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Successful couples understand and accept the fact that there will always be things they don't agree with or don't like about each other. And that's fine; nobody's perfect.

But many people don't share their every thought and feeling with their significant other, either.

In fact, according to an international study of 80,000 people carried out by Dr. Pepper Schwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington, secrets and lies are commonplace in relationships. 43 percent of men and 33 percent of women say they keep major secrets from their partners, as well as 27 percent of those who say they're in an "extremely happy relationship."

Interested in how these two aspects collide, Reddit user Familiar_Stranger936 made a post on the platform, asking everyone to share what they dislike about their significant other and don't tell them about it. As of today, the post has 9.8K comments, many of which illustrate the quirks and pet peeves that folks choose to keep to themselves.

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    #2

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them I once pushed in my husband’s hemorrhoid while we were out of town so we could enjoy our vacation. There’s nothing I hate about him that I wouldn’t tell him after that. ETA: thanks for the awards! To answer a few questions: 1. He tried to do it himself and failed. 2. He had gone to the pharmacy and gotten Preparation H cream and gloves, so I didn’t go in bare-handed (I’m not an animal, guys). 3. An internal hemorrhoid can be pushed back in; an external one cannot. 4. I wrote that answer and went to sleep pretty soon after, and he hasn’t killed me as of this morning, but that may change once he’s seen the upvotes lol.

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    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I clearly don't understand how hemorrhoids work and pray I never find out

    Getyourownhobby
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Upvoting and sitting back to watch the fallout!

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    #3

    That he’s not immortal. Selfish bastard.

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    Bell-icose
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m sorry for your loss.

    featherytoad
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I at least wanted to die before my husband. I guess that's selfish too, lol.

    Cassidy Moore
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not everyone can be as amazing as Ban

    #4

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them He’s really really bad at taking criticism. Really bad. And I can’t tell him this because feedback loop etc.

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    Alexandra
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How big should a red flag be before someone notices it?

    Madster
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    2 years ago

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    OMG same as my partner but the plus side is we don't argue as we don't call each other out on anything.

    #5

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them That they expect an apology for every hurt feeling, but almost never take accountability or apologize for their own actions when they hurt other people.

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    HelluvaHedgehogAlien
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Roses are red. Violets are blue. So many red flags. Especially for you

    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get out NOW - this will not get better.

    RxsesQuxxn
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Selfish people who don't understand the meaning of life.

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one requires a discussion. You won't be able to live with this over the long term.

    Nancy Lynch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My brother is like this.

    KingCobraKai
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like when abusers at like they're are the abused when someone tells them they're being abusive.

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    #6

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them His sneezing. He is allergic and can't help it. But he scream-sneezes every day, usually several times in a row, and I HATE loud sudden noises.

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    Water dog
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When my explosive sneeze is coming on I can't talk. I wave my hand towards my wife and should be covers her ears. We've decided we are a funny couple.

    SuperChicken
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. That's my husband and my sign, whenever a sneeze is about to come on. He says that my sneeze can wake-up the dead. lol

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    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My Mom used to work in an military base. My Father joked every time she sneezed everybody run to their battle stations.

    David Paterson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife and I, we each ask each other if we're OK when the other sneezes. My sneeze sounds like an explosion in a car factory. Her sneeze sounds like she's simultaneously drowning and choking to death.

    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol scream sneezes! Once I reached my 30s, if I sneeze once I will sneeze every time I try to swallow for 5 minutes. Record is 30 times. I avoid sneezing at all costs

    Lina Leo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know about the swallowing part but I am a fellow rapid fire sneezer, and my record is 27. I thought my eyes were gonna shoot outta my head.

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    Nae Nae BB
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you squeeze the bridge of your nose, really hard, just below your eyes it can stop a sneezing fit and even prevent the first sneeze if you feel it coming on. I've done this many times and it does work.

    Cassidy Moore
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to try and sneeze as quietly as possible, now I embrace the great feeling of a full blown dad sneeze. I feel so much better afterward.

    FABULOUS1
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother does this, its like the sneeze heard around the world.

    Lina Leo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad used to scream sneeze. You could hear him anywhere in the house and a big part of the property. He's been gone a year and a half now and would give anything to yell "bless you daddy" and hear "thanks babygirl" from some part of the house.

    Jenný Samúelsdóttir Herlufsen
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to bug my bf because he didnt HAVE TO yell when he sneezed, he could just do it quietly, like me! Then our daughter was born after 8y of relationship, when she was 3w old she sneez-yelled just like her daddy, and she still does. Then i finally believed him it was involuntary..

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    #7

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them She watches YouTube/Tik Tok videos on her phone and refuses to use headphones/earbuds. I hate it.

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    Biytemii
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg my husband does this is makes me crazy! I have to turn up the TV or game I'm playing just to combat it. When it's endless changing sounds like tiktok videos and stuff it should absolutely be in headphones when u are around other people.

    Raquel Mencke
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Endless changing sounds - a description that I fully relate to. I's like constantly changing channels on the tv or radio in the past.

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    Rostit. .
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wear the headphones in our family. well one of them. I need to have the other off so I can be ready when she starts talking to me out of the blue.

    Kevin Nelson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Holy hell my husband does this nightly and I swear it will be the reason I leave him. Its so inconsiderate...

    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope. The TV would go up to 100 speakers and ear drums be damned

    Marnie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who does this?! That's so rude.

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This demonstrates a lack of simple courtesy. A conversation is called for.

    Stardust she/her
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    2 years ago

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    Unless the volume is too loud or if you’re in public, I don’t get why you have to wear headphones

    RandomEpiBioPerson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you aren't the only one in the room, that is public enough to need headphones, unless the other person is ok with it, and/or can't hear it. If the other person actually does not care I'm the slightest, that's fine, but the default should be headphones when not alone. It's just polite. If someone wants to be treated well, and with consideration, they should do the same to others.

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    #8

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them My wife took singing lessons as a kid. She is certain that she has a great singing voice. She does not. It’s so hard to be in the same house when she’s singing but I love her dearly and would never ask her to stop.

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    Zoey Bear
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe give her some helium before she sings to change it up a bit? /jk

    Pandapoo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s the only time I can sing! Lol

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    Kangaroo Ratz
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I kind of feel bad for her. Imagine all her life people lied to her and said she had a great voice so now she believes it, pray that no one tells her (speaking from experience)

    Maisey Myles
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get her to watch the movie about and/or listen to Florence Foster Jenkins recordings . Maybe she’ll see herself

    geezeronthehill
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does she at least sing on pitch? If she does, encourage her to join a choral group and maybe get it out of her system.

    Slap Shot
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m an admitted terrible singer and my husband laughs when I do. We have such fun!

    Thomas Ewing
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like to sing, but I don't believe I have a recording-quality voice. My friends at church think I do, much to my dismay. It's very frustrating to not like your own voice and others insist I sing anyway. There are plenty of nice singers in the church and I feel awkward trying to blend in without squeaking, etc. I sing to not disappoint.

    Mrs. EW
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can’t be worse than my hubs monotone singing. At first it bothered me, being so melodic myself. But now I tell him to go on with his bad self, because I love seeing him happy in the moment.

    dandylilah
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad is like 53 and still doesn't know that he sucks at singing.

    Susan Cooke
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My family tell me I'm tone deaf. A singing teacher told me I'm not. Who do I believe?

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    #9

    You don’t have to talk to fill silence, sometimes you can just sit in peace, you will not die I promise.

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    #10

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them I don’t necessarily hate this about him, but he doesn’t like to just kiss/make out. He will do it before sexy times, but not for very long. I love showing affection and intimacy by just making out sometimes and not having it lead to anything. He had some trauma with it, so I can’t blame him at all. I just really wanna make out with him more!

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    Seb Benson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sounds like something which can be bridged over time. Or at least I hope so for OP & their partner.

    VioletHunter
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm wondering what kind of trauma a person could have about this.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex always equated sex with love. If I wasn't in the mood, it meant I didn't love him anymore. He was such a pig about sex - I'd be washing dishes and he'd come up behind me, start grinding on me and grabbing my boobs or just rubbing his hand between my legs. WHILE the kids were at the table doing their homework. What had once been a very pleasurable pastime turned into nothing more than a chore. After 12 years I was done. He was pressuring me (yet again) for sex the minute I got home from work & I basically shoved him so hard he fell down. He gets this pathetic look on his face and yells, "You don't love me anymore!" And it dawned on me, "You're absolutely right, Mike. I DON'T love you anymore and I want a divorce." He tried to backpedal, big time, but as soon as the words were out of my mouth, I knew them to be true.

    Lene
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know how this is. It's so so frustrating!

    Rostit. .
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope OP talks to him about this. Guys are kind of vapid unintentionally about this stuff. We need some instruction and direction. its beneficial for both of us.

    #11

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them She’s one of those people that walks too slow in the grocery store and stands there looking at s**t forever trying to decide what to get not aware that 2 other people right behind her trying to grab what she’s in front of and go

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    BrownTabby
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If that’s the worst thing she does, you’ve got yourself a catch!

    Spocks's Mom
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know this makes me a sucky person, but this is why I can't go shopping with my mom. It's just a recipe for a bad time. I can't stand shopping and am very focused on getting in and out in the fastest most painless way possible. Mom likes to look at EVERYTHING and will spend hours in one store that takes me 15 minutes to go through. Luckily, there are many other activities that we enjoy doing together and I try to have patience when we do find ourselves at a store and she has gotten better about knowing when I've had too much.

    Duane Wright
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My theory is that they know exactly what they are doing and it's a lame power play. I don't stay silent and I will ask them to move after waiting an acceptable time.

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a problem with the lack of courtesy to others. I have a friend who will stand on the left side of escalators while the people that want to walk up pile up behind him. Drives me crazy -- mostly because of the lack of situational awareness.

    Slap Shot
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let her shop alone for heaven’s sake.

    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband takes forever to get his a*s into the store but I b***h at him about it regularly

    Blue Pearl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That shows she’s a planner! Hold on tight to her!

    FABULOUS1
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If we go to a liquor store with a large selection of IPA's my wife will take forever selecting. Its freaking beer, pick one and lets go.

    Michael Braisher
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How dare you say beer is just beer!! Unless you live in the US, where I hear you poor sods just take the dishwater you are given.

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    #12

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them The way she pronounces the word "hamburger" makes me die inside. "ham BIRD gr"

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    SuperChicken
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry, I laughed so loudly at this.

    Mister E
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would like to buy a hambirdgr

    Joshua Seaman
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least she doesn't pronounce the "h" in cool whip 😅

    Zoey Bear
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What if it's a turkey birdger?

    Cathleen Wesemann
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Hamburglar may have just gotten overthrown. I love the hambirdgr! lol!

    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ruuuuuuuuuun! (in Pedro Pascal's voice)

    Rostit. .
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This sort of beef is ground for divorce.

    Timbob
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not near as bad as “ Hambugger “ !

    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband pronounces battery like "battree"

    Auntriarch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh dear, I thought everyone did. How do you say it?

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    #13

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them They have the diet of a 5 year old.

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    #14

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them they’re not very intellectual. he’s a sweet and caring guy and incredible otherwise but sometimes I get frustrated with our conversations and the lack of mental stimulation

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    Diolla
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was married to a man who was illiterate and 100% uneducated except for Koran school. My motto was "When I need intellectual stimulation I'll talk to my BFF". Because he was a good man and we loved each other. Nobody is the full package.

    kansasmagic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, "nobody is the full package" - but we are bombarded with the messages that "you can have it all," "don't settle for less than perfection," etc. I like your approach though! We should all be so lucky to have our "intimate companion" friend, our "intellectual stimulation" friend, our "sympathetic listener" friend, and so on.

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    kansasmagic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not a big "sharer," and my wife is. She processes things by talking them out, so our conversations tend to be pretty one-sided. A few months ago she even got mad at me for not being more conversational (that particular "conversation" was about *shoes*), then finally said "maybe I should just start accepting you for who you are"! We've been together 20 years.

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If everything else is present, find your intellectual stimulation elsewhere: work, club membership, volunteer activities.

    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shame on me, but while the issues above can be abridged with some love and communication imho, this one is really tough. Boredom and loneliness are not compatible with any kind of relationship.

    jdtimid123
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like this is a judging a fish for it's tree climbing abilities situation. He probably is "intellectual" about plenty of things, just not the ones op is "intellectual" about.

    Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My son. Very smart, early 20's answers most everything with "I don't know". Son, what did you do yesterday? I don't know. Where are you going? I don't know. What color is your car? I don't know. It drives me crazy.

    VioletHunter
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Try the approach some people recommend for children and instead say "You had fun yesterday" or "Your red car is so nice." A statement instead of a question basically that either needs to be confirmed or corrected.

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    I dont know, we are abnormally open about stuff like this to the point where it doesnt even matter anymore. We are both annoying and rude to each other and it comes out when we flirt. An outsider who doesnt know us or how we are would think that we are incredibly toxic until we start laughing about it. Ill pretend to complain about her snoring and she will say something like "good, i like it when you suffer because i dont like you". We will just randomly tell one another "you suck" or "you smell like the inside of my a*****e" and then laugh about it. Because im older than her she jokes about buying me one of those Life Alert bracelets because she isnt sure that i will make it through the night. I talk s**t about her cats. Love is really weird lol.

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    Jeevesssssss
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love this! My best friends are really rude to me and vice versa. When you get to that point where it's just funny it means you're totally, completely secure in your love for each other so no part of you even thinks to take it seriously. Good job!

    featherytoad
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband and I were like this. We were fantastic together. He would announce that he would have to take a Stacey, (take a $hit). He would make fun of my "spotty brain". I have MS and it sounds harsh but, we just had a really great sense of humor about things. I gave back as much as I took so, he didn't get off scot free. We often said "I hope I die before you because I will never find anyone this weird again."

    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'I talk s**t about her cats' LOL!

    Auntriarch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, this is me and Mr Auntriarch. And it's bloody good fun

    FloralDangerNoodle
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is totally my husband and me! I almost feel sorry for people who don't really know us, who think we're serious when we're playfully bickering. NOT.😅

    Silre (she/her)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband and I were just like this

    #16

    She's usually right. Damnit. Don't tell her I said that.

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    Rob(erta) Roy (They/Them)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hold up, did my partner write this? /j (he's right like 45% of the time)

    Heather Lambie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Remember these lyrics..." you were absolutely right You've been right all along You were absolutely right And I was wrong!! "

    Rostit. .
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my wife is always right. Even when I'm right she is right. I've found its easier to not be unalived in my sleep to think this way.

    #17

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them I hate how she’s a bad listener. Never wants to know about my day, never takes my advice, never wants to know what’s wrong with me.

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    Nae Nae BB
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder if this goes both ways with OP & their partner? 🤔

    Ron
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She's already checked out of that relationship. Find someone new.

    #18

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them That when a responsibility becomes too hard, he just doesn't do it and allows things to fester and become worse. Our storage that was lost, a tooth abscess that caused him intense pain I'm forcing him to deal with, and him not paying the registration on our car and it almost getting repossessed. I have no clue why he does this and I feel like I have to be his mother sometimes just to get him to be a responsible adult.

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    H G
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Inattentive adhd?

    The Starsong Princess
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or no need to worry because mommy will eventually clean up the mess.

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    Deborah B
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could be depression and/or ADHD. I have both, and adulting is hard. Even when I know what needs to be done, know I'm capable of doing it, and even want to do it, it can still be impossible to actually do whatever needs done. It's called executive disfunction.

    Bobby
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can look at a task that will only take 10 minutes all day some days. I just can't make myself get up and do it. Other days are fine

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    kansasmagic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with others that, yes, there is probably something like ADHD or depression contributing. However, I will also say (as someone with depression, who has dealt with it for *years*), at some point he has to be willing to work on it. Maybe that just means talking to a Dr and getting a Rx, but OP can't just run his life for him.

    Rostit. .
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah thats a mental health issue. ADHD or depression.

    Spocks's Mom
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Possibly depression mixed with a.d.d. I will do this too to an extent. Avoidance is my go to coping mechanism. I'm not this bad by any means, but I've let some truly stupid c**p go too long before finally taking care of it.

    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like mental illness to me.

    Jeevesssssss
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Executive dysfunction. I have it anyway as part of Asperger's but when my mood drops (bipolar disorder) it gets a LOT worse - one of my first symptoms is an inability to deal with my mail, for example.

    Lene
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hmm... is this woman dating my bf? 🤔

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Change the things you are each responsible for. Is there anything he stays on top of?

    Xiao Mao
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    2 years ago

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    He's a parasite.

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    #19

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them The sound he makes when he eats bagels. Not everything, just bagels, and he eats bagels every morning for breakfast. It’s disgusting.

    anon , RDNE Stock project Report

    Kathleen McGann
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to hate the sound of my ex-husband breathing. Not making a lot of noise breathing. Just breathing. Clearly indicating that I needed to leave before I stopped him.

    Spocks's Mom
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This shouldn't be funny, yet I giggled anyway. Probably nervous laughter now that I think of it.

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    A girl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have mild TMJ so my jaw clicks when I eat. We've discussed that this creeps him out but he says since eating is necessary and I'm not doing it on purpose, he can cope. His "thing" is what I call The Hammer of Thor where, while sleeping, he pulls his knees up and then they drop, hard, onto my legs. He's sleeping, he can't control it.

    Auntriarch
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go and brush your teeth while he's breakfasting

    Timbob
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They make a Bagel silencer, you know !

    #20

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them His snoring. It's not something he can necessarily control but he snores SO loud that it disrupts my sleep.

    BeatnikWoman , Kampus Production Report

    Kelly H. Wilder
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Possibly sleep apnea...a CPAP might help if so. It's worth seeing a doctor about because apnea can be fatal.

    Joshua Seaman
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My PAP machine completely eliminated my snoring(!) I know many of my partners would have appreciated me getting one sooner 😅

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    Settled for Infamy
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh how I feel this one. Currently have earplugs pushed halfway into brain and can still hear him. He says wake me, but is unwakeable due to sleepers. While I'm here, he lies about having given up smoking. He smokes very strong, self rolled tobacco and it wakes me it hurts my nose so much, if the snoring doesn't. I asked him to change brands and he says I'm imagining it 😔

    BarkingSquirell
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is absolutely no harm in sleeping in different rooms. It doesn't mean you never have to share a bed but, hey, you need to sleep!

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not a perfect solution, but sleep separately and share the bed when you're engaging in fun things that require you both to be awake.

    Papa
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My snoring caused my wife to move to another bedroom when our children moved out. I'm seeing my doctor later this week and will ask about having a sleep study done. I suspect I have sleep apnea.

    Brainmas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same. I try to do something that will alert him or cause him to roll over without waking him up too much, like bouncing the mattress, but sometimes I have to wake him up and tell him to prop his head up or something. It's not his fault, but I need sleep too!

    Timbob
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are MANY ways to control it !

    Silre (she/her)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You get used to it. I can no longer sleep in silence

    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The soft snoring I can deal with. The thunder clap right next to my head however, my partner no longer gets upset if I sleep in the spare room occasionally. Sometimes I just simply can't deal with snoring

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    FABULOUS1
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife says I snore but I say fake news.

    The Starsong Princess
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is something that he can control but he needs to seek treatment.

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    #21

    He tells me s**t I already know. For awhile I started saying "I already know that" or " I was right there remember" but after awhile of doing that he started acting so odd, almost unhappy, so I stopped. It's part of who he is, and that's okay. Annoying as f**k but but it is a very small % of the big picture. He started doing it last night and I imagined him being an actor and he's going over his lines. Helped me deal.

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    Steve Nelson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My grandpa used to say, "if you have heard this story before don't say anything. I want to hear myself tell it again."

    Alexej Dvorak
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My stepdad always tells the same stories wherever they fit in. Admittedly, it's not exactly the same as in the post, but I also have to say, they're always pretty good stories at heart, and he just loves telling them. So I stopped commenting on how he already told that story pretty quickly, and just let him have his happy moment of attention.

    Deborah B
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could you redirect into a conversation? "You're right, did you know/see/hear... {related fact}? I read recently [about that} - what do you think?" Or "I remember that! It is/was so funny/cute/frustrating/weird when/that ...... " Sometimes you can have a good conversation about shared knowledge, especially if you're willing to geek out about it together.

    Slap Shot
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What’s worse for me is when I say something profound my husband says he was just thinking that same thing. Really he’s a kind know it all.

    Rostit. .
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Our rule is you get to say it 3x before you get called out on it.

    RandomEpiBioPerson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It could also be a subject he likes and gets excited about, so he tells you about this thing, since he likes it and wants to share it with you. I know I do this with my partner sometimes. I've also told him the same thing multiple times, more than once, because it comes up and is a subject I get excited about (mostly a wide range of biology things). XD

    Display_Name
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It may be the sign of a mental health problem or maybe brain trauma. Mine tells me the same stories he's told me before but he has mental health problems and had a stroke early this year. So I always just sound and appear as interested as I was the first time.

    Papa
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I probably do that more than I should, but it's because I can't remember if she already knew, or if I already told her, or whether or not she was there when it happened.

    #22

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them He’s a bad kisser. I tried hard to communicate and help in the beginning of the relationship, but nothing worked or stuck. It’s been a lot of years. I gave up.

    lesliebNOPE , Dealakshmii Report

    Kathleen McGann
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How do you start a relationship with someone whose kisses you don't enjoy?

    François Bouzigues
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Edit for clarity. Imagine you date someone who is a terrible person, but the best kisser of your life. After you dump them, would you end all future relationships because of that ?

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    Realistic Optimist
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I question if he was actually listening/trying. If there was genuine engagement, great. But if this was him completely disregarding your needs via weaponized ignorance, not so great.

    Dane
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To those that say yea/nay on a relationship based solely on kissing - seems pretty shallow to me. A good person that enjoys the same hobbies you do, is a good breadwinner, is funny and intelligent and caring. Great in bed and great in the kitchen. But you would ditch them because of their kiss? Wow.

    kansasmagic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, apparently *something* stuck, if it has been a lot of years.

    BarkingSquirell
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THAT has no cure. Kissing a bad kisser is an instant romance-killer, for me.

    Thatkamloopsguy
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are either born that way or your not.

    Nae Nae BB
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't have my tonsils any longer no need to physically check with your tongue thanks

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    #23

    Heavy one incoming: I have never forgiven my partner for what he did during my nan's final days. We had been together for four years at that point and she died a slow, painful, confusing death thanks to stroke. The week of her death, while i'm still waist deep in grief (we were close) he chooses that moment to tell me he wasn't sure the relationship was working and he wanted to take some time out. We slept in seperate beds after that and I cried myself to sleep, alone, every night for days. The day of her funeral, he sat at the opposite end of the pew to me, listening to me sob. A few days later he comes to me and tells me he's still confused about where we're heading but he wants to keep trying. 9 years later, we're married, we have a daughter and a house and two dogs, I've nursed him through his own nan's passing, I've nursed him through his father's passing. I've always been there when he had to cry and I held him every time... And I have never forgotten. Or forgiven. I hate him for it. And I'll never tell him that.

    McStaken Report

    Fiona Corrigan
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You need to tell him. This is eating you up and you need to give him the opportunity to apologise. Tell him how it made you feel then and how you feel now and what you want from him. You then need to be aware he wasn't expecting this conversation so give him time to think about it and come back for another talk when you're both ready.

    Brainmas
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Choosing to marry someone who not only did a horrible thing like this, but who you seriously resent for it, is absolutely nuts.

    The Starsong Princess
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If something bad happens to you like your parent dies or you get seriously ill, he won’t be there for you.

    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing he felt 'neglected' when you were grieving. Selfish man-boy. Don't think this one will improve.

    LegendsNeverDIE
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aww im so sorry OP. That sounds really hard 😞

    Duane Wright
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why the heck did you stay with him?! He showed you who he was and you still married him. Wow.

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You had full disclosure. And you chose to marry him . . . .

    Auntriarch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tricky one this. He may have learned from you by now, I guess you'll find out when you lose a parent. But you do need to deal with your resentment, even if you don't end up telling him

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    #24

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them How indecisive she can be. We've talked and she's doing better. But it is extremely exhausting to plan nearly every single date/event/thing we do.

    nagol93 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm very indecisive, too. Or maybe I'm not?

    Zoey Bear
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mental illness will do that to you...

    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm good at big life altering decisions but if you ask me what I want for dinner.......

    iBlank
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've struggled with indecisiveness and have had the opposite problem with my partner. If I make a decision quickly and clearly state it, she will continue to list out other alternatives. Please just give me the win and let's move on

    Flora Porter
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Start small and use a 1-minute timer.

    Rob(erta) Roy (They/Them)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me and my partner are both very indecisive 😅 fun times

    #25

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them That she sounds like a horse when she eats a bowl of cereal.

    anon , Lisa Fotios Report

    SuperChicken
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is Op for real? It's just that, this is too funny and I've never heard anyone eat a cereal sounding like a horse. I wonder if the partner kicks her leg and neighs, at the same time. (Ok, showing myself out now...)

    Catharina Geerts
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once had a friend (f) who made incredible loud and disgusting noises while eating a cookie. A COOKIE. I don't even know how it is possible to make such noises while eating a simple cookie, but it really made me feel sick

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    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cereal is not a quiet food. I hate when people bite their silverware when they eat

    kate h
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ha! I used to be a silverware biter...scraper actually. Some guy I dated pointed it out, kindly telling me it was like nails on a chalkboard. (yes I stopped!)

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    Flora Porter
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A female friend of mine does too. It's like she has extra resonators in her mouth. That or she's secretly added gravel to it.

    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Time to switch to oatmeal and barley bread.

    Giraffy Window
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My partner sounds like a horse when they eat too!

    Jeevesssssss
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Listening to my horse munching was one of my favourite sounds in the world!

    TeenieMeanie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wiuld it be too much to serve her a feedbag of oats then?

    #26

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them He takes about 5 years to tell a story. Takes little detours and goes into too much info about random stuff I don’t really need to know in order to understand the story! I mean don’t get me wrong it’s funny at the best of times but when you’re in a hurry and your waiting for the story to end 🤦🏼‍♀️ **EDIT:** he's 100% not got ADHD, my little brother has that. If anything he is the complete opposite. He's just extremely calm and likes to take his time, acts like he has all the time in the world to tell a story!

    cookiedough1414 , Matheus Bertelli Report

    the quickening
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can be attention deficit without being hyperactive. Outwards, it seems completely different from ADHD, but the inner troubles are the same. Not being able to tell what's important vs. mere fluff is one of the biggest things.

    Jay Scales
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I asked my dad how he met my mum. After his talking for an hour, I interrupted & said 'Are we near to when you met her yet?' 'No', he said, 'I'm only up to 1943!' :D

    Sharon A Mutuma
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG, that's my husband. I love him dearly but he talks too much. One time was telling a story that went on and on and on. I was sitting on the couch, removed my eyeglasses and just fell over with boredom. My brother used to ask a question and asked that you answer in 25 words or less.

    Mr. Vr
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well actually that's usually something that's got to do with autism, my mom always complained that i did this as a child right before we were leaving and yeah, i was diagnosed at 7.

    Marnie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love how someone has a personality quirk, and not something that is causing problems in their life, and people want to diagnose them with a disorder. Jeez Louis.

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You have a sense of humor about it; you'll be fine.

    Sabina Draws
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband would probably say the same thing about me but when I ask him about things his stories always have 5-7 words max. Sometimes his answers are monosilabic and sometimes I have to ask him things he could answer with only Yes/No or he just ignores me and gives me a half assed 1 word answer so... It depends, maybe the person isn't talking too much, sometimes you could be the issue.

    FABULOUS1
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter does this and it annoys me, my granddaughter does it also but she always wants to make sure she is enunciating her words correctly. Still makes for a long story though.

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    #27

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them Disappears every night, rather than spending time with me and the kids. Doesn’t help with cleaning up after dinner, even though I always cook. Complains about being tired when I am the only one getting up with our baby for the night feed. Granted, he does have insomnia and got s****y sleep before the baby, but I’m the one who endured a horrible pregnancy, Delivery and now newborn sleep deprivation, so I kind of don’t want to hear it.

    ronsinblush , Alena Darmel Report

    H G
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ouch. Is this the type of guy you would wish for your daughter/ partner to your kids? Is it worth it to stay?

    Jallamedalla
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is what I did when my depression kicked in. Withdrew from my family. Always tired. Took me a couple of years to build up the courage to see a doctor. I'm slowly getting better. So is our family's relationship.

    featherytoad
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know why you were down voted but, have one on me. It very well could be depression.

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    kansasmagic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not saying this is the case here, but: having a baby will *not* fix a relationship or force a person to change.

    Dainty72
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He wouldn't get away with this if it were me! He's neglecting EVERY need that comes with a relationship and having children. Somethings very wrong here!!!

    Brainmas
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't the kind of thing you just don't talk about in a marraige.

    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He needs to grow the fudge up.

    Space Cat<3
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He might be cheating, but you can’t trust him with the kids. He will be a negligent father to your kids.

    Lina Leo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless you live in a castle and he's out every night being a super spy...

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    #28

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them Her brothers are a******s, I totally dislike them.

    Just_a_tired_banana , https://www.pexels.com/photo/two-men-wearing-casual-clothing-standing-at-brick-wall-8133026/ Report

    Auntriarch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It would be hard to find two people less alike than my brother and my husband. But they get along, they are both decent chaps.

    Spencer's slave
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sons are polar opposites and sometimes you'll swear they hate each other but God help anybody who hurt one of them because neither has a bigger defender than their brother.

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    Timbob
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn’t post this, but I could have !!!

    kansasmagic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This...is a tough one. I mean, your person is *your* person, but obviously most of us are attached to other people in some way. (Not me: without my big-a*s family, I'd be a hermit.) You might be able to avoid your SO's s****y friends; family is trickier.

    #29

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them How low her patience is & how fast she can get irritated, and i know how she is & I know she doesn’t mean it 99% of the time, but sometimes it has me overthinking and I feel like she just hates me

    NearbyPage6955 , Keira Burton Report

    Realistic Optimist
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly, if this isn't being addressed, you should consider therapy, either couples or personal. It's impossible to have a healthy relationship without healthy conflict resolution, and you feeling that way is a huge sign of poor conflict resolution. And, please don't blame yourself for feeling insecure in your relationship! Accept that your are feeling a certain way for a reason and know that your emotions are telling you something. Really listen to your emotions, and when you're ready, go to your partner. If she cares about you, she will listen and take you seriously. If she doesn't or gaslights you, it's a toxic relationship.

    Fiona Corrigan
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This described my relationship for years. I finally broke down and told her how she made me feel like I'm walking on eggshells and she finally took it on board. It's ok for her to get frustrated with me if I've done something wrong but she now gives me reassurance that we're ok and she's not going to leave me, she loves me, I'm safe etc.

    Auntriarch
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When things get up your nose; he has a very short nose. He's usually back to earth in 20 minutes so I ignore him. But he's very much improved over the years.

    Tom De Paul
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know how you ignore this in the long run.

    #30

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them I wake up teetering on the edge of the bed, every f*****g night. We have a king size bed and she is petite, I tell her but it doesn’t matter. Every. F*****g. Night.

    1980pzx , cottonbro studio Report

    Kelly H. Wilder
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Separate beds can be a wonderful solution to many sleep issues. We can not help how active we are in our sleep, so if you are a still sleeper with a moving partner sleeping separately may be best for both of you. This could also be a help for differences in temperature preference or if one person is touch-averse.

    Spocks's Mom
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good advice. My husband and I have our own bedrooms. Our friends and family think it's weird, but I like sleeping alone. In silence. So does he and we can always fall asleep together if we wanted.

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    Zoey Bear
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Definitely do not get any dogs nor cats. You will have absolutely no full spot in bed.

    crazydogmama
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And when you roll over, they just move with you.

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    Rostit. .
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love the hair on that woman in the picture. I wonder whats up with her thumb though?

    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go round & get in the other side?

    Antonia
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dutch writer, Yvonne Kroonenberg wrote about that. She had a partner who pushed her to the edge of the bed. She would get out of the bed, walk around it and continue sleeping on the other side of the bed. I seriously did that one night and it works like a charm ... haha

    Lyn Moffett
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Smaller they are the more bed they seem to take up

    Timbob
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did you omit a verb or two from your post ?

    Tom De Paul
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sleep separately. If she doesn't like that, it's on her to change her behavior.

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    #31

    sometimes he just won’t stop talking. he has terrible awareness of when someone’s trying to leave a conversation. i’ll be trying to watch a movie or something and he’ll just be chatting away at me. and when he drinks it gets 1000x worse. i just want to say “ i love you but please shut the hell up” but i don’t wanna hurt his feelings. he’s still really cute tho. edit: okay thanks for all the advice guys but we’re actually doing fine, this is just a small annoyance that he’s aware of and we do joke about it together.

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    A girl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This. I genuinely do not want to know who won in highschool football last night. Ever.

    Justme
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    …. And if you wake me up to tell me who won … you might get some brain damage

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    Sharon A Mutuma
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG, that's my husband. I love him dearly but he talks too much! One time he told a story that went on and on and on and on. I was sitting on the couch, removed my eyeglasses and just fell over with boredom. My brother used to ask a question and ask for an answer in 25 words less.

    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband starts describing an entire other TV show every time we are trying to watch something else. I tune him out and turn on the subtitles. He feels like he has to fill me in on every show he watched without me. I don't even like TV all that muchh and would go without it if I lived alone.

    Auntriarch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stick your fingers in your ears and sing "lalalala" really loud until he puts a sock in it

    #32

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them I feel loved but not wanted

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    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get that with my parents sometimes. Feels like they love me but don't like me

    Slap Shot
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    2 years ago

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    Could you be an idiot? That could explain it.

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    Dumpster Fire
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My God, I hope my wife never feels this way. This might have hit me the hardest.

    Bobby
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah.. just had this convo with my wife. My meds kinda kill my desire, which left her feeling something was her fault. I didn't notice it until she brought it up, but I should have.

    #33

    We have large differences in sex drives. She often feels hounded and i often feel neglected.

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    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can become a big, BIG problem

    Brainmas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you talk about it. My situation is very similar, but being open about it helps avoid guilt and resentment.

    #34

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them Everything else about her is perfect. But I could say something and she just gets quiet and passive for days at a time. Like what the f**k did I do, I genuinely don’t know and I can’t apologize if I don’t know what I did.

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    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounds heavier than most of the stuff I read so far. I suspect some underlying issue behind constant noncommunication. Seek counselling before it's too late.

    Flora Porter
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hard to tell without examples, but worth looking at her relationship with her parents. If she grew up walking on eggshells or wasn't allowed to express her real feelings, she might need help to develop these skills. We often pick partners who can help us with our blind spots.

    Brainmas
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do you ask her if something you did upset her or just let her simmer with rage? If she isn't going to volunteer the information, kindly let her know that you are willing to hear it so you can address the behavior.

    MichelleDonut
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like you guys would benefit from couples therapy to learn better communication skills

    #35

    She posts motivational posters on Facebook. It cringes me the f out.

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    Anne Jones
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You just need to learn how to laugh, love and live.

    Queen fhk
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's nothing wrong in posting motivational quotes... Lol

    #36

    His farting is so annoying. Constantly ripping farts. His mom is the same, says it’s genetic and all her side of the family farts an obnoxious amount. We’ll be eating dinner at the table and she will lift her leg and just fart so loud so now her kids do it. It’s so f*****g disgusting. Farting in his sleep on my legs. All the god damn time.

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    MichelleDonut
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe they have a genetic food intolerance and need to quit eating the things that make them gassy? I bet they haven't bothered to try an elimination diet.

    iBlank
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right! Some people don't understand that food intolerance is a scale, not an all or nothing thing.

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    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mommy obviously set a fine example....

    Auntriarch
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother and my husband are non farters. My father and I, on the other hand. My husband just laughs or makes a joke. My mother is mortified by it though. I would never fart on Mr Auntriarch's legs though, I'm not a savage

    iBlank
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why I like to sleep in a separate bed. I get tired of rolling over all the time to be polite, LOL!

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    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His mother raised a barn animal. Maybe put beano in the food

    Madster
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another same! Lol. I think he must have something wrong with him!

    Flora Porter
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or just poor table manners - never taught to close your mouth when chewing, put your knife and fork down between mouthfuls, chew till it's liquid, don't drink with food in your mouth etc. If his mother doesn't have good manners, she's not going to teach them to her kids.

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    #37

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them We’re completely different regarding physical affection.

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    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's very hard. Without finding common ground it can easily kill a relationship.

    Kori
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did for me. My ex husband constantly needed physical attention to feel happy and wanted, I‘m not a physical person (as in terms of constant touching) and need words of appreciation and encouragement instead. He constantly felt rejected, I constantly felt criticized. A dealbreaker in the end.

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    #38

    We don't fight a lot. We've been together for 3.5 years, and maybe fought 5 times ever? But when we do, he goes SILENT. Goes to bed. Won't talk. Freaks out if I even dare get near him. He'll talk the next day. Maybe. But even then it can't be a conversation. He says his piece and that's all he allows. It's such an unhealthy way of resolving issues.

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    Flora Porter
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is bigger than it sounds. One of the things you need to know about someone in the first three months is how they, and how you as a couple, will resolve arguments. Doesn't matter what the argument's about: if you're with someone who can't discuss it, take responsibility for their actions and work with you to find a way through, it's going to be a showstopper at some point.

    iBlank
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, and the whole silent treatment thing is so delusional. It's one thing to say "I can't talk about this right now" when tempers flare, but to refuse to discuss things at all is not acceptable

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    Dainty72
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's all HE allows? What a terrible and childish person! WOW

    Madster
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG same. Does my head in. He'll keep saying nothing's wrong over and over then about a week later when i've given up trying, whatever's been bothering suddenly spills out of his mouth somewhat aggressively then won't listen to my side. I love him but I HATE it when this happens.

    BookFanatic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did we date the same dude? Dang.

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly sometimes a bit of time to be mad is helpful but u need to talk about it at some point

    #39

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them She's a slob. Pile dishes on. Cloths go on the floor. Cups left everywhere. You wouldn't think it if you were company. Edit: just to answer some the posts cuz I woke up with a lot of responses. 1. I'm not dating or married to your significant other. I'm pretty sure. 2. It may be depression but once I "moved in" with her, I started to notice how bad it really is. She does get very proud when she buys things to help with it. Though this could be it for some of you all. Check facts open a discussion, it is a sign. 3. To those who are suggestions things like ADHD. Already tested and no, it isn't that. I think its just the procrastination side. If you think this may pertain to you, get tested if you can. 4. If you don't want this to continue in your relationship you'll either need to devise a system or talk about it now. For example, most of my partner's cloths on the ground end up on her side of the room. If they don't end up in the basket then they don't get washed. I go looking for cups to reuse. And as much as this post is overgeneralized, the more you talk and work the better progress gets made. She does dishes while she cooks now so there's less, she went from like 12 cups to 2. Like anything in a relationship it take work, encouragement, and patience if you want to be with them through something like those. Trust me, there's habits she hates about me that I'm working on as well. (Picking my fingers, chewing my nails, etc) Edit 2: fixing words because people like to bring it to everyone's attention.

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    #40

    He has absolutely toxic gamer rage, to the point where I am immediately on edge whenever he plays a game where pvp is the focus. I actively dissuage him from playing such games, and when we coop I do my best to be overly positive. He never sends hate mail or anything that would affect someone else, and he only does it when its just me and him. I guess it's nice that he feels comfortable enough to express himself around me, it just not nice to be around that kind of anger when I am a very low stress person. EDIT: Guys, relax! He doesn't get violent, or lash out, and he has never taken it out on me or anyone else. It's just not nice to be around, and I happen to be very receptive to such emotions due to the past (not involving him). Judging by some of the comments it sounds like he's not the only one who needs to chill out.

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    Dainty72
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No-one should be on edge around their partner, no matter what the reason is! Another childish fool

    MichelleDonut
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mine has toxic gamer rage too. It scares me when I suddenly hear loud noises upstairs, and it's him pounding his desk, cursing at the other players or the computer. I always think he's just read something horrible in the news, like another war or virus.

    #41

    She's a low-key hoarder who then gets upset at me for our house not being tidy and well organized. It's not trash or dead cats or whatever you see in reality tv. It's just stuff. Continuously accumulating things and not wanting to let them go. Yet still being mad when we have no room. I recently organized our coat closet. She had coats she hasn't worn in 5 years in there. Wouldn't donate them. Had to fold them up and put them in a storage bin in our basement. I did this KNOWING that bin will sit unused and untouched in our basement for the next decade. Same thing with our son's baby clothes. We have probably 20 full totes of clothing in the basement. Won't sell it. Won't donate it. Won't toss it, even stuff that's stained or ripped. It just sits. Boxes of scrapbooking stuff from the two months she was into scrapbooking. That was 15 years and two moves ago. Stacked in the basement. Boxes of sewing supplies and material. Mostly untouched. To sit forever unused. Shoes. Leggings. Shirts. She could open a store. I clean our coffee table off. By the next day it's stacked with junk mail, boxes, books, art supplies. I've talked to her about it, but never the full extent of how anxious and angry it makes me. The worst part is our son has adopted some of her practices. I see myself growing old and drowning in a house full of their garbage. Usually after we talk she makes a half hearted attempt to clean up or stop bringing new things into the house. After a week or so it starts to slip and she's back to her usual routine.

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    kansasmagic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once I cleaned up a bunch of stuff at my MiL's house - like old shopping bags strewn across the floor. I mean, it was *trash*. Afterwards, she retrieved the stuff from the trash can, my wife yelled at her, and we left two days early. Lesson learned: I'll just stick to cleaning up my own messes.

    Brainmas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Be honest about your feelings and seek therapy, both of you. Point out what you are seeing in your son. This will only get worse if it remains unchecked.

    Spocks's Mom
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the term " low-key" is misused here. 20 bins of clothes??? I barely have enough clothes to fill a dresser. And my closet is practically empty.

    B Jones
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My stepmom is like this. Impulse buyer and somewhat hoarder. So my dad would take stuff to storage for her and on the way it might just end up at goodwill.

    Mia Black
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Worse when both partner are low key hoarders, exhausted, sometimes just lazy, both day they do their part but the other not and both see different things as stuff that has to be done.... I am absolutely sure I am the one who does the most mental load plus bringing the organising ideas to life or improve in daily life to make less dirt/clutter or so. Partner thinks it's impossible to remember to put the dishes away direct after using it... How can partner remember to remember to do this? I don't want to say or do it for partner but if not it so it so would sit on the table for days

    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There has to be an emotional or mental reason she won't ever let go of stuff. Maybe talk to her & try to figure out when this hoarding started?

    #42

    Let me start. She chews so loudly. She scream sneezes. She never takes my point of view into consideration. She is inconsiderate, selfish and self centered. And just came out and told me not to be honest with her, because that gives her anxiety. And this is the part I tell you that I love her. But nope. I don’t. We have a 3 year old that I Love to death. She pulled a switchAroo once we got married. There were small signs. But you know what they say; “when you look at the world through rose color glasses, the red flags are just flags.”

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    kansasmagic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Something that bothers me: when SO starts doing something new (or at least new to you), then excuses it with "I've *always* been like this".

    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm really sorry. It sucks. It's very likely if this keep up it will hurt your child, too. It's emotionally and even mentally scarring to grow up in a household like this. Marriage counseling might help. And sometimes ,as hard as it is, getting out a relationship like this is the best option for everyone.

    Jay Scales
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, you both need different partners if you're going to be happy.

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    Brainmas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Time to split up if you don't love your spounse. Kids are better off with separate happy parents than ones that stay together and hate each other.

    #43

    Her family is too detail oriented about insignificant stuff. Like, I’ll have to explain what aisle I went down in the grocery store before I can keep explaining what happened to me while shopping. Or her parents go into excruciating detail about what they ordered for lunch at Wendy’s. For f**k sake I love her and her family to death but god I couldn’t care less about half the conversations they have. It sounds bad and shallow, but conversation with her extended family is even worse. I usually stick with “not much, what’s new with you?” “Oh wow that’s interesting” and walk away.

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    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yes - my ex MIL used to bore the pants off me describing every boring little detail of something.

    Flora Porter
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Alot of people are perfectly decent but bores.

    kansasmagic
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate hate hate small talk. Like, I'm clearly fine *not talking* at this party, and I don't need to be included in your "conversation" about a neighbor you used to have 30 years ago.

    #44

    How do you tell your wife her breath STINKS???

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    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just be honest. Kind, but honest.

    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She probably needs to go to the dentist. That can cause bad breath

    Rizzo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very ... very carefully. ;)

    Lene
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told my bf. I told him that I was a bit cpncerned about his dental health as his mouth smelled bad even after he brushed his teeth. he tok that info well, actually.

    #45

    She sings off-key Edit: a lot of folks have gotten the wrong idea from this, I hate her singing but I’ll never ask her to change it. It makes her happy and her happiness is my priority. I can’t tell her that I hate it because it’ll make her less happy.

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    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is your biggest problem with her? Get some ear buds and worship her.

    Timbob
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bear, didn’t the guy just say that?

    #46

    How she needs me to take care of her in little things. I don’t mind driving her to appointments or cooking her dinner. Its the “Turn off the lights” when she’s right next to Em.

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    Spocks's Mom
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honey? Did you write this, Spocks's Dad?

    Jay Scales
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Re: lights - Try doing something similar with her & when she objects, point out how much she does it to you.

    #47

    She puts the eggs at the bottom of the shopping bags! On purpose!!! She says it gives the bag structure, the crazy lady.

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    Michael Braisher
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because it's FUN: https://youtu.be/sbXtXQ1xwqQ?list=PLlu6_-FiYhk-GKK-pifZp9KGbE_hel1d3&t=271

    #48

    His bathroom habits. He has IBS and anxiety, which fuels his IBS. He goes to the bathroom several times a day, and it is not quiet. Several times a day I hear him having diarrhea and loud gross farts I would never mention this to him, as he gets embarrassed to even let a tiny fart out in front of me, but I try to be understanding as this is not his fault. But hearing loud farts and poop flying into toilet water a few times a day is grossing me out. Thanks for letting me vent.

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    MichelleDonut
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like you need a very loud bathroom fan

    Rostit. .
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    be very glad its getting into the toilet.

    #49

    Amazing partner but his dental hygiene needs a looooooooooot of work. His teeth have a lot of plaque, yellowing and cracking. He has a real fear of the dentist so I try not to push him to go. Instead I suggest that he’s uses mouthwash or floss or whatever else I can suggest. I have even told him I’ll go with him to the dentist. Again, not pushing it on him but oh boy I’d really love an improvement for his dental care EDIT: Thank you for all the suggestions! I think I’m gonna sit down with him and actually have a stern talk to him about it, instead of just giving him teeth care suggestions. Finding out that bad dental hygiene can f**k up your heart health just scared tf outta me and I’m not trying to lose him in any way (28M btw).

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    #50

    His newfound beard and mustache. It's horrible. He just can't grow a good one, I'm sorry. It's patchy and weird and mostly just on his neck.

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    Lil Miss Hobbit
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh my goodness, some men YES, haha.

    setsuriseikou
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But what if it's important for him for some reason?

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    #51

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them That, as a medical practitioner, she uses mental illness and medications as an excuse for every bad and self destructive thing. I don’t care anymore just fix it!

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    Bear Hall
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mental illness makes things EXTREMELY hard, but not impossible. But as long as we are not delusional we have to consider the consequences of our behaviour no matter what causes them. If she acts irresponsibly without seriously TRYING to address her problems though sounds narcissistic.

    kansasmagic
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a difference between acknowledging mental illness and *working on it*, and using mental illness as an excuse.

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    #52

    She farts in her sleep, and they smell TERRIBLE and are as loud as a freight train. She eats a healthy and high fiber diet, and is usually pretty courteous around me and others when she's conscious. But there are times when the smell even wakes me up in the middle of the night because she just lets them rip. She knows she does it and is self conscious about it, and I tell her that I don't notice and it doesn't bother me. I do notice, and I am bothered. Before someone brings it up yes, she's seen a doctor, GI specialist, and dietician. We've played around with different remedies and diets but as far as we can tell she's perfectly healthy and just has a tendency to drop death bombs.

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    Nice Beast Ludo
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is so mortifying I feel bad for her. When I was really sick every time I fell asleep I would s**t clear diarrhea all in the bed. It didn't smell and was mostly water because I could barely eat and when I did, it all came out before I could even finish. It was so humiliating. I would pile towels beneath myself and even though I could barely stand I would clean myself and the bed before he woke up. He would have taken care of it and did have to a few times. I started wearing depends which was really embarrassing at 31 years old. It's kind of you not to mention it because she can't help it and it might make her develop insomnia if she is afraid to sleep because of it

    #53

    She wants me to take her on dates, but she has terrible social anxiety, terrible chronic pain, and walking around a lot causes her to pass out. She says I can do an at home date, but she seems to not count anything we do at home as dates, and doesn’t appear to be aware that she does this. Also she’s on the spectrum which makes it difficult to interact with her sometimes. (I’ll probably talk to her; she’s pretty good with criticism and our entire 11 year relationship has been about open communication)

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    #54

    Quite a few things but the one thing I'll share here is that his cologne and his axe deodorant clash. Literally smells like diarrhea.

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    Rostit. .
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if you are older than 19, stop wearing Axe.

    BookFanatic
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey, at least he wears 'em. Mine preferred the natural approach.

    Lo Kindred
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you use Axe there is no need for cologne

    #55

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them She has a hard time cleaning up after herself. I work full time during the week, she works weekends. The house is a mess during the week and spotless during the weekend. Monday night, I come home and it's a mess again. Oof, lady. Get it together. And the way she drinks. Gulps everything like she out of air and the only way to get more is to suck it off the bottom of whatever vessel she's drinking out of. Food noises kill me and she knows it but the gulping is unconscious so I try not to let it bother me. Love her more than everything. She's my best friend in all ways. But those are the two.

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    #56

    She repeats the the same story 5 times while telling the original story

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    #57

    She's the worst dirty talker I've ever heard of.

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    Rizzo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He: "Darling, say something dirty!" - She: "Kitchen?!?" ;)

    iBlank
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "oooh yeah! Used running shoes...... no socks!"

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    Timbob
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Listen, if you guys ever break-up, maybe you could give her my addr….. never mind.

    #58

    That f*****g blue sweater …

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    Heather Lambie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An "accidental " death maybe required. Washing machines can be wicked on sweaters!!

    #59

    I’m a Cliff’s Notes guy & she is an encyclopedia at telling stories.

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    Slap Shot
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m a Cliff notes gal and know what you mean.

    #60

    She's late for. Everything. E. V. E. R. Y. T. H. I. N. G. I actually remember vividly the one time ever in our 2 decades of being together where we were actually early for something. She agreed to meet someone at 1? She shows at 1:20... Its infuriating!

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell her earlier start times. You're meeting at 12.30? Tell her 12, or 12.15.

    Austin L
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember as a child people would do this to my Dad all the time! So many weekend breakfast meals that were actually a 12:30 lunchtime meal, hehe.

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    #61

    Sometimes she doesn’t say “I love you” back if we’ve had a fight that we haven’t had a chance to work through yet. That s**t hurts, I know we’ve been fighting but I just want the reassurance that it’s not over before I go to work.

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    #62

    She thinks she is good at finding things and is very "helpful" in searching. "Have you looked in your pants pocket?" No, I usually don't carry around a cheese grater in my pocket. "Did you leave it in the car?" Probably not. "Did you use it when you gave the dog a bath?" What now? After twenty such questions she usually is able to find the item exactly where she moved it the day before and is quite self-satisfied that she has "helped me out".

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    Spocks's Mom
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Peasant. I always carry spare cheese graters in my pockets. The come in handy when I bathe the dog.

    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband couldn't find his head if I didn't help him. I usually can ask 3 questions and he finds it and I'm just happy I don't have to hear him digging through the house and moaning anymore

    #63

    he is overly positive to the point where i can't believe him when he's trying to make me feel better/cheer me up

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    #64

    They refuse to eat leftovers. But I don't tell them that because I benefit most from my cooking!! Ha!!

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    #65

    I love when she's happy. I love that she feels joy.... but that laugh is shrill enough to raise the dead

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    #66

    My wife has a habit of over explaining EVERYTHING. How was her day? You'll get a full detailed description of what everyone said and how it was said and who it was said to. The extended descriptions of every minor incident thru out her day drives me nuts.....but I love her and just sort of "uh huh", "oh wow" my way thru them because I know she needs to vent......it's exhausting (now 11 years in) but I know she does it because she knows she can confide in me and not have to worry about me blabbing about what she said to others.

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    Slap Shot
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You just described my husband of 25 years. Every detail for 25 years. And I still love him.

    Jay Scales
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, you are doing a good thing for her even through you don't like it - that's what love is.

    kansasmagic
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is me! I get that my wife processes things (including a lot of health anxiety) by talking through them. I listen, respond when appropriate, and let her do her thing. It does me no harm.

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get excited talking about a good day so go through every single thing that happens. The day is different when something happens so go through the important isj bits. Like if ur in school the important bits in every lesson

    #67

    I literally love the s**t out of this man, and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me, but he spells "bagel" as "beagel" and he shows me too many old vines😂 totally minor complaints and not at all worth bringing up. Annoying but a little funny too.

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    #68

    She takes every fight or disagreement as her fighting for her fundamental independence as a woman, even when I’m just trying to plan stuff or express myself to her.

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    Flora Porter
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe that's how it feels to her? Would like to hear both sides of this one.

    #69

    One of her son. He is autistic, 7 years old and cannot be independant. She takes her bath and shower with him, sleep with him because he cannot without her, she wipes him when he goes to poop. On yop of that he is very agressive, the very first day they came to my house he found all of my collectibles statues and broke them all in a matter of minutes. When I went downstairs my heart sank but what can I do ? What is done is done. It was about 5000$ worth of collectibles. What is hurting me the most is that she has a very frail health and he is completely destroying her. I do my best to be always at their appartment and doing the most chores possible, but even then, he needs way too much out of a "single" mother of 3. This is the only thing I dislike about her and I feel like a total a*****e. I'm still hoping that with time I'll get to love him but so far it doesn't work out

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    Kelly H. Wilder
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was hard for me to read. That is essentially me with my son, but he is 18. I don't shower with him, but I do have to give him his shower. I don't sleep with him, but I do sleep in a recliner in his room. He can not clean himself properly after toileting, so I have to help with that, too. He also went through a very aggressive phase to the point I once had to call in law enforcement. We spent three very difficult nights in the children's hospital. The aggressiveness has subsided as puberty has wrapped up, but he still has frequent meltdown days. I feel very sorry for OP. Not everyone can handle what dealing with special-needs people requires. That doesn't mean OP is a terrible person. It is something to address earlier rather than later, though.

    Jay Scales
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is there a medication that could be prescribed to lower his aggression?

    #70

    She would tell the same 15 stories over and over again. There was never anything new

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    #71

    An old partner of mine used to stand behind me, right outside of my peripheral vision and watch me cook. He would always critique my technique, or tell me how I could do it better. I have cooking anxiety because of him. Drove me INSANE.

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    Justme
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you criticize or critique a chore someone else is doing… then the chore becomes yours.

    BookFanatic
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a friend do that. I finally asked her "Do you really want to p*** me off when I'm holding a cleaver?"

    Jay Scales
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Glad for you that he's an ex!

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    #72

    30 People Anonymously Reveal The Thing They Hate About Their Partner But Could Never Tell Them Mine is lame. Her time management skills suck.

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    #73

    Someone knew that he knows and "had a great friendship/whatever" with dies like every couple months. He thinks everyone he has had any interaction with is his friend and takes it way too personally. A few years back he told me his best friend died, I assumed - as any reasonable person would- this was a great friend that he had talked to and hung out with a lot, maybe because of life they drifted a little bit. Nope. It was a kid he knew when he was 4 and hadn't spoken to since he was 6. It had been a solid 2 decades since they had any contact except maybe the occasional Facebook heart or whatever.

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    CD King
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband holds on to the kids that were mean to him in school. He was not bullied per se but just small slights. He is almost 50 and has not seen or spoke with these kids in 40 plus years. I guess some folks are just over emotional about somethings.

    #74

    They’re pretty bad at taking accountability for their actions. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard something like “Yea I know I was being an a*****e, but why did people have to be mean or distant in response? They should be more mature.”

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    Jay Scales
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another problem that is unlikely to improve over time unless they get a wake up call.

    #75

    When she's killing a moment, A killjoy type i don't know why she's doing that or she just tease me

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    #76

    His horrible f*****g chewing noises. I have never been able to stand it and because he has dental issues he always smacks his lips and chews with his mouth open. I makes me physically ill.

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    geezeronthehill
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mouth breather? Nose doesn't work? Health check time, maybe?

    #77

    Her incessant need to clean the house to such a hardcore degree when someone is just coming over to pick up something for 5 minutes. We have kids, people get that there are going to be toys in the living room. It doesnt need to look like a hotel lobby.

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    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a problem I would really like to have. Better than being too embarrassed to have anyone over atcall cause you can't get it cleaned up

    #78

    She takes off her shoes and never puts them away, currently our kitchen has 3 pairs of shoes, living room has two pairs, by the front door has a pair.

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    #79

    She walks around the house while brushing her teeth... which is already weird enough since I'm a "stand at the sink" kind of guy, but for some reason it's brushing wherever I'm at. I'll be watching TV in the living room and she's brushing her teeth right behind me. It's so freaking annoying but I don't wanna say anything.

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    Brainmas
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah I'd say something because I would be super grossed out.

    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do you brush your teeth regularly? Maybe she is sending a hint? Or just likes to be around you. My husband walks around getting ready while brushing his teeth. It is odd. I need to be at the sink to spit out that nasty toothpaste asap

    #80

    That morning breath. It lingers long after he wakes up so I gotta open a window or spray febreze or something.

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    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sounds like a medical condition.

    Slap Shot
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely! My husband had really bad breath and it turned out he had throat cancer.

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    #81

    She’s very emotionally smart. But sometimes I wish she were more traditionally smart too. I feel like an a*****e just by typing it.

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    kansasmagic
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My advice: don't seek or expect everything you want from one person. It's ok to have other friends for intellectual stimulation, or just make time to read etc.

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    #82

    That he’s super insecure.

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    #83

    She doesn’t care about my interests whatsoever. Will be breaking up in the next days

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    David Paterson
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    2 years ago (edited)

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    Don't. Find someone else who cares about your interests. On the web. Unless your interests include kinky sex, on which case she's well rid of you.

    #84

    How he doesn't value himself enough to go to the doctor and get his health issues taken care of until last minute and almost dying. I hate how he doesn't see his beautiful face the way I do. I hate how he can't see himself through my eyes.

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    #85

    They’re cringy. Sometimes it’s cute, sometimes is second hand embarrassment. Love them either way!

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    #86

    They can be selfish and it can be hurtful

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    #87

    That I have gotten used to the fact that when something's wrong, he'll stonewall and/or verbally abuse me till I've figured out what's wrong or he feels like talking about it

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    Kelly H. Wilder
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seek therapy (for him, you, both) and seriously consider getting out of this relationship. You are worth more than this. Verbal abuse can escalate to other forms of abuse. Please be wary, know your value, and protect yourself. 🤗

    catmom3
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    like the definition of a horrible marriage. And you are perfectly

    catmom3
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oops. And you are perfectly okay with being abused?

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    #88

    How boring he’s become as we’ve gotten older.

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    Xiao Mao
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's never too late to leave

    Nnaemeka Egwim
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Leave because he became boring? Sorry, but have you ever been in a relationship longer than +5 years?

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    #89

    It's not that she farts it's just how much she enjoys it. She laughs about it each time and I've given up mentioning it. If I burp though.....

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    #90

    her inability to understand how work is supposed to go. I understand not liking your job, but quitting over minor inconveniences and irrelevance to her major (graphic design). I’m worried that when she gets a graphical design based job, she’ll hate it because of a niche problem she has to deal with that she didn’t expect and feel like she wasted money on school for something she doesn’t like. I also thoroughly dislike how they treat her brother with autism. I grew up with my aunt who has Down’s syndrome (about as severely affected mentally) and I understand that it’s hard, both are challenging to deal with. But they’ve had child services called on the house 6 times for what her brother has said he’s been through, and the father doesn’t even reference him as son, he’s “that guy”.

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    Kelly H. Wilder
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The job thing is an annoyance, but the brother needs someone to stand up for him. Silence is complicity. It's reprehensible to me that CPS has been called SIX times and no one is changing things for the brother. It is unspeakably difficult to find foster or other placements for special-needs people, so CPS tends to delay removal unless the situation is physically dire. Please speak to her about it. You may be a catalyst for positive change. 🤗

    #91

    She reminds me of my mom and my mom is a crazy b***h so i have mommy issues i dont know how to tell her that though

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    #92

    Two things and he's mildly aware of it. He has neuropathy in his legs and is in constant pain even with medication. He says he talks to his doctor but I'm suspecting he is lying because he hates doctors and rarely has time to make appointments. I hate it because I can't do anything to help relieve the pain. I miss playing footsie with him. The other thing is he is a very picky eater so dinner is always simple or i like to call 'kid friendly'. Eat your freaking vegetables! Buttered carrots don't count!

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    Temporary Dork
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What do you mean they don't count.

    lawrence Andrew
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Vegetables must be endured. If you do not suffer it does not count.

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    #93

    probably the biggest one has to do with her addiction to her phone. she’s on it all the time. to the point that our small kids say things to her. but when i text her, it takes a long time to get a response.

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    Nice Beast Ludo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is sad. Play with and enjoy your kids when they are little. Don't spend their childhood on your phone. I fear for these kids when they get older they are going to have so many issues.

    Rostit. .
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is becoming a huge issue in general. We will see phone addiction as a real thing if its not already.

    #94

    Let’s the little things ruin her days and doesn’t have any real hobbies edit: hate is a strong word, I don’t hate anything about her id just like to see her make strides to improve which she is doing at her own pace

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    #95

    Not quite hate. But he has a persistent self-doubt that sometimes pains him. It's like reverse Dunning-Kruger syndrome. I do my best to support and encourage him when it crops up. He's one of what a friend of mine calls 'hail fellow, well met' people, and is universally loved by all who know him. Yet every so often he questions his worth and competence. I sometimes wish I could show him what he looks like to me. But all I can do is be there when he needs me, so I always am.

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    #96

    Her constant talking. I love this woman, but she talks all day/night. I don’t have the heart to tell her how much it bothers me. She is a bartender and talks all day at work too. It never stops.

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    #97

    Ugh idk man I really can't take the volume of talking she wants to do It's not the quality of it's the quantity I swear But I'm aware it's a failing on my part as well, because I'm admittedly a s**t listener, we could both probably point out situations where me listening would of saved us both a lot of grief

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    #98

    She is unaware of the space needed to keep me on the sidewalk, or from bumping into people and other objects like lampposts as we hold hands while walking.

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    #99

    That he’s an angry person who lacks empathy but if I try to tell him, that just makes him even angrier. Walking on eggshells is not cool.

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    Jay Scales
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get out whilst you're still young - this is unlikely to improve & will eventually take a toll on your mental & even physical health. I KNOW, I've been there.