We humans are curious creatures, and what we say or do doesn't always seem rational. At least not on the surface. So Reddit user Fastenbauer got interested in digging a little deeper—they asked people online to share the things that everybody knows but nobody talks about out loud. And their post quickly went viral! Continue scrolling to check out the unspoken truths folks keep quiet, whether out of fear of judgment or the risk of offending others.
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When people betray or abuse you, they know what they're doing. They're doing it on purpose, and they're not sorry. They're consciously making a choice.
And if you bring it up with them, they'll lie to your face.
Also - even when there is a reason someone cannot control their behaviour, it doesn't mean you have to live with it. Having empathy for someone's mental illness/trauma/etc and being able to forgive them does not require accepting ongoing abuse. You can walk away from a situation that isn't healthy for you without having to hate the other person or blame them. And you probably should, even if you love them (or think you do).
And if the other person is charming, helpful, generous to everyone else but abusive behind closed doors - they're turning if off and on, they absolutely know, and are choosing, what they're doing
Money absolutely matters.
Money would solve 70% of my problems, and I could pay a therapist to help me with the last 30%
MOST of the richest people are greedy and selfish and won't dare to share it, even knowing they can help others. " I can't take it with me, so I'll spend a billion to see space for 10 seconds". I've seen more giving amongst communities struggling together than these 1 percent a s s holes.
If I didn't have to worry about paying my monthly bills, I would enjoy life so much more.
Rich people say, money won't make you happy. No because they got it all. Money is the root of all evil the say, but if you ask for a rise, don't be surprised, there giving none away. Pink Floyd
Money doesn't "buy happiness" per se, but it can make a lot of problems disappear. Poverty has a huge amount of stress associated with it, and having money makes that go away.
I think people with solid financialmeans twisted what the phrase probably is supposed to mean. That money isn't everything, and it shouldn't be the point of life just for the sake of hording it. And like people who are ultra rich aren't necessarily happy. Not that not having any is totally fine. If we were free of money in a way that we didn't need it to be healthy and safe, then and only then could you argue it doesn't really matter. The only people who believe this are people who have never suffered from poverty. I always say, "careful, your privilege is showing!"I'm an anti-capitalist and even I don't pretend it "doesn't matter". Poverty sucks, and of those of us who live it, none of us are as healthy or happy as we so obviously could be.
Having mentally sane parents is one of the most important privileges in life, yet it isn't talked about nearly as much as race, class etc.
I would say that having good, hard-working parents is even more important and crucial that having rich parents. The right mentality can make you go a long way
Money is freedom. Not having enough of it will ruin your life. Regardless of how hard working your parents are. If we didn’t have a handful of greedy sociopaths vacuuming up all the benefits of other people’s productivity, people wouldn’t have to be hard working, and could have lives instead.
Load More Replies...My husband and I aren't 100% mentally sane but what we are, is two people that see our faults and are honest about it with our kids. I think that makes a differnce too... we don't hide it from our kids and we take responsibility for it. I think it makes it easier on our kids because they see we are humans and faults are normal.
Well said! I was going to say something similar but you put it way better.
Load More Replies...But how many people actually have "insane" parents? Sanity does not mean a complete absence of mental health challenges. You can have ADHD, anxiety, or depression (or all of the above!), but it doesn't make you insane.
I was blessed. My Mom and Dad were awesome. Not just to me and my sisters but to our friends as well.
Parents are likely as anyone else to have problems, mental once or otherwise. The greatest privilege is to have parents who do their best and show you unconditional love.
My mother was truly insane, I finally came to realize many years too late. As a 5-6 year old I remember my mom screaming at me saying, 'I hate you and I wish you were never born. I hate you, all the while swinging her fists at me. I can still smell the bourbon on her breath. Gave me the chills.
Well obviously everyone's parents should be sane. Bno one has ever said parents should be saying?
The world population is too high.
Makes you wonder if plagues and pandemics are natures way of culling humans
Nature isn't sentient but yes, any population of animals that becomes too large to support itself will be reduced by starvation, disease, natural disaster.
Load More Replies...Don't say that to a Republican. They want all women to give birth no matter the situation. Women have no body rights in the US.
If the Republicans could find a legal way to only ban white women from having abortions, or better yet (from their point of view) make abortion mandatory for all non-white pregnant women they'd pass the law in a heartbeat.
Load More Replies...No, it's really not though. The world is too selfish. We have more than enough resources on the planet to take care of about twice our current population. But the people with the resources aren't willing to share, so we've got haves and have nots, and the haves like to say there's too much population. In reality they're saying the have nots don't deserve to live.
Not really, I'm a have not and it's very clear to me that the planet is over populated by humans.
Load More Replies...I read an absolutely brilliant novel about 3 years ago that addressed this issue so well that it actually changed the way I think about everything. It was called 10:59 by N. R. Baker and I have been trying to get as many people as possible to read it ever since. The Amazon/Goodreads reviews back me up. Honestly, if you're concerned about our planet and our future then read this book!
People who get paid the least do most the work.
In Business this is called the hooker paradox, the better you do your job, more people want to f**k you
Yep, it's also used to deny you a promotion because they say they can't find anyone as good as you. Whether that's true or not.
Load More Replies...Maybe not the most work, but the simplest, least interesting, filthiest, most unpleasant work.
Most of the time, what you know will earn you more money than what you can do with your hands.
Or is it better who you know than what you know?
Load More Replies...And eat fancy food at 'lunch meetings', go to 'meet and greets 'grip n grin's, tell other people it's not good enough/fast enough/enough Enough.
There actually *are* people above the law.
In the US, if you have enough money and influence, you absolutely can be above the law. In fact, we currently have a man who's been convicted of multiple felonies and not only is he still walking around free, but his sentencing was kindly delayed so he could run for president.
It still blows my mind that a sitting president could attempt to incite a coupe and be allowed to run again! *And* that they changed the constitution after the fact to be fine with it!
Load More Replies...Billionaires, Politicians, Judges & their kin(especially highly influential ones), Religious leaders, officers of law....list is long. Law is only for the "peasants"....the rest are usually above it.
They thought that in France until heads started to roll.
Load More Replies...Money always influences people. Judges are not immune to being bribed
You can be a 34 time criminal felon, a convicted rapist, and still run around free AND run for president in America
I totally agree - that creep should NOT have been on the ballot in any US state or territory. I did my own teeny part by voting.
Load More Replies...Fun Fact: "Privilege" is derived from the Latin "privus" (private) and "lex" (law). It literally means a different set of laws being applied based on status.
The King, for a start. As the law is in his name, he cannot stand trial. Otherwise you'd end up with R vs R...
Looks do matter, and they matter a lot.
Yeah sadly they do, I look very normal / plain when I go out make up free but done up Im very pretty (made a living out of it) , and I like to take notice of the bias in people depending on my look. I used to go further in art school and mix up my old goth look into it too. Turns out no matter what ‘clique’ you dress for, there’s always gonna be haters, but lots of love too ❤️
We've evolved to want to make a better looking human instead of a physically and mentally stronger human.
No, our brain is still wired to sign that you are a healthy individual with a good chance to be able to get healthy offspring. Only the requirements for it have changed. Only our brains haven’t been updated for that yet. A hippopotamus will find an other hippopotamus beautiful but a human ugly.
Load More Replies...As an ugly person, I absolutely can confirm this. I get treated very differently than my best friend who is attractive.
Yes, especially if you're ugly and fat. All bets are off.
Load More Replies...Just try using a dating app for sh*ts and giggles. You'll find yourself swiping (left? right? whichever says "HELL NO") just on looks without opening the profile.
I may get down voted all to hell but here goes....it makes me wonder if these same attractive people would still be attractive if they didn't use makeup or style their hair.
Yes. There are people who are attractive without a drop of makeup on and natural hair. Just a minority, but they are around. Anyone denying it sounds... envious.
Load More Replies...That happily vanishes once a pretty woman reveals that she is a jerk. As men get older and have experienced many beautiful but cruel women, they start to look more for kind women instead. Beauty becomes secondary.
LOL!!! Only idiots dont think looks matter. Our entire species is based on attraction. Looks, power, wealth, humor. It can be any or all. But by all means, if you are a body positive slob without a personality and no money, keep telling yourself they are just being bigots because they dont like you.
Emotional intelligence is vastly underrated.
We all have dark thoughts that we dont act on.
Yup, I studied this phenomenon in my degree program just last semester. Those rare but sudden horrific thoughts that pop in and make you wonder if you're secretly a psychopath, or at least a really bad person are normal, and are a sign of a healthy cognitive function. Your brain likes to stretch out and try things and play out scenarios that would probably never happen, or you would never want them to as a way to improve survival skills and improve brain plasticity. Nightmares are most likely a similar function; your brain is forcing you to essentially live through what you think are worst case scenarios so you can basically practice coping skills and survival methods. Some researchers think humans would have gone extinct a long time ago without nightmares. Btw night terrors are different, and one should seek treatment. I thought this was crazy fun to learn about.
Also a strong sense of personal honor - and a desire to avoid going to prison
Load More Replies...I don't know if wanting to k.ill every facsist in the world counts as a dark thought or not?
Say the what now? Heard of this before as "intrusive thoughts" but I think my thinker might be broken, because it don't.
That religion is a social construct, where you are born largely determines your religion. If you happened to be born in India there is over an 80% chance you will be Hindu. If you are born in the US you probably will be a Christian.
Religion should be like underwear. If it fits you, wear it. Don't force others to wear it & don't let your behind hang out of it for others to see....
Where do the people that like to wear other people's underwear fit into this picture?
Load More Replies...I do find it odd that deeply religious people who are adamant that theirs is the one true religion never question the idea that if they were born elsewhere, they'd be equally adamant that *that* religion was the one true religion! It's all total nonsense.
Religion is like a penis: It's fine to have one, it's fine to be proud of it, but please don't take it out in public, and definitely don't try to shove it down my throat.
The fact that there is more than one religion is proof enough that none of them are true.
If humans were prevented from exposing their children to religion until their logical thinking skills were fully developed, religions would have few members. Adults raised in religious homes fail to apply logical reasoning to their belief system as religion always discourages applying critical thinking.
Children that are complete a******s exist.
The parents know.
That is a mistake people frequently make. They think of children as moldable mini-me's. While there is some of that, they are mostly their own persons and may turn out any number of ways regardless of their parenting. Some people are just born bad and others good. Plenty fall into the gray area....
Load More Replies...The parents know because the parents are directly involved with why the child behaves that way.
I had a classmate from 2nd to 6th grade, who was a sociopath. I didn't know how that sort of people were called, but on my first day at my 2nd primary school, I looked him in the eyes and they had this hollowness to them. Downright creepy, frightening even. The next years, he proved to me that he doesn't have a twisted, underdeveloped or otherwisely compromised sense for ethics, but simply none. This doesn't exist in his head. He knows - or, rather, knew, I don't know him anymore, and that's what I like best about him, by far - that there is such, but it's none of his. Proved this by words, by actions, by practically everything. Even the legally relevant things from primary school wouldn't fit into the character limit here, so I won't issue a list. Sexist AF, he was as well, but his mother (some sort of step-father was halfway present, or so ... not really involved, eventually left them, rumors credited this to my dear classmate's antics) was busy fending off enough already to even car
Yes...but there's a reason the kid is an a**. And it's very likely the parents fault
Children are the way they are because of their parents. Listen to the way kids abuse their teachers and it’s the same way their parents abuse them.
Some friendships only last as long as they're convenient or beneficial.
Unpopular opinion. I kinda like it that way anyway. Why would you want to maintain contact with your high school friends who are now so far removed from your life? Sure, if you somehow run into one another, a little chat over coffee is welcomed. But to keep your life story updated, organizing yearly re-unions and whatnots - naah!
I know there are people that have life long friends... good for them! But I am with most of the commentors on here... my friends have ebbed and flow through out my life and that's okay. I used to morn the loss of a friend but now I realize that it's okay to grow apart... it's life!
meh ... that's a bit of a stretch. I don't have a lot of real friends, only a handful. And actually, I don't benefit from them, nor are they convenient. It's a hassle to meet up, it costs money to go drinking ... but they are my best friends. Maybe you might call it a "benefit" that I'm sure they'd drop everything to help me out if I needed them. That said, I had some "good" friends at work or Uni that I never saw again in my life after they left.
Circumstantial friendships are valid. You get along for the time you spend together, think some school or work based friendships.
I'd rather be lonely the rest of my life than keeping getting hurt by ''friends'', which all I've ever experienced.
all relationships by definition MUST be beneficial and when they stop being so they 100 percent should end
The amount of Government incompetance and wastefulness in many countries is staggering. And the only reason I'm not a libertarian is that I don't trust private enterprise either. History has shown time and time again that companies big and small will absolutely f**k over people given half a chance and especially if there are no laws and regulations.
Private enterprise devotes an enormous amount of time and money working at having as few laws and regulations as possible. It is worse than government. Government may be inept, but it’s usually fairly benign. Private enterprise is sociopathic and greedy.
For me the biggest drawback of government is that people lose sight of the fact that the money they are spending comes from hardworking people. So stop spending it on fancy projects and do something about education and health care.
Load More Replies...The governments are tall controlled by the corporations and they solely profit over our collective expense.
What governments and private firms have in common is a concentration of power. I tend to believe that most people, given a little bit of power, will do anything to hold on to it. Whether in pursuit of private profit or the "common good" (according to whom?), it doesn't seem to matter.
Governments are controlled by the corporations. They are the profiteers of the corruption soley
I'd rather call out the people behind the cozy covers of corporations and private enterprise. There are some selfish greedy hateful people running these companies.
Most newborn babies are ugly on the first day. 🤣.
I love my kids, but I'll be the first to admit that they both looked like a cross between frogs and an old man for the first 3 months or so.
Somewhere in my family is a picture of either my aunt or my uncle when just hours old. The wee bairn looks like a prize fighter!
Load More Replies...I guess I'm the odd one out because I disagree. I was a doula for several years and got to be present when many babies entered the world. I genuinely found them all so cute. It was such a privilege to snuggle brand new babies on the regular. The one in the pic above? Adorable.
I have seen new borns or a few months old babies and people will say isn't she or he cute, and I am thinking no, it isn't cute.
Parents and friends: "OMG! It's a boy! Who does he resemble?" Me: Well, if Mr Potato head created a bloody football looking lump, you could say...
Some People don't apologize because they have remorse for what they did. They apologize because they think it will end the conflict.
And sometimes they apologise to end the conflict despite not being in the wrong.
Yep, did this recently. Think very carefully about this as it can come off as an admission of guilt. Learned the hard way
Load More Replies...You always have a choice, but dealing with family definitely does make that choice so much harder.
Load More Replies...That you're upset, doesn't automatically mean that someone else has anything to be remorseful for. You're just upset. Distasteful as it may be, it's easier to give a little lip service than continue an argument with the type of person who thinks everything that happens in the world is a personal attack.
An apology should ideally be sincere, but it doesn't necessarily have to be an admission of guilt or wrongdoing. In my Anishinaabe culture, we believe that we take responsibility for the consequences of our words and actions, both intended and unintended. So, if I have done something that ends up causing someone harm, I am going to apologise not because I chose or was indifferent to the potential for that harm, but because I am taking responsibility for the chain of events I set in motion and regret the outcome, even if it could not have been anticipated. My obligation is to make things right as much as possible, not to retreat into defending my innocent intentions.
So? You can't really demand or expect other people to feel the same way you do. If it keeps the peace who cares if they are "truly" remorseful?
I shouldn’t have to ask “how are you” in a work email. It should be ok for me to just talk business and get straight to the point. .
Is this an American thing? I don't think I've ever started an email with platitudes.
Not at all an American thing. Never done it, do not see it.
Load More Replies...I've owned a business in the US for a number of years and I have never done this in a work email. That seems odd to me.
Aw man, there's this one colleague who always starts with "hope this finds you well" ... even if the emails are like 1h apart.
I'm that person. Sorry. (Hope my comment finds you well 🤣)
Load More Replies...never had a business email from an existing contact start with pleasantries, only phone calls. Weird
It never hurts to start with a small pleasantry, especially if you are about to ask for something. "I hope your day is going well", because I'm about to ruin it...
Nobody’s actually read the Terms and Conditions, like ever. We just scroll to the bottom, hit accept, and hope we didn’t sell our souls to some tech overlord. 😂.
That one guy did, and discovered a clause about winning $1000 if you were the first person to contact the company about the clause!
Thanks! Going to ctrl-f for "$" or "€" from now on!
Load More Replies...I actually read one for a local app recently and it basically said they are gaining access to all my contact information and consent to use it for marketing...which was messed up. Deleted the app.
All commercial or corporate aps are spyware. I’m constantly amazed by how casually people invite then into every minute detail of their lives.
Load More Replies...What was the joke - "Even God hasn't read the Apple Terms and Conditions"
Isn't it Adam and Eve, the first to ignore the Apple's terms and conditions?
Load More Replies...I read them. Most of them are standard legalese with a dash of "oh yeah & you grant us access to your contacts, photos, etc. in perpetuity & when you die we have free access to your ghost." It's on everything really. You'd be surprised how often & easily you've signed away your privacy. The Brits are the best at adding cheeky clauses though: This one from Purple had people willingly agreeing to community service https://purple.ai/blogs/purple-community-service/ .............. F-Secure added a "Herod clause" for first born child: https://archive.f-secure.com/weblog/archives/00002749 ............ And GameStation added an "Immortal Soul clause " https://consumerist.com/2010/04/16/read-fine-print-or-gamestation-may-own-your-soul/
I read them too. Okay, not 100% of the time, but I usually give them a decent skimming over, at minimum.
Load More Replies...There should be a law that "terms and conditions" must be able to fit a single sheet of paper.
This is true. However, if terms and conditions are 20 pages long in small print and legalese, a judge will rule in the favour of someone who hasn't read it or couldn't understand it. There's no sense in presenting people with something they can't be expected to understand.
Those things have so much legalese in there to cover the company from any any any thing that can go wrong. And you know there is enough wiggle room for them to screw you over if something goes wrong.
Yeah, because most of them are insanely long and worded in a way a lot of people won't understand.
People aren’t equal. I don’t mean by race. Racism is nonsense.
Some people are good looking nice smart and athletic and had the right upbringing. They got it all . Some people have nothing going for them.
Not even equal before the law.
Orwell's"Animal Farm" : 'All animals are equal, some are just more equal than others'. Probably being scrubbed from'reakuty' as it exists for many as we speak.
Load More Replies...You left part out: People aren't equal, *and that's okay*. Or, it should be. The problem is when we start assigning value to such 'natural' inequalities: Oh, you are handsome, charming, and athletic? Well then, you *deserve* a high six figure salary!
People aren't even equal under the law. If they were, Trump would already be in jail.
I borrowed this from Desiderata and acknowledge that fact: 'If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.' So true, imo.
Of course they're not. Looks, talent, skill, knowledge, experience, intelligence, humor, personality. Race doesn't play into any of that....but a vocal minority continues to push for equality of outcome.....and the metrics for that is race/gender/sexual preference....which is in and of itself, discriminatory.
Don't blame society for your situation. This is not a "poor me" society expecting handouts without reason. Yes, people need services, but you don't stop there, you have to try for yourself to better your life. Ex. Started as a dishwasher, moved up to wait staff, moved around to different jobs, and try for the maiter'd position. You can go to school, take training be something else. Daycare is provided, and learning is available. You do have to be sensible, practice common sense, and be practical.
And you too, can be rich just like Trump, Musk, Bezos... they were born in poverty and pulled themselves into unknown riches!! LOL! Yeah... you keep believing that hard work and ethics will make you rich. See how far you get! /snark
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That we are all certain to die and be completely forgotten within a handful of generations.
Nah, you got to eat one artwork from each major art era. Then break into a famous architectural landmark and live there for a few months for good measure.
Load More Replies...Generations? dont be naive. Youve got 40-50 years at best before nobody cares that you existed outside of that one photograph they find in a dresser drawer and dont know who you are.
Tell that to Beethoven. He died almost 200 years ago. But people haven't forgotten him or his music.
Virtually all of us. There are a few that are remembered for centuries. Or even millennia.
There are also a few who become professional athletes, but your and my odds of doing so are equal to zero (to a close approximation).
Load More Replies...You aren't truly forgotten until no one in the world remembers your name.
People often pretend to be happy when they're not.
People with depression and similar issues are in this category
You are conditioned by your parents to be this way. Always be nice, consider the other person's needs. Go quietly and stay out of other people's way. Be polite and helpful. Subjugate your needs. Do as you're told. Dress appropriately. Mind your manners and help others when you can are a few. Especially if you are female.
The hope it that by pretending to be happy, one can maybe meet someone else who becomes a friend and that truly will lift you out of depression.
Especially when bought up to believe that smiling alone fixes anything and everything. You can be suicidal, but you better fn smile! Thanks mom and dad
We are all just kids walking around in grown up bodies.
I’m 50 and I still feel like I’m stuck in my teens mentally sometimes. As someone once said to me, I may grow old, but I will never grow up :D
Im 68 now and every time I'm around my Mom, I feel like kid.
Load More Replies...I had this conversation with my mum recently, asked her do you ever feel like you're a grown up/ adult. She's 68 and she said no!
Na, some people seem to have their s**t together. The ones you talk to, know. they're younger but you feel like you're talking to your parents. Investments, building stuff, career, politics ...
Not one of us came with an operator's manual... I know I didn't. If I did, someone dropped it in water and now the pages are all stuck together.
I think about this almost daily. I'm a grown woman. I'm 50. I've raised three kids. I'm a responsible, bill paying adult. Yet, I love video games, cartoons, stuffed animals, and toys. I'm still afraid of the dark. I've never outgrown toilet humor. One of my sons recently joked that I was spending my weekend as a 12 year old boy in the 2010s because I spent the weekend playing GTA online, and watching The Whitest Kids You Know. I went a lot of years waiting to suddenly be mature, sophisticated, serious--like my mom and my grandma. They seemed so....adult. Around 40 is when I realized that was never going to happen. I'm responsible, but I'm not mature or sophisticated. I just turned 50 but I don't feel far removed from my 18 year old self at all.
Consumer capitalism is destroying our habitat super quickly and with every passing day we make it worse.
there's an author in my country that says that "Only when the last tree is cut down, the last fish is caught, the last river is polluted, will people realize that they cannot eat money", i wish more people would listen to what he has to say
Soylent green? At that point humans start to eat each other.
Load More Replies...Companies keep selling us stuff, stuff, and more stuff. And that stuff has planned obsolescence, so it won't last as long as stuff in the past. And they push their stuff on consumers urging them to buy more and more and more. I have a simple laptop, simple cell phone, basic TV, (no streaming), and a CD player. That's it for electronics.
They sell us cr@p because we buy it, and we buy that cr@p because we have been brainwashed. When we learn to be happy with less, when we downsize and declutter, we win over them, we triumph over greed.
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Everybody knows that success often comes from luck and timing, but we rarely admit it. We prefer to believe it's all hard work and talent.
We don't "prefer to believe..." We are fed that lie so that we work like slaves to make a few people rich instead of admitting the system is against us and we'll just survive paycheck to paycheck forever. We are closer to being homeless than rich. Any misfortune can make you destitute, however hard you've worked.
I think OP was referring to *our own* successes. As in when good things happen to us, we create a mythology of why we deserve it or earned it.
Load More Replies...I would say that most people also don't see their own luck, always concentrating to other people privileges and making excuses for themselves. If you are born in a western/first world country, you are privileged. If you don't have a deadly disease or a life-threatening disability, you have a privilege. If you don't live in a country at war or under a dictatorship, you have a privilege... It seems to me that nowdays we have, generally, much more than in the past, but we are all so good to make excuses for ourself.
The "self-made man" is mostly a myth. Elon Musk, Trump, were given a start that most people could only dream of.
One cannot take advantage of a lucky event if one lacks the necessary knowledge and skills to make something of it.
Depends on your degree field/major or whatever technical degree or certification/skills you have more, nowadays, imo. Plenty of people continue on and earn degrees or certifications or whatever and have excellent careers, some also pay very well 🤑 but I feel like now certain degree fields/skills are what is in demand and where you will find high paying, great careers more frequently versus people with a liberal arts degree or some other niche degree field.
Load More Replies...Not working and not improving your talent certainly reduces your luck and timing.
That being alive at all and conscious is just really, really weird.
That the Universe even exists is really, really weird. Where did all this come from? No invoking a creator deity, because you're just kicking the can down the road - where did that deity come from?
In my religion, the Universe was created by a "deity" who exists outside of time. It's beyond human comprehension/understanding.
Load More Replies...Unfortunately, it's all I've ever known so it's totally normal for me.
When I see those bottle gardens, I wonder if that is what this universe really is.
One never choose to be born, we just are. And then have to live the life we're given the best we can. I'd rather have not been born. Then this philosophy doesn't have to bother me so.
Most people spend their time complaining about things out of their control rather than fixing things in their control.
It's the ones who complain about things entirely within their control that bug me!
YES! My neighbor is exhausting in that she continually complains. I have made suggestions to help but she doesn't take action. I find myself hiding from her now.🤣
Load More Replies..."people keep talking about the lifeboats and the iceburg, when they COULD be fixing this deckchair situation!"
That's because the things that aren't in my control are the most frustrating.
I feel this way about plans to live on Mars or the Moon. Sure--we're destroying the earth, let's find somewhere else.
Violence sometimes is the answer.
But who has the moral high road to be the judge of who deserves that punch in the mouth?
Load More Replies...Although I think that violence just brings up more unnecessary violence, it is sometimes the only answer some people understand. Nonetheless it should only be the last resort.
Violence is an absolute last resort. Not everybody will listen to reason or logic. Some people and organizations laugh at olive branches. Avoid violence when at all possible - but if you have no choice but to open a can of whoopass, make sure it's a Costco-size can of industrial strength whoopass.
Now that Rumpy will be president, they'll be "our friends!!" Joy and fũkkin yummy!
Load More Replies...But in a war, the people who decide on violence are never the ones on the front line
If someone is coming to attack you then perhaps or maybe running away is better.
Sometimes you can't run. You need to be the last one standing.
Load More Replies...And somehow, he endorsed Kamala Harris over tRump!!!!!!! That's how bad tRump is!
Load More Replies...They say God made man... Smith and Wesson made them equal. Until some sonofabitch came out with the AK47.
Most meetings could easily be an email, but no one wants to admit it because 'face time' somehow still feels important.
Often speaking to each other in person resolves issues more quickly than a Q&A via email
It's not resolving issues in a productive way though, it's just that you're more likely to avoid confrontation when face to face. So you're not going about doing something in the best possible way, just the least contentious.
Load More Replies...My work stopped running weekly region meetings (online) for this reason and it's so much better
General rule - if two emails in and they still aren't getting it, call them. You'd be amazed
General rule. Put it in writing. That way the story can’t be changed retroactively.
Load More Replies...I'm pretty sure "this meeting could have been an email" is a super common sentiment. If it makes it into meme's I don't think "no one talks about it" applies
THIS....IS...PAINFULLY....TRUE!!! Meetings are so antiquated! My manager recently went through all my meetings and got rid of most of them because they weren't helping me get work done. Now I have only a couple of meetings a week and I am getting sooooooooooooooooooo much done!!!
Gambling is a sucker’s game. Unless you make it a career (and in some cases even then), you will lose more than you win in the long run.
As long as you recognize that and you are willing to “spend” the money for entertainment purposes, more power to you. But if you think gambling is a good money-making idea, think again.
I work in the gaming industry. The amount of people I hear that make a living, professional poker played etc. All BS. The pros you see on TV are sponsored but the on-line gaming platforms. That's how the make a living. Poker at best is a game where you can apply strategy the same way you can in monopoly ludo or parchís. But at the end of the day it's a game of chance.
Maria Konnikova thought the same until she became a poker player. Made good money too. She was a writer for The Atlantic and wanted to write about it, and got good enough to become one herself. Her book is quite a fascinating read.
Load More Replies...My mom took me to a casino for my 21st birthday. I brought $30 and lost it within about five minutes. Very glad I brought a book as a back up. Pretty sure Security thought I was casing the joint.
Just because nobody told YOU, it doesn't mean nobody talks about it. I don't think anyone but children and gamblers in denial think gambling is some path to riches
You can make a living playing blackjack, if you follow exactly the correct strategy. But you aren't gambling as such, you are just following the odds. And apparently, it's boring as hell.
yeah, normally people are not thinking about earning money... they're just addicted you know?
It’s a win sum game. It doesn’t produce anything and so anything you gain comes at another persons loss, and vice versa
Most of the gay scene (from an LGBT perspective) is extremely toxic and ironically closed minded and judgmental of any outsiders (i.e. straights).
Go to Queerty to read the comments and you’ll see a lifetime of bigotry and hate in one article.
You can say the same about anyone who subscribes to any flavor of "identity" politics. Discrimination posing as acceptance.
How disturbing the food industry is. How pigs, fish, cows, chickens are all harvested so we can eat them. How can we not expect aliens to do the same s**t to us if that’s what we do to our fellow earth inhabitants.
Knowing what animals go through to become our meals was one of the main reasons I went vegetarian years ago.
Only if we happen to be tasty to alien life forms... Which of course depends on whether or not they even subsist on the same compounds Earth creatures do. They may have evolved in such a way that their bodies recycle and produce much of what they need and their entire biology is silicon-based rather than carbon. Fun to ponder, but no way to really know for sure what else is out there in the universe.
There are over 8 billion people on Earth. You don't think there needs to be some system in place to keep everyone fed?
No one actually knows what they're doing. We're all just trying our best.
I like to say that we are all playing "grown up". But, as is true for all games, some play better than others.
The "Not In My Backyard" philosophy runs deep and is essentially universal. Even the most liberal-minded, progressive, educated, compassionate people can have a meltdown when something uncomfortable or "unbecoming" pops into their lives.
I'd say the primary difference between right and left meltdowns is that left meltdowns generally encompass topics/ideas/ideals that truly impact a relatively large social sphere, whereas right meltdowns generally encompass topics/ideas/ideals that has zero impact outside of their personal bubble.
I think this is prevalent, but not universal. I live in a neighbourhood that has, within the range of a few blocks, million-dollar condos, non-profit housing, and tent encampments. It is a very complicated dynamic. And yes, I encounter things every day that I wish weren't happening - open d**g use, vandalism, human waste in public places, and also people who are struggling being victimized by those in power. I'm here, hoping things can improve for every member of this community - advocating in favour of safe-injection sites, meal programs, etc, and against the removal of encampments until truly appropriate alternatives exist. People need help and I want to see them get it, I'd rather it happen next-door than not at all.
Yes. My city (US) wanted to build a shelter for people experiencing homelessness. They tried three different times, in three different areas. The first was blocked by "politics." The second was voted down. The third was simply overwhelmed by neighbors who "didn't want those people in our neighborhood."
Being on your period isn’t an excuse to be a complete b***h to the rest of the people in your household.
People often don't understand the difference between a reason and an excuse. "I didn't do my homework because I stayed up too late the previous night watching horror movies, and I fell asleep when I should have been studying," is a perfectly understandable reason, but it does not excuse you for not having your homework done. "I'm angry with everyone because my hormones are out of wack and I'm in constant, low-grade pain," is an understandable reason for acting like a complete b!tch, but it does not excuse it.
In a similar vein, I analyze and quantify the reasons for my mistakes, so I’ll be less likely to make the same mistake again. I am -constantly- accused of “making excuses”.
Load More Replies...I guess that depends on how the rest of the people in the house behave toward the woman who is in agonizing pain and complete hormonal chaos. If you're being inconsiderate douchebags then yes, she can be a complete b***h.
Look here's the thing. Being on our period doesn't make us a B. It makes us far less willing to tolerate the utter c**p we usually suffer in silence
Stereotypes exist for a reason.
“The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they aren’t true, but they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story." - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
For every stereotype you'll find a number of people who don't confirm them. So basically stereotypes are like broken watches ... right some of the time.
Traits run in groups, even though they aren’t universal to that group and can’t be used to assume things about individuals.
Load More Replies...I think this way about tourist traps. Niagara Falls is popular for a reason.
Brown nosing works.
Our world is a house of cards. It’s all meaningless but we all rely on the structure so no one wants to knock it down.
No, he wants to rearrange it so he is on top permanently.
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Almost all jobs are made up b******t that doesn't matter, and are just part of this big network of made up b******t that doesn't f*****g matter. It's just a system to sustain this many people who are mostly useless.
I’d say the only genuinely useless jobs would be in marketing, investing and politics and some militaries. I can’t think of any other careers that don’t improve our quality of life in at least some way
I see what you are getting at, but I work for accountants who solicit business from high net worth people. Our company's roll, is regarded and communicated as "extremely important". In reality, all we do as a company is make sure rich folks have enough money to spend and their bills are paid on time. We aren't saving lives or changing the world.
Load More Replies...All jobs provide purpose for those that cannot generate or see their own purpose.
There's a Hungarian human ethologist, Vilmos Csányi, who says this - although with a little less *s :D He says, since the very small % of population can produce enough food for all of us, and another not very big % produces things we really need (clothing, for example), we had to invent jobs for people who are not very useful in terms of surviving. He doesn't say it's bad. He says we need more services and less production because people have to live from some jobs, but if we produce more, we ruin the planet faster.
I often feel the same way, but I have depression. Sometimes the world reflects my depression right back at me. But I also can't believe that most people feel this way, or even a significant minority. I assume most people do believe that the work they do is important and valuable.
People who post constantly on social media are projecting and miserable.
I disagree I love sharing my art and my ducks and ducklings a lot and it’s fun
I think it very much depends on what you post. If all your posts are "look at me! look how great my life is!" then the comment is probably true. If you're sharing funny things your ducks do, that probably shows that you're much more content with life.
Load More Replies...I kinda agree. I never had social media before and recently opened IG for uploading my art and checking others' art. It was inevitable for me to end up slowly adding some friends and family. The ones that I know that are secretly having a hard time are the ones who post the most, like all the time, even if it's just memes or quotes. It tells me they crave attention and constant validation. It is sad in a way.. and annoying to be bombarded with nonsense! I barely check IG now, only when I want to find a painting technique.
Our current economic system is not Capitalism it is Free-Range Slavery.
This was true up until about the 80s when greed became god and politicians deregulated everything to allow for shameless corruption.
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Existence is terrifying. Where do we go after? Is it nice? Is it horrible? Is there just nothing? Why are we here? The idea that we may live on in some other realm FOREVER, even if it is pleasant, is also daunting.
Before you were born you were nothing and you were nowhere. After you die, you go back to being nothing and nowhere.
The afterlife is exactly the same as the 14 billion years we had prior to being alive....remember those? Nothing to worry about.
When I was younger and suicidal, I was afraid of going to hell, as all catholics who sin would go. Now, I can't die because I would not be able to find someone to take care of my cats as well as I do.
That's where religion comes in to save the day. They have all the answers, where you're from, where you're going, and how to get there.
Unfortunately, those are answers that are not supposed to be questioned. Bad things often happen to those wo do.
Load More Replies...I would lik to recommend reading The Egg - by Andy Weir. It will blow your mind. https://www.galactanet.com/oneoff/theegg_mod.html
Can't we just kind of go along with it and not ask? I feel like that's an option.
Everyone is not equal but, everyone should be treated with equal respect.
But it’s weird how I’m western countries everyone has equal rights, but oddly they don’t have equal responsibilities.
In the western world we love to say that we treat people equally, but we never do. Most times the worst you are the better offer you get (corrupted politicians, murderers, rapers, tax evasors, criminals with "mental issues"... and I can go on)
"Mental illness" is a real thing and is almost never accepted as a defence.
Load More Replies...If you really think everyone has equal rights you've not been paying attention.
In 'murica where we are supposed to have equal rights - yeah, we have never had equality. So many folks oppressed for so many different reasons. Indigenous peoples, slavery, women's rights, rich versus poor. We have NEVER had equal rights in 'murica
When someone asks "How are you?" they don't actually want to hear how you are.
Yeah, its an extented part of goodmorning good evening, basically a salutation.
Did you see the above post about stereotyping? Yeahhh....
Load More Replies...If I ask "How you doin'?" it's a platitude. If I ask "How are you?" I'm concerned and interested in the answer.
Not true. How are you? is fantastic method of opening up communication channels. Besides, I care, otherwise I wouldn't have asked.
That should be banned as a greeting and only used if someone really wants to know.
Use with caution in Germany unless you're OK with hearing about bowel habits and other TMI topics.
It's very much a thing in Canada. I know we're just up here chillin' & doing our thing, but we do still exist lol.
Load More Replies...Most people eat too much, at least in the US.
we have so many obligations in life... eating and sleeping are the fun ones, so it make sense that we focus on then
It all began with McDonald’s "super sizing" everything. Now an "average" size steak at a restaurant is 12 ounces instead of a normal size of 6 ounces, salads can feed 2 people, and baked potatoes are gigantic.
I worked at McDonald's when I was in high school. At that time, a "large" drink was 12 fluid ounces. Today, that same size is called a "small."
Load More Replies...the reason most people eat too much in the U.S. is because so much food is manufactured to increase our waistlines at the expense of our health. Those foods are designed to make you want to eat more while doing nothing nutritionally. Also, premade foods re easy and convenient for people who spend long hours with work, children and other obligations. Blame falls on more than one side of this equation
The fake optimism around the work place... "I'm just grateful I have a job." NO YOU'RE NOT! THIS PLACE BLOWS!
Happiness/success in life is based WAY MORE on luck and other things out of your control than we all pretend to believe. Luck of being born one color or another, one location or another, one race or another, one wealth category or another. Good luck in any category invariably leads to good luck in others as your life progresses.
This is to say that hard work, honesty and good heartedness are often not enough to overcome the random “good luck” that others are born into and hardly appreciate as they stroll life on easy mode.
Being a member of the lucky sperm club and having rich parents have a LOT to do with it.
That the biggest drag on the economy, productivity and inspired creation is rentseeking from landlords and lenders.
What about the gazillionaires? elon mush, jeff bezos, there are quite a few a$$holes dragging the economy to the sh!itter.
So you BORROW money and get mad when they want you to pay them back. I would like to borrow a $100 grand from you and not have you wanting it back.
Look into the concept of “usury”. It’s hypothetically illegal in most places, but with so many exemptions built in that the laws are functionally meaningless. That doesn’t make the practice any less predatory, and it completely falls under the umbrella of rent seeking.
Load More Replies...You can get away with so much s**t if you just do it.
you can also get away with so much s**t if you keep your mouth shut!!! I get so much free stuff from work that I should pay for but because I stay low key and keep my mouth shut no one has noticed in all the years I have worked there..... I refuse to give more details as it might alert someone..... i.e. I keep my mouth shut!!!
That we are all a little racist.
If you say you’re not. You’re a liar.
I think a more honest statement is that we're all a little prejudiced. For some that prejudice may very well be racism while for others race isn't a factor.
Yeah, prejudiced is a better term. Recently I realized that my knee-jerk reaction to seeing an attractive woman in an expensive car is to think she's a trophy wife. Not that she might be a successful business woman or even a rich daughter or something. No, trophy wife right away.
Load More Replies...Better qualifier to that is we are all judgemental. Not necessarily bias, racism, or prejudice. Everyone has their own opinions of people that are not based on hate.
It's not that I'm racist, I just don't like a lot of people. Race doesn't come in to it
Exactly. If I don't like you, it's not because of your race. As we say, аssholiness knows no borders.
Load More Replies...At some point in our lives maybe but we do grow and learn and become absolutely non-racists.
I think my prejudice stems from my upbringing in one of the toughest ghetto-like areas in Denmark as well as having had elderly relatives living out in the countryside who more or less never met people that couldn't trace all their ancestors to somewhere nearby (usually within their parish). But i do my best to not act on it and I teach my kids to be more openminded than I am. which is actually lovely because I had to explain to my 4yo why a girl in her day care was a different colour than her. When i said that her parents and probably also the girl had been born on a continent called Africa and that was why they spoke English and had brown skin she was just curious about what this Africa-thing was and it was her main interest for a week. She just wanted to know why her friend looked differently from her and when she knew she just moved on to the next thing. I know my mum would have said some... different things if i had asked her about people with different skin tones than me.
The expectation to wear a suit to the office if you are a "professional", even in non-client facing roles is archaic.
This is changing in many businesses/sectors but you can look neat, presentable and professional without wearing a suit and tie.
They (can be) expensive, uncomfortable, too hot in summer and a nightmare if your weight fluctuates.
They are also very unflattering if you have certain body shapes (which is me, and probably why I hate them).
I have a question related to this, actually. I am currently doing an internship at an office with no clients or others from the public. I really want to dress in my band shirts because that calms my mind a bit. But I don't because it's metal bands (so they are not pretty: some have violent pictures on and they all have symbols on that may be perceived as evil or bad). I am neurodivergent and the main purpose of the internship is to see how I function in a work-situation (if this is important for ppl' judgement). At this point I am just wearing clothes with no print, only single-coloured. I try to look as "professional" as I can. But do I really need to? Should I ask my boss her opinion? Or just do it?
Do NOT wear the vast majority of metal t-shirts that depict violence, scary images, the occult, or anything potentially offensive. Don't even think of showing up to your first day of work in anything but business attire unless your job involves a lot of manual labour. There are comfy polo shirts and flowy blouses, as well as cotton or linen pants. If you find that everyone else dresses in t-shirts and jeans, make sure the t-shirts are inoffensive, e.g. Pokemon figures or shirts showing civic pride. I listen to a lot of '70s/'80s post-punk and their t-shirts are usually pretty artistic and inoffensive so I'd be comfortable wearing some of my band t's. But the classic Iron Maiden Eddie images would not reflect well upon your company (to give one example).
Load More Replies...The purpose of a suit is to be constricting. It shows that the wearer does no manual labor.
Psychology in its current state has a very bad success rate for cures and treatment rates of mitigating symptoms is only mildly effective on average.
If it weren't for my therapy team I wouldn't be alive, so you can go f*****k yourself with that b******t.
Look it's the most complex system in the body. It's not like the other system doctors have a 100% lock on what's going on. I mean look at OB's half the time they tell you that your symptoms are both perfectly normal and possibly life threatening and they have absolutely no way to distinguish this until it all goes wrong
cause psychologists are not mean to cure the disease, psychiatrists do that
Psychiatrists prescribe medications. Therapists and counselors address the mental processes that are causing bad outcomes, and help people learn how to recognize them so they can find better ways the respond to them. All of what they all do falls under the umbrella of “Psychology”, which is the study of the mind and behavior. The closest any of what they do comes to “curing the disease” are things like TMS treatment, which is intended to prompt underactive regions of the brain to become more active and reduce or eliminate persistent treatment-resistant or anxiety.
Load More Replies...Because the cause of a lot of people's problems is money and lack thereof. Staying with a person who is abusive because you can't afford to be on your own, staying in a c**p job because you can't get an alternative, worrying about your next payday and bills. Unless psychologists are giving out cash then they're literally just telling us to turn that frown upside down. Source, I have a degree in psychology.
That corruption is so deep and principled people are corrupted each day. but to weed out that corruption involves cutting it out like a tumor, and in the eyes of many that would be as corrupt..
So in the words of Harvey Dent: “you either die a hero, or live long enough to become the villain” is so true.
I think perhaps it is a sign of maturity that concepts such as "corrupt" and "principled" are not absolutes, and should not be treated as such.
Shades of grey. It would be so nice if the world was as black/white as you make it out to be. But that's not how it works. Those who go undercover and infiltrate various crime rings, those are who you should talk to. The tone of this is kind of frightening. I fully expect his manifesto to sent to the news any day now. This black/white mentality has caused far too many deaths over the course of history.
While numbers and data seem like they should be obviously truthful and factual, any result can be used to support any side of an argument. You just need to be creative in how you view results and slice the datasets.
Example: hamburger prices for three consecutive months are $1.00, $2.00, and $2.50.
One person could saw that the price is 250% higher and out of control and the national burger czar should be fired. Another person could say that hamburger prices have been reined in by 50% and the national burger czar should be given a parade.
"Lies come in three varieties: lies, damn lies, and statistics." - Attributed (wrongly) to Mark Twain and Benjamin Disraeli
Statistics without context are meaningless. My go to example for this is poverty as it pertains to race in the U.S....and since it's 3am i'm too lazy to look up the current stats, but as of a couple years ago: 10% of white americans lived below the poverty line, while 18-21% (depending on who was citing it) of african americans live below the poverty line. So more black people live in poverty, right? Not really....because those figures mean nothing without accounting for population of the demographics. 252 million for white people and 48 million for black people, meaning there are 2.5x more white people living in poverty. Percentages and statistics mean nothing without context.
$2.50 is 150% higher than $1.00, not 250%. The important word here is "higher" (meaning "more"). $2.50 is 250% OF $1.00, but 150% HIGHER THAN $1.00. Rant over. I'll get my coat.
This is a case of deliberately missing the point. The math doesn’t need to be correct to illustrate the concept of using statistics to create a distorted understanding.
Load More Replies...Socialism can't work because people will always be corrupt.
And capitalism worked great because people are corrupt. What need a balance and education. People need to have a conscience of a greater good.
Have you met people? Look at how close the vote is. Do you honestly think those groups would work collectively to help others? Humans just aren't wired like that. That's why selfless acts make the news. It's exceptional not a regular thing.
Load More Replies...Socialism does work, quite well. Communism does not work. Americans think socialism is communism. (Because we're very uneducated and exposed to tons of propaganda). Sadly
Best comment on the thread. Too many ignorant people confuse socialism with communism.
Load More Replies...Same for communism. It's entirely based on working cooperatively for public good. Humans do not do that.
People of different ethnicities can have different odours.
I think that it depends on the foods that we eat. My ex said I smelled weird a couple of days after I ate salami. Spices seem to "seep" through the skin / sweat differently.
You do sweat out what you eat. In Japan, they usually think westerners stink because we eat so much more meat than they do. It comes out in our sweat, even if we stay clean, and they find it offensive.
Load More Replies...Uh... Pretty sure that people of the same ethnicity can have different odors.
I don’t care what race, religion, or nationality you are. I don’t like anybody. Except cats. Cats are nice
In any group of people, everyone knows the pecking order, nobody ever verbalizes it. It would be weird.
It's a little more complex. Some members of the group assume the role of the "leader", like decide where to go. Some are followers. Some just don't care and let the "leader" think they're in control.
Those of us who are not able to "read the room" have no idea what the pecking order is. Or even that there IS a pecking order.
Dating leagues exist.
I assume this means like the whole "they're out of my league" thing.
Body positivity is a coping mechanism.
Yeah not wanting people to end their lives from the shame they feel about how they look is such a terrible thing. (sarcasm) You can both appreciate and love who you are and also want to improve. It's been proven through significant research that shaming and calling out unhealthy behaviors does absolutely nothing to prevent or discourage those behaviors. But encouraging healthy choices and providing positive support results in overall more significant change. Also, I'm fat and I ran 2 different marathons. How many have you run?
Sure, in the same way that affirmative action is a coping mechanism for racism. It's defiance of an unreasonable, harmful standard...
It's not unreasonable to expect people to not be 100+ pounds overweight. Up until the 1970's, the obesity rate in the U.S was 13% for adults and 4% for children, morbid obesity wasn't a tracked metric, 38% of adults were "overweight" and the number of people with diabetes (both type 1 and 2) was 1.7 million people. Today nearly HALF of americans are obese, 22% are morbidly so, 21% of children, type 2 diabetes has increased 95x to nearly 40 million cases, with another 140 million being classified as "pre-diabetic" Heart disease, lung disease, fatty liver disease, kidney disease, a myriad of cancers, strokes and other circulatory issues. In terms of productivity, obesity has taken $1.3 trillion out of the economy, while costing $200 billion per year in health care costs. There's absolutely no debate around the consequences of obesity....except those who are obese, and trying to bully the world into telling themselves that something bad is actually good.
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That a hamburger is a ground beef sandwich .
Pretty sure everyone knows a hamburger is a sandwich. The question is, what's a hot dog?
And I’m not the least bit sorry about loving them anyway. Especially with bacon
The air is transparent.
Yes, that pimple is as bad as you think. No, it doesn't matter you put foundation on top. There's still a mountain on your face.
Yeah, but these new ( to me) pimple patches! Wish we had these back in my pimply days! Lol! Especially the little star shaped ones! Genius!
Yeah, I'm going to get the star shaped ones next when I run out of my boring round ones.
Load More Replies...so what? i cant do anything about that, judgment only raises the stress and makes more pimples, people need to learn that other people are also people
There are too many people coming into the UK for the UK to support.
People say this out loud all the time, so this doesn't fit with the current title (BP will change it later). I maintain that it is nonsense. Immigrants are mostly younger people who are looking to work. The actual truth is that the NHS and aging population of the UK is unsustainable unless the rich contribute more in taxes.
It's a finite space, with a finite number of jobs, places to live, roads and public transport to use, plus the increased strain on the NHS, and welfare. Immigration numbers in 2019 were 180,000. By 2022 it was 784,000 people. Net gain between 2012 and 2022 was almost 3 million people. More people are going in, less people are leaving. It's a legitimate problem, and no amount of repeating "we have a duty" is going to change the reality of consequences.
Load More Replies... For servers in the USA: Black people are typically demanding customers and don't tip. Asian people don't tip well either generally.
As a white server, you would be "cancelled" but this is a generalization that tends to hold true.
Old people and the churchies are generally bad tippers as well. Everyone should be forced to wait tables for at least a month of their life.
A waiter once told me that church groups are the worst tippers, according to his experience. He said he'd rather wait on one atheist than ten people fresh from church, because the former would leave a bigger tip, or at least a real tip. Church people too often "tip" with stupid religious tracts. Honey, those tracts don't pay the rent or buy groceries!
Load More Replies...Absolutely no confirmation bias at play here. Definitely a scientific study and not just the musings of a random on the internet.
Same in span , Brits for all the bad press they have when on holiday tend to be the preferred. The spend more ( Booze) tip better and cause less problems. Germans are well behaved but don't spend so much, french are very picky and difficult to satisfy. Italians don't spend much on drink but love to eat well but are very flirty.
Load More Replies...Maybe when, as a server, you wear your prejudice on your sleeve you're tipped accordingly?
Or... we could just pay everyone a living wage and eliminate the entire, biased tipping expectation.
but the whole tipping issue just sucks. Bad enough that you have to add tax to your $30 or $100 meal in some diner. Then you have to start calculating a tip on top of that.
To put water on toothpaste.
Thank you for letting us know your argument for or against water on toothpaste.
Diversity doesn’t work.
What the hell is that supposed to mean? OP might be surprised to learn that "diversity" comes in many flavors.
It is fine if a school or workplace is diverse. More specifically, DEI hiring and DEI student selection don't work.
Assuming you are talking about the DEI, any government program can be misused, but if we are talking about coworkers, then the diversity absolutely works. Because I find they have insights that I would never have found on my own. I just think it's shameful and humiliating the government had to step in to get it done.
I like the mix of "surprising facts" and "personal prejudices elevated into universal truths".
Other people are not just NPCs in your life. They're humans too, treat them the right way and stop being entitled
As much as people hang their hopes on it, what no one really says out loud is that karma, in the common, colloquial sense, DOES NOT EXIST. There is no great cosmic balance that rewards good and punishes evil. People rely on it because it helps them sleep at night in a world where evil runs rampant. The belief in karma is a great coping mechanism; but "what goes around" most often does not "come around." Bad things happen to good people with permanent consequences, and good things happen to bad people with impunity. Life isn't fair, it isn't balanced - it just IS.
There is not "somebody for everybody". a LOT of people go through their whole lives in no relationship, or the wrong one.
"looks" matter to the vain and shallow, if that is the main thing they take away from meeting someone.
Fun post, but feeling discouraged at all the bigotry against religion in the comments. Live and let live.
Why am I being downvoted for being against bigotry? I don't understand.
Load More Replies...The tipping system in the US exists and is expanding not because of bad employers, but because customers are willing to pay tips. If customers would actually refuse to pay tips instead of just whining about it, then tipping would cease to exist.
But what would happen to the people who rely on those tips in the meantime?
Load More Replies...I like the mix of "surprising facts" and "personal prejudices elevated into universal truths".
Other people are not just NPCs in your life. They're humans too, treat them the right way and stop being entitled
As much as people hang their hopes on it, what no one really says out loud is that karma, in the common, colloquial sense, DOES NOT EXIST. There is no great cosmic balance that rewards good and punishes evil. People rely on it because it helps them sleep at night in a world where evil runs rampant. The belief in karma is a great coping mechanism; but "what goes around" most often does not "come around." Bad things happen to good people with permanent consequences, and good things happen to bad people with impunity. Life isn't fair, it isn't balanced - it just IS.
There is not "somebody for everybody". a LOT of people go through their whole lives in no relationship, or the wrong one.
"looks" matter to the vain and shallow, if that is the main thing they take away from meeting someone.
Fun post, but feeling discouraged at all the bigotry against religion in the comments. Live and let live.
Why am I being downvoted for being against bigotry? I don't understand.
Load More Replies...The tipping system in the US exists and is expanding not because of bad employers, but because customers are willing to pay tips. If customers would actually refuse to pay tips instead of just whining about it, then tipping would cease to exist.
But what would happen to the people who rely on those tips in the meantime?
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