn't be thinking about a partner in terms of someone who is performing a service for you OR as a tool used to perform that service.... Neither one is a compliment.
Load More Replies... Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
I always preferred older and more experienced women even when I was younger. Some men like women young, I like women in their 30s and 40s. I liked them when I was in my 20s and I like them in my 40s. One of my big turn ons is a woman who has it together more than me. A single mom who owns her own house? Now that's hot.
Julia Mckinney 1 year ago (edited)
I've got to toss in a long-standing, running family joke. I married an older man, his birthday is a whopping 9 weeks before mine (we've found that funny for almost 32 years now, also, we have a LOT of running jokes in our family).
Load More Replies... Beth Wheeler 1 year ago
Oh those creeps are just walking talking advertisements for a load of STD's and would be oh so surprised and mad when they get one. Guess what asswipe you are just another whore that's out screwing around.
Chelsea McKee 1 year ago (edited)
Right, so they can do what exactly? If they happen to be a virgin, fine. But to seek them out is a little strange. Especially when you're likely older with more experienced, there is a bit of delicacy involved that I doubt many people have.
#17
Unkind behavior. Things like negging, bragging, acting 'dominant'. That just tells me that you're an insecure, fake, and/or immoral person, which is a deal-breaker for me.
⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝ 1 year ago
Exactly. If you're yourself, I'd feel much more comfortable. Putting on an outer layer is just... No.
#18
Revving their engines. Immediately turns me into the Sahara.
Damned_Cat 1 year ago
And the older you are when you do it, the stupider you look. (I'm looking at you, 55-year-old across the street)
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
"LOOK! It's Mister Midlife Crisis and his Sporty Sportsmobil!"
Load More Replies... ⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝ 1 year ago
Or when it's one of those itty bitty hondas with the spoilers and race stripes that they spent WWAY too much money on just to have a weak peel-out around the curb.
Hodge Elmwood 1 year ago
I call that "compensating." I'm sure you imagine what he's compensating for.
Richard Ross 1 year ago
No one is impressed by a revving engine apart from the muppets that actually do it 😂😂😂
Game Guy 1 year ago
I had a neighbor a few years ago. Mid 20s with a straightpiped Audi A4. Absurdly loud, and he always revved it more when the 11 year old blonde girl was in her front yard. So, obnoxious and probably a pedophile. Not sad he's gone.
Load More Replies... Boredma andthensome 1 year ago
But this is a MALEthing to show dominance of the lesser cars and proving you are a alpha-male to all females in the vicinity. like the lions do with their cars in the sahara desert.
V 1 year ago
Ha, reminds me of the time a bunch of guys tried to show off by revving their engine at the lights next to me and my GFs. They ended up flooding their engine and stalling, lol. And ye, we did leave them stranded (this was pre cell phones and there were no other cars, or buildings around for a few miles).
Researchers surveyed 7,000 people between the ages of 18 and 65, to find out what men and women find attractive. They found that on a scale of 0-100, “On average, females rate age, education, intelligence, income, trust, and emotional connection around 9 to 14 points higher than males.” Most guys prioritized attractiveness and physical build when seeking out a mate.
"The key challenge most single women face dating is differentiating between guys who just want to hook up, versus guys who are serious partners," said Anderson. "Assuming you're looking for a long-term partner, then, the red flags you want to look for as a woman have to do with lack of effort and commitment. For example, if a guy only texts you after 9pm to 'hang out', that's an obvious and major red flag. Another red flag is if he's too pushy for physicality on your first or second date — it sends the message that's all he's interested in, and doesn't expect to be around for it later."
#19
Bragging how they haven’t cheated on you. Like they need a medal… dude, it’s the expected minimum.
Lotekguy 1 year ago
If he's bragging about that, there are two possible reasons: either it's new, improved behavior that he considers an achievement; or he's lying.
Bella 1 year ago
I was with a man for 7 years. He would always tell me, “I don’t cheat on you, I don’t beat you… what else do you want?” Stating that he is the epitome of a perfect partner, and that I should be grateful 🙄 the only time I was ever grateful was when I figured out that wasn’t appropriate, and left before I married
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Oversized pickups or extreme lift kits. Nothing says I'm insecure like taking up four parking spaces DAVE!
LB 1 year ago
But small doesn't rhyme with stick... *giggles in autistic*
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nottheactualphoto 1 year ago
I've never understood the appeal of the pickup truck as a daily driver here in suburbia. Sure, I need to haul stuff once in a while. When I do, I'll rent a truck. The other 364 days, I don't have to put up with it.
Alicia M 1 year ago
Just about everyone has these monstrosities today and they have totally killed driving for me. I have a CAR and plan on keeping my car, and I can't see anything on the road bc everyone has to feel like the king of the road while driving to Walmart for groceries. They are a menace. They are always SO SLOW, and take so much room to maneuver. Such impractical vehicles for a daily driver, but it just doesn't matter to some people. They're going have their truck!!
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
American pickup trucks are so inefficient. I love those little Kei Trucks they have in Japan. You can get one that has a bed as big as a Chevy Silverado but has the wheelbase of a Mini Cooper. The trick is cab-over construction. The bug hood and massive V-8 engine is a waste of space.
Karen Bryan 1 year ago
Along the same lines...truck nuts. I can't even believe they're a thing. But they are.
#21
Giving sexual compliments or compliments about certain body parts when they first meet you. Thanks, but sir…you are still a stranger, that’s just making me uncomfortable. Can we get to know each other first?
Alexia 1 year ago
Ugh, I had such an experience at a first (and only) date. We had met for like, one hour, and he suddenly grabbed my neck and tried to kiss me. It felt so rude and intrusive. "What did you expect from 33 y.o. guy who is looking for his soul mate?" he replied to my protests. I met him some years after. He was still looking for his "soul mate".
Fanstacia D 1 year ago (edited)
I still remember the day I—age 13, was out with my Dad at the McDonald’s. My Dad saw a younger woman walk by, then to my utter mortification he got up, walked over to her and whispered in her ear that she had a nice walk. She looked at him like he was a predator after that. My Dad, though, walked back with a spring in his step, happy he just gave her “a compliment”. He was completely oblivious that what he did was wrong, made me and stranger lady profoundly uncomfortable, and possibly if she had a male partner with her, a risk of getting a punch in the face. Menz… do not do this.
Doctor Strange 1 year ago
Guys, I'm no poet, but seriously learn a few romantic phrases. If you are going to compliment her looks, there are so many much more excellent compliments than 'nice T's" or "shake that a". Even if its something as simple as "you have beautiful eyes" or "I love your smile".
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago (edited)
Idk why you were downvoted. If someone compliments my eyes or smile, I think that's nice. 🤷♀️ As long as you can read the reaction & move forward from there appropriately, it's fine. If the person says "Thanks" and turns around or says "Thanks" and makes this face →😬. Keep walkiin'
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leendadll 1 year ago
I had a guy walk up to me with the opening line, "You have really great tits!" I noped out of the bar.
Alicia M 1 year ago
I had the same experience. Some random guy said they were absolutely perfect and tried to grab them. Insane they feel entitled to do that.
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Sarah 1 year ago
I learnt to stop it, full stop. 'You have beautiful eyes.' 'Thanks, I've had them since I was a baby.' Reframe the statement and change the direction. Its easier than upsetting someone you don't know well. You never know how they might turn.
Black Cat 1 year ago
I resent having to be polite to rude men because you can't trust he won't turn bat shot crazy and get violent cos you hurt his massive ego. So many nutters out there.
Load More Replies... Jasmijn 1 year ago
I don’t mind some compliments like “That’s a nice dress/you look great/I like how you’re wearing your hair”.
Anne Home 1 year ago
Yes! You may show that you notice the person and like what you see, when it is things they have chosen to do or wear. "That dress looks lovely on you" not "I like your dress because your boobs are inside it"
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Guys, provided you haven’t done any of the unattractive things listed here, you might stand a chance with the woman you’ve been eyeing. But how would you know? According to the Gentleman’s Journal, “If she’s standing in front of you, arms crossed and looking down at her shuffling shoes, then she’s probably not into you. There’ve been studies to suggest that women who are actually interested will make sure that they are open to your presence, not closed off and unwilling to engage.”
#22
Talk over people in a group and always try to be the loudest/most dominate person in conversation. It makes you look like a rude a*****e.
keyboardtek 1 year ago
I have found many software engineers to be that arrogant male with a superiority attitude as if he was the only one in the room with brains. The same with the person who thinks he has the superior humor. They never laugh at anyone else's humor but expect everyone to constantly laugh at their humor.
mandy the capibara 1 year ago
sometimes it can be a coping mechanism for social anxiety too though, weirdly enough. ( as in; overshouting your insecurities) doesn't make it right, of course.
⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝ 1 year ago
I'm naturally very loud, which is fine, but when you do it on purpose, NOPE.
Tom De Paul 8 months ago
Have any of you noticed that when the entire "Today" team gathers on the sofa they do this? They all just talk over each other. And keep talking. I find it rude and if I'm paying attention when it happens I change the channel.
#23
Brag about their fantasies of committing acts of violence against those who have wronged him or me. Like, when I hear that, I don’t think “wow, what a brave and honorable man”, I think “wow, he enjoys brutality too much for me to be comfortable with him.”.
Frances Pitchoune 1 year ago
I left a guy because he told me about killing a sheep with a baseball bat to make a barbecue. He told it as a very funny anecdote and how long it took him because the sheep let himself be carried away and did not defend himself. He had already cheated on me and I had forgiven him. But THIS: NO. I threw the contents of my drink in his face and left for good.
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
I once spread a malicious rumour that someone at work owned a fax machine in 2022. Brutal.
boone williams 1 year ago
There's an IBSC radio commercial, and I swear if a store clerk got on the loudspeaker to creep on my digestive issues to the entire store and give me unsolicited medical advice, I *would* hunt him down.
#24
Hating their wives. It’s not funny or cute.
Game Guy 1 year ago
I had a coworker once who absolutely did not hate his wife, but had somehow gotten the idea that cool men hate their wives so he went around complaining about her all the time, going as far as grousing that his vacation was going to suck because he had to take his wife with him. He never picked up on the rest of us giving him weird looks.
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Darnell Gregory 1 year ago
Shouldn't the turn off be that they Have a WIFE. Most men who joke about this don't hate their wives, just like most women who joke about this, don't hate their husbands. In either case, it's none of your business. Since these people are already married,
Anderson agrees. “If a woman you're flirting with moves into your intimate zone, there's a good chance she's sexually attracted to you… Think about it. She's placing you into her intimate zone by scooting into yours.” The dating coach says other good signs are if a woman repeatedly glances at you, or is happy around you and smiles often. Here are some other signs she might like you.
Have you ever been shut down by a woman when you thought you were being as smooth as Tennessee Whiskey? What creepy things do men do that you could totally live without? Let us know in the comments.
#25
Going to the gym is his entire personality.
Dan Flo 1 year ago
Doesnt that apply to every hobby/interest? Golfers, boatpeople, soccer fans?
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
I suppose it does, if that is the mans only interest.
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There is this horribly uncomfortable thing that some do when they meet you & shake your hand & then one of their fingers will tickle your palm. OMG. Please, for the love of all that is holy, stop that s**t.
Mason Kronol 1 year ago
Do guys still do that? I thought us ladies smacked that down in the 80´s
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
Only ever happened to me when it was gay men who wanted to sleep with me.
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hwatinternation 1 year ago
wtf is that? What's the idea behind that? "hey, hi, hello, nice to meet you (diddles your hand)"
Subaru645 1 year ago (edited)
Wow that is some 1970-80’s type sh!t…are they holding the eye gaze too?
Mumma Cass 1 year ago
They did this in the 90's too! It made the guy look greasy as
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Apatheist Account2 1 year ago
Had a colleague once who invariably bent his middle finger in when shaking hands then said "Excuse the wart...".
#27
“You’re not like other women”
Instant nope.
GhostlySnail (she/her) 1 year ago
What do you mean?? What did I do wrong?? *nervous snail-in-a-trench coat sweating*
Anna Drever 1 year ago
I think what we’d prefer is no comparison at all. Focus on the person and getting to know them instead.
Load More Replies... Vera Diblikova 1 year ago
Why will he be with you ane not with other woman? Bc he feels you special.The same like women, why be with man, who is same als others? It is love, to feel the guy or girl st special and perfect in your eyes.Why not tol tell it?
#28
Acting overly macho. Those that refuse to wash their butts because it makes them gay, the ones that hunt for sport, the ones that have to have the loudest and biggest trucks when they have absolutely no need for it, the ones that have to strut like a peacock to assert their dominance as alpha male. This is the fastest way for me to develop cob webs in my clam. I hate that and find it wildly unattractive.
I've met some men that are some of the toughest mofos sitting with my daughter in a friggin tutu, getting served tea, talking about how she wants to paint their nails and they're as at home doing that as they are sparring with someone. If they cook, clean, play princess, you name it, and are still at home in their sexuality, THAT is guaranteed to make me "wifey material" any day of the week. That is the way that gets my motor running on all gears. Whatever they want, I will give, within reason.
Ben Aziza 1 year ago
"Those that refuse to wash their butts because it makes them gay" ????? HUH is that real? Do these people exist? WHAT.
Gale Christensen 1 year ago
Yes it is PAINFULLY real. And YES wat too damn many of them exist!
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marianne eliza 1 year ago
They discovered that manipulating their nether region can feel good so that scared them into thinking they are closet gay. Because of the misinformation they hear from family and friends. Face it. We all like it!! Even if we won't admit it. Tickle your loved one.
Tom De Paul 8 months ago
Have any of you ever noticed that a**l tissue is exactly like the tissue found in lips, nipples, the glans of a p***s, and the lips of a v****a. It was literally built for pleasure and is supplied with an over abundance of nerve endings.
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XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago
Yes! I did not know this was a thing, but there have been multiple posts about in on BP, so I am beginning to suspect it's real.😨😱 I can't even wrap my mind around it. How does one clean their a*s after they've had a s**t? It's essentially the same thing. Are these guys just walking around with s**t caked cracks in fear that someone will check for a clean bum and pronounce them gay? It's a quick few swipes, no need to be playing about back there if it makes you feel uncomfortable, but ffs wash your a*s you dirty bastard!
Mumma Cass 1 year ago
*fastest way to cobwebs in my clam* oh my I almost laughed until I peed myself lol
Lavern Defazio 1 year ago
Who is this? Sounds like that SNL character that gets abducted by aliens all the time.
#29
Brag about how good they are at sex.
WalterWhiteSavannah 1 year ago
Fair. It took me longer than I'd like to admit before i realized that promising a woman the best 30 seconds of her life wasn't getting me anywhere...
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
Or at the very least better than average, at driving as well as sex.
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Anne Home 1 year ago
I had one of those once He said "just lie back and enjoy, I want to give you pleasure". I was young and thought maybe he likes to explore and figure people out. But noooo. He was at it fingers toungue and everything, but didn't hit _my_ spots. I tried to give him a hint, but he said Oh no, now I lost count and have to start this bit all over again. You do that, and I'll be in the living room, scrolling my phone and waiting for you to get to the interesting part
#30
Showing me pictures of the hot women they’ve dated.
Yeah this actually happened once.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
We live in a world where d**k pics are a thing. This isn't that weird.
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Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
If I'm showing you pictures, they're gonna be of my dogs or my horse.
Maru 8 months ago
Or telling you how many teachers (they were in college back then) will literally throw their panties at them, even married women, like... why tho? What's the reason? What do you need to achieve? That doesn't make me appreciate you one bit, do you want me to thank you for dating me? F**k off
Chelsea McKee 1 year ago
Lol! Male coworkers show me pictures of their little friends, I'm in my 30s and they're young. It's cute to watch! 😍
Pittsburgh rare 1 year ago
What are you on? No one's denying each other's past, but it is in EXTREMELY poor taste to show your ex's photos to a prospective date. Oh, and it kills all your chances, in case you want to rethink your strategy.
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Showing off their car while endangering both our lives, I don’t care how fast your car is slow the hell down I want to live.
Emma London 1 year ago
First I ask them to slow down, then I demand them to slow down, the third time is me getting out of the car.
Chelsea McKee 1 year ago
I'm precious cargo, please don't drive 85 in a 60. You thinking it's a "dreamworld" doesn't make this situation any less dangerous for me. In addition, most crash tests (and pharmaceutical research) are conducted on male bodies - not female. So the survival rate is likely lower for female passengers.
Dave Hinckley 1 year ago
For me, a car is a tool, to get you from place to place, preferably comfortable and with decent speakers.
#32
Making fun of people and laughing with their friends abt it.
⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝ 1 year ago
...... I do this, but not as much as I used to. I've gotten much better and hope to continue that.
DutchPanda 1 year ago
Good for you. It's hard to fight off bad habits. I hope you will succeed.
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CrunChewy McSandybutt 1 year ago
ugh. I used to do this back in the day. Not the best side of me.
Chelsea McKee 1 year ago
Similar vein, don't keep friends with somebody just to dis them later. If you hate Chet and everything he stands for, don't invite him to the BBQ! Just do the neighborly thing and wave.
Lavern Defazio 1 year ago
My friends and I do this about Trump all the time. What's the big deal?
Grape Walls of Ire 1 year ago
Hah, good point! I think everyone is allowed to ridicule that orange freak.
Load More Replies... Tom De Paul 8 months ago
Girls/women don't make fun of people? Then who bullied me in school? They don't do this in groups? Oh, I see: it only upsets you when a man does it, not when your BFFs do it. Hypocrite.
BS Detector 1 year ago
What about making fun of the guys driving big loud trucks, with Trump stickers, that yell sexist comments at women when they walk past?
Michael Danhauer 1 year ago
Ok... But some people are asking for it. And btw I'm fair game when I do something stupid in public too. Humor is fine even dark or quasi mean humor if you keep it private. Don't be hurting someone's feelings because those outrageous leggings along with a John Deere winter cap demand a comment lol.
Vera Diblikova 1 year ago
I have no friends here, but with MY frienda we have sometime good laugh about articles like this.
#33
Persistence to the degree it gets scary. If I don't like you and I say no and you ask me again, sure, I'll say no a second time and wave you off. But when you aggressively keep moving at me, physically following me, disbelieving me if I say I have a partner (regardless of whether or not I do)... nobody finds that s**t cute.Talking about screwing-up.
Going out on a date, it's understandable a man would want to make it seem like he has it all (or most of it) together, and this is the tack a lot of guys take. But when a man is down to earth and can talk about the mistakes he's made or errors he corrected with perspective, humility, and even humor, it really makes him stand out to me.
Someone who is relaxed and not afraid to screw-up a little bit is totally sexy, because it puts me at ease and makes me feel like I don't have to be super perfect either and that he is likely to be more adventurous and forgiving.
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago
Thank you! I have no idea why so many people are like "it's so gross & cringy when a man can't take 'No' for an answer" but are also like "The Notebook 😍 so romantic!" He f*****g stalkered her!
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Mauro Sanchez 1 year ago
this is confusing, some woman's in Facebook complain that men don't try harder after a "no", so what should be done try or not try after a no?
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
If a woman says "no," respect it. Any woman who wants you to chase after her and beg isn't worth it.
Load More Replies... Max Fox 1 year ago
I'm not certain when this idea took hold. If you read the ideal courtships until the early 20th century, men were expected to "court" a woman in whom he is interested, but only if the woman showed interest in being courted. It was always only the Villains who would continue to court a woman who had said that they weren't interested. The point of these was that the woman said "I will be with you if you do these things". If she said "I will never be with you", you dropped it and moved on. These that didn't were either the Villain or the Fool. I would guess that somebody read fantasies about "courtly love" and thought that they would work well in real life, and also ignoring the fact that Courtly Love never led to hanky-panky..
#34
Brag about how much money they make or what they own.
#35
I had one very attractive boyfriend who very much knew it and he would practically pose on the lounge waiting for compliments … it was so off putting
Plus he used my special moisturiser all the time (I only used it every now and then for special occasions) and when i finally used it again, it was almost run out… so I asked him and lied about it
I found him so unbelievably unattractive after getting to know him… he had pretty privilege for too long and it showed.
Natalia 1 year ago
The last man I dated was the most attractive and tallest of all of them, he was also the only one to cheat on me (not to mention she ended up pregnant!)
Load More Replies... Nimitz 1 year ago
Lmao. Growing up the youngest I always laughed at my sisters. They said "men are pigs" then only ever exclusively dated pretty dudes. Always flaming hot garbage. Never once a homely dude of quality
Tom De Paul 8 months ago
Not just your sisters! A lot of Bored Pandas too.
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#36
Excess muscle- think bodybuilding big. It’s not much. It’s like plastic surgery on women.
Shark Lady 1 year ago
You definitely want to avoid the ones that take steroids to achieve their look. Roid rage is a thing and you don't want to be around when they kick off.
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago
I think everyone has their own preferences when it comes to what they find attractive. I don't personally find overly muscled men to be my cup of tea, but I wouldn't call someone unattractive just because they were. Not all people who body build are jerks or ego maniacs. I've met many big, sweet guys in my lifetime, so I won't judge. You do you if it makes you fit & healthy, just stay away from the hormones & steroids. They may make you look good on the outside, but they do some really scary & irreparable things to your insides. Be kind to your body, it's the only one you've got.
Blue Bunny of Happiness 1 year ago
I always think if I threw myself at a very muscly bloke I’d bounce straight off him!
Victor Botha 1 year ago (edited)
I think bodybuilding is a very personal thing and a lot of people, male and female do it because they want to for themselves or because the compete, much like any sport. It's when the person thinks that their body is attractive to everyone they meet is when it becomes a problem.
Anne Home 1 year ago
Natural muscle is very nice, when they actually do something physical for other reasons than to build beefcake. When you isolate and train every muscle inividually ("today is triceps day"), you train that movement only, and not allround practical things like carry heavy grocery or twirl a toddler or anything else that requires the cooperations of many muscle groups in many body parts
quentariel 1 year ago
And they are usually very disproportionate, like huge arm and a stick legs.
Emma London 1 year ago
If a dude under 25 has huge muscles, it's probably tren. Stay away if you don't like people who act like beef cow.
Hodge Elmwood 1 year ago
I find those huge muscles on serious bodybuilders to be extremely unattractive. I'm sure that's not why they're doing it, but ughh.
#37
Not showing emotions. Let me know when you’re sad/upset/mad about something.
Daniela Lavanza 1 year ago (edited)
Not to be the devil's advocate but in the mean time, men are told by society to hide their feelings. More than once, I was told by friends and relatives that they feel like they're mocked of when they show their feelings to their female SO. It's sad but women have to take their part in making this change.
Tabitha 1 year ago
Goes along with communicating. I can NOT read your damned mind. If you want something, f*****g open your mouth and SAY it. Don’t expect me to “just know” you want it, then b***h when I don’t get it for you—-which could also happen when you ask, but that’s at least after you’ve actually TOLD me.
Blue Bunny of Happiness 1 year ago
Yep, men have feelings too! I ‘d far rather a partner who told me how they were feeling than me having to guess.
Abraham Clark 2 months ago
Nope sorry, this is the exact opposite of what we have observed from women, which is showing emotion TURNS YOU OFF. There is story after story of "I cried about my deceased father in front of her, and suddenly she went cold, and 1 month later we are broken up.
Jess Smith 1 year ago
But how can I when I don't know that I am? (It's a thing, it's called 'alexithymia'. It's quite unfair that it and poor interoception can and do go together.)
Haywood Jablome 1 year ago
Women want you to show emotions so they can weed out the sensitive types
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
I think we rather want to weed out the insensitive types.
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They think being mean/roasting a girl makes them attractive.
⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝ 1 year ago
It's not. It just shows how much of a self-entitled bee you are.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
How could they think that. Don't they themselves like people being kind to them?
TotallyNOTAFox 1 year ago (edited)
"I don't even know that you excist, therefore you want me!" - Two best friends play Persona 4, sarcastic
#39
B***hing about their ex. Unattractive and a huge red flag. (HUGE red flag for either gender.).
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
Well my last GF went full stalker and threatened to kill me. I think I have good reason to "b***h".
Anne Home 1 year ago
I wouldn't call that bitching, that sounds like trauma and should be mentioned to explain why you are reserved and sceptic to new people today. Hope you are okay now <3
Load More Replies... Hodge Elmwood 1 year ago
Especially when he claims all his exes were crazy. First, that's not remotely true. Second, if it was, I'd seriously doubt his ability to choose suitable partners.
#40
I’m really turned off by the guys who think of themselves as having “elite” taste in anything to the point where they like to state all of their opinions as if they’re objective facts—especially when these opinions always align with what is already critically acclaimed and not just their own unique tastes.
quentariel 1 year ago
In general, being unable to accept other peoples opinions or straight up facts is red flag. If it's an opinion thing, other people's opinions are just as valuable as yours.
General Anaesthesia 1 year ago
There's informed, thoughtful opinion and there's someone said it on the internet opinion.
Load More Replies... Chelsea McKee 1 year ago
Honestly. An appreciation for a certain brand or style is one thing - by all means share it with us and explain why you like it - but it ends there.
#41
Like in the barbie movie, "play guitar at you".
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
I could throw a cup of noodles and hit a guy playing a guitar on campus because they wanted to impress girls....don't think it really worked lol
Steinem Sukker Rumpe 1 year ago
It's how Charles Manson acquired his "groupies"
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I Hsien Amy Liu 1 year ago
I don't understand this one. What if a man genuinely wanted to play for you because that's what they're good at? Not in a way they're flirting with all the women, just you. Am i the only one who appreciates the effort?
Larry Smith 1 year ago
Thank you! I taught myself to play guitar 55 years ago. I have never played AT anyone. They usually ask me to play for them.
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SPQRBob 1 year ago
Everyone: "Seriously, would you *please* stop playing Wonderwall?" Raging Douchenozzle Guitar Player: "Maybe...."
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Don't even 1 year ago
That's why I play the ukulele. Hey ya just hits different on the uke lol
MandyMolaFizzyCola 1 year ago
That was the best line in the entire movie because we have ALL met/dated That Guy.
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 1 year ago
No guys, this doesn't mean the ones who legitimately play music and want to play a song for you. I love my partner's playing. It's that douchy guy that only knows a few bits of "Norwegian Wood" or that one sappy Joshua Radin song that really needs to stop. You know who you are! Stop it!👏. *shakes can of pennies at you*
Anne Home 1 year ago
I think it is when they only play to attract women, not because they just like to make music
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Des Williams 1 year ago
An ex of mine saw my guitar and played me a song from his old band. He played bass and didn't sing. It was incredibly painful to listen to and he ended up playing like 4 songs while I just sat there and cringed. Big time turn off
#42
Talking about other women who are texting them/want to date them/into them.
Shark Lady 1 year ago
My come back to that would be, "so why aren't you on a date with them". I hate being made to feel like a back up option or place holder.
#43
When men pursue a harem of women on socials and think we can’t see it. Super cringy and low vibe.
Anne Home 1 year ago
There was one screenshot that made the rounds some years ago, one guy texted all his girls at once, some Sappe version of "you are my one true love, you are unique, can't wait to see you again" -but his smart phone took created a group for him and them, and now they all could see and talk to each other
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
I really need an example to visualize this one because I don't get it.
#44
When men try to act tough or like their over someone/ something. It’s ok to be sad/cry/be affected by something emotionally. And no your not better than a waitress, garbage man, obese person, weak person, homeless person, ‘dumb’ person I could go on.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
I'm not an expert but I think persons would be more receptive if you showed some emotion.
Hill Branda 1 year ago
Exactly! Women want to know HOW you feel and WHAT you feel. Why would anyone want to be with a person who had no compassion?
Load More Replies... Shortstuff 1 year ago
My daughters ex told their son "boy's dont cry" after he jammed his fingers, then proceeded to call him a big baby. He was 3. 😡
Vera Diblikova 1 year ago
What about to like youxself? Lot of ppeople has a problem to like himself. How refreshing to meet sb normal. Sorry, normal is now a dirty word.
#45
S******g on my music/book/tv/movie taste
Talking s**t about other people to make themselves look better
Aggro for no reason or claiming someone disrespected them when they just had a different opinion or brought up something you did that hurt their feelings
Bragging about how much money they make. If I cared about money do you think I would have become a teacher? Like damn.
Negging. Once some random dude in the club asked me and my friend (who was an entirely different ethnicity) if we were sisters because we were both “so short” and then proceeded to say he only dates tall girls…I didn’t even try to initiate a conversation with you bro. You came over to us and immediately insulted us for no reason…and then asked for my number an hour later when we were leaving…he was like posted at the door looking for us or something because the club was super crowded and we ghosted him after saying we had to go to the bathroom.
Insisting I try something I already said no to.
Emma London 1 year ago
The "disrespected" thing is so weird, I have no personal cultural context to it at all. It's almost always more important for a whole situation to stay civil, rather than an individual starting a scene demanding "respect" for someone's real or perceived action towards them. You know that your demand for respect just make everyone else umcomfortable or even scared?
Raphapablap 1 year ago
Yeah I don't really have cultural/social reference for this. People thinking they are more important than they actually are? Respect should be earned not demanded surely.
Load More Replies... ⨺⃝ ~Just-A-Black-Cat-Lover~ ⨺⃝ 1 year ago
If you don't like what my taste in something is, boo-hoo. We have different opinions, as does everyone else, so what? Doesn't mean you have to be mean about it.
Hodge Elmwood 1 year ago
That last dude had some nerve to think every woman in there wanted to get with him. Overblown egos are so unattractive.
Peter Korsten 8 months ago
What on earth does 's******g' stand for? What exactly are you trying prove here, BP?
#46
Brag about the size of there package.. when who really cares….
Gale Christensen 1 year ago
It ain't the size of the boat man, it's the motion in the ocean, you feel me?
Traveling Lady Railfan 1 year ago
"Can you last longer than my AA batteries?".... No, I don't think so. I'm not impressed.
Victoria 1 year ago
Shania Twain was playing in my head as soon as I read your comment!
Load More Replies... Boris Long-Johnson 1 year ago
“People” do care. Just look on this page - guys a complete a**e, must have a “tiny package”. In the olympics folk banging on about “packages” https://m.economictimes.com/news/international/us/olympic-swimmer-jules-bouyer-already-viral-because-of-his-bulge-misses-out-on-diving-medal/amp_articleshow/112415856.cms . I’m not saying MOST women care or not but men constantly have sausage size rammed down their throats by the media and general language use. D1ckhead, a bit of a d1ck etc. I’m not saying that women have it easier BUT I don’t think many people would see a woman acting badly and say “she must have a c**t like a bucket”.
The Doom Song 1 year ago
"What's the biggest you've ever had?" A guy asked me this once and I laughed in his face
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
I've heard this one way more in my life than I would have liked...it should really be zero times.
Richard Graham 1 year ago
The great Jimmie Lunceford (look him up!) had a big hit with his recording of "It Ain't What You Got It's the Way That You Use It."
Robert Beveridge 1 year ago
I don't know, if the package contains a new computer chair I'm gonna be impressed since I need one...
#47
Bragging about how many girls they get. Most of the time they're making it up as well. Hell even as a straight guy hearing another guy brag about that sort of thing makes me think he sees women as sex objects rather than people.
Still DG 1 year ago
As a straight guy, I not only think they are lying, but I think they get dumped after one or two dates.
Raphapablap 1 year ago
One of my coworkers is like this, nearly in his 40s, it's something I get secondhand embarrassment from
Glen Ellyn 1 year ago
Exactly. They view them as objects, not people. No wonder they're still looking for a soulmate, and probably always will be.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
I almost hope there is no woman who has a soul to match his
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When guys try to show off money, when they ask for sexy pics/videos, when they send d pics, when they are mean to you or try to humble you aka negging, when they try to show off around certain women, All of those things are an instant turn off for me! None of that is attractive!!!
#49
When they brag about their accomplishments or about how "good" they are in bed 🚩🚩🚩.
Boredma andthensome 1 year ago
I am good in bed I have a blackbelt in sleeping and a masters in pillowfluffing
Robert R 1 year ago
If a woman finds a man really handsome: above list goes out the window and The guy can say or do whatever he wants
Multa Nocte 1 year ago
I hope you're joking about this, because this is BS.
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Sagging pants, licking lips a million times while talking.
quentariel 1 year ago
Licking lips might be a sign of being nervous too, and then I don't find it annoying at all if they are visibly shy.
Hodge Elmwood 1 year ago
Thank god the sagging pants style seems to be going out of fashion. I haven't seen nearly as many guys wearing them in the last year or so. It's a really stupid look, no one wants to see your underwear! I'm glad that trend is fading.
The stories shared within the Reddit thread reveal a lot about certain prevalent behaviors in dating that many women have experienced. It's crucial to identify when someone’s actions, particularly text messages, seem to shift unexpectedly.
For an eye-opening perspective on how quickly people can reveal their true selves over text, take a look at these rapid changes in behavior. They highlight how often people might not be as they initially seem.
#51
“You’re not like other girls.”
I probably like those girls more than I like you.
#52
Changing their voice to sound more like strong or alpha something like that lol.
Annik Perrot 1 year ago (edited)
OTH, finding your "true voice" can be a good thing. My community theater coach helped me find mine, because I sounded a bit too shrill on stage, and I found it very useful when teaching. It's à bit deeper, lower in the throat than my usual voice, and carries without forcing. But it's a technique you have to work on with a professional.
Shark Lady 1 year ago
Like when Quill tries to.make his voice really deep when he first meets Thor.
DutchPanda 1 year ago
You should have them try to keep that up for as long as they can and then laugh when they fail.
#53
Trying to show off or act like a tough guy. Being humble is so much more attractive.
Vera Diblikova 1 year ago
Be a prehistoric woman, I would like a man, who boast in a circle of co-huntsmen about his big prey, than the one humble and without one..
Load More Replies... #54
When they trying hard to act cool. Nah. I like when men are comfortable enough to show their vulnerability.
Lavern Defazio 1 year ago
I don't know. Elvis Presley was pretty good at it for me. Acting cool and being vulnerable.
#55
Act competitive with other men in front of you.
Willie D'Kay 1 year ago
Even if it's an actual competition, it's best to see good sportsmanship and kindness and respect to the other team during and after the competition. Women can imagine that same respect transferring over to them too.
Vera Diblikova 1 year ago
What is that censoring? I mean a male of hen, nothing dirty, How will you order "coq au vin"?
Load More Replies... #56
Some guy tried to impress me with his yellow mustang and then proceeded to speed in and out of traffic.
I don't care about cars , speeding terrified me
Never saw him again.
Nice dude just not my kind of dude.
Dannie Garcia 1 year ago
Stock v6/ ricer (yes like rice, not race) car dudes are the worst out there. Stickers don't make a car fast
#57
Reading every comment of this post and doing the exact opposite to become super attractive.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
Gladly I have not found one yet that applies to me, so that's been nice.
Vera Diblikova 1 year ago
Sorry for you lonesome. Don´t take these consults to much weight. Act about your will a do it spontaneously, not artifically.
Load More Replies... OpalFaerie92 1 month ago
That doesn't even make sense...self improvement is bad now? Seriously?
#58
Talk about going to the gym, tell me about their last workout…..if they talk money on a first conversation like “I drive this type of car” etc instantly I want to run for the hills.
#59
Just had yet another guy on the dating apps start talking about his d**k and asking me for pictures of my naked body. He then asked if I was excited and I told him "no."
He asked "why" and I said, "I like to meet in person and see if the chemistry is right" (because talking on the dating apps almost always just feels like I'm talking to the same person over and over again).
He said that he would be able to meet at around 8pm tonight and I said, without any heart whatsoever or belief that he would follow through, "Sure, I can meet at 8:00." Immediately after saying that, I predicted that he was going to end the conversation just to f**k me up and I was right. He tried to give me the slip but I'm so bored and over it that he only fooled himself.
Wash rinse repeat. The dating app scene is so stale at this point it's like watching reruns on TV.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
That really does sound tedious and hopeless. Hope we single people will have some luck and find someone great one day.
Insomniac 1 year ago
Best thing you can do for yourself is learn to love your own life.
Load More Replies... #60
Everything they do on their app profiles, including but not limited to:
* Pic of abs in the gym or bathroom mirror (extra demerits for face censored, or if all photos are these but in a variety of mirrors)
* Pic of the time they stood in proximity to a Tesla or large truck
* Pic of the big fish they caught (unless fishing is their actual livelihood which is at least interesting)
* Pic showing how many of their bros came to the sports bar with them to pose in sweaty button-up shirts.
* “Just ask”.
Ben Aziza 1 year ago
I dunno man this feels bitter. Let people enjoy body building... Let them enjoy fishing... Let them enjoy social events... Maybe those are their hobbies and they want people also interested in that? Look at it the other way. If a woman does this i would assume HEY she loves cars! Hey she loves fishing. Hey she loves working out! This is negative vs positive mentality thing. In my mind at least. Not not just in my mind the last one kind of reveals the negativity. I knew guys who hated on girls for posing with their friends... Why is that a bad thing? PEOPLE HAVE FRIENDS! This is the same thing with the genders reversed.
#61
Maybe this is a specifically Asian thing, but the staring.
BoredHouseKitty 1 year ago
Can anyone please explain? I'm (SE) Asian but I don't understand what kind of staring they mean.
Guess Undheit 1 year ago
This could go several ways. In many Asian countries, constant eye contact during conversations is considered rude or domineering, while to someone from North America and Europe, the lack of eye contact is seen as dishonesty. There are other aspects to it as well.
Load More Replies... #62
For me, those men who are too cheesy and too mushy. It doesn't mean that I hate to be treated with affection. and I'm looking for someone who treats me badly because "that means I'm more attracted to bad guys because I have some trauma" hahahahaha I mean those guys who are "hello baby", "my little doll", "my precious little girl", etc. and who also talk like babies, who say when I barely know them that they want to give me the moon and the stars.
I, the fool here writing, the only way you can win me over is with quality time, acts of service and meaningful gifts (which isn't the same as expensive), not with stupid nicknames, cliché promises and many sweet kisses.
Damned_Cat 1 year ago
I knew a guy that behaved that way because he was emulating his grandfather who had been happily, lovingly, married to his grandmother for over 50 years. He thought that this was the secret to keeping a woman. It's not, of course, but it was still kind of sweet.
What do you think ?
Ben Aziza 1 year ago (edited)
The last one about people not washing their butts... Ohh my god i didn't know that was a thing. Now i want the men in black to show up and flash me with their device...
Apatheist Account2 1 year ago
In case people don't know, this is a film reference, not a euphemism...
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Sally Moen 1 year ago
Nobody mentioned guys who keep glancing at my chest. Their eyes just keep flitting south, are they checking to make sure my boobs are still there? Almost as bad is when they only talk to my boobs and never even look up. I had a college professor who did this, ugh it was creepy, made me cross my arms on my chest alot.
Tabitha 1 year ago
Being treated as a life support using for a pair of boobs? Yes. Pretty sure there are men I dated who, to this day, could not tell you what color my eyes are. I married the only man who actually looked into my eyes on a consistent basis---without having to be prompted to do it---and always said they were beautiful, and were the one thing that attracted him to me the most.
Load More Replies... Damned_Cat 1 year ago
Talking about their mom all of the time. I mean in that mom buys their clothes, mom makes food a different way, mom does their taxes, mom knows you're on a date but she calls three times to tell you about a cute thing the dog did.
Bilja M 1 year ago
The ones that I skip on dating apps: 1. those who write in "about me" section: "Ask me what you need to know" 2. over 30 year, or worse, over 40 year old men who look for "cute girls". Nope! 3. men who look for "a girl to rock his world and change his life". Change your own life and rock your own world, it's not woman's job! It's not anyone's job but yours. 4. men who are looking for "fun, beautiful, quirky, always happy and playful girls ready for any adventure". We are not machines. We are not made to please you, we are humans!
Lyoness 1 year ago
JFC am I the only one noticing the number of men (I'm assuming based on user names) jumping up and down about double standards and how dare yous and mansplaining on this thread? It's about what women find unattractive, not what men think is attractive. By all means disagree guys, but telling us the things we aren't interested in are wrong is just stupid.
John Makie 8 months ago
Could we get a list of 50 things a woman does to turn off men? Quid pro quo
Ben Aziza 1 year ago (edited)
The last one about people not washing their butts... Ohh my god i didn't know that was a thing. Now i want the men in black to show up and flash me with their device...
Apatheist Account2 1 year ago
In case people don't know, this is a film reference, not a euphemism...
Load More Replies... Sally Moen 1 year ago
Nobody mentioned guys who keep glancing at my chest. Their eyes just keep flitting south, are they checking to make sure my boobs are still there? Almost as bad is when they only talk to my boobs and never even look up. I had a college professor who did this, ugh it was creepy, made me cross my arms on my chest alot.
Tabitha 1 year ago
Being treated as a life support using for a pair of boobs? Yes. Pretty sure there are men I dated who, to this day, could not tell you what color my eyes are. I married the only man who actually looked into my eyes on a consistent basis---without having to be prompted to do it---and always said they were beautiful, and were the one thing that attracted him to me the most.
Load More Replies... Damned_Cat 1 year ago
Talking about their mom all of the time. I mean in that mom buys their clothes, mom makes food a different way, mom does their taxes, mom knows you're on a date but she calls three times to tell you about a cute thing the dog did.
Bilja M 1 year ago
The ones that I skip on dating apps: 1. those who write in "about me" section: "Ask me what you need to know" 2. over 30 year, or worse, over 40 year old men who look for "cute girls". Nope! 3. men who look for "a girl to rock his world and change his life". Change your own life and rock your own world, it's not woman's job! It's not anyone's job but yours. 4. men who are looking for "fun, beautiful, quirky, always happy and playful girls ready for any adventure". We are not machines. We are not made to please you, we are humans!
Lyoness 1 year ago
JFC am I the only one noticing the number of men (I'm assuming based on user names) jumping up and down about double standards and how dare yous and mansplaining on this thread? It's about what women find unattractive, not what men think is attractive. By all means disagree guys, but telling us the things we aren't interested in are wrong is just stupid.
John Makie 8 months ago
Could we get a list of 50 things a woman does to turn off men? Quid pro quo
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