30 Idealized Behaviors That Are Actually Toxic Traits, Pointed Out By TikTok Users

There's a balance here, though; you need to feel like your feelings are valid, but you also need perspective. too much either way is bad.

Are there really people who do that?

Preparing a girl for abusive relationships 101.

In Dutch we have the expression: 'meisjes plagen, is kusjes vragen' - teasing girls is asking for kisses. Such a bunch of nonsense. It is just to demean girls.

Well... it is true, BUT that doesn't mean it is ok. Little boys who crave attention and lack social skills will pester people for attention. They don't care if it is "negative attention" or "positive attention", they are just starving for attention, and they know that pestering the heck out of someone will force them to pay attention. So, yes, he is being mean because he likes you and wants you to notice him, but that does NOT make it ok. Someone needs to work with him on proper social skills on how to get positive attention. If that fails, get him on ADHD medication, because it is almost impossible for a kid to socialize in a healthy way if they truly have ADHD. I knew a little boy who would cry every day at school "nobody wants to play with me"... and the instinctive response for adults was "well that's because you are annoying", but you can't go and say that to a kid... after trying therapy, the parents put him on meds, and he slowly started making real friends.

Normally it's the other way around, i.e. "If she's mean to you, she likes you." I was told this alot as a kid

i was never told that, i was told "if someone is mean to you, you tell a teacher, mommy, or daddy"

All the time

Because of this, I only ever was very friendly to the boys that were rude to me / teased me in elementary school because of everyone telling me that they liked me, so I should be nice to them. LOL - now I just roast them ;-; not worth my time

This is true to an extent! Little boys don’t realize how to handle their feelings of affection. All they need is someone to teach them. Once out of toddler/little kid phase thought, THEN it’s not scientifically backed up. Simply a matter of educating young boys.

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Yeah, that guy in third grade who pushed me down the stairs did that because he liked me! Totally makes sense!

I was told that, but I was also taught to recognize the difference between teasing and someone actually being mean.

That's what my parents said to me every time I'm being bullied in school: "They doing that because they like you." Biggest bullcrap I've ever heard

I've actually never heard of that ?

it's not just girls that get told that

I realize I am in the minority here - But I actually hate that it is assumed that my wife does all of those things and gets all the glory, when I am the one who does them all.

most of the time, they just want to be brutal. the honesty is just coincidental

definitely.

Yea

Also think about the people on the receiving end who probably don't want to be on some stranger's social media while they are in a bad place in their lives.

people who are upbeat and positive all the time tend to irritate me

Who does that? I'm a Scorpio and I am so annoyed by all the negative prejudices. No, I am not a psychopath because I was born in November and I am certainly not going to make anyone believe that this is a thing.

YES don't just self-diagnose because you daydream. Tell me once a professional diagnoses you bitch

#Facts. Sure you want to spend time with each other but you also have lives outside of it. I don't mean to ignore your partner either btw.

yeah, very dangerous trend...

Yea that sucks

Or exes who hate the current partner of their ex-partner for the same reason

let me tell you, my mother is getting married to her boyfriend and he has met my grandmother and she is NOT abusive nor is my mom's boyfriend's mom abusive to her as far as I know. this needs to stop since it puts a bad name of MIL

Just bc it’s a kid doesn’t mean it’s less important

I generally try to show respect to every person I meet until they give me reason to stop respecting them.

Kids might prefer divorced parents to a home where fights and anger are a daily issue.

Many romantic movies do this and it irritates me. So many creepy or abusive actions or traits are seen as romantic in movies because the love interest is physically attractive. Just stop....

"Hustle" has just become so overused and watered down. What they don't show you is 95% of those "hustlers" have financial support outside of the hustle.

Wat. shes jelly then

This one is weird. The Friend Zone just means that someone you like doesn't like you back, it will happen to every adult at some point in their life, it has nothing to do with being owed something.

this is actually rlly disrespectful and disgusting. m8, if they let you use their phone its bc they trust you. don't exploit that.

I am assuming they mean a partner that wants to know exactly what you're doing every second of the day and want you to be with them 24/7....I'm assuming.

who else thought of "oh she's sweet but a psycho"

Yeah like my ex friends beat me up ( I had bruises) I got horrible anxiety that they would stab me while I was outside bc my mum asked me to go to the store, after the weekend one of them ( didn't even apologise) asked if we could be friends again and I said no bc they beat me caused me pain and anxiety and made me scared to go outside

I feel that this attitude has thankfully changed in the part of the world that I live in, it seems mad to me that someone would think that hitting a child is somehow okay.

love can break down. it doesn't matter how long you have been together it matters if your love is still strong that can build up a relationship

Best way to improve your body image: Throw away any fashion magazines. Go to places where you see real people's bodies, e.g. public pools. (Saunas if you live in a place where this is a thing. Seeing naked strangers will show you that NO ONE has the perfect body.)

spend some time with family, friends, or just alone time for yourself

its been said before but idc because its true.

I've got that trait and I can definitely tell you...it was past trauma.

#stopalchohal

it is nice to ask if they need a friend, but if they say no don't push it like: "oh don't be scared i wont be mean i promise" like just give them some space, you don't know what they might be going through.