The reasons why modern-day dating sucks so much are plentiful and a lot of it is, of course, related to dating apps. For one, they are giving us too much choice while at the same time not enough good matches. This leaves many overwhelmed but still starving for meaningful connections.
Then, there are all the problems that are related to texting. Ghosting, quickly losing interest in a conversation, not being able to convey emotion or get into a conversational flow through a screen.
Throw in some instant gratification and an otherwise already hectic schedule and voila— you have just created an awful dating experience. So awful, in fact, that almost 80% of singles report that they are experiencing dating burnout.
If you’re already in that 80%, the list of examples below will only make you feel worse about it. That is why Bored Panda contacted Lilian Czolbe, a relational coach and an author of a web series on online dating, to get some tips on how to navigate today’s dating scene.
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At Least She Knows She's Picky?
or "I offer nothing but I want someone to take care of meeeeee."
Load More Replies...I so wish the first letter of each line spelled out something - opportunity missed!
I tried to see if they could be rearranged and using four of the first five looked promising, but alas there's no "W" to complete the word I was thinking of.
Load More Replies...If someone says they are high maintenance like its something they are proud of, run. Run fast,run long, run like Hell is chasing you and hot on ypur heels but RUN¡
When it comes to online dating, Czolbe has a few tips on how to make it fun and interesting. First things first: you have to be yourself. “Create a profile that screams 'you.' Use recent, unfiltered photos, and write a bio that captures your essence. Honesty is the secret sauce for cooking up meaningful connections.”
She also encourages to prioritize quality over quantity. “Rather than pursuing many connections simultaneously, focus on a few quality interactions. This approach can lead to more meaningful and fulfilling connections.”
She notes that this tactic might not only lead to deeper connections, but also will be great for your own sanity. “Keeping up with several conversations at the same time is really challenging. You mix up the different people and ask George about the sister he turns out not to have—whoops!”
A few other important things that Czolbe lists is prioritizing safety, keeping a positive attitude, and taking time to take care of your own personal needs and aspirations.
Pretty Much How Most Tinder Convos Go Now Anyone Under 25 For Me. Wanted A Sugar Daddy
Also, this person didn't state their age, but if you are older thinking a under 25 is going to hookup just to hookup...you are stepping in that.
Honestly, if she was cute, i would pay to shove her in my exs face. This type of chick probably gets off on that, and 300 isnt a bad price for an escort
Certainly opposed to those that will itemize a date out to $500+!
Load More Replies...Muh sex work is work as long as they are open about it I don't see the problem
I agree but in addendum an important pre-requisite is that the prostitution is something the prostitute consents to doing and isn't forced into be a prosy and that they are an adult.
Load More Replies...Girl On Tinder Wants Korean BBQ
Just set DoorDash onto the task from this post... 27 minutes remaining!
Load More Replies...Another big thing is staying open-minded. “Picture this: you've got this big circle that represents all your expectations, and you're trying to fit someone inside. But guess what? It's like trying to squeeze a watermelon into a lunchbox - it's just not gonna work.
So, I encourage folks to ditch the rigid checklists. Keep an open mind, and you might find yourself pleasantly surprised by the unique qualities of someone who didn't tick all your preconceived boxes.”
Trying To Get A $100 Minimum Dinner On A First Date
"I have been on many nice first dates" is not the flex you think it is. It's a parade of red flags.
Someone help me with “det,” please? I assumed it’s a shortened form of something, but after wracking my brain, I came up empty. Gimme a clue, please. Thanks! 💋
According to the Urban Dictionary, it means "don't even trip" (=don't worry). It makes sense, but I don't know if it's the right "translation".
Load More Replies...Jonathan, The Choosiest Of Tinder Beggers
Agreed. Probably not many ladies who meet that description who are actively seeking a demanding, self-centred, freeloading, poorly-dressed streak of sh*t in an absurd hat who takes selfies in the shoe sections of department stores.
Load More Replies...I love the fact that he doesn't mention what he brings to the table. At all.
What a tool! I love all his physical physical requirements while he looks like a burrito in a hat lol.
The incel is strong with this one. He doesn't want to partner he wants a slave/sexdoll.
How is she going to make 70k and be available at all times? Let me guess, he also wants her to be sexually inexperienced but perform oral sex well.
Well, he did mention required extracurricular activities.
Load More Replies...Guy Went On One Date With A Girl, Waited 3 Months Of No Contact Before Deciding To Pick Out Every Insecurity She Probably Has About Herself. Claims She Hurt His Ego, Then Proceeds To (Kind Of) Ask For A Second Date
There are no words, actually there are plenty but bored panda won't let me use them.
Well, they say you are what you eat, so this charming specimen probably had the excrement of a flatulent horse for dinner.
Load More Replies...I stopped reading after "full fat coke." Just stfu, dude and preserve your 2 remaining brain cells- we wouldn't want the friction of them rubbing together burning them out.
Especially when he actually says "Good day to you". I could just see him tipping his hat.
Load More Replies...A guy l turned down once after a date texted me that if "l made a real effort " he'd be willing to grant me... another date. I replied with a long HAHAHAHAHA
I would've sent him a HAHAHAHAHA text every day as a follow up (until I got blocked that is)
Load More Replies...Mmm, I would troll the hell out of him. I made a scammer cry at some point; I'd have a field day with this creature!
Maybe it would be a good idea to lose a few stones, perhaps you could get rid of them by throwing them at him? I would be happy to give you my rock collections for that.
In fact, managing expectations is one of the crucial things when it comes to online dating. “It’s all too easy to conjure up grand fantasies about your potential match. You know, based on those heart-fluttering messages and a carefully curated profile. It's like writing a movie script in your head, and you're the star.”
Solution? Meet with your match as soon as possible. “It's like turning on the lights in a dimly lit room; you'll get a more accurate view of your potential partner and avoid investing too much emotional energy in an imaginary superstar.”
"Not Everything Is About You"
I noticed this, very weird if she is 🤔🙈
Load More Replies...I —CANNOT STAND— the audacity and entitlement of these snotty little cows these days! Where did the world go wrong that they ALL walk around with their heads up their a r s e a living in fairyland thinking they’ll score a guy that is a billionaire, model and all round ‘perfect’ gentlemen.. something bad either gone wrong with parenting, schooling or both.. because their attitudes are DISGUSTING!
Love = being loved. Demanding that someone send you free food is just entitled begging.
Load More Replies...The same thing as when guys think they're owed something when they do pay?
Load More Replies...First One I’ve Run Into On Tinder
Maybe she is chatting with another guy who just donated.
Load More Replies...Wow; it’s never even crossed my mind to mention dollar amounts and things I need, but having seen this, I think I’m gonna start to do exactly that to the ones who simply won’t go away but seem to want to bore me to death. All my responses to those from now on will be “I’m trying to put together $150 for a Foredom Flexshaft. I current have $200, but I also need a laser printer. I’m also STARVING but my doctor says I should ONLY eat the best omikase I can find, and I need a haircut, but that’s $120 and I haven’t even begun to save for it yet!” I’ll make it a macro and anytime anyone bores me, or if they mention astrology or the zodiac, MAGA, the orange criminal, Andrew Tate, or vaccines, I’ll send along an extra-special, expensive message! That one’s gonna mention pink sapphires and tanzanites. I might even include photos!
I hope Tinder lets you report scammers like this and get them blocked. These are nuts.
The Choosing Beggars Of Tinder
WHY??? Because many men (not all) ONLY try to date wayyy outside their 'league'. Many men are a 4 on a scale of 1-10 but since they are materialistic and possibly have a lot of money, they will find women like these. Then they justify spending a lot of money on the woman, and says like, 'well, thats why she's so HOT, she works on herself'. Just like an old man who only dates young women -- doesn't seem to mind paying for an idiots lifestyle just to be with someone younger.
I'm going to say the unpopular thing- at least she's being direct and straightforward. No one is forced to swipe right. If they do, then they have accepted those terms.
I would totally set up a date with her and send her the address to meet up at a landfill
Dating in general requires you to be aware of what we expect from our potential partners. “We've all picked up some wonky ideas about love from movies, magazines, and Aunt Jane's advice at family gatherings. But it's time to separate the rom-com illusions from reality.”
A good example of that is a partner that does it all. “In today's complex world, we all play various roles - professional, friend, lover, family member, and more. The expectation that a romantic partner should fulfill every aspect of our lives can be overwhelming. By recognizing the value of diversifying our support systems, we can maintain healthier, well-rounded relationships.”
She Took "Pay To Play" To A New Level
You mean I can charge you $1 to allow you to enter my DMs, $2 for a response from me, and $3 for a conversation with me? Jeez you must be very desperate for a connection, sure I'll connect with you and make a little extra cash
This Cb Is Homeless With Three Kids And Making Demands On A Dating App
How the kids popped up if there's no sex before marriage? Previous marriages maybe?
Chubby midget with 3 kids wants no sex before marriage, right, so where did those 3 kids come from , immaculate conception ?
For The Record, There Wouldn't Have Been A Date
Put some pictures of naked mole rats inside.
Load More Replies...Didn’t say they had to be your nude pics. Just get some grandpa on grandpa and put it in there.
So, you have an honest profile, a good attitude, and realistic expectations, and it’s still not working out—you get discouraged by all the rejections. How do you deal with that? Czolbe’s advice is to try and normalize people saying no to you. “Rejection is like that side dish that comes with every dating meal and almost everyone gets a taste at some point."
She notes that Ken Page, the author of Deeper Dating, claims that 90% of people we date aren’t even the right match for us, so we should expect for people to turn us down.
Blunt. Feminist. Liberal
You can see why the height matters, to gather the not-so-low-hanging fruit.
Load More Replies...She claims to be a feminist who enjoys nature but is obsessed with his income and physical appearance? Cool interpretation... she sounds insufferable.
It's weird that height shaming is so normalised, if I gave a weight limit, I would be an arsehole. So shouldn't we shame people for height shaming, there is very little that can be done to change this.
Yeah, I don't get it either. Every woman I know thinks it's ridiculous to judge someone based on height. Let's hope this trend dies a quick death.
Load More Replies...Maybe we should link her with that Christopher shoe store guy from (currently) #1 post?
First of all, the income stuff is totally out of line. But I don't understand the obsession with height. I'm 5'9, and dated a guy who was 5'6. I had NO problem with it, I don't care how tall you are, but he would get literally angry with me for being taller than him. Like seriously? I was full-grown when we met, did you think I would shrink with age that quickly?
I was actually fine with all of it except the super strict rules about money and height.
This Guy Is A Literal Content Gold Mine. I Don't Think Any Woman Would Want To Date You Buddy
I think I speak for most of the LGBTQIA+ community when I say we don't want your support.
Anyone who puts "likes an*l" in their bio spends A LOT of time watching p0rn alone
Yes, because I feel this dude, if it is not a troll, needs to be back when men could control their wives
Load More Replies...What is it about breakfast that makes it have its own "good at cooking breakfast for me" category and not fall into the category of "can cook good food"?
I guess idk much about this but… aren’t dating app profiles supposed to be, like, oh idk ABOUT YOURSELF? Not a list of demands for a potential partner?
Taking Tinder Dating To A Whole New Level
And of course she's a c you next Tuesday for not wanting to do 1,000s of dollars in labor for the privilege of his match. Gtfo dude.
100% that damage is her fault. Bet she was texting ans hit someone.
A great way to deal with rejection is remember that this is not just about you. “It's often about the other person's issues or their cryptic texting skills, not your worth. So, we switch the narrative from 'I must have done something wrong' to 'I'm a catch, and they missed out.' It's like a self-esteem boost with a sprinkle of empowerment.” For example, if you get ghosted, she encourages people to view it as a reflection of the other person's inability to communicate, rather than a personal failing.
Went On A Date. Said I Was Looking For Something More Serious, No Hookups, And He Left Immediately. A Couple Months Later And I Get This Message
This is bizarre. And now I really want to know where they're "competing" 🤔
I would totally agree to it and send him the address of a mental institution
Stay for 3 weeks lol. He doesn't even have game...like he knew this competition was coming up, should have kept in contact
Tinder Is The New U-Haul?
Part Of The Time-Honored Tradition Of Making A Dating Profile That Demands Everything And Provides Nothing
No feminist qualities... but must pay for first date lololol... this moron should never reproduce
Your "stadards" aren't standards, they're servitude and your dream woman is Donald Trump.
Conservative and open minded? Those two things are diametrically opposed
He may mean "open minded" is the sense of being willing to accept the most ridiculous ideas without evidence or even against the evidence. Hence, "conservative".
Load More Replies...Sounds like a conservative was honest for the first time ever. Lol keep looking buddy no one wants your hypocritical a*s
According to Czolbe, self-reflection and self-growth should also be a part of dating life. “Dive into self-development, explore hobbies, and figure out what truly matters to you. Find the activities that feed your identity and independence, and you'll not only be a more attractive date, but you'll also enrich your own life in the process.”
Dead End Dating Profile (F) Asks Me (M) For Ride At 2:07am, I'm Not That Desperate. Til "Goof" Must Be A Powerful Insult
Should have texted "Hey, you are in luck. I am right outside your house" - that should have brought things promptly to an end.
The fact he blocked out the text and covered it with "polite opening" is super sus. Obviously trying to make himself look like the good guy/victim.
These Are Realistic Standard For Dating On Craigslist
It's crazy how many of these demanding, entitled, out of touch people cannot spell but have no issue demanding height requirements and income minimums.
From a royal line? I guess I am. I've been called a royal pain in the a*s more times than I can count.
I don't think Royals look at Craigslist, you might want to check Angieslist
U Pay
I swear, all of these women just see men like they're an infinite money generator.
And while issues related to online dating and apps is one of the big pain points in modern-day dating, it is certainly not everything. Czolbe highlights the rise of long-distance relationships as well as the struggles people have with communication in general.
For those fed up with it all, she suggests connecting with a professional like her, who can help them navigate the treacherous landscape. “I am still taking clients,” she smiles.
Im A Few Months Into My Tattoo Apprenticeship.. Apparently I Shouldn't State My Job On A Dating Site
It took me too long to figure out they were talking about tattoos
It talks about tattoos in the title?
Load More Replies...Tinder Surgarless Sugar-Daddy Wanted
This is like prostitution, except that only one party is going to get fu*ked.
Believe it or not there are men that pay for companionship that doesn't involve sex.
Load More Replies...Um... Since people don't seem to know, the "sugar" in "Sugar Daddy", is the money. She probably doesn't realize it, based on context of the message, but she is advertising free sex. What she probably means to say is that she wants to be a "Sugar Baby", but without the "Sugar", since the "Sugar" in "Sugar Baby", is the sex.
Alright Boys I'm Done With Tinder
I'm already a sugar daddy to someone like this. I call her my daughter!
All in all, dating can be quite challenging, so be brave and have fun. And if you see any choosy beggars on the way to meeting the one, screenshot it so we can put it on the next list like this one and completely forget about their existence—there are plenty of way better fish in the sea.
Dating Apps Are For Getting Paid, Not Getting To Know Each Other
TO NOT HIT ME UP! TO NOT WAIST MY TIME! Ya feel!!! Jesus christ; what’s happening to communication? Do people no longer WANT to feel heard and understood? Ah, nuts; I’m waisting my time worrying about it; I’ll be dead in thirty years anyway, so I’ll let the stupid talk among themselves.
How hard did you cringe while typing "waisting"? Lol
Load More Replies...Don't "waist" her time, guys. Clearly this is one you do not want to miss.
Do these people realize other people are real or do they just think we are background characters
My Sister Got This Message From A Dude On Tinder Asking If She Would Overhaul The Branding, Website, And Social Media For A Tech Start Up For Free
Some expect something for nothing, maybe the better question is how does someone get this way
Load More Replies...I’m wondering whether this works? I’m tempted to make a fake profile to attract a house painter. If I’m successful, then perhaps another profile can get me a good mechanic, a talented lawyer, a good money manager … wait: I should prolly start with that one, huh? Anyway, it looks as if we can build entire TEAMS on dating sites! Sure, we’ll get dumb ones, but we can still tell people we have ‘em!
My Tinder Bio Has Photography Set As My Job
Hey, can you just donate a bunch of your time to an entitled stranger? No? Selfish b*#@h!
Ah The Latest And Greatest From Tinder
I have never suffered from erectile dysfunction.... until reading this!
I admit to suffering from making less than 100K.
Load More Replies...The guys aren't experiencing erectile disfunction. That's just a natural response to her... personality.
I have lizards in my yard and suffer from Reptile Dysfunction. Does that count?
First I Thought Cb Was Cheap. Then I Thought Cb Was Bored. Finally, I Thought Cb Was Desperate. Is The Facebook Marketplace The New Tinder?
I feel stupid. I’m pretty sure I know what “Cb” is, but at this moment, I’m drawing a total blank! Help me out, please?
Imagine Thinking You're Worth Paying To Talk To Lol
Does anyone REALLY wanna talk to someone who’s so desperate for a single DOLLAR that she’ll charge just to acknowledge your uninspiring “Hi”? What the hell can she offer in return for your dollar? She’s so broke she NEEDS A DOLLAR, so I can’t imagine anyone getting ANYTHING of value out of her.
Found On R/Tinder
I can't. Try as I might, I can't avoid telling stupid jokes.
Load More Replies...Woman From My Old High-School With Two Kids Looking For Dates
Cb = Choosing Bumbles?
I’d agree to renovate her whole house. Then no show. Oops, I thought you were joking….
Tint My Windows For Me, It Would Be A Great First Date!
I'd be hoping that 'tint my windows' and 'applying my tint' are euphemisms.
Because those DYI tint jobs *always* turn out so nice. Never peeling and full of air bubbles.
Uhh, Does This Abomination Of A Dating Profile Count?
"- cannot speak in coherent sentences that actually sound intellectual BYE", "-bad communicator BYE", "-a liar bye, about anything BYE" Have they ever heard of a thing called capitalization and grammar?
Inches " equals inches but i had the same reaction when i thought it was feet...
Load More Replies...There's no point in saying BYE to people who were never going to show up in the first place.
Tinderbeggar! Lol
$10 that she won’t keep her promise even if someone is stupid enough to buy into this
"Like literally I have hit rock bottom" YOU. MEAN. FIGURATIVELY!!
"I promise if you buy me this car I'll see you al the time." Talk about a lose/lose proposition.
Found On Tinder
I knew girls like this, it was tragic, they would do this just for a bed to get out of their abusive homes
This Guy Is Looking For A Sweet Submissive “Personal Assistant” On A Dating Site. Rent Is Included. What A Deal Ladies!
Yeah - "The last time she was seen, she had applied for a job..."
Load More Replies...So you want to harass & assault an employee for what I'm guessing is at an hourly wage of "Get me a coffee, now!" And other delightful forms of compensation.
Google Search: Highest Paying Jobs
Found On Tinder, She Sounds Like A Great Catch!
wait wait wait veterinary ophthalmology is a specialty that exists though?
At least these people put it out there and say what they want. Is it gross, sure. But do they sometimes catch that fish with their s**t bait, sure. We all have our core values. Some people's values are s**t. its why the world is the way it is right now. All I can say it they are up front and honest, and that gives the other people with [in my belief better values] the chance to walk away.
I wonder if any of the people ever get any takers. That is just crazy entitled.
The delusion is strong with these ones. I'd just love to see if any got ANYTHING at all.
I am on many dating sites. they are chock full of scammers: pay me for medicines-someone is sick and needs pills, hospital won't give care etc, Then "I need Menstruation supplies, along with a bloody panty photo, PAY MY BILLS, Be my stand in to inherit, I am short on travel money- send $50. I am six blocks away, Give me STEAM card money so my nephew/son/child can play games(Sunday Night 9:30). I know a man who paid his monthly pay to a woman coming from Abalama to new York city. She had a bad tire, needed tow truck $500, gas $400, Motels for three nights $600 and food, etc She said she was in Brooklyn but never showed up
At least these people put it out there and say what they want. Is it gross, sure. But do they sometimes catch that fish with their s**t bait, sure. We all have our core values. Some people's values are s**t. its why the world is the way it is right now. All I can say it they are up front and honest, and that gives the other people with [in my belief better values] the chance to walk away.
I wonder if any of the people ever get any takers. That is just crazy entitled.
The delusion is strong with these ones. I'd just love to see if any got ANYTHING at all.
I am on many dating sites. they are chock full of scammers: pay me for medicines-someone is sick and needs pills, hospital won't give care etc, Then "I need Menstruation supplies, along with a bloody panty photo, PAY MY BILLS, Be my stand in to inherit, I am short on travel money- send $50. I am six blocks away, Give me STEAM card money so my nephew/son/child can play games(Sunday Night 9:30). I know a man who paid his monthly pay to a woman coming from Abalama to new York city. She had a bad tire, needed tow truck $500, gas $400, Motels for three nights $600 and food, etc She said she was in Brooklyn but never showed up
