We all have beliefs we hold on to tightly, sometimes so tightly that it feels like nothing could ever shake them. After all, once we’ve made up our minds, changing them isn’t exactly easy—we humans can be pretty stubborn like that.
But “not easy” doesn’t mean impossible.
These Redditors, for example, let go of some of their strongest opinions and shared what life threw their way to make it happen. Read their stories below, and if you’ve had a similar experience, tell us in the comments!
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Universal Healthcare.
I used to be AGAINST it. I now SUPPORT it.
I did a college project showing the case AGAINST Universal Healthcare. I had fantastic insurance through my dad's employer at the time.
Fast forward: 26th birthday.
Lost my dad's insurance.
Had a crappy retail job and couldn't afford insurance. Wasn't able to find work in my field. Was also in my state's gap for coverage. I was scared to death about getting sick. Even the simplest problem like needing antibiotics scared me so so much. There was no way I could afford a hospital bill.
Eventually I clawed my way up and landed a job with good pay and great health insurance. Regardless those few years where I was uninsured scared me so much... I worry about those who don't have adequate coverage and aren't fortunate enough to move up in the workplace. It's a nerve wracking place to be.
Everyone should be taken care of. Period. Nobody should have to make a choice between keeping a roof over their head or having health insurance.
Edit: some words.
How anyone could be against universal health care is beyond me. I live in the UK and 20 years ago the NHS treated me for ovarian cancer. I'm still going strong thanks to the NHS oncologists and nurses. Not forgetting the lovely Sri Lankan guy who brought tea and biscuits on a trolley. He was so kind.
The problem with universal healthcare most people have, is that you pay for it through taxes regardless of being sick or not. Rich people don't want to pay for anyone else, because that would lower their riches. So they start to indoctrinate the masses that universal healthcare is evil. In Germany we have the GKV since 1883, which not even the Nazis dared to touch.
Load More Replies...From an outsider's perspective, you have been bombarded with c**p like "your taxes are going on people who made bad choices" when referring to people who have illnesses or disabilities and "ThAt'S sOcIaLiSM!!"
You are paying for others bad choices with insurance too plus the bad choices of the CEO, their executive schmucks and a return to shareholders whose main aim is to have you pay a fortune and receive nothing in return.
Load More Replies...So many people are against it until it effects them. Then it's, "Everyone deserves health care!"
It's a pity that it needed to be in the situation as well for OP to change their mind. What's so hard about "I have great insurance through Dad, but not everyone is so lucky"? Well, at least it helped.
Some people seem to have trouble with empathy - but at least he got there and hopefully can transfer this thinking onto other things in life too
Load More Replies...We are in Canada, and Universal Health Care covered the better half's double mastectomy as well as all cancer testing and preventative d***s for the next 5 years. I would be scared sh*tless if we had to cover those costs in the US.
If people want universal healthcare at the federal level, the constitution needs to be changed. Depending on their state government, they could have it at the state level.
The problem with universal healthcare is not whether or not it’s needed, but if it’s constitutional. It’s not. So, get it passed in your state or get the country to pass a constitutional amendment.
Unfortunately, this is the position of most conservatives. I don't want it… until I need it. And ALL OF AMERICA suffers for their lack of awareness and lack of just common sense.
I used to think poor people were just lazy, but then I learned more about history and racism and economics. Now I basically think rich people are the problem.
And 100% of all right wing propaganda is meant to dissuade people of that truth and blame liberals, immigrants, gays, and women for the country's problems.
Load More Replies...It's called exploitation culture. Part of the exploitation is convincing everyone else that their victims are to blame.
And you wonder why MAGAts are constantly attacking education standards?
People don’t realize that having more money doesn’t reduce anyone’s capacity for being more productive.
As a teenager I used to debate people online about why gay marriage is wrong.
Then I went to a Christian college, studied my faith and Hebrew, and realized the Bible doesn't even say that. Yay for my hippie Christian school. Now I'm still a Christian, but one that's a LGBT ally and who tries to convince others they are wrong about what the Bible says about gay people and others.
(Also realized my faith alone shouldn't dictate law anyway).
My thing, as a Christian, is that I'm not to judge others. So, it doesn't matter if I agree or not with what others do, it's not my business.
They're halfway there, now they just need to realise that all the other stuff their religion says is equally flawed.
Why? If it gives them comfort and they are obviously not wanting to use it to put others down, why does their faith need to change?
Load More Replies...im just going to be open about this. i used to be like this too. i used to think that gay and transgender was wrong and that they were disobeying god(i blame my mother). and i refused to believe that i was transgender because then i would be saying that "god make a mistake with me". but during my freshman year of high school, i watched jaiden animations video(i think we all know which one it was) and i started to question if what i thought was actually correct. i began doing more research on lgbt and i came to the horrifying realization that not only was i was wrong, but i was hating on people that not only had received enough hate already, but i was one of them. its been almost 2 years now and i still feel bad that i thought that gay and trans was wrong and that they chose to be like this. and now i know from personal experience, we didnt choose to be like this. we never chose who to like, or what gender we are. im so sorry for my younger self. i wish you could have known this sooner.
My dear, give yourself some grace. You've had an incredibly important realization at a relatively young age. Too many people live their entire lives without doing so.
Load More Replies...Christians often recite Leviticus 18:22, but what about Leviticus 12:3? How many "real" Christians do that? There are many other commandments, but Christians today just use those convenient for them.
Anybody wants to pull out ridiculous quotes piecemeal to try & defend a hyper specific position, I point out that they have a tattoo and are wearing more than one fabric material so are doubly. Lev. 19:28, Deut. 22:11 & Lev. 19:19. And if they're a woman, I point to most of 1 Tim. chapter 2.
Load More Replies...When these "Christians" say gays are an "abomination" I'm reminded of Jesus' second commandment - love others as I have lived you. I dare any Christian to point out the exceptions to that.
I used to be super anti abortion cause I grew up with horror stories of it being a situation where the babies were ripped apart and pulled out.
I got more educated, and then had a friend go through one, and now I'm pro choice. I still don't like the idea of abortions. It's way better to prevent pregnancies. But I support them being legal and the woman being able to choose.
Nobody likes the idea of an abortion. Nobody is pro-abortions. Nobody cheers to increase the number of abortions. We just want them to be accessible in the case they are needed, because we believe in the right of women to control their bodies and their lives, not to be reduced to biological machines of reproduction.
The first time I heard someone say that no one is pro-abortion, they framed it like this: "No one is pro-abortion. No one says, OMG I just had *the* best abortion, you have *got* to have one!" It makes me laugh to this day when I think about it, and it's also very true.
Load More Replies...There's a concept here in the UK that abortion is just an easy form of contraception for girls who 'can't keep their legs together' (never any condemnation for men who can't keep it in their pants). Women from all walks of life have abortions for all kinds of different reasons and have done since time began. It's never a decision that's made lightly and nobody has the right to judge.
Of course the idea of abortion is f****d up! The idea of bringing a human to this world when it is not wanted is even more f****d up. The only sensible thing to do is prevent and as a last resort abort.
I used to be 100% anti-abortion, too. Then, I grew up and realized that of I (a woman) don't want people telling me what I can and can't do to/with my body, I can't use that control over someone else.
Project 2025 has lines in it planning the end of providing birth control under any government health insurance program.
I am honestly terrified. Of all of it. Every aspect, from social to environmental to heathcare to economic
Load More Replies...Never understood why some people have the need to control what women do with their bodies... why should anybody be allowed to tell them they can or cant have an abortion if needed.
Men need women to pass on their genes, if women can chose not to do so that might result in a particular man not being able to do so.
Load More Replies...For what it's worth, in Judaism, abortion is absofuckinglutely permitted for basically whatever reason, up until the mom is in labor. (As in, it's said so multiple places in the talmud and implied in the bible by the punishment for causing a miscarriage not being murder, along with being allowed to execute a pregnant woman as long as she is not actively in labor). Abrahamic religions need not be anti-abortion.
Just here to point out that sometimes a baby IS cut up and removed...but it was *already dead*. Sometimes our bodies do weird things. There can be a miscarriage/stillbirth but the body decides not to expel the tissue. Sometimes they try to induce labor, other times they perform a D&E. That is literally an abortion, although the child is dead, and it's even billed as such.
I used to be a staunch Republican and now lean heavily to the left. In essence, I stopped voting for "me" and started voting for "we".
I never have considered myself a staunch Republican, because I have never felt any loyalty to any political party, but I have certainly moved further to the left in recent years.
The reverse for me. I used to be a staunch Democrat until Bill Clinton lied under oath and had the audacity to question the definition of "is." It was then I realized that neither side is "good" so I no longer vote on party lines. I vote on the issues.
I vote for what is best for my child and every other generation after mine.
I wish people would stop voting for parties and start voting for common sense
It would be helpful if the people we voted for actually displayed common sense.
Load More Replies...What Republican programs? Not a single conservative candidate has come up with any program that helps the average working class person in America. All they do is blame liberals and immigrants and gays for the countries problems.
Sadly, if you put a Conservative and a liberal candidate in a bag and shake it, only things fall out are campaign checks. THAT'S why Dems lost and Trump won. The left forgot their core constituency and the "Orange God" capitalized on it.
Just remember: what most USians consider "the left", is centrist in the rest of the developed world.
The fact that americans think that the democrats are "the left" makes me laugh hard. Their political ignorance is immense.
I used to be anti-union, because I saw too many "lazy" workers being protected. After a few years, I saw too many "great" workers left unprotected. I realized that unions help protect the balance.
I have never understood the US hatred of unions. They are there to help workers.
It is from a combo of very effective anti-union propaganda, and what @Papa said.
Load More Replies...When my husband came to the US with me and started working they offered him enrollment for the union. He is used to much better worker protection/rights in his home country and asked me if it was worth it, to which I said YES. Eight years later and he has had many instances in which he was very thankful to have the union supporting him and his coworkers the way they have.
I’ve been a union member previously and was a workplace delegate at one of my jobs. I honestly believe that without unions we, Australian workers, would be relying on tips whilst working for less than minimum wage.
Countries thet dont have unions are missing out! Nothing better than your place of work break some rules and you call your union and BAM the place of work is fined! And you still keep your job and your rights!
Same here. I used to be anti-union, too. But, I've seen how these non-union companies abuse their employees for decades. I much more open to the idea of unions nowadays.
The big box stores really do a great game of anti union venom, but, they know- if they were ever unionized, justice would be f*****g swift
Used to b***h about "frivolous lawsuits" and say things like "a******s can sue McDonald's when their coffee's too hot".
But came to learn the truth of that suit (Documentary "Hot Coffee") and realized the courts are one of the last places where the average person stands any chance against the wealthy/powerful/corporations.
To be honest, I was also against the person suing McDonalds after just seeing the headlines. I mean, it sounds kinda ridiculous and my first thought was a Karen trying to get rich. (Also when working at a fast-food restaurant there's been few times we've been yelled about too hot hamburgers). But actually reading about the case changed my mind pretty fast.
Which is a great example on how corporate money can set public opinion.
Load More Replies...The problem is not frivolous lawsuits. It's frivolous defenses - put up by clearly guilty corporations who string out the legal process until their victims run out of hope and money.
And that doesn't mean there aren't so many stupid and countless frivolous cases clogging up the courts. All those embarrassingly stupid "warning" labels found on....pretty much every product these days (examples include: Chainsaw: Do not hold the wrong end of a chainsaw, Hair Dryer: Do not use while sleeping, Blow torch: Contents may catch fire, Car sunshield: Do not drive with sunshield in place, Carton of Eggs: THIS PRODUCT MAY CONTAIN EGGS, Little plastic letter opener : Blades are extremely sharp, safety goggles recommended, Front loading washer: Do not open while in use, Vanishing fabric markers : do not use to sign checks or legal documents, HILTON HEAD COCKTAIL NAPKIN with map design: Not to be used for navigation. Dremel: Not intended for use as dental drill. A superman costume: Suit does not provide super strength or ability to fly. Every single idiotic thing like that, is the result of a frivolous lawsuit brought about by someone doing something stupid.
For every label "because of a frivolous law suit" there are two laws "because of inhumane fraudulent actions by big companies".
Load More Replies...She got third degree burns, and just wanted the medical costs covered. They refused, so she sued them, and got more than she asked for in the first place.
And again, the right wants to eliminate regulations. Because unregulated corporations make more $$$, it's cheaper to trash the environment in manufacturing processes. It's cheaper to make your products less safe.
I fear that in a lot of "first world states", especially in the States, you might have NO chance if you cannot afford a high class lawyer... :-(
McDonald's coffee isn't a frivolous lawsuit. But there are still many of them
I grew up in a religious cult believing that I liked other guys because of imperfection and sin, and whole heartedly devoted my life to suppressing that “illness”.
I ended up in the hospital on an attempted to take my own life by overdose. During my mandatory psychiatric stay, a psychiatrist gave me quite a figurative slap in the face. Unlike therapists up until that point, he had absolutely no respect for the idea that I could suppress being gay. He was openly against it to the point of being rude. Would straight up laugh in my face when I said with all determination that I could lead a celibate life. I didn’t appreciate it at the time, but his words stuck with me and made me rethink my priorities. Long story short, I’m now out of the cult and have 0 contact with any of my old friends or family. It still hurts a lot but I can say with confidence now that I made the right choice.
This aligns with how the "pro-life" movement somehow feels abstinence is the only proper way to avoid unplanned pregnancies. "If you don't want kids just don't have sex!" The ludicrousness of that argument astounds me
I was compelled to respond to my GOP rep crowing about overturning Roe. " Congratulations, now fully fund Medicaid, WIC, Food Stamps, early education, and the rest to ensure those kids "saved" can survive".
Load More Replies...I used to think that my gayness was a sin until I realized that I had done nothing wrong, and that the people who spread those lies were much worse then me.
100% I know people that are grandparents, dying of old age, still trying to convince themselves that they can pray their way into heterosexual feelings.
Being gay is more than just the s*x. It's who you are attracted to; staying celibate won't change that! Forced celibacy is part of what caused the child-r*pe scandal within the Catholic Church.
I was briefly on the anti vaxx train with it causing autism and s**t. Then seen a point about how we just got better at diagnosing it and was like “that makes sense” and that was that.
The amount of money that has been spent on studies proving that vaccines don't cause autism when the guy who said it literally made it up. All that money could have been spent solving actual problems, such a waste.
It’s amazing how true this is about so many things
Load More Replies...We need to say clearly that autism is a genetic condition that you are BORN with. It often doesn't become apparent till after the age of basic childhood immunisations, but there is NO link. You might as well say that it's caused by bottle rather than breast, which is an equally ridiculous statement.
Even if vaccines did cause autism, autism is better than dying from preventable disease.
This is a poignant argument. Would you rather a child live with autism or die from diphtheria, HiB, or the measles? And even the non-lethal diseases we vaccinate for can have permanent, life-altering effects. For example, HPV causes many cancers, HepB causes liver damages, mumps can cause deafness, etc.
Load More Replies...Correlation doesn't equal causation. The only reason why people still believe that vaccines cause autism - even though that guy's paper got debunked and he lost his medical license for fudging his numbers - is because the first signs of autism start showing around the time that the first children's vaccination cycle finishes. It's a good thing that some of the research money went into debunking the suspicion of that, but the fact that the belief still goes on and we now have deaths from measles is trully disheartening. A lot of learning difficulties have gotten more nuanced as time goes by. I am 41 now, and when I was 14 I got diagnosed with dyslexia - I'm not sure I have it, as my "symptoms" align more with ADD or ADHD than dyslexia. But the point is, that back when I was 14, you were either dyslexic or stupid. There were no other labels for a kid that didn't do well in school. The autism spectrum was so narrow, that it wasn't even considered a spectrum yet.
The doctor who found the (so called) link between autism and the MMR vaccine was paid to find it by a bunch of lawyers wanting to cash in on the lawsuits against the pharmaceutical companies. His "findings" have been thoroughly debunked a number of times and he had his license revoked. This doctor took advantage of a coincidence since the first signs of autism present about the same time the vaccine is given.
Wakefield wanted to get rich pedling his own vaccine, so it was just the MMR that he fabricated problems with. He had like 12 children in his "study" and no-one has ever been able to repeat his "findings".
I'm old enough to remember the Legionnaire's Disease outbreak in 1976. If people then had acted the way idiotic yanks did after 2020, then 75% of the yank population would have died, along with other parts of the world.
I'm a latino person that hated "those" latinos that made me look bad.
Stopped watching Fox news after I moved out. After a few incidents with racists that can't differentiate legal/illegal, realized myself and parents are brainwashed.
Fox News isn’t news, it’s bs to stir up ratings. It scores low on accuracy and truthfulness. Research it. Associate Press has been well vetted to be an accurate source of news.
Cheetolini and the rape-ublican fascists plan to deport ALL Latinx people. Not just "undocumented", and not just naturalized. If your parents, grandparents, or great grandparents immigrated, you'll be deported. Even people whose ancestors were there before the Mexican Cession in 1860 will go. THEN they will go after Black people and ship them "back to Africa".
I thought people who didn't want go to college or people who didn't even try to pursue a higher education were making a mistake. Now with the cost of college, student loans, and meeting people who were successful without college, I totally get it.
Any young-uns I encounter I push trades. "Imagine STARTING at $45k/yr, no debt".
The daughter of someone I know is 20 and has just started as an electrician for a big UK company. The starting salary is £31k per year.
Load More Replies...Also, there is no live without blue collar jobs, farming, retail etc. If everyones a manager or professor, what are you going to eat?
Same. I was on the HS newspaper staff and had to interview outgoing seniors about their plans after they graduated. My first question was going to be "what college will you go to?" until my parents and I had a chat and I realized not everyone goes on to college. This was in the mid-90s.
People with higher education on average make more over their career that people that didn't go to college: accounting for debts, they earn less on the first decade and then overcome the average tradesman. Also, people who did not attend college and start a business has a higher risk of failure or bankruptcy, and their companies on average last less than businesses founded by college-educated people. (all sources on another comment from a while ago, but BP search function sucks)
The trades should be pushed just as hard (if not harder) than college. Most (if not all) trade schools PAY people to learn. An apprentice can earn good money while still learning. That goes up when they reach journeyman. By the time they reach master level they can be earning six figures. Tradesmen have little to no debt - and if they do have debt, they can pay it off within 5 years.
I do understand this point but recently my husband and I went to see old friends, and we're the only ones who finished college, and we're the only ones financially stable and comfortable. Our friends are struggling SO MUCH. After my husband and I got our degrees we both had jobs in the first year after where the yearly increase in income covered the cost of our degrees. I know it isn't this way for everyone but if you DON'T get a degree it's so hard to get it and benefit from it when you are older. I'm still going to encourage my kids to go to college. We hope to nice to a country that covers tuition for it's citizens though.
You're being deliberately inflammatory and hyperbolic. Students protesting genocidal actions against innocent people is NOT "pro-terrorism". If anything, it's anti-terroristic, depending upon who you see as the terrorists.
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I used to think it was bad for kids to be raised by a gay couple. I wasn't militantly against it, but I disagreed with it thinking the kids would be mercilessly teased. Then in college while writing for the school newspaper I was sent to cover a lecture given by two guys who adopted d**g addicted babies and gave them a home. They even nursed an HIV positive baby to being HIV negative. Opinion changed almost immediately.
The smallest bit of life experiences can change unfounded biases. It makes sense how so many FOX viewers or "I don't watch the news" people can be so self assured and so wrong.
When there’s love, care, thoughtful parenting and commitment to the child then the sex or sexual preferences of the parents is irrelevant.
This one is either BS or OP doesn't know the difference between extremely low viral count and HIV negative. HIV negative after having been positive would equal to the person having been cured. No baby has been cured if HIV. The cure to HIV is actually quite dangerous and only 3 people have successfully undergone that treatment. None was a baby. Most likely, the baby received retroviral treatment and the viral count is so low it's undetected but if the person comes of the meds, the viral count goes up.
This one is quite misleading. The HIV case, I mean. Only 3 people have been cured of HIV because the cure is extremely expensive and full of risks. They probably took care of the baby and ensured it was properly medicated so that the viral charge is near to zero. It won't be zero and that person will always have HIV.
Gay couples are very important to nature, gay birds usually adopt orphans or rejected chicks because the straight couples are busy with their own chicks.
You cannot change HIV positive to HIV negative. They either lied to you or you’re lying to us.
I’m guessing they just don’t understand how HIV works. They probably meant that the baby was given antivirals to reduce their viral load to undetectable levels.
Load More Replies...Down vote you for this ridiculous statement:"Typical cisgender heterosexual male behaviour."
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Growing up in a religious Jewish household, Israel was meaningful and important to a lot of my family members, some of whom were holocaust survivors.
(Try, for a moment, by the way to put yourself in the headspace of a holocaust survivor on this. You've been through hell and back and lost most, if not all of your friends and family on the other side, your entire life has been defined and dominated by antisemitism and being an outsider.
And then you find out Jews are getting their own m***********g country. HOT DAMN. Sounds pretty f*****g sweet. So, I get the appeal.)
So there was a lot of subtle pressure in my life to see the actions of Israel's government in a positive light, pretty much no matter what, and most of my Jewish peers went on "birthright" trips to Israel and came back really adamantly zionist (it was a little spooky even).
And I really just wanted to believe that and wanting to believe it for a long time functioned as believing it until... it just didn't anymore and now I'm just a self-aware critic of Israel. I don't think Israel can be made to not exist as a country, but I think there needs to a be a radical reformation within its government and culture that moves it away from being a flagrant ethnostate.
This post is not critical of the Jewish faith, but the actions of the Israel government. Watch the John Oliver "Last Week Tonight" episode on west Bank settlements. The Israeli government is committing war crimes and genocide.
So is Hamas, Hezbollah, Iran, Taliban, Putin, Xi Jinping.. not to mention so many African and South/middle American states, need I go on? Why always focus on Israel for being the bad guy when there is so much suppression in the world? I wished all of you would give that the same attention as you give Israel.
Load More Replies...What most people outside of Israel don't realize is that this post represents a very common view of many Israelis about their own government. All Zionism is is the right to self-determination in our historic homeland. There are as many different views about what that looks like as there are Israelis (Jewish and non-Jewish) and Jews in the world. A word about genocide - it's not happening. If Israel is committing genocide, they are doing a terrible job and would not have even entered Gaza or Lebanon with ground soldiers. The Palestinian population has increased ten fold since Israel's establishment in 1948. Want to criticize Israel's use of force? Be my guest. But words and definitions matter.
The number of people who have been needlessly killed in Gaza since last year is enough evidence of genocide. They are no longer bombing just to destroy Hamas, that much is clear. In fact, I don’t believe they intend to stop until all of Gaza is gone.
Load More Replies...The world government took land from a group of people to give to another group of people and just expected everyone to get along? I've never understood that. And, I've been researching the history trying to understand it. I don't think Isreal can just be "erased." But, like the OP states, something needs to change on BOTH sides so that coexistence can occur peacefully.
Most of the original land (not the occupied areas) was bought by Israel just after WWII from Arabian sjeikhs, for Manhattan prices. They applied to the UN to be a state, and if Palestinians wish so? They could be a state as well. But then they have to remove the elimination of the State of Israel from their agenda. They refused that so far. I wished they didn't, get real, become a state and look for peaceful coexistence.
Load More Replies...The majority of Israelis agree with you. Hundreds of thousands have been demonstrating to get rid of this cultist, brutish government for two years. The governmental structure has made it difficult, but cracks are beginning to be seen, and we're hoping it will topple soon.
this is kind of like how it is for me. my family says that we should always support israel no matter what, because according to the bible, israel will always be in the right because they are gods people and we should support them no matter what. and one time i saw a bunch of supporters for palistine in fresno, which is about a hour from where i live, and one of them was wearing a trump head and according to my mother, people who support palistine are also trump supporters. but then again, i see all that israel has done and im not even sure anymore if what the bible says still applies to our people today. for now, i feel like im neutral on this, because i dont want to upset anyone
The world had a chance to show that modernity could mean accepting refugees or even ending 2000+ years of persecution. You f****d up and did the bare minimum as we were genocided. You had a chance to prove Israel doesn't need to exist. Six million Jews died. When another genocidal maniac rises up, we have every reason to believe you won't do a thing unless forced to. Antizionism is asking Jews to put our lives in the hands of antisemites, and then criticizing us for rejecting that "deal". And you're right - the Holocaust is taught very poorly, in isolation, as if Hitler wasn't drawing on a long history. It was not the first or last example of antisemitism, which has stretched back for 2000+ years and been pretty much a constant of Jewish history. How long can Israel "play" that "card" for? edit: wording could be read as making me to deny the severity of the holocaust, editing it to make it clear it's that I think the Holocaust is taught *poorly*.
Load More Replies...If these few BP posts prove anything, I think it proves there can never be peace in the Middle East. I know very little about Israel, Gaza, West Bank, etc. But what I do know is that millions of people have been killed over these borders within the past 100+ years, & people have very long memories with their own versions of history. There have been so many wars & every group has their own version. There are no "good" guys or "bad" guys. Not one group at this point can claim the moral high ground. Too many innocent people have been slaughtered. These govts seem to have no interest in ending these wars; they simply want to annihilate each other. My heart hurts for their citizens, who are the ones truly suffering.
not millions. Both Military and Civilian since 1948 only 150k total dead, and that includes all deaths, including the 8 Arab Counties involved in the many wars. We had that number in 1 year in Yemen
Load More Replies...If israel wanted peace, it would retreat to the 1967 borders. They don't want peace, they want 100% genocide or 100% ethnic cleansing.
legally there is no such thing as a 1967 border, it was a ceasefire line from 1949, Israel in 1949 wanted it to be a formal border, but the Arab countries refused. So when Jordan attacked Israel in 1967, when they were asked by Israel to stay out of their war with Syria and Egypt, Israel captured the parts of the Judea and Samaria region Jordan annexed and renamed The West Bank in 1950, Israel put it under their control. But there never was a legal border, hence the name Green-Line, the color used for ceasefire lines on maps. And Israel has offered many deals, including 97% of the West Bank, with land swaps for the rest. Every Israel deal has been rejected by the PA. And if they wanted genocide, they are doing a bad job at it. I mean they lost hundreds in an invasion of gaza to root out Hamas, when they dropped enough bombs in the first 3 months, that if they were trying for ethnic cleansing, the amount was enough to kill 1.2 million people. Not to mention they literally built all of the Gaza and West Bank water and electric, most of the hospitals, etc. Facts matter
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Honestly, though I never expressed them externally I had some rascist and superiority complex thoughts and had some aversion to people due to these thoughts. I slowly learned as I got older that these thoughts had no basis and were completely wrong and found myself quickly having friends who more likely than not were completely different from me :).
fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering - small green dude
Load More Replies...I would bet most anti immigrant people have never interacted with a Hispanic person. They certainly have never seen immigrant terrorists because that has never even happened. I suggest all these racists look at the FBI data where they list the number one threat of terrorism in America are the hundreds of white militia groups.
A lot of the "I'm not racist, but..." arguments come from a subconscious place. It did for me for a long time. They simply don't recognize it as racism because it's been ingrained as fact since they were very young children (and I mean like toddler-hood, when critical thinking skills are just beginning to develop, not like adolescence when you understand right from wrong but are heavily influenced by non-parental people).
I used to think that death penalty was a good idea. I thought about the people who've been killed who were later proven innocent. I don't think we as people no matter what happened should have the right to take someone's life.
I agree. Even the death certificates of people who have died under the death penalty say Homicide. They've proven the death penalty doesn't deter crime, so (except for vengeance - and that IMO is NOT a good reason to kill anyone) why do we keep doing it? The government is just murdering people for murdering people. I don't see the logic.
Load More Replies...In the US, the biggest irony is that the states that put the most prisoners to death are also the same states that have done their best to outlaw abortion because "life is precious" and all of the pro-life b******t. They'll do anything and everything to save a fetus, including risking the mother's life, while also saying it's perfectly acceptable for the state to kill another human being, as long as it's NOT a fetus.
Mom dies, fetus dies... pro-lifers: "our work is done here." :(
Load More Replies...There are literally thousands of people taken OFF "death row" who were innocent, and scores of proven cases where innocent people were murdered by the state ("executed"). The day you can bring an innocent person back from the dead is the day killing prisoners is acceptable.
Yeah it amazes me that the legal profession supposedly hold onto: It is better that ten guilty persons escape than that one innocent suffer. - but take no issue with the death penalty
Load More Replies...They might deserve it but that doesn’t mean we should do it.
Load More Replies...I heard a quote years ago but couldn't tell you who said it. "Why do we kill people who kill people just to show that killing people is wrong?"
IF proven guilty, I would lock them up for the rest of their lives. However, too often, innocent people were incarcerated for crimes they did not commit. Forced into false confessions etc. How would you feel spending 40 years in prison for something you did not do? These people can still be set free (although I hate to think how you live on after so many years behind bars, being innocent), but if you executed them, you can never make amends.
Load More Replies...America - In God We Trust - 5th Commandment - Thou Shalt Not Kill - America ‘yeah we kinda ignore that bit and quote the bits we like’.
Putting someone to death isn't going to bring your loved one back, and is it really going to make you feel better? Your still going to be full of hate.
Statistics show it is cheaper to put a murderer in prison for life than the pay for all the court costs and his legal appeals for the death penalty.
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Load More Replies...We don't impose the death penalty for all murders. We only impose it in the case of a deliberate and planned in advance killing of a helpless human being. Which is an excellent description of an execution.
I used to want kids.
I really, really wanted to have kids. My whole life I wanted to be a Mom, dreamed of what my children would be like. I was always fairly practical about when I wanted to have them, though, and was pretty careful not to get pregnant. After being married for 5 years, my husband and I decided to go for it. We tried for a little over 2 years, unsuccessfully.
It sucked.
One day I got my period and was relieved. Relieved that I wasn't pregnant. I realized that I didn't want that anymore. Talked to my husband, he felt the same, I got back on birth control. That was a couple years ago, and now we are discussing sterilization for both of us.
Sadly many girls are educated to want to have kids. It begins with dolls specifically made for "motherly" tasks. Why are there no dolls for boys?
Boys have action figures and army men for the same reason girls have dolls, to steer them in a path that the elites in society want them in. For boys it's to grow up and jump in the meat grinder of the military industrial complex. For girls it's to encourage the desire for children so they can take the boys and use them up, the girls are used to make more children, the cycle continues.
Load More Replies...I wanted to have a kid too. It wasn't a dream or anything, just a part of life. We tried for four years, had a miscarriage and then nothing. We're ok with that, we have a good life with our two cats.
I wanted kids, always said I wanted 5. It never happened. I am now very grateful I do not have kids, I don't think I could mentally or emotionally handle it as well as I thought. Love my neices and nephews to bits....one day I was looking after all 4 while their parents had a day out together...a few stressful led days, house flooding, evacuation etc....my sister rang and asked if they could collect them after dinner instead of before as planned.....sure, but I'm putting them out into the traffic to play...( I wouldn't really, they were all safe and loved...I like my own heads space too much. Love them but someone else can have them
I'm the opposite. I used to be staunchly against having children, and now all I want is a baby
The idea that having kids makes for a happy family is a myth promoted by conservatives and religions. Psychologists will tell you having a family is the number one cause of mental disorders.
I don't know what male hurt you, but we're not all like that.
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I used to really believe that it's not worth doing something if you can't do it right. After all, no one wants someone who's not committed if there's someone out there who's more committed.
Kept this mentality through college and it cost me almost all my grades; I go to a really competitive school and the amount of work is such that it's absolutely unrealistic to expect to put my best foot forward all the time. I didn't understand that and as a result I would literally just not turn in assignments. I ended up failing 3 classes in one semester because I couldn't turn in any essays, problem sets, or fully prepare readings for class. I got depression and couldn't summon the energy to shower, brush my teeth, or eat breakfast, so I just didn't.
Taking a semester off made me realize that most of the things in life need to be done, more than they need to be done well. For example, I think most of us can understand that it's better to brush your teeth once a day, with no toothpaste, for 30 seconds, than it is to not do it at all. Similarly, it was a slap in the face when my English professor came up to me after I failed the semester and said, "you need to learn to be comfortable giving me s****y essays because a 40% is better than a 0%."
I've found it applies to more of life than just college. Closed mouths don't get fed.
Anything worth doing is worth doing badly. You only become good at something through doing it.
That is a really hard thing to learn after being told to only do well all your life. I did some similar things to the OP and it was actually a professor from whom I learned this. It was one of the first things he told the class. I still struggle to remember this, but being able to sometimes call on it is a big help!
Load More Replies...This is a really hard lesson for perfectionists to learn, really hard!! Still working on it, slowly but surely.
My daughter is like you were. She failed courses at her university last year due to her perfectionism and missing deadlines. She is now retaking the courses and seeing a therapist. I will be so proud to see her graduate.
I was helping a kid with her schoolwork. Kid made a comment about not being able to do something and I said "well that's why you go to school - so you can learn how!"
Do your best at whatever you do, then no one can say you have failed. You will have improved yourself and the only failure was the expectations by those who gave you the task.
i sing because i love to sing. I am a s**t singer. Does not matter, i am singing for the joy of it. I have been playing FPS video games nearly every day for over 30yrs. I am mediocre at them, just an average Jo. But they are my passion. Throughout life all the things that NEED TO BE done, I am at best average at. But they still have to be done. When i was younger, i loved to hike in the mountains. I was the slowest hiker you would ever see. I used to get overtaken on the way out by old couples in their 50s and 60s, then they would pass me on their way back... i was still on the way out. If i had the attitude that I would only do things because i was the best at it, then i would never have done a single d**n thing.
Its better to do something badly than nothing at all...time make us become better, for most things
You may have internalized it incorrectly. I deal with tolerances all day long, I know where I can miss and where it has to be dead nuts. Don't polish turds, they still smell the same way and go to the same place.
I used to be super pro Second Amendment. I had been waning on it for a while and then the Las Vegas Massacre happened. I just couldn't justify it anymore. I'm not militant about it or anything. I don't think we should ban everything, but *something* has to be done. There are too many weirdos out there who are being radicalized online.
In the second ammendment "as part of a well trained militia" comes BEFORE "shall not be infringed". The constitution directly demands gun owners be trained, regulated and registered as part of a state sponsored defense program for their right to bear arms to be protected.
"Well armed militia" means the NATIONAL ARMY, not inbred individuals that are looking for an excuse to murder someone.
Load More Replies...The first sentence of the 2nd Amendment is about a well regulated militia. How often does that happen these days?
The Founding Fathers were not infallible. I have long been of the opinion that the Second Amendment is a mistake. But we can never repeal it, given the current political climate.
Just like driver's license or medical license, there needs to be a gun license. Besides, when the Amendment was made, automatic rifles with hundreds of rounds didn't exist.
The failure in that argument is that "something" has to be done by "someone". Who are you going to pick? Quite a nebulous argument to me. It treads on the line of restricting someone for something they may do.
Yes, we definitely have a mental health crisis going on. But letting individuals who are having mental health crises get their hands on guns is just stupid. Why NOT just give a psychotic person a semiautomatic weapon?? Are you SERIOUS?? Yes, guns are a VERY large part of the problem, and we don't just ignore that until we solve the mental health crisis because it might keep you from getting a new gun for 3 days due to a background check. That isn't "violating" your rights, as so many of you insist. And anyone who own a gun should be required to carry insurance, just like car insurance. Also, no one under 21 should own a gun. We don't let 18 year olds buy cigarettes, but you can buy a gun at Walmart?? WTF is wrong with America? (That's a rhetorical question, btw)
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I used to think that people who claimed to have an anxiety disorder were mostly exaggerating and crying for attention. Then I moved away for an internship one summer and got to walk a mile in their shoes. I knew no one where I was living, and ended up isolating myself. Symptoms crept in one at a time, and while I never reached a point where I felt it absolutely necessary to seek professional help I did get pretty close.
Going from feeling generally comfortable in my own skin to constantly worrying about what you've screwed up and what you're going to screw up next is a terrible feeling. Not being able to sleep a wink despite being exhausted for nights on end is something I don't ever want to experience again either. It made my performance at that job horrendous. Luckily I spend enough time on the internet to stumble across really inspiring people and sources that helped me fix my situation. Others aren't quite so lucky, and have to work 10x as hard to battle through it.
I used to think the same thing. I am at the point where I can only function for 30 minutes a day, and it destroys me that I have become so broken. I would do anything to be better, but it isn't that easy when you need to be better to become better. It's like being poor. All you need is a good job to fix it, but you need a reliable car, shower, good health, reliable phone, clean clothes, training, tools, a solid work history, credit score, industry connections, refernces, and so much more before you can hold onto a good job.
Michael I am sending you so much love. I have severe anxiety and depression as well and it is EXHAUSTING. I took spend most of my day doom spiraling and wondering if the smallest things will end in catastrophe. I'm a shell of who I once was and it sucks.
Load More Replies...yeah must be great for these people to go through life NOT terrified of everything and everybody. That is not my life.
Are you going to assume people are making too much of a big deal about cancer until you get it? How about trying to be open-minded combined with an effort to do research on a particular issue?
I used to be solidly in favor a routine infant circumcision. I believe it was cleaner and healthier and that it protected the boy from a lot of problems. now I have learned better and I'm very solidly in favor of everyone having body integrity and all kids being protected from genital mutilation.
As someone who's Little Sergeant has a turtleneck, I never understood this 'cleaner and healthier' premise. All body parts that don't get washed are prone to being unclean, so clean them.
The basis of the argument hinges on the fact that the foreskin doesn't fully retract until sometime between the ages of 5 and 10 years old.....and kids, are disgusting little monsters with terrible hygiene, while parents get more and more squeamish about ensuring that particular aspect of hygiene the older the kid gets, as well as being unwilling to engage in any kind of discussion regarding that area of topic. So basically it boils down to parents don't want to deal with it, nor are they comfortable discussing it so better to just mutilate it.
Load More Replies...Infant Circumcision is mutilation. If you do that to your child, you're a PoS, no matter the justification you use. And no, your religious nonsense doesn't change that fact.
Male circumcision was a historical action with good reason: people who live in deserts without water get sand everywhere. Same goes for pork in hot areas: pork is like chicken that it deteriorates quickly if you cannot keep it cool. A chicken can be eaten by a family in a day, a pig is too big for that. However, in cold areas the foreskin protects the penis. And pork can be kept cool. Both circumcision and pork got religious connotations in the middle east, because there it was just common sense to do. Nothing wrong with that, unlike the FGM, the female genital mutilation which serves not health issue whatsoever.
Circumcising a boy so he doesn't get infections is like pulling out all their teeth so they never get a toothache
The decision on whether or not to circumcise our son was a big conflict between my ex-husband and me. He wanted it, I didn't. His main argument was that our son might be teased or humiliated by future sexual partners, until I pointed out that a) he was likely to be teased or humiliated by someone at some point over something because humans are perverse in that way, especially teens and young adults; b) our son could always choose to have it done when he was older; and c) it's becoming more common for boys who don't come from Jewish backgrounds to be uncircumcised, so it's less likely that our son will be teased about it than previous generations. Our son (now 6) is uncut.
70 year old circumcised male here. I never missed it. I don't know what all the fuss is about.
Oh, it's you, the Holocaust inversion person! Yes, it is, but blaming Jews for it is odd. We've got under 17 million people (hell, I think that was our population peak - in 1939!) If you're to blame someone, Christians and Muslims have more people who follow that religion and, if they saw fit, could have simply condemned it.
Load More Replies...its no different than cutting a girls breasts off to make sure they don't get breast cancer
I believed that transgender people shouldn’t use their preferred bathroom. I didn’t think about it a lot, but I just thought you had to be your assigned gender. I eventually realized I am lesbian, and educated myself on transgender rights. Now, my best friend is a trans man, and I strongly oppose anti-trans policies, like the bathroom bans.
If you were paying attention to news stories to arrests, you'd know that the ONLY people being arrested for sexual assaults in bathrooms or illegal recordings with cameras are cisgender heterosexual males. Cops have no reason to protect Trans people, nor do the rightwing corporate media. And yet ALL the arrest records involve cis hetero males. Usually rightwingnuts and religious fanatics.
And now it seems to be considered for any of Trump's cabinet positions you must have a history of being a sexual offender.
Load More Replies...1 in 10 people have irregular sex/gender/chromosome irregularities. That does not make them dangerous. I promise you, they are more scared of you than you are of them. No one commits suicide because of "personal choice" has driven them there. If we are banning clothing choices that allow people that have ACTUALLY assaulted children to continue, let's start with priest robes and boy scout leader uniforms.
The 'against' argument hinges heavily on the idea that someone who is about to commit rape or sexual assault will be stopped by an icon on a door.
I think gendered bathrooms are unnecessary. I honestly don’t care who is in the next cubicle
i used to be like this, too. then i thought, well, what if they've had bottom surgery? and realized it's really just about the way you look, which is also ridiculous because there are feminine looking cis men and masculine looking cis women. so then i realized it doesn't matter. use the restroom/locker room/ect that you feel comfortable with. if you're comfortable with it, chances are everyone in there will accept that you just belong there. it's pretty dumb to make someone who has XX chromosomes but totally looks like a dude go into the ladies room and vice versa.
Or we could just shift to single person toilets instead of stalls in the room and literally EVERYONE would be happier and safer for all sorts of reasons. The whole bathroom debate really could be such an non-issue. People use unisex toilets all the time (disabled toilets are always unisex, porta-loos a festivals, many of the more modern museums I've visited recently have individual toilets etc). If we decentre sex from our social structures entirely, things get a lot easier
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I used to be very anti-SJW, kinda far right, used to be kinda racist, was against gay marriage, abortion, etc. There was no one event that led me to change, just towards then end of my junior and throughout my senior year of high school, I changed and became more open. I realized I had been indoctrinated by the conservative Christian school I had been going to. They made lots of b******t rules so after I figured out those were b******t I started questioning the other things they teached. Now I’m a freshman in college with a gay flag hanging in my dorm.
I think it means Social Justice Warrior? A pejorative term and internet meme mostly used for an individual who promotes socially progressive, left-wing or liberal views, including feminism, civil rights, gay and transgender rights, and multiculturalism. Copy pasted from google.
Load More Replies...We are a product of our environment, but sometimes change only comes when we change our invironment.
Those that research are better people. Because it is only through questioning our assumptions and looking to correct ourselves that we can improve.
So many things. Off the top of my head: evolution and GMO’s were two big things.
I was raised a Jehovah’s Witness, so thought the world was 6000 years old. Didn’t believe in evolution. Used to get into arguments with the doctors at work (I worked in a hospital). Realized before university how much sense it makes when I started reading Richard Dawkins’ books. Now I have a degree in molecular biology, so I finally understand evolution a lot better.
I used to think GMO’s were evil and was vehemently opposed to them, but then I realized that I was just perpetuating misinformation without any reason for believing what I believed. When I finally asked myself why I believed GMO’s were bad, I realized I didn’t even know what “GMO” stood for. Quickly realized while reading up on them how amazing they are. Years later, while getting my degree, I also took a genetic engineering course. Fun stuff.
Faith is easy when you are willfully ignorant. That's why church teaches "if it's not from God, it's from the devil"
Willful ignorance is my #1 pet peeve, gets me irrationally angry.
Load More Replies...Hold it. Jehova Witnesses do not repudiate evolution. On the contrary, they believe that evolution is real an that that's how God created the world. I have friends who belong to the religion and, out of curiosity, studied the Bible with them. I was always told that evolution goes hand in hand with creation and that you can be a good Christian and a scientist at the same time. I even read it in some of their literature. If OP was thought otherwise then it's by some rogue teachings. More, I never heard any one criticising GMO, still don't hear my friends doing so. On the contrary. Sounds like OP was going to some very rogue Kingdom Hall (they don't have churches).
I realized I didn’t even know what “GMO” stood for. Well, a lot of people do not know what that is. I don't know what that is. I hate abbreviations used in these posts. Not everybody lives in the USA and is familiar with common used phrases
Didn't someone mention something about "willful ignorance"?
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When I was younger I hated the US with a passion for many reasons. Now, after meeting some average US citizens I realized although the place and it's people aren't perfect (no one/nowhere is) I no longer hate the US. My hate was always unwarranted and petty.
So many idiots in this world, every country has their sprinkling of them, if you think your country doesn’t have them then I hate to break it to you, it’s you.
I think you can hate countries without necessarily being patriotic and loving your own.the idiots are everywhere.the problem with the US is that it's political influence is so huge, so you get a resounding anger at the country for voting in a way that will ehgatively impact your day to day life. It's not hating every individual american, but right now I've come to hate what the US stands for and is doing (e.g. making abortion illegal) and how it is taking the leading in moving backwards in the western world.
Load More Replies...As much as I hate our government and politicians, Americans as individuals here in the US (not as tourists, we're god awful as tourists), for the most part are good people. We're just like everyone else, trying to get through each day the best we can, and I think the majority of us (I won't say the vast majority), but more than not, we were raised to help people and try to leave things around us better than they were before we were there. We really try to do more good than bad. Whether we succeed, I don't know. But I think most of us try, even when it feels like a constant uphill battle.
You can hate US mainstream culture. It's fundamental guideline is exploitation.
That's basically true for every society. Rich exploit the poor no matter where, when and what political system.
Load More Replies...We have some truly embarrassing and awful people here in Australia, and more than our fair share of extra evil political figures, but we're not all like that any more than all Americans are gun-worshipping racist morons.
I used to be completely opposed to the idea of spandex being in jeans. Denim should be rough and strong, not stretchy! You need to break it in! I went for years stuck in my ways even as my family tried to convince me.
Then one day I was shopping by myself and tried on a pair of stretchy jeans... any they changed my life. I bought multiple pairs and wear them daily.
They still don’t hold up as well as strong denim, but oh my god does the comfort make up for it!
Don’t be like I was. Try stretchy jeans before it’s too late.
There's a lot of reasons to like and wear these! For example, in a rigid jeans, if you're wearing diapers, you either have a way-too-large one losely hanging down besides you, or you have a rather tight one that gives it away at first glance. A stretchable one, likely, will offer a better trade-off between hiding something and not looking like hiding something. Will be sort of visible, still, but way less and way more comfortable.
What a dumb answer. And if i wrote the same but replaced it with black, people would be all over me.
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This is rather specific, but I was convinced that the only way I (and pretty much anyone else) could lose weight was by following a very low carb diet, or at least a diet free of any grains. I have childhood memories of my parents doing Atkins and the article “What If It’s All Been A Big Fat Lie,” and then I got exposed to keto and paleo online (Onnit, Nerd Fitness, etc.)
I lost weight going low carb. I know that plenty of people have successfully managed their weight via low-carb, keto, Paleo, etc. I tried going paleo, forgot that Vitamin K counteracts a blood thinner I’m on, ate a bunch of asparagus, and promptly had a stroke. I ended up in the “normal” BMI category for the first time since elementary school by simply eating fewer calories than I was expending. Pasta and popcorn were key factors in my doing so.
Not all carbs are equal and it annoys me that some folks are anti good unprocessed veg as though it was the same thing as a pie or cake. Eat your spuds, unfried, because they’re good for you. (Obviously anyone with allergies or food intolerances shouldn’t)
I did keto, lost a bit, looked good. Could clear a room with a fart though. Anywho, friend of mine from high school, who went on to get her Dr in nutrition told me to just quit eating sugar as much as I could. Works way better. Companies that make processed food add sugar just for shits and giggles as far as I can tell. Fresh fruits have actually more sugar than you need, so moderation in all things.
The reason most diets fail is they severely restrict or eliminate something and when the cravings hit, sooner or later the person is going to cave and blow the diet. Once that happens, most people give up. Weight Watchers and Nutrasystem have the right idea - it's not WHAT you eat, it's HOW you eat. So go ahead and have that piece of chocolate cake, that serving of pasts, etc., just don't overdo it.
Any diet that excludes whole groups of food isn't sustainable. Unless medically necessary that is (allergies/intolerances/diabetes etc), the human body is designed to be eating a bit of everything in a balanced diet. Excluding carbs completely will help you lose weight, yes, but when you reach your weight loss goal and you eat a freaking slice of bread your body will overreact to it. It's also almost impossible to go back to a normal eating routine that includes everything, after having abstained from carbs for so long, without gaining back weight. Another thing is that not all carbs are equal. Sugar and potatoes are both carbs, dark bread and white bread both have the same calories, but in both these examples, how long it takes for the body to break them down, is all the difference between "good" carb and "bad" carb. The only secret to weight loss that isn't even a secret, is simply burning more calories than you consume. But it needs to become a lifestyle, not a temporary solution.
I lost 45kg by not eating any carbs.....it was hard. Going out for dinner with friends became a chore as did any social outing that involved food,, from movie and pizza, to a wedding reception. Stop it, put some weight, sadly, back on, but not as much as I had in the past. Now eating healthier, trying to lose weight, bigger meals at breakfast and lunch, snack at dinnertime....here's hoping it's a lifestyle change I can keep, because that is the real answers to losing weight. Find something that works, eating and exercise that you CAN KEEP DOING FOREVER.if keto works for you, fantastic....can you do it for the rest of your days..that the secret formula...you have to be able to maintain the changes you make, and adjust them if necessary
My wife is a low carb person and eats very healthy diet. She has not lost any weight because she still eats huge portions.
Recovered memories
Was taught in college while doing my neuroscience degree that they were always false memories, they don't happen, you'd remember it. Then about four years ago I suddenly remembered being molested by my dad. I had very vivid flashbacks that felt like I had truly gone back in time to when it happened. And when I had my first one, my initial reaction wasn't shock, it was "oh yeah, that used to happen all the time". Eventually worked up the courage to ask my dad if it had happened, and he said it did.
I obsessively researched recovered and false memories. Turns out they are known to happen and even the researcher who spearheaded the research on false memories has said in her papers that recovered memories do happen, though with caveats like age and severity of abuse. Therapists say it's common for patients to come in who remembered abuse they had forgotten. The diagnosis for PTSD includes forgetting the event as a possible symptom. The risk with false memories comes from "recovered memory therapy" which was popular in the 80s.
If you eventually remember something by yourself (ie without psych intervention) then of course those memories will be true. However, one form of counselling gets you to 'imagine' the worst that could hapopen, and then work through it, but 'the worst' didn't ever happen, so it CAN plant a false memory.
Unless one is schizophrenic. The mind can create memories from just watching TV shows. Every time the brain retrieves a memory it alters it a little. By the time we are oldsters your memories become good, it is called nostalgia. When the reality was your past was really a mess.
Load More Replies...It's not an easy issue to come out strongly in favor of, or strongly against, the idea. Studies have shown that people's memories can be easily manipulated -- for example, by showing them a photoshopped picture of them at Disney World, when they were never actually there, and having them create a memory to back up that false image.
A bunch of stuff hit me like a ton of bricks when I was 15. This was when people were still in the throes of backlash from RMT. It was so terrible to not be believed. Fortunately, my mom knew about quite a bit of what had happened, and had my back. To this day, there are years I don't remember, expect for tiny happy bits. Not looking forward to when the rest comes back.
Being a democrat. I slowly began to realize the whole bipartisan system is rigged to pit people against each and keep everyone fighting and distracted. No wonder George Washington advises against it...
But still - anyone who votes Democrats still does more for the marginalized people than those who don't vote at all while smugly proclaiming that "both parties are the same anyway"
Bothsideism is f*****g irritating. It's indulged in by people who are too lazy to do any thinking or research. And it's harmful.
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Don't confuse been a democrat with the US Democrat party. Those are 2 wildly different things
Functional democracies have at least three national parties that hold or influence power (e.g. minority partner in a coalition). Yankland has never had more than two parties, which is the same as having one.
I was a firm believer that the death penalty was reasonable in certain circumstances as a deterrent/punishment.
Then my partner and I watched through the show Penn & Teller Bullshit. One of the episodes was about the death penalty. It's like 45 minutes long, and by the end of it, my opinion on the death penalty had completely and irrevocably changed and I am 100% against it under any circumstances now.
I have never had my mind changed so thoroughly on something in such a short time. Highly recommend people go watch that episode.
A lot of South Africans seem to believe that "bringing back the death penalty" will somehow make crime disappear. But I can't in good conscience support a system under which innocent people have been executed. I've been insulted and sworn at because of not believing in the death penalty, but... if you find out someone is innocent, if there's no death penalty you can let them out of jail. If you've executed them... oops. So, no, I will never support the death penalty.
T'Mar I'm also South African and completely agree with you. I've lost friends because of my view on this and a few other things
Load More Replies...What I don't understand is how so-called pro-lifers are for the death penalty. Putting people to death is definitely un-Christian for two reasons: 1. The person might be innocent. 2. By putting someone to death, the person has been robbed of the opportunity to repent, be forgiven, and go to heaven after all. For some people, it might take decades to see the light, and taking their earthly life means also taking their eternal one.
I agree. I am anti-death penalty….but they don’t see it that way. They believe an already-born person who is a criminal has forfeited their right to live. Some even use the fact that Jesus was sentenced to death as a reason to support the death penalty. It’s really messed up, but I know that’s what they believe because I was raised in it.
Load More Replies...USA: one of the few developed nations that has the death penalty Also USA: highest murder rate in the developed world.
The only way the death penalty could be considered OK would be if the court system was 100 % accurate. That will never happen.
Or if we were all equally likely in being wrongfully convicted and put to death. Then it would just be an unfortunate "side effect" of the criminal justice system.
Load More Replies...Watch the documentary 14 days in May. It was filmed in the 80's and followed a man on death row for the last 14 days before his execution and the cameras followed him right up until his last few minutes. Watching his lawyer find out the appeal has been unsuccessful, and then watching his family say their goodbyes stayed with me.
I've had incredible strong opinions against surveillance. While I'm still against mass surveillance, compared to before even the slightest camera could upset me.
Not only is it easier to accept now, but as I recently was called as a witness I started thinking in the terms that we might still to this day be based on witch hunts to some degree when we don't have other proof than words. Cameras can prevent that.
Sure have I understood that the use of cameras before, but never did I thought about what it actually could replace.
EDIT: fixed some typos.
Just depends on where the cameras are and the purpose. I have a dash cam and I love it.
I used to believe in the Judeo-Christian God. I sure don’t now.
Stories aren't just stories. They tell us how to be in the world. The Judeo-Christian God puts us at the top of a hierarchy and gives us dominion over everything. In reality we are part of the whole, not it's grand designer and owner. We then make choices as the lord of everything and it is going to fuckaluckadingdong us into extinction.
Once you realize it was always, and will always be a form of control, you'll liberate yourself from it.
What is the Judeo-Christian God? because Judaism and Christianity have very very different views on God. Judeo-Christian refers to the shared religious value system, a concept created in 1700s America, as early American Protestant leaders learned Hebrew and moved towards studying Jewish texts to create a "less corrupted" Christianity. Also why America historically has been very tolerant of Jews and why there is a strong Jewish-Evangelical relations in the US you dont find in Europe.
Yes their views on God are different but they are the same God. One God to rule them all.
Load More Replies...I believe in a higher power, whatever you want to call he/she/it. I just don't believe in organized religion. To me they're all saying the same thing - believe and worship as WE do or you're going to hell. Excuse me, mighty damned arrogant of you to think you have any say in the matter. Whether I do or not is between me and the Almighty and he/she/it ain't gonna ask your opinion or recommendation.
The fact that I was straight. Really tough for me to realize I like girls too. I struggled with it mostly because in middle school I'd been taught gay was a bad thing and didn't even have a word for bi. Kinda difficult for me to see it as anything else even after I realized.
That we don't teach more about sex and relationships not being binary decisions bothers me. You can have sexual attractions to situations without being gay/straight. Hell, most people watching porn are clearly ok with seeing the same sex naked and involved in sex for example, so it's not like it's all or nothing.
I used to be really against any form of sexuality. Grew up in a home that I was taught it was bad. So I was one of those girls who thought sex workers/openly sexual women were less than.
Well, I ended up getting cheated on with a cam girl. Started to cam just to prove I could do it, then saw how sweet a lot of the girls were. Also that the job wasn’t solely sexual, talking to some of my regulars gave them enough confidence to approach women in person.
Intimacy is as necessary as eating and breathing. Religion has blackmailed the public with public humiliation if they don't get their Intimacy "sanctioned" througha religious ceremony. It's all a way to bully people into their loving arms.
Two inalienable forces in life. The will to procreate and the will to survive. You must eat to survive and procreation is a force. Control both, and you can control the population. Hence religions pushing Abstinence and fasting.
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I broke up with girlfriends over wanting kids in life. Took me 30 years and meeting my wife to come upon adoption over natural.
I used to be vehemently anti-tipping. Like many redditors, I had my laundry list of reasons tipping sucks ready and waiting.
Then I actually learned about the economics, and what would happen if we stopped the tipping system. Most of my reasons for disliking tipping are still valid. They're just not remotely worth f*****g over a huge segment of American workers, as well as other negative consequences.
Politicians made paying certain people less than minimum wage legal in the US, and allowed the IRS to assume that tips at least make up the difference for tax purposes. Politicians are voted in by people. Eliminate the exemption and your workers won't need tipping. And minimum wage needs to be indexed to the cost of living. Why should workers be treated as less than your average CEO?
Tipping someone for a job well done is one thing. But, having to tip someone because their employer doesn’t pay them a living wage sucks.
It's the fact that some people RELY on tiping to make a living, that is bad. If tipping is more or less mandatory, it ought to be part of the price on the menu. As it is, it's just a way for companies to make their products seem cheaper. It also forces those people to put up with abuse from customers, as they won't be tipped if they say "Cut it out!". Give working people a living wage, and start tipping for extraordinary service, like most of the rest of the world does.
Tipping is supposed to be "extra" but the way the law is written, it allows restaurants to pay workers below minimum wage because the tips are supposed to bring it up. This thinking assumes that *everyone* will tip at least the minimum and most people know that's a bunch of BS. There's also the businesses that tip-share which means the waitstaff divide any tips they get with bussers and dishwashers.
Well, that was the stupidest opinion possible. PAYING PROPER WAGES isn't a "problem", nor is people refusing to pay tips.
Refusing to pay tips is certainly a problem for any US servers you stiff. I'm talking about people waiting tables in restaurants, not cashiers. Please don't punish the server if you visit the US. We are not going to be able to change that system anytime soon. We're currently having much bigger problems. I know non-Americans are excellent at math. Just mentally add 20% to the prices and consider that the cost of the menu item.
Load More Replies...You’re not going to change the system by screwing over some of the country’s lowest earners. That doesn’t affect the company at all.
Load More Replies... Not gonna date someone who smokes.
Married someone who occasionally smokes.
Oh, yes. I was never gonna get a tattoo (I have 3). I was never gonna drive a car (I drive back and forth to work every day). I was never gonna drink coffee (drinking coffee as I write this). I was never gonna date a smoker (first long-term BF smoked). LoL
You do realize that spending time with you, listening to you pontificate on positions we know are built on quicksand is tiresome and annoying. Perhaps listening to others would be beneficial (and hasten the process by which you inevitably will change your mind).
Load More Replies...True that. CPS took my kids away after I tried selling them for a cup of coffee.
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I voted for our President, but his "inane" tweets, are a disappointment.
If they voted for Trump, no thinking was involved. His appeal is basically to emotions and fear.
Load More Replies...Trump talking about molesting women that are powerless to stop it wasn't disappointing enough to not elect him? I get this person wrote their comment during his first election but it is just as relatable this time around.
What about him goading the crowds to beat journalists at his rallies? His long criminal record? His hate speech? His rally to lynch the nation's lawmakers when he lost?
This was 5 years ago , so during his first term. Still pretty silly but not as bad as those who voted this time
What about his lying, his history of predatory behavior, his sexual assaults and abuse? Anyone who voted for him is incredibly stupid
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I was a very committed Christian my entire life until age 35. Because I believed it was true: that Jesus was actually God incarnate, etc. etc. (Not a 6-day creationist, tho.) But here's the thing: I knew that there was lunatic fringe "biblical archaeology" that was full of c**p, but I didn't hear much about legitimate archaeology from that region/time period. And my very scholarly study Bible, which liked to mention archaeological discoveries that backed up the basic historicity, didn't mention very much, so I just thought they hadn't found much. In 2019, I learned that actually, there WAS good scholarly archaeology from that region/period, and it totally contradicted the timeline of the Old Testament. And I learned the ACTUAL reasons scholars thought that certain books and prophecies were written in a later period, rather than the straw-man arguments my study Bible talked about. My faith in the basic truth of Christianity was broken. I'm a much happier pagan/witch now lol
I had been raised very Christian, and taught that two people of the same gender marrying each other was a crime against humanity. I found out I was gay, and started questioning if all this was true or not. I found the Internet, learned more about the subject, and now I know a lot better. Also learned that evolution is real during a science lecture on the topic in middle school.
when i saw commercials for RLS (restless leg syndrome), i laughed and said that was the most made-up thing i'd ever heard. 20 years later, i have RLS and it sucks. now i'm worried because any time someone said they had a headache, i'd reply, "BRAIN CANCER!", and now i know that is not a funny thing to say. would not be surprised if i end up with brain cancer.
So, to summarize..."I didn't know what an idiot I was until I got educated, then I realized what an idiot I was..."
I was a very committed Christian my entire life until age 35. Because I believed it was true: that Jesus was actually God incarnate, etc. etc. (Not a 6-day creationist, tho.) But here's the thing: I knew that there was lunatic fringe "biblical archaeology" that was full of c**p, but I didn't hear much about legitimate archaeology from that region/time period. And my very scholarly study Bible, which liked to mention archaeological discoveries that backed up the basic historicity, didn't mention very much, so I just thought they hadn't found much. In 2019, I learned that actually, there WAS good scholarly archaeology from that region/period, and it totally contradicted the timeline of the Old Testament. And I learned the ACTUAL reasons scholars thought that certain books and prophecies were written in a later period, rather than the straw-man arguments my study Bible talked about. My faith in the basic truth of Christianity was broken. I'm a much happier pagan/witch now lol
I had been raised very Christian, and taught that two people of the same gender marrying each other was a crime against humanity. I found out I was gay, and started questioning if all this was true or not. I found the Internet, learned more about the subject, and now I know a lot better. Also learned that evolution is real during a science lecture on the topic in middle school.
when i saw commercials for RLS (restless leg syndrome), i laughed and said that was the most made-up thing i'd ever heard. 20 years later, i have RLS and it sucks. now i'm worried because any time someone said they had a headache, i'd reply, "BRAIN CANCER!", and now i know that is not a funny thing to say. would not be surprised if i end up with brain cancer.
So, to summarize..."I didn't know what an idiot I was until I got educated, then I realized what an idiot I was..."
