“Sometimes You Are The Problem In The Situation”: 45 Life Pills That People Found Hard To Swallow

This hit extra hard today, might need to put down my elderly cat this week. So sad that they just are with us for a short period of our lives, but it is a small comfort that we/I are with them for their entire life. I believe I mean as much to him as he does to me.

My wife and I just had to put down our 18 year old cat a month ago, it's so sad to lose such a presence in your life.

Max crossed the rainbow bridge in 2018. I've only just been able give away his food bowls.

That is one of the saddest things I ever did - she was on my lap purring (but could not move - severe motor function issues) and I knew that when I called the vet in it was over (sigh, the onion ninjas are attacking again)

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I had to put my middle aged cat to sleep last week due to a sudden debilitating health condition. Maybe the other 3 will outlive me

Yup. I have outlived several and don’t want to think about the days when I may have to say “see you later “ to my pups….

My grandson lost his longtime kitty just yesterday. She was 16 years old, and he had gotten her when he was just 2. He toted her around like a stuffy when he was little, and she loved it and him. RIP Pooka.

It was so hard - GG was on my stomach purring; I knew that when I pushed the button the vet would send her off. D**n that was difficult

I still miss my ginger, scamp, he's been gone 30years...time I think to get another ginger to heal the hole in my heart....miss you puss

Of course it's sad to lose your beloved, but remember that you now have an open space in your home to rescue another needy fur baby. And that new baby will most certainly help you feel better faster.

No matter how hard we try, some stories just don't have a happy ending....paraphrased from the book Leaving Time.

This isn’t well worded. The truth is that terrible and hurtful things happen to people, they can end up altered and struggling because of the mistreatment or abuse of others but at least we live in a time where trauma is understood and help is available. Telling people in pain it’s their job to heal isn’t the way to put it. The truth is that people can heal with help, love, support and perseverance. Don’t be hard on yourself if you’re still struggling, you aren’t as alone in feeling the way that you do as it seems and somewhere out there is the answer to help. Your pain matters and you deserve to feel better.

I.e. elections in most countries.

We are learning this every day in the USA. Donald Trump has no moral values and I await the downvotes.

You'll never fail if you don't try.

Your whole life can be turned upside down at a moment's notice through no fault of your own.

This is so true. And sometimes the discreet acquaintance shows up when you're alone and in need and even their family come and help you and ask for nothing. New friends forever.

Sometimes you are the problem even if you think you're doing things the best possible way. The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

No, but you can behave toward them so that they want to. Of course, most people who do that don't expect their children to take care of them in their old age.

vice versa

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None of us are getting out of this alive. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Narcissism.

I've entered and won a writing contest two years ago. I'm competing again this year, and people ask me 'did you write the winning story?' and I tell them 'that's entirely dependent on what everyone else wrote. You can write an incredibly good story, but if someone else just does it better, you don't win."

A hard truth...but the truth.

That also means you can want to help someone with all your heart but if they don't want to help themselves as well, your effort goes no where.

Also important to recognise that something may not be your responsibility despite others insisting that it is, and that it's simply very convenient for them if you're naive enough to assume responsibility.

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I'm sick of this one. Did BP scrape some Redpill idiot on 4Chan?

Understanding that (I mean deeply, like changing your view of the world) can help to manage anxiety. Is there anything I could do to avoid this? No? So I move on. When I was pregnant my baby had issues and he could have died or have a bad health, and I knew stress could induce those bad things, so I stopped worrying. It's very hard to do. You need to reset your mindset in a certain way. Meditation and yoga helped. He's a perfectly healthy little boy.

And you need to acknowledge when you win, some peopl don't even realise

This one should be higher than #36. Staying angry about not getting an apology only harms yourself. As I heard it put once, "It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."

And even if they do, many go for the lowest hanging fruit.

That's BS. Friendship? Creating art? Enjoying one's life? Pets? Love? Contentment? Enjoying entertainment? Knowing yourself? Healing one's inner wounds? Exercise? Having fun at work? Learning? All of these can be enjoyed fully without or just a modest amount of money. Some people just think they're so super edgy and "see it as it is" by saying this stuff. Sometime money helps. But if it makes people happy, why is Trump never smiling? Why does Musk not behave like a happy, relaxed person? Why are rich people ki/ling themselves?

Not being offended does not equal tolerating the offensive. The tolerance paradox. We cannot tolerate the intolerable in the name of tolerance. (But also choose your battles, sometimes we just have to walk away from people who will never change.)

This one sucks the most because everyone is brought up to believe that life should be fair, but it's not and will never be. I think it's the hardest for most people to accept.

Yes, all the "AITA, I'm a saintly, tolerant, beautiful, polite person and the world has done me wrong" I'd love to hear the other side of so many of those stories.

Or someone who knows the right people.

Including family!

Sometimes it takes only one bad turn

And the cat will eat the all of them!

I live my life actively resisting alcoholism. I drink moderately (2-3 cans of light beer per week) but I am always thinking abt drinking because that makes me less angry at my mind.

....but you DEFINITELY owe taxes

This hits me the hardest. I was very close with my friend but we drifted apart, I grew and evolved but he didn't. I stopped accepting calls etc mostly because my own MH was suffering but I couldn't cope with his MH issues too. Turns out we were both ND but didn't know it at the time. After 10 years, his nephew contacted me on Facebook to say he had died suddenly from a cardiac arrest after suffering from pneumonia. This hit me hard. I carry so much guilt for not just sucking it up and going to see him. Or even just talking to him on the phone. I dream of him often now.

If you were born into it, it's not success. And very likely not your parents' either.

Another terrible truth because we want this to be wrong so strongly.

#Facts

Not a person- my dog. The sweetest unconditional love.

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And that is why I trust no one.

Well, it is okay to ask for help. Humans cannot be 100% independent. But you should take the reins and do most of the work to help yourself. If you find yourself needing to find a new home, that's what you have to do. If you need to find a job, you have to go looking for it. Doesn't matter what online site is hyping that employers will just "find" your resume and contact you all because you uploaded it on their site. If you're having difficulty getting what you want, you have to look into what the issue is. Often, the solution is in your control. If you need help, seek it out. No one is saving you out of the blue.

No one is entitled to my opinion.

It is harder then people think it is to heal from this.

No but it can matter to us in that moment. Sitting watching a sunset with your daughter, seeing glowing animals in the amber clouds. That matters.

This is counterproductive and unrealistic. If you NEVER do more than the minimum you will be on minimum wage till you die. the likelihood is there will be opportunities for promotion and you have excluded yourself. It's not fair, but corporatism is the world we live in.

Said every corporation and politician who ever lived.

And you cannot even nudge them in the direction they need to go. Personally, I woke up one day sick as a dog and shaking so badly that I didn't know whether to get another drink to stop the shakes, or water because I was so incredibly thirsty. The thought of food never entered my mind. I sat down and lit a cigarette and decided I just couldn't live like this any longer. That began my recovery journey. Nothing anyone else said could have pushed me in that direction. You have to understand that at a certain point, you stop being you. Even the person dearest to you can't influence you to make that decision.

Abusers are often, in front of others, the nicest, kindest, most generous, funniest people you could ever wish to meet. That's why it is so hard for their victims to be believed.

"Some people who are in a position to help you won't" seems more accurate to me

Very true. Also I have noticed that on social media if you don't agree with the majority on a post, you will get some angry responses, we all should be able to express our opinion.

Sometimes others sow, you reap.

Sometimes that painful experience turns out to be the exit sign you needed.

But the part between retiring and dying has been sweet!

I envy you that your parents thought you were special!