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50 Hilariously Relatable Jokes In This Online Group Of Socially Anxious People Who Are Laughing Through The Tears
Social anxiety is one of the most widespread fears that usually starts during teenage years. And while many occasionally worry about social situations, someone with social anxiety feels overly worried before, during and after them. It affects their everyday activities, self-confidence, relationships and work or school life, so you can imagine what a heavy burden it may be.
But whoever is looking for a support group online, the ‘Social Anxiety’ corner of Reddit is a safe space to talk about hard things. With 309k members and counting, the subreddit has people sharing painfully funny memes on how it feels to live with this anxiety.
“Whether it's approaching someone you're attracted to or if it's giving a presentation in class, everyone gets a little nervous at times. You may have social anxiety, however, if you feel like throughout your day you're bombarded by anxious thoughts/feelings during social situations that otherwise seem so effortless for most people,” states the subreddit’s description.
“Welcome to the club,” it adds, showing that you won’t feel left out and a bunch of people here do know how you feel. So why don't you all just laugh at it?
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#1
I Genuinely Love This Subreddit
Sheila Stamey 4 years ago
Unless you are tormented by anxiety you don't know what a gift was given. God bless whoever did this!
Lord Mysticlaw 4 years ago
Nobody gets this when I tryto get info before going somewhere new. Where do I park? Where do I walk? Where do I go in? Who do I talk to? What do I say? It's exhausting.
I don't like my name 4 years ago
I only order for from places that have online ordering... extreme social anxiety is a d**k
chrissy goodman 4 years ago
as someone who is on disability bc i cant work due to my social anxeity, i respect the person who helped them. i respect them in an extreme amount of respect. god bless them for having such a kind heart.
Little Phoenix 4 years ago
I don't understand why thing have to be so complicated. If I want to order a coffee, I don't need a "Venti" or a "Trenta. Small,. medium or large will do fine!
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#2
I Hate When This Happens
Victorialovespandas 4 years ago
But hold on, not knowing something doesn't make you dumb we all have to lean. I refer all of you that disagree to the Bored panda article People Are Sharing Psychological Tricks That They Actually Use In Everyday life. Know please bare with me while I panic over if people will like this comment .
Suzanne Clark 4 years ago
Even to this day, if someone asks me a question like "who's your favorite author" I freeze up like a deer in the headlights--it was worse in college.
WritingSatyr 4 years ago
Once in school I was placed in the “smart” maths group (I was in primary school). And I didn’t feel like I belonged there. So when we were doing the warm up I was asked something like “what’s 6 x 11?” and I got really panicked and I stood there for a minute just freaking out and finally I said “66” and luckily nobody said anything otherwise I would have sprinted out of there before you could ask me another question.
chrissy goodman 4 years ago
my teachers were told not to call on me to answer questions bc of my social anxeity. one teacher did and i ended up having a severe panic attack in class and bc of it that teacher got fired. my teacher thought anxeity disorders r bs and fake.
#3
Thank You!!!
Daniel (ShadowDrakken) 4 years ago
I'm usually on the lookout for those people who are being overwritten by the group around them. If they're trying to say something and keep getting talked over, I'll address them directly so the group will stop and listen. Being ignored is a huge pet peeve of mine, so I try to make sure people around me don't get ignored either.
Naomi Cline 4 years ago
YES!!! I try to be that person and sometimes I am the one who needs that person.
Mars Talcott 4 years ago
I try to be that person because it's happened to me too many times to count.
Chaotic-Pansexual (she/they) 4 years ago
I try to be that person, but I’m often the one who’s overlooked, so it can be difficult to divert attention when it wasn’t yours
Delilah Simmons 4 years ago
I've already given up on people. Hello world, I am a lonely, codependent, dog owner
It’s important to understand that social anxiety is more than being shy. Although many people occasionally feel anxious in social situations, those with social anxiety have the fear interfering in their daily lives.
NHS.uk states that you may have social anxiety if you have any of these symptoms: worry about everyday activities, such as meeting strangers, starting conversations, speaking on the phone, working or shopping; avoid or worry a lot about social activities, such as group conversations, eating with company and parties; always worry about doing something you think is embarrassing, such as blushing, sweating or appearing incompetent; find it difficult to do things when others are watching—you may feel like you're being watched and judged all the time; fear being criticized, avoid eye contact or have low self-esteem; often have symptoms like feeling sick, sweating, trembling or a pounding heartbeat (palpitations); have panic attacks, where you have an overwhelming sense of fear and anxiety, usually only for a few minutes.
#4
"Social Anxiety"
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
I second that motion and I'm 75. (Hope that doesn't spoil things for you!)
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M Calad 4 years ago
And usually it goes pretty fine... and then you feel bad about all the wasted time worrying abd being anxious.
Liv 4 years ago (edited)
Yes. I rarely regret going to a social event (as small as going out to meet a few friends, or as big as going on a trip), just the wasted time stressing over it!
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Howard Moody 4 years ago
That's me, I agree to go on a trip and then dread it until it comes, then I have a good time. Fortunately my boys understand and take good care of me.
Dogetothemoon 4 years ago
I did not know that the onion actually posts things that can be true
Calypso poet 4 years ago
It used to be sarcastic, now it's social commentary 🤦🏻♀️
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#5
True
Vicky Z 4 years ago
And in the end you don't watch Netflix because you keep thinking all these!
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
True. Not funny, not surprising, not interesting... But true. Just totally true.
kjorn 4 years ago
for me it's mostly that people never talk about stuff i'm interested to. and my stuff don't interested people. the only time i talk with people it's when we have a common ground of topics.
DM 4 years ago
I have a long history of mental health issues stemming from trauma and I get severe social anxiety is waves. I will have rare times I feel social and pray my friends and family haven’t given up and written me off. If your honest and teach them your true friends will understand and know.
Pagan Child of Fire 4 years ago
Oh my gods yes someone has to talk to me before I can easily just be like "Hey nice to see ya" and I like having friends oof
Jackie Porter 4 years ago
The guilt you feel when you eventually have to cancel due to the anxiety is horrible too.
#6
Too Sensitive?
Jeanie Roundy 4 years ago
Regrets? Everything is a learning experience. Good or bad. Learn and you will have no regrets....
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a_smol_berry 4 years ago
In 6th grade my teacher told me to stop overthinking and start taking deep breaths. I just nodded.
Jeanie Roundy 4 years ago
Actually, I've found that deep breathing really is helpful......But not until you pass out.
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InsignificantFeline 4 years ago
I'm still thinking about things like this from 13 years ago 😣😓
Delilah Simmons 4 years ago
The honest truth, sucks more when you are also a flipping empath and all of your friends/everyone you care about/ relatable person on the internet is suicidal among other things
Carole Hamilton 4 years ago
You just need to recognise that this isn't your fault, it is the moron that shouted at you that is wrong, they are probably like it to everyone. They probably don't even remember they did it.
Social anxiety may be especially daunting when things go against the plan and this, as we all know, happens much more often than we’d like. It’s really hard to keep yourself in control for those who don’t have it, but for people with social anxiety it may seem like mission impossible.
The good news is that there are some cognitive emotional skills that anyone can learn to get through those stressful situations better. Improving such skills has to be made a priority by those with social anxiety, and many other mental health issues like depression, generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, etc.
#7
It's Like I Forget I Have Sa For A Second
Vicky Z 4 years ago
I also have the best advices for other people problems .... not for mine of course! Shouldn't that be some kind of a super power?
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
It is because people are usually harder on themselves. We would never dare saying to anyone else the horrible things we tell ourselves, and we are not biased about other people's problems by our own low self-confidence.
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Karin Jansen 4 years ago
Ah yes! Me as a lawyer: "You need to fix my clients roof, based on article x section 1 of the rentors code, or we wil have to sue!" Me as a rentor: "You fix roof please? No? OK thank you, sorry for bothering you.."
thefaithfulspouse 4 years ago
Gotta remember YOU are the important person you are doing things for.
Lilly Swaim 4 years ago
I can't care enough to do anything for myself, but someone else? Hell yeah I'll do the thing! I even only really work as to be a backup bank account for my family, if I'm honest, they are good people and don't take advantage, but it feels soo nice to be able to be an interest-free loan to help out. I put a porch on my mom's house this year, she's paying me back in installments, but if she had to get a load for this, it'd have cost soo much more
DM 4 years ago
I have a theory on your loophole because I have that to and have explored this with my long time awesome VA psychologist. I think it’s like your capable and it’s just suppressed. You go into like a survival mode, which is a psychological reaction to pretty high stress. Your brain temporarily does it’s job, but when it’s all over does it wipe you or do you feel better?
Carole Hamilton 4 years ago
This was me all my life - couldn't stand up for myself, but would for others - this is classic non-loving yourself. Better now.
#8
"Don't Dwell On Things" They Tell Me... Meanwhile
Anonymousplease 4 years ago
Me coming up with things to say in a conversation that hasn't happened yet
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Lord Mysticlaw 4 years ago
I read "6 years" instead of "6 hours" and I didn't question it for a moment 🤣
Jessica Morin 4 years ago
Me coming up with a comeback to an argument that have not happened yet ..
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
I always come up with great comebacks, then I forget all of them in a real arguement
The swede. 4 years ago
I do that with things that happend YEARS ago. Hate my brain for not letting go 🙂
#9
Here’s Some Abuse
Vicky Z 4 years ago (edited)
*currently reading bored panda, listening to 90's pop music, not planning to speak to anyone and imagining myself going out in the evening*
Jon Clingenpeel 4 years ago
Take out the 90’s pop for 90’s metal and that’s me
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Blue of the yams 4 years ago
Curled up in my room listening to Girl In Red, wearing a too-big sweatshirt, and reading bored panda. I feel called out, haha!
Liv 4 years ago
I deeply feel all of them except no. 2. Not speaking to anyone for days at a time - is that a thing that exists? My life never allowed that... Mind-blown, and jealous. I miss silence and need to know how it is to not have any verbal interaction for more than 3 hours. Hmm maybe I should call in sick and turn off my mobile (after warning people that I'll do that so they don't come banging on my door)...
Delilah Simmons 4 years ago
*reading bored panda, listening to the same song 16400 times every song, and imagining talking withmy nonexistant friends*
Jackie Porter 4 years ago
I often fantasize what would happen if I went back in time to different times in my life and how I would do things differently. I hate doing it because I will never be able to do this but I want to change something in my past to make my future not suck so much.
Bored Panda reached out to Alice Boyes, a former clinical psychologist turned writer and the author of “The Healthy Mind Toolkit” and “The Anxiety Toolkit” to find out more about controlling our frustration when things go against the plan. Alice said that in practical terms, “the more buffer you have in your life, the easier it is to handle stress. Therefore practical solutions like creating an emergency fund can help.”
#10
*Checks Excuse Book*
Vicky Z 4 years ago
While wishing desperately someone will cancel or a tornado will hit the city and you won't have to go with these plans
California Jones 4 years ago
My friends and I have a "mental health escape clause". Just say the word and you have a judgement-free out.
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Monty Is Fiennes 4 years ago
I just don't go if its social.... but this is me when I have prac lab at Uni....
VeninTheNonBinaryRogue 4 years ago
I had a birthday party like this once. My friend had asked a little while ago if I wanted to come and I said yes, but then it was like a day before and I felt like I didn’t want to because I was sad my camp had ended and also because I wasn’t out to her yet and I didn’t feel like being misgendered. I got “sick” so I couldn’t go yay lol
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
Relatable. Why did I agree to go to that stupid frat party ? It was so awkward and boring...
#11
I Know This Feeling Too Well
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 4 years ago
What is the other way of living if not this?No ,seriously am asking for genuine advice.How do people without anxiety maintain relationships of any kind ?
Little king trash mouth 4 years ago
My husband has friends so it seems like I have friends and I've had the same three friends since college 20 years ago.
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Pheebs 4 years ago
Oh, this is with family too. Every phone call feels like they’re being inconvenienced. This is partially because they’re the types to just talk over you, or start a conversation with someone in their vicinity and jus generally checkout of the conversation. And then occasionally mention how they never know what’s going on in my part of the world because I never call them.
Tahar Taggle 4 years ago
The worst part is knowing this, talking about it with your shrink, yet keeping on doing it nonetheless. :'(
Analyn Lahr 4 years ago
I wonder if that's why my friend stopped replying to me. It's been four years now. I gave up trying to contact her last year with a last email letting her know I was here if and when she's ready.
#12
Lol
Isaac Harvey 4 years ago
Instead of "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," the truer version is "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can destroy my soul." Maybe it's dark, but it's just reality.
Delilah Simmons 4 years ago
If you can't take a compliment borrow it for someone else to use * me not believing any of my random sermons*
Having said that, she suggests that if your life isn’t overscheduled and you have more flexibility, then it’s best “to give yourself time and nurturing to recover from knocks. ”Psychologically, it’s always best to remind yourself to take stressful situations one step at a time. “Like, if your car breaks down on the highway, all you need to do first is get out of traffic. Don't get ahead of yourself mentally,” Alice explained.
#13
Never Were Truer Words Spoken.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Home is where the comfort and heart is plus I'm actually quite intelligent there!
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Brendan 4 years ago
I love going home, but I can't be the first to go home. Otherwise, people might realise I can't wait to get the hell out of there.
Susan Bosse 4 years ago
Same. And thought it was my kid's, too, until he broke his first bone. It was his femur. Skateboarding. Just before last Christmas. Six days in the hospital. He said "Go big or go home." I said "Well, ya went bit and didn't go home." Now we say "Don't go big. Just stay home." Hahaha
Celtic Pirate Queen 4 years ago
My living room is basically a library, so there's no place I'd rather be.
Amanda Hunter 4 years ago
I had a really bad boss once when I was young. I asked what I should do with something to which he replied 'throw it out the window' I was right in front of an open window and almost did throw it.
#14
Aye
catslave6 4 years ago
No worries! You weren't going to make any calls anyway. ;>)
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Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
Gently? Oh no. Not gently. I throw it hard enough any MLB coach would be impressed.
Xavi Palacios 4 years ago
10/10 sounds like great advice! I'll test it out and give an update!
Doris Bennett 4 years ago
I desperately want to talk to the people... but I don't want to make the call! So I don't.
Michelle Otto 4 years ago
I actually learned to and now prefer making phone calls at work after a boss I had would literally follow up on something every two minutes by standing next to my desk looking over my shoulder and I couldn't. Calling a person just to get an answer and him away from me taught me phone skills.\ Still despise personal calls though.
#15
Always
Cathelijne Van 4 years ago
I. Am. Yellow. You just have to practice 😅😅😅 sorry!
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Vicky Z 4 years ago (edited)
I don't even remember how we lived before texts and emails! Oh no i remember! Calling your friend at home wishing no parent will pick up was a true agony!
Aliquid A 4 years ago (edited)
And there was always the one parent that thought it was funny to mess with you. "Hi, is John there?". --- "yes he is" ---- "uh... uh... can I speak with him?" --- "I don't know, CAN you?" --- "uhm... uhm... would you please ask him to come to the phone and speak with me?"
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Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
Some people just don't get it. I hate calling. With a passion. At my job I have to answer the phone most of the time and usually it is something unpleasant so in the private sector 99% of the time I do not even answer the phone even if I can see that the caller is a friend of mine. Why do they keep calling me although I have told everybody a zillion times to contact me via WhatsApp only?
BookCrazyTeen 4 years ago
I did this thing at school where I had to help with the 6th grade orientation and I had to call the numbers of everybody in my group. I split the list with my partner but still had to make 8 calls. Thankfully most of them didn’t answer. It took me half an hour to rack up enough courage for the first one.
tuzdayschild 4 years ago
If I can knock out a conversation in 30 seconds and be done with, you bet I'm calling. Texting drags on to long for me.
Dolly_of TheCowboy 4 years ago
This is me at work. I am work "yellow". I get comments from co-workers how I am always wanting to call people rather than send an email. No not always just when I get a feeling a. the person will ignore an email and pretend they never got it thus dragging out the process for months longer b. if they do reply to the email likely that co-worker that said email them will not respond to the email saying oh you were handling that one but still expect me to reply to emails they have sent to people c. person is an idiot and will keep re-sending same information you have just emailed them about saying no sorry not the right documents please complete the attached document so phoning them and breaking it down into ever smaller/simpler chunks means less emails that end up novels. However not at work I am totally a "blue" and avoid speaking to people on the phone preferring text/IM
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neonn_pieee 4 years ago
This is so me. I get such bad anxiety when I have to make phone calls or talk on the phone. It's horrible! I'd so much rather text or email for sure.
Daniel (ShadowDrakken) 4 years ago
F calling. I work in IT, and one thing you learn is that the customer WILL throw you under the bus EVERY chance they get. Paper trails (email trails) are critical.
Another way to handle stress is giving yourself some sources of pleasure, like exercise, or podcasts you like. “Things you look forward to, that you can still do even when you're experiencing stress,” the former psychologist explained. In the end, it’s always helpful to remind yourself that stressful events happen to everyone. “They're part of life, but we don't necessarily know what's going on behind the scenes for other people,” Alice concluded.
#16
I’ve Never Related To Anything More
Cheri Shinpaugh 4 years ago
this is precisely why we are discouraged from "round robin" read alouds as teachers... students with anxiety will spend so much time pre-reading their section that they lose any info introduced in the previous reading sections. i typically let students volunteer to read and encourage others to take the chance if they feel comfortable doing so. there have been some amazing moments where a reluctant reader has taken the chance...by that time, we have practiced being supportive listeners, and my students are super encouraging of each other. i would NEVER make a student read if he did not want to read aloud!
Zophra 4 years ago
I so agree!!! I like that in my class the students will applaud when someone finishes, as it does take a lot of guts to "cold read." I also let them say "skip" if they can't pronounce a word. I read first and make at least 2 "skips" intentionally.
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Or when there is the "let's introduce ourselves...". I don't listen to anyone's introduction before mine because I keep practicing what to say. And then I don't listen to those who come after me due to (over)thinking of how I sounded when I introduced myself 🤦♀️.
Brendan 4 years ago
I was in a "let's introduce ourselves" circle, and I wasn't panicked because I thought of a funny line. But someone who went before me used the same line. And then the sweating began.
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Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
Anyone else look up the restaurant's menu online ahead of dinner so you don't have to be flustered by 10 pages of dining options and can just rattle off what you want because you've rehearsed it?
Linda McGuigan 4 years ago
I have this it started in primary school years ago and by the time I reached year two in secondary school it exploded and I ended up being prescribed valium at such a young age I also believe that this set the course for the rest of my life I am in a better place now but I still have day's where I am crippled with social anxiety
Connie Martin 4 years ago
I did this too. It's ironic that we were practicing our own paragraphs and not listening to the kids before us for the sense of the whole thing.
Henry Cheves 4 years ago (edited)
And then the teacher gets to you and says "We can skip page 17, just do the next page."
#17
Always The Outcast Of Every Group
Couch potato 4 years ago
yep. Just described what happens any time a word comes out of my mouth
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Usually comes out of my mouth garbled or wrong - totally relatable!
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Sue M. H. R. 4 years ago
Yes! This so much. Thankfully, pre-pandemic, I was at a casual event at my parent's house and after most of the guests had left a few of us were sitting around by the fire pit. I started a relevant story a few times, only to get interrupted my multiple people - and not interrupted to ask a question - like interrupted so they could start telling their story. Also, I tried to comment or interject when appropriate and NO ONE heard me or listened. My sister was sitting next to me and silently laughing. I turned to her and said, "this might be funny for you now but this has been going on my entire life" - she got real quiet. I'm happy to report, my relationship with her is better than ever, but I still find it is just easier to not talk at family events.
iBlank 4 years ago
the worst are the people who acknowledge that you are trying to add something to a conversation, but never stop talking long enough for you to do so. And, when they finally do pause for a second, they changed the subject long ago
BetweenTheCracks 4 years ago
Oftentimes, at some point in their ceaseless blather, they'll try to joke about it: "Lol, I'm so sorry, I just never shut up. *whaaaargarrrrble without taking a breath for the next 20 minutes*"
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Devilish_Damian 4 years ago
- stutters 5 times in a 4 word sentence because of anxiety and insecurity
Delilah Simmons 4 years ago
Relatable and if we were friends, I would remember every word, but alas i have no idea who you are
#18
So Accurate
Bender Bending Rodríguez 4 years ago
Wow ... this is a perfect illustration how I feel about going out.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Me and my shadow (my only friend) get the hell out as soon as possible!
Susan Egan 4 years ago
Unfortunately it takes a while to find out most people don't care about you. The ones that might be judging, you probably don't care about. I wish we could be born feeling like I do now, I'm 65, and I have to push myself out the door but once I'm out I don't care what people think. If your concerned about the was I dress, YOU need a hobby,
Julieta S. 4 years ago
I know... take off your bra and your fake normal personality... welcome!
#19
Aye, Contact Sucks
R J 4 years ago
I’ve been struggling with this for years and am seeing this for the FIRST TIME being mentioned as a thing. I will rest easier tonight. Could someone tell me if this is a personality thing or social anxiety or what is it???
Yo 4 years ago
I recommend that you ask professional, asking people on the internet is dangerous. Rest easy 😌
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GaeFrog 4 years ago
Why does he look like michael scott or at least the bottom half of his face
Grayson Wrigley 4 years ago
OMG, I've never felt so seen (with the appropriate amount of eye contact).
Susan Egan 4 years ago
OMG my nephew told us about an interview he went to where is concentrated on making eye contact. He stared at the guy without blinking very intensely. Later he realized how creepy that must have been. No he didn't get a job.
#20
Getting A Call From A Unknown Caller
Banana Vic 4 years ago
But how will you know when your car's warranty is a out to expire?!
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#21
Teachers : *surprised Pikachu*
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
What ? Being an insensitive bully who uses their tyranical power to publicly humiliate a child does not help them ? How surprising ! /s
Bexxxxx 4 years ago
If I was a teacher I would leave shy kids the f alone during question time. Obviously focus on them and their learning, but as a shy kid myself, the anxiety of having to talk often made it so that I couldn’t pay attention because I was so scared of having to talk. I’d make my classroom a safe learning space, and play towards their strengths instead of making them talk in front of the class. It doesn’t help build confidence at all honestly.
Zophra 4 years ago
I have student write down their opinion. Some classes' students anxiety is manageable if they can read their answer. Others, I read them all outloud without giving names. Then people can volunteer to discuss the various viewpoints. Works pretty well.
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Silre 4 years ago
Making me go up to the board to do an algebra problem only makes me hate math. And you.
Susan Egan 4 years ago
Wait, I was so shy I covered half my face with my hair. Never raised my hand even when I knew the answers. 4th grade we had a writing class and every week we had to read our stories out loud to the class. It was torture the first couple of times. By the end of the year I didn't mind it at all. It's the same faces, a small group and we are all doing it. I wish the next years I'd had similar classes. I fell back to being sick to my stomach and doing my best to avoid speaking out in any class.
Beezel Palomar 4 years ago
Pff. Next, y'all are going to say how "throwing kids in the pool to learn to swim" isn't supposed to be literal and that I need to leave the public pool cause "I don't even have kids". . . Damn Karens.
Leisurely Loner 4 years ago
Kids who are quiet because they are anxious or uncomfortable are not "sulking." They are trying to cope. As for what to do, people who actually know what they are talking about will advise that the best thing to do help shy kids is to put kids in environments where it's easier for them to talk, let them build some confidence there, and gradually work their way up to "scarier" situations, rather than push them to speak. Here ya go if you want a source: https://childmind.org/guide/teachers-guide-to-selective-mutism/
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#22
I Feel Attacked
Candia Lee 4 years ago
I hide in a book or game or anything so I won't notice I'm not doing what I "should" be doing. Interesting - is this an ADD/OCD crossover?
Annie Myers 4 years ago
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Draco's Dragonfly 4 years ago
Oh my lord, yes, this is me... Literally what I've been doing the past week...
#23
I Have Stitched No Truer Words
Brendan 4 years ago
Sometimes, I feel like a meeting one-on-one is harder because the onus is on you to make a 50% contribution to the conversation.
Michigan Guy 4 years ago
oh, no. this is where good questions come into play. if you ask good questions? they'll carry 85% of the load for you....
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#24
My Life
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
Basically everyone's life (except the douchebags).
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Lightningstar 4 years ago (edited)
ok i gotta vent and idk why but i'm doing it here. I was wondering if any of you could relate. I want to get out of the box. I want to feel, i want to be vulnerable, i want to open up. But i can't. I try but anytime i get close, it hurts. Literally physical pain. I guess i've just gotten punched too many times. Ok uh thanks for listening and i'm ngl if you reply to me, i may or may not come on here to ask for help with some of my problems. There's no one else i can ask, so why not you?
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
Hi, Raven DeathShade here. I understand how you feel. My parents and family are like that. You finally manage to escape the box and boom, there's a harsh word or argument or insult or even a mental breakdown that tosses you right back in. Ask for help, my dear, and I will do my best to help you.
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Mia Burgess 4 years ago
My psychologist tried to convince me to be vulnerable... I don’t listen to her now.
California Jones 4 years ago
Honestly, you shouldn't. They don't live in the real world, they can hide behind shrinkitude.
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Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
That's a mistake you should never make, or else you will learn the hard way.
#25
Thanks Brain, Very Cool
Demi Zwaan 4 years ago
I'm still thinking about that time I was 8 (almost 40 years ago) and it was my birthday. I got a toy from my parents and was so happy with it, I ran to my aunt when she came in to show it to her and she had bought the exact same present. I still feel bad about it and I know it's stupid, my brain says it's stupid, I have a million reasons of why it is stupid, but I still feel bad. I hate emotions.
Joanie 4 years ago
When I was four my grandmother took me to her friends house. The lady had very long hair, which she had braided and arranged beautifully on top of her head. I told her that I really iked her pretty hat. She said, " It's not a hat, honey, it's my hair". I was mortified. At four years old. Have never forgotten it.
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Doris Bennett 4 years ago
My mom loved to shoot down your happy bubbles... 65+ years ago ... my prom date came to pick me up. Mom said "he's here ... looks like he's wearing one of his dad's old suits, his trousers are way too short." My dream night was ruined! I have finally let it go!
Jackie Porter 4 years ago
I still cringe about how I went to visit my then bf's parents and his mum asked me to 'wash up before dinner' and I said 'No thanks I had a bath this morning.'
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Me I don't even have to say anything to feel stupid - i think it must be the uncomfortable look on my face!
#26
Anyone Else?
Sheila Stamey 4 years ago
Yup.right in the eye every time. And you just feel like yelling " I could do it until you got here, doggone it!" My especial special hate; when I'm painting. I paint for me. If you say it's pretty, usually, I love you so much I will give it to,which I'm told is a pretty cool thing. But, don't walk up and say,after watching and umming for a few seconds, " you need to do..." Whatever. I will smack you with a full pallette in my dreams.
Mark Howell 4 years ago
Best example of this I'veseen was a friend fixing a machine at work. After a couple of hours stripping the offending part from the machine andtaking it to his bench to fix. All the senior management team crowded round to watch the repair. After 5 mins of this he walked off and got a brew, when he returned 10mins later, they were still there. He came out with the best one liner I have ever heard; 'When did this become a spectator sport'.They all left mumbling.
Demi Zwaan 4 years ago
Ah yes. The reason I don't want a desk with my back to the door. People walk in, I don't notice, they look over my shoulder and I completely forget how to use a mouse. What other people think of why I don't want that desk: They want to surf the net or play a game without anyone seeing it.
DM 4 years ago
This was the hardest thing to get over while putting in IVs in babies in front of their parents. Took me a few years.
DM 4 years ago
I missed the vein one time and a dad was standing next to me and threatened to punch me if I missed again. We decided to remove him for The threat as I needed to save his daughters life, but jeez.
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Dolly_of TheCowboy 4 years ago
Can touch type very rapidly and accurately as long as no one is micro-observing me or I overthink about what I am typing. Audience = complete inability to type at all and have to fix the mistakes as I go which just compounds the issue
#27
Every Time
Muff_Fluff 4 years ago
I always wish I said some sort of witty thing, but what can you say? It’s attendance.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
Had to speak in front of everyone, so I dont want to be "here" in school having to endure that. Here i am standing on the beach infront of the ocean and I'm not appreciating the ocean. I'm replaying that moment in my head, over and over. I wish I knew how to be really here at the ocean.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
The time I was asked to spell orange, and asked the fruit or the color?
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
I say my here so freaking weird. Why can't I talk like a normal person when I do that?
#28
It’s Me Every Freakin Day Lmao
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
I am always much happier when I’m just a bystander, and not at all involved in all the drama.
#29
Anyone Else?
Vicky Z 4 years ago
Sometimes this is why i make plans when I'm in a good mood! To force myself to go out! But I regret it most of the times
Splash Bach 4 years ago
Same. Funny thing is I know I'm gonna enjoy myself when I get there, but damn leaving the house is hard
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Destiney Haddox 4 years ago
This is why, when your friend cancels, don't make them feel bad. Accept it without judgement and you may find out it is because of social anxiety.
Doris Bennett 4 years ago
Sorry to say ... the pandemic gave me an excuse to say ... I can't. Now that I'm fully vaccinated I can't use that excuse anymore... darn it!
Sergio Bicerra 4 years ago
Not to be insensitive with the situation, but the pandemic gave me a little break of this.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I have an encyclopedia full of very believable reasons for when the time comes and i definitely am now unable to do that due to the anxiety.
#30
Pickle me Elmo 4 years ago
Why pretend to be busy, when you could read Boredpanda!
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Richard Portman 4 years ago
That one has actually gotten a little easier over the years. They might feel the same way! Also in public i have to use an electric chair. I think it makes me feel less threatening to others. Just for 3 years now. I have been very pleased with children. Sometimes i need someone to hold a door open and they almost always offer.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Think E=mc squared - the puzzlement on your face should deter anyone!
icandyapple 4 years ago
If you DO NOT look at them, they are less likely to adjust to get out of your way. Not looking at them keeps you from doing the awkward sidewalk getting out of each other's way dance.
#31
Now Time To Hibernate
#32
Here We Go Again
Birgit M 4 years ago
This is absolutely me. When I find myself not worrying I start to worry about not being worried.
Becklass 4 years ago
Same!!! And now I’m worried about how much I worry about not worrying.
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chrissy goodman 4 years ago
the moment u realized wat ur worried about is even worse. i have anxeity and ill randomly get stress hives sometimes. im actually going thru it now but i had no idea y i was anxious and then i realized and it got much worse. my parents moving to a different state all i can think about is all the things that can go wrong. whethere its on their end or mine once details r addes to the anxeity its all down hill
#33
I'm Mostly Txt, But...
Splash Bach 4 years ago
I prefer them to pick up. Otherwise they may phone you back when you're not prepared 😬
Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
*cue awkward, rambling voice mail that never seems to get to the point OR abrupt, almost rude "call me back" and hang up voice mail*
Jackie Porter 4 years ago
This picture is factually incorrect. I wouldn't be near anyone else.
#34
Social Anxiety - The Beginning
#35
Daniel Marsh 4 years ago
Why I had such a hard time accepting a diagnosis of depression: I actually WAS happy in bed. Sorta.
Silre 4 years ago
No but, I get in my bed and I have my AC and my weighted blanket and the Science channel and my cat and I am very happy.
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
I'm crocheting a blanket out of this really thick yarn I got from Hobby Lobby. It's going to be really heavy, I can't wait!
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Lightningstar 4 years ago
Wait do you have this nagging homesick feeling at home to??
Load More Replies... Doris Bennett 4 years ago
Being diagnosed with depression changed my life ... I got rid of everything that did not bring me joy, divorced my mean, gay-ish husband, got a dog and moved away ... but it's way too late. Now I have nothing in my life.but my little dog.
#36
It’s A Vicious Cycle
Sergy Yeltsen 4 years ago
It's kinda like how I would really love a hug so much, but at the same time I can't stand people touching me.
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Debby Hartinger 4 years ago
I love 'no social interaction'. Didn't have a problem with Covid 'shut down'.
#37
I’ve Been There
Yort 4 years ago
Shouldn’t Sandy have figured out that her marine life guest maybe needed sea water anyway? I know nobody should be expected to read your mind, but I think if you’re a scientist living in the ocean you ought to figure you should at least offer water to your guest who is an ocean creature.
#38
Am So Lonely!
MIA J RODRIGUEZ 4 years ago
This is just Depression, Depression, Depression and than...ANXIETY
#39
Show Me A Better Duo, I’ll Wait!
Daria Z 4 years ago
It actually helps me to know most people probably think about their own failures all the time instead of mine :D
Kai Scadden 4 years ago
I thought I came up with the best because ADHD usually makes you a procrastinator and you also want everything to be perfect,OCD is you need something.my moms obsession is CLEANLINESS!ADHD MEANS PROCRASTINATION
Load More Replies... Demongrrrrl 4 years ago
"You won't worry about what people think about you if you realize how rarely they do."
#40
A Little Hyperbole To Remind You You're Not Alone
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
Meanwhile, the people who you think laughed at you (they probably did not) have already forgotten.
NsG 4 years ago
Yes! Exactly this! I've mentioned this before but there was a study done in the 70s or 80s where they had a student (volunteer, they didnt just pick on someone!) enter a classroom late for an exam wearing a neon yellow "I love Barry Manilow" shirt. The student reported that everyone stared at them and it was the most embarrassing thing they had done! Asking the rest of the students in the room? Maybe two or three remembered the colour of the shirt and that someone was late, but that was about it. And that's what's usually happening - paradoxically, people are usually more focussed inwards at themselves and how they appear to other people than they are actually looking at and judging other people, at least beyond a few moments.
Load More Replies... Muff_Fluff 4 years ago
Lol what this isn’t a hyperbole. A hyperbole is an extreme exaggeration.
#41
Make That 6 Weeks
NsG 4 years ago
This is fine. This is less about social anxiety and more about the energy that is needed to be "on" around people. Three weeks might be a little long, but taking quiet time to recharge is perfectly normal. It can be normal for introverts AND extroverts.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
Sometimes we're so exhausted that 3 weeks is not "a little long".
Load More Replies... Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
I have had a crush on him since he played Akhmenrah in Night at the museum. Yeah, I know it is totally off-topic.
Aroace tiger (any pronouns) 4 years ago
Mh mum doesn't understand this at all. I went to a car place yesterday so no, i can't go to the fun fair
Carole Strawn 4 years ago
Not every introvert has social anxiety. I just need more alone time than most. I like people just in small numbers and less often than an extrovert.
#42
Yeah
Muff_Fluff 4 years ago
Then they can mind their own business, because if they came to that conclusion you obviously look cool.
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IttyBitty 4 years ago
That's painfully relatable, however, sunglasses are very helpful when you spot someone you don't want to talk to. They don't know whether you've looked in their direction, so they might believe that you haven't seen them at all (instead of thinking that you deliberately avoid greeting them)
Mrs S 4 years ago
You're supposed to wear sunglasses when it's sunny....or did I miss something
IttyBitty 4 years ago
I'm either afraid that the sunglasses I'm wearing don't look good on me, or that people will think that I'm trying to look fashionable. But, as I've said, sunglasses are great in certain situations (avoiding some uncomfortable encounters)
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Me Today
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
"Can't we, like, have them all killed ? -No, ma'am. -Why not ? -Magna Carta. -Oh... Right... F**k that thing."
#44
College Parties
Julie C Rose 4 years ago
In fairness, I *am* on drugs because of social anxiety. Thanks, Pharmac!
sylvanticx 4 years ago
ay same (for different causes tho) technically i am on three drugs. those drugs happen to be flonase, albuterol, and lexapro. i like to tell people that i take drugs to see their reactions. then i elaborate.
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kath morgan 4 years ago
At the last family Christmas party, people thought I took up smoking because I was going outside to take breaks 🙃
Argie Smith 4 years ago
I do this. Without fail, my effin MIL will search for me and loudly ask me if I am ok whilst knocking loudly on the loo door! Not bad enough with the SA, she has to make it out that I am having digestive issues!
Matilda Eloise Beumer 4 years ago
I am hanging in the bathroom at the biggest party of the fall. I could stay right here or disappear and nobody'd even notice at all...
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Demongrrrrl 4 years ago
My friend dragged me to parties and I would sit in the corner and fall asleep. Without drinking anything.
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
Then why did he go to parties ? It is just scary, uncomfortable, awkward, exhausting and boring !
#45
Yes
Julie C Rose 4 years ago
My parents actively taught me how to speak up about stuff like this because they knew I was really shy (they don’t know it’s clinical social anxiety) and didn’t want me to be unable to advocate for myself. I’ve gotten money back from a hotel that tried to rip me off.
LazyPanda 4 years ago
Good. Introverted doesn't automatically mean spineless and scared as much as the extrovert-obsessed like to portray it that way.
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Dawson James 4 years ago
Wrong you sit there and eat it and then come home and stare at a wall for an hour thinking that you should have said it was wrong
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Pheebs 4 years ago
Yeah, I’ll put up with a certain level of meh food. I will speak up if they give me something I physically can’t eat after specifically stating it needed to be left off. My online food orders have now started having “I’m allergic to said thing - do not put it in my food” in the comments.
Autumn 4 years ago (edited)
I never want to go tell them they’ve messed up. I feel so guilty….
Yort 4 years ago
I don’t want to trouble them! Plus they might just throw the food away if you send it back.
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Not A Panda 4 years ago
Introversion is not the same as social anxiety. Introverts can speak up just fine, thank you. Introversion is not about being awkward in social situations. It's about needing alone time to recharge. Introverts can have social anxiety of course, but an introvert is just as likely to speak up about an incorrect order as an extravert is!
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
No. I am a depressed socially-anxious introvert, and I never hesitate to tell them.
#46
You Are Not Supposed To Call!
iBlank 4 years ago
mobile phones are the worst! We take them everywhere we go and they can ring at any moment! No wonder we're all losing our minds... constantly dreading the next call
Katherine Boag 4 years ago
You can turn the sound off and not answer. What i hate is all these apps that now let people phone my pc. NO! BAD APP!
Load More Replies... neonn_pieee 4 years ago
My phone is always on silent because I hate when it rings. The rare time it isn't on silent and it rings, I cringe so hard.
AndThenICommented 4 years ago
Being in labour and feeling bad for everyone else that it was taking so long…
Denise Morley 4 years ago
I like my husband’s view on phone calls, the ringing is a request and the answer to the request can be no.
Celtic Pirate Queen 4 years ago
Free yourself! Teach your family & friends that your cell phone is for YOUR convenience, not theirs. No, Jennifer, I didn't feel the need to answer my phone while having explosive diarrhea in a public restroom. DID YOU DIE?
HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago
I have my ringtone as heather chandler from heathers (candy store, where she says "listen up biotch" because she intimidates me enough to make me rather pick up the phone then sit there terrified as she yells at me to listen up
#47
Never Related To Something More
Riley Reynolds 4 years ago
Lies i have no personality i am a meat blob waiting to rid myself of this human form
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MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 4 years ago
I have a personality...of that of a wise grandma,I was told this by my Mom at 15. ಥ‿ಥ
Doris Bennett 4 years ago
Today's schools NEED to teach social skills and home skills like they used to. Kids today know NOTHING about being a social + domestic person. Parents can't teach them because there's no time because they BOTH need TO WORK just TO KEEP some FOOD ON THE TABLE!
Caroline Driver 4 years ago
I was once told, when I was about 18, that I was well adjusted. They didn't realise it was because it was hammered into me since childhood never to speak my mind or have opinions for fear of being shouted down and told not to answer back.
Michigan Guy 4 years ago (edited)
yeah, OP, ya had me til you got to the very end there. it might have been better to say "your personality developed differently"...since it surely did...but it's still your own personality...
Michigan Guy 4 years ago
anyone who's like this....as you've gotten older, has it kind of turned around? when i was young, my friends were all older, some significantly older...but as i've gotten older, it seems most of the folks i fit with are now somewhat younger, or extremely younger. folks my age and i don't quite seem to line up as well as you'd think...but of course, we never did, and they're still them...and i'm still me. that personality thing...
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Ashley Harrold 4 years ago
I was that kid. I have a personality, it's weird, but it's a personality
#48
Me Attending Online Classes
Muff_Fluff 4 years ago
If I talk loud enough, will they be able to hear me?
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Lilly Rose Poppy 4 years ago
Me RIGHT NOW! I'm legit in a zoom who is checking over and over if I'm unmuted and have my camera off.
Honu 4 years ago
I actually have a physical cover on my webcam and the USB conference phone thingie I use glows red when I'm muted. I still check.
Load More Replies... HooowlAtTheMoon 4 years ago (edited)
I HAVE TWO STORIES ABOUT WHY IM LIKE THIS, in social studies we were doing individual reading and so it was very quiet, suddenly the most INAPPROPRIATE music ever started blasting from the zoom call, a girl had thought she was muted and started playing music and then it kept unmuting her when she tried to mute and we kept hearing her music and the teacher kicked her out of the zoom and didn't let her back in. Another time, we were in breakout rooms (btw, worst thing EVER) and a boy in my group was talking to his friend on the phone (thought he was muted but he wasn't and he said "ugh my group sucks, oh my GOD i have logan in my group? (thats meeee :') ) this is gonna suck dude, oh sh*t im unmuted" and as you can probably guess i did not unmute for the whole breakout group :) (i usually very awkwardly tried to get the group to do work but after that nope never again)
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 4 years ago
OMFL. I GET SO NERVOUS WHEN SOMEONE WALKS IN WHILE AM ON A MEETING.
Kiwii Stone 4 years ago
This worked well the other day - I was watching a friend's wedding on Zoom and play fighting with the puppy at the same time. He managed to unmute us. Because I regularly check my mute and camera, I managed to mute us again before interrupting the wedding!
Pagan Child of Fire 4 years ago
Me with my camera off and using an app that doesn't even use the camera thinking everyone can see me
Shine Caramia 4 years ago
My default is muted with camera on. I got some food, turned my camera off, and started eating. EXCEPT THAT I HAD UNMUTED MYSELF AND NOT TURNED OFF THE CAMERA
#49
Yes
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Isn't nice to have signs on the floor reminding "them" to keep 6 feet away!
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Whenever someone tried to sit beside me, I just moved. Some even tried to talk ! TO TALK ! They were upset, but I know I made the right choice. They were probably murderous lunatics, and I am positively sure I know I did not miss out on anything.
Yort 4 years ago
One of the bus routes here is legit known for being the “crazy bus”, to the point where I’ve shared stories about some lunes on the bus and other people KNEW WHO I MEANT.
Load More Replies... MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 4 years ago
I once had to make conversation with a stranger on flight.He kept smiling at me throughout the journey.I was nervous he would talk again.Jeez.
Helen Witten 4 years ago
I have been socially distancing and isolating for decades and I do mean decades :)
#50
I Feel That
#51
Can Anyone Else Relate?
Poultry Geist 4 years ago
Use to care but I realized it’s just a bunch of people trying to talk over each other. Everybody wants to be seen or heard !
Daniel Marsh 4 years ago
Seriously... is there an argument to be made that everyone else in that group is NOT a complete, f*****g asshole? OK, except the one person who just dove right into the group, pushed a hole in between them, started nodding and is in such terror now that they've done that, they can't see the poor guy in the striped shirt.
#52
Ah
#54
Either Too Shy Or Annoying
NsG 4 years ago
Annoying by whose metrics? Are you still overthinking the responses you are getting from the people you are newly interacting with and projecting annoyance that isn't there? Social skills are *skills*. You *learn* them, you *practice* them, and you get better at them. And, yes, you make mistakes along the way. Unless the people you are interacting with are obnoxious and rude bullies (stop interacting with them!) nearly everyone will help you get better because we all went through the learning process. No one was born with perfect social skills.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
Gee. Thanks for the advice. 🥴 I feel better now.
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Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
I noticed that you don't get annoying, you are just too self-conscious so you THINK you are annoying. But you are not.
#55
This
Blarrg 4 years ago
It's a great question that should be asked far more often.
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Laura Osborne 4 years ago
I don't "milk" any situation. It just worries and scares the living crap out of me.
Shelby P 4 years ago
yeah, milk implies you have some control over and enjoy reliving 'x' situation
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Everytime
Candia Lee 4 years ago
I lost my phone in my grocery cart. It had my digital coupons; they said they could us my phone number to access the coupons .. if I knew my pin. More frantic searching for the ringing phone, muffled by its RFT case until the manager found it under the kids' seat. Worst 2-3 minutes of my life lately.
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Oh... I..
#59
I Live In A Dorm There's Literally 20 Rooms In A Single Straight Hallway
Kerstin Fransen 4 years ago
Haha I do this when leaving my appartment. No awkward hellos to the neighbours for me!
#60
I Saw This Earlier And It Couldn't Be More True
Muff_Fluff 4 years ago
There are people that have such high IQ that they don’t have time for stuff like that.
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Anybody Else?
Batgirl Kitty 4 years ago
But then you feel like you are copying them if there is another person!
#62
* Proceeds To Type Out A Post For 45 Minutes And Then Deletes It Right Before Posting *
#63
I Don’t Know If This Has Been Posted Here Before But I Laughed
#64
Tbh
Luther von Wolfen 4 years ago
I actually asked a prof for help once and he was totally useless and then said "Does that help?" and I said "Yes." because I just wanted to leave. Then I figured it out on my own.
Muff_Fluff 4 years ago
When the teacher spends 10 minutes explaining your question, and you asked if you could go to the bathroom
Load More Replies... Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
Because teachers would just insult you, make you feel like s**t, and they would not help you anyway.
#65
That Be Me
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I've actually gotten better about that. Now I say "Im sorry, but excuse me".🇨🇦
Wombatred26 4 years ago
I just say "I'm actually trying to get in, right there, please..." they usually get out of the way or apologize and ask which way they need to move.
Tabitha Osika 4 years ago
I just stare at them. I'm already used to feeling odd and unwanted, now I use it to my advantage.
Susan Egan 4 years ago
Ha, I am usually so focused on leaving the store (I hate shopping) I will inch forward until they notice me. Then say excuse me and get what I'm after.
#67
Hope It Works...
Candia Lee 4 years ago
It can work. I cast my desire out to the universe from a mountain in NM and soon met my life partner (40 yrs so far), who had done something similar. He is definitely"the yin for my yang", the only part of my "prayer" I remember. That and "this or something better".
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#68
Haha Relatable, Now Cry
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
"It is a technically true answer, but it is not precisely the one I was looking for, so no."
#69
This One Hit Me Hard
Anonymousplease 4 years ago
The side that is anxious and freaking out inside
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#70
That Thing Hurted
Muff_Fluff 4 years ago
For all of those people hating on Ryan, I must agree. At school, there is only lunchtime when the teachers allow you to talk, and then you’re trying to eat super quick because of the ridiculously short time they give you to eat. It’s like they don’t want you to have friends.
NsG 4 years ago
Do your teachers not make you do group work? You spend every lesson sitting in total silence except for the teacher's droning voice? Is there no recess? Then I'm sorry your school system really, really sucks.
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MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 4 years ago
I didn't talk to my bestfriend for a week when I was new to school,I just read her name off the cover of her textbook and had to ask for something,she was creeped out how I knew her name.Then somehoe we became friends ,we used to silently sit in class and read books together,and point out the best bits to each other.Hehe,friendship.
#71
Always Embarrassing Myself
NsG 4 years ago
But it is still conveying the same message. It might not be as elegant as practised, but (in this case) it still resembles a cat. The colouring is right. If it looked like a green frog, it's more of a concern, but this is still a cat.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
And you end up feeling like the cat on the right.
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This Hits Real Close To Home
#73
Like Pls Talk To Me, But Please Don’t Talk To Me
Shon 4 years ago (edited)
Makes sense, lgbt has gone from being about sexuality to being a social movement to feel like you belong to a group. Kinda like goths, emos, and all that.
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#75
Ginny Weasly 4 years ago
I had to walk into chapel late once because of a music lesson. By far the most awkward thing ever.
#76
Heck
Kimberly Young 4 years ago
I was both. I went first so that I could turn my anxiety off as soon as possible.
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
My will to get a good grade is always stronger than my social anxiety. Also, here is an advice that always works for me : don't see the other people as judges, see them as enemies.
Stephanie A Mutti 4 years ago
Or see them as people just like you equally nervous [or not] for the same reasons.
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Me Coming Home After Socializing, Thinking About How Awkward And Cringy I Was
#78
I Wouldn’t Want To Bother Anyone
Sue Hazlewood 4 years ago
This one I'm mostly okay with. My meals are so often wrong or late I have learned to stand up on this.
Llama_flower93 4 years ago
See, I have a dairy allergy so, I'm just not gonna eat cheese. Makes you get over this pretty quickly, plus the waiters don't care as long as your nice about it. It happens every day.
Julie C Rose 4 years ago
Like I said above, my parents actively taught me to do it because while they don’t know my social anxiety is bad enough to need meds, they knew I was shy and didn’t want me to be unable to advocate for myself. I don’t always want to do it when I’m overwhelmed, but ultimately I’d rather have the problem fixed.
#80
So True
Riley Reynolds 4 years ago
Online i am a social butterfly irl....well no one ever sees me irl......
#81
We Can’t Be Like This
#82
Ah Yes Self Sabotage
#83
I Should've Stayed Home
Guacamole Boy 4 years ago
This just happened last thursday. I was tempted to go out for the first time since the pandemic started. I did go out, I met at the place with a few people I hadn't seen in a while. Then more and more people started showing up. Next thing I know I don´t know who to speak to, realized I had made a mistake in going out and simply told myself not to do an effort to mingle since we are still in the pandemic and just go home to be safe from the virus but mainly to be safe of awkwardly trying to mingle with people.
#84
Accurate
Destiney Haddox 4 years ago
Meditation helps me. When nothing else works and I can't seem to calm down.
#85
What's It Gonna Be Today Folks
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
The panic attack looks bigger and had bigger fists. Choose the depression.
Jennifer Crompton 4 years ago
When I feel like if I stay home, I'll just be depressed, I go somewhere that it's normal to be quiet and alone, like a walk in a park, a bookstore, or a library. That way, I get out of the house., get some sunshine, and do some people watching, but don't really have to Interact with anyone
#86
Me Too Man, Me Too
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
No, it is more like "Is this a mean-spirited humiliating set-up for an oncoming prank?"
Candia Lee 4 years ago
It's sad that you have met so many mean people. I like to think they feel so bad about themselves that they have to pick on somebody else in order to feel better about themselves.
Load More Replies... Llama_flower93 4 years ago
In college I was nice to everyone and by the end of the year the three most awkward guys all asked me out. Which is sad because I just treated them like human beings for a minute, and they thought that meant I was interested.
Danielle Wigger 4 years ago
yea, sometimes a boy is really nice to me and I'm like "does this person like me or are they just the most friendly person in the world?"
Aroace tiger (any pronouns) 4 years ago
When someone was understanding towards a mistake I made in music and i still sometimes wonder if he has a crush on me
#87
Fair
Sheanna Caban 4 years ago
Skeletor seems to be doing just fine. He's got wine, the remote, a snuggy and a cat! He's golden.
#88
Daniel (ShadowDrakken) 4 years ago (edited)
Teladoc has been so great for this. Can get appointments the same week, often even the same day!
#90
Can’t I Just Take A Magic Healing Pill
Julie C Rose 4 years ago
You can build up to it. Before Jacinda gave me a lockdown for my birthday (she also covid-blocked Valentines Day lol), I was volunteering to plant trees every couple of weeks. You’re mostly working on your own but you have a small amount of interaction with people, and the more times you go, the more familiar the others get. Same with a lot of types of volunteering, probably. Also, therapists and good online resources teach you how to address the underlying thought processes. New Zealand has been advertising a good free resource at the moment: https://www.justathought.co.nz/
Connie Martin 4 years ago
Yes. Volunteering is the only way I'm comfortable socializing. I love to work with other people and talk as we go, just don't make me sit with a bunch of people and make small talk.
Load More Replies... NsG 4 years ago
It's only a stupid thing to say because it's incomplete. It's too simplified. And so completely unhelpful. It is however, accurate. There is no magic pill to cure social anxiety. Therapy is a form of social interaction. What is your suggested cure? What form does your ideal fix take?
Load More Replies... #91
Thats Me
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago (edited)
Well... Teachers don't help, and they humiliate in front of everyone if you admit you need some, so...
#93
Dammit, Scroll Of Truth
NsG 4 years ago (edited)
That doesn't mean leaping five kilometers out of your comfort zone on the first attempt. Five cm is a good start though. The mistake a lot of people make when they're told to leave their comfort zone is like thinking "Couch to 5k" is literal - you get off your couch and you run 5km. No. It's a gradual process, and yes, step one is getting off the couch, and that's often the hardest part, but you can always sit back down again and do it again tomorrow. And if it takes you a week to get to step two (walk for a minute) and another week to get to step three (walk for a minute, jog for a minute), so be it. The couch is still there, but at the risk of mangling the metaphor, eventually it's a 5km couch you can jog around.
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
And someday you find out that going out of your comfort zone was just a scary, humiliating, exhausting, boring, painful experience that did not give you any reward, so you stop trying.
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Why Am I Like This
I I 4 years ago (edited)
tried it , got a lot of STFU DUDE IM TRYING TO PLAY ,............ so you ware a headset with a mic and you scream at me too STFU ?? seems smart , pay £100 for a headset to TALK AND LISTEN to others just to scream STFU DUDE............
NsG 4 years ago
That might be the kind of game. I deeply dislike multiplayer games because - look, you know the scene in Endgame where Korg is playing online and some twelve year old twerp starts mouthing off and Korg threatens him and he goes crying to his mum? That was an actual thing. An absolute sh1t-ton of abuse was being hurled by preteens devoid of consequences and spawned so. many. memes in their day. And some games are still like that. I'm sorry.
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This Is Too Real
NsG 4 years ago
You've mislabelled them as "friends" if you think those are the only two choices for the people you hang out with. Where's the hidden third button?
Henry Cheves 4 years ago
The third button is "admit your friends are fake."
Load More Replies... #96
Yes
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
Hey, you should keep your shitty advice and leave me alone, you wanker.
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Kenny Kulbiski 4 years ago
Me obsessing about something that happened fifty years ago. The fact that all the other people involved have been dead for quite some time makes absolutely no difference.
Dawson James 4 years ago
It's funny I keep seeing comments from extroverts who have literally no idea why were making such a big deal out of doing literally anything
Becklass 4 years ago (edited)
The most anxiously provoking thing is where you’re walking outside and a stranger appears and walks at the exact some pace next to you. It should be a legal requirement for them to pass you or slow down!. I never seem to get it right. When I slow down they do and same with walking faster. I’ve been known to go completely the wrong way I should be going in, just to get away!.
Emmydearest 4 years ago
What should someone do if they happen to have social anxiety? What would you recommend? Asking for a friend... ...who am I kidding? i have no friends 😄
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
You can always know you aren't alone. I wonder how many of us are hiding away round the place. I mean, I'd say we should start a club but the thought of it is too much, and honestly a club for introverts sounds like such an oxymoron! But we have places like here to put our feelings and hear the stories of others, it makes me feel more normal 😅 take it one day at a time, I don't want to push any toxic positivity at you just say that I think it's a great start to reach out like you did with your comment :) ❤
Load More Replies... Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I can relate to most of these, but at least some of them had me outright laughing. I'm so glad I can do that. I've come a long way baby!" I have Biploar 2 disorder and the social situation with covid have been hell on a lot of us. We're not to have much of any social interaction for months. Grocery store, pharmacy, pet supplies and the doctor. Great. And the one thing that is always impressed upon us is not to self-isolate. Terrific. Right now I am what they call "rapid cycling". Hypomanic to severely depressed to feeling good. I never know who I'm going to be on any given day or days. im just thankful for the good days. Today is a good day.😊
Steve Barnett 4 years ago
Hi Miss Frankfurter. Did you copy and paste a comment that I haven't made yet?! You've summed up what a lot of us are thinking. Well done and spot on.
Load More Replies... Steve Barnett 4 years ago (edited)
I get the 'other people are worse off than you!' and 'We're all in the same boat!' and 'cheer up, what's the worst that can happen!'. To everyone and anyone that's ever said these things to me, go f uck yourself.
Susie Elle 4 years ago
I find 'what's the worst that could happen' to be a very valid question whenever I feel anxious about something. More often than not the answer is 'I could make an ass out of myself', and everyone's constantly making an ass out of themselves, so it turns out it's not that bad.
Load More Replies... Brendan 4 years ago (edited)
*Waiting for my turn at the barbers*, screaming internally, "Please not the chatty barber!" Chatty barber: "Hey buddy, you up next?" FFS!
Gabrielle 4 years ago
Grew my hair long, stopped dyeing my greys (because of the pandemic) and now do my own trims at home. I'm saving a bundle. But the biggest perk is not ever having to walk into a salon and make small talk with a hair stylist ever again in my entire life. I think about this almost every day. And think why the hell didn't I do this sooner? I'm a woman, but I have never ever felt comfortable or pampered going to the salon. It's a social anxiety nightmare.
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D Peterson 4 years ago
I didn't know what my problem was until I read this post. I have social anxiety. I swear as I read each one, I was going, "Yep, that's me. I feel like that when the phone rings or someone talks to me or someone doesn't talk to me." I'm 68 years old & I finely have a name for how I feel every moment of every day. Thank you!
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I have read here how many people are so anxious just to ask for help. God willing, soon we will be able to go to an office. They will understand your anxiety. There were times too many people in the waiting room. I decided to wait by myself in the hall. Understanding. They came to get me when it's time to go in. If you're so anxious all you can do is sit there & not talk, thats ok too. It tells them a lot with just that. If you keep coming back you'll eventually be comfortable. I ended up in the hospital when I finally "broke". I was terrified to go there. Nothing to be scared of. They were so kind & understanding, willing to listen & didnt tell me what to do to get better. They asked questions that helped me think & to some degree i played a part in healing myself. The patients, we give each other room to be. We also help each other. As G.K. Chesterton said, "We're all in the same boat in a stormy sea, & we owe each other a terrible loyalty". We're so loyal. Take comfort in that.
Kenny Kulbiski 4 years ago
Me obsessing about something that happened fifty years ago. The fact that all the other people involved have been dead for quite some time makes absolutely no difference.
Dawson James 4 years ago
It's funny I keep seeing comments from extroverts who have literally no idea why were making such a big deal out of doing literally anything
Becklass 4 years ago (edited)
The most anxiously provoking thing is where you’re walking outside and a stranger appears and walks at the exact some pace next to you. It should be a legal requirement for them to pass you or slow down!. I never seem to get it right. When I slow down they do and same with walking faster. I’ve been known to go completely the wrong way I should be going in, just to get away!.
Emmydearest 4 years ago
What should someone do if they happen to have social anxiety? What would you recommend? Asking for a friend... ...who am I kidding? i have no friends 😄
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
You can always know you aren't alone. I wonder how many of us are hiding away round the place. I mean, I'd say we should start a club but the thought of it is too much, and honestly a club for introverts sounds like such an oxymoron! But we have places like here to put our feelings and hear the stories of others, it makes me feel more normal 😅 take it one day at a time, I don't want to push any toxic positivity at you just say that I think it's a great start to reach out like you did with your comment :) ❤
Load More Replies... Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I can relate to most of these, but at least some of them had me outright laughing. I'm so glad I can do that. I've come a long way baby!" I have Biploar 2 disorder and the social situation with covid have been hell on a lot of us. We're not to have much of any social interaction for months. Grocery store, pharmacy, pet supplies and the doctor. Great. And the one thing that is always impressed upon us is not to self-isolate. Terrific. Right now I am what they call "rapid cycling". Hypomanic to severely depressed to feeling good. I never know who I'm going to be on any given day or days. im just thankful for the good days. Today is a good day.😊
Steve Barnett 4 years ago
Hi Miss Frankfurter. Did you copy and paste a comment that I haven't made yet?! You've summed up what a lot of us are thinking. Well done and spot on.
Load More Replies... Steve Barnett 4 years ago (edited)
I get the 'other people are worse off than you!' and 'We're all in the same boat!' and 'cheer up, what's the worst that can happen!'. To everyone and anyone that's ever said these things to me, go f uck yourself.
Susie Elle 4 years ago
I find 'what's the worst that could happen' to be a very valid question whenever I feel anxious about something. More often than not the answer is 'I could make an ass out of myself', and everyone's constantly making an ass out of themselves, so it turns out it's not that bad.
Load More Replies... Brendan 4 years ago (edited)
*Waiting for my turn at the barbers*, screaming internally, "Please not the chatty barber!" Chatty barber: "Hey buddy, you up next?" FFS!
Gabrielle 4 years ago
Grew my hair long, stopped dyeing my greys (because of the pandemic) and now do my own trims at home. I'm saving a bundle. But the biggest perk is not ever having to walk into a salon and make small talk with a hair stylist ever again in my entire life. I think about this almost every day. And think why the hell didn't I do this sooner? I'm a woman, but I have never ever felt comfortable or pampered going to the salon. It's a social anxiety nightmare.
Load More Replies... D Peterson 4 years ago
I didn't know what my problem was until I read this post. I have social anxiety. I swear as I read each one, I was going, "Yep, that's me. I feel like that when the phone rings or someone talks to me or someone doesn't talk to me." I'm 68 years old & I finely have a name for how I feel every moment of every day. Thank you!
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I have read here how many people are so anxious just to ask for help. God willing, soon we will be able to go to an office. They will understand your anxiety. There were times too many people in the waiting room. I decided to wait by myself in the hall. Understanding. They came to get me when it's time to go in. If you're so anxious all you can do is sit there & not talk, thats ok too. It tells them a lot with just that. If you keep coming back you'll eventually be comfortable. I ended up in the hospital when I finally "broke". I was terrified to go there. Nothing to be scared of. They were so kind & understanding, willing to listen & didnt tell me what to do to get better. They asked questions that helped me think & to some degree i played a part in healing myself. The patients, we give each other room to be. We also help each other. As G.K. Chesterton said, "We're all in the same boat in a stormy sea, & we owe each other a terrible loyalty". We're so loyal. Take comfort in that.
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