50 Overly Entitled Family Members Who Couldn’t See How Delusional Their Behavior Was (New Pics)
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Family: you can’t live with ‘em, you can’t live without ‘em! Siblings may cause your blood to boil when they tease you, and parents might get under your skin by trying to control too many aspects of your life. But at the end of the day, they’re family! As long as it’s clear that they truly love you, you can’t help but love them back.
But just because someone is family doesn’t mean you have to let them walk all over you or make unreasonable demands. In that case, feel free to call them out online! Below, you’ll find screenshots and photos featuring shockingly entitled behavior from relatives. We hope this list doesn’t remind you of any of your own family members, pandas, and keep reading to find conversations with Rachel Garduce, LCSW from Modern Therapy and Al Hoberman, MT-BC, LCAT from Zencare!
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I Won't Invite You To My Baby Shower, But You Better Get Me A Gift
Wherein The Mother Of The Bride Wonders Why The Uncle She Disinvited Isn't Gifting Her Daughter Any Money For Her Wedding
I wouldn’t have invited him either (lgbt family) but no contact means no money. To expect that still is the problem here.
Till This Day, It Still Annoys Me That He Was Such A Jerk
To learn more about what it’s like to deal with an entitled family member and where this behavior comes from, we reached out to a couple of experts on the topic. According to Modern Therapy’s clinician Rachel Garduce, LCSW, “Entitled behavior often originates from upbringing, societal norms, and individual personality traits.”
“If individuals are consistently favored or their needs were met without effort, they may develop a sense of entitlement. Factors like age, race, and socioeconomic status also shape how others treat them, influencing their entitlement levels and opportunities,” Rachel explained. “Additionally, entitlement can serve as a defense mechanism against insecurity, where individuals seek validation and control to compensate for their own internal doubts.”
Divorcing Husband Of 14 Years For Being Broke
Gotta love the friend thank goodness for the response hope she actually listens
This Entitled Human Being
Too Many Things Wrong With This
That's some next level disrespect....poor grandpa shouldn't be anywhere near this mess of a grandchild
We also got in touch with Zencare, an online therapist directory and the simplest way to find your ideal therapist, and Al Hoberman, a New York-based Licensed Creative Arts Therapist and Board Certified Music Therapist, was kind enough to weigh in on the topic. Al noted that, "Entitlement can come across as overconfidence, but turned on its head, we can see it as an expression of some kind of need.”
“Maybe it’s wanting to feel special, to be cared and provided for, or to know that you’ll be there for them,” the expert explained. “Wanting a lot is a sign that someone feels that they’re lacking a lot, whether they’re fully aware of it or not.”
What A "Selfish" Daughter
How Dare A Pharmacist Not Agree With My Degree From Google
but, but, but that QAnon guy on 4chan said blah blah blah and he must know because it is on the interweb!!! /s
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But it's so charmingly old-fashioned to offer a newborn the vintage gift of deadly diseases!
They can look all nice and pale as they are dying of consumption.
Load More Replies... Isaac Asimov, 1980 - “There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.”
No, this basically means your brother and his wife are WAY smarter than you.
I still don't understand how anyone can think they know more than the experts with degrees. Or simply thinking they know more about a job they've never had than the employees. I've worked in a library for the past eleven years and it would be like someone who has never stepped foot in a library telling me how to organize the books. (Thank you for coming to my TED talk.)
Okay but lime OP is bringing the same I know everything energy. Funny how stuff only applies to people who disagree 🙄
Seems like a rather smart family if the obnoxious op and their kids are the only one not being able to see the baby. Good for all the "blind followers".
Start with researching how many lives have been saved by vaccinations, beginning with smallpox in 1796. Then get yourself and you children vaccinated.
Well, like most of the offspring of anti-vaxxers, their kids will probably march right to the clinic to get fully vaccinated on their 18th birthdays. If they live that long.
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You start the discussion by admitting you’re not a doctor and you know zilch about the subject.
1 Take this cactus 2 lie back comfortably 3 shove it up Ur misinformation a**s
You don't start the discussion on this topic. You get the friggin shot and stop being a buttmunch.
That's more than I got. I was home-schooled to read entrails on the BBQ ("I predict a yummy meal of chicken wings.").
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How dare you use you flimsy facts against my cast-iron opinions?!
Just got mine on Wednesday. My doctor reminded me that I needed the booster and Pertussis is particularly contagious for newborns.
You start by doing real research and not research from a doctor who lost his licenses after lying to the general public and get your Dtap... it protects from whooping cough (pertussis) diphtheria and tetanus all s**t that baby will die from... and you might too... but at least you wont be a baby killer because your brother has a brain!!!
OP calls them blind, but ironically they're the ones who will see the baby.
Hmmm, well you can try to convince your bother with a doctorate degree in Pharmacy (Yes Pharmacy is a Doctorate) that he is 100% wrong about his profession and what he spent years studying, and understands all the science behind and feel free to educate him based on what you found on a blog online. Give it a try
You can start by listening to the medical professionals who actually KNOW what's true & correct. I wouldn't let you near my baby either, you selfish cow.
So the pharmacist thinks he knows more about medical things than you? I wonder where he got that idea
Google "newborn deaths from pertussis". They are not fully protected until they finish their primary DTaP series at six months. The only protection for them is cocooning, which means only allowing those with up to date pertussis boosters in their presence. Get the jab or stay home.
Life is about choice and consequences. You made your choice and now you face the consequences. Please stop whining!
For years there was a general theory that ignorance was caused by the public's lack of access to knowledge.........Guess the internet proved that one wrong.
Well, I would suggest you pull your head out of your a** before you start talking.
"help! My brother doesn't want MY poor life choices to affect their newborns health and well-being, how do i convince him that us infecting them and everyone else around us is OUR choice"
Let me guess. Antivaxxer. How dsre he use science to stop me and my unvaxxed kids.
Nah that's crazy though. When I was pregnant my OB wanted me and my partner to get it. I asked about our parents and siblings and the actual OB said it wasn't necessary. It's nuts to make literally your entire extended family get a vaccine for your baby (and keep in mind in the US the appointment and vaccine could cost someone $200...so I'd imagine close to $1000 for this lady and her kids)
There's nothing "nuts" about setting boundaries for your family. Any one of these diseases can make a small baby extremely sick. There's no mention from the OP about cost being an issue here.
Load More Replies...I Just Had An Insane Chat With My Mother. Thinking Of Just Not Opening The Door For Her When She Comes
In the end, I just left because she had the keys to my house. I changed the locks the next day.
As far as why entitlement is often directed towards family members, Rachel says it might be because of how a person grew up and what they learned from their family. “If their needs were always put first, they might expect the same in adulthood,” she explained.
“Cultural norms also play a role. For instance, if a culture values certain family roles, individuals might feel entitled to specific treatment within their families based on those norms,” Rachel added. “These dynamics shape their expectations and perceptions of entitlement within family relationships.”
My Entitled Aunt Forced Me To Take Care Of My Spoiled Cousin
My family decided to have a family reunion, and my entitled aunt drove up to me and my roommate's front porch and just dropped my spoiled cousin off. He was there for a week as she wouldn't drive back to get him. In the week that he was there, he threw fits and temper tantrums because we wouldn't bend over backwards for his demands, and we ended up driving him back to his mother's (my aunt) hotel room, and she ended up telling the family I punched her even though that's further from the truth.
My Mother Got Rid Of My First Pet Without Warning Me
My Mom Knows I'm Engaged And Living With My Fiancé
She says my fiancé is ugly, and she "can't connect with her". She only saw pictures and refused to meet her.
Al also noted that this entitlement can be a bid for connection. “Just like a young child who is all smiles at daycare and then comes home and has a meltdown, we tend to show our most difficult feelings around people we trust,” the therapist explained. “So if a family member is asking a lot of you, it may be an unconscious way of asking, ‘How much can I lean on you and have you still love me?’”
“On the other hand, if someone has grown up in an environment where this kind of behavior was rewarded, or they observed it in others, it could be that this is just what feels normal to them,” Al added. “They might not even see it as special treatment, it’s just what they’re used to doing.”
How Dare Her Mother-In-Law Be A Nice Person
My Mother Won't Ask For Consent When Posting Photos
My mom took a pic of me and my friends. I asked her not to post it, but this was her response.
My Pregnant Sister-In-Law Isn't Happy That I Repurposed My Baby's Outgrown Onesies
"How dare you not give me potential sentimental items you no longer use for their intended purpose instead of reading my mind and knowing I expected you to make sacrifices for me, the person who feels entitled to making these statements "
If anyone out there is struggling with family members making you feel guilty for not meeting their demands, both experts recommend setting clear boundaries. “Assertively communicate your needs and limits while understanding and validating their feelings,” Rachel told Bored Panda.
“Remember, you're not obliged to fulfill every demand, especially if it harms you or compromises your own well-being. Seeking help from a therapist can guide you in managing family issues effectively. It's crucial to prioritize your well-being and assert your boundaries in these situations,” she explained.
My Entitled Mother
She always felt like she was entitled to see how my body was developing because she was my mother and "created" me. I had no privacy, and I still have problems years later from her barging in on me while I used to shower. I spent most of my childhood feeling deep shame and crying a lot. I didn't realize this wasn't a normal thing till a few years ago (I'm 31 now). Oh yeah, she'd be laughing the whole time, too. I still don't understand what she got out of it.
She Really Wants Her To Change The Dog's Name
My Dad Thinks He Is Entitled To My Money (Which I Don't Have Much Of) Because "It's Christmas"
“It’s a common misconception that setting boundaries is about getting the other person to do something you want,” Al says. “Actually, it’s about figuring out what your limits are, and deciding how you’re going to respond when they’re crossed. Then, importantly, you communicate that decision ahead of time.”
“Say I have a parent who keeps giving me unsolicited parenting advice. My first step is to tell them it’s unwelcome, and ask them, firmly but kindly, to stop,” Al suggests. “Next, if they persist, I might say something like, ‘Listen, if you’re really not able to stop, I’m going to end our conversation. We can talk about something else another time.’”
Our Dog Destroyed Trim
I left my husband in charge of our dogs while the kids and I visited my family. He chose to stay at his brother's house and only let our dogs out once a day. Yesterday, he sent me this picture and proceeded to blame it on me.
My Demanding Parents
My mother and father showed up outside my apartment without a notice and demanded I go eat dinner with them even though I've been living independently for six years. The last time I saw them, they made me cry in public, so I've been putting off seeing them.
Tell them to go be fruitful and multiply unto themselves. Just not in those words.
This Entitled Stepmom. So Infuriating
“Of course, chances are, the person you set boundaries with is going to be upset at first,” Al notes. “That’s where the guilt comes in. No one wants to feel like they’re letting down someone they love, but tuning in to this caring can help you express yourself compassionately without compromising your own needs.”
My Younger Brother Wants Me To Turn On My Hotspot At 4 In The Morning
Oftentimes, we make deals where he buys an energy drink or something, and I let him use my hotspot at 9 PM and leave it on during the night. My brother claims that at 2–3 AM, he goes to bed. Last night, I woke up to him spamming me a ton of messages, wanting me to turn it back on at 4 in the morning. This is the last time I’m going to use my hotspot. He’s 15 years old, by the way.
My Sister Expects Me To Buy Her A Bottle Of Water And Deliver It To Her Class Instead Of Walking Up To A Water Fountain. She's So Spoiled
My Mother-In-Law Won't Get The Flu Vaccine So She Could Meet Our Newborn Son. Insists She Is An Expert On Vaccines
“Setting boundaries is a good way to handle conflict, but it doesn’t avoid it altogether,” Al added. “It can be an emotionally taxing process, and especially if you’re naturally conflict-averse, it's important to have a support system in place as you go through it. This could mean speaking with friends, a partner, or a therapist, but should also include keeping in mind that you’re in a vulnerable place and treating yourself with care.”
My Mother-In-Law's Reaction To Us (Me, Girlfriend, And Daughter) Moving To Vegas. And When She Says "My Daughter" She Means Her Granddaughter
WTF. You're supposed to want happiness and success for your kids. I'd get a restraining order against your clearly delusional and unstable mother
Imagine Thinking You Qualified For A Military Discount Because Your Father-In-Law Fought In The Vietnam War
My Narcissist Mom Reaching Out After I Went No Contact For 5 Months
“Entitlement is a complex issue and shows up in different ways and situations. Dealing with it means understanding yourself, setting boundaries, and talking openly with others,” Rachel shared. “It's also helpful to figure out why you feel entitled or why those around you feel entitled, as it expands your self-awareness or your understanding of others. It can enhance your relationships with people. By working on these things, you can handle entitlement in a positive way and improve your connections with others.”
I Moved Out Of My Dad’s After We Got Into A Pretty Big Physical Altercation
My Aunt (Very Low Contact) Continues To Ask To Spend The Night At My And My Boyfriend’s Place After Openly Attacking Us At A Party She Wasn’t Even Invited To
My aunt showed up to my family’s New Year’s feast at my parent's house completely uninvited. She has purposely not been invited the past few years because of some particular nasty or toxic behavior she’s shown at New Year's feasts in the past.
Our relationship hasn’t been great for a while since she has become a lot more angry and intense over the past few years as compared to the fun-loving aunt I grew up knowing.
It’s also not like she can’t afford a hotel room for the night since she and her husband are incredibly well-off financially.
Texts From My Sister When I Already Had Plans And Couldn’t Watch Her Kid
We both live at my grandma's house. I work nights (7 PM - 3:30 AM), and she works days. I told her I could be free after 2 PM to help our grandma with my niece if needed. I made plans for a weekend a week in advance, and she texted me at almost 2 AM to tell me she worked at 10 AM and needed me to watch my niece. I told her I wasn't going to be home because I had plans that weekend. This was her response. I chose not to engage because, in the past, engaging when she was like this just led to telling me what a horrible person I am.
Fascinating tactic, especially that heart at the end. So…’go f**k yourself, but lovingly?’
My Brother Has A Habit
Lol this one is actually kinda funny 😆 It would also be super annoying though.
My Cousin Just Put This On Her Snap Story. Her Mom Washes, Folds, And Hangs Up Her Clothes Every Week
I Guess It's Just Spreading Today. She's Never Bugged Me About Posting Before
I haven't used Facebook in a very long time, and I don't even have the app on my phone anymore. We texted each other this morning. She wished me a happy Mother's Day, and I did the same. 8 hours later, she sent me this.
My Aunt Losing Her Mind Over The Name Of My Soon-To-Be Born Daughter, Lilith
Am I Crazy, Or Is This Toxic? I Am 18 In High School And My Mother Threatens Not Sending Me To College If I Don't Spend Time With Her
My Dad Forcing Me To Be Somewhere Even Though I Might Still Be Sick
My Upstairs Cousin Told Me To Pay The Internet Bill When He Isn't Supporting
My Cousin (Who I Have Not Spoken To In 16 Years) Is Demanding A Free Photoshoot Over A GameCube Cord (That I Actually Did Get Back To Him 20 Years Ago)
My Sister's Response After Offering Help
My sister is homeless and an addict. She used someone's phone to message us, and I told her we love her, want to get her a phone, find her a nice rehab, and get an apartment afterward.
Being a recovering addicit (5 years) i would have loved that opportunity! Obviously this person just wants to manipulate their family. By the way the private and expensive rehabs have the same type of people. No matter what kind of Rehabilitation Center is chosen, the person who's going has to want it.
My Cousin Sent Me This Message On My 30th Birthday
My 13-Year-Old Niece Wanted AirPods For Her Birthday, But I Sent Her Some Generic Bluetooth Earbuds
My Dad Called Me 40 Times When I Was At Work, To Ask For Money. He Claims It Was An Accident, Then Sends This When I Block Him On Messenger
Guilt Tripping Me For Not Being Able To Spend $130 On A Mother's Day Gift
My mother has become increasingly greedy about gifts since I started making money. But I asked her for a vacuum cleaner for Christmas, and she told me I was crazy for asking for such an expensive gift. To be fair she did get me one, but she made a big deal about me asking for it. I feel like she always finds the most expensive thing she can and asks me for it.
And people called me "selfish" for saying years ago, "don't buy me presents anymore, I'm not buying anyone else presents". The first year they got pi$$y because they ignored it and gave me something after I said not to. The second and subsequent years, they thanked me for saving them the hassle and expense, NOT having to buy me anything. It didn't affect any relationships.
My Very Controlling Stepmom
I am so thankful cell phones weren't a thing when I was a kid because my step mom would have done this same s**t.
My Rude Sister Asking If She Can Stay At My Place
This person says she's coming to spend time with her boyfriend, not with her sister. She just wants to use sis's place as a free hotel (probably expects to be fed, too). And her mom is paying her travel costs. If you're too broke to pay for travel or a hotel, you're too broke to travel, period.
This Is So Infuriating
From My Stepmother The Day After My Sister Passed
That Time I Announced My Son's Birth, And My Husband's Aunt Decided To Say This
My Sister Took My Phone To Send Herself $55 From My Cash App. Cash App Support Won’t Do Anything About It
My Mom Can't Handle That I Got My Septum Pierced. I'm 27 Years Old, Married And Have Been Out Of The House For A Year
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The actual saying is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”. The meaning of this saying is actually the opposite of the way we use it. The saying actually means that bonds that you've made by choice are more important than the people that you are bound to by the water of the womb.
Indeed, a bunch of boredpanda readers are probably in anaphylactic shock and trying to find their epipens right now.
Load More Replies... Another fail on the "poll", not listing permanent separation and silence as an option. I cut off the breeders and narcs permanently, best decision ever. Many of the people in the stories need to do that too.
Are you guys with me.. everyone at the same time, and loud for everyone in the back! - SILAS IS A TOXIC M**********R THAT CAN SUCK C***S AND BURN ETERNALLY IN HELL. if you haven’t seen his 20 comments on this post, don’t bother..
Every one of these made me want to find every one of my friends and family and give them a big hug in appreciation of their lack of toxicity.
Women are not to blame for your micro*****. Stop touching yourself everytime you leave a comment ❄
Load More Replies... The actual saying is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”. The meaning of this saying is actually the opposite of the way we use it. The saying actually means that bonds that you've made by choice are more important than the people that you are bound to by the water of the womb.
Indeed, a bunch of boredpanda readers are probably in anaphylactic shock and trying to find their epipens right now.
Load More Replies... Another fail on the "poll", not listing permanent separation and silence as an option. I cut off the breeders and narcs permanently, best decision ever. Many of the people in the stories need to do that too.
Are you guys with me.. everyone at the same time, and loud for everyone in the back! - SILAS IS A TOXIC M**********R THAT CAN SUCK C***S AND BURN ETERNALLY IN HELL. if you haven’t seen his 20 comments on this post, don’t bother..
Every one of these made me want to find every one of my friends and family and give them a big hug in appreciation of their lack of toxicity.
Women are not to blame for your micro*****. Stop touching yourself everytime you leave a comment ❄
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