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If a tear opened up in the space-time continuum and a little green man from the future popped in to say hi, probably one of the first things he'd want to learn about humanity would be our love life.
But imagine explaining all the intricate aspects of romance in the 21st century to someone who isn't familiar with it. 'A couple of co-living friends with benefits who agreed to marry each other if they're both single when they're forty' would alone take at least a year to describe.
Luckily, there's a Facebook group you could show to this curious being instead. Aptly titled 'Relationship memes', it has over 2 million members who are constantly sharing heartfelt and humorous snippets from their everyday life.
Although it's quite young even by the internet's standards (the group was created in July 2020), this online community has already touched on pretty much everything a person can experience with their partner.
Continue scrolling to check out some of its top posts and the conversations we had with Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., who is a professor and former chair in the Department of Psychology at Monmouth University, and a relationship expert with over 33 years of experience with children, teens, adults, couples, and families, Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein.
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Zenozenobee 3 years ago
I like the idea of celebrating with both our families but if we ever decide to get married, would it be that bad to just get a BBQ and everyone bring a salade ? Do we have to wear unconfortable clothes and shoes, we only get to wear once and be high on stress all day for the cost of both arms and eye balls?
Don Homuth 3 years ago
We got married by a judge my wife had been clerking for. Took the honeymoon two weeks earlier, after she finished the bar exam. Been holding for 33 years so it must have worked.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Exactly. Get the paperwork done then join me at the nearest bar to celebrate.
TheElderNom 3 years ago (edited)
Cheating sounds like a bad way to start a married life. Well unless you're both into it I suppose.
Nunya Bidnits 3 years ago
25 years ago I was married without prior knowledge; I'd promised her we'd get married after I'd attained a particular milestone. That day she marched me down to get the license. The clerk asked "When would you like to get married. I answered "As soon as possible." She directed us to the judge's chambers. We left married.
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Philly Bob Squires 3 years ago
I asked my girl what women really want and she said attentive lovers. Or maybe it was a tent of lovers... I wasn't really listening.
Otakupanda 3 years ago
My girlfriend better be ready because I'm a girl that is not very attentive
As you can see from the pictures and probably already know from real life, there are many, many ways in which two (or more!) people can commit to one another. However, Dr. Bernstein, the author of 'Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship' told Bored Panda he thinks the cornerstones of a healthy romantic relationship are:
Mutual respect and trust. "By this, I am referring to being sensitive and self-aware when interacting with your partner," Dr. Bernstein said. "It's important to remember that they are a separate individual from you with their own sensitivities, preferences, and struggles. It's easy to take a partner for granted and minimize the value of them being there for you. The reality is that all relationships take work, and by speaking/engaging in caring thoughtful ways, you will support a strong mutual connection."
And ascribing positive intentions to your partner, i.e., giving them the benefit of the doubt. "That means believing that they don't want to hurt you and they have your best interests at heart."
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Deborah B 3 years ago
Or see if you can borrow someone else's baby for a weekend. My nephew screams like an fire alarm. The first time the extended family heard him we were all shocked. It was the loudest unamplified human sound I have ever heard. Totally confirmed my belief I should remain child-free.
Chich 3 years ago
We were visiting a friend who had serious baby fever but zero experience with kids, not even nephews/nieces. For the weekend we played "imaginary kid" Woke her up in the middle of the night, told her she couldn't go to the party on saturday night because the sitter cancelled, spilled juice in the kitchen and walked away, radomly screamed and yelled etc. Think we cured her.
Gabrielle Riley 3 years ago
I love kids . . . I'm also Stull in the stage where I love giving them back to their parents at the end of the day 🤣
Hope Springs 3 years ago
Or ... Or ... Maybe stop telling people who want kids that they don't. Some people can't just pop them out whenever they want then choose to complain about it. Some people get blood and tears and absolute devastation instead. Some people would trade all the naps in the world as well as a small body part just to be able to have the miracle that is a child. Stop bitching and count your blessings.
DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I can barely afford to pay for my stuff, imagine baby stuff added to that budget.
Jason Leaf 3 years ago
Even if you get through the screaming baby stage and the terrible toddler years, and usher them into their teens, who would want to be the recipient of so much ingratitude?
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Jason Leaf 3 years ago
Women marry men thinking they can change them, but men don't change. Men marry women thinking they'll never change, but they do.
But no matter how compatible and willing to work a couple can be, disagreements are inevitable. It's how they are handled that matters. "I believe a complete lack of conflict is a bad sign," Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski, author of 'Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship...and How to See Past Them', told Bored Panda.
"It's impossible for two independent autonomous adults who share power equally in the relationship to not disagree on occasion (or even frequently). Rather than avoiding disagreement, the goal should be to keep small problems small by being willing to frequently engage as differences arise. This way they don't accumulate over time to become bigger problems that result in fights that could threaten the relationship."
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Jason Leaf 3 years ago
This is the reason my wife and I don't watch TV together after dark anymore.
Dr. Bernstein agrees. No two people are alike and when they spend so much time with each other, there's going to be friction. "We all get toxic thoughts about our partners, which I explain in my book, this comes from the idea that we all have self-talk. From the moment we wake up to when we go to bed, we can either be our own best friend or our own worst enemy. Similarly, we have a lot of thoughts and feelings that run through our heads about our intimate partners. For example, 'He always thinks about himself' or 'She is lazy' are toxic thoughts that left to their own devices can create tension."
The best way to counteract these types of toxic thoughts, according to the relationship expert, is to consciously realize that understanding our intimate partners is just as important as loving them. "The more we lead with empathy, the more we reduce conflicts."
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kathryn stretton 3 years ago
Optical version of sticking your fingers in your ears and singing " la lalalala laaa".
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Gary Sansom 3 years ago
They have an extremely strong bite, and definitely WILL take off a finger!
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Josh Stevenson 3 years ago
Sounds like a great guy till you go back to his and get to meet his mother who's awake due to his father's sleep apnea. Oh and you figured out it was sleep apnea since their rooms are next to each other. Hope it's sleep apnea... either that or his parents have a garbage disposal and air compressor in the bedroom.
As more Americans turn to online dating after the #MeToo movement left its imprint on the scene, nearly half of U.S. adults – and a majority of women – say that dating has become harder in the last 10 years.
Daters who had difficulty finding people to go out with were asked about some of the possible reasons that might be the case. Among them, the most common explanations include the challenge of finding someone who is looking for the same type of relationship (53% say this is a major reason), difficulty in approaching people (46%) and trouble finding someone who meets their expectations (43%).
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Lillukka79 3 years ago
This! Why do they have to come? Never understod it.
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Vicky Z 3 years ago
When you go for shopping but you decide to enter the storage instead and you realise YOU are the husband!! women that don't enjoy shopping so much, do exist and I'm one of them
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Me too. I hate shopping. When I go to the grocery store I speed through; I know where everything is and don't have to waste time looking
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CrunChewy McSandybutt 3 years ago
Why do women take their husbands shopping with them? Leave them at home.
VerticallyChallenged 3 years ago
No, the bar is where the support groups meet for people who hate their job.
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Josh Stevenson 3 years ago
His wife is gone and there's a gaming computer. He's not going anywhere. Only reason to leave is get food. I'm sure he has a bottle to pee in.
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Aisling Raye 3 years ago
100% she already knows where it is and can tell you without even looking. Lol
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TheElderNom 3 years ago
For me and my boyfriend he's the one that can find things. I can't find my out of an empty room
Duesvolent90 3 years ago
OMG then she aligns herself with Venus and it magically appears and she has that "told you so" face on..
2x4b523p 3 years ago
Works for everything except kitchen stuff. My husband is keen cook and he is lazy to put stuff back to where he grabbed it from, so puts it back in the nearest spot available. I can never find anything. I am soooo lucky that he remembers where he put it (with almost 50% accuracy).
GenXandEarnedItAll 3 years ago
A person commented in another post about great moms. The gist of it was, "If I go in there and find it, I'm going to beat you with it!" He did clarify that thay never happened. She was a great mom.
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Jill Pulcifer 3 years ago
My husband is a light sleeper, and NEVER forgets to say excuse me when he passes gas. This has become rather fun after 10 plus years together. I come to bed late, lay down and start farting, he mumbles an excuse me. Comedy gold.
Interestingly, most single people (including both those on and off the market) say their friends, family or society in general don't make them feel obliged to find a partner. Just two-in-ten (22%) say they feel at least some pressure from friends, while 31% say the same about family members, and 37% say they feel society is pressuring them.
However, it's worth mentioning that pressure to be in a committed relationship is highly dependent on age—younger singles have to carry a much heavier burden.
For example, 53% of single 18- to 29-year-olds say there is at least some pressure from society to find a partner, compared with 42% of 30- to 49-year-olds, 32% of 50- to 64-year-olds, and just 21% of those ages 65 and older. In fact, a majority of singles 65 and older – the vast majority of whom are widowed or divorced, in contrast to young singles who are mostly never married – say they feel no pressure at all from each of these sources.
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Jason Leaf 3 years ago
When this happens, I head for the man cave until it blows over. Sometimes it takes a few days.
Duesvolent90 3 years ago
Guys or gals...When she does this...You f*cked up. You don't know it yet but she's letting you think about it. Planting an anxiety seed into the back of your head and letting it grow until......She tells you she had a dream you cheated on her at the end of the day.
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Vicky Z 3 years ago
This is necessary even without the boyfriend! I'm always crushing my own hand during sleep
Jason Leaf 3 years ago
If you're still sleeping all cuddled up together, you haven't been together very long.
Philly Bob Squires 3 years ago
YES!!! I need one as I'm the person who always wakes up with a numb arm from laying on it.
Mama Penguin 3 years ago (edited)
That pillow looks uncomfortable like you're gonna wake up with a sore neck
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Autistic apricot 3 years ago
Won’t the nail person (not trying to be rude, idk the name of the job) feel a bit awkward?
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Why? She can't use her hands so he's helping her.
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If scrolling through these memes you feel the urge to send them to your partner, do it. Dr. Bernstein, for instance, believes that humor is super important to the quality of a relationship.
"I think it's important to be able to laugh at ourselves and laugh with our partners," he said. "Humor allows us to make hyperboles out of our shortcomings and even use lighthearted comments about what our partners do that annoy us. Thus, humor is another means to work through toxic thoughts and diffuse them to lower potential conflict."
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Justme 3 years ago (edited)
Gawd that was an ugly dress. Kim: “I want the front to look like a tight white crew-neck T-shirt, backless, and I want to wear a belt”. Designer: “Are you sure? That will look silly”. Kim: “Kanye says that’s what I want”.
Night Owl 3 years ago
LOL could be a robot but could also be a big Barbie doll. The wax figures in Madame Tussauds Museum look more life-like
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Should be a picture of the groom, because this happens to men WAY more than women.
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Kristel 3 years ago
Two blankets! Solving world problems one step at a time…enter doggo. Dang! Three blankets!
Vicky Z 3 years ago
Enter cat... you give up and accept your fate cause everything belongs to the cat now
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Philly Bob Squires 3 years ago
She steals my comforter. So I went out and bought a third comforter. Foolish male... now she has 3 comforters and I have a cat on my head.
Daycare Attendant Sun 3 years ago
Two blankets. I like to be warm but have a cold room, so I always have a bunch of fuzzy blankets. My other likes it chilly and will only sleep with a sheet. I just pile my side with all my nice warmness.
Jason Leaf 3 years ago
It amazes me that his and hers towels are a thing, but his and hers blankets aren't.
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Jason Leaf 3 years ago
Help with no love can get you through tough times better than love with no help.
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Jerry Lane 3 years ago
This can be looked at 2 different ways. Only one of those ways is funny.
Moreover, compatibility in the couple's sense of humor can make a difference, too. "Compatibility in any form is important for relationship harmony, and having a shared sense of humor is part of that," Dr. Lewandowski said. "Being able to laugh together is an important part of friendship and the best romantic partners are also best friends. Humor is also a fantastic way to reconnect following conflict. Being able to laugh at ourselves or at the ridiculous things we’re arguing about helps get the relationship back on track."
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Jason Leaf 3 years ago
Yes, ten minutes is the standard allotted time to reflect on one's foolish drama.
Daycare Attendant Sun 3 years ago
I've decided I'm okay, but only after a two hour nap and some mac and cheese.
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Julie Rod 3 years ago
Or that second/third loves can work out. This couple could have met in their 70s. Either way, very sweet.
Nunya Bidnits 3 years ago
My wife is my first and only. I am her third. 25 years on and just seeing this picture changed my life. I want that, and we've got that vibe. Diet time.
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yes, otherwise all that training has gone to waste!...🤣
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Fraxinus excelsior 3 years ago
Two questions. How big is the pizza oven ? Do they ship to England ?
Electric Mayhem 3 years ago
My grandparents had those exact dishes. Occasionally I spot them in movies and stuff and it always reminds me of them. I miss them.
Francine Govan 3 years ago
I grew up with them, too! Home vibes for sure. :)
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There's often wisdom in silliness. "Memes are useful because they help us look at our relationship from a new perspective," Dr. Lewandowski added "Like a lot of humor, it disarms us by making a point in a funny context that makes it less personal, judgmental, or confrontational. When we let our guard down, we can gain new insights that ultimately strengthen our relationship."
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
Too real. Gas prices are crazy, even here in the Caribbean and we make the stuff.
Sanchi 3 years ago
In Michigan it’s $4 per gallon! The prices are rising in AMERICA
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Jerry Lane 3 years ago
Better than a diamond because buying something unaffordable like gasoline shows devotion.
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iLoVeGrOoT.... 3 years ago
Even if nobody's eyes are on her, and hers look at you with full trust....never take that for granted as well <3
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Jason Leaf 3 years ago
"Turn left here," says my wife. I switch on the left turn indicator. "No! The other way!" she says. I say, "Yes, dear." This is the marriage-saving path of least resistance.
But it all boils down to making a habit of being honest with each other. Dr. Bernstein emphasized that we need to remember that all relationships take work. There's no way around it. Everything that's worthwhile doesn't come easy. But the key here, the relationship expert said, is to ask ourselves is it work with a capital W or a small w.
"Big Capital W work refers to emotional abuse, active additions where partners refuse treatment, ongoing infidelity, and gaslighting. Small W work means managing stylistic differences, respecting each other‘s wants and needs, and communicating about the positives in the relationships as well as the struggles."
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Got Myself 4 Pandas 3 years ago
I don't get this, I always call my husband by his name, why wouldn't I?
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nooneimportant 3 years ago
me and my hubby...i act like a 80 year old man with a 16 yo brain; he acts his age.
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Richard Reese 3 years ago
It is when your forever person is also your best friend. My wife and I always give each other s**t like old pals.
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Monica Houghton 3 years ago
One of those bags would be 2-3 weeks of clothing. This sh** is crazy.
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Stephanie A Mutti 3 years ago
It's on a boat yes? I thought train but then those life preservers...
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CaptainDinosaur 3 years ago
God, I'll tell my wife a story and she'll hit me with that just to entertain herself, knowing damn well she knows what I'm talking about.
Chrissie Anit 3 years ago
Do it like Ted Mosby, just say "oh, I must have told it to my sister!
Jason Leaf 3 years ago
Every moment of a relationship should be recorded to stand as witness to forgetfulness.
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Autistic apricot 3 years ago
Dead? Just live. Hurt? Just get better. Depressed? Just be happy.
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Daycare Attendant Sun 3 years ago
What kind of inmate are we talking? Standard correctional facility, or Arkham Asylum?
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Beck 3 years ago
Sink gloves. I think that is the fairly oddparent mom. Timmy's mom.
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CrunChewy McSandybutt 3 years ago
I have no interest in stealing my spouse's clothes. He has terrible taste.
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Chicky nuggy 3 years ago
You are very correct but it is a joke. I mean this in the least rude way possible because you are right
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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago (edited)
I actually met someone like that. But we're just friends for now :). I'd rather have him as a friend and keep him in my life or try to force him to love me and lose him forever.
Jason Leaf 3 years ago
Okay, I'm out. Enough raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens for one day.
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It's Izzy 🇺🇦 (They/Them) 3 years ago
Yes. I cry for many reasons - or none. Today's reasons I remember were: Roe v Wade (I'm not even American), my sister was talking weirdly, my sister sat on my bed, I didn't want to get out of bed, several youtube shorts, Pride month, ✨dysphoria✨, I didn't like what food was in the fridge, I played monopoly, Sour (the whole album), throat kept mucking up when I was practicing and I googled symptoms, read them so panicked that I now have to start playing saxophone. And then I cried because alto saxophone isn't in the same key as clarinet, tenor saxophones are too big, I had a weird dream a fortnight ago about tenor sax, I joke-tease the saxophonists because I'm a clarinet so I have to prove I'm superior, the sugar free hot chocolate is bitter, my sister wants to go to the shops tomorrow, and my grades haven't come out yet.
Chicky nuggy 3 years ago
I also cry for many reasons. The most ridiculous: when I was 8, I cried because my brother called me a grumpy fish. On my first period, I cried because I ate my chocolate, some of my chocolate melted, my bed wasn’t all the way scooched up against the wall, I didn’t want to eat a popsicle but I did, my sister watched my favorite movie with me, toes (don’t ask), and that zebra from Madagascar. Other times, I had to do maths homework that was really easy and I genuinely enjoyed but I didn’t want to do it, my sister called me part of the younger kids in my family (extended, I HATE being called a little kid but that’s a whole different paragraph or four), I don’t get graded cause homeschool and if I did I’d probably fail, I got a 56% on my maths test end of year (only thing I do get graded on), my dog was stinking adorable, my cat bit me, my cat scratched me, my cat pounced on my leg as I turned the corner, my dog chased the cat after that and got scratched on the nose, my dog got shots.
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Jason Leaf 3 years ago
It's definitely more satisfying to laugh at the foibles of others, rather than at our own.
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TheElderNom 3 years ago
My boyfriend actually loves to cuddle for the sake of cuddling. I thank his family for that.
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Daycare Attendant Sun 3 years ago
That's almost a bottle. Depends on the wine, honestly. I can throw back sweet red like it's nothing, but Malbec gets me.
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Mama Penguin 3 years ago
My husband every time a family member makes unwelcome comment about my body.
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Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Yeah I normally send long texts with full words so you know something's up when I shorten things; especially if my reply is K
Duesvolent90 3 years ago
That K speaks a lot. My girl hits me with a "Yup" after anything I say, that's how I know it's real, and to just hush and fade away into the breeze.
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Autistic apricot 3 years ago (edited)
Then break up, I’m sorry this is really just angers me because my girlfriend keeps on pressuring me to try kiss her but knowing that I’m autistic and struggle to look at her I also don’t wanna be in this relationship and I’m trying to break up but that’s none of your problem so have a good day 🤷😅🙃
Autistic apricot 3 years ago
Sorry about that I just got really mad about the post, Ik it’s a joke but things like that happen
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Willowbilly 3 years ago
I understand! Your side of the relationship needs to remain ‘smooth’. No ruffled feathers. Not even a nerve out of place. Accept no less.
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Wolfe 3 years ago
You can't smell things you are around often. Have you ever noticed other people's houses have a distinct smell, but yours doesn't? Maybe your partner is such a constant presence in your life that their smell has become a part of you
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Maya Baggins 3 years ago
You can bet all your money that he feels the same. I love mu fiancé to bits, but sometimes we'd kiss eachother with a chair on the forehead
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Popcorn_Gremlin 3 years ago
Shoutout to the women who don't require their partners to behave like 1950's bellhops/gasstation attendants.
digitalin 3 years ago
Dunno, I think that both partners would appreciate this. It's sweet.
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For real boys, you drive your ladies car, fill that tank up. Stopping for gas, especially in an unfamiliar location, can be stressful for a woman. Go ahead and top it off.
digitalin 3 years ago
This is one of those courtesies that both people can do. It's sweet.
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Cherreka Wirth 3 years ago
And the relationship was actually toxic af. Imagine threatening suicide because she refused to date you. That's abuse.
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Aisling Raye 3 years ago
How about we normalize leaving people on read. Sometimes I'm too busy to reply but not so busy that I can't check why my phone buzzes. OR the more likely scenario, I'm taking a nap and I'll wake up just enough to read your message but I'm too tired to do the thing where I have to wake my brain up to reply and ruin my whole nap for you.
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Stephanie A Mutti 3 years ago
How insecure is this person that a waitress maybe flirting for a tip is a legit threat that can only be resolved through tantrum? Either the relationship is broken or this woman is.
Bee she/her 3 years ago
Still it’s kind of inappropriate for waitstaff to flirt with customers. I mean, I would never go this far but I wouldn’t be very happy about it.
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YourSecretSanta 3 years ago
Some women really proud of being toxic and thinks it makes them a good girlfriend
Irma 3 years ago
Indeed. I am so glad im happily married and sane instead of this nonsense. And i think its because i do not make my husband extremely cautious of his words and actions. Being nice obviously goes both ways and shouldnt be that hard. These posts might make people believe that it is okay to behave this way. The toxicity shouldnt be normalised.
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YourSecretSanta 3 years ago
Some women really proud of being toxic and thinks it makes them a good girlfriend
Irma 3 years ago
Indeed. I am so glad im happily married and sane instead of this nonsense. And i think its because i do not make my husband extremely cautious of his words and actions. Being nice obviously goes both ways and shouldnt be that hard. These posts might make people believe that it is okay to behave this way. The toxicity shouldnt be normalised.
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