30 Idealized Behaviors That Are Actually Toxic Traits, Pointed Out By TikTok Users

There's a balance here, though; you need to feel like your feelings are valid, but you also need perspective. too much either way is bad.

Are there really people who do that?

I realize I am in the minority here - But I actually hate that it is assumed that my wife does all of those things and gets all the glory, when I am the one who does them all.

most of the time, they just want to be brutal. the honesty is just coincidental

definitely.

Yea

Also think about the people on the receiving end who probably don't want to be on some stranger's social media while they are in a bad place in their lives.

people who are upbeat and positive all the time tend to irritate me

A subsection of this is toxic Christian rhetoric. It's bad enough when someone does the "Now, it's not THAT bad" schtick, but it is even more damaging when it's wrapped up in harmful ideology like "You need to let go and let God" and "It's because you don't put your faith in Jesus" and "God is just testing you because you have a very special purpose in life!" None of that helps. Stop.

Some months ago my partner told my MIL that I am aplying for disability help since i cannot longer work (chronic illnesses). She got angry and said that instead "I need to focus on improving". Improving my incurable diseases? F**k you

Goodness yes

Some people are just very positive all the time and it's funny how people are saying that it's toxic or that it affects them. I hear the reasoning and I agree as I tend to be a bit of a rain cloud sometimes BUT to tell someone to stop being overly happy because it affects YOU is the definition of toxic. You want them to let you just be? Let them just be too!

Feel what you want. Positive is what I feel. I prefer to be positive then sit in a puddle and cry or rage against what I can’t control or worse things I can do something about. We all have feeling and we are all different. Also, you may not want to hear my happiness and that ok but maybe I don’t want to hear your feeling either and that is just as ok

They have to have something to keep them up that way.

Toxic positivity, yeah like nothing negative is not allowed to exist. That is basically denying a huge part of yourself. Good luck with that!

I'm sorry...I'm an optimist, but everyone is entitled to feel how they feel !!

I absolutely hate positive people who refuse to acknowledge the dark and difficult sides of life.

If you're mad because someone else is happy, you're the one with issues

I call them cheerleaders. Can't stand them.

In my opinion, some people get this whole "Think positive!" idea completely wrong. If you are sad or hurt for a reason, it will not do you any good at all to pretend otherwise. If a close friend of yours suddenly dies and you have to smile at your customers and show a happy face, your subconscious mind will say all the time "No, you are not, you are lying." Allow yourself to feel sad, acknowledge it - and then, only after you have done that, don't bathe in it. Actively decide to concentrate from now on on the good things. Like, in my example, while it is of course sad that your friend died - isn't it fabulous that you got to know them? Don't you have fantastic memories? Has your friend influenced some decision in your life that is still important and valid now? Be grateful for what you have and really try to concentrate more and more on the positive things. This will GENUINELY lift your mood in the long run - but don't pretend to be a happy bunny all the time if you are not.

Who does that? I'm a Scorpio and I am so annoyed by all the negative prejudices. No, I am not a psychopath because I was born in November and I am certainly not going to make anyone believe that this is a thing.

YES don't just self-diagnose because you daydream. Tell me once a professional diagnoses you bitch

#Facts. Sure you want to spend time with each other but you also have lives outside of it. I don't mean to ignore your partner either btw.

yeah, very dangerous trend...

Yea that sucks

Or exes who hate the current partner of their ex-partner for the same reason

let me tell you, my mother is getting married to her boyfriend and he has met my grandmother and she is NOT abusive nor is my mom's boyfriend's mom abusive to her as far as I know. this needs to stop since it puts a bad name of MIL

Just bc it’s a kid doesn’t mean it’s less important

I generally try to show respect to every person I meet until they give me reason to stop respecting them.

Kids might prefer divorced parents to a home where fights and anger are a daily issue.

Many romantic movies do this and it irritates me. So many creepy or abusive actions or traits are seen as romantic in movies because the love interest is physically attractive. Just stop....

"Hustle" has just become so overused and watered down. What they don't show you is 95% of those "hustlers" have financial support outside of the hustle.

Wat. shes jelly then

This one is weird. The Friend Zone just means that someone you like doesn't like you back, it will happen to every adult at some point in their life, it has nothing to do with being owed something.

this is actually rlly disrespectful and disgusting. m8, if they let you use their phone its bc they trust you. don't exploit that.

I am assuming they mean a partner that wants to know exactly what you're doing every second of the day and want you to be with them 24/7....I'm assuming.

who else thought of "oh she's sweet but a psycho"

Yeah like my ex friends beat me up ( I had bruises) I got horrible anxiety that they would stab me while I was outside bc my mum asked me to go to the store, after the weekend one of them ( didn't even apologise) asked if we could be friends again and I said no bc they beat me caused me pain and anxiety and made me scared to go outside

I feel that this attitude has thankfully changed in the part of the world that I live in, it seems mad to me that someone would think that hitting a child is somehow okay.

love can break down. it doesn't matter how long you have been together it matters if your love is still strong that can build up a relationship

Best way to improve your body image: Throw away any fashion magazines. Go to places where you see real people's bodies, e.g. public pools. (Saunas if you live in a place where this is a thing. Seeing naked strangers will show you that NO ONE has the perfect body.)

spend some time with family, friends, or just alone time for yourself

its been said before but idc because its true.

I've got that trait and I can definitely tell you...it was past trauma.

#stopalchohal

it is nice to ask if they need a friend, but if they say no don't push it like: "oh don't be scared i wont be mean i promise" like just give them some space, you don't know what they might be going through.

This should be higher. Bragging about pettiness is a disgusting trait.

if someone has anger issues and they ask for space don't be like: but whyy? aw are u mad? they want their space to cool off for a bit and are tryina be polite about it.

i drink when im stressed or overwhelmed. i drink T E A.

another one: people glorify depression of all things. like 4 real? depression?

This is, literally, a recurring nightmare. Doors and windows in my dream-room never stay closed, and dream-people never stay out. I grew up an introvert in a family of extroverts.

Some of these people that unwilling to better themselves have underlying mental health issues, depression etc; it's tricky.

Could someone please explain this one to me? I don’t get it