Not every person is suited for parenthood, and that’s okay. What isn’t acceptable is choosing to raise a child even with the apparent lack of ability and willingness to do better.
Today, we’re putting a spotlight on toxic mothers. You’ll see screenshots showing their blatant disrespect for boundaries and privacy. Some may have even risked their kids’ health and well-being. Be forewarned, as a few of these are disturbingly wrong.
We’ve picked out these posts from this subreddit to highlight some of their behavior. Hopefully, none of you went through similar ordeals as children. If you’re a mom, let these bad parenting examples be your reminder of what to avoid at all costs.
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The Emojis Are The Icing On The Cake
A Mother’s Love 💕
Absolutely Accurate
Minimizing a child’s feelings is a common toxic mom behavior. Some are guilty of telling their kids not to feel a certain way because it is wrong. According to Florida-based psychotherapist Dr. Tracy Hutchinson, this sends a message that feelings are better off suppressed.
In an article for CNBC, Dr. Hutchinson recommends asking children what they think would make them feel better. She says this trains them to manage their emotions independently at a young age.
Homeopathic Side Effects
You Can Do Everything Right And Still Fail
I Don't Have A Problem With Extended Nursing, But Omg Still Using Months?
And here I am where my age should be counted by decades instead of by years.. a five decade old guy.
It’s one thing to encourage your child to strive for excellence. Demanding perfection is when things can get problematic. Dr. Hutchinson says it could lead to confidence and self-esteem issues as they grow older.
“Build mental strength in your kids by making sure expectations are realistic,” she wrote. She adds that setbacks will only teach kids how to bounce back and hopefully lead them to success in the future.
More Essential Oil S**t
A Water Bottle
Couldn't Have Seen This Coming?
Growing up with a toxic mom can have a profound effect on a person. According to licensed psychotherapist Christine Scott-Hudson, the inability to trust oneself is one of the few manifestations.
In her interview with Bustle, she says this mainly happens to people who dealt with a gaslighting mother. As a result, they could suffer a lifetime struggle with self-doubt.
Baby Boy Can't Date
Please For The Love Of God Say Sike
I Asked About Learning Activities For My Toddler
The inability to maintain healthy relationships or a constant attraction to toxic individuals is another by-product of having a toxic mom. New Jersey-based therapist Vanessa Watson-Hill says it’s because emotionally unavailable mothers fail to model a healthy relationship for their children.
So How's Your Morning Going? ....i Thought Mine Was Bad Until I Read Hers, Damn
Discrimination!
Sex Ed Fail
Whether it’s about picking a major for college or choosing an ice cream flavor, indecisiveness isn’t always innate. Sometimes, a mother’s negative behavior could be a catalyst for developing such a trait.
That’s because moms greatly influence decision-making. According to research, those who’ve used psychological control as a primary parenting tactic may negatively impact their child’s sense of judgment when they reach their adolescent years.
I Wonder Why This Isn’t Working
"Monat Makes Me A Millionaire"
So Nice To Read Something Funny Where No Harm Is Done To Children
Tbf, with 14 they said if he wasn't out in the next 10 minutes they would do a C-section. That was my motivation.
People who grow up with toxic mothers carry that pain their entire life. This is the case for Randi Latzman, owner of the Surviving Mom blog. She created the site as an outlet for the abuse she endured. In one of her recent posts, she recalled the breaking point in their relationship.
She Has Quite A Burden To Bear
Bed Is Actually Going To Be On Fire Now!
Homeschool Group Comforting A Mom Who Never Taught Her 14 Year Old The Months Of The Year Or His Tables
If only there was a institution with professional people who educate your child for free...
As a formerly home educated person, please stop calling "un-schooling" homeschooling. Educating your child at home is a massive responsibility and requires a lot of patience, whereas "un-schooling" is deliberately setting up your child to fail. IMO it's abusive, and these kids are going to resent their parents for the rest of their lives.
95% of Homeschoolers are completely sane. There are lots of homeschooling curriculum packages you can buy that has everything you need and independent testing outside of the home. And they’re not all for religious nuts. I considered homeschooling but realized I didn’t have the personality to do it. I was amazed at the flexibility homeschoolers have. A woman I know took her kids to D.C. when they studied government. You can get an excellent education through homeschooling as long as you’re willing to put in the work for your kids. Unschooling is just lazy and idiotic.
Load More Replies...""I homeschool my kid for 7 years" and he has no idea about the alphabet, month and days," You are not homeschooling , you are raising a functional illiterate dunce and your child should be taken away from you!
Must be hard to home school your kids when you didn't make it past grade 6 yourself
Load More Replies...Governments really fail to protect kids over parents rights to use them as experiments for their insanity.
Real question: how is this even legal? Why are kids homeschooled? I understand it can be because of some medical conditiona and that is ok, but why homeschool kids who can go to regular school?
Some people don't want their children to get in touch with worldviews and believes that differ from what they hear and see at home. And that's very sad.
Load More Replies...I went back to the small University town I was born and raised in for a small concert recently. Our public school system was and still is considered one of the top performing but is also liberal because of the area. I’m glad to see they haven’t been affected by the book bans that surrounding communities have started to fall prey to. We learned a lot about all the wars, slavery, the Holocaust…history, current events, science art and the upcoming computer age was highly encouraged. Unfortunately students these days aren’t allowed to learn half of the things I did. My husband is 6 years older than me, from a more conservative school system and I’m still teaching him things he wasn’t taught in school that fascinates him. He’s a smart guy, just didn’t get the same education. Home schooling in the wrong hands is dangerous and now public schools are too.
We have great skilled, most competent teachers but they are used by Conservatives as political footballs for their own gain. In Trump's Project 25 manifesto, he and his party want to privatize EVERY public and government institution for the wealthiest investors. This would leave 99% of us out in the cold again just like black Americans, Latinos and poor white Americans were in the 1880s and early 1900's. Let's hear for the Koch brothers and their love children, the John Birch Society and The Heritage Foundation!!
It's almost as if professionals should handle education or something...
My sister-in-law home schools their kids. She decided to take a year off from home schooling them because she didn't feel like doing it. But didn't bother putting them in public school, or with some other home school kids, or doing any supplementary teaching either. So they are all behind and my 9 year old niece is just now learning how to read -_-
not being mean but your child will prob not succed in life, and it's cause of you. Monkey see monkey do, but expect the monkey who was m***********g stupid, just being fr gurly, caused the other monkey to be stupid against his own f****n will. So f**k you, and you know what, that's okay, gurly. You're fine. (Still f**k you and you're life tho!) <33333
When my oldest started 1st grade, the school system decided to move learning the alphabet to kindergarten. So an entire group of students entered second grade having never learned the alphabet unless they learned it at home. The following year the school system saw their mistake and moved it back to 1st grade which still did nothing to help that group of students. Schools in Virginia are the worst in the world
This has been on the Internet forever and these poor women were taken way out of context - their children are SEVERELY INTELLECTUALLY DISABLED which is why they are homeschooling to begin with (not everywhere even has the resources for kids like this). Do you seriously not realize that intellectually normal children would obviously have learned these things on their own by now, as most children know them before going to school at all?
Oh god!- I didn't need to think about the fact that my own country also has ignorant people like this in it...............to be clear- I mean the parents, bit the kids!
That’s not homeschooling. That’s “I don’t want to send them to school but I am also too lazy to actually teach them anything”
To be fair, they do need to prioritize learning the 200 species of animals that might kill them in their own home first Australia, you're beautiful but deadly
THIS! This is why we do standardized testing in the middle of the year to see how we’re doing and then again at the end of the year. BECAUSE I DON’T WANT TO BE THIS PARENT!! 😱
“On that fateful day, she told me she didn’t like me and wanted nothing to do with me. I felt like a knife was plunged into my heart,” Latzman wrote.
The author ultimately decided to break all contact after that argument. According to her, what hurt the most was her daughter’s broken relationship with her grandmother.
Found: Sister Of The Wicked Witch Of The West
*stares In Cps*
This Extreme Fear-Mongering Pisses Me Off So Much
Dealing with a toxic mom may feel like coming to a dead end. According to psychotherapist Brittany Boufard in the same Bustle interview, the parent in question may resort to the same cycle of denying your feelings and rejecting the idea of change.
When the worst happens, most experts recommend seeking professional help. A licensed therapist or doctor could mediate the conversation as a third party. As Watson-Hill points out, a professional could also help adults gain a better understanding, especially about developing healthy boundaries.
Really Sorry Your Baby Is A Baby
(Just trying to imagine a baby with big, baffled eyes, who can't even walk yet, using stubby, randomly waggling snot-glazed fingers to say "Give Food" in sign language)
Wtf
"Your Not A Real Mum Unless You Gave Vaginal Birth To It"
Being a mum has nothing to do with vaginal birth, c-sections, or even squeezing them out of your belly button. Being a mum is about love, wiping tears, wiping bottoms, wiping snot (there's a lot of wiping in the early days). It's about singing silly songs, and reading the same book to your child 100 times in a row. It's about being there, doing the mum-ing, teaching them, and helping them to grow up into kind, loving adults who care about fairness and equality.
Now, we want to hear from you, dear reader. Do you know someone who grew up with a toxic mother? How has it affected their life? And how are they coping? We’d love to know your thoughts in the comments!
Poor Baby
How Can I Be Needlessly Strict And Not Respect My Child's Bodily Autonomy But Make Him Not Hate Me Like I Hate My Mom For Doing The Same Thing?
From A Mom Group On Instagram. I Guess People Without Children Are Not Allowed To Be Tired
Yup, I'm childless and tired, of people like this dingbucket thinking childless people don't get tired. Here's to you too, dingbucket -_-
Spank Your Kid Because They Have Accidents, With Bonus Ignoring Medical Professionals
I would check to see if there is anything funny going on. Kids will do this when they are being abused to make themselves "unattractive". Of course it might be stress, too scared to ask to go to the toilet, or too distracted to realise she wants to go. Might also be a regression because there is a baby at home and they want similar attention. I think we can agree spanking is a no no.
The Mom Group I'm In Is A Goldmine For Crazy. I Posted About My 2 Year Old Asking For Privacy In The Bathroom And This Was A Comment I Got
Yes, Destroy Your Daughter’s Confidence. Jfc
We Don’t Use Chemicals So Going To Starve My 3 Week Old Baby
Screenshot Taken From A Dad Group I’m In
Commenting has been turned off for this post. I wonder why? #Sarcasm
F**k You And Your Privacy. I’m Gonna Show 53,000 People Your Picture And Tell Them You Got Your Period Today!
I’m Sure Her Daughter Appreciates Her Business Being Out There For All To See
"As I Have With All My Babies"
It’s Gross Karen. I’m Also Pretty Certain It’s Illegal To Feed Unsuspecting People Your Bodily Fluids
Ex-F***king-Scuse Me?! 🤯
Full Time Job? How Do You Work Full Time Selling Oils From Your Garage?
She Insisted Its Normal To Have Your Infant Fall Off A Bed A Few Times After People Started Getting On Her
Can falling off a bed, multiple times, as 5-8 mo cause autism? No. Downs syndrome? No. Cerebral palsy? No. Traumatic brain injury leading to paralysis, development delays, seizures, and/or death? YES!!
A Little Tylenol Should Do The Trick
Oh, right. because you have to pay for ambulances in america, right. (I'm assuming america because of the 911)
Common Core Is Definitely Part Of The Leftist Agenda
I pity the kid, probably won't even be able to count to 10 when others are already doing equations. All because of parents that shouldn't have been...
In A Why Did Your Toddler Tantrum Thread Mom Admits To Sending Her Son To School With No Shoes Or Clothes And Posts Them Completely Unrestrained In The Car
She Has An Online Dictionary! Doctors Beware!
Nothing wrong with wanting to be informed, I did too, I just wasn't an idiot and had my child vaccinated is all..
Totally Normal To Want To Record Your Underage Child In Their Bedroom And Bathroom
Surefire way to make sure her son wants nothing to do with her after he moves out.
Kids Don't Need Doctors! Also Doctors Won't Exist Soon?
When Will My Child Magically Learn To Read?
Leave A 17 Month Old Alone By Himself Because She Wants A Date Night And Doesn’t Want To Pay For A Sitter. Time To Call Cps…
15 And Pregnant.....again
Popped Up On My Newsfeed
“I’m Just Curious”
Generational Trauma Personified. It’s Now Too Intimate For Your Daughter To Cut Your Husbands Hair
My Kid's Dentist Told Me Skipping Antibiotics Will Be Really Painful For Her, So I'd Like To Go Ahead And Do That
Pretty sure your kid would love nothing more than to rip a chunk out of you with her chompers after making her go through that kind of pain. SMH!
No Fatties Allowed!
What In The Even F**k?? Poor Baby Was Born In Salty Dirty Water
You Don’t Need Either
Please Don’t Judge Xx
Do Babies Give Hickies?
OMG same! He also got Chlamydia from a public toilet seat and herpes from the chapstick he found on the bus! /s
I Wonder Why My Toddler Isn't Sleeping?
Maybe Don’t Leave The House If Perfectly Normal Human Behavior Bothers You?
Bet She Put Nuggets In The Oven After Posting This
Just Keep Your Baby Underwater Forever. They’ll Never Die
Say What?
I Feel Bad For Her Daughters
She Can’t Afford To Feed The Current Kid So Let’s Get Pregnant Again!
"Disappointing And Frustrating" Yikes
I Didn’t See This Here Yet. I Didn’t Get To See The Original Post Comments Before It Got Deleted
Used to be relatively common, the thought being that once they've had the disease they'll develop immunity and therefore you won't need to Worry about it any more. If only there was another way to get the same or better immunity without making them seriously ill in the first place...
Essential Oils Do It All!
I Honestly Can't Even Fully Comprehend What They're Trying To Say. I Just Know It Belongs Here
Why Bother Sending Them?
Piggy back. Back. As in a piggy back ride. To jump onto something already going. That irritates me more than it should.
Imagine Being So Out Of Touch
And they've got another one on the way. And people wonder why our society is falling apart...BECAUSE WE LET THE CLEVONS BREED!!!
Gotta Keep Those Toddlers Looking Sharp
Gay Satanic Clowns
This Felt Like It Fit Here
I'm Sure Pure Goats Milk Is The Answer To A Baby With Stomach Problems
Comments On A Post About Using The Owlet/Snuza
Everything electrical generates EMF (Electromagnetic fields). Radio stations, refrigerators, cars, lights, anything with batteries, even cell phones in airplane mode. Even your brain, unless you are dead. If you stay outside too long, electromagnetic radiation will kill your skin cells, because sunlight is electromagnetic radiation.
You Get What You Pay For
Some Girl Posted A Question Asking Pregnant Moms If They Thought They Have Or Have Had Covid-19
Finally Found One In The Wild. Almost 450 Comments Flaming Her
Detoxing Baby??
As Seen In A Chicken Raising Group Of All Places 🐓
Baby Is About 3 Months Old… (From A Due Date Group). Suffocate Or Strangle Or Burn? What’s Going To Happen First?
Apparently Tylenol Is Full Of Glitter 😂
What’s Worse? Raw Goat Milk Or Homemade Vitamin Drops…
Yes, There’s Live Fish In There. Confirmed In Her Comments. I Presume Her “Work From Home With 25% Travel” Is Her Essential Oils Conferences
Homemade Formula
Ummmmm
I'm sure people will be lining up to have an unknown child attend their wedding.
Good For You?
Note: you can always put the cleaners and all those on the higher shelves, and just leave paper towels, big pots, and other harmless items under the sink.
Where Can I Get My Kid Tattooed?
this is one isn't TOO crazy. I mean yeah 15 is kind of young for tattoos, but at the same time, my sister let her daughter get one when she was 16. The kid was going to try and get it anyway, so my sis just figured she'd rather have her go to a legit tattoo artist rather than whatever my niece would have been able to find by herself (her friends were talking about buying a tattoo kit online T.T). Sis said she can always get it removed later if she really regrets it, but now niece is 19 and has five more tats, so she doesn't regret it yet.....
Interesting Definition Of “Need”
Y.....yes???
Why is it here ? Cinnamon rolls are pretty harmless, but it is better to ask than to eat something dangerous. Would you also think it strange if she asked about sushi ?
The further down the list I read, the more I hoped that these were all some kind of elaborate spoof. Toxic just isn't the word for what some of them are doing, they should be locked up.
Calm down. Have a cookie. No, not that cookie, that moron put poop in it and sold it to her kids' friends at a discount because it's his birthday. ;) I think most of them should be locked up. Some in jail, some in a nut farm
Load More Replies...I have less than no faith in humanity but half of these cant be real.
I would have doubted this level of ignorance could be real if I hadn't seen the people testifying about why they wouldn't wear a mask during covid, get vaccinated, or why they are supporting trump.
Remember the nutjobs claiming the Covid magnetized them??
Load More Replies...The Bible says in James 5:14 that if you're sick, you're to go to the elders of the church for prayer and be anointed with oil in the name of the Lord. So I can imagine that when you go to the doctor, he/she would be dumbfounded because they couldn't find anything wrong.
Okay, I'm a little distressed about the ant-vax posts being at the top when so many of the others are so grossly flat-out child abuse.
antivaxxers kill other, immunocompromised, children who do get caught up on their vaccines? No idea though.
Load More Replies...The further down the list I read, the more I hoped that these were all some kind of elaborate spoof. Toxic just isn't the word for what some of them are doing, they should be locked up.
Calm down. Have a cookie. No, not that cookie, that moron put poop in it and sold it to her kids' friends at a discount because it's his birthday. ;) I think most of them should be locked up. Some in jail, some in a nut farm
Load More Replies...I have less than no faith in humanity but half of these cant be real.
I would have doubted this level of ignorance could be real if I hadn't seen the people testifying about why they wouldn't wear a mask during covid, get vaccinated, or why they are supporting trump.
Remember the nutjobs claiming the Covid magnetized them??
Load More Replies...The Bible says in James 5:14 that if you're sick, you're to go to the elders of the church for prayer and be anointed with oil in the name of the Lord. So I can imagine that when you go to the doctor, he/she would be dumbfounded because they couldn't find anything wrong.
Okay, I'm a little distressed about the ant-vax posts being at the top when so many of the others are so grossly flat-out child abuse.
antivaxxers kill other, immunocompromised, children who do get caught up on their vaccines? No idea though.
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