30 Older Internet Users Share The Things They Want Everyone Who’s 30 And Under To Know About Life

One should never feel guilty about saying "no"... people could sense this, eventually, and start exploiting your guilt to get you to do stuff you don't want to.

Two letters yet it feels so heavy and really hard to say sometimes

This is great advice, but so hard to do when you're young for some reason. I wish I had my 50 y/o confidence when I was 20.

This took me a long time to learn. I used to be so depressed because I was overscheduling myself. I read the book Boundaries: When To Say Yes and When To Say No To Take Control Of Your Life and it taught me how to say no. Yes, it took me reading a book to learn how to say no, but it was worth it.

"No" can be a complete paragraph.

I bought earplugs ment for musicians. I wear them in movies, theatre and conserts.

I have tinnitus courtesy of a road side bomb. I hate, I mean ABSOLUTELY HATE whistling now. It's like 2 out of tune violins playing the same note in my head.

Also while using power tools. My ears are wrecked from both.

Can confirm. 15 concussions and years of bouncing at concert clubs has definitely damaged my hearing and given me tinnitus. Ear plugs don't do much when you're standing in front of subwoofers as tall as you.

I think this has to be changed to make sure you spend time with those you love. A lot of people don’t have a very good relationship with their parents. If my Dad died tomorrow it wouldn’t make a bit of difference in my life because he doesn’t make an effort to be in it now.

I can't agree with this more. I thought that I'd have time later in life because my dad was 51 and I was 29 and I was trying to work hard (so no family time) and make him proud and then he was murdered. Life doesn't always take the toll we expect.

I sold my mortgage to son, moved in with aged mum in her place (brothers house), she is 90. Hate the idea of retirement prisons.

Indeed. My father was only 9 when his dad (my grandfather) passed away due to cancer.

Unless your parents are terrible people. Never let people guilt you into supporting abusive parents. Tell people who remind everyone to love their parents that they may be doing far more harm than good.

A lot of times people are knocking themselves down, they don’t need someone else to add on to that.

Not always that easy - they often start out okay and then gradually you spot the odd remark or expression, and it worsens until you realise 'wow, this person is toxic and making me feel bad!' Even then it's not always easy to pull away. Had a friend who did this and I still miss the fun times we had but she wasn't worth the pain she inflicted on me due to her low self esteem!

And continue to build them up.

Yes. This. Alot of times people pick what's good at the moment abd ultimately leads to destruction

Make sure to pick friends

Get okay with being by yourself and it will be a lot easier to only let people in your life who add to it. Stop feeling like being single is the worst thing you can be. Enjoy the benefits of living alone, of going out alone. Go on a vacation by yourself. Enjoy your own life before being invited into someone else's.

Don't let anybody think you HAVE to be with someone. I grew up as a military brat tossed all over the world with no childhood home or friends to speak of and love being alone. When I was in my early 20s, I felt like I HAD to date, to prove I didn't have intimacy issues or that I'm not dysfunctional. Forget the c**p. You don't owe ANYONE an explanation

After my divorce I spent almost 5 years single. I would date here and there, but I wasn't committed. I spent that time getting to know me. Long story short you learn what you really want/need and I've been with my current wife for over a decade.

"It's better to be alone than to be in a relationship and feel alone. "

yes! been single for quite a while now and i am not sure i want another relationship. what i do miss is companionship with someone who would share my interests. my best lesson in being solo was when a friend i was supposed to go to vegas with broke her hip right before the trip. ticket was non refundable so i went anyway. due to disability, i had to make arrangements for a chair. was the best week i ever had. met great people, strangers invited me to dine with them, and at the time there was a drag convention happening. i helped one of the ladies with a wardrobe malfunction and they invited me to their events. taught me that being solo has a lot to offer if you are willing to be adventurous.

My friends and I started giving zoo, museum etc. experiences as gifts instead of things.

Hmmmm.... yes, but sometimes things create experiences. Nothing better for me than a new book, a new tea, a lovely nature/Art Nouveau pattern bed set and some fairy lights 🖤

Things can often have a positive impact on your life.

This is just matter of taste. I love experiences, but I'm also really happy when I buy some things that allows me to spent time in pleasant way.