“What Screams ‘I’m A Bad Parent’?”: 50 People Hold Nothing Back

And so many pedos out there that do stuff while watching it

I... I can't even describe the insanity, not just from the parents online, but the people in the comments in the videos. These pop into my Facebook shorts all the time. (I guess FB thinks because of my age and that I'm a parent it's an interest.) But out of curiosity I like to see what's new in the baby caring world. Some of the videos are subtly but purposefully exploitative. Many of the people in the comments defend the video creator, and refuse to understand how dangerous it is to show certain things about babies online. If you warn the creators in the comments, the "fans" tell you you're the pervert for thinking of the babies that way. Meanwhile, that's not the case. Some of the videos are just showing babies sleeping on their stomachs with their bare bums in the air. The comments are like "That's how they get their vitamin D and prevent diaper rash." Okay, great. Why film them in that state and put it online for God knows who to see and download?

If i remember correctly i was watching shoeOnHead (a youtuber) she made a video about the topic of p*dos online. And under that video another was recommended to me from a youtuber i dont remember the name of... She also exposed a really vile fed up thing on tiktok... Parent who have bath and pool video of their kids... over and over on their channel. It was their main content... There is no other way to see it. They were pimping their children to inhuman freaks on tiktok...

Dumb

I was afraid of my father. Today was the first time in my life I stood up to him without fear. I turn 50 later this year.

My Dad was killed on May 21, we buried him on May 23 and my 7th birthday was May 24, 1984. He was incredibly violent when he was drunk and an very controlling hardass the rest of the time. It's sad that his dying might have been the best thing for our family. He always told Mom that if she ever took us and left then he would find her and kill all of us and anytime we tried to call the cops it just made things worse. He was 46 years old when he died and it's weird to think that I've now outlived him when I turned 47. I learned a lot of things about his life before he met Mom and that after what my Grandmother put him through that he never stood a chance. I do have some good memories of him, but he did some really bad things to my siblings and I so they absolutely hate him. My Mom was the best though and she was my best friend and it still tears me up that she's gone. I miss her more then I can ever say or explain how much she meant to me.

What a different attitude to when I grew up in Australia. The idea then was , in my family, that a "good" child was basically a terrified child. Regular beatings, threats and blamed for everything was the order of the day.

I grew up being afraid of my parents. My mom died 2 years ago (I was 54) and I don't know why but I am not sad or grieving. In fact, I do know why... It's your guess

I don't think this belongs here. Being abusive is considerably worse than simply bad parenting and should have its own category.

The new term is "parentification" where one of the kids is forced to raise the others.

Happened to me too- well, me and my oldest stepbrother. He resented it and I don't blame him. He was a genius. Like, literally. He tried, Lord knows he did- once he created a 'library' system with all the books he had and we would 'check them out' bc we could not go to an actual library- that was too much work for my dad. My stepmom worked her butt off as a vet tech, sometimes 6 days a week and on her one day off, we wanted to give her "me time" which literally just translated to her suntanning in the backyard. She finally was able to convince my dad to buy an above ground pool for all of us. She was a literal angel. She passed away in 2001. My older stepbrother (I was the only girl) ended up a doctor. I became an RN. Neither of us have a relationship with 'dad'.

I've seen this sort of happen to an old friend. I much later learned her mom was an alcoholic, which explains why her mom yelled and put her down so much. She had to do the bedtime routines for her 2 younger sisters, bathed them, brushed their hair, made sure they brushed their teeth, and entertain them during the day. Sometimes we were able to get out on our own, but her mom was not in a good mood when we would get back to her place. Her only respite was when she was over for sleepovers at my place.

And the younger ones don't feel 'parented', but as a second though.

That was me. My Dad left my Mom with 4 kids to raise, I was 8 and the baby was still in diapers. I became parentified right then. I was always pretty tidy, but now I was expected to mop floors and clean bathrooms. By the time I was 13 I was burned out. I told my Mom that I couldn't continue being her Nanny. I was in Speech & Debate, the Drama Club, the Soccer team and the cheer squad. She threw a fit, so I ran away. The cops picked me up and I got sent to juvie. I told my counselor the whole story and she was totally on my side. Now, don't misunderstand - I love my siblings, but I never got a childhood of my own. I ended up going to live with my Dad & stepmother in San Diego. Mom & I are fine now, but we really didn't talk much for a few years.

Kids are not trophies to be won in divorce. You had them as a couple, now you can share them as parents. Unless, of course, there's a serious issue where that's not a good idea.

My parents only ever involved me in an argument once. It was one of the scariest things in my life so far cuz it had gotten so intense.

I once worked in a divorce lawyers office and I saw what happened to the children. I cried every day for those kids and had to quit because it was too emotionally draining.

My ex has done this to my kid (13) his whole life. Coaching, mind games, suddenly handing me full custody from 50/50(coz he got caught coaching, he wanted full custody), then harassment via social services until they got wise to him. It makes me furious that I can't find a way to protect my child from the emotional harm. But we've had a good play therapist in the past, and good access to it currently since recent attempts were made by his father again. I wish he could let it go, or at least just attack me, and leave our kid out of it. I guess that's just what it's like dealing with narcissism and poor anger control. I wish I could protect my kid better.

I am sure that my parents never even considered divorce. Muder - often. But never divorce.

Women I have worked with who only identify themselves as a mom. Not even a working mom, just a mom. They usually get a kind of starry-eyed Madonna look when they say the word mom, as if they have an invisible halo and are beatified in the sight of the lord, or some such mystical nonsense. Every time I would point out to them that are so much more than that, they refuse to acknowledge it, and stick to the starry-eyed mom look. I guess their next one and only ID will be grandma. Nothing else. Kind of a one-dimensional caricature existence, instead of the multidimensional one women deserve.

My mom in a nutshell-- she forbade me from getting my license for years. I finally got it in my twenties.

Or not having a child to raise, but having a child to be a "friend" or fashion accessory.

From what I’ve seen, the children never truly become adults, so it’s a “win” for the parents?

I know a family like that. The mother does everything for her kids; father was powerless (if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy). Father passes, kids are 1 (older) minor, 1 YA. Neither know how to do basic vehicle maintenance, but drive their cars--can't even jump off a battery. Don't know how to do laundry or cook--mama does the laundry, they eat out a lot now because Daddy did a lot of the cooking when he was alive. Kids can't even mow the yard w/o getting the mower stuck in some form or fashion. Once had some cut wood to get rid of, they came to get --kid asks ME to load it up in the wheelbarrow...I'm abt 20 yrs OLDER than his mother! Told him to get the sibling & then I watched them act like it was a huge problem to figure out how to do it...mama's only doing them & the rest of the world a HUGE disservice. When she's gone, they are going to be so lost (no jobs either). I spend most of my time just shaking my head in disbelief...

Teach your child to be able to eat at a restaurant without needing to be entertained by a device.

Or, according to numerous Reddit posts, at weddings or funerals.

I truly don't understand how this has become the norm in recent years. I have a younger teen nephew who never uses his headphones until his mother reprimands him. It's a constant battle because he claims it's not cool to use to them. Like wtf?! Why?!

Teach your children that other people exist and you need to be respectful of them

Not surprising, seeing as there are plenty of adults who think it's fine to use your phone speaker in a restaurant/public transportation

Privacy is a right

Imho kids earn privacy about the time they complete potty training

That happened to a friend of mine when she was a kid. She's now so paranoid about privacy that she refuses to buy a smartphone.

Privacy is NOT a privilege. It’s a right

My parents took my door off because I wouldn’t stop slamming it for a month and it worked