Having a crush is one of those near-universal human experiences that can fill our days with joy, excitement, sorrow and heartbreak. Sometimes crushes go undivulged, sometimes they blossom into romance, but, as so often happens in life, we grow up and realize that we didn’t actually know what we wanted.
Someone asked “What is something that instantly killed the crush you had on someone?” and people shared their stories. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own ideas, thoughts and experiences in the comments section below.
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He told me about how he disciplined his dogs. I called animal control…….
I discipline my dogs by trying to use a stern voice, pointing at them, and then failing miserably to be cross when they lick the end of my finger...
I ask 30 times nicely & then use the middle name & mom voice. They listen, I feel guilty & they get a snack lol
Load More Replies...Since the statutes of limitations is long past... I've actually stolen animals out of abusers' backyards and homes. I would surrender them to shelters where they would receive medical care, love, and attention. I'm not sorry.
People who abuse animals in the name of discipline should themselves get disciplined .
Awesome sentence, it's like "I was in my second year of med school, now I'm in prison for ten years." Is there more to the story?
"Much like Kristi Noem's dogs, jokes about Kristi Noem's dogs will never get old." - Seth Meyers
I had a crush on this skinny little red headed trumpet player. We were in band together and he seemed nerdy and nice. He was a year older but he was always nice to me. One night we were at a party. He told me a story about how the brother of another girl we went to school with got drunk one night and r***d her. The whole school had found out about it. He was telling this story like it was the funniest s**t he ever heard. He then proceeded to tell me that he went up to the girl at school and laughed at her for getting r***d by her brother. Not only did this 16-17 year old girl get r***d, she got r***d by someone who is supposed to love and protect her. Then everyone finds out about it. Then this piece of s**t goes up to her and laughs in her f*****g face about it. I've never gone from liking someone to hating someone so fast. I hope he's grown up and realized what a f****d up situation that was. I hope that moment that he went up to her is one of those moments that keeps him up at night and fills him with shame and regret. F**k you John
Everyone, please join us for a moment for a few "F**K YOU JOHN!!"s.
Load More Replies...I hope she's doing all right now, but I seriously doubt it. Such a horrible experience can destroy your life.
I agree with the f*ck John. I'll be the first to shout out f*ck the disgusting vile brother too!
There aren't enough middle fingers in the world to show how I feel about john
Guy everyone thought was hot and dreamy legit kicked a puppy in front of my face. Not like a football, but in a ‘you’re in my way,’ still fairly harsh, shove-with-a-foot manner. I still hated him for it. Years later I saw on the news he’d murdered his girlfriend in front of their toddler. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time!
Had a crush on this kid when I was probably just 12. Didn't speak to him. Just liked looking at him. He failed the finals so his parents took him to a different school. This was pre social media time so there was no way to find. With time I forgot about him. Few years later I found his name in the newspaper. Checked the photo, it was him. He and his friends had planned to fake kidnap one of the friends to get money. But got cold feet and threw the kid in water and killed him. Nothing happened because they came from super rich families.
Whats worse? Death? I believe he has it worse in prison :)
Load More Replies...ugh, i knew one of those. all the mainstream people liked him, all the weirdos like me didn't because when no one popular was looking he was rude to weirdos. hot, blonde, all american superstar high school guy. ended up with my best friend's distant cousin. one day he took her out, then himself. at least i'm pretty sure in that one her kid wasn't present. https://www.fox35orlando.com/news/victim-in-apparent-murder-suicide-a-beloved-youth-minister-at-longwood-church
I always worry about seeing my ex husband on the news for murdering his current wife and kids.
Causing abusive harm to animals is an indicator of sociopathic or psychopathic behavior. If you know someone who harms animals or even has a history stay far, far away!
Had a crush on my superior, and one day we were talking about the horrible and horrifying news of a girl being sa'd in a bus by a group of men and left to die. This was the New Delhi case that broke India and it was making headlines everywhere. I remarked that it was just such a horrifying news, and he said, "what time was it and what was she wearing??" At that moment all affections for him went out of the window. I was so mad at him and was this close to slapping him for making such a misogynistic statement.
I'm in the US but even I remember reading about that case and that poor woman. Anyone who thinks anything other than those men were monsters who deserve to be put to death is a sick twisted person.
I’m in Canada, and I was barely 20 when I heard the story. I remember thinking it was fake. I thought that sounded a little too over-the-top cruel and far fetched. Too sensational, too terrifying. Must be fake. When I found out I was wrong, I think I just stared at the wall for like 3 hours. I’m still stunned thinking about it. Some humans really are evil.
Load More Replies...Yeah, it’s not so much the rapists that scare me but the fact that they have so many supporters in the general population.
Where on earth is the country where the general population openly support rapists?? Or are they secret supporters, in which case how do you know they exist? Are you referring to a specific country or do you mean the general population of the entire planet?
Load More Replies...There's a site called "What were you wearing?" dedicated to exposing this myth: https://dovecenter.org/what-were-you-wearing-exhibit/
Well that's horrifying. Educational and informative but horrifying
Load More Replies...I was SA'd in broad daylight while wearing a conservative private school uniform. Time and clothing has NOTHING to do with some creep or creeps deciding to assault you.
Of course it does! Don’t make it easier on the pervs. Don’t put others in danger because of your simplistic viewpoint!
Load More Replies...So very close! :-D The lyrics are... "We blame her for being there But we are all guilty."
Load More Replies...bro who cares what she was wearing... that's not the important part of the story!
She threw the popcorn on the floor as we got up to leave the theater. And not like dropped the bag like flipped it and gave it a good shake for good measure .
And one gets permanently stuck in her molar.
Load More Replies...I wonder if people like her even see the people working in the service industri as humans?
I think it's an ego trip thing. I'm not condoning it, this is just my observation having been in customer service for most of my life. It's usually people that are really unhappy that act this way to workers.
Load More Replies...I always throw out my trash at the movies, in a trash can, like you're supposed to
A*****e behavior. Someone who deliberately makes messes because they know someone else has to deal with it.
Why do people do sh*t like that? Is it really that difficult to throw it in a garbage can? What a c*nt.
If someone is this much of an a-hole right in front of you, imagine what they're like behind closed doors? No thanks, next.
I had a crush on a boy named Troy. I first met him during summer camp in elementary school, but we lost touch. Many years went by, and in 10th grade, we discovered that we attended the same high school. I would see him around and still found him so cute; my crush on him had lasted all these years. We would hang out in group settings and occasionally catch up throughout high school, but we never hung out alone. Finally, about a month before graduation, we agreed to spend time together one-on-one for the first time. Just for reference, I'm Black, and Troy is white. One evening, I was in his car, and we ended up making out in an In-N-Out parking lot. My heart was pounding with excitement. After we finished, he said, "God, you'd be the perfect girl if you were white." He then went on to tell me how excited he was to go to college in Ohio because there wouldn’t be any Black people there. He thought what he said was hilarious, but I was disgusted. It was one of the rare times in my life when I was speechless. I just wanted him to drive me home, but honestly, I was frightened. Even after we graduated, he continued to reach out to me, but I ignored him. I'm pretty sure he knew his words had offended me, which is why he kept trying to contact me. Eventually, I just blocked him. My decade-long crush on him evaporated in an instant.
Got news for him. There are about 1,700,000 black people in Ohio. None of them will be glad to see him.
Right! Who the heck told him Ohio is all white? Incredibly weird idea is fitting, I guess, for an id10t.
Load More Replies...How could he think it was even remotely okay to say that to her? "You'd be the perfect girl if you were white". I really hope he has matured since then, but dang...
I think it was worst how he doubled down and experienced how he excited he was to go somewhere there wasn't black people. Hate she was to scared to defend herself, but been a real a*****e.
Load More Replies...Just curious, as someone born and raised in Ohio, went to college in Ohio, lives in Ohio now, and happens to be Black; just where was he going to college where he thought there would be no Black people?
Indeed, I live in Ohio, and I see them everyday. I don't know what he was thinking.
Load More Replies...Not just racist, but stupid racist. Hard to give racism a worse rep, but he managed.
I had a crush on a pale, black-haired guy named Wyatt in high school. He looked so interesting and intensely handsome at the time. I also loved that his name was Wyatt. I grew up watching Tombstone and I thought that was the most amazing name for a guy. One day, a new girl came to school and it started to rain. She was a harmless, free spirit type who was just happy experiencing life. Totally inoffensive and a little loopy, but genuinely sweet. It started to rain outside and she, little nature-loving spirit that she was, was kind of wheeling around in the rain, enjoying herself, feeling the water, indulging in petrichor, and a group of us were watching from the porch. Wyatt, who up until then had seemed like an accepting, kind person, announced, “I hope that dumb b***h gets hit by a car.” That was my first lesson in understanding that people you think are beautiful are not at all beautiful. Some of them are just hateful. I couldn’t stand to be in the same room with him after he dropped that bon mot.
Not gonna lie, I'd probably develop an instant crush on that loopy girl.The mere description made me smile. (Wyatt can get fukked.)
I read her description and thought of Luna Lovegood.
Load More Replies..."indulging in petrichor" is the best thing i've read on the internet today.
Yeah she does! (Lunas my favourite Harry Potter character)
Load More Replies...It's one of my favorite words. the smell of the ground when it's raining.
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When we were young, I gave her a Valentine’s card. She smiled while looking into my eyes, ripped the card without opening it & walked away while tossing it in the trash.
It hurt terribly, but it snapped me out of that hypnotic trance. I learned personality is everything & it’s best to move on quickly.
I threw a card and flowers that a boy gave me for Valentines in the bin in front of him when I was 11. But he had been pestering me for months, asking me out every day, getting increasingly whiny and manipulative even though I’d given him a firm no right from the start. It was honestly getting pretty upsetting and there was no way I was even going to pretend to accept his card and gift in case it encouraged him even more.
And I bet the teachers/adults around you thought it was "cute" that he was harassing you, didn't they? That's the way I was treated when I was that age.
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He "accidentally" had a picture of his d*ck on his phone and ever so subtly made me look at it by holding it up to my face. When I asked what the hell he was doing, he said, "Oops! Wrong picture. What did you think, though?" Absolute disgust from then on.
Did any woman, anywhere, anytime, actually show any interest in a guy who sent her a d**k pic? Instant Ick!
Years ago I saw a website where someone had doodled on d**k pics to make them look like muppets. Now that is all I can ever see.
Load More Replies...Today, as the matured being I am I would take a close, intensive look at this photo, commenting just "Hm." and just look silently into his face. Just that. No emotion, just this.
My favorite way of countering this is "Do you have a magnifying glass? Cuz I need one!"
"Neat! I never saw a phone with a macro lens before!"
Load More Replies...The only reason I can think would be to send to a doctor because something was wrong.
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He and his group of friends bullied another kid so bad the kid switched schools. Instant nope.
Every bully is intensely insecure & jealous of whatever positive feature/personality/intelligence/etc their victim has that they know deep inside they themselves will never possess. Bullies tell you you have something fantastic about you that people pick up on, & they’re jealous. Period. It has never been otherwise.
Had a crush on a guy in high school. Overheard him saying he thought women should be silent and submissive. I was instantly repulsed by him.
That’s the great thing about guys with shîtty attitudes - they usually turn off women everywhere they go 😊 and the only women who want to be with them usually have shîtty attitudes themselves.
Load More Replies...The guy is going to be single for many a year - unless he switches it up and realises it's actually the 21st Century....
Unfortunately he can probably find women who agree with the statement
Load More Replies...I had a crush on my classmate. Some of the brightest kids were girls and better than him. He was jealous and angry about it. One day he just blurted out 'you girls stink'. Crush just vanished
I am the only one who thought that this guy should be silent and submissive?
Dude said, "I don't say 'Please'. It's a beggar's word."
Roflmao okay dude.
If you insist. So it'll be "F**k off, a*****e", not "Please f**k off, a*****e".
Went to meet his family, within 2 minutes he kicked his family dog. His dad then said ‘bad dog!’ and took the dog outside, making it pretty clear where he learned the behavior.
I wanted to take the dog with me so badly. It’s been over 10 years so not sure she’s still with us, but I would think of her from time to time.
Cruelty to animals is a red flag, hell, it's a red everything. Report any form of animal abuse.
Get the dog and get rid of your friend. That would have been the first thing I would have done.
I'm afraid of dogs though if I see someone kick one, I would kick them and ask them how they like it.
I wish I could say I would have taken the dog and ditched them, but I'm not sure I could have handled the repercussions. My ex's family was trying to get rid of their aquarium through neglecting the remaining two fish and hoping they would die. I fed them every single time I was over. Even if it was just a quick visit, I would make an excuse to go upstairs where the tank was. Did it for over 10 years, one did eventually pass, the other one was still alive when we split
i woulda taken her and gone to a vet and the police straight away
Who the f**k abuses animals?? This is so sad bc I have grown up with dogs nearly y whole life and it makes me wanna punch someone!!!
I would have had an all out fit ! I would demand to go home and call authorities and report cruelty to an animal....YOU not doing anything is almost just as bad....Animals don't have a voice WE DO
He finally got my phone number, and within 2 hours he had texted me over 50 times and called me 20 times and was irritated i didn't answer him within a couple of seconds. Eff that s**t. The nerve.
I used to be like this. Don't do it fellas and young fellas, its a bad look and if not outright creepy, bordering on creepy. (remember nobody owes you there time and if someone doesn't get back to you then they're not interested.)
Or legitimately busy. It's mind-blowing, but some of us can go hours without our cellphone because we're doing other things.
Load More Replies...A whole parade of red flags, one for each text after the first one
Load More Replies...Unfortunately, many people who have this done to them who actually LIKE whoever is doing it to them (like OP) are sometimes not this quick to become concerned. Gals, guys, anyone else who needs to hear this — YES, YOU SHOULD BE CONCERNED. It might mean that they like you back, but it probably also means that they are creepy af. And if you’re thinking about a relationship with them, it means they’ve got a good chance of being overbearing and overprotective. Don’t let yourself fall victim to folks who do this! Act like OP!!
Ugh. Yeah, I had one of these. Gave a guy my number and he was just constantly texting me, and even after I told him flat out that I didn't think we we were a match, he just wouldn't stop, so I stopped replying. Didn't stop him. Eventually when I was inches away from blocking him, I said "you just can't take a hint, can you?" and finally that shut him up
She was needlessly b****y to a waitress at a restaurant.
They called me stupid. To my face. In front of another person. Because I asked a simple, reasonable question while trying to make conversation. Yeah, never looked at them the same again.
Well f**k you for asking a reasonable question that you didn't know the answer to /s. Ignorance is okay, not everybody can know everything about everything.
Asking questions is how you end up NOT being stupid.
Load More Replies...Sounds like they were deflecting cuz they didn’t know the answer either…
What are the chances that said person didn't know the answer to that question and was just trying to deflect....
Stupid is not asking questions because you're dumb enough to assume you already know everything.
To be fair, I would like to know the question. Cause judgement can be different if the question is 'So, you like dogs?" than "So, do you like kicking dogs?" Cause we all know "simple"and "reasonable" can be waaaay different from what normal people mean.
Had a thing for this girl until she sent back food at an Indian restaurant bc it was too spicy, after being told it would be spicy and there was no other way to make the dish. She acted super condescending and demanding and it embarrassed me a tonnnn lol. You could tell she never worked for service haha.
Dave Berry said: "A person who's nice to you but not nice to the waiter is not a nice person."
Even if she hasn't worked for the services she shouldn't be rude to the serving staff
We went to an Indian food restaurant (we try different ones in town) and I had taken the mildest dish on the menu - according to the waitress. Turns out, my tongue was burning and asked for cream or milk to help out. They didn't have any and went to the restaurant 2 doors down to get some for me. We didn't know until they came back 20 minutes later and I asked - gently - what took so long as I wasn't eating anymore. My husband gave a $20 bill plus the regular tip. My friend said I could have asked for yoghurt or something similar but I never heard of any restaurant having that kind of stuff.
“If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.” -J.K. Rowling Edit: yes i used a jk rowling quote no i dont support her morals!! 🏳️⚧️
I met my husband online 17 years ago and am so thankful he was only my 6th date. I made the mistake of agreeing to meet Guy #1 for dinner. He seemed pleasant until the waiter showed up. He was not only condescendingly rude, he was patronizing. He kept giving me these little smirks like I should be impressed with his "Master of the Universe" attitude. I assure you, I was not. I stood up, grabbed my purse and just walked out. I left a "review" on his profile, then blocked him. Guy #2 wasn't quite as bad, but pretty close. Same result.
Once I was with my mum and my sister in an Indian restaurant in London. We asked for the food to be only mildly spiced (you could chose), but when it came, wow, it practically burnt our throats. Somehow we got the feeling they just dared us, to see our reaction, so we ate it all, without any complaints or making faces or whatever :D Felt like a little victory
He said if somebody ever came to him thinking about suicide that he’d tell them to stfu because mental illness isn’t real. Definitely struck me wrong and my crush disappeared so fast.
The problem with saying things like this is that being an a*****e or idiot *isn't* mental illness, and insulting people by suggesting that they're mentally ill is offensive to the billion or so people globally who have a mental illness.
Load More Replies...Mental illness isn't real? Has he never been on public transportation? There's always at least one overtly mentally ill person. (I'm also mentally ill but I only talk to myself in private 😺)
The real question is, has he ever been on planet Earth? Because mental illness is pretty common
Load More Replies...I think i can guess his stance on men crying or showing emotions, that's sad.
Seriously? So all i needed was someone to tell me to stfu and I'm cured? I'm instantly better? That my bipolar, OCD and PTSD would vanish? Quickly, someone tell me to STFU so i can stop taking meds and just be as enlightened as this guy. Also if anyone has anything else to say like LMAO or NGL to help reverse my disability and help me walk again that would be fantastic 👌
A pretty short multiple-choice test to figure out this guy's religion ...
We’d only been dating for about two weeks. He took a long detour to take me home, and I thought it was because he wanted to spend a little more time together. So I said something like “Hey, so how come you took the long way back…” trying to be playful about it and expecting him to say something sweet. He said “Because I’m not driving through *that* neighborhood. There are too many N-words there.” Nope. Nope. Nope.
Racists could just stop living on this planet. We need their space and they need to try surviving on Uranus or something.
Ah no way that would be it for me. Just not acceptable in any way. In my country that word isn't common but even hearing it in music is just sickening
I was thinking because the guy wanted some road action, this is more disgusting.
"Why are you voting for Obama?! Don't you know he's the Antichrist?!
I read in some extremist Christian propaganda (entertainment value, NEVER a supporter) that Obama wasn't the antichrist, but that he would pave the way for the antichrist. I think they were on to something with 45...
Load More Replies...Seeing what sort of people usually claim to have Christ on their side I would gladly vote for the Antichrist
I have to agree with you. Hearing stories about Christians acting 'holier than thou' in church, then coming out and instantly becoming entitled racist overbearing rude idiots.
Load More Replies...Funny how nobody thinks little orange don is the antichrist. He fits the legend to a T.
Everything they taught me in Catholic school points to Trump being the Antichrist but tons of people from my old school are voting for him "because of the unborn bayyyybeeeees!". But kids in cages is quite alright.
Load More Replies...Antichrist is an 11 year old boy living in England named Adam and he called off the apocalypse
Guess what ...? There is no Antichrist! Wanna know why? Because there is no Christ to begin with. I consider people who believe in overpowering god-beings to be mentally challenged and definitely not trustworthy.
I think the existence of Jesus as a historical person is quite proven. If he was the son of God or not is another question.
Load More Replies...Hahaha. I was actually looking up what Biden has actually done. And it compared metrics between bush, Obama, trump, and Biden. And holy crud. Thanks Obama. For real. If anyone is interested, https://www.bloomberg.com/graphics/2024-opinion-biden-accomplishment-data/
When, after he had flirted with me for days both in person and over text, i suggested we make plans and he replied, "sure! not sure if this changes anything but just so you know, i'm married.".
Makes me feel less angry with the person who ‘mentioned their wife’ above.
Load More Replies...Oh I have that beat. This one guy kept hitting on me and then just slipped that he had a two kids, one a newborn, but wasn't "really with the mom anymore", and when I started asking questions the baby suddenly aged by a year
Or someone in an open marriage as people on Reddit suggested
Load More Replies...There’s a girl I met when I was 14 at Anime Expo and had this really magical romanticized innocent young love summer type of feel. These were the early days of the internet. We kept in touch over AIM and one day she sends me a video of a guy getting decapitated alive by some soldiers and she wrote “lol”. Pretty much killed all the magic for me and stopped talking to her after that.
I kinda think it’s okay to punch someone like that in the face. Hard.
I cannot even imagine someone saying LOL to something like that. I just cannot find the words to say how upsetting this is.
I know people who involuntarily laugh out loud when told or shown something uncomfortable, but typing it out is just wow.
Load More Replies...A whole generation was traumatized by seeing that video. LOL...to that video!?!?
He said it’s only cheating when girls do it, not when boys do it.
Tell me you worship Andrew Tate without telling me you worship Andrew Tate.
OMG real! Ppl keep going on abt how hes amazing and stuff but hes js a f*****g d**k
Load More Replies...Interestingly promiscuous men are good ol boys, but if women are promiscuous there are reams of derogatory names.
It was a build up of things, but one of the big things was his friend joking about how he (his friend) could have spiked my drink on a night out: he said nothing. I’m a believer in the concept that you are who you hang out with, so hearing this made me really uncomfortable.
He said nothing, could mean that his friend and him usually joke like that? "Muestrame con quien andas y te dire quien eres", i also belive that you are like your friends meaning if you hang with people like that it's cause you are the same as them.
"Show me who you're with and I'll tell you who you are"
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Bragged about drinking and driving.
Sadly they usually end up killing innocent people while walking away unharmed themselves.
Facts. Alcohol, as a depressant, slows down someone's reaction time, which includes reaction time for an impending collision. Ironically, there's a greater likelihood the intoxicated party will be less severely injured because they don't anticipate the impact.
Load More Replies...Same. I tried to be open minded about people having different preferences, but it's an instant "oh we can't be friends." If I meet someone who brings up drinking alcohol like it makes them somehow special, or interesting, it's always a red flag.
Load More Replies...Once had a boyfriend who drunk & drove. I persuaded him to let me drive (I stayed sober then), but he tried to make me drink alcohol at the same time. Even put the gin I refused in my soda, when I went to the toilet. Instant break-up.
My theory for driving is that you can take all the risks you want when it’s only you that can get injured, if it can injure others then it’s not your right to risk their lives. They haven’t chosen to take risks, they shouldn’t have to live with the consequences
A former coworker told me he measured the length of road trips in beers.
He was 39, I asked him what his biggest age gap was while dating and he told me recently dated a 19 year old. Then went on to complain that she was lost in life and had daddy issues. Instant ick.
Of course she had "Daddy Issues". Why did he think she was dating a man old enough to be her father?
Not necessarily. I dated a much older man because he lied about his age. Also lied about being single. I learned a lot about not trusting people so easily Young and dumb
Load More Replies...I don't understand the hate for two adults dating. They're adults. They get to make their own decisions.
Age difference is power difference. It is more pronounced in young adulthood. The couple wouldn't get criticized if they were 60 and 80 years old. In this couple of 39 and 19 years old the probability for exploitation is high. Also, the brain stops developing at 25 years old. Young adults are vulnerable.
Load More Replies...Taking advantage of what ? Both adult, they can date whomever they want. If she is over 18, it's ok.
Load More Replies...Seriously… why? If he didn’t like the way she acted then why did he even choose to date her in the first place?
This photo bothers me... Those wine glasses ARE slightly different to each other, aren't they??
Personally, I have never understood why people are bothered by age gaps in adult relationship. But I suppose that is why she asked, because it was something that bothered her.
Just because someone is legally allowed to vote or fight for their country doesn't mean they are mentally mature enough to date someone old enough to be their father.
Load More Replies...Uh-oh, that sounds like pedo-pedo-pedo-pedo-PEDOPHILIA (STOP!) (I know it’s not pedophilia, but that’s still really nasty)
I think there's a pedo reading these comments. Quite a few downvotes. I guess they don't like the fact that they're universally hated.
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Had a crush on a girl for a little while. Then I went to a family reunion and saw her. We share great grandparents on our mother's sides.
Second cousins are legally allowed to marry in the USA but you're definitely gonna get hate from SOMEONE in the family.
Distant enough that is shouldn't matter genetically. Idk what ur family thinks about it but you can legally and wouldn't be hurting ur kids
Genetically yeah it's fine but socially (and personally) a lot of people would be turned off by that. I know I would
Load More Replies...Doesn't that make them 4th cousins? 1 great grand, 2 grand, 3 parents, 4 between the two
Well, at least this story wasn't about repulsive behaviour. This guy was avoiding it.
I'm from a small enough town that it could happen. That may be one reason I've never dated anyone from my hometown -- and the only one who actually lived here at all was a transplant. My political and religious views make me undatable here, anyway. But I did have a childhood crush (4th grade through high school) on someone who was even more distantly related than that and it still made me queasy -- fortunately, she didn't return the feelings at all. I've decided that if someone's closely enough related for us to know about it, then nope.
I actually had a conversation with him, it stopped right after that.
Always remember, light travels faster than sound . That's why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
I loved Sean Connery when I was young, loved the movies he was in (except the crappy 007 stuff). Then he went unscripted on a talk show casually mentioning that it was okay to hit women. That taught me that the people you see in shows are NOT the people they portray.
When he kissed me he wobbled his tongue in my mouth like some kinda lizard.
I've always felt like a total weirdo because I never ever liked kissing with tongues in each other's mouths. This is even worse lol.
Yes! I'm an extremely affectionate and overall "touchy" person, but I've never really liked tongue kissing. It's weird to me!
Load More Replies...Possibly one of the lizard overlords. Best to stay away. I hear they can be dangerous.
🤢 ah no can't be doing with that. My friend had a date with a fella who held her face and licked across her closed lips. Licked her like a lollipop and claimed he was a great kisser. He's 35 people!
I mean, I think this one depends on the person. There was a story in the thread yesterday about what people saw in a person that made them go on a second date where a girl "shoved her tongue down my throat then hopped into an uber." Apparently in that case they liked the go-getter attitude and it helped them break out of their shell.
I've had two separate guys in the past kiss me for the first time by running their tongue around my lips like in a circle while I'm just stuck there not knowing what to do, someone explained to me that its because they want me to imagine they're doing it to my downstairs bits, like eww, never saw them again.
Told me I’d have to become a christian to date her. I have no problem with people having different beliefs than me, and I actually really respect that she brought it up before things went any further, but it was just an instant “ick” for me that that was the most important factor for her.
I dumped someone because they were a Quaker. Not a problem as such, but I'm not religious so we weren't going to be compatible.
This one shouldn't be an ick. I get that people of different worldviews might not be compatible and I don't blame OP for breaking things off, but she clearly expressed what she needed, and for a lot of people religion is one of if not THE most important thing in their lives. No one is at fault here.
I see no problem here on either side. I have many atheist close friends, but I would never become romantically involved with a non-Christian. Best that they got that out up front for both parties.
Glad she communicated that up front. This one honestly isn't too bad. I've broken up with someone before because of their beliefs so there's that.
Differences in beliefs can work, or it can ruin a relationship. It depends on a lot of things. I think it's good she was upfront rather than letting things get serious and then telling him he had to convert or they would split (I have seen that all too often).
The claims of the bible, to use as neutral a word as I can think of, are exceptional, and that is putting it lightly. If someone actually believes those claims, then it's completely reasonable that it would be the most important thing to them. It really is completely logical for a bible believer to be that way, so I don't know why someone would be surprised.
I mean, I can't get married to a non-muslim but if some guy comes up to me and I like him but hes not muslim I wouldn't tell him to change his fate for me. I'd just leave him bc for me, religion comes first
Why? That's her worldview, so why wouldn't she want someone who had the same beliefs?
It depends on the situation. It is the conversion part that is creepy. They think they are "saving you" I was pursued by a woman like that. It makes you feel icky.
Load More Replies...Once I heard the same thing from a girl, but turns out I am a Christian, and was even in a church back then. It is just that I wasn't ENOUGH Christian for her, and not in the correct flavour.
I had a high school classmate once try to get me to change churches because I wasn't the right type of Baptist. It was the Emo Philips joke in real time, except no one pushed anyone off a bridge. Years later, I'm a None. And as far as I know, his idea of becoming a pastor never happened.
Load More Replies...She flexed on the amount of guys she ghosted Oh how the turn tables….
She said fat people were “disgusting, sad, and almost always stupid too.” Bye bye.
Fat people are ... fat. People. You have no idea why someone is overweight/obese (it's seldom from actually being "only lazy")and it doesn't affect your intelligence. I get people have preferences in what they look for in a partner but these broad strokes are upsetting to me.
Many people have a small appetite and still are overweight/obese, like me, who can never seem to lose weight, but that doesn't mean they're sad and pathetic. Many overweight kids can still do well in classes, unless the bullying affects them (fukk bullying) and makes them worry too much. The girl here is pathetically disgusting.
Load More Replies...Wow. Uuhhmm.... now, I am obese. I think I am generally well-liked (so can't be too disgusting, right?), I am not sad (I'm the kind of mom who'll join the kids jumping around in the rain.), and I am "gifted" with a high iq tested by a psychologist hired by the local public government (I am not street smart, though, or socially smart. But I sure as Hel am not stupid. At all!). I am obese because of a sh1tty family who wanted me to be skinny. I am also fat because of trauma. And I am fat because of being not being properly diagnosed for other types of neurodiversity (sort of comfort eating to calm my thought streams). With this said, I DO feel disgusting and stupid, though. Even though I know I am not.
Not quite the same, but my boyfriend at the time(ex now obvi)and I were walking home and happened to pass by a homeless man holding a sign towards the road. For some reason, despite the fact that the homeless dude never even looked at us, he decided to start talking about how much he wanted to punch him. Broke up with him immediately afterwards.
Every story she told me was about some argument/conflict/drama, and in every story she considered herself to be the paragon of virtue and honesty while everyone around her would be vindictive, cruel, and "out to get her". I recognized the behavior because my mom does the same thing and I hate that kind of constant self-victimization.
She was absolutely beautiful but when we started talking, it turned out she was an evangelical white nationalist.
Offering her a wallet sized school picture on picture day, and she immediately threw it out. Message received.
This is going to sound conceited, but the more I talked to her the more I realized she just wasn’t very smart. And more importantly, she seemed to have zero thirst for knowledge. I just don’t understand that way of living.
Intellectual goals are as valid as financial and family goals. I've dated people who only aspired to watch television. Life would be so boring if I stayed with them.
My daughter dated a guy that was sculped like a god but she broke up with him because all he wanted to do was watch TV and we didn't have one. LOL. He didn't have any aspirations for a decent job either, the easiest, the better. Nope. I didn't blame her.
Load More Replies...I completely understand this. Since before I could actually read I THIRSTED for knowledge. I have been a huge bookworm since the second I could read. I am always longing for more knowledge. And I want to write everything down because I want to remember everything (while having a sh1t memory). And I can be good friends with people who are dyslexic or who just doesn't own any books. But it totally and completely does not work for me, romantically. I did try it out, though, but to me, even the s3x got boring. But talk to me about some niche history thing or some cool book about an obscure topic... that stuff is interesting for ever! And that is what keeps love alive for me: interesting conversations and learning stuff together. ❤❤❤
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Load More Replies...He broke up with his girlfriend, and I thought I might be interested. But then he and his ex appeared to be back together, so I backed off. Then I found out from another friend that he had absolutely no intention of getting back with his ex, he was just using her for affection and attention. My crush dried up and blew away in the wind immediately….
She had a confederate flag tattoo on her back. When I asked about it she very quickly made it clear she was super racist. .
Tennessee, Georgia or Alabama.... Bout could put money on Alabama tho
Load More Replies...I had been on maybe three dates with a dude when the subject of tattoos came up and he showed me the big black mess of c**p on his chest that was supposedly either the Motorhead logo or some of their album art (I forget, because it just looked like a Rorschach test). He mentioned that it was a cover-up, so I asked what the "new" tattoo covered. That's when he told me he had had a swastika tattoo...over his HEART. Ended it right there and never saw him again.
Wow! That is scary! At least it was covered up. But wow... to have it done at all in the first place. 😬 also, I love how you described the cover up as looking like a Rorschach test 🤭
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How quickly they were able to move between "partners" it was really fast. REALLY FAST.
Some people that switch from one partner to another really fast are usually very scared of being alone. They don't take the time needed for themselves inbetween relationships even though they need it.
Usually I try to be understanding, I know some people need to be in relationships. But. I knew this one woman, she came to hang out 2nd week of April and was so in love with her current partner with whom she had a 1.5 yr old "We got the house! We're getting married! He's going to reverse his vasectomy and We're having another baby!" Awesome, I am happy for you!! By mod January, she was married, she was married to another man and had just given birth to the new husband's child....
I was friends with a guy when he was married. Didn't talk to him for a few months (definitely less than a year) and found out he'd just gotten married to someone else. I didn't even think it was legally possible to get divorced and remarried in a matter of months, but yeah. Guy clearly couldn't be alone.
I had a crush on a boy that lasted from 2nd grade (so about 8 years old) till the beginning of 6th grade (12 years old) I was head over heals for him and only got to have fleeting moments together that never really lasted long. Until 6th grade we finally had a class together and I got to be his seat mate. I was over the moon!...for all about 5 minutes. He just kept talking.... and talking... and f*****g talking! When I'd finally get a word in edgewise he'd keep one-upping ANYTHING I brought up! So yeah my 3 year long crush died in a matter of minutes after actually talking to him lol.
In the wise words of smugdruggler, “Always remember, light travels faster than sound . That's why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.”
But I sometimes don't have an off switch and I then get so happy that all you will hear about is tanks and 40k
Load More Replies...Found out they actually liked me back and I freaked out. 8th grade was a wild time for crushes.
I've yet to meet someone who DIDN'T have a rough time in middle school.
Load More Replies...1. We had a lunch together that was full of innuendo but in a coy way that was even sexier. Then I went to work. By the time I got off my shift she had gone into and liked every picture I’d ever posted on Facebook. Ever. I had hundreds of notifications. Lunch was nice but it was not a proportional response. I told her it wasn’t happening. 2. Another woman, we were hitting it off and decided to head back to her place. Safe to say I was *excited*. Step inside, all smiles, hands on each other—hanging on the wall right inside the door an 8 foot nazi flag, shocking red with swastika the size of my torso. She says she just has it up for laughs. I wasn’t laughing. I was too young to be confrontational so I made a lame excuse and jetted. I could do more but they start to get increasingly gross and sad and I don’t want to think about them haha. Kept trying though.
Nazism is not a matter to joke about. Did she have a SS uniform to go with her flag? I would have burnt it on the spot!
Not unless you're putting on a production of the musical The Producers. If you haven't seen it, it has a "play within a play" called Springtime for Hitler and includes dancing Nazis. The producers think it will be so offensive that people will hate it - except they don't. Which is why their attempted scam fails. If you haven't see it you should!
Load More Replies...I have some males acquaintances that, as a group, like to read about and really talk about dictators. Any dictator, actually. And the dudes are really cool people... they just have an interest in dictators (and they know how awful all the dictators were and are. So no creepy flags or uniforms or anything like that.... just a bunch of books that they read and talk about). But even these guys do not see dictators as fun or something to joke about. I think that only people who don't know history very well can think that any dictatorship is laughable.
A program I've seen shows that even German today are embarrassed about the Nazi regime. They don't even want to talk about that period of their history.
Mentioned their wife.
In the 1970s I was standing in a long line at college registration next to an attractive woman student. Since the line was moving slowly, we had plenty of time to talk. During the conversation, she twice - and irrelevantly - mentioned that she had a boyfriend. I thought "OK, a little presumptive, but that's useful to know. And maybe the second mention is because some guys out there need things to be made clear." When we were through, I told her that it had been nice having someone to talk to and wished her a good day. As I turned to go, there was a complete look of astonishment on her face. Honey, "no" really does mean "no" to me, particularly when I didn't ask.
I had a slight crush in this guy Daryl. I saw him at the skating rink and started talking to someone he was with. Idk if I had even talked to him at this point but we had a lot of mutual friends. All of a sudden he turned around and said "Damn you're ugly!" Now I was a 12 year old girl and knew I wasn't ugly but it still destroyed me. Even if I was why would you say that to someone? I was crowned prom queen and he was there and I wanted to say something smart so bad but I didn't. Isn't it weird that one comment like that sticks with you even 31 (omg I just did the math) years later? F**k that guy, he follows me on IG and he married my friend.
What an idiot. Making others feel bad for no reason is just evil. Plus, in that age when everything is difficult enough.
This kid Mark told me that I looked like this ugly chicken that was in our biology text books. That really hurt for some reason. Mark and I actually became close a few years after that and he apologized and said he was just jealous I had a barely higher grade.
When I was in 6th grade a guy called me "fat a*s." I still remember. I remember what I was wearing that day and where I was when he said it. That was over 40 years ago. FU, RB
Yeah why do some people say stuff like that? Happened to me on several occasions and very few people told me the opposite, so... guess what I believe and always believed? It does hurt. 30 years later, 40 years later...
Nasty comment but she have actually let that guy live rent free in her head for 31 years? No more.
There are things you can't choose. Especially the ones that hurt.
Load More Replies...Was in high school and had a crush on this one boy. We were kind of friends. Then one day he told me about how he recently found out his best friend is gay, and proudly confessed he made fun of that friend and told him he was disgusting and never to talk to him again. I got up from the table we were sitting at, told him off, and walked away. Never spoke to him again.
A guy I had a crush on was driving me home from a party and as we were driving I saw a bunny rabbit about to cross the road and I told him to slow down he didn't stop or even slow down .he hit the bunny. I never talked to him again after that(also there were no cars by us, we live in a slow neighborhood).
That ain't a monster, that MF'er is an abomination to the human species that should be eradicated! >:-(
Seriously! My mother accidentally hit a bird once and I still remember the noise it made. I can't imagine how OP feels.
Load More Replies...There was a story somewhere on BP about a guy (OP) who went on a ride with a potential job candidate. The candidate was driving & went out of his way to hit & kill an armadillo with the car. He did not get that job.
Omg I had a psycho ex like this...hu ter type no remorse for animals I should have known.. after I begged him not to hit the rabbit he swerved just to hit it...I cried and wouldn't talk to him but of course I was in stupid love. Eventually left him and found out a couple years later he beat the everything sh1t outta his gf, put her through a table messed her up bad. Also stalked me at work and everywhere after I left him and throated suicide. I got so tired of it I told him to find a tree and run his truck into it for all I care. Then I moved outta the area for awhile. Now he's a smack addict from what I've heard
When I was in college I met a guy at a party. Thought he was so cute and was so excited when he asked for my number. We texted a little and he asked to hang out one night. I told him I couldn't because I was working late. I was a waitress and wouldn't be off until after midnight and I'd be so tired. He wouldn't take no for an answer. Not only did he want to hang out, but kept insisting I go to his house. At one point he told me he would wait up for me with a bottle of vodka ready to give me a back massage and cuddles with a winky fance emoji. 🤢 I got instant ick. Any chance of wanting to see him went out the door. Way too strong way too soon.
They shared their flat earth beliefs.
It's always best if flat-earthers are very open about their opinions. I want to see t-shirts that say "Birds aren't real" level openness.
Sitting around a campfire the conversation about circumcision came up and she started going into great detail about how gross she thinks circumcised penises are. Unfortunately I am circumcised, through no decision of my own as is often the case. One of my other friends thought it would be a good idea at that moment to ask me "Hey, aren't you circumcised?" Me while dying inside: "Yeah".
Losing a crush is one thing here, but I hope OP also lost that sh*tbag excuse of a "friend" too...
The appropriate come back to the ‘friend’: Couldn’t you tell when you had it in your mouth?
Load More Replies...Trying to think what would be gross about a circumcised penis. Not getting it.
I mean, I think they look ugly, but it's not like circumcised d***s aren't ugly also. It's not like OP even had a choice, probably done as an infant.
"Well, I'm circumspect, anyway. You might want to try that yourself."
I do not think it is ugly at all. She was just very rude and had no idea she was talking about.
I saw a news article that they were in custody for murder.
It worries me that so many women are attracted to criminals, and stick with them when they go into prison.
It doesn't mention gender in the post. Women can kill too.
Load More Replies...This happened over 10 years ago when I was in college. I was pretty interested in this girl I had the same major as. We would walk to classes together and study together. Then the Eric Garner incident happened and black students peacefully protested on campus. They didn’t interfere with classes or interrupt anything. We were walking to class one day and she loudly proclaimed “I hope all these monkeys get shot.” Her and I are both white. It was one of the most embarrassing, disgusting experiences of my life. I’m typically not someone who can flip an emotional switch. It takes time, sometimes a long time. In that moment though, I was instantly done. Never talked to her again or walked to class with her again…I couldn’t get hard thinking about her, either 😅.
Thats awful what she did, but that last line squished a lot of my sympathy for him
Why did he feel the need to let the world know that last part..? It was not needed, completely unnecessary, and gave *me* the ick.
On being invited to a study session at her place, seeing how wealthy and well to do her family was. It didn't kill the crush but I instantly realized how hopeless my crush was. Luckily for me she didn't mind that my family mostly lived on foodbank handouts. She was my first love and first Angel. RIP, P.
I'm creeped out by the last sentence. I interpreted it as the OP is a serial unaliver. I know it's almost certainly not the case, but the mind goes where the mind goes.
Yea, "first angel" definitely has a few serial killer vibes 😆
Load More Replies...I think he just picked the wrong last-summary-thought expression. Maybe something like "happy memories, Adios' would go better.
Had a crush on a classmate from college. Until 1 day she painted her face with activated charcoal and went running across the entire building screamind "OOGA BOOGA". It was only the start of weird things she did but decided to stay away from her right after that.
Oh shoot. Was it the entire face? I assumed like war paint.
Load More Replies...Blackface on white people is considered highly offensive here in the USA
Load More Replies...She came in close to tell me something and her breath smelled like wet cat food.
Recently hooked up with this dude. I was feeling self conscious and asked if he found me attractive after. He said yes and went on about his attraction to me. Finished it up with “even though you’re not the hottest girl I’ve ever seen”. Like sir that is not what I asked. Idk. That comment just felt unnecessary and did not make me feel great. .
Perhaps don't ask questions you might not like the answer to or maybe find a way to not need validation in the form of a hook up or the opinion of one.
He put me in a headlock and then tried to gaslight me about it 😭.
I saw him pick at his head and then put his finger in his mouth. Multiple times. I still think about that sometimes. What did he find on his scalp that was so tasty?
Picture a gorgeous Viking. Piercing green eyes, sculpted body and flowing hair. He was it for me until we had a conversation. I've never had the air taken out of my sail so fast!
Raiding was just a small part of a Viking's life: they were predominantly farmers.
Load More Replies...Imagine how shallow the commenters here would call a man that said this.
Her boyfriend showed up.
He had an obsessive vore fetish. He rejected me when I asked to date him, but later requested I send him pictures of my body in various vore-related poses.
I had a crush on a guy I worked with. We were both college students, he was going for high school education and I was going for early education. He started dating this girl who was still in high school. Like he’s going to be a high school teacher.
Not sure of entry ages, but couldn't this just be a 19-y-o- dating an 18-y-o? Even a year or so either side is not an unusual age gap, surely? I mean, once he's qualified and working as a teacher, obviously not, plus the age difference would be more by then, but you don't instantly become an "older man" as soon as you go to college.
This one was my fault, so we got together and she farted in my bed while lying down, I remember it smelled like meatloaf, anyway I took that as permission to fart in front of her, not remembering how foul my own farts are, she wanted to stop seeing me after she smelled a few of my farts.
Meanwhile, big green flag for m'lad: I was experiencing a rather desperate need to let off some.pressure whilst snuggled with him. I crept out of bed and hid in the bathroom for a few minutes. This happened twice more before he woke up slightly, and I apologized. In a half asleep state, he pulled me into a warm embrace and murmured, 'Just fart over the side of the bed, silly.' Like. He did not care. He just wanted to snuggle. ...we are still together, and we both giggle like kids over farts.
It was mutual attraction and once he burped on my face. I told him it is nasty and he should atleast put his hand on his mouth. He replied he wants to be comfortable with me to the point that he can fart in my presence. Just the thought made me feel like puking. The attraction didn't last long.
Seeing her while I was sober.
You'll get old one day,so old your skin shall sag,liver spots upon your hands,head and face,your voice will not be as striking and vibrant anymore but will be turned down to forced whisper,your eyes will lose that young luster shine and turn into glassy dry cloudy appearance,your eye sockets shall become tired and your eyes will sink into them,the years will appear on your mouth,every smile you ever flashed from birth to your last will leave their marks in the form of wrinkles,your body will slouch and your feet will drag with every step you take,your hands that once were smooth and fast shall be made weak and delicate and the skin easily cut so that you'll have to be fed by not your hands anymore but by a new pair of young strong hands that you once had but are now withered
Well thanks for that encouraging and very accurate description of my future. 🤪
Load More Replies...She slapped me. When I asked why, she said "Because I was frustrated." Nope... walked away and never spoke to her again.
I think my strangest one was a girl I liked at uni. I had a dream about her one night - nothing sexy, nothing unusual, in fact I can't even remember the details - and when I woke up I just didn't fancy her any more. Can't explain it!
Opposite for me. This colleague of mine who I had no feelings for came in my dreams. Next day I felt so awkward and shy when I met him.
Load More Replies...I met a guy through work, instant connection, asked me out straight away and i said yes... then I heard he'd been bragging about how soon he'd get me into bed. Big nope
I had a crush on a girl, and then young woman, for an unhealthy length of time. I finally got up the nerve, or matured enough, to ask her if she'd ever feel the same way. She replied that she'd like to be friends. Just like that the spell was broken, and I went on with my life. I still see her occasionally, and we're still friendly, but I have no regrets that it didn't work with her.
Some of these are a doozie! I am newly single after getting out of an abusive relationship i was in for 17 years. I am in noway looking forward to dating. This article only confirms my stance on getting close to anyone and starting another relationship. It's slim pickings anyway and I would rather be alone the rest of my life then fall back into a relationship with the wrong person again. As bad as the people in this article are, I still have a tiny shred of hope that I will find someone in due time. :)
Gotta remember that these are the worst of the worst and most will be embelisshed as it's Reddit after wall
Load More Replies...I was chatting to a guy online for months, and it was very flirty and fun. Then one day there was a protest in his area - I can't remember the cause of it, but Black people were protesting. I said "What's going on with the protests?" and he sent me a photo of his frankly huge gun collection and said "I'll sort those n-words out" and I have never blocked anyone so fast in my life. I hope his tattoos get infected forever.
Oof, as a tattoo lover myself (I have 20, lol), that is indeed a helluva curse! But in his case, I absolutely agree with you!!
Load More Replies...when I saw his car had a "Rush is right" bumper sticker on it. (for you younger folks and non-USians, that's for Rush Limbaugh, rightwing windbag talk show person in the 80's/90's who perfected "hate radio". He's dead now.)
She slapped me. When I asked why, she said "Because I was frustrated." Nope... walked away and never spoke to her again.
I think my strangest one was a girl I liked at uni. I had a dream about her one night - nothing sexy, nothing unusual, in fact I can't even remember the details - and when I woke up I just didn't fancy her any more. Can't explain it!
Opposite for me. This colleague of mine who I had no feelings for came in my dreams. Next day I felt so awkward and shy when I met him.
Load More Replies...I met a guy through work, instant connection, asked me out straight away and i said yes... then I heard he'd been bragging about how soon he'd get me into bed. Big nope
I had a crush on a girl, and then young woman, for an unhealthy length of time. I finally got up the nerve, or matured enough, to ask her if she'd ever feel the same way. She replied that she'd like to be friends. Just like that the spell was broken, and I went on with my life. I still see her occasionally, and we're still friendly, but I have no regrets that it didn't work with her.
Some of these are a doozie! I am newly single after getting out of an abusive relationship i was in for 17 years. I am in noway looking forward to dating. This article only confirms my stance on getting close to anyone and starting another relationship. It's slim pickings anyway and I would rather be alone the rest of my life then fall back into a relationship with the wrong person again. As bad as the people in this article are, I still have a tiny shred of hope that I will find someone in due time. :)
Gotta remember that these are the worst of the worst and most will be embelisshed as it's Reddit after wall
Load More Replies...I was chatting to a guy online for months, and it was very flirty and fun. Then one day there was a protest in his area - I can't remember the cause of it, but Black people were protesting. I said "What's going on with the protests?" and he sent me a photo of his frankly huge gun collection and said "I'll sort those n-words out" and I have never blocked anyone so fast in my life. I hope his tattoos get infected forever.
Oof, as a tattoo lover myself (I have 20, lol), that is indeed a helluva curse! But in his case, I absolutely agree with you!!
Load More Replies...when I saw his car had a "Rush is right" bumper sticker on it. (for you younger folks and non-USians, that's for Rush Limbaugh, rightwing windbag talk show person in the 80's/90's who perfected "hate radio". He's dead now.)
