“I Married The Wrong Person”: 40 People Revealed Confessions They’d Never Admit In Real Life

If my mum was escaping an awful relationship I'd respect her choice to keep her address secret.

She would communicate to her kids not to tell people where she lives. My mom has done this. She has only told a few close kin where she lives. No one knows where she works, not even me, despite talking to me about what she does and the antics. It's not like she's super secluded, but she wants her privacy. We respect her wishes. She hasn't changed her name, but she avoids being on any social media.

.....hi phil........hi james..........

Don’t stop at $20!

S*xualize. Thanks for protecting us BP 🙄

Just be clear about it to your partner(s).

Actually I think, at least for North America, that s*x is treated as something taboo and not to speak of. Which is odd especially as North Americans celebrate violence and death as entertainment.

Menopause cooled my desire somewhat too. Most men also slow down when they age—-of course there are always outliers, but most fit under the bell curve—-and s*x doesn’t happen as often. My husband has slowed down a lot, and most of the time we just end up cuddling, which is just as good in my opinion. So I think that’s kind of the way it’s set up to be as a couple grows older together.

I always felt I had to in order to please the boyfriend, or he'll leave me and tell everyone. My last 2 boyfriends always wanted something from me regarding s*x. If I wasn't in the mood he would tell me I had to do something else for him to get his rocks off. Leaving me alone was never an option in their vocabulary. My current bf has been surprisingly more respectful, but for the first while I was afraid he would react the same way, or get upset. So my ex lied, telling me "all men are the same so deal with it." But it has taken years to finally accept that I don't have to put up with it and that there are some men still out there that aren't like that. I used to be more into it when I was younger, but not anymore. That's why I don't paint myself with the Asexual brush. There has to be a consistent history of feeling that way. My issue is I'm traumatized from s*x and I don't see it as this safe fun thing to do with someone. It's the most vulnerable, intense, stressful position to be in.

Yes, please don’t pretend you want to have sėx just to get or keep a partner. That will make you feel like a pròstìtute. And if your partner finds out, they will feel cheated.

Do you say the same thing to bisexual people dating someone of the opposite gender too? How about heterosexuals? Not trying to be a di‍ck; just a genuine question. I don't think ace people are the only people that pretend. Some people are more insecure in their sexuality than others, and that's not relegated to any particular sexuality, including asexuality.

I had ovarian cancer. People used to tell me to stay positive, hope for the best etc. Not at all helpful and made me want to scream stfu. What would have been better would be offering to do my shopping, give me a lift to and from chemo sessions, take me out for the day somewhere lovely like an historic garden. Best thing was being gifted gorgeous bath and hair products.

Go find a zen garden and just sit there and enjoy it. It might do nothing for your mind, in which case you've had a nice morning enjoying a zen garden. Failing that try a sensory deprivation tank.

I cannot comprehend how to meditate the way others do. I've tried focusing on my body and surroundings with my eyes closed. Problem is, I have a skin disorder, so I then become very aware of every prickly feeling all over my skin, every annoying caress of fabric, the hunger growing in my stomach, how sore my joints are getting, the pull of gravity on my spine, the dust in the air getting in my nose, the heaviness in my eyes, the irritating sounds around me and I will still have that background track in my head and my inner voice starts up again. The best I can meditate is sleeping.

If you have the discipline. I, sadly, do not. I use white noise apps for sleeping, and just kind of deal the rest of the time.

Also try mindfulness.

Thinking about it isn’t always bad. Sometimes fantasies can help work things out for us emotionally. It when a person crosses the line and acts on their fantasies that it becomes a problem. Believe me, before I got married, if I had a bad breakup with a boyfriend, I have indulged in some highly satisfying fantasies about them getting their just desserts in different ways for hurting me. But I never even wanted my fantasies to come true. I was content with them remaining exclusively inside my imagination. Eventually they’d fade away, once I got over the breakup and realized I had dodged those bullets by no longer being with such a******s.

Right? There are so many more creative ways than shooting! Run them over with a giant wooden trojan horse! 😂 (Okay, so that just might be my weirdness...)

I had the same issue when my husband passed away. His illness had made in a very unpleasant, unkind man in his last years. Like you I had to consciously keep bringing to mind the kind and loving man he had been and try to deliberately turn away from the later ones.

Don’t feel guilty, it wasn’t her in the end sadly. Who you remember as your MIL is how she was and how she should make you feel ❤️ i was working last year in the lockup high care dementia ward, it was very fun and interesting

Don't feel guilty. You had no control how your mother acted. Keeping looking at those pictures of your mother. Also I would advise seen a thearpist.