63 Seemingly Harmless Things Partners Do That Still Drive These People Insane
Once the honeymoon phase of a relationship (sometimes literally the honeymoon) ends, people quickly discover that their partner might have questionable ideas about how to stack the dishwasher, or they might snore like a woodchipper working overtime. For some, this is just a new hurdle to overcome, but others struggle to get over it.
People online share the “harmless” and downright normal things their partners do that they find disproportionately annoying. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own stories and examples in the comments section down below.

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Talks when I am listening to my audiobook - so I pause it and let him finish - hit play and then he starts to talk again
I had my sister staying with me for about 6 six weeks recently. She would sleep all day, then just as my dad and I were sitting down to watch tv, she would wake up and not stop talking! (Sorry if she's reading this, but it's true!) Even worse when my mum also stopped in! We always watch the news live first, so can't pause.
absolutely no sense of urgency
Literally zero phone volume awareness. Like why is your volume all the way up constantly
My mum does this! And it's on speaker because she says she can't hear properly otherwise. When she talks, I have to hold the phone away from my ear even though I don't have it on speaker, because she is so loud! Yet she also reckons her hearing aids were a scam and don't help her at all.
I can only ask one question at a time while texting because he only responds to the most recent thing I send
When he gets sick he refuses to take medicine and then complains about how he doesn’t feel good
And he dismisses everything you suggest to try and help him feel better. So eventually you just give up trying and then he complains that you don’t care.
he constantly asks me questions he could easily figure out the answer to. like he’ll be holding a box of pasta and ask me how long he’s supposed to cook it for
My hubby one phoned me to say that he couldn't access his Microsoft account. I was on the bus on the way to work at the time. Then he dismissed all the solutions I could give him at the time then got mad with me because I didn't know HIS passwords.
brushes his teeth by moving his head not the brush ?!?!?!?!?!?!
She wears socks to bed and then in the middle of the night will take the socks off and leave them there at the end of the bed under the covers. I call it her sock graveyard.
says he slept terrible but every time I woke up in the middle of the night he was sleeping like a rock
He puts the toothpaste on his front teeth to then put the brush in his mouth
Do i need to explain?
I do this, but European eggs are in a carton and not refrigerated. Balancing the load so you know how the carton will behave without opening it.
we both will make our room messy but his mess annoys me more
He gives himself noooo wiggle room. If the destination says 27 minutes he will leave 28 minutes before
takes the toilet roll off the holder when he uses it and NEVER puts it back on. just leaves it on the counter.
When he says, what do you mean? When I said exactly what I meant and it couldn’t mean anything else.
Has the worst windshield wiper timing management
When I’m cooking and he goes over and stirs something.
Silent treatment after arguments
My father would do this all the time. Screaming swearing fight with Mum (which was often, and for the pettiest reasons) then wouldn't speak to her for two months. He'd do the same to me, and my grandparents.
He waits until I’m completely ready before he starts getting ready and will complain how long I take
Watches the same shows everyday. We’ve been together 10 years. He’s watched every episode of My Wife and Kids and Everybody Hates Chris over a dozen times by now. I think he’s acoustic
When I say I have a headache he tells me to take paracetamol…I wasn’t looking for a solution I was looking for sympathy
Sympathy doesn't make a headache go away. Take your paracetamol.
He’s too calm.. why don’t you have anxiety or panic about anything? Why are you so relaxed? Why don’t you freak out about time or anything at all????
In the car park drives past all the good spots and parks as far as he can away from the shop that we mayswell of walked from home
Good for getting exercise, and less chance of dimwits dinging your car.
This is how he cuts bags open
It's almost sensible, actually. You can store the bag again without sealing it, and it won't leaki stuff. My new bag opening method!
we both leave our shoes lying around but his are bigger and that's annoying
Doesn’t immediately look when I say ‘look’ makes me so mad
Saying he is not sleeping , while he is snoring ( after I push him not to snore) . Irritating!
Well, he's not now, is he? My wife used to shake me when i snored. I'd turn over away from her. My guts would rearrange themselves. Then I'd fart at her. Made me smile every time 🙂
Any time he coughs, I can feel my blood boiling
Doesn’t always respond when I talk bc “there was no response to what you said” idc if I say I just farted at least say something anything
Turns the big light on in our room instead of the table lamps
When I’m telling him something and he’s on his phone. I know he’s listening, but I just want him to look at me.
he says “i dont think so” instead of no. im like “did you let the dog out?” and he says i dont think so when he knows he didnt. like just say no
That sounds like me. More and more I notice I don't give definite answers for things. Sometimes it's because my memory is that bad, sometimes I think it's just because I subconsciously don't want to be judged for being wrong.
he will use a different cup everytime he has a drink. just get a waterbottle like me, whats with all the cups.
Waterbottles can harbor bacteria, especially if they're plastic. If he washes the cups or at least loads them in the dishwasher, this gripe is idiotic.
He licks his fingers after eating something with his hands 😭😭 like it’s harmless to use a napkin I promise
Has all the juicy tea but is missing details
goes to the shop and gets exactly what we need, no this looked nice or a surprise item
Sighs really loud and I ask what’s wrong and he’s say “nothing I just took a breath”
I do that when my brain forgets to breathe. I don't realise I was holding my breath until I start breathing again.
Using the biggest cutting board for cutting one small tomato
For some reason we never have a small cutting board clean when I only need to cut something small, it's really annoying!
He doesn’t push the kettle back against the wall once he’s done so it’s left halfway across the counter. Fries my brain!!
I get it if you have limited bench space, but I would find it hard to get in that habit. Kettle and toaster have always been the two things I never move on my bench, even now I have little space to spare- thankfully we got a dishwasher so don't need the dish drainer and put them on there.
He lets the rain collect on his windshield twice as long as I would before it wipes
Falls asleep when we are watching a series together
parks backwards everywhere for no reason
Easier than exiting backwards, trust me (except with SENSIBLE 45° parking).
Falls asleep the second his head hits the pillow leaving me to deal with my brain myself
This was just a bit©hfest. Most of these people need to be single or live alone.
Yeah, I think they know, which is why they're posting them on the "harmless but" thread.
Load More Replies...there's a theme here and it's "Men are useless" and i couldn't agree more: this and the last generation of young men are HOPELESSLY useless . . . .and im a 60 year old man.
When you were young the older generation probably called you useless. It's a generation thing.
Load More Replies...This was just a bit©hfest. Most of these people need to be single or live alone.
Yeah, I think they know, which is why they're posting them on the "harmless but" thread.
Load More Replies...there's a theme here and it's "Men are useless" and i couldn't agree more: this and the last generation of young men are HOPELESSLY useless . . . .and im a 60 year old man.
When you were young the older generation probably called you useless. It's a generation thing.
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