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We humans are curious creatures, and what we say or do doesn't always seem rational. At least not on the surface. So Reddit user Fastenbauer got interested in digging a little deeper—they asked people online to share the things that everybody knows but nobody talks about out loud. And their post quickly went viral! Continue scrolling to check out the unspoken truths folks keep quiet, whether out of fear of judgment or the risk of offending others.

#1

People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud When people betray or abuse you, they know what they're doing. They're doing it on purpose, and they're not sorry. They're consciously making a choice.

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Angela B
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS. A million times, THIS.

Michael P (Perthaussieguy)
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And if you bring it up with them, they'll lie to your face.

Elladine DesIsles
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also - even when there is a reason someone cannot control their behaviour, it doesn't mean you have to live with it. Having empathy for someone's mental illness/trauma/etc and being able to forgive them does not require accepting ongoing abuse. You can walk away from a situation that isn't healthy for you without having to hate the other person or blame them. And you probably should, even if you love them (or think you do).

Alexandra
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The phrase 'I'm sorry, it just happened' when someone is caught cheating makes my skin crawl from disgust.

Jill Rhodry
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And if the other person is charming, helpful, generous to everyone else but abusive behind closed doors - they're turning if off and on, they absolutely know, and are choosing, what they're doing

Blondie23
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

took me too long in my first marriage to realize this. He kept making me feel like it was beyond his control and that is just such a huge lie!

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    #2

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Money absolutely matters.

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    Ellinor
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money would solve 70% of my problems, and I could pay a therapist to help me with the last 30%

    v
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, it actually solves 100% of your problems.

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    Verfin22
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    MOST of the richest people are greedy and selfish and won't dare to share it, even knowing they can help others. " I can't take it with me, so I'll spend a billion to see space for 10 seconds". I've seen more giving amongst communities struggling together than these 1 percent a s s holes.

    Júlia Fortes
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah, money does buy happines, stop saying it doesn't

    Michael P (Perthaussieguy)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I didn't have to worry about paying my monthly bills, I would enjoy life so much more.

    Donna Peluda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rich people say, money won't make you happy. No because they got it all. Money is the root of all evil the say, but if you ask for a rise, don't be surprised, there giving none away. Pink Floyd

    nottheactualphoto
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money doesn't "buy happiness" per se, but it can make a lot of problems disappear. Poverty has a huge amount of stress associated with it, and having money makes that go away.

    Lou Cam
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The stress of living in poverty is pretty much classed as a carcinogen. Yes money will help.

    Mike Loux
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "If money can't buy me happiness, I guess I'll have to rent it." -- Weird Al, "This is the life"

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yes. It might not make you always happy or 100% happy, but you are definitely happier with than without.

    Andrew Irish
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think people with solid financialmeans twisted what the phrase probably is supposed to mean. That money isn't everything, and it shouldn't be the point of life just for the sake of hording it. And like people who are ultra rich aren't necessarily happy. Not that not having any is totally fine. If we were free of money in a way that we didn't need it to be healthy and safe, then and only then could you argue it doesn't really matter. The only people who believe this are people who have never suffered from poverty. I always say, "careful, your privilege is showing!"I'm an anti-capitalist and even I don't pretend it "doesn't matter". Poverty sucks, and of those of us who live it, none of us are as healthy or happy as we so obviously could be.

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    #3

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Having mentally sane parents is one of the most important privileges in life, yet it isn't talked about nearly as much as race, class etc.

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    Pervinca
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would say that having good, hard-working parents is even more important and crucial that having rich parents. The right mentality can make you go a long way

    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money is freedom. Not having enough of it will ruin your life. Regardless of how hard working your parents are. If we didn’t have a handful of greedy sociopaths vacuuming up all the benefits of other people’s productivity, people wouldn’t have to be hard working, and could have lives instead.

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    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband and I aren't 100% mentally sane but what we are, is two people that see our faults and are honest about it with our kids. I think that makes a differnce too... we don't hide it from our kids and we take responsibility for it. I think it makes it easier on our kids because they see we are humans and faults are normal.

    LJS
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well said! I was going to say something similar but you put it way better.

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    Lou Cam
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mental ill health and poverty go hand in hand though. Then the poverty makes the mental illness health worse like a downward spiral. I come from a poor family with a lot of family members with severe mental conditions and it's a struggle for everyone.

    kansasmagic
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But how many people actually have "insane" parents? Sanity does not mean a complete absence of mental health challenges. You can have ADHD, anxiety, or depression (or all of the above!), but it doesn't make you insane.

    Philly Bob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was blessed. My Mom and Dad were awesome. Not just to me and my sisters but to our friends as well.

    Maria Maria
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    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Parents are likely as anyone else to have problems, mental once or otherwise. The greatest privilege is to have parents who do their best and show you unconditional love.

    okpkpkp
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother was truly insane, I finally came to realize many years too late. As a 5-6 year old I remember my mom screaming at me saying, 'I hate you and I wish you were never born. I hate you, all the while swinging her fists at me. I can still smell the bourbon on her breath. Gave me the chills.

    Mark Kelly
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well obviously everyone's parents should be sane. Bno one has ever said parents should be saying?

    Graf666Orlok
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only racists and race hustlers believe that race matters.

    JohninND
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And a state that doesn't actively work against that

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    #4

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud The world population is too high.

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    Michael P (Perthaussieguy)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Makes you wonder if plagues and pandemics are natures way of culling humans

    Lou Cam
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nature isn't sentient but yes, any population of animals that becomes too large to support itself will be reduced by starvation, disease, natural disaster.

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    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Quite a few people have been saying that very out loud for at least 50 years. First as a warning that the growth rate was unsustainable, and now pointing out how crowding too many people too close together leads to endless conflicts.

    Verfin22
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't say that to a Republican. They want all women to give birth no matter the situation. Women have no body rights in the US.

    UKGrandad
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the Republicans could find a legal way to only ban white women from having abortions, or better yet (from their point of view) make abortion mandatory for all non-white pregnant women they'd pass the law in a heartbeat.

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    Ron Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, it's really not though. The world is too selfish. We have more than enough resources on the planet to take care of about twice our current population. But the people with the resources aren't willing to share, so we've got haves and have nots, and the haves like to say there's too much population. In reality they're saying the have nots don't deserve to live.

    veirdbuttrue
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not really, I'm a have not and it's very clear to me that the planet is over populated by humans.

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    Jossh Nine
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The world's population is just too concentrated in certain areas.

    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    that is totally clear in the morning and afternoon during my commute... way too many freaking people in a finite area!!!! I yell this almost everyday

    B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read an absolutely brilliant novel about 3 years ago that addressed this issue so well that it actually changed the way I think about everything. It was called 10:59 by N. R. Baker and I have been trying to get as many people as possible to read it ever since. The Amazon/Goodreads reviews back me up. Honestly, if you're concerned about our planet and our future then read this book!

    Schmebulock
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uh...overpopulation is a common subject.

    Alexandra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some would argue the population is just too unevenly spread out over the world.

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    #5

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud People who get paid the least do most the work.

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    Donna Peluda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Business this is called the hooker paradox, the better you do your job, more people want to f**k you

    Alexandra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, it's also used to deny you a promotion because they say they can't find anyone as good as you. Whether that's true or not.

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    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And are dismissed as unimportant, even though the whole dámned show would fall apart without them.

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe not the most work, but the simplest, least interesting, filthiest, most unpleasant work.

    Papa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most of the time, what you know will earn you more money than what you can do with your hands.

    Cara Vinson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And eat fancy food at 'lunch meetings', go to 'meet and greets 'grip n grin's, tell other people it's not good enough/fast enough/enough Enough.

    Schmebulock
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People talk about this all the time.

    Sven Horlemann
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In German "Die Arbeit fließt dahin, wo sie gemacht wird".

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    #6

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud There actually *are* people above the law.

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    Tamra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the US, if you have enough money and influence, you absolutely can be above the law. In fact, we currently have a man who's been convicted of multiple felonies and not only is he still walking around free, but his sentencing was kindly delayed so he could run for president.

    CanadianDimes
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It still blows my mind that a sitting president could attempt to incite a coupe and be allowed to run again! *And* that they changed the constitution after the fact to be fine with it!

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    Lucifer
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Billionaires, Politicians, Judges & their kin(especially highly influential ones), Religious leaders, officers of law....list is long. Law is only for the "peasants"....the rest are usually above it.

    Graham Berry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They thought that in France until heads started to roll.

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    Michael P (Perthaussieguy)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money always influences people. Judges are not immune to being bribed

    Michigan Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can be a 34 time criminal felon, a convicted rapist, and still run around free AND run for president in America

    Freya the Wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I totally agree - that creep should NOT have been on the ballot in any US state or territory. I did my own teeny part by voting.

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    Rinso The Red
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fun Fact: "Privilege" is derived from the Latin "privus" (private) and "lex" (law). It literally means a different set of laws being applied based on status.

    Mike Loux
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If a crime is punishable by a fine, then it is legal for a price.

    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The King, for a start. As the law is in his name, he cannot stand trial. Otherwise you'd end up with R vs R...

    Kalevra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No there are not. They are just very powerful.

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    #7

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Looks do matter, and they matter a lot.

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    PeepPeep the duck
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah sadly they do, I look very normal / plain when I go out make up free but done up Im very pretty (made a living out of it) , and I like to take notice of the bias in people depending on my look. I used to go further in art school and mix up my old goth look into it too. Turns out no matter what ‘clique’ you dress for, there’s always gonna be haters, but lots of love too ❤️

    Jossh Nine
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We've evolved to want to make a better looking human instead of a physically and mentally stronger human.

    Cora Van der Gaag
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, our brain is still wired to sign that you are a healthy individual with a good chance to be able to get healthy offspring. Only the requirements for it have changed. Only our brains haven’t been updated for that yet. A hippopotamus will find an other hippopotamus beautiful but a human ugly.

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    Doctor Strange
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As an ugly person, I absolutely can confirm this. I get treated very differently than my best friend who is attractive.

    Littlemiss
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, especially if you're ugly and fat. All bets are off.

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    antoinette maldari
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just try using a dating app for sh*ts and giggles. You'll find yourself swiping (left? right? whichever says "HELL NO") just on looks without opening the profile.

    Boo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I may get down voted all to hell but here goes....it makes me wonder if these same attractive people would still be attractive if they didn't use makeup or style their hair.

    Pittsburgh rare
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. There are people who are attractive without a drop of makeup on and natural hair. Just a minority, but they are around. Anyone denying it sounds... envious.

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    Lou Cam
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some studies suggest that people make their mind up about you in 7 seconds of first seeing you. Before you're able to properly converse so yes that would be mostly based on looks.

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That happily vanishes once a pretty woman reveals that she is a jerk. As men get older and have experienced many beautiful but cruel women, they start to look more for kind women instead. Beauty becomes secondary.

    veirdbuttrue
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They do....Just wait until you get old lol.

    Rednose
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I much prefer someone without makeup but with a nice, genuine smile, which for me also includes the eyes. A lot of makeup equals "too much paint."

    Graf666Orlok
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL!!! Only idiots dont think looks matter. Our entire species is based on attraction. Looks, power, wealth, humor. It can be any or all. But by all means, if you are a body positive slob without a personality and no money, keep telling yourself they are just being bigots because they dont like you.

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    #8

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Emotional intelligence is vastly underrated.

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    Victoria
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, Social Intelligence. Goleman's books are really good with this. I learned a lot.

    #9

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud We all have dark thoughts that we dont act on.

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    Andrew Irish
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup, I studied this phenomenon in my degree program just last semester. Those rare but sudden horrific thoughts that pop in and make you wonder if you're secretly a psychopath, or at least a really bad person are normal, and are a sign of a healthy cognitive function. Your brain likes to stretch out and try things and play out scenarios that would probably never happen, or you would never want them to as a way to improve survival skills and improve brain plasticity. Nightmares are most likely a similar function; your brain is forcing you to essentially live through what you think are worst case scenarios so you can basically practice coping skills and survival methods. Some researchers think humans would have gone extinct a long time ago without nightmares. Btw night terrors are different, and one should seek treatment. I thought this was crazy fun to learn about.

    ILoveMySon
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting. Thank you for the information.

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    Tom Brincefield
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We're not supposed to act on them? Oops.

    Hans Georg
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sanity keeps your inner demon in check.

    Freya the Wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also a strong sense of personal honor - and a desire to avoid going to prison

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    PismoBob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, there are people that I wish would disappear from our reality. Especially after the election.

    Sarah Matsoukis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's just so exhausting when there's so many thoughts

    Philly Bob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Calls from the void!!

    Graf666Orlok
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Poe called it "the imp of the perverse".

    Orysha
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know if wanting to k.ill every facsist in the world counts as a dark thought or not?

    Rinso The Red
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Say the what now? Heard of this before as "intrusive thoughts" but I think my thinker might be broken, because it don't.

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    #10

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud That religion is a social construct, where you are born largely determines your religion. If you happened to be born in India there is over an 80% chance you will be Hindu. If you are born in the US you probably will be a Christian.

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    Lucifer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Religion should be like underwear. If it fits you, wear it. Don't force others to wear it & don't let your behind hang out of it for others to see....

    v
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Where do the people that like to wear other people's underwear fit into this picture?

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    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do find it odd that deeply religious people who are adamant that theirs is the one true religion never question the idea that if they were born elsewhere, they'd be equally adamant that *that* religion was the one true religion! It's all total nonsense.

    Hidalgo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Primarily exists because of its value as low cost social control

    okpkpkp
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Proud atheist for over 60 years in northern California.

    Shari Farrar
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One that is always based upon the superiority of men.

    PismoBob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was raised in 2 major religions as a child. First Christian and then Jewish. Fusk organized religion.

    Smeghead Tribble Down Under
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Religion is like a penis: It's fine to have one, it's fine to be proud of it, but please don't take it out in public, and definitely don't try to shove it down my throat.

    nuberiffic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The fact that there is more than one religion is proof enough that none of them are true.

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If humans were prevented from exposing their children to religion until their logical thinking skills were fully developed, religions would have few members. Adults raised in religious homes fail to apply logical reasoning to their belief system as religion always discourages applying critical thinking.

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    #11

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Children that are complete a******s exist.

    The parents know.

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    Hans Georg
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The parents often are also a******s. Otherwise they would do something.

    John L
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is a mistake people frequently make. They think of children as moldable mini-me's. While there is some of that, they are mostly their own persons and may turn out any number of ways regardless of their parenting. Some people are just born bad and others good. Plenty fall into the gray area....

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    Barry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the parents of those kids are the only ones that don't know

    Tams21
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Children that act horrible exist but they are never born like that.

    Kyra Holt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Working in education, I can confirm this!

    Panda Pandemic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The parents know because the parents are directly involved with why the child behaves that way.

    DC
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a classmate from 2nd to 6th grade, who was a sociopath. I didn't know how that sort of people were called, but on my first day at my 2nd primary school, I looked him in the eyes and they had this hollowness to them. Downright creepy, frightening even. The next years, he proved to me that he doesn't have a twisted, underdeveloped or otherwisely compromised sense for ethics, but simply none. This doesn't exist in his head. He knows - or, rather, knew, I don't know him anymore, and that's what I like best about him, by far - that there is such, but it's none of his. Proved this by words, by actions, by practically everything. Even the legally relevant things from primary school wouldn't fit into the character limit here, so I won't issue a list. Sexist AF, he was as well, but his mother (some sort of step-father was halfway present, or so ... not really involved, eventually left them, rumors credited this to my dear classmate's antics) was busy fending off enough already to even car

    Graf666Orlok
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exist? Most of them are complete, self serving a******s.

    Lila Allen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes...but there's a reason the kid is an a**. And it's very likely the parents fault

    Savage Susan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Children are the way they are because of their parents. Listen to the way kids abuse their teachers and it’s the same way their parents abuse them.

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    #12

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Some friendships only last as long as they're convenient or beneficial.

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    Ali H M Salehuddin
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unpopular opinion. I kinda like it that way anyway. Why would you want to maintain contact with your high school friends who are now so far removed from your life? Sure, if you somehow run into one another, a little chat over coffee is welcomed. But to keep your life story updated, organizing yearly re-unions and whatnots - naah!

    General Anaesthesia
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That might depend on your definition of friendship.

    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know there are people that have life long friends... good for them! But I am with most of the commentors on here... my friends have ebbed and flow through out my life and that's okay. I used to morn the loss of a friend but now I realize that it's okay to grow apart... it's life!

    SirWriteALot
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    meh ... that's a bit of a stretch. I don't have a lot of real friends, only a handful. And actually, I don't benefit from them, nor are they convenient. It's a hassle to meet up, it costs money to go drinking ... but they are my best friends. Maybe you might call it a "benefit" that I'm sure they'd drop everything to help me out if I needed them. That said, I had some "good" friends at work or Uni that I never saw again in my life after they left.

    ZestyBison
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Circumstantial friendships are valid. You get along for the time you spend together, think some school or work based friendships.

    Smeghead Tribble Down Under
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd rather be lonely the rest of my life than keeping getting hurt by ''friends'', which all I've ever experienced.

    Jason Roberts
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    all relationships by definition MUST be beneficial and when they stop being so they 100 percent should end

    Graf666Orlok
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some? Most. You only actually have one or two ride or die friends.

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    #13

    The amount of Government incompetance and wastefulness in many countries is staggering. And the only reason I'm not a libertarian is that I don't trust private enterprise either. History has shown time and time again that companies big and small will absolutely f**k over people given half a chance and especially if there are no laws and regulations.

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    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Private enterprise devotes an enormous amount of time and money working at having as few laws and regulations as possible. It is worse than government. Government may be inept, but it’s usually fairly benign. Private enterprise is sociopathic and greedy.

    Alexandra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me the biggest drawback of government is that people lose sight of the fact that the money they are spending comes from hardworking people. So stop spending it on fancy projects and do something about education and health care.

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    Chuckle Berry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The governments are tall controlled by the corporations and they solely profit over our collective expense.

    Katie Allen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Libertarians f**k over disabled people though

    kansasmagic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What governments and private firms have in common is a concentration of power. I tend to believe that most people, given a little bit of power, will do anything to hold on to it. Whether in pursuit of private profit or the "common good" (according to whom?), it doesn't seem to matter.

    Chuckle Berry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Governments are controlled by the corporations. They are the profiteers of the corruption soley

    Mark Kelly
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But that's something everyone says

    Curry on...
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd rather call out the people behind the cozy covers of corporations and private enterprise. There are some selfish greedy hateful people running these companies.

    AR
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least a lot of governments you can get something from. Not so from private companies. Libertarians are fools.

    Sean Sean
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've always been amazed that the entirety of the human race's prime motivator is making a profit, not bettering ourselves as a race.

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    #14

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Most newborn babies are ugly on the first day. 🤣.

    Amazing_Bug_468 , Jonathan Borba/Pexels Report

    Child of the Stars
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love my kids, but I'll be the first to admit that they both looked like a cross between frogs and an old man for the first 3 months or so.

    Freya the Wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Somewhere in my family is a picture of either my aunt or my uncle when just hours old. The wee bairn looks like a prize fighter!

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    John O'Donnell
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They all have a remarkable resemblance to Winston’ Churchill.

    Upstaged75
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one looks good after being squeezed through a small opening. ;)

    Amelia Jade
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess I'm the odd one out because I disagree. I was a doula for several years and got to be present when many babies entered the world. I genuinely found them all so cute. It was such a privilege to snuggle brand new babies on the regular. The one in the pic above? Adorable.

    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter was actually really pretty the first couple of weeks... then she got a bit gremlin like for about a month and then back to pretty... it was weird. But yeah... not all babies are pretty!

    Brian Droste
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have seen new borns or a few months old babies and people will say isn't she or he cute, and I am thinking no, it isn't cute.

    Kalikima
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my son looked pretty fugly the first day, but by the second he looked like a Gerber baby.. he's still a strikingly handsome boy, which is weird since neither his father nor I are that attractive.. lol

    Júlia Fortes
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they all look like knees. All of them

    Philly Bob
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Parents and friends: "OMG! It's a boy! Who does he resemble?" Me: Well, if Mr Potato head created a bloody football looking lump, you could say...

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    #15

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Some People don't apologize because they have remorse for what they did. They apologize because they think it will end the conflict.

    Sad_Estate36 , Alex Green/Pexels Report

    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And sometimes they apologise to end the conflict despite not being in the wrong.

    veirdbuttrue
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, did this recently. Think very carefully about this as it can come off as an admission of guilt. Learned the hard way

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    Mike Loux
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They're not sorry for what they did. They're just sorry they got caught.

    Ellinor
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes, when it's your family, you don't really have a choice.

    FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You always have a choice, but dealing with family definitely does make that choice so much harder.

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    iseefractals
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That you're upset, doesn't automatically mean that someone else has anything to be remorseful for. You're just upset. Distasteful as it may be, it's easier to give a little lip service than continue an argument with the type of person who thinks everything that happens in the world is a personal attack.

    Elladine DesIsles
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An apology should ideally be sincere, but it doesn't necessarily have to be an admission of guilt or wrongdoing. In my Anishinaabe culture, we believe that we take responsibility for the consequences of our words and actions, both intended and unintended. So, if I have done something that ends up causing someone harm, I am going to apologise not because I chose or was indifferent to the potential for that harm, but because I am taking responsibility for the chain of events I set in motion and regret the outcome, even if it could not have been anticipated. My obligation is to make things right as much as possible, not to retreat into defending my innocent intentions.

    Barry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still prefer them over the ones who won't apologize

    kansasmagic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So? You can't really demand or expect other people to feel the same way you do. If it keeps the peace who cares if they are "truly" remorseful?

    Sven Horlemann
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ..they apologize because, in a way, they benefit from it.

    #16

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud I shouldn’t have to ask “how are you” in a work email. It should be ok for me to just talk business and get straight to the point. .

    dumbinternetstuff , cottonbro studio/Pexels Report

    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is this an American thing? I don't think I've ever started an email with platitudes.

    Bored Sailor
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not at all an American thing. Never done it, do not see it.

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    Mike Loux
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is often a culture thing. I have had meetings with folks in our Indian office, and you gotta talk about pleasantries for 5m before getting down to business. I honestly don't mind.

    Me
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've owned a business in the US for a number of years and I have never done this in a work email. That seems odd to me.

    SirWriteALot
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aw man, there's this one colleague who always starts with "hope this finds you well" ... even if the emails are like 1h apart.

    Emilu
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    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm that person. Sorry. (Hope my comment finds you well 🤣)

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    Meagan Glaser
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    never had a business email from an existing contact start with pleasantries, only phone calls. Weird

    Nor
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The bane of my existence...I trust / hope this email finds you well. I wish it just wouldn't find me asking that dub@$$ phrase...tsek man

    Lyone Fein
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A little sugar always helps win allies.

    nuberiffic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why even say hello then? Why employ any manners at all?

    Barry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I might say "I hope you're well" but I sure wouldn't ask "how are you?"

    Damned_Cat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It never hurts to start with a small pleasantry, especially if you are about to ask for something. "I hope your day is going well", because I'm about to ruin it...

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    #17

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Nobody’s actually read the Terms and Conditions, like ever. We just scroll to the bottom, hit accept, and hope we didn’t sell our souls to some tech overlord. 😂.

    FarhadTowfiq , RDNE Stock project/Pexels Report

    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That one guy did, and discovered a clause about winning $1000 if you were the first person to contact the company about the clause!

    SirWriteALot
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks! Going to ctrl-f for "$" or "€" from now on!

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    DennyS (denzoren)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually read one for a local app recently and it basically said they are gaining access to all my contact information and consent to use it for marketing...which was messed up. Deleted the app.

    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All commercial or corporate aps are spyware. I’m constantly amazed by how casually people invite then into every minute detail of their lives.

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    Mike Loux
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What was the joke - "Even God hasn't read the Apple Terms and Conditions"

    cerinamroth
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't it Adam and Eve, the first to ignore the Apple's terms and conditions?

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    XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read them. Most of them are standard legalese with a dash of "oh yeah & you grant us access to your contacts, photos, etc. in perpetuity & when you die we have free access to your ghost." It's on everything really. You'd be surprised how often & easily you've signed away your privacy. The Brits are the best at adding cheeky clauses though: This one from Purple had people willingly agreeing to community service https://purple.ai/blogs/purple-community-service/ .............. F-Secure added a "Herod clause" for first born child: https://archive.f-secure.com/weblog/archives/00002749 ............ And GameStation added an "Immortal Soul clause " https://consumerist.com/2010/04/16/read-fine-print-or-gamestation-may-own-your-soul/

    Elladine DesIsles
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read them too. Okay, not 100% of the time, but I usually give them a decent skimming over, at minimum.

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    The Dave
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There South Park episode about this is great. It’s called “Human CentiPad”

    Steve Robert
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There should be a law that "terms and conditions" must be able to fit a single sheet of paper.

    Alexandra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is true. However, if terms and conditions are 20 pages long in small print and legalese, a judge will rule in the favour of someone who hasn't read it or couldn't understand it. There's no sense in presenting people with something they can't be expected to understand.

    Regina Holt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those things have so much legalese in there to cover the company from any any any thing that can go wrong. And you know there is enough wiggle room for them to screw you over if something goes wrong.

    Taffy Renee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, because most of them are insanely long and worded in a way a lot of people won't understand.

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    #18

    People aren’t equal. I don’t mean by race. Racism is nonsense.

    Some people are good looking nice smart and athletic and had the right upbringing. They got it all . Some people have nothing going for them.

    Not even equal before the law.

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    Hans Georg
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All people are equal. But some are more equal than equal.

    JohninND
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Orwell's"Animal Farm" : 'All animals are equal, some are just more equal than others'. Probably being scrubbed from'reakuty' as it exists for many as we speak.

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    kansasmagic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You left part out: People aren't equal, *and that's okay*. Or, it should be. The problem is when we start assigning value to such 'natural' inequalities: Oh, you are handsome, charming, and athletic? Well then, you *deserve* a high six figure salary!

    Taffy Renee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People aren't even equal under the law. If they were, Trump would already be in jail.

    Ariom Dahl
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    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I borrowed this from Desiderata and acknowledge that fact: 'If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.' So true, imo.

    Shari Farrar
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    AND, they can punctuate, making their point easy to understand!

    Graf666Orlok
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The idea that all men are equal is a juvenile fairytale.

    iseefractals
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course they're not. Looks, talent, skill, knowledge, experience, intelligence, humor, personality. Race doesn't play into any of that....but a vocal minority continues to push for equality of outcome.....and the metrics for that is race/gender/sexual preference....which is in and of itself, discriminatory.

    April Pickett
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't blame society for your situation. This is not a "poor me" society expecting handouts without reason. Yes, people need services, but you don't stop there, you have to try for yourself to better your life. Ex. Started as a dishwasher, moved up to wait staff, moved around to different jobs, and try for the maiter'd position. You can go to school, take training be something else. Daycare is provided, and learning is available. You do have to be sensible, practice common sense, and be practical.

    Philly Bob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And you too, can be rich just like Trump, Musk, Bezos... they were born in poverty and pulled themselves into unknown riches!! LOL! Yeah... you keep believing that hard work and ethics will make you rich. See how far you get! /snark

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    #19

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud That we are all certain to die and be completely forgotten within a handful of generations.

    Notmyrealname , Anna-Louise/Pexels Report

    FlamingoPanda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah, you got to eat one artwork from each major art era. Then break into a famous architectural landmark and live there for a few months for good measure.

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    Graf666Orlok
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Generations? dont be naive. Youve got 40-50 years at best before nobody cares that you existed outside of that one photograph they find in a dresser drawer and dont know who you are.

    Janet L
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And all the stuff we’ve loved and collected and cherished will mean absolutely nothing

    ZuriLovesYou
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell that to Beethoven. He died almost 200 years ago. But people haven't forgotten him or his music.

    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Virtually all of us. There are a few that are remembered for centuries. Or even millennia.

    nottheactualphoto
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are also a few who become professional athletes, but your and my odds of doing so are equal to zero (to a close approximation).

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    Ariom Dahl
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    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You aren't truly forgotten until no one in the world remembers your name.

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    #20

    People often pretend to be happy when they're not.

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    Michael P (Perthaussieguy)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People with depression and similar issues are in this category

    okpkpkp
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like me today in the barber's chair. Neither of us talked and we both know why. Yesterday's election. She is Iranian-American. She became a citizen in time for Hillary's run. But Trump will try and find a way to deport her, and many like her.

    April Pickett
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are conditioned by your parents to be this way. Always be nice, consider the other person's needs. Go quietly and stay out of other people's way. Be polite and helpful. Subjugate your needs. Do as you're told. Dress appropriately. Mind your manners and help others when you can are a few. Especially if you are female.

    Agamemnon O'Neill
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Most men live lives of quiet desperation."

    Alexandra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because they believe in 'fake it till you make it' . It should be 'fake it till you break it' with the 'it' being you.

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The hope it that by pretending to be happy, one can maybe meet someone else who becomes a friend and that truly will lift you out of depression.

    Littlemiss
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially when bought up to believe that smiling alone fixes anything and everything. You can be suicidal, but you better fn smile! Thanks mom and dad

    Kathy L
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially people with kids.

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    #21

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud We are all just kids walking around in grown up bodies.

    ThatOneChick57 , Cameron Casey/Pexels Report

    Kombatbunni
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m 50 and I still feel like I’m stuck in my teens mentally sometimes. As someone once said to me, I may grow old, but I will never grow up :D

    Lowrider 56
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im 68 now and every time I'm around my Mom, I feel like kid.

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    Weltschmerz
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had this conversation with my mum recently, asked her do you ever feel like you're a grown up/ adult. She's 68 and she said no!

    SirWriteALot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Na, some people seem to have their s**t together. The ones you talk to, know. they're younger but you feel like you're talking to your parents. Investments, building stuff, career, politics ...

    Philly Bob
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not one of us came with an operator's manual... I know I didn't. If I did, someone dropped it in water and now the pages are all stuck together.

    Amelia Jade
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think about this almost daily. I'm a grown woman. I'm 50. I've raised three kids. I'm a responsible, bill paying adult. Yet, I love video games, cartoons, stuffed animals, and toys. I'm still afraid of the dark. I've never outgrown toilet humor. One of my sons recently joked that I was spending my weekend as a 12 year old boy in the 2010s because I spent the weekend playing GTA online, and watching The Whitest Kids You Know. I went a lot of years waiting to suddenly be mature, sophisticated, serious--like my mom and my grandma. They seemed so....adult. Around 40 is when I realized that was never going to happen. I'm responsible, but I'm not mature or sophisticated. I just turned 50 but I don't feel far removed from my 18 year old self at all.

    FrogMan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife and I have two daughters, but she tells everyone she has three kids.

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    #22

    Consumer capitalism is destroying our habitat super quickly and with every passing day we make it worse.

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    Júlia Fortes
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    there's an author in my country that says that "Only when the last tree is cut down, the last fish is caught, the last river is polluted, will people realize that they cannot eat money", i wish more people would listen to what he has to say

    Regina Holt
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Companies keep selling us stuff, stuff, and more stuff. And that stuff has planned obsolescence, so it won't last as long as stuff in the past. And they push their stuff on consumers urging them to buy more and more and more. I have a simple laptop, simple cell phone, basic TV, (no streaming), and a CD player. That's it for electronics.

    Freya the Wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They sell us cr@p because we buy it, and we buy that cr@p because we have been brainwashed. When we learn to be happy with less, when we downsize and declutter, we win over them, we triumph over greed.

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    Victoria
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    E. O. Wilson's idea of Half Earth should be tried before we fry ourselves.

    Lyone Fein
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it is overpopulation, plain and simple.

    Sean Sean
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like I said in an above post, the Prime Motivator for the Human Race is profit, and we'll sacrifice ourselves and our prosperity to give a small number of humans all the profit, so they can live a decent, healthy life.

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    #23

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Everybody knows that success often comes from luck and timing, but we rarely admit it. We prefer to believe it's all hard work and talent.

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    María Hermida
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We don't "prefer to believe..." We are fed that lie so that we work like slaves to make a few people rich instead of admitting the system is against us and we'll just survive paycheck to paycheck forever. We are closer to being homeless than rich. Any misfortune can make you destitute, however hard you've worked.

    Meagan Glaser
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think OP was referring to *our own* successes. As in when good things happen to us, we create a mythology of why we deserve it or earned it.

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    Pervinca
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would say that most people also don't see their own luck, always concentrating to other people privileges and making excuses for themselves. If you are born in a western/first world country, you are privileged. If you don't have a deadly disease or a life-threatening disability, you have a privilege. If you don't live in a country at war or under a dictatorship, you have a privilege... It seems to me that nowdays we have, generally, much more than in the past, but we are all so good to make excuses for ourself.

    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's totally right time right place... look I have seen this first hand mutiple times in the last 10 years....

    Savage Susan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The "self-made man" is mostly a myth. Elon Musk, Trump, were given a start that most people could only dream of.

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One cannot take advantage of a lucky event if one lacks the necessary knowledge and skills to make something of it.

    Marilyn Holt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go to school. Study hard> You'll get a good job: Not any more.

    FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on your degree field/major or whatever technical degree or certification/skills you have more, nowadays, imo. Plenty of people continue on and earn degrees or certifications or whatever and have excellent careers, some also pay very well 🤑 but I feel like now certain degree fields/skills are what is in demand and where you will find high paying, great careers more frequently versus people with a liberal arts degree or some other niche degree field.

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    Brian Droste
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I belive it involves intelligence and have a flare for business also.

    Cool crow
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't this depend on how we define success? For some people, money and status are important and for others, not so much.

    Scott Rackley
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not working and not improving your talent certainly reduces your luck and timing.

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    #24

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud That being alive at all and conscious is just really, really weird.

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    Freya the Wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That the Universe even exists is really, really weird. Where did all this come from? No invoking a creator deity, because you're just kicking the can down the road - where did that deity come from?

    guinea_pig
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my religion, the Universe was created by a "deity" who exists outside of time. It's beyond human comprehension/understanding.

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    Shari Farrar
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately, it's all I've ever known so it's totally normal for me.

    Deborah Joanne
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I see those bottle gardens, I wonder if that is what this universe really is.

    Jocelyn Webster
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One never choose to be born, we just are. And then have to live the life we're given the best we can. I'd rather have not been born. Then this philosophy doesn't have to bother me so.

    Steve Robert
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe we're just avatars in some alien's computer game.

    Cool crow
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favourite answer: this all came from nothing.

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    #25

    Most people spend their time complaining about things out of their control rather than fixing things in their control.

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    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's the ones who complain about things entirely within their control that bug me!

    ILoveMySon
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YES! My neighbor is exhausting in that she continually complains. I have made suggestions to help but she doesn't take action. I find myself hiding from her now.🤣

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    Meagan Glaser
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "people keep talking about the lifeboats and the iceburg, when they COULD be fixing this deckchair situation!"

    okpkpkp
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Things in my control don't need fixing.

    ZuriLovesYou
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's because the things that aren't in my control are the most frustrating.

    Josh Hart
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jeez… can’t vent here and there? Ivory tower people….

    Sarah Matsoukis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The things in my control don't usually bother me that much

    Marilyn Holt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel this way about plans to live on Mars or the Moon. Sure--we're destroying the earth, let's find somewhere else.

    Ron Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Er, that's because they can't control them so they can't fix them.

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    #26

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Violence sometimes is the answer.

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    Jossh Nine
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes that f****r needs a punch in rhe mouth.

    keyboardtek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But who has the moral high road to be the judge of who deserves that punch in the mouth?

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    Hans Georg
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Although I think that violence just brings up more unnecessary violence, it is sometimes the only answer some people understand. Nonetheless it should only be the last resort.

    Freya the Wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Violence is an absolute last resort. Not everybody will listen to reason or logic. Some people and organizations laugh at olive branches. Avoid violence when at all possible - but if you have no choice but to open a can of whoopass, make sure it's a Costco-size can of industrial strength whoopass.

    Regina Holt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Russia, North Korea, China. I kinda think we should think about them.

    Philly Bob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now that Rumpy will be president, they'll be "our friends!!" Joy and fũkkin yummy!

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    Marilyn Holt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But in a war, the people who decide on violence are never the ones on the front line

    Lou Cam
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone is coming to attack you then perhaps or maybe running away is better.

    Orysha
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes you can't run. You need to be the last one standing.

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    Regina Holt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And somehow, he endorsed Kamala Harris over tRump!!!!!!! That's how bad tRump is!

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    Philly Bob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They say God made man... Smith and Wesson made them equal. Until some sonofabitch came out with the AK47.

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    #27

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Most meetings could easily be an email, but no one wants to admit it because 'face time' somehow still feels important.

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    Umberto Cavallaro
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Often speaking to each other in person resolves issues more quickly than a Q&A via email

    iseefractals
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not resolving issues in a productive way though, it's just that you're more likely to avoid confrontation when face to face. So you're not going about doing something in the best possible way, just the least contentious.

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    Huddo's sister
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My work stopped running weekly region meetings (online) for this reason and it's so much better

    Rinso The Red
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    General rule - if two emails in and they still aren't getting it, call them. You'd be amazed

    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    General rule. Put it in writing. That way the story can’t be changed retroactively.

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    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I absolutely loathe “meetings”, but I do most things in person.

    Meagan Glaser
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm pretty sure "this meeting could have been an email" is a super common sentiment. If it makes it into meme's I don't think "no one talks about it" applies

    Papa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree that most meetings could be an email. Maybe most meetings could be a series of emails, but the meeting is often faster.

    Kathy L
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Face time" is the control freaks' excuse to micromanage.

    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS....IS...PAINFULLY....TRUE!!! Meetings are so antiquated! My manager recently went through all my meetings and got rid of most of them because they weren't helping me get work done. Now I have only a couple of meetings a week and I am getting sooooooooooooooooooo much done!!!

    veveve
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my experience, sometimes there is a background story (mostly people related) that helps to understand the core issue but could not be declared openly in an email or larger meeting forums

    Surgichick
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You also could've told me that in 10 minutes (not 3 hours)

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    #28

    Gambling is a sucker’s game. Unless you make it a career (and in some cases even then), you will lose more than you win in the long run.

    As long as you recognize that and you are willing to “spend” the money for entertainment purposes, more power to you. But if you think gambling is a good money-making idea, think again.

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    Donna Peluda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work in the gaming industry. The amount of people I hear that make a living, professional poker played etc. All BS. The pros you see on TV are sponsored but the on-line gaming platforms. That's how the make a living. Poker at best is a game where you can apply strategy the same way you can in monopoly ludo or parchís. But at the end of the day it's a game of chance.

    Victoria
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maria Konnikova thought the same until she became a poker player. Made good money too. She was a writer for The Atlantic and wanted to write about it, and got good enough to become one herself. Her book is quite a fascinating read.

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    BookFanatic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom took me to a casino for my 21st birthday. I brought $30 and lost it within about five minutes. Very glad I brought a book as a back up. Pretty sure Security thought I was casing the joint.

    Meagan Glaser
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because nobody told YOU, it doesn't mean nobody talks about it. I don't think anyone but children and gamblers in denial think gambling is some path to riches

    Tom Brincefield
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can make a living playing blackjack, if you follow exactly the correct strategy. But you aren't gambling as such, you are just following the odds. And apparently, it's boring as hell.

    Júlia Fortes
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah, normally people are not thinking about earning money... they're just addicted you know?

    ZestyBison
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's how I view gambling, you're paying for the experience as well.

    Dumb teenager
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s a win sum game. It doesn’t produce anything and so anything you gain comes at another persons loss, and vice versa

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    #29

    Most of the gay scene (from an LGBT perspective) is extremely toxic and ironically closed minded and judgmental of any outsiders (i.e. straights).

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    Clown fish
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've seen them be judgemental of more, than straight people

    RabidChild
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd say most of ANY scene is this way. Cliques gonna clique.

    Slowdown
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a gay guy, I agree with this. The most openly sexist people I see are often times gay men. Or gay folks in my life who can't fathom that I have straight male friends that I'm not sexually attracted to.

    Sean Sean
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because you are LGBTQ+ doesn't mean you can't also be an a*****e.

    Ron Man
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This could be said about any, "scene". Once you start calling out and defining a group, that group becomes toxically self aware and self appointed gate keepers start forming.

    Ronald McElroy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go to Queerty to read the comments and you’ll see a lifetime of bigotry and hate in one article.

    AR
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Which is really stupid because hate is stupid.

    iseefractals
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can say the same about anyone who subscribes to any flavor of "identity" politics. Discrimination posing as acceptance.

    Janet L
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s got nothing to the misogyny and hatred shown to women by trans gender activists. Not transgenders - they’re good - but the toxic activists that purport to represent them.

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    #30

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud How disturbing the food industry is. How pigs, fish, cows, chickens are all harvested so we can eat them. How can we not expect aliens to do the same s**t to us if that’s what we do to our fellow earth inhabitants.

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    b s
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everything living feeds off of something that was once alive.

    Mobey Drunk
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of the reasons why I'm vegan.

    Freya the Wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Knowing what animals go through to become our meals was one of the main reasons I went vegetarian years ago.

    The Shark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only if we happen to be tasty to alien life forms... Which of course depends on whether or not they even subsist on the same compounds Earth creatures do. They may have evolved in such a way that their bodies recycle and produce much of what they need and their entire biology is silicon-based rather than carbon. Fun to ponder, but no way to really know for sure what else is out there in the universe.

    Victoria
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    98 percent of all the mammalian mass on earth is either humans or animals humans have domesticated. This is unsustainable. I'm not including chickens here either.

    Philly Bob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have too much fat and would ruin all of their recipes.

    ZestyBison
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are over 8 billion people on Earth. You don't think there needs to be some system in place to keep everyone fed?

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    #31

    No one actually knows what they're doing. We're all just trying our best.

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    kansasmagic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like to say that we are all playing "grown up". But, as is true for all games, some play better than others.

    Hans Georg
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No problem so far as long as you learn from it.

    #32

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud The "Not In My Backyard" philosophy runs deep and is essentially universal. Even the most liberal-minded, progressive, educated, compassionate people can have a meltdown when something uncomfortable or "unbecoming" pops into their lives.

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    v
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd say the primary difference between right and left meltdowns is that left meltdowns generally encompass topics/ideas/ideals that truly impact a relatively large social sphere, whereas right meltdowns generally encompass topics/ideas/ideals that has zero impact outside of their personal bubble.

    Elladine DesIsles
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this is prevalent, but not universal. I live in a neighbourhood that has, within the range of a few blocks, million-dollar condos, non-profit housing, and tent encampments. It is a very complicated dynamic. And yes, I encounter things every day that I wish weren't happening - open d**g use, vandalism, human waste in public places, and also people who are struggling being victimized by those in power. I'm here, hoping things can improve for every member of this community - advocating in favour of safe-injection sites, meal programs, etc, and against the removal of encampments until truly appropriate alternatives exist. People need help and I want to see them get it, I'd rather it happen next-door than not at all.

    JohninND
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nailed it. "Item" for thee but not for me. Why they have no credibility.

    BookFanatic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. My city (US) wanted to build a shelter for people experiencing homelessness. They tried three different times, in three different areas. The first was blocked by "politics." The second was voted down. The third was simply overwhelmed by neighbors who "didn't want those people in our neighborhood."

    #33

    Being on your period isn’t an excuse to be a complete b***h to the rest of the people in your household.

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    Seán Hannan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People often don't understand the difference between a reason and an excuse. "I didn't do my homework because I stayed up too late the previous night watching horror movies, and I fell asleep when I should have been studying," is a perfectly understandable reason, but it does not excuse you for not having your homework done. "I'm angry with everyone because my hormones are out of wack and I'm in constant, low-grade pain," is an understandable reason for acting like a complete b!tch, but it does not excuse it.

    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In a similar vein, I analyze and quantify the reasons for my mistakes, so I’ll be less likely to make the same mistake again. I am -constantly- accused of “making excuses”.

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    Nea
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really dont know even one girl/woman who does this.

    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess that depends on how the rest of the people in the house behave toward the woman who is in agonizing pain and complete hormonal chaos. If you're being inconsiderate douchebags then yes, she can be a complete b***h.

    HardBoiledBlonde
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone doesn't understand hormones and doesn't want to.

    BarfyCat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's very hard to be all sunshine and rainbows when you're in excruciating pain

    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with this... even when I am feeling like complete s**t I know I can control the way I treat those in my household... you do have to be responsible for your behavior!

    Lila Allen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look here's the thing. Being on our period doesn't make us a B. It makes us far less willing to tolerate the utter c**p we usually suffer in silence

    ZuriLovesYou
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why I just stay in my room and don't talk to anyone.

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    #34

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Stereotypes exist for a reason.

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    Pervinca
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they aren’t true, but they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story." - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

    SirWriteALot
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For every stereotype you'll find a number of people who don't confirm them. So basically stereotypes are like broken watches ... right some of the time.

    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Traits run in groups, even though they aren’t universal to that group and can’t be used to assume things about individuals.

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    Agamemnon O'Neill
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this way about tourist traps. Niagara Falls is popular for a reason.

    #35

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Brown nosing works.

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    Kristiina
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always wanted to master this talent but if I try to falsely please someone it goes horribly wrong and the outcome is even worse than before. Maybe I'm just a bad liar 🤥

    #36

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Our world is a house of cards. It’s all meaningless but we all rely on the structure so no one wants to knock it down.

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    John L
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people think the justice system is meant to protect the innocent and right wrongs...it's not. It's meant to protect social order.

    Orysha
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I want to knock it down but unfortunately reality isn't a 90's American action movie. That makes me very sad.

    Regina Holt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    tRump wants to knock it down.

    Tom Brincefield
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, he wants to rearrange it so he is on top permanently.

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    #37

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Almost all jobs are made up b******t that doesn't matter, and are just part of this big network of made up b******t that doesn't f*****g matter. It's just a system to sustain this many people who are mostly useless.

    hereticjones , energepic.com/Pexels Report

    Dumb teenager
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’d say the only genuinely useless jobs would be in marketing, investing and politics and some militaries. I can’t think of any other careers that don’t improve our quality of life in at least some way

    Slowdown
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see what you are getting at, but I work for accountants who solicit business from high net worth people. Our company's roll, is regarded and communicated as "extremely important". In reality, all we do as a company is make sure rich folks have enough money to spend and their bills are paid on time. We aren't saving lives or changing the world.

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    FrogMan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe, but it’s a living…

    Chuckle Berry
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All jobs provide purpose for those that cannot generate or see their own purpose.

    Your Mom
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a Hungarian human ethologist, Vilmos Csányi, who says this - although with a little less *s :D He says, since the very small % of population can produce enough food for all of us, and another not very big % produces things we really need (clothing, for example), we had to invent jobs for people who are not very useful in terms of surviving. He doesn't say it's bad. He says we need more services and less production because people have to live from some jobs, but if we produce more, we ruin the planet faster.

    Sean Sean
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most jobs are there just to funnel money up to a small number of people, so they can live healthy, decent lives. You just have to toil away and hope you get lucky.

    Lou Cam
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll openly admit my job is just compensating for apps and systems that don't work as planned. If IT ever get their a**e in gear I'm redundant.

    kansasmagic
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I often feel the same way, but I have depression. Sometimes the world reflects my depression right back at me. But I also can't believe that most people feel this way, or even a significant minority. I assume most people do believe that the work they do is important and valuable.

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    #38

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud People who post constantly on social media are projecting and miserable.

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    PeepPeep the duck
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree I love sharing my art and my ducks and ducklings a lot and it’s fun

    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it very much depends on what you post. If all your posts are "look at me! look how great my life is!" then the comment is probably true. If you're sharing funny things your ducks do, that probably shows that you're much more content with life.

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    Ron Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lol It sounds like the poster isn't all that self aware and are describing themself.

    Blondie23
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this is so true!!!! 10-15 years ago I used to post a lot. I was in a terrible marriage. Now I am in a wonderful marriage and happier than ever and I rarely post!

    M Calad
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I kinda agree. I never had social media before and recently opened IG for uploading my art and checking others' art. It was inevitable for me to end up slowly adding some friends and family. The ones that I know that are secretly having a hard time are the ones who post the most, like all the time, even if it's just memes or quotes. It tells me they crave attention and constant validation. It is sad in a way.. and annoying to be bombarded with nonsense! I barely check IG now, only when I want to find a painting technique.

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    #39

    Our current economic system is not Capitalism it is Free-Range Slavery.

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    Ron Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is what capitalism is.

    All profits to charity
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Free range slavery. lol. I’ll have oxymorons for 100, Alex

    Pervinca
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    1 year ago

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    Not sure about that. People love to complain about this system, which is full of flaws, but is the better system we have had in history. Look at all the progress in medicine, science, technology, freedom... In the past they didn't have the choices. We love to romanticize the past, but the thing is, we have choices. We have the instrument to change our life easily, move away, change job. In the past this wasn't possible. We have the education. We have the possibility to cure ourselves. SOmetimes is expensive, but in the past it wasn't possible even with the money. I would say we should start to find good alternatives to our lifestyle if we don't like it, instead of just blaming a system that have indoubtly given us benefits

    RabidChild
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was true up until about the 80s when greed became god and politicians deregulated everything to allow for shameless corruption.

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    #40

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Existence is terrifying. Where do we go after? Is it nice? Is it horrible? Is there just nothing? Why are we here? The idea that we may live on in some other realm FOREVER, even if it is pleasant, is also daunting.

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    Sand Ers
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The question “why are we here?” presupposes that there is a reason. The thing that really terrifies most people is knowing that there isn’t one. So they invent reasons, and then desperately cling to them.

    Ron Man
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Before you were born you were nothing and you were nowhere. After you die, you go back to being nothing and nowhere.

    Lou Cam
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The afterlife is exactly the same as the 14 billion years we had prior to being alive....remember those? Nothing to worry about.

    Regina Holt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was younger and suicidal, I was afraid of going to hell, as all catholics who sin would go. Now, I can't die because I would not be able to find someone to take care of my cats as well as I do.

    SirWriteALot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's where religion comes in to save the day. They have all the answers, where you're from, where you're going, and how to get there.

    Freya the Wanderer
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately, those are answers that are not supposed to be questioned. Bad things often happen to those wo do.

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    Michael P (Perthaussieguy)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would lik to recommend reading The Egg - by Andy Weir. It will blow your mind. https://www.galactanet.com/oneoff/theegg_mod.html

    Austzn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope I come back as one of those 200 year-old alligator snapping turtles.

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't we just kind of go along with it and not ask? I feel like that's an option.

    Nea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not pleasant at all!!!

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    #41

    Everyone is not equal but, everyone should be treated with equal respect.

    But it’s weird how I’m western countries everyone has equal rights, but oddly they don’t have equal responsibilities.

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    Pervinca
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the western world we love to say that we treat people equally, but we never do. Most times the worst you are the better offer you get (corrupted politicians, murderers, rapers, tax evasors, criminals with "mental issues"... and I can go on)

    Agamemnon O'Neill
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Mental illness" is a real thing and is almost never accepted as a defence.

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    RabidChild
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you really think everyone has equal rights you've not been paying attention.

    Regina Holt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In 'murica where we are supposed to have equal rights - yeah, we have never had equality. So many folks oppressed for so many different reasons. Indigenous peoples, slavery, women's rights, rich versus poor. We have NEVER had equal rights in 'murica

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    #42

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud When someone asks "How are you?" they don't actually want to hear how you are.

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    moody goody
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, its an extented part of goodmorning good evening, basically a salutation.

    nana theater
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, outside of the US they do.

    guinea_pig
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did you see the above post about stereotyping? Yeahhh....

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    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I ask "How you doin'?" it's a platitude. If I ask "How are you?" I'm concerned and interested in the answer.

    Matt Richardson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not true. How are you? is fantastic method of opening up communication channels. Besides, I care, otherwise I wouldn't have asked.

    Ron Man
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a greeting. I don't think anyone wants an indepth analysis of your life when they ask that.

    Kenny Kulbiski
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That should be banned as a greeting and only used if someone really wants to know.

    Nizumi
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Learned the hard way not to ask a Scandinavian that question. They immediately responded with, "That's very personal. Why would you ask me that when you don't even know me?" Okay......

    cerinamroth
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Use with caution in Germany unless you're OK with hearing about bowel habits and other TMI topics.

    Nea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just in USA. I have never asked this without meaning to know the answer.

    XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's very much a thing in Canada. I know we're just up here chillin' & doing our thing, but we do still exist lol.

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    #43

    Most people eat too much, at least in the US.

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    Ελένη Κ.
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So little pleasures nowdays...

    RabidChild
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We're trying to stuff down all that fear and loathing.

    Júlia Fortes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    we have so many obligations in life... eating and sleeping are the fun ones, so it make sense that we focus on then

    Savage Susan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It all began with McDonald’s "super sizing" everything. Now an "average" size steak at a restaurant is 12 ounces instead of a normal size of 6 ounces, salads can feed 2 people, and baked potatoes are gigantic.

    nottheactualphoto
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked at McDonald's when I was in high school. At that time, a "large" drink was 12 fluid ounces. Today, that same size is called a "small."

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    GalPalAl
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the reason most people eat too much in the U.S. is because so much food is manufactured to increase our waistlines at the expense of our health. Those foods are designed to make you want to eat more while doing nothing nutritionally. Also, premade foods re easy and convenient for people who spend long hours with work, children and other obligations. Blame falls on more than one side of this equation

    #44

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud The fake optimism around the work place... "I'm just grateful I have a job." NO YOU'RE NOT! THIS PLACE BLOWS!

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    BenyA.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This place definitely "BLOWS"😂 But I've also been on the other end in a 3rd world country and that "BLOWS" every way possible. But yes

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    #45

    Happiness/success in life is based WAY MORE on luck and other things out of your control than we all pretend to believe. Luck of being born one color or another, one location or another, one race or another, one wealth category or another. Good luck in any category invariably leads to good luck in others as your life progresses.

    This is to say that hard work, honesty and good heartedness are often not enough to overcome the random “good luck” that others are born into and hardly appreciate as they stroll life on easy mode.

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    RabidChild
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being a member of the lucky sperm club and having rich parents have a LOT to do with it.

    Sand Ers
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not pretend to believe. Are trained to believe, in defiance of all reason and plain evidence to the contrary.

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    #46

    That the biggest drag on the economy, productivity and inspired creation is rentseeking from landlords and lenders.

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    Sand Ers
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And capitalists, who insist that providing the money is exponentially more valuable than actually doing the work that creates value.

    Regina Holt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What about the gazillionaires? elon mush, jeff bezos, there are quite a few a$$holes dragging the economy to the sh!itter.

    Orysha
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope, it's greed from shareholders.

    jasper
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have had a few GREAT landlords, but a lot that were scum. That being said, there's no way I would ever be a landlord and have to deal with a*hold renters, and there are a lot of those, too.

    Donna Peluda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I rent a place out, what does that make me?

    John Legere
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you BORROW money and get mad when they want you to pay them back. I would like to borrow a $100 grand from you and not have you wanting it back.

    Sand Ers
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look into the concept of “usury”. It’s hypothetically illegal in most places, but with so many exemptions built in that the laws are functionally meaningless. That doesn’t make the practice any less predatory, and it completely falls under the umbrella of rent seeking.

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    #47

    You can get away with so much s**t if you just do it.

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    Performingyak
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is easier to beg forgiveness than to seek permission.

    Mike Loux
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "It's often easier to apologize than ask permission."

    Blondie23
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you can also get away with so much s**t if you keep your mouth shut!!! I get so much free stuff from work that I should pay for but because I stay low key and keep my mouth shut no one has noticed in all the years I have worked there..... I refuse to give more details as it might alert someone..... i.e. I keep my mouth shut!!!

    #48

    That we are all a little racist.

    If you say you’re not. You’re a liar.

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    v
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think a more honest statement is that we're all a little prejudiced. For some that prejudice may very well be racism while for others race isn't a factor.

    SirWriteALot
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, prejudiced is a better term. Recently I realized that my knee-jerk reaction to seeing an attractive woman in an expensive car is to think she's a trophy wife. Not that she might be a successful business woman or even a rich daughter or something. No, trophy wife right away.

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    Verfin22
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Better qualifier to that is we are all judgemental. Not necessarily bias, racism, or prejudice. Everyone has their own opinions of people that are not based on hate.

    Donna Peluda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not that I'm racist, I just don't like a lot of people. Race doesn't come in to it

    nottheactualphoto
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. If I don't like you, it's not because of your race. As we say, аssholiness knows no borders.

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    Ron Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the poster doesn't understand the difference between racist and prejudiced.

    L H
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always sing that song from Avenue Q when I see the first sentence ...

    Nea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At some point in our lives maybe but we do grow and learn and become absolutely non-racists.

    Simon Chen
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    No we dont. Somebodies Race is something we just notice first and even people who think themself the most unracist person on the planet will, when asked to describe someone, start with the skincolor first wich is in some way racist because you are not blind to somebodies race. That does not mean you think worse of a person because of her or his race but it is still somewhat racist all the same

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    Katie Allen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you are making excuses for your racism.

    Lene
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think my prejudice stems from my upbringing in one of the toughest ghetto-like areas in Denmark as well as having had elderly relatives living out in the countryside who more or less never met people that couldn't trace all their ancestors to somewhere nearby (usually within their parish). But i do my best to not act on it and I teach my kids to be more openminded than I am. which is actually lovely because I had to explain to my 4yo why a girl in her day care was a different colour than her. When i said that her parents and probably also the girl had been born on a continent called Africa and that was why they spoke English and had brown skin she was just curious about what this Africa-thing was and it was her main interest for a week. She just wanted to know why her friend looked differently from her and when she knew she just moved on to the next thing. I know my mum would have said some... different things if i had asked her about people with different skin tones than me.

    Ελένη Κ.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True. Anything unfamiliar feels strange and I tend to keep a distance.

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    #49

    The expectation to wear a suit to the office if you are a "professional", even in non-client facing roles is archaic.

    This is changing in many businesses/sectors but you can look neat, presentable and professional without wearing a suit and tie.

    They (can be) expensive, uncomfortable, too hot in summer and a nightmare if your weight fluctuates.

    They are also very unflattering if you have certain body shapes (which is me, and probably why I hate them).

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    antoinette maldari
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Welcome to world of "Women in the Workplace"

    Lene
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a question related to this, actually. I am currently doing an internship at an office with no clients or others from the public. I really want to dress in my band shirts because that calms my mind a bit. But I don't because it's metal bands (so they are not pretty: some have violent pictures on and they all have symbols on that may be perceived as evil or bad). I am neurodivergent and the main purpose of the internship is to see how I function in a work-situation (if this is important for ppl' judgement). At this point I am just wearing clothes with no print, only single-coloured. I try to look as "professional" as I can. But do I really need to? Should I ask my boss her opinion? Or just do it?

    ArcanaPanda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do NOT wear the vast majority of metal t-shirts that depict violence, scary images, the occult, or anything potentially offensive. Don't even think of showing up to your first day of work in anything but business attire unless your job involves a lot of manual labour. There are comfy polo shirts and flowy blouses, as well as cotton or linen pants. If you find that everyone else dresses in t-shirts and jeans, make sure the t-shirts are inoffensive, e.g. Pokemon figures or shirts showing civic pride. I listen to a lot of '70s/'80s post-punk and their t-shirts are usually pretty artistic and inoffensive so I'd be comfortable wearing some of my band t's. But the classic Iron Maiden Eddie images would not reflect well upon your company (to give one example).

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    Austzn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a totally sexist practice too because it's usually only expected from 1 sex. I just refuse to IF it comes up by giving the explanation that I don't like that style of clothing.

    nottheactualphoto
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The purpose of a suit is to be constricting. It shows that the wearer does no manual labor.

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    #50

    Psychology in its current state has a very bad success rate for cures and treatment rates of mitigating symptoms is only mildly effective on average.

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    Sand Ers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Still better than the alternative.

    ArcanaPanda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it weren't for my therapy team I wouldn't be alive, so you can go f*****k yourself with that b******t.

    Lila Allen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look it's the most complex system in the body. It's not like the other system doctors have a 100% lock on what's going on. I mean look at OB's half the time they tell you that your symptoms are both perfectly normal and possibly life threatening and they have absolutely no way to distinguish this until it all goes wrong

    Júlia Fortes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    cause psychologists are not mean to cure the disease, psychiatrists do that

    Sand Ers
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Psychiatrists prescribe medications. Therapists and counselors address the mental processes that are causing bad outcomes, and help people learn how to recognize them so they can find better ways the respond to them. All of what they all do falls under the umbrella of “Psychology”, which is the study of the mind and behavior. The closest any of what they do comes to “curing the disease” are things like TMS treatment, which is intended to prompt underactive regions of the brain to become more active and reduce or eliminate persistent treatment-resistant or anxiety.

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    Lou Cam
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because the cause of a lot of people's problems is money and lack thereof. Staying with a person who is abusive because you can't afford to be on your own, staying in a c**p job because you can't get an alternative, worrying about your next payday and bills. Unless psychologists are giving out cash then they're literally just telling us to turn that frown upside down. Source, I have a degree in psychology.

    #51

    That corruption is so deep and principled people are corrupted each day. but to weed out that corruption involves cutting it out like a tumor, and in the eyes of many that would be as corrupt..

    So in the words of Harvey Dent: “you either die a hero, or live long enough to become the villain” is so true.

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    kansasmagic
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think perhaps it is a sign of maturity that concepts such as "corrupt" and "principled" are not absolutes, and should not be treated as such.

    Matt Richardson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shades of grey. It would be so nice if the world was as black/white as you make it out to be. But that's not how it works. Those who go undercover and infiltrate various crime rings, those are who you should talk to. The tone of this is kind of frightening. I fully expect his manifesto to sent to the news any day now. This black/white mentality has caused far too many deaths over the course of history.

    #52

    While numbers and data seem like they should be obviously truthful and factual, any result can be used to support any side of an argument. You just need to be creative in how you view results and slice the datasets.

    Example: hamburger prices for three consecutive months are $1.00, $2.00, and $2.50.

    One person could saw that the price is 250% higher and out of control and the national burger czar should be fired. Another person could say that hamburger prices have been reined in by 50% and the national burger czar should be given a parade.

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    Freya the Wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Lies come in three varieties: lies, damn lies, and statistics." - Attributed (wrongly) to Mark Twain and Benjamin Disraeli

    iseefractals
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Statistics without context are meaningless. My go to example for this is poverty as it pertains to race in the U.S....and since it's 3am i'm too lazy to look up the current stats, but as of a couple years ago: 10% of white americans lived below the poverty line, while 18-21% (depending on who was citing it) of african americans live below the poverty line. So more black people live in poverty, right? Not really....because those figures mean nothing without accounting for population of the demographics. 252 million for white people and 48 million for black people, meaning there are 2.5x more white people living in poverty. Percentages and statistics mean nothing without context.

    Jim Markham
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    $2.50 is 150% higher than $1.00, not 250%. The important word here is "higher" (meaning "more"). $2.50 is 250% OF $1.00, but 150% HIGHER THAN $1.00. Rant over. I'll get my coat.

    Sand Ers
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a case of deliberately missing the point. The math doesn’t need to be correct to illustrate the concept of using statistics to create a distorted understanding.

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    #53

    Socialism can't work because people will always be corrupt.

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    Donna Peluda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And capitalism worked great because people are corrupt. What need a balance and education. People need to have a conscience of a greater good.

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have you met people? Look at how close the vote is. Do you honestly think those groups would work collectively to help others? Humans just aren't wired like that. That's why selfless acts make the news. It's exceptional not a regular thing.

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    Clarissa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Socialism does work, quite well. Communism does not work. Americans think socialism is communism. (Because we're very uneducated and exposed to tons of propaganda). Sadly

    Kathy L
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Best comment on the thread. Too many ignorant people confuse socialism with communism.

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    Orysha
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Socialism can work. France had better social system until 2000. Then Chirac ans Sarkosy started to destroy it all and don't get met started on Macon : he's just a younger Trump.

    v
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is true of any human construct that requires engagement and interaction with other humans.

    Ελένη Κ.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually in Nature there is no such thing. Animals and plants have kings and leaders and they all respect Mother Nature, the Earth. We, on the contrary, do not respect anything. We are just raised to be afraid of the authorities. No critical thought, no respect.

    Lila Allen
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same for communism. It's entirely based on working cooperatively for public good. Humans do not do that.

    Hans Georg
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Socialism works, but not for humans.

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    #54

    People of different ethnicities can have different odours.

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    Joseph Miller
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that it depends on the foods that we eat. My ex said I smelled weird a couple of days after I ate salami. Spices seem to "seep" through the skin / sweat differently.

    Tom Brincefield
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You do sweat out what you eat. In Japan, they usually think westerners stink because we eat so much more meat than they do. It comes out in our sweat, even if we stay clean, and they find it offensive.

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    kansasmagic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uh... Pretty sure that people of the same ethnicity can have different odors.

    Ron Man
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's people who eat different foods that have different smells. It's not the ethnicity that causes it.

    Colleen Glim
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t care what race, religion, or nationality you are. I don’t like anybody. Except cats. Cats are nice

    #55

    In any group of people, everyone knows the pecking order, nobody ever verbalizes it. It would be weird.

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    Clown fish
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone thinks they know big difference

    SirWriteALot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a little more complex. Some members of the group assume the role of the "leader", like decide where to go. Some are followers. Some just don't care and let the "leader" think they're in control.

    nottheactualphoto
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those of us who are not able to "read the room" have no idea what the pecking order is. Or even that there IS a pecking order.

    #56

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud Dating leagues exist.

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    DennyS (denzoren)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I assume this means like the whole "they're out of my league" thing.

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    #57

    Body positivity is a coping mechanism.

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    Lila Allen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah not wanting people to end their lives from the shame they feel about how they look is such a terrible thing. (sarcasm) You can both appreciate and love who you are and also want to improve. It's been proven through significant research that shaming and calling out unhealthy behaviors does absolutely nothing to prevent or discourage those behaviors. But encouraging healthy choices and providing positive support results in overall more significant change. Also, I'm fat and I ran 2 different marathons. How many have you run?

    Aelin Wildfire
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure, in the same way that affirmative action is a coping mechanism for racism. It's defiance of an unreasonable, harmful standard...

    iseefractals
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not unreasonable to expect people to not be 100+ pounds overweight. Up until the 1970's, the obesity rate in the U.S was 13% for adults and 4% for children, morbid obesity wasn't a tracked metric, 38% of adults were "overweight" and the number of people with diabetes (both type 1 and 2) was 1.7 million people. Today nearly HALF of americans are obese, 22% are morbidly so, 21% of children, type 2 diabetes has increased 95x to nearly 40 million cases, with another 140 million being classified as "pre-diabetic" Heart disease, lung disease, fatty liver disease, kidney disease, a myriad of cancers, strokes and other circulatory issues. In terms of productivity, obesity has taken $1.3 trillion out of the economy, while costing $200 billion per year in health care costs. There's absolutely no debate around the consequences of obesity....except those who are obese, and trying to bully the world into telling themselves that something bad is actually good.

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    #58

    People Share 30 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Say Out Loud That a hamburger is a ground beef sandwich .

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    Ron Man
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretty sure everyone knows a hamburger is a sandwich. The question is, what's a hot dog?

    Colleen Glim
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And I’m not the least bit sorry about loving them anyway. Especially with bacon

    #59

    The air is transparent.

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    Júlia Fortes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it is not, its just that the humane eye can't see small things

    v
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one definitely should be higher than the ground beef sandwich one.

    #60

    Yes, that pimple is as bad as you think. No, it doesn't matter you put foundation on top. There's still a mountain on your face.

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    Jenn Smith
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, but these new ( to me) pimple patches! Wish we had these back in my pimply days! Lol! Especially the little star shaped ones! Genius!

    featherytoad
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I'm going to get the star shaped ones next when I run out of my boring round ones.

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    Katarzyna Drozd
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So what? Everybody have pimples. No need for body-shame

    Júlia Fortes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so what? i cant do anything about that, judgment only raises the stress and makes more pimples, people need to learn that other people are also people

    Nea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who thinks about this? What c**p

    Donna Crowe
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are mountains and then there are volcanos...

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    #61

    There are too many people coming into the UK for the UK to support.

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    Penguin Panda Pop
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People say this out loud all the time, so this doesn't fit with the current title (BP will change it later). I maintain that it is nonsense. Immigrants are mostly younger people who are looking to work. The actual truth is that the NHS and aging population of the UK is unsustainable unless the rich contribute more in taxes.

    iseefractals
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a finite space, with a finite number of jobs, places to live, roads and public transport to use, plus the increased strain on the NHS, and welfare. Immigration numbers in 2019 were 180,000. By 2022 it was 784,000 people. Net gain between 2012 and 2022 was almost 3 million people. More people are going in, less people are leaving. It's a legitimate problem, and no amount of repeating "we have a duty" is going to change the reality of consequences.

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    kansasmagic
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Support? Are you afraid your island will sink?

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    #62

    For servers in the USA: Black people are typically demanding customers and don't tip. Asian people don't tip well either generally.


    As a white server, you would be "cancelled" but this is a generalization that tends to hold true.

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    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Old people and the churchies are generally bad tippers as well. Everyone should be forced to wait tables for at least a month of their life.

    Freya the Wanderer
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A waiter once told me that church groups are the worst tippers, according to his experience. He said he'd rather wait on one atheist than ten people fresh from church, because the former would leave a bigger tip, or at least a real tip. Church people too often "tip" with stupid religious tracts. Honey, those tracts don't pay the rent or buy groceries!

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    Penguin Panda Pop
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely no confirmation bias at play here. Definitely a scientific study and not just the musings of a random on the internet.

    Donna Peluda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same in span , Brits for all the bad press they have when on holiday tend to be the preferred. The spend more ( Booze) tip better and cause less problems. Germans are well behaved but don't spend so much, french are very picky and difficult to satisfy. Italians don't spend much on drink but love to eat well but are very flirty.

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    HardBoiledBlonde
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stereotypes from a Stereotypical, how ironical!

    RabidChild
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe when, as a server, you wear your prejudice on your sleeve you're tipped accordingly?

    Elladine DesIsles
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or... we could just pay everyone a living wage and eliminate the entire, biased tipping expectation.

    Telperion
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's that attitude that creates the bad service for which you don't get tipped well.

    Marilyn Holt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    but the whole tipping issue just sucks. Bad enough that you have to add tax to your $30 or $100 meal in some diner. Then you have to start calculating a tip on top of that.

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    #63

    To put water on toothpaste.

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    Regina Holt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you for letting us know your argument for or against water on toothpaste.

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    #64

    Diversity doesn’t work.

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    HardBoiledBlonde
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The OP is regurgitating and spewing Dangerous BS.

    Judes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It works for me. Maybe you're the problem? And when I say 'maybe' I'm just being polite, you absolutely are the problem.

    kansasmagic
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the hell is that supposed to mean? OP might be surprised to learn that "diversity" comes in many flavors.

    Ron Man
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Diversity doesn't work for what? This is such a half-assed post that it doesn't work.

    Performingyak
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Diversity in what? Skillsets? Stock profiles? Company hiring policy?

    Austzn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Diversity", do you mean the range of human existence? How about you tell us what "working" looks like in the context of your half-assed statement.

    Victoria
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Quotas don't work. DEI isn't the problem. Diversity has been shown to be a net positive.

    Justin Tyme
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is fine if a school or workplace is diverse. More specifically, DEI hiring and DEI student selection don't work.

    Matt Richardson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Assuming you are talking about the DEI, any government program can be misused, but if we are talking about coworkers, then the diversity absolutely works. Because I find they have insights that I would never have found on my own. I just think it's shameful and humiliating the government had to step in to get it done.