35 Passive-Aggressive Ways These Customer Service Workers Have Gotten Revenge On Rude Customers

To get some insight from an expert on this topic, we reached out to Marlon Joseph, host of The Modern Waiter podcast. Marlon has been working as a server for 26 years and says he has loved it the whole time. He started this podcast to highlight that working in the service industry can certainly be a viable career and currently has recorded 196 episodes with his best friend and fellow industry veteran Danny Davila. "Rude guests unfortunately are a part of life when it comes down to it," Marlon told Bored Panda. "As a server you must find ways to deal with it and even turn things around. Some days are easier than others." Marlon says he even plans to record an episode on this same topic because there are so many ways to retaliate against customers.

"If a guest gets rude in a personal way I deal with it directly and tell them 'I going to need you to be nice to me for me to continue'," he says. "If they are being rude in an annoying way, I make them wait. They will wait for me to take their order. They will wait for their food. They will wait for their check. I may even tell them their credit card has declined if that person is paying. I may even tell them we ran out of an item even though we have it," Marlon admitted.

We asked Marlon if he thinks customers ever learn a lesson when they receive worse service due to their attitudes. "I do not think rude people are self-aware, especially if it is them being jerks. Most rude people in a restaurant are situationally on tilt. They may be hangry or had a bad day, so they use a measure of power to ease their aggravation. Unfortunately, a server may not want to give their best to a guest like that, and the result is bad service. Then the cycle of self-fulfilling prophecy begins."

We also wanted to know what Marlon would like to say to any customers who feel entitled to be rude to wait staff. "My advice is the same advice I give to guests who do not tip: Do not go back to the same restaurant twice. Servers have bad days too."

Lastly, Marlon added, "90 percent of the time a good server can recognize the attitude of an unsavory action of a guest and find a way to turn it. There is no excuse to be rude. I have had a guest tell me they wanted to punch me in the face. I leaned over the table and placed my fists down on the table and said, 'I bet you wont'." I bet they never came back to that restaurant!

If you'd like to hear more tales from Marlon's experience as a waiter, be sure to check out his podcast right here.

If you have ever worked a customer service job, you know that they are not easy. Customers come in every day with ridiculous demands or unreasonable expectations, and they are often under the impression that they are right solely because they are the customer. “Oh, you don’t have my size in stock? Let me speak to your manager!” Or, “This doesn’t taste right. I’m sending it back, and I’m not paying for it!” You know the type. And while most of us are well aware that this behavior is embarrassing and disrespectful, some entitled individuals never seem to learn. So there is nothing wrong with giving them cold, hard butter or an ugly burger if you, the employee, have had to deal with insults and sass for the duration of someone’s visit.

So what gives people the nerve to act this way when in a restaurant or retail store? Didn’t their parents ever teach them manners? Well, according to Melanie Morrison, a psychology professor at the University of Saskatchewan, there are three possible reasons behind an entitled customer’s rude behavior. The first being that they may want social dominance. These people usually work high up in an organization and have employees below them and continue to act like a superior everywhere they go. "There's still that belief that they have a socially dominant position, they have more power over this individual and they'll treat them in a demeaning way because of that,” Melanie told CBC Canada.

The next reason an individual might be rude to wait staff is if they are part of a marginalized group and do not often have a dominant position in society. "When they go into a restaurant, they can exact power. They can become somebody who has been given a bit of power over a server in that moment," Melanie explained. “They can treat them in a demeaning way and be powerful in that environment because the conditions allow them to be." Lastly, Melanie notes that sometimes people are just plain rude. There might not be a great explanation for it, but not everyone can empathize with others or feel guilt for treating people poorly. 

People who have worked in the service industry before and understand what it’s like to be a server or retail worker are much less likely to be rude, but it should not take having similar experiences to show someone respect. As Melanie notes, “There's nothing wrong with having expectations. If it's something surrounding the food or the environment or something, then you can ask for some changes. That would be okay, but look realistically,” she says. “Take a breath. Think about it. Look realistically at the server — is that the server's fault?"