We all have our secret shames. Guilty little skeletons in the closet that we would never dare to confess to even our closest friends. Well, not when sober, at least.
The great thing about the internet is its anonymity. Behind the protection of a screen, people can feel liberated to say things they never would in face-to-face conversation, and really say what they mean. Of course, it goes both ways and this can also lead to all kinds of bullying and abuse, but that's for another post.
This post is all about getting it off your chest and owning up to past wrongs. While confessing anonymously to randoms on the internet is hardly taking responsibility for one's actions, the very act of confession can alleviate feelings of guilt and help people to get on with their lives. From the hilariously trivial to the actually quite profound, these confessions will take you through a rollercoaster of emotions, and might even make you reflect on your own past transgressions.
So scroll down below to check out the sordid details for yourself, and let the therapy begin!
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i always did it. and turned them away when i thought i'm doing something they wouldn't approve. just in case :D
According to an article in Scientific American, any type of open and truthful disclosure reduces stress and helps individuals come to terms with their behavior. "It is not coincidental that some of the most powerful people or institutions in many cultures encourage people to confess their transgressions," they write. "And there is very strong evidence that writing about upsetting experiences or dark secrets can benefit your mental and physical well-being."
"First, simply putting emotional turmoil into words changes how we think about it. Giving concrete form to secret experiences can help categorize them in new ways. For instance, when we translate emotional experiences into words and stories, we start to think about them in a simpler, less menacing context. There is no solid evidence to explain this phenomenon, but it most likely occurs because talking or writing about a disturbing event helps us understand it better. And things we do not understand cause greater anxiety."
"Dozens of studies have also shown that expressive writing is linked to less stress and improved sleep and cardiovascular function. We know that better sleep is associated with enhanced immune function and better general health—which correlate with better mental health, too."
"Expressive writing and religious confession are not panaceas, but these forms of release can help us get through difficult times. The beauty is that you do not have to be religious to benefit from confession. The underlying mechanisms are available to anyone for the price of a pencil and paper."
Same tbh. I especially hate it when they do this while hiking/camping. People go in the mountains for the quiet, if you want music blasting go to a club.
Tell me about it.. My baby is dying right now from bone cancer. It hurts so bad and idk how I'm gonna get along after she's gone.
Oh, so so sad! It is heartbreaking but at least you'll have done all you can and she knows she is loved. Maybe, after some time, you can help a little scared animal in need of a loving home. Knowing I could open my door, arms and heart to another doggo is the only way i coped. Didn't stop grieving but it helps change some of the focus. Miss every pet I have ever had and always will.
Load More Replies...I get it. When my first dog died, I mourned 4 years. Literally took 4 years to not tear up at the mention of his name.
My best friend Bubbles had to be euthanised over 5 years ago and I still miss her dearly. We do have another dog now but I will always have a special place in my heart for Bubbles.
Hopefully you'll get to a place where you're ready to open up your heart to a pet again.
Or, wanting one, but not able to be at home with it all day. Dogs want company !!
I loved my dog but always knew I would out live her. Her passing was not awful. Certainly a lot cleaner and less grief-filled than my father's or grand parents. But I often miss her more than the family members I've lost.
I can relate, my dog was euthanised the day after my poppa died and her death affected me more than my pops.
Load More Replies...It's always still worth it. The duality of life is unavoidable. The love trumps the pain- that's why we live!
It’s heartbreaking when a beloved pet dies, even if you haven’t had them very long. I lost an 8 month old kitten I’d had since she was 8 weeks old, and I had to go home for the rest of the day immediately after getting the call. She was at the vet to be spayed, normal procedure (her littermate brother had been neutered the week before and was just fine), only no one knew she had an underlying heart condition. She went into cardiac arrest during the surgery and died on the table. That was 4 years ago, and I still think of her. She was a sweet little clown, and I had been looking forward to 20 years of her antics making me smile.
Exactly why I'm never getting any more pets, I'd love to have another cat, I miss the snuggles but it's just too hard at the end. I lost my 20 year old cat who I had since she was a kitten back in April
I do understand. It is so hard. I try to look at it from this point of view - they will live or die whether you know them or not. You can make a difference to how lovely their life is while they are here.
Load More Replies...And yet you have a girlfriend. Doesn't the same thing apply here? People break up you know, but the time spent together gives you a life time of memories. Same goes for pets. Yes losing them is really tough, but the joy they bring is the best.
People don’t get in relationships planning on breaking up, but every pet owner knows that dogs don’t live as long as humans.
Load More Replies...My bf is the same way with this. But I know he loves dogs cause he spoils mine with attention.
I currently have a two year old rescue and he is the light of my life, really. You just have to cherish the time you have with them. I take mine wherever I go, I take him on roads trips (he loooves drives!), rent pet friendly airbnbs and all. He basically is always with me unless I'm at work. I just keep myself from thinking that his life span is not the same as mine. I sure will have to get another pup before he goes because I won't be able to cope otherwise haha in the meantime, I spend most of my time making sure he lives his best life!
You should tell your girlfriend. I’m sure she will be sympathetic.
Nobody is obligated to get a pet. There are also plenty of kids in foster care and orphanages. How many have you adopted?
Load More Replies...I know i'm reading this a little late, but i totally feel this too. My poor dog had to be euthanised this past summer, and whenever i see a picture of her, i cry a lot. She was one of my closest friends in life, if imma be honest. RIP Lily Grace
The joy they give you during their life is worth the pain of their loss.
When a beloved pet is lost to us, it's extremely painful, I know as I have lost more than one, however, if after the first loss I had no more, the love I wouldn't have had with the others, each one gave me the love, and so much joy, I am pleased that I chose to have more to love and be loved, all my pets I rescued, gave me more than I gave them, I now have two more, no regrets !!!
i lost a dog. all i used to get through it was imagining him running around playing in heaven
Wish I'd thought of that before Daisy entered my life. I accidentally ran over her and killed her. That was in the early eighties. I still mourn for her
I highly recommend FOSTERING dogs (and cats). Many no-kill shelters place animals in foster homes -- the shelter provides the medical care and keeps pets listed for adoption. Sometimes we take the pets to the shelter to meet prospective adopters, sometimes they pick them up. It really puts things in perspective as far as bonding: we become immediately fond of animals, but can let them go. Usually the pets are older, sometimes physically impaired. I work from home and my roommate works a part-time job and spends most of his spare time at home. We have two dogs and a cat. They were all very timid when they moved in, but now they're totally personable, which will help them be more appealing to prospective adopters.
We can't fix that. Maybe rescue some dog from the pound? I am sorry for your grief.
I can definitely identify with this. I hesitated to get another dog after losing my elderly dog last year, after having him for his entire lifetime. I did eventually get another dog - it seemed I was destined to have this little guy in my life, because he's the same color as my other dog, and was already named the same name! So I had "big Barney" and now I have "little Barney", or Barney 2.0, as my grandson calls him. LOL
Losing a pet is far worse than losing a person in your life. Pets give unconditional love and never hurt you intentionally. I have yet to bury my dog Barney's ashes in the flower bed, I just can't part with him.
Having lost a beloved greyhound to bone cancer, I totally get this. We have a pair of greyhounds now and I worry every day that they’ll get sick too.
My cat died 3 years ago. she was the love of my life. I'm crying right now as I write this.
My childhood dog died in 1989 and I still miss her, and I swore I'd never go through that again... one day nearly 3 decades later I fell in love with a very sad little face in a cage. I needed her as much as she needed us. She's now 3 and a half and omg I love her more than life. One day we will have to let her go, I know that will be devastating but I wont wait long to adopt another dog. It's not replacing her, it's sharing the love and good life I have to give and honoring her memory by giving a beautiful sweet baby dog a home. cookie-cha...76fec8.jpg
I'm not a dog person at all. Too much work. They jump on you. Bark. Not my thing.
So there you go. Got any guilty secrets you've been holding on to? Try writing about them, and allow yourself to properly express your emotions. It is clearly a great benefit to both your mental and physical health!
I live in third world country and I still have more love and sympathy for animals lot more than humans.
my brothers gf got pregnant and lost it. I was secretly pleased cause they don't have their s**t together and live in a trashy apt. with no ambition to make their life better. his gf is also not right in the head. I am glad they lost it cause it would have made mess out of their already messy life. however, I'm curious if it would have given him a reason to change.
If you are his best friend I don't want to know who is his worst enemy. But probably his mom.
I tried the vegetarian life...don't have the discipline for it. lasted one week only.
It's sad that this is seen as a shameful thing. It's perfectly normal to feel ánd show emotions, for both men and women!
Then stop lying!! Tell people you're ready to date. Watch what happens!
Agreed. Also, “Friends” was the worst sit-com I’ve ever briefly suffered through. 1.5 episodes (back to back, in syndication) of watching arguably the (scripted to be) dumbest people on TV do stupid things was more than my brain could handle. Turned it off, no regrets.
Professional counselling required. And if you're so smart, you'll do it.
Options to cheat almost never appear out of thin air, you have to work in order to create them. This means you didn't try to cheat.
Anchovies on pizza works too. Also, they are freaking delicious. (Don’t tell!!)
You're worried it might happen or hoping it does so you get out of the pain that is existence?
I'm curious as to why. If it was justified, then you shouldn't worry about it. If you were just being a jerk, you should lay awake every night.
There is no such thing as a soulmate. There are many people on this earth whose puzzle pieces will fit nicely into yours.
Just means you have a varied taste in music. A metalhead I know likes Enya. Nothing wrong with that.
Normal. Dogs are amazing companions, but puppies are absolutely horrible. The only good thing about them is that they are cute and for a serious person like myself, it's by no means a redeeming vice. I couldn't wait for my dog to grow up and start behaving as if I actually spent all those thousands of hours training him. Even though we are not entirely compatible, he's for the most part great. When I remember him as a puppy or an adolescent however, it makes me sick. People who think that the best period of a dog's life is when it's little, never ever had a dog!
I don't know about anchovies on pizza (never tried them) but pineapple is suprisingly good. (Now bring on the downvotes!)
I've never eaten a pop-tart and don't plan on changing that any time soon.
You can! Get in touch with a (no kill) shelter and find a new, loving home for him! You're not happy, he's not happy, go do something about it.
I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
Load More Replies...Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
Load More Replies...I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/
I wish I could get all of these people in a room to talk it out and realize that they aren't that bad, or at least don't have to be. There is a lot to learn here from others' mistakes and it seems like some of these people have already learned from their own.
Well, the two guy who had sex with their best friend's mom are that bad.
Load More Replies...Seeing that same bear 84 times in a row got weird really fast...
Not sure what's more scary. The fact that how many people banged their "best friends'" mom, or how many mother had sex with their son's allegedly best friends.
If you don't hurt any living being in the process, then it's not that bad.
I feel guilty because I couldn't remember most of my childhood memories or college memories..when my friends or family member share the moments I couldn't recollect any of those moments.
Yes, I blocked out a lot of good with the bad. I think it was a totally worthwhile trade-off.
Load More Replies...I really don't care for animals all that much and it makes me feel like I'm a bad person sometimes. I just... really like human people more than animals. Every time I tell someone I don't much care for animals, they act like I'm from Mars.....
People are only human. Shame they don't realize that everything they do isn't as monumental as they have come to view their actions. Most people don't remember, only the people doing it at the time. Still feel guilty? They should do something nice for someone, some animal, do a good deed and balance karma in their life. You can't be responsible for the universe, do what you can in your own life. Cause no harm. Spread some joy. Sometimes it's the best a human can do . . .
Some of these are disappointing that people are embarrassed of these. I relate mostly to the first and second ones
Am I the only one who always thought everyone put their stuffed animal's head above the blanket?
Some of the best confessions I came across. If you want to write your heart out anonymously you can also visit - https://vigyaa.io/