We all have our secret shames. Guilty little skeletons in the closet that we would never dare to confess to even our closest friends. Well, not when sober, at least.
The great thing about the internet is its anonymity. Behind the protection of a screen, people can feel liberated to say things they never would in face-to-face conversation, and really say what they mean. Of course, it goes both ways and this can also lead to all kinds of bullying and abuse, but that's for another post.
This post is all about getting it off your chest and owning up to past wrongs. While confessing anonymously to randoms on the internet is hardly taking responsibility for one's actions, the very act of confession can alleviate feelings of guilt and help people to get on with their lives. From the hilariously trivial to the actually quite profound, these confessions will take you through a rollercoaster of emotions, and might even make you reflect on your own past transgressions.
So scroll down below to check out the sordid details for yourself, and let the therapy begin!
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i always did it. and turned them away when i thought i'm doing something they wouldn't approve. just in case :D
According to an article in Scientific American, any type of open and truthful disclosure reduces stress and helps individuals come to terms with their behavior. "It is not coincidental that some of the most powerful people or institutions in many cultures encourage people to confess their transgressions," they write. "And there is very strong evidence that writing about upsetting experiences or dark secrets can benefit your mental and physical well-being."
"First, simply putting emotional turmoil into words changes how we think about it. Giving concrete form to secret experiences can help categorize them in new ways. For instance, when we translate emotional experiences into words and stories, we start to think about them in a simpler, less menacing context. There is no solid evidence to explain this phenomenon, but it most likely occurs because talking or writing about a disturbing event helps us understand it better. And things we do not understand cause greater anxiety."
"Dozens of studies have also shown that expressive writing is linked to less stress and improved sleep and cardiovascular function. We know that better sleep is associated with enhanced immune function and better general health—which correlate with better mental health, too."
"Expressive writing and religious confession are not panaceas, but these forms of release can help us get through difficult times. The beauty is that you do not have to be religious to benefit from confession. The underlying mechanisms are available to anyone for the price of a pencil and paper."
Same tbh. I especially hate it when they do this while hiking/camping. People go in the mountains for the quiet, if you want music blasting go to a club.
So there you go. Got any guilty secrets you've been holding on to? Try writing about them, and allow yourself to properly express your emotions. It is clearly a great benefit to both your mental and physical health!
Agreed. I love my husband with a heart and a half, but sometimes I just don’t want him around. Oddly enough though, I never feel that way about my pets. Uh-oh..... (jk).
I feel that way about my husband AND dog.. but as soon as they go to bed I miss them.
Load More Replies...I married a cross country truck driver who is now working locally and home all the time. Love him but I just want to push him down a flight of stairs sometimes!!!! ... I promise I wont.
Lots of retired athletes joke about how their wives are sick of them being around all the time now.
Load More Replies...One more for affirming the normalcy! My girlfriend requires some alone time each week to just process her own thoughts. She desires it. I don't usually want it...but I've learned I need it my own self too. We miss each other when we're apart, but the consequences and fall out when we don't make that space is always worse.
That is wonderfully supportive of you. I feel the same way as your girlfriend does, especially now that we have two kids and both work full time - I need some alone time to not have to speak to anyone or listen to anyone but just be alone with my thoughts. Unfortunately my husband has a very hard time understanding that and takes it personally. Even if he says he understands and supports me, he will be mopey and sad. This is very difficult to deal with. You are doing a great job or letting her determine what she needs and supporting her.
Load More Replies...Hahaha I miss sleeping alone when he's home on weekends because he's a bed and blanket hog. I love cuddling till I'm asleep, then he can go lmfao
I had to pretend I was happy when my husband got out of the army. I miss the breaks I got while he was away on training missions.
Go out shopping, walking, whatever for some me time... if your SO doesn't understand that then explain it to them
Walking works soooo well! In a house full of family and animals, the house is boisterous and lively, and even though it's a fun place to live, I love to put on some headphones and go for a walk, sometimes for three or four hours. I may be surrounded by other humans but it's precious alone time that I love!
Load More Replies...My partner is a trucker. I miss him sometimes. Other times, I like that he is away. I work, get me time, and when he gets home it’s more fresh than being in each other’s pockets. Separate time and alone time is essential
My husband has worked from home for the past 3 years. I could cut my throat.
My boyfriend almost doesn't leave our apartment. He just plays game all day all night and goes out with friends for a pint of beer like once in two weeks. Refuses to go visit his parents for two days so I would have some me-time. Living with a one room apartment is not helping...
Same here my husband starting working from home going on 4 yrs now and I miss sleeping on the bed alone at night since he worked grave yard and miss watching whatever I want without him saying we should watch something together which I don't like anything he watches
DAmn...I can totally deal with this. My boyfriend and I worked different shifts, but then he got a job the same shift as mine, and I felt like I couldn't breath because I never go my alone time
Some of us need alone time, I feel that couples should have a little alone time !!!
I have to admit I am happier when my husband goes to bed early. Then I can relax, read, and I get control of the remote.
There is nothing wrong with alone time...talk to him. You may be surprised he might feel the same!
This is super normal! I loooove being alone and during my previous relationship I used to tell him to go out with his friends and it pissed me of when he didn't 😉
I live in third world country and I still have more love and sympathy for animals lot more than humans.
my brothers gf got pregnant and lost it. I was secretly pleased cause they don't have their s**t together and live in a trashy apt. with no ambition to make their life better. his gf is also not right in the head. I am glad they lost it cause it would have made mess out of their already messy life. however, I'm curious if it would have given him a reason to change.
If you are his best friend I don't want to know who is his worst enemy. But probably his mom.
I tried the vegetarian life...don't have the discipline for it. lasted one week only.
It's sad that this is seen as a shameful thing. It's perfectly normal to feel ánd show emotions, for both men and women!
Then stop lying!! Tell people you're ready to date. Watch what happens!
Agreed. Also, “Friends” was the worst sit-com I’ve ever briefly suffered through. 1.5 episodes (back to back, in syndication) of watching arguably the (scripted to be) dumbest people on TV do stupid things was more than my brain could handle. Turned it off, no regrets.
Professional counselling required. And if you're so smart, you'll do it.
Options to cheat almost never appear out of thin air, you have to work in order to create them. This means you didn't try to cheat.
Anchovies on pizza works too. Also, they are freaking delicious. (Don’t tell!!)
You're worried it might happen or hoping it does so you get out of the pain that is existence?
I'm curious as to why. If it was justified, then you shouldn't worry about it. If you were just being a jerk, you should lay awake every night.
There is no such thing as a soulmate. There are many people on this earth whose puzzle pieces will fit nicely into yours.
Just means you have a varied taste in music. A metalhead I know likes Enya. Nothing wrong with that.
Normal. Dogs are amazing companions, but puppies are absolutely horrible. The only good thing about them is that they are cute and for a serious person like myself, it's by no means a redeeming vice. I couldn't wait for my dog to grow up and start behaving as if I actually spent all those thousands of hours training him. Even though we are not entirely compatible, he's for the most part great. When I remember him as a puppy or an adolescent however, it makes me sick. People who think that the best period of a dog's life is when it's little, never ever had a dog!
I don't know about anchovies on pizza (never tried them) but pineapple is suprisingly good. (Now bring on the downvotes!)
I've never eaten a pop-tart and don't plan on changing that any time soon.
You can! Get in touch with a (no kill) shelter and find a new, loving home for him! You're not happy, he's not happy, go do something about it.
I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
Load More Replies...Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
Load More Replies...I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/
I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
Load More Replies...Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
Load More Replies...I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/