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Someone Asked “What’s The Most Disturbing Secret You’ve Ever Been Told?” And 30 People Opened Up
Secrets can make or break a relationship. Sometimes, it can bring people together. Other times, it's the reason why people never speak to one another again. In romantic relationships, for example, trust is essential. Yet one in five married people say they're keeping a secret from their spouse.
Still, we like reading about the times some juicy secrets get revealed. Especially when they don't involve us. One person online recently prompted others to share their best-kept secrets, when they asked: "What's the most disturbing secret you've ever been told?"
From heartbreaking ones like secret affairs and deathbed confessions to more chaotic evil ones like feeding vegetarians meat and never washing jeans, people shared all kinds of secrets.
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#1
I want to be really vague about this, so I'll explain it this way: A very mild-mannered, friendly older man told me about how he was working abroad in an area that had just gone through an ethnicity-based civil war. The place was still very chaotic and lawless. He and his colleagues found out there was a group of local men from one ethnic group who would abduct and assault primary school-aged girls from the other ethnic group. There was really no good legal mechanism through which to address this. My friend and his colleagues decided the best way to deal with it was to find out where the men lived and shoot them in the head.
They went out over the course of one night, k*lled several of the men and left their bodies in the road. The assaults in the area stopped because most of the perpetrators were dead and the ones that were left didn't dare do anything again.
My friend wasn't upset by about k*lling them, but seemed haunted by what the men were doing to the girls. He said of the men, "They had no business being alive."
Beak Hookage 1 year ago
100% calling justifiable homicide on this one. You do that to a child, you don't deserve to live.
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚 1 year ago
I don't care what anyone says... if you sit back and do nothing about child r*pists when the authorities can't/won't do anything, because "murder is wrong" - all their crimes are YOUR crimes too. This was not only justified, but the only ethical thing to do. Disturbing? Sure. But right, nevertheless.
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#2
My stepdad confessed on his deathbed that he’d spent thirty years with my very difficult mother just to be sure I could have a normal life. He passed away from cancer about a week later.
For what it’s worth I’m married to a wonderful woman, have two amazing kids, and a fantastic career.
Thanks Dad.
ConstantlyJon 1 year ago
That "Thanks Dad" hits so damn hard. Goddamnit I can't be crying at work OP why you gotta wreck me like this.
TheGirlWhoWoreGlasses 1 year ago
My uncle stayed with his wife who had BPD for over 35 years because he was afraid if he left her, she would wind up homeless and on the streets.
#3
An uncle beat a guy almost to death with his bare hands. He had walked in on a friend molesting a kid. He had to pay a fine and do community service for a long time but also didn’t have to pay for beer at the local bar for a few months. He was so reserved and kind so it threw me when I found out what he’d accomplished in his younger years.
Beak Hookage 1 year ago
Like that other guy who walked in on someone assaulting his daughter and straight-up killed him right there and then. He was acquitted of murder.
#4
My cousin was a nanny for a wealthy family in the upper west side for three years. They had one daughter who had dairy allergies. My cousin thought she could ease dairy into her diet and make her allergy disappear. So she did that, slowly adding dairy into her diet. The poor little girl had allergic reactions, and her parents could not figure it out. Of course, my cousin didn’t fess up. And of course, the allergy never disappeared. That poor girl, having such bad reactions and all because of my cousin’s psycho way of thinking.
Beak Hookage 1 year ago
So she tortured a kid because she thinks she knows best. What a lovely piece of work she is.
Avoidance_Panda 1 year ago
Not knowing the situation, yeah the nanny was trying the milk ladder.... Many kids are born with intolerance, not allergies. I don't remember exactly how it worked, it was a while ago now, but kids especially young ones can have dairy slowly introduced into their diet until they don't have any reactions. But if it's allergies then no dairy, if it's intolerance then milk ladder.... Hard to know at a super young age. Any nutritional experts out there?
Cat Chat 1 year ago
Doesn't matter. It wasn't her place to test it out. Even worse to prolong it when there were obvious reactions and not telling the parents about it.
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#5
I am 43 and recently found out that my grandfather (who passed away before I was born) was in prison when he was 16 for killing his father. There were reports of child and spouse abuse and alcoholism. My family looked at it as if he was protecting his siblings. When he got out of prison he met my grandmother, and they had 11 children who were protected until his death.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
If it hadn't been for your Grandfather you may have not been here, he sounds like a hero to me.
the_avenging_knight (her/she) 1 year ago
I may not agree with the method, but your grandfather definately had his heart in the right place.
#6
I remembered another one. I used to hang out with a ex-Mormon friend. There was a condom commercial on and she shook her head saying she'd never had to use them before. I was like, "What? You've had like 3 long term ex boyfriends I'm aware of?" Then she told a few stories about her and her oldest brother and the yearly at-home abortion methods and the 3 children I didn't know existed that survived her attempts. I'm just sitting there staring at the wall while she's digging deeper and deeper into her childhood and late teens. She mentions things between her brother started when she was 8 years old and her brother was in his 20's and blamed herself for being so attention seeking. Obviously her brother is a predator and made her feel this way. The one time she tried to tell on her brother her dad ended up taking the fall for his son. The Mormon church made it all go away and nothing became of it.
Gabriele Alfredo Pini 1 year ago
Because it is standard in every tribe. How many athletes are protected like that every year, both in school and professional sports?
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Kenneth Smith 1 year ago
As a former pastor, I can say that the Church does a really good job of dragging it's own name through the mud. I wouldn't hold it against a church if there was a scandal and they did the right thing immediately. I absolutely would hold it against them if they covered it up and lied about it. A church that lies to uphold its good reputation isn't worthy of it.
Squirrel Chaser 1 year ago
The Mormon church has never let things like this just slide. They are very diligent in reporting crimes of this nature. If the father took the fall, how would church leaders know any different? Granted that this may have happened on a local level, but would never have been sanctioned in any official capacity.
DC 1 year ago
Oh my ... why, why is religion always so successful in blaming the victims, enabling those that do wrong, and still paint themselves in a shade of moral superiority? I mean, I read the bible and the Quran, so I know I shouldn't expect much, as they both largely consist of utter brutality and utter absurdity, but still - they may claim superior obedience, but superior ethics, for surest of them all, are in no way linked to extranatural phantasticisms, but secular and downright trivial at times...
Tabitha 1 year ago
Don’t forget patriarchal. Skewed in favor of the patriarchy.
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#7
A co-worker told me her 2nd child wasn't her husband's.
Did not need that information.
Alexandra 1 year ago
So she's a cheater and not to be trusted. That's something to keep in mind when dealing with her though.
Jaya 1 year ago
They could have been broken up for a while and gotten back together. They could have an open relationship, or go to sex parties or something.
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MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
Two can keep a secret if the other is dead, people gonna talk that's for sure.
#8
My ex would feed vegetarians meat and not tell them.
PeepPeep the duck 1 year ago
That’s so rude, what if they were vegetarian by allergy or religious standards :( not kool
Hassel Davidhoff 1 year ago
Allergy or religion aside, whole-food plant-based veganism is a healthy way to live and 1000 times more ethical than any other diet. Down vote me to hell, ain't going to change that fact. Yet if you say you're reasoning for eating a diet like that is because of your concern for the animals, most people don't take it seriously. Yet if I said I was doing it because some antiquated religion said I should, folks respect that. It is completely upside down.
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Rebecca Restrepo 1 year ago
Awful. I don’t eat meat because I lack certain enzymes that can help break it down and digest it. It makes me very ill. You never know why people choose to be vegetarian and it shouldn’t matter, this is just an AHole move.
Jan Moore 1 year ago
I used to work with someone who said she was allergic to beef, to be honest, this does happen after some kind of mosquito-born virus. We were eating at a microbrewery and she had a salad with shredded carrots. The carrots soaked up the dressing and got very dark, she had a meltdown screaming they were trying to kill her (she also claimed her husband tried to kill her by doing the same thing). I don't know if she really had an allergy or not, she was kind of high maintenance.
Elladine DesIsles 1 year ago
I haven't intentionally consumed meat in over 30 years, and any time I have accidentally, I become very violently ill. Even from miniscule amounts of things like chicken stock or fish sauce. Messing with someone's dietary restrictions is no joke! Oh, and I once had someone I had rejected romantically try to convince the kids I was working with that they should sneak ground-up bugs ibto my food as a "prank." Luckily, the children were smart and responsible enough to warn me.
Anna Drever 1 year ago
That’s disgusting. It doesn’t make the vegetarian any less a vegetarian, it just makes the ex a piece of 💩.
#9
Not as crazy as others’, but I found out that my dad is actually my stepdad and my real dad left immediately after I was born. 18 years and still haven’t met the guy.
Earthquake903 1 year ago
I'm sure you are better off. I wish my father left before I was born. He was a monster.
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
Biology doesn't mean squat. Some ppl have bio dad's that are awful pppl.You already have a dad. So you're not really missing out. Sperm donor is.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
Be thankful your stepdad was a great man for treating you like you were his own, happy for you!!
#10
A friend of mine told me she is having an affair with one of our friend's father.
Bette 1 year ago
Is the man married?......There is some missing information to this secret.......
brittany 1 year ago
having an affair implies at least one of them is married or at the very least in a long term relationship
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Tobias Reaper 1 year ago
well that depends on the age if they are adults you cant really groom an adult
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i slept with a guy who was a civil engineer once, and he worked on a multimillion dollar high rise building he ultimately had to quit working on because they wanted it built under dimensions that weren't safe for the soil conditions. so they said either say its safe or we find someone who will. and when he refused, they did.
supposedly, that building [which he wouldnt specificy for obvious reasons], ended up in fact being built the way they wanted, and it will likely face significant structural issues and lawsuits in future years. it may even be dangerous for residents.
HearditontheX 1 year ago
He has a legal, ethical And moral obligation to report this mess. Lives can be at stake. He can't just walk away. This isn't high school snitching. He is responsible & could lose his license to practice engineering
Scott Rackley 1 year ago
Exactly. He should have went directly to his licensing board and laid it all out. Otherwise some of the liability falls on him.
Load More Replies... Steve Hall 1 year ago
If you know about a crime and keep it to yourself, you are guilty and can be held responsible.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
1st thing he should have done was went straight to the authorities, but as crooked as our politicians are they would have had him arrested for slander or some other made up BS, money from deep pockets quiets a lot of people.
ConstantlyJon 1 year ago
1000000% this is Millennium Tower in San Francisco. https://archinect.com/news/article/150417670/san-francisco-s-millennium-tower-is-sinking-again-despite-foundational-corrections
Nikki Gross 1 year ago
Jesus, look at what happened to Surfside Condominium in Miami or Grenfell Tower in London, those were both an absolute deathtrap. Both either structurally deficient or cheap, flammable building materials were used in their construction. All of those lives that were lost, due to builders cutting corners in order to save money and anyone that knew about it kept their mouths shut.
#12
A friend of mine who is married told me that before he was married he was teaching English in Thailand and they he was in a relationship with a ladyboy for three years he says if it's a wife ever finds out she will definitely break up with him.
Sa Ruuu 1 year ago
Because whoever added it perceives "ladyboys" as being "ugly women", and they perceive "ugly women" as being a woman with "ugly", colorful makeup
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Rowan Kohler 1 year ago
Why? Ladyboys are ingrained in the culture. Plus what happens in Thailand… lol. I can’t see any situation there this is breakup material unless the Ladyboy is dangerous international criminal, wants him back, and is coming after the wife lol
PeepPeep the duck 1 year ago
So sad he can’t divorce her and be himself and set everyone free from a lie
Zoe Vokes 1 year ago
He might be bisexual and very happy with his wife. It’s just that she wouldn’t want to know that he had previously been in a homosexual relationship.
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#13
Someone once told me literally where the body was burried.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
You are now an accomplish, to murder I think if they find out you know something and don't report it, someone correct me if I am wrong!
#14
My mother told me that my father physically hurt my brother as a toddler. She said dad had grabbed him by the back of the neck in a rage, and my brother held his head crooked for weeks.
She finally took my brother to the doctor. My brother was fine, but mom asked her little boy to lie, and not tell the doctor what dad had done to him.
I wasn’t even born yet, but my father was a violent man throughout my whole childhood. I wish my parents had gotten a divorce much earlier.
Robert Benson 1 year ago
I had an aunt who tried to leave her abusive husband, but he tracked her down and brought her back. Leaving isn't always easy, especially if you don't have any help :(
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
P**s ant of a man to abuse his kids, bet he wouldn't do that to a real dude would could fight!!
#15
My mom got pregnant her senior year of highschool. She have the baby up for adoption to one of my aunt's friends. My mom told me last year. I'm 41 now. My half sister is 47. Several family members have taken the secret to their grave.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
There is no shame in being adopted OR in giving up a child for adoption. None. The end.
Papa 1 year ago
I agree. There are situations where it's the best option for everyone involved. I know there are times when it doesn't work out as it should, but that's also true for children raised by one, or both, biological parents.
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You should talk to your aunts friend and see if its ok to tell her adopted daughter that you want her to meet her sister, good luck.
#16
I was into martial arts (karate) as a teenager. It started as a hobby, but I began to take it more seriously after experiencing sexual harassment.
A martial arts senpai (senior in ranking) confessed to me that he r*ped his cousin at a family reunion. He was about 19 years old when it happened. The cousin was about 11 or 12.
To this day, I have no idea why he told me that, but I avoided him and eventually left the dojo.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
So he was basically another version of the Dutch guy in the Olympics who raped a 12-year-old girl when he was 19. Dutch bro only got a four-year jail sentence, btw, and idiots say he “paid his dues”. Nope, the dues he - and OP’s senpai - should have to pay is violent castration with no anesthesia, IMO.
Nikki Gross 1 year ago
To Nemo and Sanne: I would very much LOVE to see you BOTH in Jail or Prison and express your sick a*s "opinion" to other inmates. I guarantee, you will be the Cell Block B***h in less then 24 hours. People like you TWO are the ABSOLUTE LOWEST LIFEFORMS, because I refuse to refer to BOTH OF YOU AS HUMANS! Guess what?! I have CPTSD, do you think I wanted or asked for it?!?! What happened to me has F****D ME UP FOR YEARS!! It's taken SO much therapy, just to be able to function, because I also have an Anxiety Disorder and I'm Bipolar I. So my life has been SO MUCH FUN, YOU DOUCHEBAGS!
She who must not be named 1 year ago
I couldn't agree with you more. I also suffer from PTSD from childhood s/a so I'm with you there. I'm so glad you are able to function, people don't realise how much of a long term effect things like that have on people but I hope every single day is better than the day before for you ❤️
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Dread Pirate Roberts 1 year ago
I am taken aback and horrified by some of the comments on here (Nemo's and Sanne's to be exact) that are defending child rapists and pedophilia. Wtf is wrong with you? That's f*****g sick, no matter how you try to twist it!
Piwakawaka 1 year ago
Why would you not report this? If he did it once, he could well do it again. Harm could be prevented by reporting it.
#17
My grandma told me that before I was born my mother had an affair with my dad’s married brother. She apparently cheated a lot. When I was out of the house and married my dad got a letter in the mail telling him she was cheating again and going on trips with this guy. They finally got divorced.
Diolla 1 year ago
"When I was out of the house and married my dad"..... for a moment I read this the wrong way :-D
Cat Chat 1 year ago
Same. Commas, or lack thereof, can really change the context.
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#18
This isn't mine, it's my grandpa's.
This was in the late 1940's. One of his buddies calls him up saying he needs someone to talk to, so they meet at a local bar. They had both finished serving in WW2; my gramps in the South Pacific, the other guy in Europe. They meet at the bar, and the guy is visibly upset and says he has to get something off his chest; it's been bothering him since he came home. He proceeds to tell him this story which I will try my best to remember correctly (gramps died 11 years ago so I can't confirm details anymore)
He was stationed in either Eastern France or SW Belgium, I think near the border with Germany. The allies had been winning and the war was only technically still on. This guy was stationed at a POW camp where they had some German soldiers. He was ordered to escort 6-10 of them to another location just a few miles away. It was winter, and very cold that night. He had to drive them through woods on dirt roads, and the truck breaks down en route with engine issues. He orders them to get out of the back so he can keep an eye on them while he deals with the engine, so the Germans are just standing there in the middle of the woods, and apparently their movements and talking to each other (he couldn't speak German) are making him paranoid. He starts yelling commands at them like "stop talking," "move closer together," "stay where I can see you." None of the Germans speak English, so there is more talking amongst themselves and confused movements, which only increases the guy's already heightened state of fear and paranoia. One of the German soldiers makes too sudden of a movement or comes towards him and he shoots. The other soldiers start freaking out so he starts shooting them. He ended up killing every one of them and running back to his base. He tells his commanding officer what happened, that he panicked and thought they were devising a plan to kill him and escape, so he shot them all. The officer basically tells him not to tell anyone about it and arranges to get him discharged as soon as possible and to not think or speak of it again. They sweep the whole thing under the rug and send the guy home. They didn't have trauma counseling back in those days, especially for something that they wanted to keep quiet, which is why my Grandpa came to hear the story.
Nils Skirnir 1 year ago
As a combat veteran, this happens a lot more than US military talks about. A whole lot more. Other militaries? Don’t know
Craig Staley 1 year ago
This happens with other countries too. Sometimes, the drivers are told to kill them and there is never meant to be a transfer. War is brutal. And once the soldiers become inured to the violence and death, war crimes and atrocities become less rare.
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Sarah Léon 1 year ago
Unfortunately, there is a lot of bad stories about US soldier in Europe after D-Day... Rapes, murders... And not only on the Germans. Some testimonies I read was horrible, with US soldier hanging black people, raping young French girls (because they all wanted it, right ?), attacking German houses, killing even the children... Americans are not always the saviors they think they are...
Feathered Dinosaur 1 year ago
My maternal great-aunt got raped by Russian (I think) soldiers during WWII in Germany. She never really recovered, suffering from severe depression all her life and finally killing herself. And she didn't deserve it for being German, if anyone's thoughts go that way, she was Jewish
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UKGrandad 1 year ago (edited)
Not sure I believe this one. Sending a single soldier to drive 6-10 enemy prisoners several miles? And then to not restrain the prisoners in the truck (otherwise he wouldn't have had to make them get out to keep an eye on them while working on the engine) meaning they were unsupervised in the back and could have jumped out at any time?
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚 1 year ago (edited)
1. The doors of the truck were probably secured from the outside. He could probably observe them while inside the truck but could not once he got out. So, he wanted them within sight. 2. The prisoners assuredly had only their clothes, no belts, buckles, laces, or winter clothing. Limiting their ability to escape and survive. They might also have been restrained in some fashion, but in wartime, paranoia can be high. And he had no backup. 3. In WWII, every man who COULD physically fight, did. (Barring top officers.) Any man permanently stationed in a non-combat position was rare, so yes - they may only have had him to drive them, and it was only a few miles (less than an hour trip) so the risk was minimal. It was a nasty, bloody, crazy war where no able-bodied man was spared. And everyone took crazy risks to keep things functional.
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I knew my moms grandpa had died young (like 50-55) but never knew how. apparently, a cop was driving drunk and way over speed limit, hit his tractor from behind which flipped over and slid over 200 feet, killing him instantly
the cop had to pay around 1000 dollars in todays money as compensation, but did not get sentenced to jail or anything else for that matter (very small town and the cop was buddy buddy with the town leaders)
Fire Singer 1 year ago
I wish I could remember more details about the story but years ago there was a cop texting on his phone and he drifted into the bike lane killing a man who was riding him bike. The cop was found not at fault because he was legally allowed to text and drive as a police officer. I was so livid because yes he might have been legally allowed to text, but I'm pretty sure it's not legal for him to drive in the bike lane, and I KNOW it's not legal for him to kill someone.
Jess Smith 1 year ago
ah you sweet innocent child cops can do anything here in the us
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Kira Okah 1 year ago
OP is a Finnish native from Finland, judging by their other posts.
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Ex-Coworker “has a few bodies to the list” and that he was an ex gang member/door knocker. He also told me when he was on “vacation” back home in “Samoa”, he was really back in Utah getting revenge on the dude who shot up his apartment when he was living there. Amazing family man and great guy but after hearing all that , I couldn’t help but see him in a new light and take him a little more seriously since he was really goofy and free going, almost like a class clown type. He’s got my back like a brother but me and him are of two different worlds and mindsets after such a revelation.
Alexandra 1 year ago
Until there's a misunderstanding and things start happening....
Load More Replies... Piwakawaka 1 year ago
Again, this should have been reported. Revenge or not, killing is not ok.
Nikki Gross 1 year ago
You've obviously never known any gangbangers, dealers or motorcycle clubs. Since my Dad was killed in 1984, due to a variety of personal reasons, I have spent 40 years living and going to school in the Hood and around a notorious MC. Trust me, not all of those guys are blowing smoke up your a*s when they talk about "Kill Counts."
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#21
Chicago detective told me how they would wrap a dry cleaner bag over someone’s face to get them to sign a confession.
DC 1 year ago
"Waterboarding", making it wet? A wet cloth ... is more than it appears. FEELS like you're actually drowning. After I saw Christopher Hitchens bail out pretty quickly, I decided I'd try that myself and ... yes, it does feel like you're drowning. Don't consider it no torture just because it looks like a bathroom routine. It is.
HTakeover 1 year ago
This is suffocation via plastic bag; covering the nose/mouth and physically preventing someone from breathing. A very different thing. The first is outright k!lling the person.
Load More Replies... Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
Before the mid-1980s, police work was more brutal—-toward those in custody, I mean. “Confessions” were literally beaten out of people, and other methods of what honestly constitutes torture were used, just to be able to mark a case closed, even though it wasn’t actually solved. Then there was a reform movement that helped change things. More women became officers and detectives, bringing with them a different and highly effective style of actually listening to people which helps them feel like they can talk to the police, instead of the usual adversarial relationship many of them had with the cops. Additionally, both police and forensic science became the most useful tools to catch criminals, instead of looking for the “most likely subject” and forcing a confession out of them. Fewer innocent people were convicted, and police brutality cases decreased. Of course, there are still bad apples in the police force; dirty cops taking bribes, brutal cops using unnecessary excessive force and hurting—-and killing—-innocent people. There are also bad police departments, usually doing favors for their cronies or for the “names” in small towns, but sometimes in larger ones as well, generally towns where the local government is riddled with corruption. But at least they don’t constitute the majority anymore. Now all we have to do is break down and eliminate that stupid “brotherhood” b******t, where even good cops are “encouraged” to not expose bad cops, or their backup will take their time coming to their aid will become not just a threat but a dangerous reality. We did the right thing forty-odd years ago by removing the old style brutal policing, but we didn’t finish the job by removing all the old style brutal cops, as well as not hiring new brutal cops to replace them.
DC 1 year ago (edited)
That's right. In general, the time spent and the content of specific education seems to vary in a rather broad fashion, as in concentration of appliance of force, aided and unaided, lethal and nonlethal, take up a lot of scarce place, that therefore is absorbed-off of other subjectery, such as psychology, nonviolent interrogation and intervention. There's an imbalance in every state that makes the police appear weaker to some, as it is a strictly defensive, on-call rather than present-anyway sort of service, by its very and defining nature so. Prevention is, within this frame, to be considered an extension of purely reactive means, still qualifies as such if the intent is of reactive nature - prevent crime rather than create and then defeat some, to state an extreme of the wrongest sort, but the one clearest in opposition to the target. That, and the restrictions put in place that serious criminals just don't apply to themselves, but are essential in remaining a state that values and protects the rights of its citizens before anything else, even before issuing blanket absolveries towards people based on their job title - "He didn't do no wrong, cos a Cop can't do no wrong! It's forbidden to them, too!" - yeah, sure is, but regardless, it's too. To everything, for that matter.
Load More Replies... Rowan Kohler 1 year ago
Police interrogation tactics and techniques are horribly out of date and a lot of what they use is based on junk science. I won’t even get into the problematic practices and treatment of innocent people and victims and the things cops can absolutely get away with doing with little recourse for the people they are supposed serve and protect.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
People are evil and mean, just because someone is in law enforcement doesn't mean they are good people, there are as many bad cops as there are good cops.
#22
So, I once had a friend confess to me that they had a secret relationship with their married boss. It wasn't just a fling either; it went on for years. They’d sneak around, have secret rendezvous, and even go on fake business trips together. The worst part? The boss's spouse had no idea and thought everything was perfectly fine.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
And that boss would fire an employee for doing the same thing at work also unless they knew what he was up to. Same goes for cops, they pull people over for drunk driving ( which they should) and most of them do the same thing when they are off duty, I've seen this 1st hand when the chief of police in my home town and his whole crew would drink like sailors at our bowling league and leave after that driving home highly intoxicated.
#23
My cousin died of an overdose several years ago. He was awesome and I loved him very much. Recently my aunt told me that when he was in the ambulance on the way to the hospital she was trying to get ahold of anyone in the family because she was panicking and just needed someone. She couldn’t reach my aunts and called my dad. When he answered and she, obviously really emotional and worked up, said “[my son] just overdosed and is on the way to the hospital!!!” My dad responded by yelling at her “WHAT THE F**K DO YOU WANT ME TO DO ABOUT IT?!” I knew she was telling the truth because he did the same thing to me when I called him several years ago upset about something. He never apologized when he found out he didn’t make it either.
My dad is a really complicated person. Sometimes he’s a good dude and sometimes he’s a complete bastard. It’s so hard and confusing having a parent like that.
Rowan Kohler 1 year ago
People aren’t complicated. I’ve never met one that truly was complicated. I’ve met plenty that complicate others lives because they’re just not good people. As soon as you see that a person is what they are it’s easier to avoid them complicating the ones that don’t deserve it.
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
With each story about a $hitty father I read, the more I'm glad I grew up without one, especially while knowing my sperm donor is also a "complicated person" prone to alcoholism.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
Sorry, OP, but what he said to your aunt completely negates any “good dude” aspects. He’s an asshöle. Any “good dude” shít he does is ONLY to make him feel good about himself/get praise from others/allow him to feel superior. I know this because my mother is the same exact kind of person.
iseefractals 1 year ago
Ever dealt with an addict and the person excusing/enabling their behavior? The addict comes around and money or items go missing, but the parent/sibling/partner/friend is there to defend them to the ends of the earth "couldn't have been my precious angel, they'd never do such a thing" They squander opportunities that others have gone out on a limb to provide them, with zero remorse or awareness, and the "enabler" is there to turn it around on you. Totaled cars, arrests, lawyer fees, late night calls to be bailed out...and just as many frantic calls from the enabler...who never wants advice on how to fix the underlying problem, but only to mitigate the consequences of that underlying problem. You cannot help someone who doesn't want to be helped...and you're not obligated to continue giving emotional bandwidth to those people when those people have caused you nothing but stress, pain and loss, often for many years.
Richienotsorich 1 year ago
Bipolar? Autistic? Poor coper? Maybe someone who's ust had enough of being the one every comes to when they've got a problem? Easy to write people off without understanding what they're going through.
Florence O'Grady 1 year ago
The father sounds like he would be diagnosed as being Bipolar (Manic/Depressive), if he would willingly go to a psychiatrist.
Tristin Roholt 1 year ago
There sure is a lot of black-and-white thinking in these comments. Sometimes we need to check ourselves.
#24
Being ordered to shoot civilians instead of moving them to another location, digging a snow cave too deep to purposely have it collapse on a commanding officer. I haven’t been able to verify these drunken confessions and wouldn’t really know where to start.
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
It was a righteous thing to do, though. And such stories should be shared because too many people see the army as honorable guardian angels who only punish bad guys.
#25
Someone confessed they never wash their jeans. like ever. still can't decide if it's genius or gross.
Pedantic Panda 1 year ago
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/fashion/levis-ceo-explains-why-you-should-never-wash-your-jeans-a6881031.html
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pipboo@live.co.uk 1 year ago
I've heard that freezing them works. Personally I'm so messy that I need to wash them to remove my dinner/toothpaste/mud etc!
Johnny McFearless 1 year ago
I actually read in many places over the internet and in some magazines that jeans are never to be washed. It seems like one of those silly pieces of advice that roam the world, and some people obviously believe it.
Nikki Gross 1 year ago
I'm sorry, but I was way to active to not wash my jeans. Especially, with some of the jobs I've had, if I didn't wash them they would probably be able to stand up and walk on their own.
Pedantic Panda 1 year ago
Supported by the CEO of Levi's; https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/fashion/levis-ceo-explains-why-you-should-never-wash-your-jeans-a6881031.html
Alro 1 year ago
From what I understand, it's if you want to achieve the worn out effect. Other than that, as the article says "Compared to a new pair of dry jeans, the smell of a well-worn pair just before wash is a completely different matter. It's a smell that could most probably raise the dead. But it's most definitely the smell of a winner." Sorry not sorry, I'll wash
Load More Replies... Rowan Kohler 1 year ago
Levi’s the father of blue jeans actually agrees. People get crazy when it comes to things. Levi recommends to retain shape and color and longevity to spot clean jeans unless for some reason they were completely submerged in sewage or something, constantly washing clothes does make them as clean as people thinking and the moment you put them away they’re in contact with everything from your house again the only difference is now they are wearing away quicker and the fragrance. Just put a drier sheet or two in the closet where you hand them when not in use.
Alro 1 year ago
The article also says "Compared to a new pair of dry jeans, the smell of a well-worn pair just before wash is a completely different matter. It's a smell that could most probably raise the dead. But it's most definitely the smell of a winner."
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 1 year ago
I want that lion ring. Also ew, swampass and crotch runoff - what is wrong with this person?!
#26
My boss faked his qualifications entirely.
Donna Peluda 1 year ago
At least he faked it. My Bosses seem to proud of the fact they have no qualifications and haven't read a book in their lives.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
We had a principal appointed where I taught who had no degrees in education, no professional licenses, and no experience. It was worse that you might think. Much worse, in fact.
Load More Replies... Stephanie Did It 1 year ago
Mine did too. He was a gate/parking security guard whose executive-level wife got him bumped into a management position in IT. Any tech-related task he was ordered to resolve, he gave to me. He was a total misogynist. One year the CEO commended me, so he (boss) stripped me of a nearly $2000 year end bonus. Why? Because he could.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
Most bosses do not know very much about a job anyway, they are just paid people watchers that report to the next higher paid person in line; kinda like pro ball players, most coaches weren't even half as good as the highly paid players they "Coach", these guys are the best of the best they need no one telling them how to play.
#27
A friend once confessed they enjoy eating pizza with mayonnaise on top.
Ellie Vanille 1 year ago
Okay, I confess: I enjoy eating pizza with pineapples on top. Phew, I feel better now that's off my chest.
MC Scott 1 year ago
Hello, friend! I will happily split a Hawaiian pizza with you :-)
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Jayeff Vee 1 year ago
Maybe I can understand mayonnaise on pizza, but I'm having a really hard time with the amount in the photo.
The explanation 1 year ago
Mayonnaise on a sandwich with something else is what I am begging you meant
Load More Replies... MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
I eat mayo(DUKES) on everything from pizza to hamburger steak to dipping potato chips and cheetos in it, don't knock it until you try it
#28
Had a roommate show me an article in the local section of the city newspaper, it was about a young man killed outside of a club. He had gotten into a fight and the other person punched him and he then fell and hit his head on the curb and later died. The incident had happened a year prior and they were still looking for the suspect.
Roommate told me it was him, he had punched the dude. He had a bad temper and I believed him.
Fire Singer 1 year ago
Not at all disagreeing with you, because that would 100% be my next move, but unless there is more proof than just "my roommate said he did it" sadly it won't do any good. Verbal admission is really hard to prove without it being recorded or authorities hearing it themselves. I don't know how someone could NOT tell the cops though because yikes!
Load More Replies... Rowan Kohler 1 year ago
Knowledge of a crime that was confessed to you and was concealed from law enforcement by the offender is a crime in itself if it’s not reported.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
And if the guy "was" defending himself, and punched the dude that hit him first, fell and hit his head and died , the cops would have arrested him for murder when all he was doing was defending himself, people don't think about how one little punch could kill a person, may not be from the punch its self but from a fall just like this one.
Sophia Athene 1 year ago
I thought you were talking about an incident exactly like that and happened between a dude and a student in my college. Student died but the other guy was arrested. He wasn't going far since a large number of people witnessed it.
#29
My dad being involved in gangs when I was a baby. They were both crack heads and my dad made friends with one of them who would help pay our bills we were behind on. My mom said one night he came in his shoes were all bloody and he wouldn’t speak a word to her about it.
Alexandra 1 year ago
Well, Bertold Brecht knew what he was talking about when he said 'food first, morals later'.
Gen.Stal 1 year ago
I wasn't expecting someone quoting Brecht here, awesome!
Load More Replies... Nikki Gross 1 year ago (edited)
Oh, S**t! I remember when I was 14 I along with a couple of other people were hanging out at my friends house one night. His Dad was a member of an infamous Motorcycle Club, so we were all used to weird s**t happening. We're chilling out when we hear his Dad's Harley pull up and 5 minutes later there is a tapping on my friend's bedroom window. His Dad had popped out the screen and gave my friend his Shotgun through the window and told him to put it under his bed. His Dad and some of the other MC had just went and shot up an opps (opposing/enemy) Club/D**g house and he didn't want my friend's Mom to know what he had just done. It was pretty hilarious that this big tough biker was more worried about his wife, my friend's Mom bitching him out then a rival MC. After His Mom went to bed, Dad came in and got the Shotgun and stashed it back to where it was supposed to be so his Mom wouldn't find out until later.
MalibuClassicMan 1 year ago
robbing and killing is part of the life style, anything to get their fix of this terrible addiction.
#30
When my dad was younger, he joined the air force. His mother, my grandmother, who I couldn't stand, almost had a nervous breakdown because she was afraid he would go over seas.
I found out, from a very reliable source, that she actually prayed that something would happen to him to him to prevent him from going over seas.
About 6 months into his enlistment, he was struck with a crippling disease that caused him to have to spend the rest of his life in a wheel chair.
Smitty Werbenjagermanjensen 1 year ago
There is a difference between causation and correlation.
nuberiffic 1 year ago
Obviously the prayer didn't cause the condition. The post is that she wanted something bad to happen.
Load More Replies... UKGrandad 1 year ago (edited)
God: "Hmm, I've received endless prayers begging me to stop the senseless slaughter down there, and..oh, what's this?...AHH, a woman wants me to intervene on behalf of just one person. Bless her heart, she wants me to cause him enough harm that he, and he alone, is saved. What to do? Hey, Jesus, flip a coin for me. Heads I put an end to war, tails I let it carry on but cripple this one guy so his mum gets him back".
Richienotsorich 1 year ago
Isn't this typical of Old Testament God though? Has the power to end World Wars but would rather cripple one man to teach his mum a lesson! 😆
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UKGrandad 1 year ago (edited)
Sanctified, not Christened. EDIT: Downvoted for pointing out that saints are created by being sanctified? Did you used to boo your teachers when they corrected your mistakes?
Load More Replies...Secrets can form a delicate balance in relationships. Trust, as essential as it is, can sometimes be overshadowed by hidden truths. Reflecting on this, the dad who realized the secret relationship between his son and his male friend exemplifies how a nurturing environment can foster open communication. Understanding how a caring attitude led him to address his son's hidden relationship indirectly allows us to see the power of acceptance and love in revealing truths in family dynamics.
Exploring family acceptance can offer insights on how honesty thrives in supportive environments.
#31
I was at work, owners bff came in and got absolutely hammered, she must have had something in her purse cus i hadnt served that much… she then tells me she had relations with her bffs dad, my bosses dad, and made me promise not to tell anyone and i never have until this right here…. Ugh.
ConstantlyJon 1 year ago
this one isn't super crazy awful. probably not great for their friendship but sounds like adults being adults.
#32
While driving a sweet old lady in my senior citizens center home one afternoon about two years ago she told me that she served 7 years in prison for manslaughter, causing the death of her boyfriend, then added that she would kill me if I told anyone. .
#33
An ex friend of mine, sleeps with her biological aunts, husband. She often spends time with their family as well. She f***s her cousins dad and still goes to dinner and family vacations with them.
HTakeover 1 year ago
Punctuation messed me up for a hot minute. OP means their bio aunt's husband, so Uncle-in-law of sorts. I initially read that as sleeping with bio aunt, and with bio aunt's husband.
BoredPossum 1 year ago
So not related by blood? Still wrong of course but not as odd as I thought.
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General Anaesthesia 1 year ago
A family that plays together stays together. The "p" is silent.
#34
That my ex’s dad cheated on his wife multiple times throughout their years of marriage. It was his dad who told me. She doesn’t know. Given the multiple red flags about him I’d say it makes sense. He doesn’t treat her super well IMO, but then again relationships to me look different than theirs might be.
#35
There’s a LOT of messiness in my family. I found out my uncle (mom’s brother) was a surprise, forcing my then 20-year-old grandmother to marry my jerk of a grandfather out of wedlock. I also learned my half-uncle (dad’s half brother) was in prison because he murdered a man with a table leg in a d**g deal gone bad. For some reason, the wedlock thing freaked me out more because that side of the family always tries to act perfect??
#36
My coworker would trauma dump on me. I'm not sure why people are attracted to me and always tell me their darkest secrets. I never asked to be their therapist. She told me she used to work for the 3 letter agency and they would do hardcore d***s on weekends with coworkers/friends REGULARLY I'm not talking about weed I'm talking white powdery kind. NEVER GOT CAUGHT. I'm baffled. Here i am on the straight and narrow when I could have experiemented. With my luck I would have been caught so some people are just born to be lucky.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
That is not a trauma dump. Trust me on that. Also - there are a lot of 3 letter agencies.
Lexi 1 year ago
Yeah, not a trauma dump. A friend once told me her first husband raped her as she was about to head to work, he did it so she could go. When she told her mother she was blamed and told to sort her marriage out. This is true and more of a trauma dump than some idiot doing powder.
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚 1 year ago
I was going to say, "But which 3 letter agency? There are a few of them." But then I realized I wouldn't be surprised at any of them doing this. They have the means to hide their crimes.
Michael Danhauer 1 year ago
Coke is lame. Everyone blabs their a*s off and no one can remember a single word afterwards. You dance like a dervish on that stuff at the club tho lol.
Bette 1 year ago
How can you say "... some people are just born to be lucky ." when hard d***s are concerned? You do realize that there is a reason why they are illegal, right?
UKGrandad 1 year ago
Lucky because they don't have to pay for the coke; they just siphon it off from what they confiscate.
Load More Replies... DC 1 year ago
That white powdery stuff is vastly overrated anyway. Disappointed upon trying, employing it for so-called "Kofferklausuren" in Uni (you were allowed to bring any paper, book, etc with you - memorizing formula wasn't key here, but understanding principles and applying known concepts - THAT stuff, coce does improve, but sets it off at least partially by making you thirsty and accelerating metabolism of everything, and along every other body function, rendering you constantly in need of a toilet. If you dope to an exam - I'd say, use a diaper as well, as to not overcompensate the desired effects.
Magenta Blu 1 year ago
People often tell me more than I ever want to. I may have a trauma/secrets sign above my head. I'm not a therapist, or a priest, i started avoiding people because of this. I really don't want or need to hear about other people's darkest secrets, the world is an enough twisted place already
#37
My friend told me that her bf, who's 30 years older than her, beat her during Christmas break because he thought she cheated on him.
Miki 1 year ago
Classic. I know two woman's who have daddy issues and are with MUCH older guys. Both are super a******s who treat them very badly.
Cee 1 year ago
By “both are a******s” do you mean their dads? IMO we try to shame women who have “daddy issues” instead of the fathers that could be the cause of their insecurity, constant need for approval, etc. And, to be clear, I’m not saying that all people who date/marry much older/younger people have some sort of trauma. Everyone’s story is completely different from the next
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My father told me a story about his ex and how she was crazy. They were young and she wanted to have one of his children so anytime after they had sex she would do a handstand against the wall butt a*s naked so she would get pregnant. This was a huge red flag but he continued to stay with her for a few years after... and she did eventually get pregnant.
Florapocalypse 1 year ago
So... he didn't think to use condoms, knew she wanted his kid, and stayed with her despite this? He doesn't sound great in this story either.
Hobby Hopper 1 year ago
Right? She wanted to have a child with him, and that's crazy? That's probably a majority of couples.
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Karina 1 year ago
My grandma confessed to me that during ww2, she hunted down, killed and ate her best friends cats. I was just a little kid, so I asked her why?? She said she did it before they could do it them self. Everyone was close to starvation and they needed the meat. She looked so sad 😪
Steve Hall 1 year ago
That's probably true, my dad told me similar stories about growing up in the 1930s and 40s.
Load More Replies... Kira Okah 1 year ago
I've heard multiple people posting that they were ordered to commit war crimes, dutifully carried them out, and when someone would point out "Dude, that is a War Crime", two of them for definite replied along the lines of "Yes, but you do it anyway. It's the military, tht is what you do." These were all posted on one of the map chats on SWtOR. I've seen war crime confessions on that one single map over 10 times.
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚 1 year ago (edited)
1. Soldiers are deliberately brainwashed to obey the orders of their superiors without question. That's what basic training is FOR. To break you down and rebuild you into what they want you to be and condition you to react in predictable ways. 2. In the middle of a war, refusal to obey orders, if you have a horrible commanding officer, might get you "killed in an accident". While the soldiers have some of the blame for not refusing, the primary crime lays on the shoulders of commanding officers who issue immoral and illegal orders. Remember that the common soldier is deliberately honed to be a tool for those giving the orders. Ironically, when anyone is held accountable for such crimes, it's rarely the officers left holding the bag.
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Piwakawaka 1 year ago
These just tick me off because many are crimes that should be reported to the police, but the person didn't report it.
Karina 1 year ago
My grandma confessed to me that during ww2, she hunted down, killed and ate her best friends cats. I was just a little kid, so I asked her why?? She said she did it before they could do it them self. Everyone was close to starvation and they needed the meat. She looked so sad 😪
Steve Hall 1 year ago
That's probably true, my dad told me similar stories about growing up in the 1930s and 40s.
Load More Replies... Kira Okah 1 year ago
I've heard multiple people posting that they were ordered to commit war crimes, dutifully carried them out, and when someone would point out "Dude, that is a War Crime", two of them for definite replied along the lines of "Yes, but you do it anyway. It's the military, tht is what you do." These were all posted on one of the map chats on SWtOR. I've seen war crime confessions on that one single map over 10 times.
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚 1 year ago (edited)
1. Soldiers are deliberately brainwashed to obey the orders of their superiors without question. That's what basic training is FOR. To break you down and rebuild you into what they want you to be and condition you to react in predictable ways. 2. In the middle of a war, refusal to obey orders, if you have a horrible commanding officer, might get you "killed in an accident". While the soldiers have some of the blame for not refusing, the primary crime lays on the shoulders of commanding officers who issue immoral and illegal orders. Remember that the common soldier is deliberately honed to be a tool for those giving the orders. Ironically, when anyone is held accountable for such crimes, it's rarely the officers left holding the bag.
Load More Replies... Piwakawaka 1 year ago
These just tick me off because many are crimes that should be reported to the police, but the person didn't report it.
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