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40 Shocking Comments That Completely Changed How People Viewed Their Partners
When you’re dating someone, there is often a moment when things click. A moment of realization of just how much you like the person, or maybe even love them, and just how easily you can imagine a future with them. Right there—that’s when you truly know that they’re your person.
As monumental as such a moment is, a similarly strong realization can turn things the other way around. In one brief moment, you can also become painfully aware that the person you’re with is not someone you should be with at all.
Members of the ‘Ask Reddit’ community recently shared examples of both of the above in a thread started by one curious netizen. The latter asked redditors for something their partners or ex-partners said that changed the way they looked at them, and people had plenty of stories to share about how their relationships changed—for better or worse—after just one conversation.
On the list below you will also find Bored Panda’s interview with a clinical psychologist and marriage and family therapist, Dr. Randi Gunther, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions on relationships and the role honesty plays in them.
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#1
For me I guess it’s more confirmed than changed. My husband and I were at an amusement park recently with friends and their eight year old daughter who had gone through cancer treatment. She got on a daring ride that did loops and they told her she had to get off, even if she took off her prosthetic. She just looked at her parents and said “does this mean I can never go on upside down rides?” They were distracted and didn’t quite hear her or know what to do.
My husband said “f**k this, I’m not going to let her think that, time to be a Karen.” And he looked up the ADA and safety regulations on his phone, talked to every manager at the park, and then- even though he gets extremely motion sick- rode the ride with her after they agreed it actually was safe for her to do it.
It was the sexiest thing I have ever seen a person do.
Party in the Head 11 months ago (edited)
Probably one of the rare valid reasons to be a Karen
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similarly 11 months ago
I don't see this as being a "Karen". It's being a hero to that girl. It was the RIGHT thing to do.
Janissary35680 11 months ago (edited)
I totally agree. A Karen wouldn't have put themselves out by going on the ride even though they suffer from motion sickness.
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Rob D 11 months ago (edited)
I wish people would distinguish between complaining, selfish, ball-breaking Karen's and literally everyone else with a valid grievance. Were suffragettes Karen's? Civil rights marchers? We watched the BLM movement get pushed into "just loud karening" by every conservative media outlet. Let's nip this s**t in the bud right now. All Karens are complainers; not all "complainers" are karens. I liked this term when it painted a very clear picture of a white, entitled, republican c**t with a bone to pick and acting like it at the expense of a service worker they have no human(e) interest in, in spite of what their church attendance deludes them into. Not a catchall for anyone who speaks up.
Anyone-for-tea? 11 months ago
That’s what bugs me too! When you try and hold a company to account for failing to provide a service / goods etc, it’s not being a Karen to stand up for your statutory rights in consumer law. The next one coming is car finance agreements!
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Christine Stewart 11 months ago
Some rides actually do depend on a person's weight being distributed in a specific pattern to hold them in the seats, even with the seat restraints. In 2011, a war veteran with double leg amputations was allowed on a roller coaster, he fell out and died, and the family did sue the amusement park, even though the man had wanted to go on the ride. I am glad things worked out for this little girl, but please don't hate on the ride operators for trying to avert a possible tragedy!
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#2
I started dating my boyfriend 4 months ago but it got pretty serious pretty fast. I am traveling across the country to see my family for the holidays and have mentioned how much I would love for him to join us. He just celebrates with friends so I didn’t think it would be a huge deal for him to miss a year. He dodged the question the first time it came up but told me last week “I really want to, but if I go with you for Thanksgiving, Steve won’t have anyone to celebrate with”
Steve is his 70 year old coworker. My boyfriend has had him over for Thanksgiving for the last 7 years because he doesn’t have family to spend it with, and he cannot bear the thought of leaving him here to celebrate alone.
I have always admired my boyfriend’s commitment to the village he has made for himself but that conversation really put it into perspective for me. I have a feeling he won’t be coming to my family’s Thanksgiving for as long as Steve is around… and honestly I love and admire him so, so much for it. He is such an incredible person.
Sergio Bicerra 11 months ago
Lets hope Steve doesn't have any health issues that forbids him from travelling, if not, I'm sure the Op may think about that.
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Rahul Pawa 11 months ago
There's one simple solution to this problem: take Steve to your family's Thanksgiving too!
Kali Chaos 11 months ago
That's absolutely beautiful, the world needs more people with that kind of empathy and compassion.
#3
“He seemed sorry enough”
It was when I was assaulted by someone and in my panic I left my keys there. I was too afraid to get them back so my ex had to meet the guy who assaulted me to get the keys back. My ex said “he seemed sorry enough” after the meeting.
My ex for almost a month made me re-explain what happened nonstop. Eventually he flat out said he didn’t believe me. His mom was a police officer, she also blamed me.
Eventually I ended up meeting someone randomly and in my “f**k the world” downward spiral I told this stranger what happened to me. He told me I didn’t deserve it, hugged me, and apologized.
If a STRANGER can show more kindness than someone who says they love me, what the f**k?
I broke up with my ex that night.
Enuya 11 months ago (edited)
And that (the mother) is the reason why I think that people wanting to work in police should have some sort of empathy tests done. The fact that she's a woman makes it even worse (not because of her gender but because it's likely that she was in a similar situation)
XenoMurph 11 months ago
Graf666Orlok, the best police I know are empathetic and kind. You seem the opposite of that. I'll let you know an address where you can post your toes.
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whodunnitfan2013 11 months ago
Getting blamed by people who should have helped you. Been there, done that. Many times.
Beth Wheeler 11 months ago
For your boyfriend and his mother a cop to blame you. OMG are you freaking kidding me, what is wrong with them especially her? Nobody deserves to be attacked and it is NOT YOUR FAULT!!! You deserve so much better.
Lena Flising 11 months ago
Sorry enough, for what? To have attacked a fellow human being, and disregarded her rights, her feelings, wants and needs completely? Has he appologized to HER? Or was it just the then BF he appologized to, in the old idiocy of "Sorry, I didn't know whe was taken"? The EX forced her to relive the assault again and again and again? Good for her to meet the stranger, at least.
Miranda Veracruz de la Joya Cardenal 11 months ago
2 wrongs don't make a right, not even on boolean mathematics
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Discussing the role honesty plays in relationships, clinical psychologist, marriage and family therapist Dr. Randi Gunther noted that many couples are authentic and open in some areas but not in all. Some people might have secrets, even from their partner, while others might appreciate their privacy too much to share every detail of their lives.
“Secrecy is different from privacy,” Dr. Gunther pointed out. “A secret means that one partner is distributing the resources of the relationship, for example, financial, sexual, availability, time, energy, options, and focus, without the knowledge of the other, that impacts the life of the partner not able to vote.
“Privacy may include things like private conversations with good friends, sexual fantasies, trauma from earlier relationships, humiliating decisions made in the past that do not affect the current relationship.”
#4
I think it's actually his response to the results of the election. I always have known he was a liberal and a Democrat. He supported Harris, but wasn't too vocal about it. After the results, he was devastated. He talked about his fears for women and immigrants, and he's been just crying for two days. He's now talked about how we need to support women more and what we can do for our immigrant neighbours.
I guess, I always knew he was a great guy. But now I am realizing, deep inside, he's a f*****g phenomenal guy. So glad I married this amazing human. He's an ally to all of us.
justagirl 11 months ago
welll...the orange devil is already nearly eighty...so maybe he'll keel over halfway through the term?
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Miranda Veracruz de la Joya Cardenal 11 months ago
Everytime I hear people saying it's just politics, it's not, it's morality. You can't have good morals and support felon47. You can have all the arguments in the world, but you can't ever win the moral argument if you supported an actual criminal
Rathoren 11 months ago
Why does everyone ONLY mention being a criminal when hes a pedo, a ra*ist, racist psychopath and so many more things....
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Deborah B 11 months ago
As a non-American - we were watching your election too. I'm so sorry for your loss. Harris looked like she would have been good for you.
Amanda H 11 months ago
❤️ Please hug him for me.... We need to hear these stories.. A parent with a transgender child
GPawesomeness 11 months ago
The children need to not be MUTILATED, what is wrong with you people?
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lula mura 11 months ago (edited)
Russia spent 69 million euros to finance a large-scale propaganda and interference campaign targeting Bulgaria and Romania (a group of Bulgarian cybersecurity experts, BG Elves, reveals, reports the Bulgarian website novinite.com). Sooo...Don't you think it's plausible that there are Russian influences in support of a candidate who opposes supporting the war in Ukraine and who has Putin on speed dial?
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Before we got married my MIL was making oblique comments about changing my last name to my husband's.
We had talked about it, and I was leaning towards keeping my maiden name due to sheer laziness. His parents are pushy and can be weird about this sort of thing so the prodding was getting annoying and my husband noticed.
He told his mom: "I fell in love with FirstName - MaidenName, i don't have any idea who FirstName-HisLastName is, I'm marrying the woman I fell in love with"
When I tell you that I SWOONED. I wasn't expecting a declaration, and it was so validating, supportive, and just generally gave me this overwhelming feeling of "damn. I loved this guy before but he SEES me!"
It made me feel like a partner, an equal, like my agency was the most important thing to him and that he would actively protect and advocate for it in the marriage...
From then on I had strong feelings about keeping my name, and even stronger feelings for him. It was a small thing, but hearing how he considered me in that moment was the most attractive thing he's ever done and he's lived up to that standard since, it's also been an inspiration for me to meet him at that high bar as well. 😍
Skip62 11 months ago
Really! I was expecting everything to be bad. The nice stories are a pleasant surprise.
Load More Replies... ucp 11 months ago
My then-fiancée said she wasn’t going to take my surname because she would become alliterative, and the name would sound silly. I told her that it was her decision. I was simply happy to get married to her. In the event she took my name. The main thing is that we got married, and hav stayed married.
Lew k 11 months ago
My wife kept her maiden name. I couldn't even understand why people thought I would be bothered by it. The only weird thing is everyone assumes we are divorced or not married when opening accounts or signing documents. They thought we were divorced co parents at my kids school for several years but it's awkward to ask.
katiekat0214 11 months ago
Keeping your FAMILY name isn't lazy, it's practical. You lose any and all professional name recognition that you built up. You have to change an insane number of things, like credit cards, mailing lists, and on and on. Keeping it should be the default, because it's your name as the default. I changed mine with first husband, really just didn't like it. Changed back, and haven't looked back at all. I'm Ms. Me, not Mrs. Him.
María Hermida 11 months ago
Why do women keep on changing their surname when they marry? It's so incredibly demeaning! We are not property!
Carla Pereira Chagas 11 months ago
Is very hard for me to understand how in some countries this is still a thing. I'm from Uruguay and no woman even considers to change her name for their husband's and it's been this way for many decades. It upsets me how this practice isn't considere to be mysoginist.
Learner Panda 11 months ago
Some years ago (UK) it was customary for the wife to take both the husband's surname *and* surname. So Miss Jane Smith would become Mrs John Brown, for example. My MIL said I would have to change all my paperwork to suit this custom. I said "he has changed my surname, he's not getting my first name too!"
Klara Lorinczi 11 months ago
I’ve always said to my friends and family that the best way to test a man’s stand on women’s rights is to bring up the issue of last name after marriage. If he truly believes you’re an equal partner, his stand on last name will reveal his true beliefs. Many men claim they believe in equal rights but when it comes to marriage, all of a sudden you’re not equal and his last name is more important than yours. There are very few truly good men in this world. As parents we MUST stop teaching our sons that they are better than our daughters. It starts at home.
Be it revealing secrets, talking about life in general, or discussing sensitive issues with a partner, it’s important to be tactful and respectful, no matter how close or good the relationship is.
“Intimacy is highly correlated with authenticity but tact and diplomacy must be present,” Dr. Gunther emphasized. “When partners are best friends, they want to protect each other from the outside world and often are the only ones who will tell each other the truth. But ‘you are getting fat,’ will never go over as well as, ‘I’m concerned about your weight gain. Are you okay with it?’.”
#6
Not said but done. She found someone's debit card and used it to buy gas. She then called her friends and family so they could drain the card and fill thier tanks. I knew i had to cut her off.
Tiger 11 months ago
I dropped my debit card in a parking lot a few months ago and someone used it to spend almost $300 - which was all the money I had :( I couldn’t stop crying. Luckily my bank reimbursed me but it qas such an awful feeling, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
Tamra 11 months ago
It is a very sick feeling. Someone once stole our credit card info many years ago. It was in December, and they drained our account just before Christmas. We were fortunate to have a bank that took it seriously and reimbursed us.
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ZuriLovesYou 11 months ago
This sounds like some sort of fraud or identity theft or something.
Nitka Tsar 11 months ago
What IS a debit card? How come you can use that without any pin? And why would anyone have so much money on it if anyone could just steal and use it without any identification?
Janissary35680 11 months ago
Upvoted because it's a fair question. A debit card can be used to make payments like a credit card but instead of deducting the payments from your credit limit it deducts them from the balance of the bank account that the card's linked to. If the balance is insufficient, the payment is rejected (unless the card has an overdraft). Think of a debit card as a kind of checking account that bounces bad checks immediately. As for the PIN: My cards have single and per-day limits that allow under-limit payments to be made w/o the need for a PIN. $300 does seem like too high a limit for someone for whom that's "all the money" they had, so that part of the story is a bit suspect.
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C Cobb 11 months ago
I used to be a bartender and tried an experiment several times to prove how dishonest and selfish people are. I'd place an empty Visa gift card on the floor near the pool tables before my shift started, and I just waited for some rando to try to use it to pay their tab. To my utter shock and amazement, every person who found it brought it to the bar and told me that someone lost their card and wanted to make sure they got it back. EVERY SINGLE PERSON.
GPawesomeness 11 months ago
She, her friends and family did this theft and you just now see this immorality in her?
#7
My ex was feeling under the weather and was telling me he needed to get over the counter medication and he had no idea what to get.
I was a nurse and recommended something, including how/when he should take it.
He scoffed, “You’re a nurse, a doctor’s assistant. You’re not even a pharmacist.”
I realized he didn’t respect me, or nurses, at all. We broke up a month after.
SD 11 months ago (edited)
Maybe the next time he's in the hospital for a few days, only doctors should check in on him (nothing against doctors, of course)
LadySparre 11 months ago
Only being checked up by doctors would make that a very lonely and surreal hospital experience. Doctors don't have a clue about the primary care of patients. And I should know, because I'm a Doctor myself..
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Patrick H 11 months ago
My mom was a nurse. I always consulted her before consulting a doctor.
ScootyPuffJr 11 months ago
Nurses have always been more helpful than doctors in my experience. They listen and honestly seem to know more (probably because they listen!).
Load More Replies... Jon Steensen 11 months ago
well my experience from the hospitals are that it is the nurses that run the show and they know a thing or two about how to get things done. So I have nothing but respect for them, as it can't be an easy job to have.
Dusty's mom 11 months ago
OK, so his boss knows why he's doing the work he does, but doesn't tell him because "he's just a worker"? Most people have a pretty good grasp on why they do their jobs, and can explain it to the general public. No way would I want nurses who don't know why they do the things they do for patients! Good job tossing his sorry tush out the door!
Bonnie Edwards 11 months ago
A good nurse is the one person that will keep an over-tired Doctor from killing you. (I have 2 nurses in my family and several other medical people).
#8
My beloved dog passed away after a year of me caretaking for him through kidney disease and cancer. I did everything I could to keep him feeling as well as possible is his last months, and keep him doing his favourite things (I’d push all 80 lbs of him in a wagon to the park just so he could lie in the sun). I rearranged my job so I could work from home, and got overlooked for a promotion because of this. His illness and passing was truly traumatic for me.
After he passed away, my husband said “the dog passing showed me your true colours in how selfish you are”. At that moment I knew he would never have my back, through anything.
Tabitha 11 months ago
Selfish because she didn’t just let the dog suffer to pay attention to her husband. I mean, the dog was living in their home, so it was their dog, not just hers, ffs. What was he doing all those months? Pouting in the corner because he didn’t have 100% of his wife’s attention? Well, boo-f*****g-hoo buddy-ro. A*****e.
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Phantom Phoenix 11 months ago
The narcissistic version of selfish - "You weren't entirely focused on me"
Janissary35680 11 months ago
That's gotta be it. I can't make any other sense of the statement.
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October 11 months ago (edited)
Maybe we are missing some context and she kept a severely suffering animal alive for way to long just to keep her company?
MegDragon 11 months ago
I suspect he cared more about the $ from the lost promotion.
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Robert T 11 months ago
What an utter c**t. I did my best for a friend's elderly dog when I was looking after her for several weeks - tried to make everyday as nice for her as possible. She was a lovely dog and I still miss her. Still makes me smile to think of her putting her head on my knee to beg for a crisp.
Sami-Jo Ross 11 months ago
Five bucks says she was "selfish" for grieving her dog and not putting out for him.
whodunnitfan2013 11 months ago
I had people say this to me after I cared for my cat in the last week of her life. They exploited my weaknesses, and one of them even assaulted me, and someone else defended my attacker.
Deborah B 11 months ago
He might have meant "How selfish you were to keep that animal suffering for months, just because you couldn't bear to let go." If your vet recommended euthanasia and the dog was suffering, then everything you did *was* selfish.
Júlia Fortes 11 months ago
check the op post, the husband was mad the she was grieving for the dog, and not focusing on him
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“But if partners hit below the belt in a dispute by bringing up something vulnerable that the other shared in confidence, their partners are not likely to keep opening up,” she added. “Similarly, telling others those same kinds of vulnerabilities without permission will do the same.”
#9
I had an ex who I thought was totally normal. Until the first time I was with her in front of her grandparents. She was so rude and then told me afterward that she feels like the elderly are a waste and a drain on families and society. It didn’t last long after that.
Miranda Veracruz de la Joya Cardenal 11 months ago
They are the real welfare queens
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Fat Harry (Oi / You) 11 months ago
Do people like her forget that, if they're lucky enough, they will also be elderly one day?
Michael Largey 11 months ago (edited)
Well, let's fervently hope that she herself never gets old and becomes a waste or a drain on society.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 11 months ago
So I guess she wants a "Logan's Run Society". Have fun at Carnival.
Rick 11 months ago
Going to get some haters on this one. My MIL passed from dementia. She was 95. The last three years were horrible and a huge drain on her husband, my wife and me. Don't make quick decisions about people until you understand where they have been.
Vinnie 11 months ago (edited)
We don't know if the young lady hated her grandparents for their character or their age. However, you get empathy from me, as dealing with someone else's dementia can be hugely difficult. That's different from old age itself. Emotional baggage further complicates the situation (hi, Dad, and f#ck you). On the other hand, my husband's grandmother was lovable to the end. On her death bed, she wanted reassurance that the living were doing okay. After that, she pointed upwards and left to join the folks in the next world.
Load More Replies... Klara Lorinczi 11 months ago
When I was a little girl, I endured lots of abuse and bad treatment from other kids simply because my family and I were refugees and were different. The only kind people were the elderly on my street. I never forgot their kindness in a cruel world.
#10
My ex once casually mentioned that they 'don’t believe in apologizing' because they 'never do anything wrong.' That one sentence changed everything—I realized I’d never get accountability or real empathy from them.
Shark bait hoo haha 11 months ago
My ex husband said the same exact thing to me too and I was done! I told him that in order to grow as a person, he would need to take accountability for his bad actions by apologizing to both me and my son for his sharp and hateful words. That was when I realized he was a narcissist and our marriage was over.
Panda Kicki 11 months ago
That is scary, my ex said the exact same thing. When I asked him to elaborate he explained that he always did the best thing in any situation so any wrongs wasnt his fault. Later I learned that it included a lot of abuse explained with he was "stressed".
Meaghan Stewart 11 months ago
My mother never apologizes and it has caused a lot of strain in our family.
DC and S 11 months ago
An ex once told me he didn't believe in compromise. I asked for clarification and we had a full on half an hour discussion about it. I should have taken the hint. He denied ever saying it, but we had a full blown talk about it. Gaslighting was his hobby. After cheating of course.
#11
My ex told me if i ever got a cat, he’d do his best to run it over with his car because he hates cats.
That was after i told him i loved cats and wanted go volunteer in a shelter.
Karizma Kaliko 11 months ago
My husband hated cats and swore we would never have one. Even a barn cat. 14 years later, theres 2 that rule the house and a few barn kitties....says he "tolerates" them, as he is sad that one doesn't cuddle with him....
Campy 11 months ago
I've never understood the hating cats thing. It's fine if you don't like cats, it just means you're an idiot and to be pitied, but where does the hate come from? Did a cat rape their mom? Steal their pension fund and blow it at the track? My best guess is it's insecure people who hate the fact that cats are more independent and don't need people the way dogs do. I hate to admit it but I've never heard a woman say that, only men. Run my boy over and you'll be begging me to run you over and end the pain.
Jenny 11 months ago
My mum detested cats, I mean real malicious hatred. I caught her kicking one of my cats once and she was very loudly told to get the fvck out of my house and never come back.
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Smeghead Tribble Down Under 11 months ago
Hoo boy. This absolutely pressed my ''beserk button''. I WILL NOT tolerate anyone in my life who says things like that, because they will for sure see it through one day.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 11 months ago
Sociopath & Psychopath. If anyone ever tried to harm, let alone run over any of my cats, or any of the neighborhood cats, they would find their vehicle and themselves on the receiving end of; 135gr. 1000fps. projectiles, because I will be thinking that they are attempting to use their vehicle as a weapon to harm me, as I will be standing next to the cats.
Hafiz Ismail 11 months ago
My husband didn't allowed me to have another kitty when all our cats died (illness, killed). He doesn't want to see me devastated & cried a lot anymore.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 11 months ago
He is denying you the love that a pet brings into your life and the light they shine into our hearts. That is sad. Yes, we grieve when they die. I still miss my old girl who died in 2018 (she was almost 20 years old.) But I have 2 adult cats now and just got 2 kittens as well. We cannot prevent grief by denying us the love of something we adore, like having a cat. That only leads to more suffering and grief. I am sure he thinks he is doing the right thing, but he is not. It is natural and normal to mourn when a pet dies. Does he think that you should not have any friends or family members either, because you will be devastated when they die?
Load More Replies...But sometimes, honesty is not the key to a better relationship. On the contrary, it can bring it completely to a halt, as it did for some of the netizens in the stories on this list. For them, some of their partners’ honest opinions were too big of a red flag to continue the relationship.
According to Dr. Gunther, a red flag can be a deal breaker. “A relationship can be 90% perfect, but a deal breaker can live within that ten percent. Some are obvious at the beginning and, if not negotiable or resolvable, should end the relationship. But many people just can’t let go and keep pretending something will change that never will, until the relationship costs more than they can afford.
“Some deal breakers start off as simply annoying behaviors but, over time, will take the relationship down as one partner becomes ‘allergic’ to that behavior and begins to focus on it over the positives of the relationship.”
#12
My ex told me that the dinosaur bones were placed by God as a test of faith - and there was nothing I could say that would convince him otherwise. Then I realized that any potential children I had with him would likely be taught this by their father.
Wondering Alice 11 months ago
My dad said something similar when I was about 18. I was shocked, this was the dad who took me round natural history museums every October brake, arranged fossil hunts for my class and encouraged my dinosaur obsession phase which led to me following a degree in biology. So I just stared at him like he had been replaced by aliens. He got embarrassed, and told me it was the way he was raised and he couldn't shake it but he knew deep down it was wrong and he had promised himself he wouldn't tell his kids until they were old enough and knew enough to make their own decisions. I was also 20 before he told me how he voted, despite encouraging political debate. Thanks Dad! Braking the chain of generations of brainwashing can be done.
Helen Rohrlach 11 months ago
Your dad is a good man who understands that children are individual and not just little mini mes.
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Patrick H 11 months ago
Science and religion are not mutually exclusive. My dad taught me the perfect way to believe in both. He believed that evolution (and other scientific facts) was God's tools. Basically, since God is all-powerful, why couldn't he create the universe and all the physics involved and let it run it's course? Personally, I struggle with faith, but if I ever come to a firm belief in God or any religion, it will have to include my dad's explanation.
UKGrandad 11 months ago
Science and religion are incompatible because the gods have been placed beyond scientific inquiry. If you posit that a god created the Universe then you also need to explain how that god was itself created and - given that it had to exist before the Universe did - where it was created. Then, who or what created the creator turns into who or what created the creator's creator, and so on in an infinite regress.
Load More Replies... Mike F 11 months ago
Sadly, it's the company line of many "creationist" teaching denominations. They are the same ones who "tip" with one of those bills that look legit until you unfold them and find out they contain Bible tracts.
Load More Replies... Liz Mary 11 months ago
Nit all Christian religions teach this. You can believe in the evolution and the creation at the same time. The truth is, we Christians don't know how exactly God created the universe. I mean, sure, he used his force, the Holy Spirit, but how exactly! For me it was via evolution.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 11 months ago
Let me guess, he probably also believes the world is flat, we never landed on the moon, global warming is a Chinese hoax, seatbelts and helmets are not worn by "real men", women need to be subservient to men, and that drinking bleach will cure a virus. Hopefully he does last one, so that he can win the Darwin Award Championship.
Christos Arvanitis 11 months ago
Riiiiiiight. I had a born again acquaintance tell me this exact thing. I asked him about carbon dating and he said, "Oh, don't get me started on carbon dating"!
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Those two things don't require faith any more than the multiplication tables do.
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Donna Peluda 11 months ago
I don't no if it's available in all countries but take a look on Amazon prime, "shiny happy people"
Betsy S 11 months ago
Very eye opening and scary. Well worth the watch, even if you've never watched "X number of kids and Counting"
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On a positive note, my partner was able to be vulnerable with me about some seriously bad stuff that had happened to them. My respect for him reached a newfound level because of how he's tried to handle his life after these events. I'm so proud of him.
Bonnie Edwards 11 months ago
My husband was very open with me about his past trauma as well. It has helped me understand what drives his bouts of depression. He is very open to therapy - but there are few options in my town, and he hasn't clicked with any of them.
KatSaidWhat 11 months ago
My brother told me what happened to him many years ago that made him lose the plot and go off the rails. The respect I have for him as to how he has turned his life around into the very successful yet still kind person today is definitely not fake AI BS - whereas you are just BS.
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#14
Ngl one time my ex straight up told me he didn’t actually believe in tipping servers cuz "they should find better jobs"… like after that i just couldn’t see him the same way
Binky Melnik 11 months ago (edited)
My ma said something similar to me … and I was a server. 😰 I’ve never known a worse tipper. Once in an emergency, I needed something to drink and a bartender got it for me nearly instantly, so I dropped a $10 on the bar (for my $2.00 drink) and told him to keep the change, then grabbed my ma’s hand and bolted. She slipped out of my grasp, and when I turned to see what’d happened, she was snatching my change off the bar. Christ; my blood pressure is around my eyeballs simply recounting it. I dashed back, put a $20 in his HAND, apologized, and grabbed her again and DIDN’T LET GO. Holy c**p, she was awful about tipping servers, insisting that if they wanted more money then they should simply get a job that pays more. (She herself was a salesgirl in a department store, not an inheritor of wealth!)
A girl 11 months ago
My ex FIL always wanted to pay for meals out but would simply round the check up to the next dollar. My husband and I were appalled. We had a signal that as we were leaving, one of us "forgot something '" and would lay out a decent tip . Couldn't change him but could right a aggregious (sp) wrong.
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Nizumi 11 months ago
And then who would be the servers? Cashiers? Janitors? Name any menial job on which society ACTUALLY relies. Do people not hear themselves when they say sh!t like this?
Júlia Fortes 11 months ago
what about americans start paying their services a decent amount of money instead of expecting the clients to do so? i dunno, just an idea...
Papa 11 months ago
I agree that would be better, but in the meantime anyone who goes to a restaurant and doesn't tip the server should have stayed at home.
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Jon Steensen 11 months ago (edited)
It isn't the server that is the problem, it is her employer...Tipping is wierd (this might be my European background speaking), ans she deserved to be payed like all the other employees. Providing a service first, and only then being able to know how much you will be payed is kind of backwards. She does a job, helping the owner make money, and hence she ought to be sure that she will be payed decently. Quit this tipping madness, that comes with trying to guiltrip your customers, and raise the prices to a level where you can pay your staff. They are not independent people who has set up their business in your store, they are your employees.
Khavrinen 11 months ago
And if they all "find better jobs" -- who's gonna bring you your food, dumb@$$?
Vinnie 11 months ago
He'll bring his dates to the best counter in town and they can eat their order in his limousine.
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that one guy 11 months ago
Servers should be paid more and their tips shouldn't be taxed (If you tip in cash the tips can't be taxed btw)
K. LNU 11 months ago
Cash tips can be taxed in the USA. It is the overall sales that the server gets taxed on. It is the average state amount. In Washington State, the tax is 10.35% (stupid high but no state tax, just sales tax). It is assumed the server was tipped enough to cover the tax.
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Bonnie Edwards 11 months ago
I am so sad for those people who live in societies where tipping was brought in to cover the wages for employers who are deliberately and knowingly under-paying their staff. As an Australian, I could not imagine shopping in a country where the menu/ shelf price is not the price paid. We don't tip here - unless we are feeling generous, or the person has gone above and beyond in their role.
In order to avoid any deal breakers down the road or have to deal with significant unexpected red flags, it might be best for partners to try and make sure early on that they share the same values. “In the quality lasting relationships I have witnessed or helped to create, the couples know they are in parallel to the same values, ethics, and morals. That is the core of trust,” Dr. Gunther told Bored Panda.
Unfortunately for some of the people on the list, the things their partners have said clashed with their values. But for some others, the conversations only brought them closer together, showing that—for better or worse—honesty plays a significant role when it comes to people’s relationships.
#15
And old ex got unreasonably upset at me when I was late coming over after work because I helped a female coworker put her spare tire on. We were the only people there, and she didn't know how. She otherwise would have been stranded. When I saw that lack of empathy for another person I was out of there
Kristin 11 months ago
My husband gave our neighbor a ride to work. We live in colorado and it was winter time and she would get up so early to walk everyday, rain, snow, blizzard or whatever to provide as a single mom. When he told me he said don't get mad. I was the opposite of mad. I was happy he helped her. She's a sweet lady and couldn't thank us enough. So we decided to sell our extra car but when we talked about it we decided to gift the car to her. She cried. I she'd a tear or 2 lol
JelliTate 11 months ago
I love this. I was a single mother for years and people have no idea how something like this can change your life.
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Julia Mckinney 11 months ago
Ok, I HAVE to tell this story. Waay back in the dawn of time (1994), my husband got a phone call from his intern. The intern had gone to the beach for the weekend, parked on the beach with his newish truck and hadn't realized just how far the tide would come in so truck was stuck in the sand, partly underwater. To make matters worse, when the police came, he had his drivers ID from Louisiana (home state), his insurance card was from Colorado where he bought his truck, and he didn't have anything showing that he lived here in Washington state yet because his paperwork was a few weeks behind his job start date. He needed someone local to vouch for him and pick him up from the police station. My husband said sure, he'll vouch for him and pick him up. We were nice, we didn't start laughing until after we hung up the phone.
Lotekguy 11 months ago
I suspect the hotness of the one being helped usually tilts the scale between empathy and resentment
Binky Melnik 11 months ago (edited)
Some dope had downvoted this, but it’s absolutely a valid insight. People don’t usually get jealous when the third party is unfortunate-looking, overweight, bald, or any other descriptor that’s usually considered “bad.” Look at poor Sadie’s comment below this one: a perfectly valid point but downvoted by people who don’t feel society should work this way, but it *does*, people! We don’t hafta like it, but we can’t pretend things don’t happen, don’t exist, etc when we see them every day!
Load More Replies... Beth Wheeler 11 months ago
Was she mean, jealous, or crazy? You should have told her to put herself in the other ladys place, alone with a flat tire. Things like this and my age is why I have had AAA for several years. I originally got it because of my oldest sons car that I swear was possessed at times. It would lock the doors with the key in the ignition and nobody touching the door locks, it happened 3 times. I had an extra key made when he got the car (used) for his 16th birthday. 1990 Honda that only had 1 key so another one was needed anyway. First time it happened I was at work and he had raised the hood to listen to something, it turned off and locked the doors. I stopped on my way home to get his keys out and take them inside the grocery store to him after I made sure it started. The next time I was 50 mi away, call AAA buddy.
#16
They implied the Holocaust never happened. Game over.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 11 months ago
OMFG another mindset that makes my blood boil over >.<
that one guy 11 months ago
My great grandma lived in Poland during the occupation, tell that to her I dare you
Orange Panda 11 months ago
Back in the early '70's, my mom worked with a guy who watched a movie on the Holocaust and came in the next day really upset about it. He didn't know the Holocaust was real until his coworkers told him it was a real thing. He was really sheltered.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 11 months ago
Neither did my foot in their a**e. CWOHS Muck Fuppet.
Stacey Plint 11 months ago
My ex married a woman who genuinely believes that the holocaust was a hoax by Jewish people to gain sympathy from the rest of the world and that any evidence of it was placed by the Jews to substantiate their claims.
Lena Flising 11 months ago
So, they all left and went to Mars, or what? The Nazi Germans just logged millions of imaginary people's deaths, for the fun of it?
#17
The moment she dismissed my anxiety as just an ‘excuse for being lazy.’ It was like a switch flipped in my brain. I had been dealing with panic attacks and struggling to explain what life with anxiety really felt like. Then she just reduced it all to laziness. That’s when I knew she would never understand the battles I fight inside my own head. It wasn’t just unsupportive, it was invalidating my entire experience. Trust me, I wasn’t looking for sympathy—just a little empathy. It was a sobering reminder that not everyone can walk a mile in another’s shoes, nor even take a single step, and that was a deal-breaker for me.
Nina 11 months ago
It can really kill the love with just one comment. Experienced this with an ex, he said I was pretending to be ill when I was really depressed. I recovered, our relationship didn't.
GPawesomeness 11 months ago
I remember my Mom, who suffered from life long depression, telling me about a person that told her "I understand, I was depressed for a couple of weeks". No, you don't get it until you live it.
Load More Replies... Jon Steensen 11 months ago
It happens a lot with mental abilities. If you are lucky enough to have never experienced it first hand, you can't really relate, and comparing it so "similar" things that you have experienced, and dismissing it as being "not that bad" isn't fair. E.g. being sad is kind of similar to being depressed, but not nearly at the same level or duration, and often don't come with the same level of exhaustion or frustration over the lack of understanding why you react like that.... and just remember, you may not have the complete picture. Depressed people often hide a lot of what they are feeling from you, so it may be way worse then what you see, when they are doing their best to hang on and not ruin your day with their "irrational" mood.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 11 months ago
I had a command officer once tell me that PTSD, is just a way to game the system. I had someone else once tell me that I just needed to grow up and forget about, while dealing with issues due to PTSD. We are no longer associated.
Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
I got the same kind of c**p from my ex because of my fibromyalgia. Being in constant pain and having no energy is not being lazy. He accused me of faking so I didn't have to have sex with him. I informed him that I didn't have to have sex with him, period - regardless of whether or not my fibro was flaring up. That was a concept he hadn't considered.
Dread Pirate Roberts 11 months ago
Sounds like she didn't wanna know what OP was going through, and didn't care.
Dee Rutherford 11 months ago
So sorry for your struggle. Don’t give up, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Go for it.
#18
My ex told me it's unfair that women got their own train wagon and men don't. I explained it to him that it's to prevent women from being SA and creates a safe space for women especially while travelling during nighttime. He was furious and insisted men should get their own wagon. I absolutely agree that men are victims of SA as well but he couldn't fathom that this is an issue so many women deal with on a daily basis.
Campy 11 months ago (edited)
I'm 63 and I've never been raped, grabbed, whistled at, leered at, told to smile more, catcalled, called a b***h because I didn't smile more etc, "accidentally" felt up, and I could go on. I was once serenaded with "Oh What A Beautiful Morning" from Oklahoma, by an old man walking by, but I'm pretty sure he was just happy about the weather. Yes, men get sexually harassed, but equating our experiences out in the world with women's experiences is like saying I was really hungry yesterday so I know what it's like for starving kids in Somalia. Note to straight women out there: I would be thrilled if you "accidentally" felt me up or leered at me. You can even call me a b***h.
Earonn - 11 months ago
Sure, put all the men into one carriage. Don't let them out unless supervised by an armed officer. That would stop SA as well. I just don't think he would agree to that.
Sue 11 months ago
I mean, they make women cover up & stay home in many countries. Why making the ones who actually commit the crimes stay home?
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Lowrider 56 11 months ago
How sad it is that it's even necessary for women to have their own car.
Nicole Weymann 11 months ago
To me it's rage inducing, and I think it's absolutely the wrong approach, because in essence these supposed safe places imply that any woman NOT using them agrees to whatever made the safe places neccessary. It forces the (intended/potential) victims to change their habit, instead of going after the criminals. "So we have these nice females only waggons. Why wasn't she in there?" is halfway between "If she didn't want séx why was she dressed like that" and "If she was a decent woman she wouldn't have left the house without her brother/father where other men could see her"
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Stannous Flouride 11 months ago
In the mid 1800s the first trains had separate cars for men & women because they believed that women's bodies could not handle high speeds (ca. 50mph) and their uteruses would fly out of their bodies and men shouldn't have to see it. [sure glad we don't live in a world where men who have zero understanding of women's anatomy are making policy decisions about them, aren't you?]
Patrick H 11 months ago
Where is this? I haven't heard the term "train wagons". I say "train cars", but we don't use many trains around here, anyway.
Diolla 11 months ago
Train wagons is the word where I live and I suppose in many other countries. The only country I know that has separate wagons for women is India.
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My boyfriend at the time proudly declared that he’d never read a book cover to cover. He was 27.
SD 11 months ago (edited)
A guy I was seeing came to pick me up for a date and saw my many bookcases and said it was a hobby that was a waste of time and money. That was the last date. Clearly he'd never read a book cover to cover to make such a comment.
Patrick H 11 months ago
I've read hundreds of books, but I've never read any of them cover-to-cover. I just don't wanna read the publishing info at the beginning. 🤪
Jay Cee 11 months ago
Read Anthony Horowitz's book Moonflower Murders. Spoiler alert but they have published a book within the book - it's all a part of the plot - including all the copyright/publishing information. You're reading one book and then, half way through, it jumps to the title page of another book that one of the characters in the first book has written. The man has a devious mind!
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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 11 months ago
Tens of millions of voting Americans are, apparently :(
Load More Replies... Julia Mckinney 11 months ago
It's better when you have a spouse who likes books. My husband likes to joke that I'm his book pusher. We like to read a lot of the same genres like mystery, fantasy and sci-fi. We both enjoy Sir Terry (Pratchett) and JD Robb. Considering we met at a sci-fi/fantasy convention, not too surprising we like books.
Jay Cee 11 months ago
Discworld is sci-fi/fantasy! Oh no! Say it isn't so ;o)
Load More Replies... Jay Cee 11 months ago
I must admit there are some books where I've never read past page 17 . . . it's a rule from our book club - if you recommend a book that's unreadable you have to buy the first round at the next club meeting. Did I say we meet in a pub? It tends to ensure that we only get to read better quality books.
#20
Well, after he drank too much again, and was late to work again, and pitched a tantrum because it was all my fault apparently, then said if he gets fired he wold call my boss and get me fired. Yup, that was it. Never talked to him again after I shuffled him out of MY house. Only s**t boyfriend I ever had. But, he was a doozy!
GPawesomeness 11 months ago
Doozies can teach you a lot if you learn from them and don't repeat. Sounds like you did, 👍👍👍
Tabitha 11 months ago (edited)
Unless they’re holding a gun to your head or some other form of extreme duress, no one MAKES anyone do anything. People make their OWN decisions to do something bad/behave badly/totally f**k up their lives ALL BY THEMSELVES. It’s a cop out to try to blame your f**k ups on someone else, because your f**k ups are ALL YOURS, buddy-ro, and no one else’s. It’s also up to no one but YOU to fix yourself. No one can change unless they want to, and blaming it on someone else indicates you don’t want to change. It also indicates that you’re a small weak-willed a*****e baby who can’t own their own mistakes like a grown up.
Lena Flising 11 months ago
Wonder what he would say? "My wife/GF let me drink too much and didn't wake me up on time, so I was late for work. You ought to fire her!"?
#21
He told me he was “so sad you’re going to hell
:((“ because i identified as bi.
i basically told him “see you there” cause mf cheated on me and assaulted me lmao
Tiger 11 months ago
If Jesus existed and came back one day, I feel like he’d much rather hang out with the gays than the bigots 😌
Child of the Stars 11 months ago
That's basically what he did. Afaik, there the Bible doesn't mention gays specifically, but so many of the people he spent time with were the poor and outcast. He sure wasn't hanging out with the Pharisees.
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Shelli Aderman 11 months ago
I wish folks wouldn’t diminish their own trauma by putting “lol,” or “lmao” after. 😔
Cammy Mack 11 months ago
Hell is not a thing in the Christian Bible. It really isn't. Just some Catholic mumbo jumbo.
#22
My ex once acknowledged that they never expected to find someone who accepted them for who they are. That changed my perspective on them, it brought us closer together and taught me the value of kindness.
justagirl 11 months ago
Just plainly out of curiosity, are you guys exes as in "something really bad happened" or exes as in "You felt more comfortable as friends?"
Tabitha 11 months ago
You know, not every relationship has to end badly. Sometimes people just grow apart, and their relationships end amicably. I’ve had a few boyfriends who are still friends. We parted ways as significant others with no hard feelings, and stayed friends. In case you’re curious, we’re all married now, just not to each other.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
That's one of the things my husband & I share. We are "free to be, you and me". He's (66 & I 61) basically a 12 year old at heart and it's one of the things I love most about him. We've had Silly String fights, pillow fights, pranked each other (turned off his mouse and when he flipped it over found creepy Nick Cage staring at him). We keep the play in our marriage and accept that we are human and therefore fallible. He's the best friend I have ever had.
#23
He would chuckle or sigh when I talked about anything remotely related to feminism.
Wheeskers 11 months ago
You're so right, being wrong turns some folks into name calling idiots.
Load More Replies... Lena Flising 11 months ago
So, no adherent of the radical idea that women are people too, then...
Tabitha 11 months ago (edited)
Another one doomed to die alone, and only discovered, bloated, covered in maggots, and giving birth to hundreds of baby blowflies, when the smell from their filthy hovel became more unbearable than usual—-and every bit of that sad lonely neglected death will be self-inflicted but their attitude.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
It is normal to be interested in the fate of your society and justice. And who are you to stipulate what everyone likes or dislikes?
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He told me he'd pick a beer over me any day.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 11 months ago
Beer?! Beer?! Not a bottle of Single Malt, or a bottle of Single Barrel, not even a bottle of Louis Tre, not that any of these would be better choice over her, but at least they are more expensive than a beer.
Vinnie 11 months ago
Like my husband always tells me: "Why go out for Bud Light, when I got Pilsner at home?"
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I used to be a sucker for green eyes. I had a blonde ex with green eyes and I complimented him on his eyes once. He said “I wish they were blue.” I asked why? He said “so I’d look more aryan.” Relationship did not last long
Sue 11 months ago
My stupid drunk ex-niece by marriage said loudly, in a real Mexican restaurant owned by people of real Mexican heritage, but eventually there won't be any blonde-haired, blue eyed people! She had brown hair & eyes. The rest of us just started daggers at her & she shut up. To be honest, I hope we all intermarry until we're all kind of tan & maybe this judgment on skin color will go away, but I'm afraid there are too many people that feel desperate to feel superior to others, so they'll just find something else to divide us.
Traveling Lady Railfan 11 months ago
I have green eyes! But I'm a gal, do probably not yer type ;)
#26
My ex once said "poor people are poor because they want to". He is a healthy white Swedish man, born to rich parents who are still together, and has always had all types of support and privileges. He also had a great-paying job in a different country and could work from his parents' boat whenever he wanted, which is where he said that to me.
He had previously complained about how annoying it was to have to celebrate his mother's birthday in Spain for second time in a row... Interestingly enough, he also was the cheapest (though one of the richest) man I've ever dated.
SAF saf 11 months ago
"poor people are poor because they want to"....He's not wrong. I had an uncle tell my mom this when I was younger. Let's just say he either died a violent death, in jail, or on the run from someone. The older I get the more it's painfully clear that the majority of wealthy peoples wealth is ill gotten. Don't even get me started on worlds explosion of Billionaires in the last decade. The best way to get rich is to bend/break the law or to be willing to immoral things for money.
MegDragon 11 months ago
To get rich you need to be ruthless or get lucky.
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Andy Frobig 11 months ago
I believe poor people are poor because the rich keep them that way, so they can feel superior
Lorraine Woollands 11 months ago
My mum and dad worked right up to retirement age. My dad worked in a coal mine when he was young , got ill with a lung illness, because off the dust, had stop that. When he and my mum first married he worked with his FIL has a window cleaner. When i came along , they needed more money so dad got a job in factory. He was there 15 year until he was made redundant. Job centre told him that at the age of 45 he was too old to get another job, within a week he had job a job working in a local hotel. He retired when was 65. My mum worked in a factory until she retired at 65. We never went without, but we were classed has poor. Some off these better off people don't have to work like my parents did, but are no happier than we were.
Wheeskers 11 months ago
Do a Google search for self made millionaires. Oprah, Ralph Lauren, to name two and there's also, "Kendra Scott: The founder, executive chairwoman, and chief creative officer of the Austin-based jewelry brand Kendra Scott: Started the company in 2002 with $500 from her bank account in her spare bedroom In 2021, she was named one of eight Texas women on Forbes' Richest Self-Made Women list The company has over 100 stores and is valued at more than $1 billion " So your statement is false and misleading but I would expect nothing less here.
Lena Flising 11 months ago
He ought to check out the works of the Nobel Prize winners in Economy this year. I think they are a leeetle bit smarter and have done a leeetle more research than this dolt.
Kelly Scott 11 months ago
Ways to achieve wealth: 1) Inherit it 2) Sell d***s 3) Steal 4) Lotto
#27
I was in the hospital after emergency surgery (complications from a c section the week before). My (now ex) husband wouldn’t answer my calls. Finally my doctor called from the hospital phone and he answered. She told him what was happening and he said “call me if she dies” and hung up.
Later after surgery when I was in the most pain of my entire life and scared out of my mind, I called him. He answered and just sat in silence for a minute listening to me cry. Then he said to me “what have I told you about calling me when you’re crying” and hung up. Didn’t answer the phone for me again for almost a week.
(I should note we were both active duty military and stationed in different places, so our primary means contact was by phone at that time)
That marriage did not last a long time.
Mike F 11 months ago
If she was with him long enough to have a kid with him, they were together too long.
Earonn - 11 months ago
Too many stories of that kind, especially right after a baby. But oh, why do women choose the bear? It's a mystery!
Broadredpanda 11 months ago
Sometimes it's not as clear as you think! By the sounds of this, she only realised when this situation happened. It's true that they may have been other things going on, but sometimes it takes this to realise that this MF was a monster!
Load More Replies... Stephanie A Mutti 11 months ago
The number of people I know [now divorced] whose spouse abandoned them during a medical issue is surprising to me, including the time mine had her personal assistant pick me up from the clinic when I busted my knee [also now divorced].
Tabitha 11 months ago
Let’s be real. He was a.ready cheating on OP wherever he was posted. He probably thought she was doing the same and the baby wasn’t his—-all without one shred of evidence to support that idea. It amazes me how such otherwise unimaginative people can suddenly have the most overactive imaginations about horseshit like this. I think OP knew before then that it was over between them. Unfortunately, there was a child involved, which tied her to him for decades—-if he was at all interested in having any relationship with his kid. I doubt this one was.
Kelley Baltierra 11 months ago
Why were they even married in the first place? This sounds like something he's done from the beginning
#28
Tried to defend Trump. A black man supporting a bigot. Blocked
Mike F 11 months ago
Far too many people supported that idiot. THEY are in for a very rude awakening.
Sand Ers 11 months ago
They're too stupid to get it. The fascists will do something damaging, the propagandists will explain that, every scrap of evidence to the contrary, it is still somehow the fault of the scapegoat du jour, and they'll waddle off with their carefully crafted and nurtured confirmation bias once again confirmed. If they had the capacity to grasp cause and effect, we wouldn't be here.
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Captive 11 months ago
Not a US citizen, I couldn't believe that so many Hispanics support Trump
Phantom Phoenix 11 months ago
Not a US citizen, I can't believe the convicted felon was eligible to run for nomination
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Parmeisan 11 months ago
Politics is the process by which we decide who gets money, who goes to jail, who is given enough money to eat, and pretty much everything about our lives. If you're not concerned about politics, you're wrong.
Load More Replies... Sue 11 months ago
Just had a man with Hispanic name going off on Facebook page that was specifically for his small town. Just going off with the name calling & not actually trying to debate. I really wanted to tell him I hope his parents were born in the US, or he'll be gone too, but I don't get into Facebook fights.
Kelly Scott 11 months ago
What's worse, if states' rights are going to be enshrined again, we could have segregation back and nobody could do a thing about it.
Deborah 11 months ago
There was a radio interview after the election with a guy wearing a 'gays for trump' t-shirt. Huh?
Alyce 11 months ago
What? All black people are supposed to have the same opinions and thought processes? Seems a bigoted mentality to me...
Tenay Douglas 11 months ago
I was going to give a sarcastic response covering how stupid a comment this is but then I realized it would probably be above your processing ability
Load More Replies... Sand Ers 11 months ago
And once they've spoken their mind, everyone has the right to recognize them as the dangerous idiots that they are, and dismiss their stupid dangerous opinions. See how that works?
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He said to me, 'I love that you don't need me to feel entire.' This impacted me hard since it was the first time I felt understood and supported in my independence.
TruthoftheHeart 11 months ago
It's good to realize that you can exist in a relationship but also exist outside the relationship. Just because you are together does not mean you are suddenly one person, you guys can have different hobbies and things that you like to do both together and apart.
Tabitha 11 months ago
I don’t NEED to be with my husband. I lived on my own without him for a lot of years before he came along, and I can do it again very easily if for some reason he’s no longer in my life. But I WANT to be with him, and CHOOSE to be with him. There’s a huge difference between needing and wanting/choosing.
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Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
My husband's ex always gave him a guilt trip if he wanted to go fly his kites (seriously. He's a US National Kite Flying Champion. Yes, it's really a thing. You can find it on YouTube). So when we started living together & he wanted to go fly, I said okay - have fun! He was worried I would pull some passive aggressive bullsh*t like his ex and I literally had to talk him into going. I was like, "Scott - I am a grown woman. I have my own interests and hobbies. I had planned to clean the stove this afternoon and frankly, would appreciate it if you get the hell out". He laughed when he realized I meant it. Go! Have fun! He did & I cleaned the stove. It has never once been an issue. MY ex was kind of the same way. If I said I wanted to read my new book, he heard "I don't want to spend time with you". F*cking exhausting. His insecurity was ultimately what broke us up. Thank God, because now I'm married to an adult.
#30
I can't remember precisely the event or what was said, but at some point it became crystal clear to me that the only reason my wife married me was to show her parents that she was a Real Adult. Our entire marriage was a performance for her parents. I wasted 10 years of my life on that.
Bill Walker 11 months ago
I've switched from calling it "emotional baggage" to "emotional wisdom." Feels better.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Getting married to prove that you're a real adult proves you're not.
Klara Lorinczi 11 months ago
You wasted 10 years on a loveless marriage? How stupid are you? You should have known better.
#31
My STBX-husband has said a lot of things that made me change how I see him, but I think the one that really did it was when he told me 'I don't love you, I only married you for your passport, and I want a divorce'. He was drunk and, to this day, claims he just wanted to be nasty and didn't mean it... but that's a line you don't cross.
Space Invader 11 months ago
Actually ,"I just wanted to be nasty" to her is ground enough to kick him out
Teutonic Disaster 11 months ago
Remember this, my fellow pandas: little kids and drunk people always tell the truth.
Tabitha 11 months ago
What someone says while drunk is what they don’t say when sober. OP’s ex didn’t just want to be nasty. They f*****g well meant it. She’s so much better off without him. I also think a well-placed call to Immigration might teach him a lesson. He duped her into marrying him for no other reason than to gain citizenship. (That’s not as easy as the movies show it to be. I married a Brit and we decided to live here in the US. I sponsored his citizenship. Believe me, the amount of paperwork is daunting, and the interviews with the immigration officers are tough. We passed with flying colors because our relation ship is real and we’re still married 24 years later. So having to go through all that when you’re really not all that interested in staying married to someone is f*****g ridiculous. Why couldn’t he just get his green card all on his own, without all the rigmarole of faking loving someone and getting them to marry him? How f*****g cruel and selfish could he be?)
Watermelon 11 months ago
Should have been your ex that night. Why are you still there? Care for yourself better!
#32
I deserved to be cheated on.
This was after we'd had a very long and VERY in-depth conversation regarding my concerns for how close they were growing with my best friend at the time.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
"Deserved to be cheated on"? After my college girlfriend cheated on me three times, was I entitled to cheat on her? Possibly so, but instead I just left her.
Beth Wheeler 11 months ago
#)_*;!9_;@*/;:*@*. OK then you deserve to lose every damn thing I'm taking in the divorce except for my socalled friend.
UKGrandad 11 months ago (edited)
Nathaniel, Libstak and My O My, all assuming that the 'they' in this scenario is a male rather than NB, agender, etc.. If I'd done that I'd have been called a transphobe (again!) and downvoted into oblivion...as I'm sure I will be anyway just for pointing it out.
#33
They told me that they thought being gay was a mental disorder. She said this also knowing my mom is a lesbian and my youngest brother are gay. Shortly after I found out I was deploying broke it off with her right before.
Margaret Nupponen 11 months ago
Even before science found that homosexuality was a product of genetics, I knew that it could not simply be a lifestyle choice. Who in their right mind would choose a lifestyle in which they were rejected by their own families, vilified, discriminated against, even murdered just for being who they are?
Tabitha 11 months ago
Who would choose a lifestyle that even goes against their own feelings of attraction? A straight person does not just “decide” to be gay. It’s not a decision, a lifestyle choice, or an illness. It just IS. We all have our favorite attributes that other people possess that attract us. We can’t help it, we can’t predict it, we just fall for them. For some of us, that person is the opposite gender. For some of us, that person is the same gender. For some of us, there’s no attraction like that to anybody. Not one bit of it is on purpose. Attraction happens, and if the other person feels the same way toward you, then you have just won the love lottery, and all the naysayers can just go f**k themselves—-probably because no one else will.
Load More Replies... Meaghan Stewart 11 months ago
I think the word you’re looking for is “genetic”
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minnieslave0 11 months ago
Nah, he chose it as the best moment to drop a homophobic cow.
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#34
Grew up poor, had financial assistance at school as a result, not much at all, enough to pay for a driving lesson a week, I also worked part time to support myself. Ex said to me in front of our friends that financial support for students should be abolished and people who have it are leaches on society.
His mum paid for everything for him, he never needed a job and had one for two days when he joined the place I started working at 'to see what I was up to.'
Yeah, bye.
Kelly Scott 11 months ago
Geez, did you run into my brother? Just so everyone knows, my brother the teabagger, thinks welfare should be abolished, even though our family was on welfare when we were kids and our dad was out of work. I guess instead of taking welfare, we should have just dumped one kid out in the snow to save expenses.
Jay Cee 11 months ago
I would urge you, should you ever visit the UK, never to use the expression "teabagger" over here. It has a totally different meaning - unless, of course, your brother has er, unusual needs in bed!
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
I was in a pilot program for single parents through Job Corps. I was 18 and my son was a year old. We lived in a JC owned apartment complex and went to school while our kids stayed in preschool on site. The only requirement was the parent had to be under 22 and the child under 5, and the parent had to sign up for public assistance while going to school. My boyfriend at the time (not my son's father) & I were visiting a friend of mine and he had a few friends over as well. One was a very pretty (and quite nice) girl that my bf was openly flirting with. She wasn't having it and started a conversation with me, asking what I did etc. I told her I was a student at the same time he piped up with "Welfare Mama". I explained the program I was in and everyone else was pretty impressed. He ended up looking like the jackass he was. We didn't stay together very long after that.
Steve Robert 11 months ago
Billionaires are the biggest leach on society and until we finally realize how they have destroyed our country and take away their ill-gotten wealth, it will get worse. Just imagine what problems could be solved if we used that stolen money to eradicate poverty and child hunger.
Lena Flising 11 months ago
He's the real leech. Most poor people work very hard. Some people born to rich parents don't work at all.
#35
My manipulative and coercive ex blamed me for the pandemic and his state going into lockdown - insane
Perfumista Perfumista 11 months ago
I'm apparently responsible for global warming. Sorry folks.
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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 11 months ago
I need to hear the reason for this singular person causing a lock down
KatSaidWhat 11 months ago
People like this exist - apparently I was responsible for jailing Mandela in 1962. I was born 12 years later.
Load More Replies... Orange Panda 11 months ago
I was blamed for not being able to get a job during the Recession. I caused the Recession.
Pferdchen 11 months ago
That's so bats**t crazy that I find myself laughing - and then feeling bad about laughing because it's so dark. I'm tempted to joke that ex thought that OP was a goddess, but a malevolent one, Then I recall reading that witch hunts still occur in 41 countries, though they were largely attributed to men wanting to seize the property of land-owning single women, particularly elder women.
Helen Rohrlach 11 months ago
Well damn, let me go grab my Pitchfork and torch and we'll all be right over.
#36
My ex partner told me that he didn’t support same sex marriage (this was around the time when Australia had to vote for the same sex marriage plebiscite).
It was a deal breaker!
Michael Largey 11 months ago
He should have been reminded that the vote was to make same sex marriage legal - not mandatory.
Karen Krause 11 months ago
Why does same-sex marriage affect so many people? What my adult consenting neighbors do in their bedroom does not affect me. What anyone does in their bedroom does not affect me or my family. Unless I know that the partners are not consenting adults or they are SA or grabbing strangers or animals if I'm not involved in the relationship, it is not my problem.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
People build a wall between themselves and anyone different. And they call that wall "God".
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
My son came out as Bi. And I was like, "And?" He said, "that's it?" Yeah. Who you choose to have a relationship with is really none of my business, as long as they're a decent person and treat you well, I'm cool with it. It's his life and I raised him to be a kind and considerate person, so I hope he is decent in a relationship as well.
Jay Cee 11 months ago
A colleague was outed as gay by accident. The guy sitting at the desk next to him feigned shock and said "It's not contagious is it?" and burst out laughing before continuing "Did you honestly think we couldn't tell?"
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 11 months ago
Some opinions tell a lot about a person. Yours, for instance.
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My ex (who was stupid mind you) declared one day there was nothing left for him to learn at his ripe age of 32
Child of the Stars 11 months ago
It's like stage 2 of adulthood (the first is when you turn 18 and go a little nuts from the freedom).
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Child of the Stars 11 months ago
As someone who is recently enrolled in college at the ripe old age of 42: f.u.c.k. that. Learning new things is my favorite thing to do.
Tyranamar Suess 11 months ago
I had a friend I hadn't seen in decades call me and tell me nothing about her had changed. Really put me off. You've learned nothing in the past 20 years that's affected how you behave? No thank you. And it was true. She did stuff during that call like she did when we're younger. Trying to be competitive. Saying having a male child is gross bc boys are gross. Knowing full well I have a son. Found out I wasn't missing much there.
Lena Flising 11 months ago
The more you learn, the more you realize how much more there is left to learn. He was a clear case of Dunning Kruger.
#38
My ex told me his parents raised him to believe that "therapy is at the bottom of a bottle".
And then the depth of his emotional issues instantly made sense.
Watermelon 11 months ago
Nope, as clueless as they were, you can't blame the parents for this.
Load More Replies... #39
Ermm, either "boundaries are made to be broken" or "women are so easy to manipulate (said while drunk)" or the real brain twister "I can't promise to be faithful, I'll tell you first". I've been gone now a few years, it's been an adventure dissecting different statements as normal vs. not normal...
SAF saf 11 months ago
The red flags should have been pretty clear around the second statement.
Mama Clare 11 months ago
I had red flags from day 1 but love is blind & 'he'll change'...
Load More Replies... Lena Flising 11 months ago
Don't know if it's an old saying or not, but in the movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding", they say that The man is the head of the family, but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head ANY WAY she wants.
#40
My ex partner- That I was 'too emotional' to be around after I found out he dropped my elderly dog off at the vets and told them he was abandoned and put him down.
That my energy was 'chaotic' after he manipulated me into leaving my house with my children so he could move back in with his new gf. 2 months after we split.
There were a lot of red flags during the decade we were together, but boy, did he show all his colours when we split.
Content Wombat 11 months ago
Oh, if someone put my dog down like that, that person wouldn't last very long.
Oskar vanZandt 11 months ago
I would have planned his demise if he'd had a dog of mine put down... And they wouldn't have found his cremains.
Casey Payne 11 months ago
Sad about the poor dog, but she claimed to have been manipulated out of a HOUSE? How do you let yourself be tricked out of a HOUSE? Not just yourself, but also YOUR CHILDREN? That requires an explanation because it takes a lot more effort than slight-of-hand or a misdirection to trick someone to move out and take the children with them. Moving is not an instantaneous event. There must have been some downtime during the move where common sense would return to ask better questions.
Dread Pirate Roberts 11 months ago
OP stayed with this guy for a DECADE?! That must've taken a lot of patience...and restraint.
#41
One of my ex-partners:
During an argument, they yelled at me to "get the f**k out of their house", they grabbed my wrists while I was packing to stay with my dad, pinned me down while yelling at me, and that s**t hurt deep.
I understood that his folks owned the property for us to rent, I contributed my share, and explicitly stated that if we got married, I agreed to prenup. I felt like I was walking on eggshells after that. I couldn't see a future together.
Deborah B 11 months ago
Why was there any more relationship after he pinned you down and yelled at you? He should not have treated you like that, it was abusive, and you deserve better.
Shark bait hoo haha 11 months ago
Many times the person who is being attacked can't leave for various reasons. No where to go, no money, doesn't recognize they are being abused, they think they deserve it, and the list goes on. It's easy for others to see what is going on and make snap judgements about why someone didn't leave right away or at all for that matter but walk in our shoes for a bit and try to be more understanding instead of making us feel more like c**p because we didn't leave immediately. It's not always that simple.
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“This is why I date girls without dads” - during the breakup when I was standing up for myself and demanded he stop emotionally abusing me
Júlia Fortes 11 months ago
so he only dates emotionally unstable girls? Sounds like someone is sad he couldnt manipulate and abuse you...
Blue Flower 11 months ago
You should have taken a Louisville slugger to both of HIS headlights.
#43
I was getting ready to take my final exams and was having a small panic attack because I was so stressed out thinking I was going to fail. He stood next to me as I was crying and told me that it's okay if I failed, I could "just find work standing behind a cash register at a supermarket." He didn't say that in an attempt to push me to try and just do the exams regardless, he genuinely meant it. He would have preferred to be the breadwinner as I take care of our -five- children. ( We didn't have any, but he wanted five. )
I ran away from my own home that day, (he was staying with me but didn't contribute to rent, food or anything), and wound up texting and calling a guy I had befriended some time ago while I went over to my mum's house to stay with her for the night. He said the right things to get my head out of my a*s, and the next day on my way to the exams he texted me to wish me good luck. My ex didn't.
Surprise surprise, after some time I broke up with my ex and I've been with the other guy for about 13 years now. He never fails to support me whenever I need it.
Looking back, my ex was always very unsupportive of me but I didn't think I could do better. If only past me knew how happy someone would one day make me, I don't think I would have stuck around.
Júlia Fortes 11 months ago
a seven-member family relying in only one person, in this economy??? Who raised that guy?
TruthoftheHeart 11 months ago
Parents who had probably had many kids too young in an economy that was very different from how it is these days and they probably also have their heads up their asses not wanting to admit that things have changed. Probably Trump voters
Load More Replies... Sue 11 months ago
It doesn't matter if you can't do better. Alone is better than people like this. I actually enjoyed alone after we split up. Eat what I want, go where I want, don't have to check in with anyone & consider anyone else's feeling about plans, money, living situation, etc. It was so freeing. It took a really great guy to give some of that up.
#44
When my ex-wife said "Money that's just sitting in the bank not being spent is being wasted." I knew we weren't going to grow old together.
Edit: She meant go to the nearest store and blow it on whatever caught her eye, whether she actually wanted it or not. When she was depressed or if she wanted to celebrate something and anything in between, she would say "Let's spend money!"
She was the extreme opposite of my Mom who seemed to have an actual phobia of spending money.
Brenda Spagnola-Wilson 11 months ago
Trying to raise 3 kids on her own, my mom can be extremely frugal. If she has extra, she doesn't mind a splurge now and then. But she refuses to go over budget, even though she & my dad (step) are fairly comfortable
#45
He told me I was lucky he didn’t believe in hitting women.
Another one told me it was ok I couldn’t contribute as much financially as him. I could just do more of the housework. I was working and studying full time while being a single mother and he was trying to get me to go back with him by talking about buying a house and moving in together.
Oskar vanZandt 11 months ago
So she was already doing a job and a half... And he wanted her to increase that to 200% of his contribution. Erm, no!
Júlia Fortes 11 months ago
"you lucky im not a criminal, but im still a moron" translated the post if someone needs it
#46
Was in a messy situation. FWB with this girl I had known for a few years. We admitted to each other to having feelings. Then suddenly she looked at me one day and said, "I changed my mind." I was confused, like what? We've said so many things to each other. She said her feelings had changed. Fine, okay, it hurt. After a few days she asked me why I wasn't talking to her very much. I said, "Because you hurt me."
Her response? "What? What did I do? How did I hurt you?"
Patrick H 11 months ago
Explanation unclear. What did she change her mind about? Did she decide that she now likes Cookies 'n Creme instead of Rocky Road? Seriously, though, isn't the whole point of FWB to cut out the feelings? If you both had the feelings, did you change your status to dating? This is why FWB is just a bad idea. If you're friends AND you like to fùck each other, then why not just be a romantic couple? The only difference between FWB and a romantic couple of the escape plan.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 11 months ago
Romantic and sexual feelings are seperate things. You can be sexually attracted to someone without being romantically attracted to each other (or the other way round too)
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The day we broke up - “I just wish you’d shaved your legs more, worn make up a bit more sometimes”
Mike F 11 months ago
Hahaha! Whenever I see one of these posts I think the same thing! 😂
Load More Replies... Child of the Stars 11 months ago
Nope. My body hair stays right where it is: on my body. If someone else doesn't like it, that's not my problem.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Quite pointless to wait to share these wishes till the day you break up.
Júlia Fortes 11 months ago
if you want a girl that shave and wear makeup then date a girl that shave and wear makeup. Stop dating the ones that dont and try to change their lifestyle
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#48
My ex partner, in the final phase when it was becoming pretty clear that things between us were gonna end or at least change drastically, admitted that she wanted me to need her. She tried to make me dependent on her because of deeply rooted insecurities she was struggling with. It made me feel nauseous. Suddenly, the relationship seemed a lot less healthy.
Child of the Stars 11 months ago
This makes me hurt for her. I remember being in that same place for a very long time. Yes, it's unhealthy, but it's also scary and painful believing that you're a waste of space if someone doesn't need you. I hope she was able to get therapy for that.
Patrick H 11 months ago
What's wrong with wanting to be needed? I certainly want to be needed. So does Cheap Trick.
#49
"I'm a girl, so I'm more emotional and sensitive than men usually are"
I love her but I can feel really invalidated at times
#50
She called Cats in the Cradle by Harry Chapin "such a happy song" because "he ends up like his father, just like he always said he wanted to."
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Did she also think Jimmi Hendrix sang ""Skuze me while I kiss this guy"?
Damned_Cat 11 months ago
Because he did, huh? And if you go to John Fogerty's house, you know that "There's the bathroom on the right"...
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Brian Droste 11 months ago
That is a sad song because the dad was to busy looking after his own life and the son follow in his father's path. The son end up being to busy with his own life that he don't have time for his dad now. How sad. I hope this affected a lot of people thinking about their parents and their relationship with them. Would like to think this affected my relationship with my parents.
Learner Panda 11 months ago
Thank goodness for internet sites that demonstrate the correct lyrics. I am assuming she could read?
Sand Ers 11 months ago
The song was written by Harry Chapin, starting with a poem written by his wife, and incorporating his own anxieties about not screwing up his relationship with his own son.
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What do you think ?
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 11 months ago
My ex: You don't need to eat vegetables to have a healthy diet, that's all just left wing b******t
Libstak 11 months ago
Don’t correct him. The Darwin awards need his contribution
Load More Replies... Kkg 11 months ago
We've been together for a few years, went for a trip together. I got a food poisoning and spend most of the night in the bathroom. Then next day we went hiking (together). When we came back I was sooo tired, I could barely stand on my feet. And he sat in an armchair and said that I should cook, because he is tired,as he's been walking all day. He didn't change his mind even when I mentioned that it's really unlikely that he feels even close to how bad I felt. It was one of many instances when he was completely selfish, but this one really opened my eyes.
BeesEelsAndPups 11 months ago
Maybe it's my dad instincts, but I couldn't sleep knowing somebody I care about is ill. I'd be up all night with my girlfriend holding her hair or rubbing her back. And we likely would have skipped the hike even if I had slept. Hope you found a better man, or just found it better to be without one at all.
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 11 months ago
My ex after I caught him cheating for the second time: "It would've all been fine if you hadn't found out!" and thought he was making a valid argument lmao
Júlia Fortes 11 months ago
there's a rihanna song about that, don't tell me you're sorry 'cause you're not, baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught
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Claire de Geradon 11 months ago
We've always talked about how we were gonna have numerous pets (dogs, cats, goats, horses,...). One day i come back with a tiny kitten after it's was being hit by a car. He told me to put her in the basement and that she could not live in the house because it'll be messy. 3 days later i was packed with my kitty and now she's the sweetest pet i ever had. Never scratches, never poop outside her box, never steal food. He's still alone
Diolla 11 months ago
Came home after a full day of work, which was 106 km away from my home, so I would always come home late in the day. He had just been sitting around the house for days. Saw me come in and first thing he asked was, "what you gonna cook for dinner?" as the fridge was empty. That was the moment I realized this is not The One :-D
Doctor Strange 11 months ago
I'd say it was when she admitted she was deliberately pushing me to commit suicide.
BeesEelsAndPups 11 months ago
I'm gonna take a moment to brag about a girl I'm dating. We've only been dating for 6 weeks, so things are still very new, but she lives about 50 minutes away from me. Anyways, my kids are spending the night at their mom's tonight, so I was going to go over to her place tonight and bring her dinner (she hasn't met my kids yet, and her kids are both grown). Unfortunately last night I had to take my youngest to the ER (A&E for UK types), no worries she's fine, but we were there until 5AM. I texted my gf that I'd still come over that night if she wanted me to. She responded with "no way, you were up all night. I'm coming to you, I'm gonna make you dinner, and you're going to sleep." I know how much she doesn't like the drive, or my tiny bed (I've been a single dad for a long time, it's usually just me and my dog so don't judge my tiny bed). Dude! What an amazing woman! I've never had somebody put my needs above their own like that. Especially after just 6 weeks of dating.
Binky Melnik 11 months ago
She sounds amazing so far! I spose it’s possible she could potentially go waaay too far, but it’s unlikely, so enjoy and appreciate the hell out of her, BEP! I hope she remains at least as wonderful as she is now! (And be sure to return all the wonderfulness, as good begets good, so wonderfulness begets wonderfulness!) I hope she makes your Christmas magic and that you do the same for her! Way to go, bud!
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Pamelot 11 months ago
Oh! ! #11. I have VERY thin strawberry blonde hair. My boyfriend was partially bald with a nicely trimmed beard. During the "dating days" my loving guy actually said, "You are my first girlfriend whom I am not jealous of her hair." Oh yeah I'm gonna marry this guy!? I did. We had 25 years together. R.I.P. 💖
Nikole 11 months ago
My ex legitimately believed famous people had sold their souls to the devil. Atheist me for several decades could do nothing to dissuade him from both of those insane and stupid concepts.
Nikole 11 months ago
Oh! And when the CEO got shot I very sarcastically texted him about how sad it was. He responded that it was sad, because someone died (someone who allowed for the deaths of thousands of people, but sure) and that he invests in United so he has a personal interest. Quote: “Gotta play the game or get played.” This fúck who works at Costco (nothing wrong with that in general) thinks he’s part of the elite because he owns a few shares. I can’t. I’m going to bed. I’m already angry again but it’s like screaming into a void.
Load More Replies... January Tempis 11 months ago
So many of these have me practicing how to leave a relationship on this spot if there are certain red flags.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 11 months ago
My ex: You don't need to eat vegetables to have a healthy diet, that's all just left wing b******t
Libstak 11 months ago
Don’t correct him. The Darwin awards need his contribution
Load More Replies... Kkg 11 months ago
We've been together for a few years, went for a trip together. I got a food poisoning and spend most of the night in the bathroom. Then next day we went hiking (together). When we came back I was sooo tired, I could barely stand on my feet. And he sat in an armchair and said that I should cook, because he is tired,as he's been walking all day. He didn't change his mind even when I mentioned that it's really unlikely that he feels even close to how bad I felt. It was one of many instances when he was completely selfish, but this one really opened my eyes.
BeesEelsAndPups 11 months ago
Maybe it's my dad instincts, but I couldn't sleep knowing somebody I care about is ill. I'd be up all night with my girlfriend holding her hair or rubbing her back. And we likely would have skipped the hike even if I had slept. Hope you found a better man, or just found it better to be without one at all.
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 11 months ago
My ex after I caught him cheating for the second time: "It would've all been fine if you hadn't found out!" and thought he was making a valid argument lmao
Júlia Fortes 11 months ago
there's a rihanna song about that, don't tell me you're sorry 'cause you're not, baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught
Load More Replies... Claire de Geradon 11 months ago
We've always talked about how we were gonna have numerous pets (dogs, cats, goats, horses,...). One day i come back with a tiny kitten after it's was being hit by a car. He told me to put her in the basement and that she could not live in the house because it'll be messy. 3 days later i was packed with my kitty and now she's the sweetest pet i ever had. Never scratches, never poop outside her box, never steal food. He's still alone
Diolla 11 months ago
Came home after a full day of work, which was 106 km away from my home, so I would always come home late in the day. He had just been sitting around the house for days. Saw me come in and first thing he asked was, "what you gonna cook for dinner?" as the fridge was empty. That was the moment I realized this is not The One :-D
Doctor Strange 11 months ago
I'd say it was when she admitted she was deliberately pushing me to commit suicide.
BeesEelsAndPups 11 months ago
I'm gonna take a moment to brag about a girl I'm dating. We've only been dating for 6 weeks, so things are still very new, but she lives about 50 minutes away from me. Anyways, my kids are spending the night at their mom's tonight, so I was going to go over to her place tonight and bring her dinner (she hasn't met my kids yet, and her kids are both grown). Unfortunately last night I had to take my youngest to the ER (A&E for UK types), no worries she's fine, but we were there until 5AM. I texted my gf that I'd still come over that night if she wanted me to. She responded with "no way, you were up all night. I'm coming to you, I'm gonna make you dinner, and you're going to sleep." I know how much she doesn't like the drive, or my tiny bed (I've been a single dad for a long time, it's usually just me and my dog so don't judge my tiny bed). Dude! What an amazing woman! I've never had somebody put my needs above their own like that. Especially after just 6 weeks of dating.
Binky Melnik 11 months ago
She sounds amazing so far! I spose it’s possible she could potentially go waaay too far, but it’s unlikely, so enjoy and appreciate the hell out of her, BEP! I hope she remains at least as wonderful as she is now! (And be sure to return all the wonderfulness, as good begets good, so wonderfulness begets wonderfulness!) I hope she makes your Christmas magic and that you do the same for her! Way to go, bud!
Load More Replies... Pamelot 11 months ago
Oh! ! #11. I have VERY thin strawberry blonde hair. My boyfriend was partially bald with a nicely trimmed beard. During the "dating days" my loving guy actually said, "You are my first girlfriend whom I am not jealous of her hair." Oh yeah I'm gonna marry this guy!? I did. We had 25 years together. R.I.P. 💖
Nikole 11 months ago
My ex legitimately believed famous people had sold their souls to the devil. Atheist me for several decades could do nothing to dissuade him from both of those insane and stupid concepts.
Nikole 11 months ago
Oh! And when the CEO got shot I very sarcastically texted him about how sad it was. He responded that it was sad, because someone died (someone who allowed for the deaths of thousands of people, but sure) and that he invests in United so he has a personal interest. Quote: “Gotta play the game or get played.” This fúck who works at Costco (nothing wrong with that in general) thinks he’s part of the elite because he owns a few shares. I can’t. I’m going to bed. I’m already angry again but it’s like screaming into a void.
Load More Replies... January Tempis 11 months ago
So many of these have me practicing how to leave a relationship on this spot if there are certain red flags.
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