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First dates are notoriously tricky. Especially if you have only spent time with the person in a friend group capacity or haven't met them in real life at all.
No wonder why coffee shops are such popular destinations — there's a good chance the two of you will be unable to hit it off and you'll need a quick and easy exit.
So we at Bored Panda decided to take a look at what turns people off the most and found two Reddit threads (one started by the user HomeTattoo and another by Kiwicarebear) that has folks sharing their first-date dealbreakers.
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#1
Went on a date with a guy yesterday who was a christian (I'm an atheist, but that's fine) and went on an unprompted monologue about how homosexuality is not God's will (not fine). I am a man, we were both men, it was a gay date. It was very confusing.
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#2
I wore heels on a blind date. The guy looked me up and down, then said "You know it's rude to wear heels on a blind date right?" I said "I'm sorry I didn't premeditate the fragility of your ego." He back-peddled and begged me to stay for the meal. I had half a drink and had to walk out. When someone shows you their true colours, why waste anyone's time after that?
#3
If they expect sex.
Fun story, I went on the WORST date a while ago. Guy seemed nice enough when we first met, but during the first date, I realized he was a total sleaze and maybe crazy? He asked me out of the blue if I was on birth control. When I said yes, he said, "sweet, that means I don't have to wear a condom."
I was so taken aback. Who says stuff like that? At that point, I knew I'd never touch him - not when a ten and a half foot pole - but I felt weirdly compelled to explain to him how stupid that was. I asked what he'd do if he knocked me up. "Oh, it's no big deal. You'll just get it taken care of, that's all." He didn't understand that abortions aren't cheap, easy to get, or fun. When I expressed that, he rolled his eyes and said condoms *weren't fair to him* and that *having to wear a condom is a deal-breaker.*
I left that restaurant so fast I must've made his head spin. He tried to backtrack, said "maybe I can make an exception for you!" I declined and told him I wasn't interested. Then he tried to call me up nine months later to hang out. Because "no girl in all of DC wants to go on a date and it's so frustrating." Uh... maybe because you're gross and awful, dude? Also, this guy was 30. I'd expect this b******t from a teenager. Not a 30-year-old.
#4
If they don’t like animals. I’ve always had dogs (have two right now) and went on a date once where he said he hated animals. I left shortly after.
#5
Well, one guy showed up to the wrong lunch location and made ME drive to meet him (I was working, he was not) - strike 1. I arrive and he gets out of his car wearing sweats (he made me wait over 2 hours while he got ready - strike 9). Is 7 inches shorter than he said he was (which isn’t a problem unless you LIE about it - strike 13). And then... he was missing some critical burger eating teeth (that’s not even a strike - at this point I was in for the entertainment value this would add). Then he got into a loud, long anti government rant that only paused when I realized my car was being broken into. I run outside and defend my car expecting my date to be gallantly by my side. He was not - he just sat in the booth content to let me fight off someone rummaging through my car. Strikes 1000-39276651.
Oh. And he cried twice.
And watching him eat a burger wasn’t even close to being as entertaining as I wanted it to be.
LizzieBoredom 2 years ago
Didn't I see him on January 6th bear spraying a CapitolBuilding Police Officer?
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🇳🇬 Asi Bassey 🇳🇬 2 years ago
If you met him on a dating app, you need to ask for a refund of your subscription money.
Brightly 2 years ago
Bahahahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣 You win the internet tonight! Best movie reference ever!!
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ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago (edited)
That he/she/they agreed to drive to the not-agreed-upon location even though it was more of a hassle for them, well, that kinda reads as a poor choice from the get-go.
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
How many strikes is it not being able to count strikes properly? ;) In all seriousness not sure what the guy was thinking with any of that. The only thing I don't (entirely) count against him is the missing teeth. But even that is dependant on why and when. As in why is he missing those teeth (car accident -v- meth addiction) and when because you'd expect to have false teeth unless he'd lost them very recently.
Courtney Christelle 2 years ago
I won’t entertain a date with a guy if he shows up looking vastly different than how he depicted. If you’re going to lie to me on a first date about something I can clearly see, then what else are you going to lie about that I can’t see.
Snazzy Smurf 2 years ago (edited)
Holy cow the only things that were missing from this story were her being stiffed with the check and her car being put on blocks. I will take my worse date so far, double it and it was still better than this.
Tommy DePaul 4 months ago
Exactly what information are you asking of potential dates before agreeing to meet with them?
Dawnieangel76 2 years ago
Okay, I gotta give a pass on the teeth. I'm missing teeth because my mother's deceased second husband like to use me as a punching bag & I've lost teeth from being broken under the gum line and dentistry is cartoonishly expensive, even with good insurance.
Blair Doak 2 years ago
And a gentleman like myself finds it hard to get a date, must be Wisconsin.
Bella Sennei 2 years ago
This is why I never went on blind dates (or used Tinder, etc.). Big fat N O P E.
Corvus 2 years ago
It's common courtesy. Like helping a stranger on the street get up after a nasty fall.
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#6
When they’re nice to you but not to the waiter.
Because one day, you’ll be in the waiter’s position.
ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago
Being nice to me and not others just tells me they’re not nice and they want something from me. It’s likely they’re manipulative and definitely transactional. Ironically, not towards the people with which they’re having overt transactions.
#7
From personal experience, casually dropping that the Earth is only a few thousand years old and rock stars get famous by making a deal with Satan. The worst part is the moment when you have to stop laughing because you realize it wasn't a silly joke.
#8
Lying. If someone is significantly different from anything they have led me to believe prior to the first date I’m immediately not interested. I don’t really care that much about their weight, height, political leanings, religion, etc, but lie to me first thing and we’ve got nothing else to talk about.
#9
If it’s a one way conversation, me asking them questions and taking interest in their life and them asking none or minimal questions about me.
#10
Being constantly on their phone.
Alexia 2 years ago
I had such a date. The guy barely looked at me, he was so absorbed by his phone, his messages, his social media. He even posted about the restaurant we were at. And then somebody called him and they talked for like, 20 minutes (nothing urgent, just trifles). At some point I got up and told him I'd go to the bathroom, and he just waived his hand at me: "yeah, no problem". Got my purse, went to the bartender, paid my coffee and left in a taxi. Texted him from the taxi :))) He was genuinely surprised: "Why did you leave? Are you upset?"
#12
If in the midst of conversation you have to brag about how much your parents make or how they gave your brother an Audi, I’m done.
I’m not saying coming from a rich family is bad, but if you feel a need to bring it up on the first date, I’m going to assume you have nothing better to bring to the table.
ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago
Wealth as personality. Sadly, it meets so many people’s approval as a fundamental characteristic.
#13
Talking non-stop about wanting a "traditional" family where mom doesn't work. Like sure, but that's not me so move on.
Or bringing up being an alpha male. Just no.
#14
Had someone on a dating app using 20 year old pics, lying about her age to an extreme extent, she said she was 25, i was 19 and she asked if i minded dating older women. I didnt mind at all but she showed up and the first thing i thought of was "wow she takes really good pics" but I decided since i was already there might as well make the best of it. I found out she was 49 and had a son older than me, because he ended up working at the bowling alley we went to, I thought she seemed a little uncomfortable when we arrived to the bowling alley but shrugged it off to her being nervous about an internet date. Until i went to go get some food and her son who WORKED AT THAT BOWLING ALLEY pulled me to the side to ask what I was doing with his mom, he told me she was 49 and married, and then the best part, he was 6 months older than me.
#15
Dating in my teens and early 20's I was naive and insecure. So loved it when a guy said I was so much better than his last girlfriend who was a b***h. Dating again in my 50's (being wiser and secure with myself) my response to the ex-b***h story is, "What the hell did you do to her???"
#16
Bad hygiene. Ended up nicknaming him halitosis boy.. Had a guy turn up to a date once like he hadn't showered in months. He smelled so bad I had to lean back in my chair to get away from the smell. So gross. He was the worst but lots of guys make no effort to look or dress nice on a date too. Always makes me think... This is as good as it gets so that's a nope!
RandomEpiBioPerson 2 years ago
There are definitely some professions that give lingering smells that are extremely hard or impossible to wash off, which makes it hard for those individuals to date outside of their profession, but other than that, there isn't a good excuse, imo. I'm those cases, is still say to wash, but it doesn't always work and that should be information the person provides ahead of time.
#17
Being married.
Bringing your friend to the date because you were nervous.
Bragging about your knife collection at home.
Never knew these things would come up in the first dates I’ve been on, but here we are.
#18
When he brings up his idealistic woman physically and I match none of those. For example, “All girls should have straight hair”.
#19
Being racist and sexist without realizing it and then kinda shaming you for what you are.
I didn't call her back.
#20
I went on a date with a woman I'd been talking with for a couple of weeks. We lived in different towns, decided to meet up in a pub in her town. I lasted less than a pint. All she did was run men down, say how useless we are, all after one thing, etc. She seemed genuinely surprised when I stood up and said goodbye and walked out.
#21
Back before I met my bf, I went on a tinder date with a guy who was new to where I lived at the time. During conversation I mentioned offhand that there were certain places you didn’t want to walk after dark because a lot of people got mugged in those areas. This guy started mansplaning to me how it would be fine to walk there after dark, you just need to be confident, he’s a world traveler, nobody has ever bothered him etc. I was like, no dude trust me it isn’t safe, but he just kept talking over me. He seemed to view it as a challenge. He was arrogant in general but this was what made me make an excuse and leave the date early. Like ok dude, if you’re so tough then feel free to go get mugged
#23
Being inconsiderate...went on a date recently where the guy speed walked to the cafe exit and let the door close behind him as I was just getting to the door myself. I purposely slowed down to see his reaction and there wasn't even a backwards glance or motion to re-open the door or check I was okay (to account for why I wasn't immediately behind him). I hold the door for people all the time so I don't see this as a gender thing. Also not apologising when you made a mistake in an effort to seem infallible or self assured or whatever. TLDR: Lack of consideration and lack of humility.
#24
I had a guy choke me during a bit of making out on the first date. I said I wasn't into that in public, definitely not with someone I'd just met and not while a bit buzzed. He proceeded to try/actually choke me during two follow up kisses (I was a bit drunk, if I was sober I would have ended it sooner) and then sulked and said it was just a joke when I said I was paying my half of the bill and going home alone. So... Major deal breaker, don't choke someone you don't know.
#25
She brings her 3 kids that she failed to tell me about.
#26
Being late. I’m not talking a few minutes late, I’m talking a half hour late or anything later than that.
#27
No sense of humor or one that doesn't mesh well with mine.
Mrs Irish Mom 2 years ago
Had one date like this and im always laughing and joking, thought he was just nervous on 1st date so i went on 2nd date and he was giving out because i was laughing too much at the comedy club we were at 🤦♀️
#30
He only had a couple of lawn chairs as furniture in his living room because he’d just moved to this apartment. Later he explained that he didn’t have furniture because he had actually just got out of the State Penn. Before I noped out of there, he explained he’d just talked to his mama about me, and knew I’d be a “real special, understanding lady.” Turns out I’m not!
Super Beast 2 years ago
I dont understand why people are so hard on ex-cons - although talking to mama about you before the first date and having expectations would be weird for anyone
#31
I had one date and the guy spent the whole time insulting me. Didn’t like my long nails, thought I looked to high maintenance, wanted someone “more country”, didn’t think I’d be any fun. This was during one drink, he asked me if I’d like another, I said sure why not. He looked shocked and said “I’ve never got past the first drink on a first date before”. Never saw him again.
Teresa Burress 2 years ago
Lol I had almost the same date. I got the impression he was looking for a petite woman not 145 pounds and 5'6. Then he said I watch my weight and ordered a salad, I'm like F this guy, I ordered a bacon cheeseburger FF and a beer. I told the waitress to bring two checks, he paid for mine and seemed pissed off about it. I hate to say it but I laughed all the way home
#32
Really dirty finger nails. Like there's no chance I'm ever going to want you to touch me with that amount of visible bacteria on display.
#33
When they try to dominate the conversation and make everything about themselves while cutting you off.
General Anaesthesia 2 years ago
Well, enough talk about me, let's talk about you. What do you like the most about me?
#34
Someone once leaned over and took a sip of my drink through the straw without asking. …like what? I’ve known you for 20 minutes!
#35
If we don't hit it off as friends. I haven't been in the dating world for a long time and everyone's a bit nervous on a first date. But if we couldn't just talk about movies and video games and goofy s**t together, just have a relaxing time chatting without everything feeling like a weird competition or pageant, I knew it wasn't gonna work.
Also, people who get *way* too pissed off over disagreements in media taste. If casual disagreements -- not core values disagreements, just *casual* disagreements about gameplay preferences or special effects quality or how good the writing in a novel is -- make the other person red-faced angry, I'm moving in the other direction.
#36
When the guy offers to pay for something and then loses his s**t when I want to pay myself. If he can't even respect me trying to be nice then nope.
#37
If they ask me about my salary. Too soon, and not relevant.
ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago
I’ve a practically pathological fear of people asking me about money. Growing up as a white, towhead European/American in rural hill stations & off-the-path villages in southern India in the 1970’s, I was naive & often taken advantage of by other kids, older kids, even adults. Many friendships ended with me as a little kid broken-hearted, because they only hung out with me for what I had or could offer/buy. At my paternal ancestral home, my family was known so that compounded it. By college, not hai my to work or have loans made me a target & I had to be vigilant. Many short term relationships & friendships ended because of a false perception that I was wealthy. Relatively speaking, I’m not. Never have been. I have a real hang up when my personal value is determined by my financial worth and the paranoia has carried over to adulthood. Clearly I can afford the date. That doesn’t mean I can afford to pay your rent.
#39
My mom went on a date like a week ago and he wouldn’t stop talking about how “Hillary should be locked up”. I guess he brought it up several times even after she said to stop. That was her dealbreaker, and he didn’t like or understand it.
ShaZam Beaubien 2 years ago
I would think it would be extremely difficult dating someone with opposite political beliefs.
#40
When they ask about your relationship with Jesus....
Pink Aesthetic 2 years ago
Fr like, I don't ask what your relationship with santa or tooth fairy is, either!
#41
Is anyone else put off if they're too, I dunno, clean? I don't mean dirt, I mean like, their performance. I want a person to occasionally say something stupid, or ramble nervously, trip over their words, drop something, spill a drink, misinterpret a facial cue/hand gesture. If someone doesn't make a few mistakes I start to wonder what the hell their game is.
David A Paterson 2 years ago
Good one. People who are all persona. Their game can be that they're an alcoholic and are doing their best to hide it.
#42
Being dumb. Just can't spend time with that. Had to stop seeing a girl after a few because she simply wasn't intelligent. Real nice girl, too. Too bad.
#43
Gross table manners, smacking their lips, chewing with their mouth open, etc.
I once never saw a guy again because every time he took a bite he moaned a bit because the food was so good. It was...disconcerting. I don't think he knew he was doing it.
#44
I'm an American living in a third world country. So a big deal breaker for me is a girl saying how much she hates the country and wants to live in America. I'm not your meal ticket.
Tiramisu 2 years ago
I feel like I need to say this before someone makes the joke - NO THE USA IS NOT A THIRD WORLD COUNTRY. It undoubtedly has way too many problems, but the quality of life and facilities available to the majority of its residents are way beyond that of a third world country.
#45
When they start confessing their love to you.
#46
General hatefulness.
ShaZam Beaubien 2 years ago
I don't want to date someone who is hateful at the world. Why would I think he wouldn't turn that emotion on me?
#47
Not appearing as shown on tinder. I've had several dates where either creative photography or just ancient pics of oneself were used. I mean once I see you in person, you can't hide that your 50lbs heavier than advertised.
#48
Trauma dumping.
David A Paterson 2 years ago
Had one where I was trauma dumping (had had a seriously rough time since daughter died) and she out-traumaed me (finding a dead man on her doorstep etc.)
#49
If she greets me at their door wearing a furry outfit. I'm not against people being furries, I just don't want to go down that path, yet if ever.
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago (edited)
I feel this one is kinda BS-y. You KNOW someone is a furry before you meet them. Most furries don’t hide being a furry and will have photos on their bios of them in their partial suits, or fullsuits, or even just the kemonomimi (ears and a tail). I spent a while in the fandom and most furries don’t hide being a furry so much that you’d have no idea before you met them IRL. Plus, none of them would wear a suit on a first date with a non-furry.
#50
Expecting the me (the guy) to pay for her. I mean I will but if you are expecting me as if it is my job then f**k you.
Mrs Irish Mom 2 years ago
Had a friend that dated guys and if they paid for food and all the drinks she would go on a 2nd date but if they said, do you wanna get 1 round in on 2nd date she was out, she wouldnt even buy 1 round
#51
Bad breath.
David A Paterson 2 years ago
I find that strong perfume is worse. Makes my throat and nose swell up. Have to get out of there before I die of suffocation.
#52
Never letting me have the chance to talk. Like, give the other person some time to breathe or something.
#53
Way too much eye contact. Now don't get me wrong, eye contact is great. It shows you are engaging and at least seem interested in what the other person has to say. I went on a date where the guy just straight up stared at me the entire time. It made me so uncomfortable especially since I knew he was literally watching everything I was doing. He never turned away even though I felt myself trying to look away from him constantly. It was just too much. At the same time, it just made him feel more creepy the longer I was with him.
Super Beast 2 years ago
some people have problem keeping eye contact and they are usually put down for it, so they try really hard to keep it, ending up being called 'creepy'.
#54
If they turn into a girls gone wild chick after a couple drinks. Thank you but no thank you ma’am.
#55
Start every sentence with "my mom always says" Go on and on about his mother and how nice she is. If he does that, she's NOT NICE AT ALL.
#56
* Exes - especially if there seem to be too many of them * Bragging or moaning about sex life * Any evidence of a condescending attitude or a tone which suggests I'm being made fun of. This is not the same as flirting or simple teasing * Any kind of detectable annoyance or irritation with what I'm saying I once ghosted after a first date due to a combination of the above. These to me are the equivalent of a "serious" fault on a British driving test. You have failed immediately and there is no going back, but you complete the rest of the test as a formality and don't find out until the end.
#57
Had a first date where they told me the wrong coffee shop to meet up in. The right one was across town, and he didn't drive so I had to wait for him to get there. Decided to take a walk in the park, halfway across town. I had to drive. Not a big deal having the lady drive, but this wasn't a walkable area that my date lived in. It's, at best, a "big town" kind of "rural city" Then he kissed me. Not just once, not just quick, but like forcibly make-out. I ended up with an excuse to leave. Then he'd text me, asking me to come over and drink (I was under the legal drinking age) and I knew there was no way in hell I'd do that after the whole make-out thing. So I told him to get lost and he called me names. Stand up guy /s ETA: He also lied about his height, and was a good half a foot shorter than me. I have a complex about feeling like a giant, and I told him about that but he stuck with the lie that he was right around 6'...
Teresa Burress 2 years ago
Yew gross, what is with men forcing themselves on women. Dude keep it in your pants. I might be desperate at times but I'd like to keep my self respect why can't he do the same. And don't ask me to jump through hoops for you, have some respect
#59
I’m awful but a bad laugh will throw me in the wrong direction.
#60
When, in the first 5 minutes, someone has to revert to ‘so hows the weather’.
What do you think ?
Pittsburgh rare 2 years ago (edited)
If during the first date (or at any point, actually), l have to sit through a 90 minutes talk about the ex, l'm shown where the ex does yoga (and how *I* should do yoga), and where her family's business is. Or if l'm sent unsolicited photos of...the ex. I have a strong problem with exes. I wonder why 🙄
Alexandra 2 years ago
This whole dating thing sounds terribly complicated. I met my husband almost 35 years ago when we were both playing waterpolo (for different teams). Do people still meet other people in the gym, at work or anywhere else other than a dating app?
Debbie 2 years ago
I would like to know as well. I'm single. I have a dating app but I don't really want it, but how else am I going to meet new people? Basically, I want to meet new people first, not think about them as potential partners straight away.
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Debbie 2 years ago
I was chatting with a guy once, and there happened to be a movie shown in a park nearby, I was planning on going there, and asked him to come along. I said I know it's not the perfect first date, but I am going anyways and you can join if you like? He says yes, shows up, I brought chairs. We sit there, and the movie is a bit of an experimental movie, I wasn't really interested. He wasn't either. So he starts asking me questions, talking to me AT NORMAL VOLUME, while I do try to get a bit into the movie. After 15 minutes and several looks from people, I said: Ok let's go grab a drink at the square a bit further in the town. He says ok. We leave, and he says: but I haven't brought any money, I didn't think I'd need it. I said, that is ok, I'll pay. We sit down for a drink, talk a bit more, and he says his dad paid his subscription on tinder. I am 43, he probably was something around that age as well. I felt like I was his mother, like I had so much more life/social experience than him
Debbie 2 years ago
I felt he should find a sweet naieve woman who also doesn't have a social clue to start their journey together... (oh and he came by car, so must have brought at least his drivers license, so how can he not have a form of payment like a card with him?!) Tldr: - Don't show up to a date without money (eventhough the activity is free!) - If you agree to a movie, DON"T TALK THROUGH IT (then don't agree to go to the movie!)
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Sonja 2 years ago
Not if you're a good listener and able to poke people the right way to talk about themselves, then you're golden
Load More Replies... Debbie 2 years ago
Two dates were complaining about their exes, they were single after a long relationship with kids, both single for about 5 - 6 months. (No wasn't dating them at the same time). And honestly, I understood their exes viewpoint. It weren't major things, they weren't toxic or anything, but I could so very well imagine this was my ex talking this way about me. And me seeing that in all those cases, it was a lack of good communication which caused the annoyances. When I realized I symphatized with their exes more then with them I also knew it was not going to work out.
Mad McQueen 2 years ago
Blind date asked what I liked as men's outfits (late 80s) said "well good fitting pant/jeans, boots are cool, etc". This was all during random conversations. Next few calls he's like I got some Levi's. Then next call Levi's 501s. Next call Levi's 501s buttonflys. Uhhh?? Then date. He picks me up at my house. We go to mall to walk an get to know each other. He's still pointing out the jeans. Wants to go shoe shopping for boots. I figure for him. No. Ladies shoe store. Not boots. Strappy heels. For me. He puts so many diff shoes on me. Makes me walk around. First few were ok. We having fun. Then gets more aggressive putting shoes on my feet and shooing the sales person off. Finally I'm like I need to take a break. Wearing candies slip on heels and I go out in front of the store for a break. He didn't follow. But came out two min later and hands me a shoe box. He bought me shoes. I'm like no this is too much (see reply of Cont. )
Mad McQueen 2 years ago
No he wants me to take the shoes. Ok fine I take them. We walk a little longer. I'm getting tired. He only now wants to sit somewhere and takes the shoebox and plays with the shoes inside. Ok I'm sure these fetishes weren't as open now as they were then an I'm like I gotta get home. So we go to the car and he opens my door and as I get I. He hands me the shoe box but one of my shoes slips off. He's diving to the ground to get my shoe and plays with it slowly putting it on an off my foot. I'm kinda laughing but getting really freaked as I want to go home. So we finally get my shoe on an back to my house. He's still talking by about the damn jeans too by the way. And goes in for the kid. I had to literally fake an asthma attack to get out of the car an deflect the kiss. Also didn't look like he said he did and was way shorter too like to my shoulders so when I wore my heels I figured I'd be his height. I got out an (Cont)
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bElLa sTairZz 2 years ago
another one is if they rant on how much they hate their ex, its either a sign that their not over them, or that they will treat you like that when you break up or fight
Tiny Dancer 2 years ago
Luckily, I haven't had a lot of first dates to compare, but my most memorable had to be a New Year's Eve date at a local drag club many moons ago. I'm bi and this was a rare blind date with another woman. We picked the venue together, no surprise there, conversation flowed, the show was terrific, we were cool until midnight when all heck broke loose. Seems she was terrified of balloons. Like running away from the hundreds of balloons falling from the ceiling, literally screaming when they touched her. If it hadn't been my darn date it would have been hilarious to watch, I'm sure. She left in tears and we never spoke again. Why go out on New Year's Eve if you're scared of balloons?! Madness.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
had a similar thing with a bird phobic. I've learnt to ask people whether they have phobias and dietary restrictions first.
Load More Replies... Super Beast 2 years ago (edited)
wow - this list is miserably mistitled. most of these are people judging people. you can ignore most of these.
Rostit . 2 years ago
that is what dating is. judging if you are compatible with someone.
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Littlemiss 2 years ago
First date, chose to pick the same drink as me and then kept moaning about not liking it as if forced. Starting asking about my breeding capabilities and we're off! He asked for a second date and had the massive cahoonas to claim I wasn't kind nor decent enough for him and when I declined. He was looking for a ticket to stay in the country and a brood mare.
Dan St John 2 years ago
When I read these stories, I am always thankful for not having to do this stuff. Happily married for 40 years and counting.
Pittsburgh rare 2 years ago (edited)
If during the first date (or at any point, actually), l have to sit through a 90 minutes talk about the ex, l'm shown where the ex does yoga (and how *I* should do yoga), and where her family's business is. Or if l'm sent unsolicited photos of...the ex. I have a strong problem with exes. I wonder why 🙄
Alexandra 2 years ago
This whole dating thing sounds terribly complicated. I met my husband almost 35 years ago when we were both playing waterpolo (for different teams). Do people still meet other people in the gym, at work or anywhere else other than a dating app?
Debbie 2 years ago
I would like to know as well. I'm single. I have a dating app but I don't really want it, but how else am I going to meet new people? Basically, I want to meet new people first, not think about them as potential partners straight away.
Load More Replies... Debbie 2 years ago
I was chatting with a guy once, and there happened to be a movie shown in a park nearby, I was planning on going there, and asked him to come along. I said I know it's not the perfect first date, but I am going anyways and you can join if you like? He says yes, shows up, I brought chairs. We sit there, and the movie is a bit of an experimental movie, I wasn't really interested. He wasn't either. So he starts asking me questions, talking to me AT NORMAL VOLUME, while I do try to get a bit into the movie. After 15 minutes and several looks from people, I said: Ok let's go grab a drink at the square a bit further in the town. He says ok. We leave, and he says: but I haven't brought any money, I didn't think I'd need it. I said, that is ok, I'll pay. We sit down for a drink, talk a bit more, and he says his dad paid his subscription on tinder. I am 43, he probably was something around that age as well. I felt like I was his mother, like I had so much more life/social experience than him
Debbie 2 years ago
I felt he should find a sweet naieve woman who also doesn't have a social clue to start their journey together... (oh and he came by car, so must have brought at least his drivers license, so how can he not have a form of payment like a card with him?!) Tldr: - Don't show up to a date without money (eventhough the activity is free!) - If you agree to a movie, DON"T TALK THROUGH IT (then don't agree to go to the movie!)
Load More Replies... Sonja 2 years ago
Not if you're a good listener and able to poke people the right way to talk about themselves, then you're golden
Load More Replies... Debbie 2 years ago
Two dates were complaining about their exes, they were single after a long relationship with kids, both single for about 5 - 6 months. (No wasn't dating them at the same time). And honestly, I understood their exes viewpoint. It weren't major things, they weren't toxic or anything, but I could so very well imagine this was my ex talking this way about me. And me seeing that in all those cases, it was a lack of good communication which caused the annoyances. When I realized I symphatized with their exes more then with them I also knew it was not going to work out.
Mad McQueen 2 years ago
Blind date asked what I liked as men's outfits (late 80s) said "well good fitting pant/jeans, boots are cool, etc". This was all during random conversations. Next few calls he's like I got some Levi's. Then next call Levi's 501s. Next call Levi's 501s buttonflys. Uhhh?? Then date. He picks me up at my house. We go to mall to walk an get to know each other. He's still pointing out the jeans. Wants to go shoe shopping for boots. I figure for him. No. Ladies shoe store. Not boots. Strappy heels. For me. He puts so many diff shoes on me. Makes me walk around. First few were ok. We having fun. Then gets more aggressive putting shoes on my feet and shooing the sales person off. Finally I'm like I need to take a break. Wearing candies slip on heels and I go out in front of the store for a break. He didn't follow. But came out two min later and hands me a shoe box. He bought me shoes. I'm like no this is too much (see reply of Cont. )
Mad McQueen 2 years ago
No he wants me to take the shoes. Ok fine I take them. We walk a little longer. I'm getting tired. He only now wants to sit somewhere and takes the shoebox and plays with the shoes inside. Ok I'm sure these fetishes weren't as open now as they were then an I'm like I gotta get home. So we go to the car and he opens my door and as I get I. He hands me the shoe box but one of my shoes slips off. He's diving to the ground to get my shoe and plays with it slowly putting it on an off my foot. I'm kinda laughing but getting really freaked as I want to go home. So we finally get my shoe on an back to my house. He's still talking by about the damn jeans too by the way. And goes in for the kid. I had to literally fake an asthma attack to get out of the car an deflect the kiss. Also didn't look like he said he did and was way shorter too like to my shoulders so when I wore my heels I figured I'd be his height. I got out an (Cont)
Load More Replies... bElLa sTairZz 2 years ago
another one is if they rant on how much they hate their ex, its either a sign that their not over them, or that they will treat you like that when you break up or fight
Tiny Dancer 2 years ago
Luckily, I haven't had a lot of first dates to compare, but my most memorable had to be a New Year's Eve date at a local drag club many moons ago. I'm bi and this was a rare blind date with another woman. We picked the venue together, no surprise there, conversation flowed, the show was terrific, we were cool until midnight when all heck broke loose. Seems she was terrified of balloons. Like running away from the hundreds of balloons falling from the ceiling, literally screaming when they touched her. If it hadn't been my darn date it would have been hilarious to watch, I'm sure. She left in tears and we never spoke again. Why go out on New Year's Eve if you're scared of balloons?! Madness.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
had a similar thing with a bird phobic. I've learnt to ask people whether they have phobias and dietary restrictions first.
Load More Replies... Super Beast 2 years ago (edited)
wow - this list is miserably mistitled. most of these are people judging people. you can ignore most of these.
Rostit . 2 years ago
that is what dating is. judging if you are compatible with someone.
Load More Replies... Littlemiss 2 years ago
First date, chose to pick the same drink as me and then kept moaning about not liking it as if forced. Starting asking about my breeding capabilities and we're off! He asked for a second date and had the massive cahoonas to claim I wasn't kind nor decent enough for him and when I declined. He was looking for a ticket to stay in the country and a brood mare.
Dan St John 2 years ago
When I read these stories, I am always thankful for not having to do this stuff. Happily married for 40 years and counting.
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