Some opinions can really make one’s blood run cold. And they don’t have to be some horror-story-based ideas; at times saying something sexist enough or simply completely out of line can make people wary.
Women of Reddit have discussed what they find worrisome after the user 'neonroli47' started a thread about it. The redditor asked them what's an opinion they’ve heard someone express that made them scared of that person, and quite a few women shared their experiences. Continue scrolling if you want to see their answers and feel free to share yours in the comments section below.
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“A woman can say no and later say yes so when she says no, it’s a challenge to change her mind.”
I literally don’t care what context this is in. Anyone who has this mindset when it comes to women is scary and I don’t want to be in their vicinity.
Is it just me or alot of the comments in this whole thread that are anti-r**e, anti domestic violence & anti-p*****lia getting downvoted? 🤔
Load More Replies...What a load of nonsense....no means no, wether it's from a woman, man or child. Wether it's sexual or not....no means no, yes means yes. Stop bothering us normal folk with the stupid little challenges you set yourselves. Us normos don't like it.
They've seen too many so-called RomComs and think this c**p actually works.
Load More Replies...That’s a… rapist mindset. Not trying to insult anyone, but women should stay away from guys like that!
Whenever I reject my partner after him asking enough times, he gets mad and suddenly I'm the bad guy 😑
Your partner is an entitled prick. He's getting mad because you're denying him what he believes is rightfully his. You're better off single than with someone who sees you as a sex toy.
Load More Replies...I'm one of the most open minded person on the planet when it comes to sex, but CONSENT should be at the base of any intercourse. Period.
"I feel sorry for them but honestly if they're walking alone and in quiet places at night what do they expect to happen?" My ex regarding women who get r***d. He got dumped the next day.
Yeah because obviously only one half of the population should be able to go out after dark /s
One of my male coworkers tried to confidently proclaim that men on average are actually in more danger walking alone late at night because they might get beaten up and mugged. I just stared at him lol.
Load More Replies...Yes having to walk home, you definitely deserve to be raped. Because lack of transportation is just an open invitation to have sex with random men or women with out consent.
Had a big fight with my husband over something similair. While exploring a town we (adult couple and two teenage daughters) were obiously being followed by a group of three men. It got scary, but we managed to shake them off. Hubbie then blamed our 15 year old daughter for leading them on. Apparently her big fault was to wander around town (with her parents!!) while being pretty. I got sooo mad at him.
"I feel sorry for them but honestly if they're walking and in any places, day or night what do they expect to happen?" Me regarding toxic men who get hit upside the head with a bat.
"What do they expect to happen?" I don't know, for men to actually act like decent human beings? Crazy, I know.
Every woman should be able to walk around safely anywhere and any time without any assault.
To the ex-boyfriend: "I'm sorry for you but honestly if you're half-condoning rape right in front of your girlfriend what do you expect to happen?"
It shouldn’t be like that, but sadly it is. No one should EXPECT rape & violence alone at night, but you should be AWARE that there are a LOT of s****y people out there that will take advantage of vulnerable women. Stay safe!
“Listen, I know you don’t want to believe it but basically men are biologically designed to hunt and that includes hunt women. It’s in our nature to SA and just take what we want”. He said that on our second date.
And women are designed to gather... gather restraining orders from creeps like him
Wow. Just, no not even close to being something scientifically legitimate. At least not for hundreds of thousands of years. He’s just basically saying he has refused to learn basic human decency or empathy, or even how to live in a society. Avoid! And maybe report too
Well, if he thinks his brain functions like a dogs, he shall be castrated too!
Load More Replies...I'd say "so he thinks men are mindless animals" but your average animal doesn't behave like that. Rats breed like... well, rats, yeah? So you'd think that means the females aren't allowed to say no, right? Wrong. I personally witnessed a male rat making advances on a female, and she wasn't into it and swatted him away, whereupon *he left her alone*.
In the animal world it is often the female that hunts or is 'in charge'. Humans tend to only oppress that which they fear in some way...
Load More Replies...'I know you don't believe it, but as a woman, if I'm assaulted by anyone, it's in my nature to rip your throat out any way I can."
I don't know, but if I was a man, this kind of guy would p**s me off. He's basically reducing the lot of you to the level of mindless animals.
It's funny how so many men can present themselves as nothing more than a big dumb walking sex drive and not even be embarrassed about it.
Load More Replies..."Designed to hunt": Show me the spear you made and the moose you killed with it, otherwise your design sucks enough that your argument is pointless. You don't get to use use "design" and a shrug to explain SA when your "biologically designed for this" hunter ar$e would starve without door dash.
I was in a class about sexual harassment. The teacher told us a story about a baron and his wife. The baron was supposed to go on a trip and told his wife not to leave, and that if she did, something terrible would happen to her. The wife leaves to go see her lover. When she tries to get back into the castle, the gatekeeper won't let her because he was ordered to k**l her if she left. She tries to get help from friends but no one will help her, so the gatekeeper k***s her. At the end the teacher asked us who was responsible. The majority of men in the room said it was her fault because she cheated and disobeyed her husband. This was before I was supposed to deploy with these men in the Army. It made me terrified to be stuck with them for the better part of a year. If anything happened to me, they would either be the perpetrators or they would blame me, because apparently infidelity is worse than m****r and women who cheat should be k****d.
Or just a bunch of s****y people with horrible parents. Not all men are like this. Good men are just as disgusted by that type of behavior as you are!
Load More Replies...These are the same type of men who pat each other on the back for cheating on the women in their lives as well.
She didn't have to get killed, but if someone i lived with cheated on me I would definitely change the locks
I am 77 years old and SO discouraged that 50+ years of feminism have not erased this misogyny. I try to stop myself from thinking "men are by nature vicious a*******."
Ahh, there's the problem. Men are viscious and controlling arseholes, it's no help to you being in denial about it.
Load More Replies...PLEASE stop sticking asterisks in words like 'kill' & 'murder' - ffs, nobody's advocating the actions or reads the words and thinks "Aha, I was wondering what to do this afternoon, I think I'll go out massacring."
Yet it is perfectly ok for the Baron to leave, cheat on his wife and not get ki11ed! Hm, Let's retell this story with role reversal...A Baroness leaves to go on a trip and tells her Husband, the Baron, not to leave the house as he will be ki11ed. Turns out, the Baron leaves to be with his lover then tries to go home. The gatekeeper tells him, " You were told not to go or you would dye. You left, now dye" ...now, Who is responsible?
This is multifaceted. At its most basic, if you stand on a pedestrian crossing in the road and a loony tune speeding driver is coming at you tooting his horn warning you to move but you don't because you are in the right, you are still dead when he runs you over. The males are loony tune a******s but unless you can survive their acting out of their a*****e egoic genes you really are stuck in retreat and survive mode aren't you?
I went on a date with a guy and he was telling me that he loved going to sports bars like hooters and twin peaks. He was telling me that his favorite time to go was lingerie nights. Then he was telling me he enjoys going to the bars on Saturday nights so he can watch women in tiny skirts and shirts and dresses cat fight. He then said "they're drunk enough to act like that in public, imagine what they'd do in private" then winked at me. The next day he called me and asked me out again, after out first date I felt so uncomfortable and grossed out, I blocked him.
I don’t understand why you would even talk about this on a date, especially your first date with someone!
Complete lack of respect for women. If women aren't humans with a complex and vivid inner world, and desires and thoughts of their own, how can they be offended by his misogyny? He probrably thinks these women should feel complimented by his attention.
Load More Replies...I've had a couple of guys do this when I've been out on dates, bragging about the strip club they've been to. I wondered if they're testing the waters to see how prudish I was without realizing what a turn off it is. It's like when a man tells you he uses prostitutes or has a vast porn collection, you just don't want to be around him let alone sleep with him. Yuck.
I understand trying to be polite, but this man-child obviously has a screw lose and I'd be afraid to be left alone with him. I should specify I am male, straight and an ex-soldier. Still I'd rather not keep such company, let alone dating. This is a "one strike, you are out" sort of situation. Who are these people?
What did that douchebag expect to happen? No one is safe around that douchebag mindset!
To be fair, Twin Peaks has some damn fine coffee. ... Not a safe place for women though, no.
ew. Like what would possess you, as a man, to tell a woman you are trying to attract, some nutters s**t like this.
Terrifying. I literally had someone I used to work with back in college ask me if I would go out with him. I wasn't interested in him romantically, so I said no - and then he said, and I quote, "I'll make you change your mind. You'll say yes. Also, I wouldn't trust any food I give you in the future." (Which was weird, since I don't accept food from people and he'd never offered me anything up to that point but I digress). The outright suggestion that he'd drug me and/or coerce me was enough to get me the hell away from him. It also helped that some male friends of mine called him on it. Ughhh. Another similar scenario, I had no car in college so I asked a friend (I thought we were friends, anyway, up to this point) to drive me to the dentist for a dental emergency. Went fine. Afterward, he asked if I'd be his girlfriend. I said no because again, not interested. He then asked me if I'd just be his "facebook status" girlfriend (weird?????) and I said no again. THEN he drove me down a quiet backroad and parked and said he could "r**e me and no one would know". I thank god every day I got out of that situation without any harm or any assault. People who can't take no for an answer are immediately out of my life. No questions asked.
I believe that driving you anywhere that you did not agree to go is legally defined as kidnapping. Threatening to rape you is also a crime! Seriously, talk to a cop. You may have gotten out of that ok, but maybe the next girl won’t!!!
Load More Replies...Those numbskull degenerates shouldn't even be in college. Looks like they haven't even learnt common sense and decency yet.
This is why I normally give my daughter knives as an "I love you" present. If I find blades that look like something else (a carabiner, for instance, or a flashlight) I'll buy it for her. She hasn't had to use it yet, thankfully, but I know men, I was a soldier, I have been around the block and so many men are absolutely entitled and untrustworthy.
Just make sure she knows how to use it. My uncles sat us down when we were teenagers and gave a tutorial on knife usage and incident reporting. It was helpful. i never would have thought about how to hold a knife so your hand doesn't slip down the blade. The knowledge gives peace of mind that I can handle myself if needed.
Load More Replies...Either he was just tr… NOPE! That guy is a sick predator!!! Call the cops, tell your friends, let his mom know what he said/did!
Hi... you had a stalker. Everything that happened after you rejected him should don't have happened.
The thing about this story is it proves that a lot of women end up in situations where they can and/or are raped. This girl thought she was asking a friend to help her. She had no idea he would do that. I am glad she got away without harm. But how many other women think they are getting help from a male "friend" and end up in worse situations. The media wants you to think it's about how you dress or where you hang out... this girl proves it's not either one of those things!
Anytime a man says that he wishes things would go back to the way they were in the 50's. It's been said to me so casually by co-workers. It's an instant nope from me. Automatically tells me that I should be cautious because they don't see me as an equal.
They’re just sour that everything doesn’t just get handed to them on a silver platter anymore because they have a penis. Now they actually have to be good at their job, and successful women are competition.
I wear vintage 50s skirts and petticoats everyday and the amout of men who asked if that's because I want to go back to the good old days of when women were actually women is astounding. Especially considering I am currently dating a trans woman, it really makes me lol everytime I hear this.
As a eastern european - that would take us straight to end years of Stalins rein of terror - h*ll no! Things may have been idyllic on some US TV screens but in other places 12 year olds were eligible for death penalty for picking 5 ears of wheat from a field.
If a girl gets r***d and it lasts more than 10 minutes, it’s not r**e because “why not just fight them off?? she’s definitely enjoying it”. have never spoken to them since. still sick to my stomach.
No what an a*s. I swear some people need to be caught in the described situation.
...yeah, maybe they would see things differently if they were raped for more than 10 minutes.
Load More Replies...What? No man has ever been in fear for his life for more than 10 minutes without fighting off his attacker? Does he also think slavery was consensual, because the slaves weren't kept chained up 24/7, so why didn't they just leave? Moron.
"Does he also think slavery was consensual" -- A theory being propagated by Florida's governor! 8-(
Load More Replies...And if he drops the soap, that’ll be his fault…
Load More Replies...This is the reason for consent-laws coming into play, because actual judges will say s**t like this!! "She has no marks in her body or rifts in her vagina, she must have allowed it without objection". So instead of actually asking the women to be harmed, we ask that everybody get explisit consent first. It should make sence, but to many people want to act all villified instead.
A friend of a friend once brought her new boyfriend out to dinner with us. He proceeded to tell us a "joke" that involved raping a 12 year old. I think at least several of us dropped our silverware. The rest just sat there in uncomfortable silence. WTF dude? Did you actually expect everyone to laugh? SO disgusting.
Yeah, this is another one where there is no devils advocate, that comment and the thinking behind it is irredeemable. Has the guy not thought about relative physical strengths? The attacker possibly having a deadly weapon? Compliance could be shock or simple self preservation. In no way does it imply consent or enjoyment. This sounds like another "college bro" observation.
My ex was in his early 40's. We were discussing the case of a rape victim demanding an abortion, but her rapist wanted the baby. (Seattle 1996 ish). Ex says, "well she obviously enjoyed it". And I was like "WTF? Why would you say something like that?" He proceeds to "explain" to me that women can only get pregnant if they have an orgasm. I went on to "explain" to him what a motherf*cking moron he was. I seriously wanted to hit him in the head with a bat.
‘old people should be euthanised when over 75’ - some dude in my philosophy class. Not a weird joke, not playing devils advocate, his genuine opinion that he then continued to defend with passion. He also believes the world would be better if we were all brainwashed into believing the same thing and having the same goal. While I am not physically afraid of him, i am very afraid he is going to become a cult leader or other serious criminal in the future…like genuinely….bro is not ok
He believes the world would be better if we were all forced to believe what he believes, he is a potential psycho dictator.
Of course once he turned 74 he would deny having ever mentioning this ignorant statement.
There's a science-fiction movie in which everyone over twenty-one (?) was euthanized.
Load More Replies...Young people often think that anyone over 75 must be doolally. However, once HE gets to that age, he'll understand what a dork he was - we are still useful over 75.... *The 2016 Nobel laureates for physics, medicine and chemistry: all men, at least 65 years old and mostly over 72. Go back to the first half of the 20th Century, however, and the average laureate was "only" 56. Physics laureates, now typically a group of men in their late-sixties, used to have an average age of 47.*
I always thought when I got “old” I’d think and act like a different person. Nope, I’m still the person I’ve always been just a bit slower is all.
Load More Replies...Lock him up someplace until he's 75 then see what happens when it's his turn to die.
I was working at a retail store for a major phone carrier. As I was helping this guy he paused our conversation and told me that if he knew that he wouldn’t go to jail or prison for it, he would r**e me right then and there. Immediately left the situation and got my manager involved. When my manager told him to leave, the customer acted truly shocked and didn’t know why I would have taken offense to that. His argument was “I was just making a point, I didn’t do anything. What ever happened to free speech?”
I hate when people think freedom of speech means no consequences or when they use it as an excuse to act like a jerk
Free speech also dictates that premise owners can tell you "GTFO and never come back again." Works both ways, just so the creep knows.
free speech doesnt mean what you say wont have consequences
The distance from the brain to the hand is only shortened by the mouth. Psychopaths who speak about harming someone usually end up acting it out.
You should answer- Gosh! I too would gladly unalive you if i there werent any witnesses- but here we f-ing are.
WhAt EvEr HaPpEnEd To FrEe SpEeCh?! Said every member of the right side of the aisle.
If only laws or god prevent you from raping others, you're a bad person
This is "what happened to free speech" you morons. It applies to the government and not to the clerk at T-mobile, you absolute menace to society.
Tell me you don't understand the First Amendment without telling me you don't understand the First Amendment...
One guy (on the first date) stated that age of consent laws were b*llshit because "those 15-year old girls want it". I told him he was disgusting and he laughed at me. I walked out and didn't look back.
Why does almost no one seem to know what pedophilia actually refers to?
Before any meaningful communication can take place, everybody has to agree for everybody to use the same definitions and meanings of the words being used. More than half the adults in the US cannot read above a sixth grade level. Easily 50% of comments on any topic display a basic failure to comprehend it, or any idea which contains more than one modifier. I've long since stopped wasting my time trying to get them to read the actual words. I just ignore the illiterates, and move on.
Load More Replies...Minimum age to drive laws must be b******t, too. Because I know five-year-olds who really want to drive a car down the street.
The law really ought to throw the book at that creep, at point blank range. He's the one full of BS...!!!
In this instance the person is an ephebophile. Still repugnant. Can hate those too.
Load More Replies...Well, to be fair, girls that age are getting sexually active. But in relation to age of consent that is indeed disgusting to say. Being sexually active at 15 is ok if it's with another minor imo, and with consent from both of them. (As long as it's not my kids... ;) )
If he comes near my daughter he's gonna become a she.... and he won't have to worry about me asking for consent.
I remember being a 15 year old boy, and I can honestly say, when I was 15, I had very poor judgement. When I was 18, I also had very poor judgement, but I was legally an adult, and therefore responsible for my own stupidity. At 15, my stupidity would have been, at least in part, my parents' mess to fix.
A seemingly sweet and sensitive guy I was seeing suddenly became really glazed over in telling me how much he was angry at women and how they’re to blame to relationships failing. His face went red and his eyes were welling up. It went over him like a wave then he returned to being all sweet and nice. I never really trusted him after that.
“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” - Maya Angelou
Brother, I need you to think: what was the single common denominator in all those relationships?
Yeah that was kinda my first thought too. He hasn't processed a bad breakup (or two). Sounds like he needs to talk it out with a shrink.
Load More Replies...Completely irrelevant, but the guy in this pic is really good looking 👌 😍
No, what they can't do is blame all women for every failing in their lives or every failing in their relationships.
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I had a ridiculous debate with a man who believed fat people should not be allowed to own clothes... That's a scary level of fat phobia
Talking about fat phobia, I had a really "interesting" encounter a few days ago. I was sitting on a bench, reading boredpanda actually, minding my own business. Suddenly an old hag sat down beside me and started asking questions about what I am doing. So for the next few minutes I tried to explain the concept of the internet to her. Her questions got more general and weirder until she started with the topic she was really interested in: my weight. First she told me that I am overweight (TOTALLY didn't know that, so thanks, I guess), then she told me that she would be disgusted of herself if she looked like me, and that men won't like that either. Then she asked me if I am in a relationship and - the absolute highlight of that conversation - if I ever had sex with a man. When I got up and left she called after me that I should not eat any candy when I get home. I was too stunned by that whole encounter to tell her that she can go and f herself.
Disgusting and I hope she gets run over so she will be ugly inside and outside forever.
Load More Replies...Well, if you insist - goodbye pants! Guess I won't be needing these either! *throws shirt and bra away* Mmm, breezy.
It's just getting a bit cold in this time of year, where I live. Can I at least wear shoes?
Load More Replies...I guess I’ll be going to work naked today I don’t know if my job will be happy about that since I work in food service but oh well then lol
Cant imagine working in front of a hot grill or fryer sans clothing. Well , i can imaginne and it is not pleasant.
Load More Replies...he sounds like he is fetishing fat people, and want them naked all the time
I can only speak about myself, but my guess is the first time he saw my fat a*s swingin' down the street he'd change his tune right quick. I'm cool with who I am, but no one needs to see that!
This is the equivalent of total strangers telling me on the internet that I should never wear leggings if I'm overweight (which I am). Yeah, you don't know me but you're going to tell me what I should buy to wear with my money so your feelings won't be butthurt when you look at me? How many times were you dropped on your head as a baby?
A few months ago on the news a man fought with his gf and pushed her off a cliff. My uncle said something along the lines of "she probably did something to trigger him"
Unfortunately murder is illegal because people who think that. Need to be shoved off first.
Whether we’re conscious of it or not, we CHOOSE our reactions. SHE didn’t do anything to force him to push her off a cliff. Did she put a gun to his head, or threaten to do awful things to his family, to coerce him into pushing her off a cliff? NO! HE CHOSE to react that way, and without taking a moment to think about all the possible outcomes, he just went with his anger and CHOSE to push her.
Is it the case where she was pregnant and survived long enough to tell her helpers to keep the guy away from her?
Well murderers probably are triggered by something, not anything rational, moral or ethical but their brain is acting out toward something. That doesn't make an excuse for victim blaming though, it just explains that there are irrational psychos out there with twisted thought processes.
This it not necessarily a bad statement. It may simply be true, as long as it is not accompanied by something like: and therefore deserved it. Rage is often triggered. Fact. This is never an excuse for the perpetrator. On the contrary, it is reason for the perpetrator to get into therapy.
“A man can’t be expected to ignore a 16 year old girl when she’s in his lap” - a male relative when I was expressing absolute disgust at men who prey on teens. His response? “If she knows what’s she’s doing, it’s her fault and he shouldn’t get in trouble for it.”
Riiiiiiiiiight. As if every 16-year-old girl throws herself at men old enough to be her father. Why stop at 16? Four-year-old girls walk and talk, AND they sit on adult laps. They're definitely asking to be sexually assaulted. /s
Friend of mine ran a shelter for abused girls. Her big problem was that a lot of those abused teens would throw themselfs at old guys. They had been conditioned to do that from a very young age. And often it was the only form of (twisted) attention they had ever known. So sadly these abuse victims were very vunerable to being abused again.
Load More Replies...When I was in high school I (a female) worked in the sporting goods department of a big box store. I dealt with all kinds of sexual harassment. One day at closing, I was flashed by a guy. Management called the cops the next day. I was asked what I was wearing and was I flirting?!?! I was a 16 year old girl.
Yeah, like we're always "asking for it" and always "flirting" with the douchebag creepzoids, NOT
Load More Replies...Nope nope nope. prison time prison time send them all to f*****g jail.
In my country 16 is the age of consent, it's the age you can be married at, it's the age you can join the army, vote in some elections and you can drink beer and wine in restaurants too. I don't have an issue with two 16 year olds being intimate but I find it beyond weird to think that a middle aged man or woman can sleep with a 16 year old..
Sir, there is no valid reason for a 16 year old girl to be in your lap.
Coworker on facebook posted a photo of the gun his wife gave him for Christmas with the comment "I can't wait to use this to protect my family."
Not "I can't wait to go hunting/get in some target practice."
Not "I hope it's never necessary but I'm glad I have it to protect my family."
That is a dude who legit hopes he gets to shoot someone.
Very commonplace amongst insecure males. I know someone like this. I keep asking him, "so you think murder is ok and mere objects/property are more valuable than a life?" he said yes. Disgusting.
I would add "so you think merely owning a gun means you'll turn into an action hero the moment there's trouble instead of panicking, freezing up or accidentally shooting an innocent bystander?"
Load More Replies...Statistically there's a bigger chance that he'll use the gun to shoot his wife than to protect his family.
Hell, it's more likely that he'll accidentally shoot his wife and/or family because he never practiced with the thing.
Load More Replies...It's like buying fire insurance and saying "I can't wait until my home bursts into flames!"
And that “itchy trigger finger” phenomenon amongst the gun crazies is PRECISELY the argument for gun control. People who are mentally unstable should never be anywhere around guns. People with anger issues should never be anywhere around guns. People who are abusive should never be anywhere around guns. People with police records should never be anywhere around guns—I say that because Dylann Roof (just Google him) had a police record, with one incident being making loud and disturbing threats to open fire and kill people at a crowded mall—-yet he was able to own guns, one of which his own father bought him as a 21st birthday present! The gun becomes the instant solution to their problems, or the new toy that the child just cannot wait to play with. It also becomes the first thing they reach for if they get angry, instead of just taking a breath, calming down, and thinking about other solutions first. No one but a government should have a stockpile of weapons and ammunition at their disposal, and governments actually train people (police and military, ffs) how and when to use them when they’re sent to fight in a war, or “protect and serve”. Hell, even in those cases, there are people who slip through the cracks and manage to join those groups who should never be anywhere around guns.
I had a boss like that. He got a concealed carry permit and was just itching to be "the hero" in his own fantasy. Just one more type of person who shouldn't own guns. People worry about criminals and the mentality unstable, but in my opinion the wannabe heroes are just as dangerous.
If not more bc they are always 'on' just waiting for that chance. Sitting in wait with an itchy trigger finger has them so pumped I'm sure they could easily misread a situation and harm innocent people in their attempt to be the hero.
Load More Replies...A person who cares for their family would not be hoping for a situation that puts them in danger. He treats the people that are closest to him as props for his fantasies.
I just don't want to live in a place where offering guns for Christmas is a common thing and you expect you'll have to use it eventually against other people.
I was at a restaurant with my kids when a guest at our table said he was "carrying". I asked why. He said, "just in case" as he continued to drink. I sat next to him the entire evening preparing for the worst. I'm retired military. Most people don't know what guns do to human bodies.
When I got mine (& hubby got his), we took practice at range & sometimes practice to keep skill fresh but put away & never discussed aside....I come from a gun family...thetes no boasting.only when a new hunting rifle, but only to the other hunters in the family. Don't bother me w it, I don't care
I was talking to my now ex friends with benefits about Roe v. Wade and how if I were to get pregnant I would want an a******n. And he sat there in silence and told me after a minute or two that he would want me to keep the baby, I looked at him like he was crazy because we were just friends with benefits and he refused to commit to me so why would I ever have his baby when he won’t even be with me? I asked him why he would want me to keep it considering our circumstances and he said “ just because we’re two adults who are not ready for a relationship( he wasn’t ready I was very ready ) doesn’t mean that we would make bad parents” like wtf that’s exactly what it means??? It’s crazy how many men in this world are just OK with a girl having their baby even if they won’t commit to them. We are no longer speaking
It's because those type of guys know they can just leave the moment they don't feel like having a kid anymore. That child means nothing to them, in their mind it's something they can ditch at anytime.
Except child support doesn't work that way. Even if he does ditch he's still going to have to pay. Not that that's a great consolation if the mother didn't want the kid in the first place.
Load More Replies...I guess any talk about ****** will be ***** in the near future because ****** and ***** might lead to ****** or ******
Load More Replies...So he’d be fine because she would have to make all the sacrifices, and he would only have the inconvenience of knowing he had a kid in the world. This is why men shouldn’t be allowed to make important decisions about women’s rights and bodies
"Are you willing to be a single father? Will you also cover any and all medical bills relating to the pregnancy and birth, and any rehabilitation/restorative surgery after, and take full financial responsibilty for the child?" If it's not a yes to both, why do you think the mother should be willing to do both, and risk her health and her life at the same time?
I personally believe that a lot of ant-choice men are just so offended that a woman would have the audacity to not want to bare his child so prevent choice on behalf of all men.
This is where you go "So you would be happy to raise the baby by yourself if I die in childbirth?"
Men like that need to be committed. Hopefully to a place with padded walls and iron bars on the windows.
Obviously doesn't want any part of the consequences because it doesn't benefit him. Doesn't deserve any benefits of a relationship to begin with.
Notice how he said he would want YOU to keep the baby. Not that HE would want to raise the baby.
I was dating someone who said he can't take women in his workplace seriously when they give him instructions unless they are bigger than him (taller, heavier, etc). He would also often tell me he saw dreams of him k*****g women. He thought of himself being so progressive.. We didn't date for long after that for obvious reasons.
I'm more concerned about the "we didn't date for long after that" comment. I mean honestly, that sounds like "break up the moment he's not in the same room" material.
I thought the same thing as well, and then when I thought about it more, perhaps she wanted to end the relationship in a way that didn't make her a target. That's the only reason I can think of when she didn't do it right away.
Load More Replies...That some people deserve to be beaten This was the excuse my abuser used to justify domestic violence. “Well maybe if she wasn’t disrespectful, that wouldn’t have happened” is what he told my Mom It’s always a red flag when ppl have that opinion
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say some people do - paedos, r@pists, etc. I hate gratuitous violence but there are some exceptions that rule.
It's not gratuitous when it's backed by sound reasoning, pummelling pedos, abusers and rapists to a pulp is covered by sound reasoning imo.
Load More Replies...I hope said abuser eventually got lodged in a jail cell and had his sorry behind pummeled to hell, back, there and back again!!!
I understand that in prison, a lot worse can happen to one's behind. 🤨
Load More Replies...My favourite (/s) line my ex would use was - "It's your fault you're crying, you made me do it and now you're just trying to make me feel bad". I'm sorry to say it took me far too long to walk away from that
Sounds to me like he needs to have his a**kicked so hard he can barely remember his own name. Guess he was right that sometimes people deserve it... he just didnt understand why.
That women deserve to get harassed for what they wear. He had the audacity to debate about this on facebook.
One of my guy "friends" said this, abt makeup and clothes. I've known this guy for 8 years, but I don't think I'll be hanging out with him anymore. What the actual f**k dude
Why do some men think that the way women dress and look is to appeal to them? Like every morning our first thought when getting ready is about tempting men, not just wanting to feel good that day for ourselves.
Load More Replies...I got SA'd as a teenager. What was I wearing? A conservative private school uniform with long pants and a blazer, and no makeup or jewellery allowed. What an indecent hussy; clearly I was asking for it, wearing a whore outfit like that. 🙄
Sorry to hear that. Hope he was punished appropriately and that's you've managed to recover.
Load More Replies...Cool, then I can hit him over the head with a cricket bat - he's not wearing a helmet so deserves it.
good joke, yours? https://www.boredpanda.com/you-deserve-to-be-raped-sign-man-attacked-dean-saxton/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic
Load More Replies...This is very sad but an 85 years old woman with Alzheimer and mobility problems got ra ped by her physiotherapist. No longer "she was dress like a s**t, she was calling for it, etc etc" holds up anymore. It's a clear sign that women aren't completely safe at any point in the lives and in any situation. Freaking scary!
Women in burqas have been raped. Babies in diapers have been raped. Men wearing jeans have been raped. Clothing has nothing to do with it.
Load More Replies...So if I kicked him in the balls, it would be his fault for not wearing something to protect them?
Some dude: “Women in america make such a big deal about r**e” Different dude: “You are very r**e-able” I know it’s not all men, but sheeesh it’s too many. The thing is, these aren’t some f****d up individuals with nothing going for them. They’re well-established, went to college, eloquent, groomed. The first guy has to be in his 30s. It’s just a lot to deal with that type of s**t.
The problem is #notallmen wave their red flags as obviously as these dudes. One of the best counter arguments I heard was something like: not all sharks are man eaters and you can't tell which ones are, so you don't swim in shark infested waters and even get out if there's only one.
So many hide behind the "not all men" that it has become a red flag.
Load More Replies...Years ago (before Internet dating), I had a blind date set up by a friend. At the end of the date, he groped me painfully, and said "I could rape you right now." I got out of there, never returned his calls. I told our mutual friend, who heard about the failed date, and apparently it had been meant as a compliment-"I could rape you right now" means "I find you attractive and want to make love to you" according to that idiot. Do men not think? Do they think threatening us with rape is a type of flirting? Worst of all, the male friend (now an ex-friend) who set us up thought I'd over reacted and taken it the wrong way, and I should be pleased someone found me attractive.
I am curious what would say some dude if it was him who was raped (by man...)
There are some words that just shouldn’t be said out loud anywhere around other people. Especially if you’re trying to impress someone, like a job interview or first date. Who raised these feral, uncouth, socially unacceptable men?
I saw a legit statistic that said the #1 watched prnhub videos are of men spitting on, slapping and choking women.
I was once taking an Uber home after work, it was my first time staying alone without my boyfriend and I was around 22. the Uber driver wanted to know where I was from, aka my enthnicity. once I told him I was Indian, he replied with " yes, I always wanted to marry an Indian girl as they are so much loyal and submissive and less likely to cheat on you" then he proceed to ask me if I lived alone and I told him I live with my husband and son and I have been married for years. I slept that night with a hammer under my pillow.
I got in a cab once with an incel type driver. Drove me from my hotel to a shopping mall. Many years ago now but we were talking and somehow the topic of missing people came up, particularly young women, and he asked me if I knew of any so I started telling him about a missing girl in my own home city. I was very young and naive then. I got to the mall unscathed but I look back on it now and believe I dodged a bullet there. To this day I believe I didn’t become a statistic simply because I was too young and ignorant to be afraid. I believe had I become afraid of him then, alone in his cab, I may not have been found alive. I believe he was trying to scare me and when I wasn’t scared I just was not enough of a turn on.
I hope you didn't have him drop you off anywhere near your house.
So you would have been married since you were 12 yrs old? Yes, I know this isn't true.
"If there is no religion then what's stopping people from just r****g and m*******g others?" If someone holds that opinion I just hope they never leave their religion and I stay as far away from them as possible.
If punishment is the only thing stopping you from committing heinous crimes, you're a s****y excuse for a human being.
This is why I often say I trust a good atheist more than a good Christian
Load More Replies...Thing is, the vast majority of people would never even think of doing those things, regardless of circumstances. Regardless of whether or not there are laws, religious or secular, against them. Because those behaviors are not in the BETTER nature of human beings, but only in the basest nature of a small percentage of the population. It’s our better nature prevailing that has allowed us to live amongst each other relatively peacefully, though it might not seem like it. If you look at total population numbers, and compare them to total number of felony crimes, chances are really high that the majority of us will never have crimes committed against us. It’s just the unknown factor that instills fear and makes us hyper conscious of the possibility it could happen to us. I probably haven’t said it very well, but that’s my observation.
I like Penn Jillette's answer to this. A quote from an interview on theinterrobang.com: "The question I get asked by religious people all the time is, without God, what’s to stop me from raping all I want? And my answer is: I do rape all I want. And the amount I want is zero. And I do murder all I want, and the amount I want is zero. The fact that these people think that if they didn’t have this person watching over them that they would go on killing, raping rampages is the most self-damning thing I can imagine." (Edited out a typo)
If you truely think the criminal code is what stopping people from wraping and hmurdering people, then you acknowledge that people would do it if there was no consequence whatsoever. I deeply disagree. I think some people would do it no matter the consequences. And some people would never, even without consequences.
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“I won’t let you get fat.”
“Yeah maybe after kids, for a little while, but not forever.”
Frank Sinatra was famous for being a skinny little guy for most of his life. But look at pictures of him from when he was young, then look at pictures of him when he got old. Yeah, even skinny Sinatra got kind of tubby in his old age. Everyone’s metabolism slows down with age, and we gain a bit of weight—-not necessarily a large amount, but enough to be noticeable. Then, for women, there’s the life and body changing event of being pregnant and having a baby. Things are just different after giving birth, just like they eventually end up different as you age. It’s just a human thing, ffs.
Office seat mate was known as a really sweet, pretty fun person but on the quieter side. They'd been working on something quite stressful. We'd all been giving them space.
Then out of the blue, after hours of quiet, in a casual tone ...
"You know when people go into offices with a gun and just go postal? I get why they do that"
Then she walked off.
That probably was a sane person. Most people who make comments like that are blowing off steam. The ones that actually do it just randomly turn up with the gun and no warning.
Load More Replies...I'll be perfectly honest and say I've had these same feelings many times, muttered to myself how I was gonna do it probably half of those times and trying to have a co conspirator about 25% of those times. OP was trusted as an ally. Haha
There's a significant span between the thought and the action. As long as it stays that way, you are alright.
Load More Replies...Thought this was about men, but yes women can also be scary and evil and violent.
...some thoughts do not need to be said aloud in the presence of others...
It’s not always good to be completely honest and transparent, and to share absolutely everything. Some thoughts are just better kept to yourself.
Telling me in great detail on the ways they want to physically hurt someone
Is there some context with this one? I've seen plenty of people (even on here) express the desire to inflict violence on others. There's a difference between "I'd beat a pedo to death with a claw hammer if they touched my kids" and "I want to beat up that random dude over there".
Again, depends on who they wanna physically hurt. Some people are truly despicable.
It's always the kid's fault when the parent loses their s**t on them. You know, casually justifying child abuse. The idea also applies to women.
With respect, your parents are wrong. It is never okay for a parent to blame their behavior on their children. You are not responsible for another person's actions, especially an adult's.
Load More Replies...I was having a migraine and my kids were fighting. I asked them to calm down, explained that I was unwell, and told them to play in different rooms. 10 minutes later they were fighting again. I separated them again and reminded them that I needed to rest for a while. 10 minutes and they were fighting again. I lost it and yelled at them telling them to stay in separate rooms. My 5yo started moving, as to go into his brother's room and I reached out to grab him, but ended up slapping him instead. It was not intentional, my movement and his, it just happened. I was horrified. He was upset. I apologized and have been apologizing for 30 years now. I was the adult. It was my fault. I don't understand how people can blame the kids for what they as adults do.
It's always the parents fault for losing their mind! I'm not gonna say I've never yelled at my kid before, but as soon as my rational brain returns, I take responsibility & apologize for my actions & that it wasn't her fault & momma will do better to address the problem next time.. BUT I've never laid a hand on my child (I don't even have the heart to spank even tho she likely needed it a few times)
Sounds like someone who doesn't want to take responsibility for their own anger issues.
That my uterus counts more than me.
I'd donate mine for transplant if it were possible, because I've got no use for the stupid thing.
Donations are possible and babies have been born with donated uteruses. Just in case someone is interested.
Load More Replies...As much as I hate confrontation, there is a petty part of me that is dying to see the look on someone's face if they came at me with this BS. Because I don't have a uterus anymore, and I celebrate that!
There are people (mostly male "christian" Republicans) who think abortion should be a criminal offence, and punishable by death. Any woman found guilty of terminating her pregnancy should be shown no mercy by the courts.
Load More Replies...Well, mine ended up having to be removed, so do I now count for nothing? Because I’m not only important to myself, I have a lot of people who consider me important to them. I happen to feel the same about them. My husband, my family, and my good friends. Loving, happy human connections where you only want the best for someone, and would never want to make them cringe by saying one of their organs counts more than they do.
That uterus sure seems to be of massive importance to a bunch of old, out-of-touch misogynists. They are the very last people in this country who should have ANY say in what a woman does with HER uterus. Drives me nuts!
I wish I could maybe donate mine to a trans feminine person who wishes to have the ability to get pregnant , sadly that's not possible, *yet*
How he did not allow his better educated wife to spend her own salary without his permission. Her salary was higher than his and he was dumb as f**k. He did this because he genuinly believes women cannot make *any* decision. He also decides his wives bedtime.
I’m assuming this is a cultural norm, for that woman to stick around for that level of b******t
Cultural norm or not, sounds like EXTREMELY fragile masculinity there.
Load More Replies...Isn't BP's choice of photo engaging in a stereotype? We have plenty of husbands in Western culture who are morons in an identical way.
My husband and I were police officers at the same time and he told me he was occasionally asked by other officers why he “let” me be an officer too? He told them he didn’t “let” me do anything. “She’s an adult and does as she pleases.” They also seemed to think we were getting two salaries unfairly. As if they should have gotten us both for one wage.
He would be out so fast the door would be shut before his a**e bone hit the ground
I've heard men defending convicted sexual predators...apparently they're all the victims of greedy women. Those guys I avoid like the plague.
It's sad to see how many are willing to defend convicted sex predators, and tell people how "good people" they really are because "they never did anything to me". Predators pick their victims, they don't attack everyone around them, that someone never attacked you doesn't meen they didn't attack someone else.
And men tend to forget the boys, young men, and adult men who are sexually assaulted—-by sexual predators who are also men. That “good people” c**p is a mask, an act, an Oscar winning performance intended to fool people into thinking the predator wouldn’t hurt anybody. The proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing. Anyone who makes such ridiculous Pollyanna-ish statements like that about someone who is a potential danger to those around them, needs to stop being so gullible, or so blind, and come into the real world with the rest of us.
Load More Replies...In my country recently, two brother running a Bar had systematically drugged and assaulted women. Not charged with all, as some 'might have wanted it' ew. But they went to jail. Then name suppression lifts. Funnily enough, next day one gets beaten hard, and has to go to isolation for his safety. I guess justice has a few forms
I find it uplifting that rapists get such a hard time in jail. That even criminals have some standards.
Load More Replies...Of course they’ll never see the side of them that will sexually assault people. They are looking for a specific type and they hide the side of them that’s evil.
That if there were no repercussions whatsoever, he would love to hunt a person. This was a guy I was in a super committed relationship with at the time – luckily I came to my senses soon after and left him and his self-absorbed toxicity behind within a month of him telling me that.
Like Hunger Games or the Most Dangerous Game? That's effed up...I mean I would absolutely hunt down someone to avenge my child's murderer or r***st & always said I would. But unless I'm seeking revenge for my innocent loved ones, that's messed up
Under the Mosaic law if you killed someone intentionally the next of kin would have the right to kill that person. As long as their was undeniably proof the murderer would be put to death.
Load More Replies..."OK, but the requirement is that you first have to survive someone hunting you. Up for it?"
There's something called "The Hunt" in my area. It's like a giant game of hide and seek with the hunters having paintball guns if you don't surrender when found. Each hider has a bounty and the last one hiding wins a big cash prize. It's pretty awesome.
I mean what would you do once you hunted a human down? Most are too fatty so they wouldn't make good eating, and they don't have antlers to make a good trophy /s Seriously though paintball is fun. If you really enjoy a challenge of "hunting a person" then just play paintball against them.
That people who choose to be child-free are selfish.
After reading about children a lot online, I definitely don’t want kids
I sometimes have to take public transport just when school's out for the day. Definitely no kids for me for now, thank you, but mad respect to those who do choose that path. Who knows, might change my opinion on that, might not.
Load More Replies...So not contributing to overpopulation and the climate problem is selfish? If you want children, absolutely, have them, be happy. But I don't understand this, how is it selfish to just live your life without kids?
Overpopulation is one of the reason I don’t want kids so if that makes me selfish than so be it.
Load More Replies...I didn't want children. I really didn't. I got pregnant by mistake. I considered abortion but in 1993 the laws in Maine wouldn't permit it. Considered adoption but husband couldn't bare it. So I had a child. I loved him insanely but I worried constantly: was I making the right choices. Was I good enough? Would he turn out ok. On and on. I was constantly horrified. The anxiety was maddening, often to the point of severe depression. This went on his entire life. It did not end when he turned 18. It did not end when he moved out. It did not end until he died recently. It still has not ended. The angst. I never wanted children from a very young age because I somehow knew it would bring unbearable emotional pain. And it did.
People who have kids they don't care about because they think a baby is a cute little accessory or something similar are selfish.
Absolutely, but in reality most people have children purely because they want them. No other reason. That's hardly the definition of altruism. It's good that there are people who do though and wanting them should be at the heart of it.
Load More Replies......as opposed to "I want kids, so I'll have kids", which is totally altruistic. /S I don't blame either side for doing or not doing what they want. All in all, though, going without kids you're responsible for your own life and your impact on the world - having kids makes you responsible for their lives, too. The potential to screw up multiplies, and the ability to procreate does NOT make you a good person by default, nor even a good parent.
Here’s what you tell someone who says something like that: “That may be in some cases. But at least they’re self-aware enough to realize it and not to want to inflict that selfishness on an innocent child they really didn’t want to have. I call that an act of kindness. What’s YOUR excuse?”
Yes, I am selfish. And there is nothing wrong with that. People are only mad because when you are selfish, it's harder to manipulate you.
Strange that they have no problem with people who are having children for selfish/irresponsible reasons.
Selfish is someone telling others how to live... It is THEIR life - AKA Mind your own d4mn business!
"Hey, you're Indian and I'm Pakistani. You know we're enemies, right?" This was from an Uber driver I had years ago at 11 o'clock at night.
I also went on a date with a guy who said, "I like to look into people's houses. I wish there wasn't a law in trespassing." I blocked his number since lol.
I seriously hope the India-Pakistan thing is just cricket... Otherwise, RUN!!!
I like to look into peoples houses too. That´s why I often watch show where they invited camera teams in for whatever reason.
I really hope he meant looking in peoples houses while strolling or something cuz I do that too because if its evening and the lights are in the houses look cozy. I hope he didn't mean LOOKING INTO WINDOWS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT SMILING AT THE VIEW OF SLEEPING CHILDREN.
An older family member told me through a smile and matter-of-fact voice that “education should be segregated, that’s just the way it works best.”
Yeah, I was not expecting to see Joe Biden's vacation pics.
Load More Replies...Are they referring to race or sex here? If the former, it’s racist BS. If the latter, then studies have shown that girls achieve actually better results in a single sex setting. I suspect it’s the former though.
There's a lot of sources that dispute girls doing better in single sex settings.
Load More Replies...Which type of segregation? There is evidence that girls do acedemically better in an all female environment at secondary school (11-18 in the UK) similarly all male schools. (in comparison to 'mixed schools') In much of the world 'segregation' has a totally different meaning.
“Segregated? Exactly how, sir? Please enlighten me about your opinion”. Then watch him absolutely deflate because he cannot think of anything that justifies his statement. The reason being that he’s just blurting out the first disgusting words/statement his pea brain can think of, with no filter between his brain and mouth, and you tripped him up by asking him to explain it. There’s I way he can explain it that would be acceptable to anyone except another a*****e like himself. It’s highly satisfying to watch someone like that be put on the spot and start sweating trying to think of something to say that won’t get his sorry a*s in even more trouble.
I'm picturing someone wearing an all white pants and suit and a bolo tie, that lives on a plantation.
On a lighter note, your description made me think of Colonel Sanders 🤣
Load More Replies...I just watched an interesting PBS show about desegregation in Mississippi, these kids were among the first mixed race classes in 1st grade and graduated in the 1980s - the 80s, this isn't ancient history. Segregation continued anyway, first by tracking students by ability and now by 'school choice '.
If education was segregated, women would be the winners. Girls mature earlier than boys do, and regularly gets higher grades than boys. It's the fact that girls and boys are educated together that raises the boys' grades, but lower the girls'. So from a woman's point of view it would be ideal to segregate education.
A colleague once told me that women weren’t meant for the workforce. I usually speak up when I don’t agree with something so I asked why and he said “Women were designed to stay home and breastfeed while men don’t have anything blocking them to go to work”
I hate it when people say “designed”, like women are objects that are built for men and specific jobs
So I should immediately give up my job in order to breastfeed the children I don't have? That's going to be an interesting way to pass the time until I go bankrupt.
What? That’s why we get maternity leave (in some places), which is temporary, and then go back to work. A lot of women choose to stay child free, what does he expect them to do? I’d be willing to stay at home if I’m gunna get paid for it, but alas life costs money. What a stupid shite, if he ever gets married I hope he’s happy with a single wage income, because most people can’t afford that anymore
Lunatics weren’t meant for the workforce. “Lunatics were designed to stay in the insane asylum and bounce off the walls while sane people don’t have anything blocking them to go to work”
This has nothing to do with the post but how cute is that baby’s had wrap?
My co worker in all seriousness told me how he warned his wife and her mother that if she ever cheats he will cut off her head with an ax and bring the head to her mothers porch.
Amazing how many men there are who seriously think they wouldn’t end up being some guy’s b***h in prison if they committed a murder like that.
So if your wife wants another guy, she first has to ah...get you out of the way first, right?
i remember when i was in uni and was talking about how the plot line in twilight where edward follows bella home and watches her sleep was essentially stalking, and utterly terrifying.
my friend at the time, eyes popping out, bewildered at my opinion, said “are you kidding? i’d *love* that! don’t you find that totally romantic? (friend’s then girlfriend’s name) would really love that.”
that moment should have been a foreboding sign of what kind of person he was, but i thought he was being facetious at the time, as much as i was creeped out. he turned out to be one of the worst people i’ve ever met, and i’ve met someone who has drove drunk with a classically autistic woman in the back of their car!
You lost me in the last few sentences. But yeah Edward-bella story line was very creepy. Overly possessive and love bombing, stalker activity and just generally not a healthy dynamic
It’s unhealthy in both directions. She’s instantly obsessed with him too, without talking to him or spending any time with him he’s all she thinks about.
Load More Replies...Everyone in Twilight is awful. Edward is a creepy, abusive stalker. Jacob is an abusive child groomer. When Bella isn’t being a doormat for Edward and Jacob she’s being an entitled stuck-up b*tch to everyone else. I still don’t understand how those books got so popular.
Yes the Jacob line is really creepy. Edward is like 118 years old so he is a pedophile too
Load More Replies...That is a wild last sentence... I'm not even sure what it means. What exactly makes drunk driving with a classically autistic woman in the back of a car worse than....any other drunk driving with passengers?
Probably because vulnerable people may have more difficulty defending themselves and staying out of situations like this through no fault of their own
Load More Replies...No No body wants to be watched while sleeping especially not without their consent.
Funny story: my husband and I both read Twilight and saw the movies. I'm even revisiting the movies currently (they can be pretty terrible but it's nostalgia now). The other day, I was exhausted after work so I went and got right in bed for a heavy afternoon nap. At some point, I woke up and had this buzzing sensation everywhere and I was suddenly alert and awake. I turned over and my husband is standing there just staring at me so intensely (he meant to scare me). He went "aw, you don't think it's sweet that I'm watching you sleep?" I said "No, never do that, that's insanely creepy!"
watching your SO is sweet and romantic. Watching debby from down the street is how you go to jail.
'There's always one' There's that ONE woman who actually says she WANTS to be stalked. Of course if she was REALLY stalked she'd soon realise why it's not romantic. But that 'one woman' and her opinion are ALWAYS quoted in film, media and by the perverts who commit these crimes..
I don't think someone being autistic should matter when someone is _driving drunk_. "Classically autistic"???
Fifty shades of grey makes me very angry for similar reasons, though i got less of that impression from twilight. If we're going with our vampires of preference I'll take luke evans dracula thanks.
Went out with a guy who was convinced that hurting animals (not talking about veganism) is completely understandable
Sorry, you do that purposefully to an animal in my sight and you'll be meeting my inner beast soon enough. I'm beginning to think I'd rather spend life surrounded by dogs, cats, rabbits etc than with human beings anymore.
the only justification to hurt an animal is defense, If the attack is unprovoked.
I think they were trying to prevent someone from thinking it's "just a bleeding heart" complaining about eating meat.
Load More Replies...Interracial marriages should be banned because people involved in them bring shame to the society. A former friend of mine said this to me (a missed race boy) it felt like he questioned my very existence.
Children of interracial marriages often have more variety in genetics making them overall healthier - similar values & goals & upbringing is more important than race
Started the same reply. Humans need to have interracial children for survival.
Load More Replies...He didn't qualify for his track & field event. Or they meant mixed race.
Load More Replies...I was in the car with a very close family member. They always like to play these inflammatory radio shows at a high volume when they drive. The hosts of the radio show they were playing that day were mocking the anonymous woman who accused Aziz Ansari of assaulting her. That family member then turned to me and said women in Hollywood were hypocrites for supporting the Me Too movement because they wore revealing clothing to red carpet events. I hate to say it, but it was probably something so small and insignificant for them that they have probably already moved on and forgotten about ever saying it. But I have never been able to forget that. Maybe I'm not afraid of them, but I can't say that I respect them.
I should be able to walk naked down the busiest street in the country and STILL NOT BE TOUCHED. Because I’m a human being. It’s 2023, I don’t understand why some men think that I deserve to forfeit that right just because they can see my boobies. I refuse to believe men are so biologically weak compared to women that they just can’t keep control of themselves when they’re horny - so many men can act and do better than that with no issue, so that argument is even kinda disrespectful to those better men.
I remember riding with a friend of mine when he asked me if I liked Rush. "Yeah, I do!" I answered. He then turned the radio dial to Rush Limbaugh. I was so disappointed in him that I actually told him so. I usually keep such sentiments to myself. That, and I just wanted to listen to some sweet a*s Rush tunes. Whatever.
I lost all respect for a teacher I used to love and respect. I even remember where I was when I heard him directly say something similar: Women who dress provocatively are asking to be raped. WTF, Dude?!?! You're a high school teacher...and he was a principal later on. Ugh! Shame on you H. Choplin!!
There have been court judges who have said similar things sadly.
Load More Replies...The clothes, no. But some kept quiet to further careers, and they don’t belong in that movement because “letting it slide” allowed it to perpetuate and even escalate.
I went on a date with a guy who said to me, unprompted, that he thinks women should all experience terrible pain during sex, so that women would be less promiscuous. He was about 3 long island iced teas down and had been asking me to come back to his place prior to this, which I kept dodging. I excused myself to the bathroom shortly after and bailed when he wouldn't notice. Hilarious side note, this happened on the same night that I first met my current partner.
Men who think women shouldn't enjoy sex really mean it because they invariably provide such an experience.
That SA is understandable in a war, and that they would probably do it too
Stabbing him with a bayonet is also understandable and required in war, as everyone here likely wants to do it too, war being optional.
I don't let any man scare or intimidate me, but one time my father-in-law said he would r**e every pretty woman he came across if he could get away with it. Then looked right at me. By the way, he is HIV positive, so it was extra disturbing. Said this to me in front of my hubby, teenage son and my son's friend.
Wtf. That would be enough for me to go no contact. Especially with an impressionable teenage son. Good knows what gets internalized and passed off as acceptable behaviour
FIL deserves a pummeling restraining order, and a slow death. Exclusively in that order. Which I hope came to fruition.
"Dear FIL. I would sneak up behind you with a tire iron, beat you to death, and bury you under your own front porch if I could get away with it. And who knows - maybe I could."
"And this, kiddo, is how you end up with a fatal illness and no-one around to feel sorry for you"
My ex roommate/friend when he said that he's sick of going into town and seeing beautiful women with "troglodyte" men who treat them like s**t. I asked him if he'd actually seen this and he didn't answer, just went off on one about how he should treat women like s**t because they clearly love being abused. Or the time when he had a female friend who was having trouble with her boyfriend and she herself was very unhappy, had anxiety and was being treated poorly by her partner. My "friend" outright told me that he was going to tell this woman not to complain about her boyfriend to him anymore because he doesn't care unless she's going to suck his d**k.
That first paragraph is what "nice guys" say. I remember myself as a university student, and while I wasn't like this, I wasn't as far away from this mentality as I would have liked to think I was. As for the second paragraph, however, his behaviour there is totally alien to me. Just disgusting.
“If a woman ever hits me, I’ll knock her out.”
Without a need for self defense, I agree that women shouldn’t just feel free to hit men, or anyone, but this sort of statement is just overkill. There was also nothing to prompt him to say this. He just wanted to act tough.
Big man. Do you feel better hitting someone smaller than you. All you proved is you're an a*s
Gee, it really turns me on to see a big, strong man physically assault a woman half his size. /s 🤬
“Nice guys finish last.” IMMEDIATELY NO
News flash, you aren’t a nice guy if you think this. Incel red flag
well it depends. If they mean in sex, yes. It is better to help your partner finish first.
No my husband is definitely a nice guy. You however need to take lessons from a nice guy.
A male friend of mine explained that he only realizes he loves his girlfriends after he’s cheated on them. Pretty messed up if you ask me.
I doubt that he would be so philosophical if the situation were reversed.
That is what Arnold Schwarzenegger said after cheating on his then girlfriend, Maria Shriver, with his co-star, Brigitte Nielsen, while filming Red Sonja. He said cheating with Brigitte made him realized that Maria was the one he really loved. And years later he cheated on her again (by then Maria was his wife) with their housemaid.
Not so coincidentally, that's exactly when they find out they don't love him.
"If it was that bad you would have said something at the time" and when I said I had said the day before I didn't want to have sex like that "just because you said you didn't want to have sex like that the day before, doesn't mean you didn't want to the next day".
Said by my partner when I brought up to him that I felt like he had violated my consent during sex.
And he also doesn't think he was wrong to do so. I hope she got out of that relationship.
Load More Replies...A guy I asked what he loves about horror movies, he said the look in their eye the moment they know they can't escape and they will die! Should have stayed clear but i tried to make it make sense. This person proceeded to do weird and wrong stuff from cheating to stealing to scamming and gets angry when questioned and refuses to speak when he knows the one questioning him knows the facts. He also did this with cops a few times. The thing is his face always looks happy and he has a calm friendly voice so people fall for it when they dont know the facts. He also talks allot about staying positive , vibes, and no stress ect ect. Took me a while to realize he doenst want to change and thus never will.
By all accounts a lot of psychopathic murderers were stand up guys at first glance
I keep confusing sociopaths and psychopaths, but this sounds like at least one of the squares checks out.
I hope he's still this positive and unstressed when he eventually has to move into the slammer.
When my ex shared he had cheated to more than one of his ex-s and then claimed he's a committing person and wouldn't step outside. Guess what happened later...
when i was younger my close friend told me he genuinely believed he couldn't die. i thought he was kidding at first but he'd bring it up time and time again as we grew up. he'd say "you could shoot me in the head and i dont think i would die" always kept my eye on him since then
Not scared but I was explaining to my co-worker the row vs wade trial and how it would affect a******n laws across the US and his response was "Wait, isn't that a good thing?" 0 respect for this individual after that.
Advertisers think if you read certain words while an advert of theirs is displayed you're going to associate the word with the advert. Which strengthens my idea that no actual people work in advertising, only bad AIs.
Load More Replies...Went out on a date with this man I met on a dating app, handsome man, maybe a little shy. We went out for dinner and a walk, everything was running smoothly, and the topic of therapy came out and he very nonchalantly told me that he told his female therapist that some women were in active search of f*****e. I noped out of there really quick.
Femicide - I clicked the link and read the original post.
Load More Replies...At first I thought it was another thing about rape, but this is WAY worse!
If a woman was in active search of femicide, that would mean that she was actively seeking to kill a woman. Don't think that's what he meant, though.
bp is ridiculous in this c*****ing. Is this going to be the new norm? Soon sentences will look like ...t*e g**l s***t s*****y ( the girl slept soundly)
I don’t know what word was censored, so this lacks a lot of context
Second date. Going through a really shady underground tunnel at midnight. Him: “Ooh! You know what movie this reminds me of?” Yes. Yes every woman knows what movie this reminds you of. You’re not supposed to voice it out loud to a woman you barely know when she’s alone with you you goblin.
I don’t know what movie he was talking about, what is he talking about?
I wish he meant Harry Potter 5 when Harry and Dudley get attacked by a dementor in an underground tunnel, but somehow I know it's not it.
Ok first movie I thought of was Back to the Future. The car scene near the end. I'm guessing that's not it.
I was shopping at Costco (big box store) and had to pause my purchase while I transferred more funds to my bank account (they only take debit or cash). This guy I didn’t know, probably a little older than me, offered to pay for my entire purchase of about $200+. I don’t know why, but I got really uncomfortable and nervous. I had the money so I declined. But it was weird. A really generous, seemingly Good Samaritan, offer just freaked me out instead.
You felt the 'creep eek', hard to logically rationalise but we (women) all know that feeling too well
Aaaah yes. One guy I met gave me the creep eek a lot. He lived in the area I lived in and he was never doing me any harm except calling me beautiful (which I hate. I don't like to be called other things than my name or "mom"). He just really made my gut feeling go wild that I should avoid him at all costs. Turns out that he is violent, even towards his mom and grandma, has r@ped several underaged girls and even had a child with one. So yeah.... creep eek gut feeling was right for years on end with this dude.
Load More Replies...It's just smart to not get indebted to anybody, especially when you don't know them. 200 usd is a lot of money and I don't believe anybody would just toss that at a stranger without expecting anything back. And even if they WERE just genuinely good people with extra cash, they should understand why taking a lot of money from strangers for seemingly nothing in return is super scary, especially for a woman.
Costco only takes debit or cash? Legit question I've never shopped at one.
I could see someone do this for like 2 usd, but not for this amount.Weird!
All these people need to be added to predator lists and blocked/banned from any place which involves women being there.
You can't block/ban/arrest anybody for thinking or saying stupid things. You may think "unfortunately". But, even if these people are creepy AF, I say "fortunately". There's a limit, obviously. They can say "I don't like women/ black people/gays/men/fat people/etc". It's an opinion. Disgusting, yes, but their opinion nonetheless. They *can't* say "let's kill all he women/black people....". That's a threat, and it should be taken seriously. There's a very thin line between democracy and dictatorship. What if people could be blocked/banned/arrested for saying anything against the government? I think each of us should avoid these people as much as possible, avoid dealing with them, and shun them if necessary. Each of us. But I would never support any regulation/law that tries to tell people what to think. Provided they behave in a civilised manner with everyone, I guess each person has the right to think what they want. I don't know if I've explained myself well. It's a complex issue.
Load More Replies...Most of these boil down to a sociopathic lack of empathy for other people. A lot of these people probably cannot form emotionally close bonds with other people. Although some were likely victims of abuse, I suspect that many may simply have never learned to form emotional connections with other people. The lack of empathy here is frightening.
I was involved with a guy once who gave off a number of red flags that for the life of me, I couldn't see, but I hightailed it out of there as soon as the rose-colored glasses came off. He would say stuff like "I'll hit my wife if I have to, sometimes women need to be disciplined"; "you women wearing revealing things is why you get ra*ed"; "men are hardwired to cheat, women are not"; "it's easier for a woman to forgive a cheating man because you women are caring and nurturing in nature"; "women should be staying home and taking care of the family, it's their role. When they are working and making money they don't respect men and act like they are better than us". I'M SO GLAD HE IS NOW AN EX.
Can we do a thread by men as well? Ive seen a few of these made by women (I am one btw) but I know there are a lot of men that would like to share stories as well.
Why is there always at least ONE person in a clearly stated article that’s female-led, there’s always one person that whines about “what about men??” If it was a male-led post, no one whines about “what about women?” Nope. Always gotta include dudes in everything, don’t ya? That is why men have such large egos from the get-go: they can’t share the spotlight with anyone else. Hence why they’re crying about female-led movies being “woke”. They can’t relate or immerse with a female lead, therefore it’s gotta be trash.
Load More Replies...Do we need a women's revolution? There has to be a better way for humans to live together.
Old joke I heard: The escaped convict takes a husband and wife hostage. He implies non consensual s*x will happen. The wife starts crying. The husband snaps at the wife, "Quit crying! Just relax and do what he says". The escaped convict says, "I was talking about you, pretty boy". Then the wife says, "Just relax and do what he says".
The title didn't say it has to be opinions *about women* so I've got one that mixes it up a little. At the start of Covid there was that idea that it only kills people with preexisting conditions. Which is pretty dumb really because tons of people with preexisting conditions don't know they have them. Anyway, my husband had a friend with many, many health issues. He was born with a heart condition, among other things, and was just in and out of the hospital constantly in order to stay alive. All of his friends knew this; you couldn't know the guy without being aware of it. And yet a few of his friends were arguing with him on Facebook about Covid not being a big deal and he shouldn't worry so much about what other people are doing. They figured they had no moral obligation to be careful. That's a bad enough opinion to have when it's a nebulous "somebody" that might get hurt but geez guys, you're literally saying to your *friend* that your social life matters more than his actual life.
All these people need to be added to predator lists and blocked/banned from any place which involves women being there.
You can't block/ban/arrest anybody for thinking or saying stupid things. You may think "unfortunately". But, even if these people are creepy AF, I say "fortunately". There's a limit, obviously. They can say "I don't like women/ black people/gays/men/fat people/etc". It's an opinion. Disgusting, yes, but their opinion nonetheless. They *can't* say "let's kill all he women/black people....". That's a threat, and it should be taken seriously. There's a very thin line between democracy and dictatorship. What if people could be blocked/banned/arrested for saying anything against the government? I think each of us should avoid these people as much as possible, avoid dealing with them, and shun them if necessary. Each of us. But I would never support any regulation/law that tries to tell people what to think. Provided they behave in a civilised manner with everyone, I guess each person has the right to think what they want. I don't know if I've explained myself well. It's a complex issue.
Load More Replies...Most of these boil down to a sociopathic lack of empathy for other people. A lot of these people probably cannot form emotionally close bonds with other people. Although some were likely victims of abuse, I suspect that many may simply have never learned to form emotional connections with other people. The lack of empathy here is frightening.
I was involved with a guy once who gave off a number of red flags that for the life of me, I couldn't see, but I hightailed it out of there as soon as the rose-colored glasses came off. He would say stuff like "I'll hit my wife if I have to, sometimes women need to be disciplined"; "you women wearing revealing things is why you get ra*ed"; "men are hardwired to cheat, women are not"; "it's easier for a woman to forgive a cheating man because you women are caring and nurturing in nature"; "women should be staying home and taking care of the family, it's their role. When they are working and making money they don't respect men and act like they are better than us". I'M SO GLAD HE IS NOW AN EX.
Can we do a thread by men as well? Ive seen a few of these made by women (I am one btw) but I know there are a lot of men that would like to share stories as well.
Why is there always at least ONE person in a clearly stated article that’s female-led, there’s always one person that whines about “what about men??” If it was a male-led post, no one whines about “what about women?” Nope. Always gotta include dudes in everything, don’t ya? That is why men have such large egos from the get-go: they can’t share the spotlight with anyone else. Hence why they’re crying about female-led movies being “woke”. They can’t relate or immerse with a female lead, therefore it’s gotta be trash.
Load More Replies...Do we need a women's revolution? There has to be a better way for humans to live together.
Old joke I heard: The escaped convict takes a husband and wife hostage. He implies non consensual s*x will happen. The wife starts crying. The husband snaps at the wife, "Quit crying! Just relax and do what he says". The escaped convict says, "I was talking about you, pretty boy". Then the wife says, "Just relax and do what he says".
The title didn't say it has to be opinions *about women* so I've got one that mixes it up a little. At the start of Covid there was that idea that it only kills people with preexisting conditions. Which is pretty dumb really because tons of people with preexisting conditions don't know they have them. Anyway, my husband had a friend with many, many health issues. He was born with a heart condition, among other things, and was just in and out of the hospital constantly in order to stay alive. All of his friends knew this; you couldn't know the guy without being aware of it. And yet a few of his friends were arguing with him on Facebook about Covid not being a big deal and he shouldn't worry so much about what other people are doing. They figured they had no moral obligation to be careful. That's a bad enough opinion to have when it's a nebulous "somebody" that might get hurt but geez guys, you're literally saying to your *friend* that your social life matters more than his actual life.
