“You Don’t Realize That Until It’s Too Late”: 30 Signs That Somebody Is Not Okay

Relatable. I've for years and years wanted to be the cool, outgoing woman all the time, even if I deep down felt very depressed and just really wanted to be left alone and be by myself. Since a few years it's crashed entirely in on itself and I just can't be bothered wanting to be part of everything all the time. I can still be outgoing, just on my own terms.

Very well said. I'm one of those people. However, I'm learning that no matter how hard you try, some people are going to resent you anyway.

Very intuitive and that's why he was such a good comedian.

Robin Williams is one of my few personal heroes. The world would be a better place if more people tried to be like him.

We will always love you Robin.

I've been there. I'm the one everyone turns to, who is just expected to be there. But when I need them? Even when I flat out ask, I'm usually met with a dismissive response and then ignored.

This made me so sad. I sure hope yo ure okay, and how are you doing?

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Hits home.. I was the caring, quick with a joke, or to light up your smoke guy. Nobody had a clue. This is going to p**s off people but I'll say it anyway. There is suicidal and reaching out, and suicidal and hiding it. You hide it because you know someone will stop it. I was a hypocrite, giving advice to people to fight onward when I wanted to give the grim reaper a big wet sloppy kiss.

This is one of the dangers of antidepressants, and I say this as a person who takes them: a lot of people simply don't do themselves in because the roll is so exhausting, that they don't have the strength. So they start taking antidepressants, start to feel more energetic, but still feel the need to check out... only they now have the energy to plan. Don't assume that the pills alone will be a magic bullet. This can also happen is there is an abrupt change in their medicine plan that is too great in a short amount of time...or they choose to go off them.

This... when the quiet and withdrawn ones are suddenly back overnight, then you really, REALLY need to check what's up.

Never, never stop caring and talking. There’s always a chance that a text, an email or a call could be the trigger for something that saves a life. Silence kills. I’ve been to the edge and ended up under the care of a crisis team, one text made me seek out help to stop me jumping. That friend saved my life. Don’t hassle people into communicating but equally be present, check in with daft things, be the light relief someone needs to escape the thoughts that are overwhelming them, you never know that your unintentional intervention may save a life. Be more kind.

Can't totally agree with this one. I'm very bi polar and my mood can change easily over night. My lows lasts a few days and then with the snap of a finger I'm on a high

This is what finally got me to therapy. I went on an awesome vacation, something I'd wanted dtondo all my life. Beautiful landscapes, totally different culture (which I enjoy), fascinating archeological sites. I could distantly acknowledge the beauty of my surroundings, but I was just not feeling any of it. Like a heavy and distorting invisible veil between me and the world.

What is this "excitement" of which you speak?

When I was in my deepest depression, I just couldn't get my family to understand how bad it was or why I couldn't just not be depressed. I told my dad I hadn't even read a book in months (when I'm feeling okay I can blaze through a book easily in a weekend, but I probably read five or six a month). He said, "oh, I cant imagine that" and I said, "exactly!.

Too true.

Yep, depression and/or old age.

Yes... this was me. The thing that breaks you the most, is that the person you pick up, kicks you down afterwards

Chester Bennington was like this.

You never want anyone to ever feel the way you do.

absolutely true! I think it helps to help others, it give "that guy" a little serotonin boost. Oddly, they don't tell you how horribly they feel, because that would bring you down so even if they did they would then feel bad about telling you and now making it your problem.

ok so now nice guys are just all depressed?

I knew this, but you didn’t have to say it, man. Leave my unopened mail out of it, forget about the dryer lint I pile up and throw away maybe every two weeks, and ignore the dirty sock on the floor I keep just stepping over while thinking, “I should really pick that up.”

When I have been through some particularly bad times, I let the house and the garden get messy. I was still going to work, looking after my kids, paying the bills, keeping my general appearance tidy, and on the surface I appeared to be OK but I quite simply didn't have the energy to do things like housework. It's not that I didn't want to, I just didn't have the strength.

THIS. My clothes stayed on a big, messy pile on the table for a few years. I only got what I needed to wear from the pile. As I got in therapy, the pile started to get smaller. I used to fold them "one at a time" (a towel, a blouse etc.), and even this seemed hard to do. I now regret I don't have "before" and "after" photos.

Those symptoms could also be ADHD

I do not allow people in my house. When repairmen come, I try to do a little something, but, I just don't know where to start. I'm very apologetic to repairmen who come into my house.

My therapist told me that I expend so much energy "appearing normal" while out dealing with othe people, that of course I'm going to feel exhausted by the time I get home.