49 Times Wedding Guests Messed Up So Bad The Couple Instantly Regretted Inviting Them
No wedding is complete without something going wrong. Mistakes, big or small, are bound to happen, whether by the spouses-to-be or their guests. Mess-ups by the latter probably sting more, as it’s something that the bride and groom can’t really prevent or control. While some faux pas aren’t that bad and can be easily laughed off, others end up ruining the special day and staying in the memory forever.
People have shared many such memorable stories over on wedding planner Ruby Straaten’s Instagram post, which we gathered below for you to react to. To find them, all you have to do is scroll down.
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I decided not to keep my bouquet, it was huge (way bigger than I expected) and really beautiful and I thought any one of the guests would be honoured to have it. So I tossed it, and the girl who caught it immediately threw it on the ground and yelled "TOUCHDOWN!". I remember just seeing my bouquet explode on the ground and being too shocked to respond. Her partner (who she had been hoping to marry) told me later that was the moment he realised she was not the kind of person he wanted to spend his life with.
Well I'm not sure this is such a hanging offence to be honest. She may have been quite surprised, a little drunk....I just don't find this that awful. But then again I find everything wedding related a bit tiresome.
This stupid bouduet toss... been to a lot of marriages, never seen a bride do it. My wifes bouqueet was laid on her dad's grave. She and I snuck off to the cemetery after the ceremony and after we had our private picture moment. Noone knew (except for me) that she wanted to do this. Much better use of the bouquet.
I can already tell im going to be annoyed by this list. "i decided i didnt want my bouquet. Thereby reliquishing all rights to said bouquet, then got upset when the person who took ownership of it did what they wanted to do with it." Also, who the f**k are you that you think your guest would be "HONOURED" to have your precious flowers. Completely delusional and absolutely typical.
Oh I bet she was a "look at me I am so funny" pick me girl... what a loser.
Being socially tone deaf doesn't mean you're a bad person. The ignorant require an education, not ostracization.
what is the social tone deafness of having fun at a party?
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On an opposite note, we had this wonderful couple at my wedding that silently celebrated their 22nd wedding anniversary whilst celebrating our special day with us. We had no idea but the fact they kept it silent was so respectful, even though we wouldn’t have minded
That is just so sweet, imagine being able to hold your spouse's hand and look into each others eyes and smile, remembering the years you spent together and still being in love, while a new couple is being married. And doing it without anyone noticing? Just beautiful x
This is kind of like the "If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?" thought experiment.
I remember at my brother's wedding, I didn't say it aloud during the pictures, but I looked at my husband who just knew what I wanted to say. He hugged me tight and said, "Yes, love, I would do it all over again with you." (This was a quiet moment between us, we didn't make it a moment while the others were being photographed).
My first husband smashed the cake in my face after we agreed to no cake–smashing. The marriage lasted 10 months and I found out later that his best friend bet him $10 to smash the cake in my face. $10! Worked out well for me in the end, though!
I would have bailed the second the SOB violated the cake smash agreement.
Women initiate 69% of divorce proceedings and that number climbs to 90% for college-educated women. Women dont value the vows they make under the god they claim to serve.
Load More Replies...I never understood that asinine "custom", and I don't want to do so. I was raised not to waste food, just for starters, and refuse to think of wasting food as "fun". If the couple want to do something silly, they should do something like throwing water balloons around.
One "Smash cake into your bride's face" equals "Crush new hubby's nutz until he passes out." Any objections?
Always think of that woman whose head was pushed down into a cake and one of the supporting dowels almost took out her eye.
I've never understood why smashing the cake in your new spouse's face was ok. Would they do something that childish in other situations? And it's typically the bride who is on the receiving end after she is all made up, hair done, in a beautiful dress, etc.
That would have been a celibate wedding night if it was me, if I didn't just walk out right then
They did their gender reveal at my wedding
I think you might be a bot. The entire list is supposed to be things that are not ok so we dont need a comment that is supporting that.
Load More Replies...Another thing that I find incomprehensible in any situation is "gender reveal parties". First, why does in fvcking matter what gender your kid is, second, why does it fvcking matter what gender your kid is, and third, why does it fvcking matter what gender your kid is? In this case, the kid's gender would be "fvcked", considering what raging narcissists their parents are.
My "gender reveal"? We got the sonogram. Twas a female child. Called those who needed to know. Roll credits.
Load More Replies...My sister-in-law announced her pregnancy at my wedding reception. She was absolutely livid when I said "congratulations" and just continued on with the party. It was a great party!
What is the point of a gender reveal at all? I mean it's a moment, sure but to try to make a big deal out of it is so silly!
Its another excuse for women to have a party where they are the center of attention.
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My husband and I eloped; just the two of us in a foreign country with witnesses we met locally. We got married in jeans, sneakers and t-shirts. Pure effortless bliss.
I know BP has a habit of changing article titles w***y-nilly, however this one absolutely does NOT belong here with the current title of "74 Times Wedding Guest Made the Bride and Groom Absolutely Regret Knowing Them" (nor the URL of "guests-regret-inviting-wedding").
Jerry Hall tried that with Mick Jagger. They were “wed” on a beach in Bali. Then Jagger said the marriage wasn’t legal, don’t remember exactly why, something about never registering it, married by someone, Hindu I believe, who was not able to marry anyone. This was after something like 10-15 years and 3 kids later. What a creep
My friends dressed up in Rocky Horror regalia and got married by Elvis. I have no intentioin of getting married but I am insanely jealous.
A brother of one of the groomsmen had his own party somewhere at the venue and came out swinging at my husband. Thank goodness for my husband and one of the other groomsmen who just grabbed his fist and threw him into the arms of his family who rushed him away. My husband then calmly walked out and joined me on the dance floor for our first dance. I didn't find out till later.
Announce to everyone she was pregnant while drinking booze!
She walked around telling everyone from the family, "if you think this is a good wedding... wait until mine next year!!"
My brother set my wedding dress on fire with a flaming sambuca. My now ex husband was so drunk he didn't know it was his wedding by the end of the night and my ex mother in law jumped into the wedding car with us after the wedding.
I've been watching the UK Shameless and this is giving Shameless
I hope you were driving. If the ex passed out in the car, I hope you left him there. Ex-MIL, stop the car, open the back door, and say'GET OUT'.
Cut themselves a slice of our small wedding cake before we did when there were 200 cupcakes next to it
Three weeks ago, I was asked at the last minute to cut the wedding cake for a friend's wedding. The did the their shared cut and got some photos but before I could even get to the cake, a guest had jumped up and started to cut themselves a piece from the bottom layer. I needed to take off the top layer for the bride and groom to keep, then cut the second layer. I had to play catch up for 20 minutes because people didn't understand I couldn't just hack up the cake - I had to make sure there was enough for everyone and not everyone could get a huge piece of like like that first person. People are something!
Brought their baby and it cried all during the ceremony. Could not hear the ceremony for the baby crying on the video. No babies should be allowed to come to a wedding no children under the age of five.
Wasn't the baby's fault. Parent should have leave the room with the baby right away. As any sensible person would do
FOMO. Same as people who poop themselves at sports games
Load More Replies...Right? I've seen friends running out of a ceremony with their kid as soon as they start grumbling
Load More Replies...When someone is so inconsiderate I think they're dangerously ignorant, and I treat and avoid them accordingly.
This is why bouncers are needed at weddings + receptions. Just sayin...
As I said in a previous comment, not everyone will think your child is wonderful. I always made sure to be very aware of those situations as the mother of two and the grandmother of three
My sister-in-law who had just eloped with a guy she met three months prior wrote this to us in her gift card: ‘I hope the two of you are as happy and in love as I am one day’ …. 🫤 She’s now divorced btw and I just celebrated my 30th anniversary.
Brought their kids when kids weren't invited
People who bring their kids to events like this seldom keep an eye on their children. Not everyone will be enamored by their charming children.
Stole the front seats and made my family sit behind them because they refused to move.
Yup. Make an announcement before all the guests that unfortunately some guests are wrongly seated in the family seats and that it would take a moment to move them.
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Getting engaged at my wedding
Guests should start "whispering" how cheap and tacky it is to propose at someone else's wedding. It is too late to prevent it, but at least the new fiancé knows how cheap the rest of her life will be.
Completely ignoring me at my own wedding and criticising me loud enough for me to hear. So I accidentally on purpose dropped a glass of RED wine upon her silk gown! And NEVER spoke to her again!
Every weddding should have at least one bottle of red wine.
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My husbands mom… asked us to give her a tour of Yellowstone before our wedding. Then asked if we could go to Mount Rushmore. We got married in Utah. Then she showed up to our fairly fancy rehearsal dinner in a track suit. Then told me parents they couldn’t sit it the table they were assigned to. Then her speech was purely there to one up my dad’s, very well thought out speech. Then she left early from our reception. Where I come from, the families stay after and help clean stuff up. Gather gifts and flowers and whatever. Nope. They left early.
My mom, gave a speech in graphic detail of my birth, mentioning her cervix and all.
Needless to say, my wedding would have been great without either of them.
I have just come up with the theory that control over offspring is the only remaining power that stay-at-home mums have, and the last opportunity to exercise it is the wedding. I have no idea how else to explain this.
Narcissism and entitlement. Doesn't have anything to do with being a stay at home mom.
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Brothers girlfriend stole our money.
My friend showed me her wedding video from her big traditional Indian wedding (in india.) At one point the bride and groom are sitting side by side on thrones while the guests take turns approaching them and giving them gifts. Everyone gives them envelopes containing money which they place in a big bowl between the thrones. I turned to her and said your sister in law owes you money, she looked at me confused so I grabbed the remote and rewinded the footage. Her SIL could clearly be seen crouching behind them and reaching into the bowl multiple times grabbing handfuls of envelopes. Started a lot of drama between the families when they confronted her, eventually father in law gave them £15, 000 to stop the fighting, which they used as a deposit on their first home.
If you can prove it, that's arrest territory and I would have her arrested.
A guest wore a short dress with no undies and flashed our entire venue when they bent over
Undies and shorts under short clothing doesn’t cost much y’all, we’d rather not see your hoo-haa
My mother in law wore white….
When a MIL wears white, after fully knowing better and being told not to, that should be your partners job to sort out. They need to put their mother in her place. Or you leave.
WHY do mother in laws insist on wearing white? I read about that a lot
Slight correction... BAD mother in laws. The good ones know to respect the couple
Load More Replies...Listen it's just part of the social contract and the overwhelming majority of people know you're not supposed to wear white to a wedding so when a MIL does it, it's absolutely a show of disrespect.
Load More Replies...I’m beginning to think there ought to be a couple of teens with super soakers filled with red Koolaid to deal with these people.
...and made a complete a*s of herself and was gossiped about at the wedding as being pathetic.
Classic Narcicistic Personalty Disorder. We used to chain women up in asylums for that.
We also used to chain them up for reporting a*****e husband's...
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Had their phone in our faces as we cut our cake and let their kids run around throwing water activated gel pearls from our centerpiece and glow sticks around. I had never been more stressed.
Wore a long off white gown to my wedding and then cropped me out of picture with her and my husband and made it her profile pic on fb.
Not mine but something I found annoying as heck.
Allowing kids with phone and iPads on while the ceremony is happening. And letting them scream because you turned down the volume or took digital devices away …
I had two kids at my wedding - my own child, and the best man's son. Fortunately they are the same age and great friends. They sat in the front row, the giggling was soo cute. However, at age 5 they knew not to natter, shout, scream or run around. The giggling and smiling made the ceremony though. It's very possible to teach little kids how to behave in certain social settings, and you don't need a d**n ipad to do it!
My mother in law was going around telling everyone who would listen that her son really didn’t want to get married and the proceeded to leave the reception with the left over dinners. We have happily married for 30 years!
Because they are older? It will happen to you one day you know. You too will look like a zombie.
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My mother in law invited her side of the family to our destination wedding without our approval or notice.
My hubby’s BFF since childhood got married to an amazing woman. They were saving $$ to buy a house & I did photography, so I said I’d do the wedding photos as my gift to them. (My hubby was best man so I “worked” while he partied with the wedding party. No big deal, that’s what I offered, but I wasn’t there as a guest. I was there as a “vendor” of sorts). But one of the guests had a sister who was wanting to start in photography and the bride said sure, the more pics, the better. Myself and the other newbie photog worked great together. She was lovely.
Bride had asked me beforehand to take a list of shots including photos of her mom helping her get dressed, her dad coming to see her in the room once dressed, etc. I said “absolutely”. The other photog’s sister (just a guest) asked me (more like ordered me) to go “count the guests” to see if everyone was there, ready to start the ceremony. I knew what she was doing but kept my peace to preserve the day. This guest then had her sister get all the shots I’d been asked to take. Good thing I had been there to take other photos because new photog girl had HORRIFIC photos. Not really her fault, she was still learning. But her underhanded sister almost ruined all the memories, the pics are the one thing that lasts once the wedding is over.
The bride didn’t know about this B/S for yrs until I ended up telling her when this guest’s “wedding day” behavior came up in a conversation. Bride was so livid she almost spit nails. Apparently this behavior is common for her, why she was a guest and not a bridesmaid. Why are people like this?
I'd love to see a poll on how often people actually look at their wedding pictures as time goes by. I've been married almost 27 years and can count on the fingers of one hand how often I've gone through our wedding album. In fact, I'm not 100% sure where it even is.
We do, and if/when there are kids, they actually like looking at wedding photos. Moreover, wedding are often one of the only places where there are photos of many members of the family. So if you want a good photo of your aunt Jackie who you loved, the wedding album may have the best one that you have.
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My so called Mother in law pushed my arm away as soon as I tried greeting her. She will never be allowed to be in mine or her grandchild’s life after that.
Took a phone call during my ceremony and then because my wedding was outside instead of muting it like was asked of everyone he stood up and walked off to the side and took the phone call while we were trying to get married within ear shot of all our guests and us. We literally had to stop the ceremony and wait for him to finish his call. It was so rude!
Someone should have grabbed his phone and tossed it in a lake.
Load More Replies...That's what ushers are for. They're supposed to make sure everyone behaves and there are no disruptions.
The uncle of the groom got up for a speech and started telling the story of when they all first met the bride…. and proceeded to talk about how good she looked in her bikini that day….
Maybe she's just very thin...but that girl looks underage to me, which makes the story even worse.
That is a model in a stock photo
Load More Replies...My sister- who had meltdowns the entire wedding week- stating she wasn’t involved enough or loved enough- grand finale … she cussed out our mom and my friends at the reception and had to be escorted out by another friend who then missed the entire reception. Heartbreaking.
My MIL saying it was the worst day of her life
My MIL wore a black velvet blazer with a dark skirt to our wedding. Frowned the entire time.
My photographer took pictures but never gave me any only took my money
My so called best friend walked out half way through my ceremony and proceeded to vomit (several times) all over the stairs where we were supposed to get our pictures done. She has a pity party all night saying she had a trapped nerve in her back…but she was lactose intolerant and had been drinking milk based alcohol the entire day. She ruined all the picture, complained about where she was sitting, didn’t dance the entire night, left without saying goodbye and hasn’t spoken to me since
I’m a minor so maybe that’s why but I never knew that milk based alcohols were a thing
Some types of liqueur and some cocktails have milk in them, to make them thick and creamy.
Load More Replies...Perhaps she self exiled due to her behavior but it should still warrant a g99d apology.
My father may he rest in peace, was a wedding photographer in the 50s. He shot a whole wedding with no film. He noticed early but was too embarrassed to tell anyone.
That’s terrible, he should have admitted his mistake and gone to get some film, even if it took him a while to do that at least the bride and groom would have SOME photos
Agreed. How he just keep shooting blanks to save face is beyond me.
Load More Replies...Told another guest “I won’t be inviting her to my wedding” during speeches at my wedding. Then talked about her wedding to everyone
I’ve saw woman once do three wardrobe changes at a wedding (she wasn’t the bride or a bridesmaid)
Huh, I had 3 outfits for my niece's wedding... But it was because she had an English ceremony, an Indian ceremony, and then a formal reception, so a lot of people changed outfits
Amazing if the people tried meeting her again with every outfit change. Oh, she wasnt here earlier...haha
My sister in law ate the cake decorations off the cake before it was cut. And Aunty Doreen turned into a nasty drunk and went under the table tanked. Truely!!
Got wasted and kept groping all the female guests in front of his wife, then started to cry when he was cut off and then asked to leave when he started making a scene. That would be my husband’s brother in law, because he will never be my family.
My hair stylist got sloshed and shouted out during my ceremony so the groomsmen carried him off and he passed out wandering around the property in a random stream.
Matron of honors sister…got drunk, stepped on and ripped my dress, ended up getting arrested later that night for drunk in public.
I hate that she ripped your dress, but the end of the evening sounds good.
They brought their four kids that were not invited. And the older one around 12 or 13 threw up in the coat closet.
Spent this special day only with our 6 best friends - everything was perfect! 100% can recommend!
My wife and I met in the Army Reserves. Our chaplain performed the ceremony. His wife and the chaplain's assistant were the witnesses and we all went out for Chinese after.
This is how to do it. A wedding isn't supposed to be a way to keep up with the Joneses so to speak but to tell people that YOU (you being the bride/groom, bride/bride, groom/groom) genuinely love that yes! this is my forever person!
Why don't more people do this?? Why make a wedding day such a huge expensive time consuming day? Most of the guests don't want to spend 15 hours standing around talking to people they don't know or haven't seen for years either quite frankly.
A klepto aunt stole my lipstick and bra from the room I was going to get dressed in. Luckily it was a home wedding and I had another bra. The lipstick was a special colour. No substitute.
A very special kind of wacko. One that's too medicated or not enough medicated
Load More Replies...@rathoren so like she's to be completely ok with someone robbing her things because everyone else couldn't remember lipstick? Tooooool.
SIL Found out what color my bridesmaids were wearing, then wore the same color dress. She ended up in MANY bridal party photos. We did not get along. My father got drunk and got into a screaming match with his wife, they ended up leaving before the reception even started.
She sold girl scout cookies at my shower then delivered them to my guests at the wedding
Girl Scout cookies sometimes take precedence over other things. Jokes but that is random af.
"aww weddings make me tear up too" "no it's the strength of these thin mints"
Load More Replies...Let their 18 month old run down the aisle while the vows are being said
Inviting a guest who missed most of the ceremony and reception to chase Pokemon around the streets.
Had someone want me to stop the car so they could spin a gym or whatever. Sorry, mid way through an intersection on a 4 lane so its not going to happen.
Talk s**t about the wedding, venue, food, brought their dog in the ceremony, complained a lot bout photoshoot time before the reception - mind you she's a close friend.
My sister-in-law was in charge of having people sign a guest book, but instead made a beeline to the bar & never got any signatures
People who RSVP'd and never showed up. I remember someone telling me that you'll never forget the people who RSVP'd but didn't show up and all these years later, she was so right!
No excuse for not taking 5 minutes to send them a text. unless they are in the hospital.
Load More Replies...My ex husband..for taking off his button shirt and wearing his vest and bowtie shirtless halfway through the reception.
Recording me walking down the aisle after our pastor said to put the phones away and he deliberately kept his out anyway, I should stopped walking told him and my mother in law to put the phones away and re walk down the aisle but it was my wedding and didn’t want to get into it with anyone
Barfing red wine all over my white dance floor during my honeymoon dance
Who? Who was vomiting? What is a honeymoon dance? What is a white dance floor? Is it something special?
No idea why you've been down voted. Although the who may not be important I also want to know about the rest.
Load More Replies...My MIL wore the same colour as the bridesmaids, and claimed I had said they were wearing a different colour. And 6 of my guests didn't want to pay London venue prices for drinks, so they brought in hip flasks 🙄 and risk me a £1,000 fine
I was charged £15 last week for glass of wine in Covent Garden. I won’t name bar, it was for leaving drinks for someone so had to stay
Maybe it's just too early in the morning & my brain hasn't kicked in yet, but I don't know what you mean by "it was for leaving drinks for someone..."
Load More Replies...London drink prices are f*****g ridiculous. Especially central London. Even Spoons has got ridiculous.
Not my wedding nor my guest. But I was a bridesmaid. The bride and groom were exiting the ceremony, the wedding party exiting after them. By the time I walked all the way back to the reception area, somehow one of the groomsmen had already changed out of his wedding attire and was in carhartt shirt and jeans. I pulled the bride aside and asked her if I was supposed to stay in my bridesmaid dress or if she wanted us to change… she begged me to stay in my dress (which I was going to do anyway) but I still can’t even understand how he had the time to change. Like I didn’t even stop or do anything, I went straight to that area and he was already changed into his casuals. Bride was not happy with the dude lol
If the ceremony is over, you're allowed to wear your regular clothes if you like. Doesn't matter that it's immediately after. He may have felt very uncomfortable in those clothes.
Wow. Im impressed. Someone with common sense and respect on this platform.
Load More Replies...Posted a photo of us leaving the church before we had even shared our own pictures from the day.
Wore a white sunflower sundress at my FALL wedding, and kept interrupting our private time after photos because her daughter was in the other room of the cabin we had 🫠🫠🫠🫠 Didn't even know she was wearing white until I got the photos back. I was LIVID lmaoooo
Their phone rang while they were about to walk down the aisle. Or complaining theor daughter the flower girl couldn't choose her own dress she is 13 in a white ball gown
Wasn't invited in the first place..but my bridesmaids (who is now my sister-in-law), her mother started telling people to shut down the wedding while my husband and I were taking pictures because we "needed to be out of there soon"..it was 7pm
Whined that I didn’t invite their whole family. So last minute we did. They basically had a table for 10. And then only 3 showed up.
Wear gym shorts and shirt
Left before I walked down the isle because they had somewhere else to be
Wearing white and taking anniversary photos by MYYY photographer andd EVEN bringing aaaa FLOWER
Kicked a jar of water smashing it all over the aisle a few minutes before the bride walked down it. Oh wait that was me (:
...kicked the oddly-placed jar of water, or was the bride??...or both..??? 🤔
Based on the description I'm thinking they mean water breaking as in a pregnancy.
Load More Replies...Eat and immediately leave.
18 family members of husband's side showed up with a cash gift totalling 18 measly dollars. They then proceeded to fill themselves up at the wedding buffet and bar costing a hundred dollars per head
I'm still of the notion that if *you* invite people to **your** wedding, you should cover their meals 🤷 if you can't afford that or the wedding in general, maybe scale-back. These stupid expensive weddings are a plague
My second wedding was at the local town hall, dress bought in a charity (thrift) store, reception in our back garden. Family friend made 3 small cakes (carrot cake, lemon drizzle, and a chocolate one) was kind enough to set up the buffet id made (she added some bits too bless her heart), we bought a tonne of bottles of booze and soft drinks, my dad did the DJing (he was one back in the 70s and still dabbled). We had a small box with envelopes for anyone who might have wanted to leave a cash gift, but all were clearly told that having them there *was* our gift. Best wedding day ever, everyone (our small chosen group of family/friends) had a great time. I never understand people who drop stupid money. Its meant to be about love, not money
One of my bridesmaids (female friend of my husband). On the day of our wedding, she turned up with her bridesmaid dress (chosen by her and paid for by me btw) …and a floor length RED dress that she planned to change into during the reception. No, she didn’t ask if she could do this before hand.
In some places wearing red to a wedding can symbolize that you were intimate with the groom before the bride was. It's a big f**k you to the bride.
Load More Replies...I'm saying this again, but I think that not wearing white for 1 day on the 365 ones there is in a year is not that much of a big deal. I mean you can wear white the day before, the day after, and even everyday of the year except this one, it's not that hard.
My wife was given a cigarette lighter for her 21st birthday by her BFF. Left it on a table at a family wedding when we got up to dance. Came back and it was gone. When I say family wedding I mean just that. 1st cousins getting married and it was London not Alabama so it's nice to know somebody in the family is a thief. Oh, the happy couple got divorced, the two kids seem to be . . . normal.
I'm saying this again, but I think that not wearing white for 1 day on the 365 ones there is in a year is not that much of a big deal. I mean you can wear white the day before, the day after, and even everyday of the year except this one, it's not that hard.
My wife was given a cigarette lighter for her 21st birthday by her BFF. Left it on a table at a family wedding when we got up to dance. Came back and it was gone. When I say family wedding I mean just that. 1st cousins getting married and it was London not Alabama so it's nice to know somebody in the family is a thief. Oh, the happy couple got divorced, the two kids seem to be . . . normal.
