“It’s Actually Very Odd When You Think About It”: 50 Things That Are Considered Normal But Are Weird As Shared By Our Community
I believe we all can agree that people are strange creatures. We do loads of random stuff without really thinking about it. Our society is built in such a way that we tend to normalize things or expect someone to act according to a typical pattern. However, when you really think about it, some patterns appear to be pretty odd and bizarre.
So, I got curious about what behavior our pandas think is considered to be normal but is actually weird. I was surprised to receive so many insightful answers! Scroll down to read them and don't forget to share your opinion with us!
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That the best paid jobs are likely to be non-essential for sustaining our societies, like cosmetic surgeons or stock market brokers. And that essential jobs are paid so little, like cleaners, teachers or social workers.
This ons needs to be higher. Remember a while back in Milan the bankers went on strike and there was a panic but nothing terrible happened? And then the garbage cleaners/collectors went on strike and the city was a filthy mess. Essential workers need better wages because they are the people that make the world a better place.
PLUS, lower level workers in every damn company are the ONLY ones who keep it running and make the profits for it, yet it’s the suits, who all think they f*****g geniuses when they’re actually just a bunch of entitled f**k ups and suck ups, who make bank—-and all they seem to be able to do is come up with b******t ideas that never work, but only make the lower level employees’ jobs even harder. And they do it without even asking any of the people who will be affected for their opinions as to whether it would even work. ALL employees should be given the opportunity to give their input when it comes to ideas being floated, whether by the suits or by the CEO or owners, that will directly affect them, but never touch anyone with a key to the executive washroom.
Load More Replies...I have never understood the reasoning behind over-paying grown men to play school yard games.
Load More Replies...Totally agree. Where I work, let's just say that the pandemic showed that we don't need that much managers making 6 figures salaries (where I worked).
And people making 7+ figures. They make sure the company is more “profitable” , but the workers doing the actual work aren’t making a living wage. Those workers are often crippled by the time they can retire. But hey, the higher ups can get that Bentley & multi-million dollar mansion.
Load More Replies...Based on a recent thread I saw, teachers shouldn't be on this list. I was shocked at how many people had negative things to say about my profession, which used to be respected. It's so sad.
Agree. I think one solution would be to require anyone getting a degree/license to demonstrate knowledge by teaching one lesson ... just ONE lesson ... to Secondary/Middle-High School students about their occupation. Of course this would require CFU (Checking For Understanding). If students didn't learn anything, maybe they aren't qualified for their job. Or maybe, it's not true that most people can teach; maybe it involves uncommon natural ability combined with skills perfected over time. ... This isn't some abstract "Dream Solution", because Guest-Teachers are invited into classrooms by hundreds of thousands every year. Unfortunately, although they have the best of intentions, a lot of them fail.
Load More Replies...Exactly my opinion. And this is the reason why everything is going south. Oh yeah and don`t forget about "pro-gamers" . Playing video games for a living? Give me a break
yes, how dare people make a career out of doing something they love!
Load More Replies...Plumber here. Yall can't live without us. Plus we tend to make good money.
Idk for a lot of people cosmetic surgery is important, because they're really disfigured and suffer
Children with serious burns, cancer patients after disfiguring surgery, soldiers after suffering wounds from explosives, not to mention that woman whose neighbor's pet chimp ripped her face off -- all of them would suffer even more without the skills of cosmetic surgeons.
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Liking, following, and worshipping influencers. They’re just people, and most are faking their looks and profiles, yet it’s normal to idolize them. No thanks.
Are they really people anymore with all the implants fillers, injections and prosthetics they’ve used to modify themselves. Can they still be considered human?
Yes they can, that's very dramatic to say, hahaha
Load More Replies...People, myself included, have been doing this with musicians, historical figures, scientists, and others since before the days of the internet. Still weird.
I genuinely don't understand celebrity culture. The idea that someone is more interesting or special because they can sing/write/act etc. They're just people who have a talent that puts them in the public arena. As human's they're no more interesting or better than most people you meet. I know I'm in the minority but I still don't get it.
Load More Replies...it's 'normal' now because they've kinda made up their own job title, got other like-minded people to somehow vouch for their bone fides and relevance and all of a sudden the mainstream media are reduced to copying them or even just mentioning them as 'news' in order for themselves to appear relevant. They're not all talentless f*****s... i mean it takes at least some skill to start off editing and presenting without a script etc if they're youtubers......so i can kinda see how some of like youtubers would have been recognised for such talent whatever the media..... but instagrammers who just wear bikinis and hope sex sells just enough, or like people that fake eating massive pizzas........ or people....... and these are the worst ones imo.. just 'react' to other people's original videos...... no don't get why that's still even a thing... clive james did it better waaaaay before the internet came along. Your's truly...... Grumpy old man x
Normal people do stuff. Influencers pretend. There is nothing normal about them.
Nothing new under the sun, makeup has been around foor thousands of years. Not a single public figure out there that is not faking their looks
I CANNOT stand influencers. They act so privileged when it comes to wanting free stuff for "exposure" to that company/person.
Voting against universal healthcare, paid time off, and higher taxes on the ultrarich.
I just don't understand why anyone would NOT want these things! Ffs!
because they are tied with a Christian agenda, anti-abortion views and gun rights. Take that away from the party, and it would fall pretty fast I think.
Load More Replies...It has always baffled me that the poorest states within the US are extremely republican. These states usually have the highest welfare rates and lowest wages yet the continue to vote in these rich replublican politicians who who consistently do nothing to help make their situations better. To top it off they despise the liberal states who help fund them.
They prefer to blame those who are poorer than them or ethnic:(
Load More Replies...Counterintuitive, isn’t it, voting against your own best interests.
I have a feeling that USA are going back in time, about 50 year or so. You need to take your country back and stop letting a few old men and women take this decisions.
I've discussed this. But we're too divided now. Any physical army made will be taken out by the military. But I don't think one big enough would ever be made as they are so successful at dividing us. I don't see an answer in sight. Move away but that's running, not solving a terrifying problem
Load More Replies...Guess that will always be a problem as long as the rich make the rules.
....But one day, when I'm a millionaire those things will help me....
Yeah, the ironic part is that your chance of living the American dream is much better in Denmark, where we have all that stuff. Turns out that getting a bit of help in the begining, increases your likelyhood of achieving the social mobility needed to make it and move from the bottom to the top.
Load More Replies...Most of the world already have these things. I think you're just talking about the US, which, unsurprisingly, is way behind the curve.
When someone is in a situation (think being hurt/attacked) where they need help and instead of helping, everyone takes out their phones to record video of it.
People have been idle bystanders for a long time before cellphones came with cameras.
It still somehow seems worse. Oh look, a terrible thing, lol I'm going to record that so others can see the thing. Having said that though, that footage has been a help for investigating terrible things.
Load More Replies...Pro-tip, if you are ever in such a situation, don't just yell "call 911" or "can someone help me get this person up". Instead say "you in the red shirt, call 911", you with the yellow scarf, help me get this person up". When you call people out, they are much more likely to help due to peer pressure.
Also, it gives one specific person a task. If it's red shirt's job to call 911, he's going to know he's the guy calling 911. "Somebody" could be anybody, so red shirt isn't going to think, "Oh, I should be the one to call." He's going to think "Someone's calling." and so will everyone else.
Load More Replies...It's something about mob mentality. Everyone assumes that someone else has or will call 911 or get help.
knowing about mob mentality can help to get over it. i must admit - one time i witnessed what seemed to possibly be an emergency and my first impulse was to walk away in panic. instead i remembered that this impulse is very common and i shouldn't do that and was than able to ask "do you need help? can i do something for you?" i think that's what many people experience
Load More Replies...Kitty Genovese. Bystander Effect. Good Samaritan/Bystander/Failure to Act Laws.
It wasn't actually. Several people did call for help.
Load More Replies...better than walking away, saved george floyd's death from being written off as an accident
That’s lack of training imo. Often you are puzzled and shocked yourself. And making a video at least creates evidence? If it’s just someone life threatened though, f**k anyone for recording a persoj literally dying instead of preventing that. Btw: where I lived before there was news that a guy trying to help another one who was attacked got actually killed. News like this make you be cautious too.
Reminds me of how people are told to shout "fire" if they're being or about to be r@ped since people will respond more to that.
Hunting animals as a leisurely activity. Not for food, but fun. Like fox hunting in the UK. Hunting humans for fun is illegal, murder and very very wrong. Surely people who hunt animals for sport have psychopathic tendencies and psychological issues?
Fox hunting has supposedly been banned in the UK, not Scotland though I think. I 100% agree with you, but what about bull fighting in Spain and Portugal, sheep stabbing for halal meat and many other abuses, do not blame just the UK
Sheep stabbing for halal meat? For the meat to be halal, you're not supposed to stab the animal. Halal slaughter involves one pass of the blade across the throat of the animal, severing the carotid arteries, jugular vein and trachea. Research (Schultz, Hanover University, Germany) indicates this process involves very little pain. Animals lose consciousness very quickly, yet the heart helps rid the body of blood. And no, you can't kill an animal for sports in Islam. You certainly can't compare bull fighting in Spain with the process of halal slaughter as one is completely disregarding another creature's life for pure inhuman pleasure whilst the latter is meant for consumption (with a very humane method).
Load More Replies...Some hunting is done merely to cull herds that would overproduce, eat all the foliage, and end up slowly starving to death. As long as the hunters hunt respectfully and humanely (quick kills, tracking wounded animals to stop their suffering, etc, and NO stupid f*****g bow hunting—-just use something you know how to aim, which also kills quick and effectively, ffs—-I am sick to death of seeing so many poor deer on the side of the road with arrows in them that the lazy fake a*****e play “hunter” didn’t bother to track and humanely finish off, so the poor animals suffered greatly, collapsed on the side of the road, and bled out in a ditch), then either eat or donate the meat, I have no quarrel with it.
Yes! This! Kathryn, I always see your posts and you're always so kind and respectful. I admire all your comments :)
Load More Replies...If nobody hunted where I’m from, the deer population would explode and create an imbalance, bringing disease and endangerment of their food sources, causing their own eventual starvation. Hunting is highly regulated though, as to not create another imbalance by killing too many.
I have no problem with this as long as the meat is eaten and the animals hardly suffer
Load More Replies...Sometimes hunting for sport coincides with population control. Where I live White tail deer would run rampant if we didn't actively hunt their numbers down. Too high numbers means crops getting destroyed, more invasion of residential areas(white tail deer can kill easily a human)and worst of all more deer on the roads meaning more auto accidents. Hunting has more purposes than just securing food. That being said I am sure OP is referring to useless hunting like when rich a*****e hunts down a lion just for the hell of it. I'm not cool with that s**t.
The most efficient method of population control is to restore the natural predator/prey balance, but the USA spends millions upon millions of dollars every year hunting and destroying the predators.
Load More Replies...And they call themselves "Sportsmen". In every sport I am aware of, opposing sides are similarly equipped and have an equal chance of victory. Let's see one of these "sportsmen" take on a buck with a full rack of antlers with their bare hands. They get off on the idea of ending a life. That's all.
Every trophy hunter deserves to be hunted for somebody's trophy case, IMHO
I agree with this one for sure. I still feel sick about some photographs i've seen online--a proud hunter with the majestic lion he has just killed. What pleasure can there possibly be in doing that?
If you hurt or hunt animals for "fun" i feel i should be able to do the same to you using the same justification.
The whole concept of Religion is actually very odd when you think about it.
I have no problem with faith. The problem lies in the man made rules that define the organized Religion. Made by men with ulterior motives, like power and/or wealth
Faith is just belief without evidence, which is actually kind of a huge problem.
Load More Replies...31 percent of the world are Christian, 24 percent Muslim, 15 percent Hindi. It hilarious that they all think they’re right. It’s the adult version of a playground argument. I’m right your wrong. God is Santa Clause for grown ups.
"My god can beat up your god." " Oh yeah, my god goes to the gym everyday" "Well my god has a black belt in karate"
Load More Replies...It only seems normal because most people are indoctrinated from their infancy to believe such nonsense. It's normal if that is all you know. But come on, the idea that there were 2 people in some garden and a snake convinced a woman to eat a forbidden fruit and that results in the whole of humanity to be damned in some sort of way? Not to mention other ridiculous notions like a wordwide flood that killed everything except this one guy's family who happened to take samples of every species on a giant boat to repopulate the world? And somehow all the kangaroos ended up in Australia and nowhere else? Seriously, it's all complete nonsense.
Oh, and Genesis and Noah's ark stories mean that the world's population, including animals is completely based upon creating the current population based upon incest - and according to what we know about genetics, that is completely absurd and impossible because there is no diversity of DNA. If any of that actually happened, not a single species would last many generations due to genetic defects.
Load More Replies...Most religions have turned into cults, and their are cult disguised as religions(scientology) but people should be able to believe what they want. But they should not be forced to participate in 'donating' or paying anything, and should feel comfortable enough to be able to practice in their own homes.
True faith is a beautiful thing to behold, but most religious people don’t have it. They’re just there to get anything they can out of religion. Going to church to make business or social connections, or just so you can make yourself think you’re superior to someone else because you “just know” you’re going to Heaven and the rest of us are going to burn in Hell (Hint: We’re not. Heaven and Hell are right here on Earth, and we’re all already in the middle of it.). Joining, or forming, a cult to coerce believers into turning all their assets over to the “religion”—-meaning you. Happens in the older religions too. What’s the net worth of The Vatican? I’m not saying religions haven’t ever done anything good for anybody. There are very selfless people in each of them who have done wonderful things for people who really needed it. But then there’s the rest—-most—-of them, who would rather blame and judge than help, then cherry-pick their particular book to justify themselves.
There are people of exceptional faith that are good, bad and everything in between. There are people with no spiritual faith whatsoever that are good, bad and everything in between. It’s not about the faith or the religion, it’s the quality of a person’s character.
Load More Replies...Creation stories and faith based explanations for natural phenomena are completely sensible to me. But using religion to control how people live their lives? It's a no for me, thanks.
Now that we know thunder and lightning aren't angry gods, it's way beyond time to abandon our attachments to our religious teachings. Arguing over who is right has led to so much suffering.
Load More Replies...God is just Santa clause for adults. "He sees you when you're sleeping. He knows when you're awake he knows when you've been good or bad so be good for goodness sake." God is also very much about ego - I'm so important god watches over me. I'm better than you because you don't believe what I believe. Or I'm going to heaven but you're going to hell. Even missionary work is all about believing your religion is so 'right' you need to force it on others. So happy I'm an atheist.
It is very odd. But I will keep my (agnostic) mind open since I live on a rock, revolving around a ball of gas, hurtling thru a void. And there's another rock revolving around this rock that somehow controls my lady parts. So for me, who knows? But formal "religion" appears to have been bastardized into a control mechanism. I think there is something there, but humans harness it to their benefit.
Forcing relationships on kids at a young age. I’ve seen shirts made for infants that say “ladies man” and similar stuff on them, and I think it’s disgusting.
Mine had a shirt with 'eat sleep s**t repeat' and that was far more accurate as 'ladies man'.
Years back, I found the perfect onesie for a cop/prosecutor couple waiting for their first kid. It said "I was in for 9 months and then I got out".
Load More Replies...sexualizing little children and babies shouldn't be this normal. i completely agree with you
I find bikinis for tiny tots really off. I don't want to judge the parents, but I still dislike seeing this. A tiny girl has no need to cover her chest and surly any small child would be better in a t- shirt if it's sunny.
To be fair, children often want to wear what their primary caregiver wears. Where I live, it's alright to have toddlers topless when you still can't tell their sex anyway, so letting them have a bikini top so they can look like their mother/big sis/self confident uncle is no problem in my book.
Load More Replies...But then parents are like "oh no we can't let our kids dare until their married" or other nonsensical crap like that. Like, if your gonna do one of these things, just pick a side and stick with it.
Don’t forget “the gays are forcing their lifestyle down our kids throats!” whilst they giggle about their 4 yr old having a girlfriend. 🤢
Load More Replies...Also thats assuming the child will be heterosexual and starting the pressure of being heterosexual because it's "normal"
Good points don't go over to well here...but that is one
Load More Replies...Or when a child has a friend of the opposite sex and the parents act like their children are a couple. I even saw two parents that threw a wedding for their TODDLERS! STOP PRESSURING CHILDREN INTO RELATIONSHIPS
It isn't in any sense of the word. Surprised nobody else picked up on that.
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Being offended by literally anything and everything. Lighten up people!
"Lighten" up? That does sound like a racist slur, as lightening up usually means to make things less dark. We should replace this saying immediately! (Please note that this is a satire)
I snorted. But---- Snorted implies pig noises and that is so rude! We must not snort while laughing! /s
Load More Replies...This is what is usually said by people trying to excuse racist and offensive things.
Yep. Privileged people love telling others not to be so sensitive. They could try not being insensitive jerks, but it's easier to blame the victim.
Load More Replies...This one needs context. Laughing at my mismatched socks is completely different than laughing at your Holocaust jokes.
That's the best and quickest way I've heard this explained. Going forward I might use this phrase but I'll always remember the Hobbyhopper and quote them accordingly when I have to use it
Load More Replies...Totally. Some things that are proper bigotry, yes, but every little bloody thing? That's where we're at these days and I hope we get over it.
especially being offended on behalf of someone else..for example: comedian daniel sloss makes fun of his disabled sister she thinks it's funny and people tell him he can't do
I mean, his sister isn’t the only person in the world with a disability, so I can understand this one.
Load More Replies...'Lighten up' is almost always said by people who are the ones causing offense. It is often said because they don't want to deal with being in the wrong.
Agreed. There is no right to never be offended. My grandad used to say that offence is not something you can give, only something you can take.
I find that saying simplistic. I'm sure you're smart enough to disagree with an annoying colleague or client without yelling "F**k off, you [epithet]!".
Load More Replies...Good lordt! There's no such thing as cancel culture. It's called consequences. Go ahead, make that racist, sexist, misogynistic joke. Just don't whining to Twitter, reddit, facebook or whatever it's calling itself now like a 4 year old when you're called out on your revolting behavior. "No one can take a joke anymore". No one wants to be the butt of jokes either, and when ordinary people do it to so-called comedians those same edgelord comedians get all butt hurt. Oh, can dish it but can't take it huh?
Sexualizing literally everything that does not need to be sexualized. Eg, tacos and hotdogs. Let me enjoy my food without losing my appetite due to some unnecessary joke.
I hate that too. It's really bad in the cultures where friendships between genders are regarded with doubt.
"where friendships between genders are regarded with doubt" yesssss!!! platonic friendships exist
Load More Replies...Bananas, ladies, listen up: eat that banana! Do it furiously! Like you’re ripping the end of something off. Mouth wide open, teeth chomping. HOLD EYE CONTACT WITH A GUY!!! Guys will not associate furious banana eating with pleasurable things! If you do it aggressive enough, most will cross the legs.
I swear I cannot enjoy a lollypop, a literal candy made for kids, without remarks like "do you suck d*-k like that" and other unnecessary sexualised comments.
Your friends suck if they say such things to you.
Load More Replies..."It's sexy how you eat that" oh yeah? *aggressively starts eating like a starved savage and now making a mess* still sexy?
I haven’t been able to eat popsicles or corn dogs properly since middle school cuz of this. Makes me too subconscious. Also I’m afab so I got sexuaized alll the time before I was consistently passing as male
I feel the same way about genderizing everything. It's stupid to call a car a her or say a man can't be called pretty because that's a girly thing. We assign the stupidest logic to these things.
My male kitten is very pretty. I tell him that whenever he's not pouncing me.
Load More Replies...Or guys can wear pink, or carry a man bag. Even the fact that I have to use the term “man bag” is how sexualized purses are. Lol
I used a satchel for a bit and everyone I knew called it a man purse constantly.
Load More Replies...Every day in high school ever. Let me eat my stupid cucumber in peace you mentally disenfranchised gorillas.
Asking when you’re gonna have a kid! Why is that normal and ok? I’m gonna monumentally change my life because it’s socially acceptable, nay, demanded that you procreate on an already overpopulated planet!!!
And when you state you don’t want any, you’re told that you’ll change your mind!!! Or if you’re over 30 as a woman, your body clock is ticking?!?!?
Not only from family, but strangers!!!
I tell people I simply can’t have them (half true) or that I would eat them if I did… second one is great for family dinners… lol x
It's fine if people ask you if you have kids. It's not fine when people start questioning why you don't have kids.
I personally don't like when people ask me if I have kids. Just don't ask people personal questions like that.
Load More Replies...Kinda like the old aunts at a wedding. Aww, are you getting married next? Then at a funeral, looking at the same aunts...ok, who's next?
I'm Eastern European, Polish, so yeah those are the crazy people I hang with, they love to get all up in your business x
I’m American and I think depending on the person, it’s worse!
Load More Replies...I respond and ask 'why did you have kids?'.... It's so rude and intrusive to grill someone on why they do not have or want children and really drives me nuts. I have zero time for anyone who asks me that stuff and tell them how rude and nosey they are
I think that's a great response, as a mom I fully aprove
Load More Replies...I'm so glad I have never been asked this excerpt for by very close friends who were just asking because they are actually interested in my life. Also, telling a woman their body clock is ticking is so rude!
This might get down voted but I want to say it. I have 3 adult children and I have never asked them/pressured them as to when they're going to give me grandkids.
AND asking when someones going to get a s/o. You can live without having another person, some people don't want to date or get married, and that's totally fine, yet people still ask ALL THE TIME.
As someone who has been desperately trying to conceive for 4 long years, this can get to me. If I had a pound for everyone who’s told me I ‘need to get moving’ or ‘the clock’s ticking’ because I’m 37, I would be a very rich woman.
My grandmother just passed away last week😥 and my mom had the audacity to tell me her(my Mom's) only regret is that my grandmother didn't have great-grandchildren. She knows me and my partner don't want to have any kids, and my Sister and her husband haven't even decided yet as they are still in their 20's.
It should not be normal to pierce a baby's ears. I know that earrings can look really cute, but that is not good enough a reason to penetrate healthy skin of someone to young to agree to it.
If a child actively asks to get their ears pierced, it is if course totally ok. But no baby ever asked for this. They don't talk. They're babies.
This should be done when the child is old enough to decide. It being a culture thing is not an excuse. Culture evolves too.
I wish people would remember this when I get down voted for objecting to the way women are treated in "other cultures."
Load More Replies...It should not be normal. Correct. Same with circumcising young boys btw. Let people get old enough to decide for themselves! Also educate people. It grave to hear of medical conditions only rising up because the mother never told her boy to put the skin back once in a while to wash himself properly. Instead they kinda think a 4-8 year old would be sexualized when cleaning himself properly!?
My first were done when I was around 2, I think. At 8 I asked for the second set for my birthday. I have seen babies get their ears pierced and usually are more irritated about being held still than anything else. I have yet to meet a little girl, not that I've met them all of course, but I was a teacher so...., that has said they didn't want them. Usually they have been told they have to wait until their older. I'm torn on things like ear piercing and circumcising as I know such things are more painful the older we are. So I kinda feel it is a decision to be made by the parents and if we can do it when they are young and it is less painful and they won't remember, maybe we should do it as babies. I have a step daughter but she was 12 when we met and hers were already pierced. I had two boys and both were circumcised prior to leaving the hospital after birth. I won't be having any more children, but if I did, I'd do the same thing.
Load More Replies...Mine were done as a baby , I'm not mad, I've got lots of piercings now . Really don't see the big deal ! Earrings can be removed.... foreskin, not so much ! Quit comparing the 2!!!
Different procedures for sure but doesn’t make infant piercings benign. They carry an infection and choking risk. Not worth it just to stick cheap jewelry in their ears.
Load More Replies...My cousin had very identical twin girls. She was very concerned about mixing them up and the doctor recommended piercing their ears with different colour studs. He did it in two seconds and it was great. She highly recommends it to anyone with twin girls.
Come on! You can give them differently coloured bracelets in the beginning, until you know them well enough to tell them apart. Labeling them with an eartag like they were cows shouldn't be nessesary.
Load More Replies...I suppose it depends on the person. I had my ears pierced in the hospital when I was a baby. I remember nothing, I am not traumatized, and tbh could give 2 shits in a bucket that it was done. However, someone else may have had a different experience. I mean...when you think about it, I didn't give my consent to be born, but here I am. I didn't give my consent to be dressed in frilly, pink baby dresses either, but I lived🤷♀️ Definitely not trivializing cultural mutilation, just saying I had my ears pierced, I'm fine, I still love my mum ♥️
It's actually illegal in the UK - but (as far as I'm aware) is never prosecuted.
I understand the issue with it. At the same time I was always happy that my parents had it done for me when I was too young to remember and be anxious about it or scared. In my culture at the time every girl had pierced ears, it wasn't really a question so it made sense to spare them a conscious bad memory. Nowadays I'm not sure I'd do it if I had a kid.
I can totally relate to. My parents had pierced my ears when I was 3 years old and I don't remember anything. If I had to pierce my ears now, I probably would't do it, I would be scared. But I have always liked to wear earrings, I have many different pairs.
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Forcing kids: "go hug/kiss your grandma/grandpa/aunt" body autonomy level zero. That's what kids are taught from a young age, they have no right to choose who can touch/kiss them, or forced to give away their affection against their own will. :(((((((((((((( NOT NORMAL at all
I grew up that way and always thought I had no choice. Far forward to age 13 where I was a junior bride's maid and at the end of the after-party, a man, about 80 years old, asked me for a kiss as we were leaving. The dirty b*stard stuck his tongue down my throat and made an mmm sound. Now, a 51, ANY time a man kisses me and makes that sound, I want to vomit.
Yeah... I hated that growing up. Especially being the mind that i am. I dont enjoy physical touch and it killed me every time a family member I barely knew insisted on a hug and kisses. Now that I am an adult though, they finally realized that I dont like this and so they stopped unless I go in for it, they won't. I will ask my children if they are comfortable with it and let them know that they don't have to do anything if they are not comfortable with it.
When my children were little I would give them some suggestions, "Hug, kiss or wave". It allowed the children to decide how to interact. At one point the list included 'dinosaur roar', because 'Roar!' means 'I love you in dinosaur language'.
Years ago, my friend was forced to kiss her dead grandmother in her coffin in the funeral home. She never got over it.
Nearly same, but my grandmother was on deathbed and in horrible condition, I was scared and I remember that I was physically forced to do that.
Load More Replies...I HATE this. My parents always tell my children (11 and 13 now) that since they didnt give them a hug or kiss or say hello than the would not get any birthday/christmas/etc presents. It made me so mad. I tell them all the time to stop it too. They think its funny.
Wow. Putting prices on their "love" seams like. Maybe a time out for grandma and grandpa would help. Or just answer with "well since kids don't get presents, they don't have to be nice to you anymore".
Load More Replies...What gets me is parents who make an effort to teach their young children to be wary of strangers and anyone else who makes them feel uncomfortable, yet at Christmas time they expect their children to smile and sit on the lap of a strange, white-bearded man in a red suit. 🙄 And they wonder why the kids are scared, crying, and trying to get away?? 🤦🏻♀️
I was immediately expected to do what I was told, including hugging and kissing extended family members. In the early '70's, people didn't notice Uncle Charlie was fondling me under my dress. All they saw was that Uncle Charlie was holding a wriggly kid.
After a family member told her 11 year old son to give me a hug, I told the kid not unless you wanted to. I told him he could do what he wishes Hug/high 5/ fist bump/simple bye! When I was leaving 20 minutes later, he ran up to me and gave me a big hug.
I live in France and I really hate the "bisous" greeting. I "get" that it's the cultural norm, but I hate kissing people I've just me, and my coworkers (yes, coworkers!) . Thank God for Covid19 which greatly curbed this practice! There's nothing wrong with a handshake, or just a plain old wave hello.
Idolising billionaires. Like when people think people like Elon Musk have a willingness to save the planet.
I don't think anybody here thinks Elon Musk is a good guy. Personally I think he's a sh!t.
Musk is having vivisection carried out on monkeys under the guise of 'research'. He is a sh*thead of the highest magnitude. The pollution he is creating with his constant space trips, never mind the massive one he has planned, are polluting the planet massively.
He's a brilliant engineer but not that great at being a human being. Bezos is a brilliant businessman and has donated to charity, but by all accounts, is an opportunistic egomaniac. Just because you're great at one thing--business, engineering, sports, acting--doesn't mean you're great at anything else, like being a decent person. America in particular idolizes the rich and successful and never talks about character--things like empathy, honesty, charity, kindness.... which sadly explains where we are now.
There are plenty of people idolising these psychopaths. Indeed, there is a whole market within self help related to billionaire advice. And plenty of alienated people who believe they will be better equipped to govern a country than anybody else.
I swear if I had the money those idiots have, I would make the world a better place and help so many people. I definitely wouldn't be worried about buying social media or over compensating by sending a penis shaped rocket to space
Elon Musk only cares about money. Even his daughter wants nothing to do with this pri ck
(US) abundant luxury but scarce necessities: plenty of choices for entertainment, gaming, clothing, travel, etc. beyond your grandparents’ imagination. But… housing at < 1/4 your annual income and cars < 1/2 of it, like the formulas your grandparents lived by? Affordable education and healthcare? All de-normalized. Having nothing in savings and no expectation of being free from debt has been made normal.
The moment anyone says anything along the lines of this comment is an immediate down vote to the commenter. Often times the post will be either at the top or close to it, and if it is at the top, the comment sounds utterly ridiculous because it cannot go any higher! And what if you don’t find out for a while that it is at top? Then tens or hundreds of people will have seen it by then.. still at the very top… looking ridiculous.
Load More Replies...That's capitalism and the blind belief in the lie of trickle down economics. Neoliberalism is the various mechanisms of private corporate pockets pocketing the tax of the many. (Profiteering from Government contracts, government bailouts etc.)
Resources and necessities are not scarce. They are abundant and plentiful and constantly growing. We just can't have those resources we all need because of greedy powerful people using money to control all those things. It's a lie that resources are not enough for us all. Everything we see around us is coming from or growing from this planet. Constantly being produced and we could all at the very least have our needs met equally until our times up on earth. But we will be denied those things for no reason other than not having enough money. It's cruel and wrong how the system is even though everything we all need to stay alive is right in front of us. It's insane and crazy how we do our own kind.
The "American dream" of living beyond your means to show up the Joneses. My folks lived by "wear it out, use it up, make do, or do without." I got a Mitzi doll because it was cheaper and mom wouldn't buy into the Barbie cult; I made her clothes. I learned to buy used cars (most just need front end work or tune-up). I used county healthcare when I was out of work, food stamps, and food banks. I know I've had it easy, but not buying what I couldn't afford and finding aid has helped.
And furniture! The only new furniture I've bought was a modern office chair. Some of my faves have been thrifted, like the $12.50 (senior day!) double rocker/recliner I'm sitting on.
Load More Replies..."We buy things we dont need, with money we dont have, to impress people we dont like"
Hahaha. First of all, it's insanely difficult to qualify to move to Australia. Secondly, housing in Australia is really, really expensive unless you live in the middle of nowhere. Thirdly, if you haven't noticed, Australia is kind of f-ed and goes on fire every summer.
Load More Replies...I couldn't agree more.... I honestly don't know how to survive in the US anymore.... and it's only getting more difficult at an alarming rate. I know many people like to say "well you should have gotten a college education, so you could make a better living" but that is not a luxury most can afford, not to mention student loan debt and no guarantee of available, sustainable employment after the fact....
Trying to talk people who decline a drink into having 'just one'. Stop it! You don't know people's situation. Stop with the bullying/peer pressure BS. 'No thank you' means no! Not keep trying until I submit. Stop pushing people off the wagon just to save face.
Totally this. Had to go to a dinner party thing recently hosted by a couple I’d never met. They asked my partner what alcohol they should buy for us, and he told them I don’t drink alcohol so not to worry. Their reply? “She will be doing tomorrow”. They have no idea why I don’t drink, and I think it was a real out of order answer. Of course they then tried to get me to drink all evening.
As if drinking is a requirement! Maybe they knew they were terrible hosts and tried to get everyone drunk so they'd forget.
Load More Replies...No means no, regardless of circumstances. If someone is a recovering alcoholic, and that “just one” drink could be a very slippery slope, or someone who’s really allergic to alcohol and drinking it could put them in the hospital, or someone like me, whose digestive system just can’t tolerate more than one drink, so sometimes I just abstain, especially if I have to work the next day, or I’m driving myself home, or if I feel like I should stay in my right mind just to be safe in general. Just respect the NO, ffs!
I used to be a heavy drinker but ever since becoming disabled I already feel sick enough without the alcohol, and I haven't drank since my diagnosis. I honestly don't know how badly it would affect me. It bothers me that drinking is the norm especially socially, and people always ask why I don't drink.
Load More Replies...I haven't drunk alcohol for 14 years and this has to be my pet hate. I don't need alcohol to enjoy myself.
I had a liver transplant so no drinking for me. When I decline a drink I am almost always asked, "in recovery?" WTF kind of question is that to ask stranger??
Same here. In my case my first transplant team got it into their head I was an ex-alcoholic because when I was younger I worked as a waiter. They refused to accept me as a patient unless I went to AA, which I wasn't going to do because that would have been an admission that I was indeed an alcoholic. It was a bad time.
Load More Replies...I've been sober for 7 years. You can offer me once. Twice, you offend me. Three times and I'll be taking your liver home.
people sometimes slip up. I e.g. once talked about my manager having a beer, despite him not touching it. I knew it at the back of my mind, but since had been a long time, that minor detailed slipped for a moment. So leave people a little room, and things will run smoother. However in cases where there is not doubt that they are trying to manipulate you against your own interest, e.g. by continueing right after you told them no, you are perfectly justified in calling them out.
Load More Replies...I had a liver transplant, so drinking is not something I can do. It's rare that people insist these days though. Sadly, they mostly assume you are an alcoholic. Even my transplant team thought so. That's when I realized it's practically impossible to prove you are NOT something.
People do this to vegetarians as well. I can't tell you how many times people have said to me, "You should try it. A few bites of meat won't hurt you."
I feel like people who force other people to drink are incredibly insecure and cannot have fun or hold a conversation with another human without drinking.
I don't know why, but I really dislike the taste of alcohol. I just don't like it! Also, I'm stubborn. When I was young and people tried to force me to drink, I'd say, Let's fight. If you can beat me, I'll drink. Nobody ever took me up on it. Nuts. (My first job was teaching martial arts.)
Cancel Culture! Even when joking about this, it's an incredibly childish thing to do and normalize, especially when people jump on the bandwagon and attack anyone, especially celebrities for messing up or doing something that even slightly rubs people the wrong way. Everybody makes mistakes, don't harass them for it!
It works both ways. Conservatives are just as guilty as liberals, if not more so.
Context. When someone did something stupid 25 years ago in college we can be a little graceful considering stupid things we all did 25 years ago. When someone does something stupid yesterday and they're 40years old and a public figure, that's kind of on them.
Nope. We have ALWAYS criticized people for failing to meet current norms. eg being racist is not acceptable and only now are people being called out for it..
Yes, but where does it stop? It's one thing to highlight a racist, misogynist, bully, for example, but quite another when someone gets cancelled because of an unintentional slip, like the singer who got criticised for unknowingly using an offensive, ableist word in a song because where she comes from, it's perfectly acceptable and has a different meaning. There should be some limit, otherwise nobody can say anything, which is the most undemocratic thing ever.
Load More Replies...I work in the film industry and everyone knew about Weinstein!! That was so infuriating. The ones that are damning him now are only doing it because he finally had to be accountable for it, but they sure stood by and watched when a lot of those horrible things he did were happening.
Load More Replies...How is it cancel culture if the people who have been "cancelled" continue to be heard and seen? It's all b******t; it's Consequence Culture.
Yes, thank you. Maybe you were banned from a privately-owned social site, as is their right, or fired from a job, as is the employer's right, or criticized/called out, but if I'm hearing you gripe about being cancelled, you were not "cancelled".
Load More Replies...Eh this view point of "cancel culture" is skewed. Going after someone for a 15 year old post that is not the person they are today is messed up. Seeing a comedian saying hateful things (in the now) and deciding to not waste your money on them (and others also making that choice) is not cancel culture. If anything its capitalism. You are selling a good or service. I do not want that good or service therefore I won't buy it and a competitor will get my money. That sort of thing
Taking pictures of strangers without permission, and worse, go ahead and post them on the internet.
Totally! Family doing it with out permission is bad enough. I got married about 12 years ago. It was a smallish affair, I had no intention of sharing pictures on line and told my guests so - we could share later personally - so relax, be daft don't worry about your kids in pictures.... One guy choose to share every minute of the occasion with his church, who went on to share a lot. No actual harm done, but he really could not see why I did not like it. When it comes to strangers, real harm can be done!
Load More Replies...This sets a very dangerous precedent, as it prevents news being reported. It also prevents people from taking photographs of places or street scenes for fear that the people in them might be offended. I agree that taking close-up photos of other people without permission, particularly where they can be identified, is wrong, but the difficulty is deciding where you draw the line. There would be a lot of blank BP threads on historical photographs if such photographs could not be taken.
And their excuse is "you're in a public environment, its my right". Which is what Ive been told before and what Ive overheard. I understand public is public but if you do not have my direct permission, you better hope you blur out my face if you post anything cuz I watch and if I see you recording or snapping pics I will scour the internet for your profile and have it removed. I take my privacy very seriously.
If someone does post your picture without your permission and you can be identified in the picture you CAN take legal civil action against them. It is a violation of your privacy IF you are not a public persona and you have NOT done it to yourself.
do you not realize that you are on camera ALL THE TIME? your government is watching you, everywhere, always. welcome big brother. if you are referring to people taking video of police interactions, i welcome them, thank you. they need outside accountability.
I have a question in regards to if it is at a festival, carnival, or fair of some sort. I personally like taking photos of the chaos of such events. Not like I can ask everybody I pass for permission. These are crowded! Asking for future.... I haven't taken photos like this in several years. The same thing goes for photographers like Charles Peterson who photographed concerts in the late 80's/Early 90's. No way could he have gotten every concert goer in the crowds permission.
But if you take a photo where there is a particular person who is the subject, then you should get permission if you want to publish it. I have many friends who are photographers who are very careful about this kind of thing
Load More Replies...Especially if it’s one you never consented, or expected to be taken and/or is a potentially embarrassing picture. It’s one thing to think you see your face in a random crowd photo in the news (but it’s so tiny you can’t really be sure it’s you), it’s quite another when a picture of you—-that you never consented to—-in someplace like the gym locker room is floating around social media. A crowd photo when news trucks are all around the area doesn’t carry the same expectation of privacy as a gym locker room does. Not just people you know, but employers also have a tendency to stalk social media (even though they should NOT), and will see that, which may have repercussions on you that are absolutely NOT your fault, but that of the picture taker. Remember, stuff we do, that we don’t even think anyone else knows about, can have an affect on people we don’t even know. Sometimes a minimal effect, sometimes a good effect, but sometimes a potentially devastating effect. So we really need to use our critical thinking skills to take that into consideration before acting on impulse and putting something up, online or elsewhere, for public consumption without the other person’s knowledge and/or consent.
Pretty sure all states recognize that locker rooms and bathrooms are off limits. People have a "reasonable expectation of privacy" in these location. Also, if the gym is private, they can prohibit pictures being taken inside. Some could still photo you from outside the big plate windows though.
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Shaming women for not breastfeeding. People should just mind their own business!
And shaming women for breastfeeding publicly. Like: As a mother you can't do it right, since you are judged anyway.
Feed your hungry baby.. if it is crying because it is hungry, feed it! I don't care if it's bottle fed or breast fed. Take care of your childs needs. All I care about is not having to listen to it screaming!
Load More Replies...Seriously. Being a mother is hard enough without everyone else weighing in on how you should be doing a better job. Unless abuse is involved, mind ya damn business.
Geez...if someone told another mother how to rear her child when I was a kid in the early 70's, they would've gotten an earful, lol
Load More Replies...Breast is best, but some women may have good reason to resort to a bottle. They may not be able to produce enough milk, or have some health condition that makes breastfeeding difficult if not impossible.
I have a female relative who can't produce milk, she just can't. When she gave birth to her first child, she was shamed by the doctors for not breastfeeding.
Load More Replies...This! When I had my daughter I wasn't able to breastfeed. Physically unable. She couldn't latch on. They let her go 24 hours without food because they kept trying to get her to latch. Finally, my husband had had enough. He told them to get some formula right now. Then, in the US there's a program called WIC that provides nutritional assistance to new moms. They berated me to keep trying to breastfeed until I broke down in tears. My sister came to my rescue then.
I so feel you!! I wasn't producing, I did everything I could...she wouldn't latch, I got a double mastitis... Your sister is an angel.
Load More Replies...4 kids, all breastfed, all over the place and never once had a negative comment. It is illegal here to stop a woman feeding her child wherever it is.
Who the hell keeps tabs on a ladies breasts? Must be the evil Facebook
It's the women in actual life that stare and shame moms
Load More Replies...Stop imagining that a procreating woman is somehow public property. Don't touch her ... and please don't offer unsolicited opinions - no matter how brilliant you think they are.
THIS!!!! Until I had kids, I had NO idea how judgy and harsh women could act towards one another. It was really hard to find support when I struggled with breastfeeding. They were vicious.
My wife was not able to breastfeed, she just didn't produce enough. Feeding formula is better than starving your child. Yes, MYOB.
Myob? Besides that seems obvious if you're unable to have your child breastfed for whatever reason ,then you do the next best thing.
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Celebrity culture
Let’s have an awards show every 3 months and pat each other on the back. We need awards for best waitress or best mechanic. Teachers, firefighters, cops and such
If I never hear about the Kardashians and Jenners again, it would be too soon.
Disrespectful happy go lucky fashion (!?) selfies in front of historic sights where people greatly suffered and died. Learn about your location before deciding to do a f*****g stupid vapid photo shoot there, assholes!
I know someone who tries to tell me all about celebrity lives because she doesn't have friends to talk about but still wants to gossip. Can we just not?
Expecting women to cover up or leave the room to breastfeed a baby. If the woman is more comfortable that way then fine, but treating feeding a baby as something dirty is really strange and unhelpful. People who want women to cover up to nurse a baby should try eating a meal with a blanket over their head!
I didn't care where I was or who was around. If my baby was hungry, I'd whip out the boob and not cover his head. Breastfeeding is natural and breasts are meant for feeding, that is there sole purpose!
I'm conflicted on this one. Because yes, breasts' purpose is literally to feed a baby but it's naive to deny that they have also a sexual component. In fact women don't expose all the time their naked breast if not in certain contexts (obviously in western countries at least). Like, we all know the purpose of a butt but it's also a sexualized body part and in fact we don't go around butt naked all the time. I'm a huge advocate for breastfeeding but I think there's a way to find a middle ground. You can't just say "This is my kid lunch, deal with it!". You could cover yourself a little with a light scarf, at least in the "taking out the boob" moment, it's not unreasonable to ask. And no, the fact the boob is attached to a baby doesn't suddenly make it an elbow, it's still a naked boob with all its collateral connotation, otherwise you would bare yourself in front of your friends at a restaurant table all the time, but you don't. Why not? Because breasts have also a sexual connotation.
I don't care as long lond as they don't care about people staring, because that's what people do if you whip out a boob.
I breastfeed my daughter in public and I never covered up because I was always so hot; making milk for an infant as hard work!
Not to mention the sweats you get when you have a surge! Do what you gotta do! Everyone else can eff off.....
Load More Replies...It gets tricky when you have two boys aged 6 and 9 and your at red lobster. Your gonna say teach them properly then. Can they come watch if it’s not that big of a deal or is it private?
You simply explain that a mother is feeding her child. No need to turn it into a circus sideshow.
Load More Replies...Well... It still involves a more modest, personal part of the body. But if the woman is comfortable with however she chooses to do this, then go right ahead. But being in public i would think they want to be more modest and respectfully cover themselves from prying eyes
Breasts LITERALLY exist to feed young - that is all. "Modesty" plays no part in it. Men walk around without shirts all the time. Should they also be more modest? Cover up those man boobs?
Load More Replies...If I go to a restaurant/cafe for a meal then I do NOT want women hauling their boobs out in front of me, there is a time and a place.
Expecting children to socialise with everyone and share everything. I was a very shy child so when my mum invited her mom friends over they’d all send their kids to my room to play with my stuff and it was like a form of torture. We should teach children about reasonable boundaries and respect - We don’t expect the same behaviour from adults so I don’t see why it’s acceptable to do to our kids
I interact with my coworkers on a daily basis, but I don't socialise with them. We support each other when we need it, and then we punch out and disappear back to our own lives. And who wants to meet new people at a party? What are we, 5?
Load More Replies...if this had happenedto me, i would have heard it, then locked my room's door
Or being at a public park and having some entitled b*tch of a Mom have a problem with the fact your child doesn't want to share their toy with this random stranger. I applaud the Mom who told her child (and the other kid's Mom) that he was not obligated to do so. No, KAREN, my child DOES NOT have to share his favorite toy with your destructive little demon seed. Give me half your sandwich & the PIN to your ATM card.
Sharing your kid's photos on social media. Family albums are okay, when they are printed, or storing the pics just on your PC. It really stays on the net like "forever", or at least, as long as the internet exists.
This has always horrified me. I've seen pics of kids posted outside their school, citing their name and grade and all Im thinking is how anyone could abduct them.
The level of paranoia displayed here is astonishing. The number of children abducted by strangers is vanishingly small. Treating children like prisoners because "they might be abducted" has led to a generation with appalling fitness levels, very little independence, loss of freedom, and skyrocketing anxiety.
Load More Replies...Depends on the photo. Be normal. Don't over share private moments.
The first time I saw myself on a facebook wall, called the poster and requested not to do that without asking me first
My mother-in-law sent her friend a picture of my baby I guess and when I was over at their house and the friend came over too, she said to my baby "ooh hi! I saw you on my phone!" And it made me so uncomfortable since I didn't even know who this lady was. And it was a weird way to say that haha
I'm torn on this one. My husband lost all his younger photos in a house fire, and I would be heart broken to have that happen. So I put ones on my private Facebook page as I know I can get them back. My kids aren't bothered and I won't post anything they don't want me to, but a stranger couldn't access them anyway
But that’s private. It’s not like strangers can access pictures, and you’re not exploiting them for likes and shares on social media
Load More Replies...not just your kids, it should go for any friend or relative. People are entitled to privacy and deciden what gets posted and what does not when it involves them.
Not to mention that 99% of parents posting children pics don't have the sense to remove the xif data from the picture.
How we encourage and love models and actresses who wear short clothes, but if a girl does it, she is attacked with the words hoe, dirty and shameless
Always found hypocritical when parents would blame Brittany Spears and Christina Aguilera for the short shirts, but parents took NO responsibility for being the ones that bought their kids those clothes and let them wear them
For real! Had a neighbor, poor 8y/o girl wore the most I'll fitting and inappropriate things for her age. Her mom always complained about her being too girly (that's a whole different deal in itself), and her clothes being to short/tight/revealing etc. But yet she was the one buying it all! It's ridiculous
Load More Replies...I don’t think I follow more than one or two professional models and I didn’t follow them for that reason. They have other talents which I appreciate and that’s why I chose to follow them. I just don’t participate in affirming when they show off their bodies for public consumption.
But who r we to judge ? Its her body , Its her choice. She can wear whatever she wants
Load More Replies...No, stupidity is the disease, and you're exhibiting symptoms. Be careful, it has proved fatal on countless occasions.
Load More Replies...How 40 seems to be the cut off point for desirability in workers. Being over 40 is like a death march in life. Experience means nothing. Over 50 and people might as well just retire because people act like you are 100 years old.
So true! When I was in my 40s, I couldn't get a job to save my life. However, we recently moved to Washington, and I got 3 job offers after 2 months of job hunting. In the state government application system they ask if you are over 40, and it weighs your application in your favor. I presume it is in response to the discrimination you described. I had two public and one private job offers, so I guess the culture here is different? I've lived in other states where my age was definitely used against me, so Washington has been a tremendous relief!
Ageism is illegal in the UK, still happens though they pretend it doesn't
Load More Replies...I just employed a woman in her mid 50's. She is over qualified for the role but hasn't been able to find fork for 2 years and was desperate for work. I can't pay her what's she's worth but I can train her on our systems and help her up the chain. I hope I have to replace her next year and start calling her "boss".
Absolutely true. I went to university in my 30s to many cries of "Good for you!" and "It's never too late!" Guess what? Those cheers are nowhere to be heard when you're a 40something new grad. Neither, as has been said, are interview offers.
How 40 seems to be the cut off point for desirability in workers. Being over 40 is like a death march in life. Experience means nothing. Over 50 and people might as well just retire because people act like you are 100 years old.
I'm glad my trade is not like that. The more experienced usually the better.
The job I'm in now, I got when I was 54. I even had an interview. But then, I don't live in the US.
So true. Have been working fulltime my entire life up to 3 years ago, am highly educated, highly skilled, but ever since I turned about 45 never got invited for job interviews anymore. Due to circumstances I ended up on disability at age 53. Will stay on it because I KNOW I will never find a job again.
The existence of Facebook.
I have avoided Facebook like Chernobyl from the get-go, and am always finding reasons that justify this. Now we have the big Facebook scandal! Facebook-a...ec08d4.jpg
Yep! I said bye bye to Facebook years ago and it is a genuine breath of fresh air. I realize BP is also considered social media, but it is mostly anonymous and not so much keeping up with people you don't even see in real life anymore.... who the hell cares!
3 years since I've logged off for good and my mental health has improved soooooo much!!
I think the issue is how people use FB. I think it has been a great tool for families who live far apart to stay connected and share photos. But when you get caught up in the hoopla of social medical that becomes the issue. But I think twitter is up there as being far worse.
Just downloading my data, then deleting the account. Haven't been on there for ages.
This. Lately I've found it's easy to get zucced for anything. When I started emotionally reacting to getting banned (even for content that I've grabbed from Facebook or previously banned and appealed to be ok) is when I started realizing I needed to get off it. I've opted to just deactivate Facebook because I have contacts I can only communicate with through messenger. Facebook is a toxic cesspool
People swearing and screaming at retail workers and they’re just supposed to take it?!
Appalling behavior:- displays the low IQ, total lack of manners and desperate need for attention.
I don't think it has anything to do with IQ. It's more of a mood/impulse control issue. That or they've never been knocked the **** out.
Load More Replies...I used to think the U.S. needed to have mandatory military service until I got out and worked my first customer focused service job. Now I know it should be mandatory to work a job that is customer service focused.
Load More Replies...Oh, and don't forget people that snap their fingers or whistle at them whenever they want their attention, like they are calling a dog or something, just rude!
I had that happen. I just ignored them because I am not a dog. Even if I was, I still wouldn't answer them!
Load More Replies...I work in retail and that is the worst thing you could do to me or my staff. You will never know what just hit you.
It would be nice if people would also show respect for our workplace. Don’t throw merchandise down, wad it up, etc. I always want to find out where THEY work, undo hours of their work and then yell at them.
Yes!! Had one Karen(didn't have the term then, but she was) move all the bottles I just straightened up because the one she wanted was empty but it might be behind these others even though they were different!
Load More Replies...I work in customer service. Get disrespectful of me, I kick you out. Boss is fine with that.
My father did this in front of me when I was 11. I still think about that poor kid.
I work in retail, I got yelled at once because a little old lady I was serving took too long. F@#$&!g Karens
Reality tv shows that are clearly scripted and rehearsed. Before the ad break you’re shown a clip of what’s to happen , then we see an interview shot telling us what is going to happen , then we see it happen then another interview shot explaining what just happened
The novelty of reality TV wore off for me about halfway through the first episode of Survivor. Can’t stand the genre, don’t watch it. It needs to go away.
I could kiss you. I thought I was the only one that hated survivor that quick.
Load More Replies...Reality TV shows are one of the worst things to ever happen, yes I know there has been worse c**p but this one is way up there on my list. Who the hell wants to watch scripted fights, arguments or rich people walking around their mansions and their day to day lives that arent real.
...and after the next ad break there's a recap of all that and the cycle starts again. Most so callled reality (oh, the irony) TV is so stupid that it's borderline insulting imo.
While its true that alot of these are scripted, I feel like the points brought up here can just be described as editing
Big Brother is worse by far, stupid s**t that means nothing yet has a cult like following. Really grinds my gears.
One time a home makeover show was filmed in my neighborhood and they wanted to create fake drama. They asked my dad permission to "accidentally" have a tree fall over to destroy his above ground pool, which he declined. The hosts only showed up to do a few shots for like 20 minutes or less.
Somebody's got to watch them. You can't sell ads otherwise. Schadenfreude.
Colour coding babies clothes so that people know which genitals they have.
When I had my twins, I wanted to be surprised by their genders so I asked for yellow and green outfits and color schemes for the bedding and such. When they both turned out to be boys i didn't automatically change everything to blue either ☺️
At a baby shower for my first child I got 3 sets of pajamas in pink (roses, gingham, etc). All 3 of my boys wore them.
That's is weird come to think of it, but I find it useful because sometimes it's like embarrassing to ask gender
I don`t think it`s a big deal. I do however think it`s ridiculous when they have blue scissors and pink ones for cutting the umbilical cord. Does anyone care about it at that moment?
Even knowing what we were having both times, I still asked for gender neutral clothing. I don't get color coding babies, or anything for that matter. I sure as hell didn't want my boys covered in footballs and "ladies man" c**p. When my oldest was about three, he was wearing a pink shirt with a gorilla on it and some poor lady was honestly confused about why a boy would be wearing pink. Because it's a COLOR. Colors don't have genders, ffs.
I put my twin girls in a yellow and a green dress with polka dots, sun hats with flowers and lady bugs, pink name bands on their pacifiers - they were taken for boys because of the sky blue stroller.
Load More Replies...I know, I imagine it permanently scars a 9 month old bc of the color. A color they can't name and have only been able to see for 4 months.
I know right?! I wonder about the parents coaching abilities, if you catch my drift.
Load More Replies...pink is a manly colour Brett the hitman hart wore pink you dont get much manlier than that
As an American, all the reasons we have to ‘party’. I’m not necessarily complaining because I like to get together with friends and have a good time but I don’t remember my parents’ generation having this many ‘celebrations’ to go to. For only ONE young couple we know, we have attended the engagement party, bachelor/bachelorette party, the bridal shower, the wedding, 3 housewarmings, and soon to be 4 baby showers. They have been married for 6 years. I believe next year will mark their eldest child’s kindergarten graduation.
You are officially uninvited from the shire's celebration of Bilbo's hundred and eleventy-first birthday.
Load More Replies...Ooh yeah, and let's call it a 'rain shower'
Load More Replies...And every damn one of them expecting you to contribute food or time or decorations/bring a gift/give them money. I stopped participating and just say Congratulations, because I just don’t have the money to waste on myself, much less someone else and their OTT expectations.
Sounds like a lot of fun but also very expensive. If these occasions would be celebrated without gifts but with the guests helping buy the food and drinks, the financial pressure would be much lessened.
It really is expensive! I’ve become a baker just so I can make something and bring it as a gift.
Load More Replies...I agree with this. One time I knew a couple who had a bridal shower, a couples shower, a lingerie party, bachelorette party, bachelor party and the wedding was a destination wedding. It was ridiculous.
People who talk to me on the train. Dude, I’m wearing headphones and have a book in my hand, take the hint!
Is it a good book? What kind of music goes with the book you are reading? I have questions
I actually wouldn't mind if they asked me these kinds of questions, it can be a nice ice-breaker for a new friendship. The problem is, so far they just tried either kicking on me (yeah, not taking the hints), or it was elderly people asking confirming questions of whether or not I actually understand what I'm reading (because I don't look east Asian). *sigh*
Load More Replies...Modern day etiquette rule one: if you see someone with headphones on, they clearly want to be left alone. Unless you need help, the headphone wearer should be left alone
I agree, especially when you’re wearing the usual signals for “not in the mood to talk unless it’s a dire emergency”. Respect the signs, people.
I'm in the very back of the break room, I have a book in my hand, and a mouthful of food. There's twenty other people in here. . . .but you want smalltalk with me. 🙄
Or when you are reading a book and someone (or usually everyone) asks what you are reading. Nothing anymore, thanks. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THAT? 😡
I'm more annoyed when they ask if it's a good book. Like.... I don't know? I'm literally in the process of reading it? I'm enjoying it now, but I'm visibly like halfway through it, I've no idea how I'm gonna feel about it at the end!!!
Load More Replies...The fact that so many jobs exist where you work full time and do not get paid enough to support yourself independently. And you are then told you have to go tens of thousands of dollars into debt to get a job with a living wage.
We won't pay people more but we will raise the price of housing. We won't allow insurance companies to pay for birth control if their corporation says so. We get closer & closer to outlawing abortion. Many of us won't teach our children about sex & how not to get pregnant, then berate them when they get pregnant. Then we criticize people for having kids they can't afford.
And now, depending on state, expect them to have them.
Load More Replies...I'm thousands of dollars in debt in student loans (for mental health related degrees), and STILL can't find a job in my field that pays a living wage! 😠
Sometimes I wish a had a roommate to share living expenses with. I spend more than half of what I earn on rent and utility bills. On the other hand that would mean someone else is living in my house, so... no.
... and that you have to be greatefull that someone is willing to let you work for them at all.
The military will pay you to learn a skill. They put me through LPN school.
Money is, as well as some of the bs requirements
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The greeting, "Hi, how are you?" Or "How ya doing?" And then everyone just says "Fine." In the first place, it seems like noone really wants to know how you actually are. And in the second place, noone says how they actually are. I mean, most of us are not all that fine a lot of the time.
I greeted a server with "how are you" the other day. She responded with a shrug and a "meh." I said, "You know what? I appreciate your honesty. It's 2021; none of us is "fine." She laughed. Be less afraid to disrupt the status quo. Be human instead.
I hear ya. I frequently kick it with cashiers while checking out, and it's great to get to know these people a little here and a little there. We're all in the same boat, and getting to know some of the fellow sailors is a good thing.
Load More Replies...its a greeting at this point. if you want to actually know, you ask whats wrong or are you ok
It's a greeting. You say it because if you say, "salutations," people will look at you weird.
a simple hi or hello, will do just fine as a greating. There is no need to pretend to care if you really don't. It is fake politeness and most people can sense it, so I consider it to be a backfire.
Load More Replies...In my country we actually answer differently depending who's asking. The closer you are to them, the more detail you give to that question. It's literally "what are you doing".
If you say you're anything other than "fine", people accuse you of searching for attention. It's stupid.
Years ago, I worked in a suburb of Montreal. Most of the employees were English-Canadian and a few were French. I'd ask the Anglos "How was your weekend?" and get "Fine." I'd ask a French employee "How was your weekend?" and they'd talk about what they did. Sometimes they even had pictures ("We went to a friend's cottage. Here's a picture of my kid playing in the leaves."). Obviously, it's a generalization for that particular workplace and area, but the difference was striking.
When someone has the courage to be honest and say something along the lines of "I'm really stressed out" or "I'm struggling TBH" I jump into action- How can I help? What can I do? I live in the US but really do wish we were more forthcoming with our feelings. Makes for better communication (*most* of the time)
Not acknowledging men’s mental health issues except to put down women’s. Like, they’re both huge problems that deserve to be individually seen and taken care of, but neither is a weapon to use against the other, or anything.
This post needs to be higher. Men need to be heard. There are COUNTLESS shelters in the US for women who have been abused and need help. there is only ONE for men. Men's Mental Health Month is June. be better.
I suffer from depression and chronic pain. People often say they have issues also but not as bad as mine (because they are trying to be nice, not arseholes). I always tell them that it's not a competition and their pain or depression is as real and as valid as mine.
The levels of misandry have gotten extremely excessive the past few years.
This site is rife with it. If a woman says she's done with dating because her previous partners have stolen her money, cheated on her and treated her like poop it's all "You go girrrl", but if a *man* says it then he gets torn to pieces. Once you notice it, it's everywhere.
Load More Replies...this really bothers me like there will be post on here about men's issues and someone will comment but women have it worse or arguing the point so basically saying women have it worse so by extension this issue doesn't matter we need to stop competing against each other and support each other
I've always thought it odd that there's so much attention placed on breast cancer when there are actually more cases per year of prostate cancer. I think it's because breasts are more noticeable and attractive than prostates. Or, are we trying to be more nurturing to women?
Youtube channels of toddlers and young kids. I believe parents do it for themselves and their ego, I hate that content is mainly about opening new toys and products.
*It is child labor. There, I fixed it for you :)
Load More Replies...Yep! Stupid stuff for kids :-( Get them some toys to play with, and call tidying up afterward you exercise for the day :-)
Excessive consumption of alcohol. Getting drunk/plastered/etc never ends well.
I agree. I always monitor how much I drink because I don't want to be in a state where I can't look after myself. It's rude to expect others to get you home and make sure you're safe and I think it's shameful to get yourself into those situations when going out with friends.
You're absolutely correct. I despise seeing people who are shamelessly wasted and the way they act. Showing up at the band merch wanting free s**t cuz they spent their money on booze. Need a ride home, hold my hair while I puke, hungry but got no money. And immediately want to fight, even though they can barely stand, lol!
Load More Replies...And yet it's so pressured into People. "Oh, come on, just one more drink!"
Hell do you know how many people should from a medical standpoint not consume illicit products (alcohol counts for me) I personally cannot without risk of dying
my parents drink 2 to 3 bottles of wine a night. Funny how their new year's resolution was to drink less, (they used to only drink 1 bottle)
I've never understood how "getting wasted" is a goal. I've had friends and coworkers who'd say something about looking forward to going out on the weekend and say, "We're gonna get so wasted!" as if that's a good thing. Why do that to yourself? Sure, go out, but don't make your goal getting so drunk you can't even remember what you said or did.
Being expected to have a gf/bf/ef. Like, seriously, we get it, you want me to be in a relationship. This is especially true in schools with other students.
What pisses me off the most about this is people telling me I just haven't met THE ONE yet. It doesn't cross their mind that maybe I just don't want to be in a relationship.
I LOVE being single and people always go “awwww” or “you’ll meet the right one” when I say I’m single. I wasn’t saying it to get a pity party
A partner with pronouns other than she/her or he/him.
Load More Replies...I know so many people who are so hung up on not being single that they will date literally anyone just for the sake of being in a relationship, even if they're miserable. I just don't get it.
(just gonna slide this in there, "significant other" or "SO" is a much simpler gender-neutral way to refer to one's partner. Much less clunky than the above phrasing.)
what's a ef? is it shorthand for elf?? girlfriend/ boyfriend, I except but ef?
a significant other that doesn't use she/her or he/him pronouns
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Showing (and shoving) pictures of babies to strangers. Ummm no
Show your unasked for baby pictures all you want, I understand you're proud. And you deserve to be. Just accept my honest response when I tell you your kid is just as ugly as it's father.
It's worse when they make you hold the baby . I was lift a few years ago and a woman came in holding her baby. Her phone went off just as the doors shut and she shoved the child into me saying "hold him while I answer this. will you?". The baby need his nappy changing he stank and had snot running from his nose. I just said "no". Well the look the woman gave to me you'd think I' committed the crime of the century.
Ha. It is worse when you just take the baby! I saw a woman outside Greek supermarket with a small baby, too much shopping and her car keys were clearly not to hand. I yelled over in Greek to wait, I was coming to help - jumped off my bike and took her baby off her before realising she didn't speak Greek. I still feel bad about that, must have really scared her.
Load More Replies...Does this include asking a politician to hold/kiss your baby? Because I think that is so bizarre....
I just smile and try to say something nice. I'm not generally fond of babies, but I don't see the point in being rude. One time, people were ooohing and aaaahing over a baby that had a totally blank expression. I went to play with the baby's older brother who was a lot more fun. Bonus: the mother thanked me for giving him some attention.
How is it rude rejecting photos of babies? It's rude to expect everyone else to want to look at the result of your unprotected seggs
Load More Replies...just ask first, normally people will say yes anyway just cuz
They only say "yes" to be polite... or because they are pedophiles!
Load More Replies...I've found that being unnecessarily honest keeps them from doing it ever again. I refuse to say a kid is cute when they're not.
I had a co worker ask me if I wanted to see her niece's newborn babies and I said no. She SHOVED her phone right in my face and the got very upset when I said "good Lord what is that?!?!" I do not like babies, I said I did not want to see it, you went against my consent so I'll tell you it's not cute
If there’s weren’t child predators this would be normal. The weird bit is assuming someone’s going to be interested in your kids??? Like wtf I don’t want to do another Oscar-award-winning performance on how interesting it is Sara got your nose and Kevin got his grandmother’s 🙄 😂
TV shows where you judge people over others because of their talents
When was the last time the winners of these shows actually had a career?
Yes. Like The Brady Bunch Variety Hour. Now that's a classy show.
Load More Replies...I was gonna be on one of those shows until the producers found out that I had a good upbringing, hadn't battled an illness, and that all my loved ones were alive. Dropped me like a stone, they did. At least I might get featured next time as the 'plucky-loser-that-didn't-take-no-for-an-answer-and-is-back-to-try-again-against-all-the-odds'. If that fails who knows, perhaps nan is in for a terrible accident?
Not to mention the fact that they keep coming out with the same shows over and over again every season but, with just a different spin on them.
anyone remember The Gong Show? It was supposed to be serious but the people who auditioned were so bad that they had to do something different so they made it a comedy by adding comedians and people to dance and what not
It would be fine if contestants were actually judged by their talents. Most of these shows, they've already decided who will win...even if they don't deserve it.
Giving merit to the opinions of actors or famous people based solely on their fame or monetary status. Treating these individuals as if they are gods or goddesses rather than talented ACTORS making a s**t ton of money to entertain us🤷♀️
Especially when most really have no clue what they’re saying. Goes for a lot of people, actually.
SO MANY celebs dont even KNOW/ REMEMBER what movie theyre in... lol
Load More Replies...I hate this one but I am on the opposite end of it. I have that people who are famous are told to sit down and act or just play sports. I dont think they are all treated like gods but they are human beings that are just as entitled to their opinion as non famous people are. Some use their platform for good. But I dont think they should be silenced just because they are famous and we arent
When they demonstrate knowledge about that which they speak, they are as welcome to express their opinion as anyone else.
I don't give merit to people's opinions just because they're famous, but it's not like some famous people don't have perfectly intelligent and insightful opinions.
Gee, like Jenny McCarthy going national with the "fact" that vaccines cause Autism? (which her son, Ethan, does not have BTW, it's something else entirely). I mean, don't you USUALLY get your medical advice/opinions from former playboy bunnies?
Shaking hands. Now you have touched everything I've touched recently, and vice versa.
I wish we could adopt the bow. But maybe too many people are too egotistical to bow to others.
To be quite honest I've always felt uncomfortable with shaking hands anyway so I'm glad I'm not the only one
I still like the idea of going to the Vulcan salute for greetings.
I've studied/taught judo all my life. To bow(rei) is second nature to me. I wish people would understand that it's a respectful greeting.
Right?! It's not like you're surrendering to them in worship or something.
Load More Replies...I think it is pretty funny that during covid the campaign was to sneeze into your elbow, but instead of shaking hands you bump elbows....to avoid spread of germs apparently.
Holy heck how did I not notice that? I didn't bump elbows with anyone though because I stayed far away from nearly everyone
Load More Replies...Again, people taking something which has been part of human behavior for hundreds of thousands of years, and assuming that it was invented 20 years ago. Normal people enjoy physical contact with other people, and clasping hands demonstrates trust.
"Normal people enjoy physical contact with other people". I think that you are ignoring the massive amount of introverts out there and are generalising a bit too much here. It is true that we much experience some intemacy to be well of, but some people can do fine on very little of it, and prefer to only touch a few people they know very well. A handshake can be fine, but during the corona pandemi many people dicovered that the did just fine without it. And especially when it comes to the other common greeting, the hug, many people would actually prefer to avoid it, if they could do so without being considered dismissive and rude. However it has become faux pas to decline both, as it will leave other people diaspointed, and hence many people just swallow up their feeling and participate in the act despite it being a minor step over on their boundaries, which will make them uncomfy.
Load More Replies......then maybe we should reintroduce the sword and do the sword greating where you hold the blade vertically in front of your face and then swoops it of to the side.
Load More Replies...I started bowing a few months ago and really prefer it. I hope it catches on.
Staring at a medium-sized screen on a desk all day then relaxing at home by staring at a bigger screen on the wall while also glancing at a tiny screen in your hand.
Because you get to choose what to look at on them. Choice makes everything better.
Load More Replies..."How did we do?" I'm so tired of being asked to 'rate our performance' Like a bunch of two year olds who want a trophy 'cause they just did a poo poo.
No, they want feedback to improve service, which is a good thing (if they actually follow up on the feedback of course)
I appreciate the opportunity to complain and compliment. I like to think my opinion matters.
Guy asked me that in the drive through of a fast food restaurant. I responded that the service and everything went fine, until it got weird when the person taking my order asked me about a review of their performance (in the second person, of course)
Corporate makes us do that. If we get criticism (even if its beyond our control) our pay gets dinged. It is stupid to blame us because the prices are high, something is out of stock, or the landlord won’t fix the parking lot lights. The customer has no idea that the person making the least is paying for the bad decisions of upper management.
Load More Replies...If I am asked to rate my perfomance I say "Good), If I am asked to rate their performance I will take the opportunity to raise any concerns I might have -- otherwise just a tick or 'fine'.
You sucked. You did not solve my problem, nor did you offer a reasonable compromise. No, I will NOT be recommending your services.
Especially the "how likely are you to recomend our browser to a friend?"-style of questions. I generally give that type of questions the lowest score possible, as recomending software to other people is in general something I really rarely do. I know that this program is your entire life, but in general it plays such an insignificant part in the user's entire life that the peidistal you think you belong on seem a bit out of place.
Why don't workers get a chance to do a job performance report on their managers?
at the university we got a chance to rate the teachers.
Load More Replies...Working more than 40 hours a week, even working overnight. Seriously, if you are going to dedicate all your waking hours to work, is that success?
Is this success? Not in my book but you'd get a different answer from my boss who thinks you're lazy if you work less than 12 hours a day.
Who will die early from not getting enough sleep.
Load More Replies...I'd prefer working at night, actually, as I'm an extreme night owl. Perhaps once my kid flies the coop I'll start working nights again. But it still won't be more than 40 hrs a week.
At my company it's becoming more normal for people to work 32 hours a week as fulltime. I work 4 days, then have a 3 day weekend. I feel much more in balance.
As a film industry worker, we work stupid hours. That hourlong TV show is about 70 plus hours of us making it...lol
If you have to work that many hours and you're not doing it for yourself, you may need to look at your time management skills.
If you like your work, sure. I lose track of time and work 15 hours a day sometimes. It's 1:16am right now and I just stopped working at midnight. When I had jobs without enough to do, I took side jobs in the same field even though I already made plenty of money. I'm a software engineer.
i mean its different for healthcare workers and 911 operators and stuff who have to work overnight
Taking sport seriously. I mean, it is fun to watch and fun to do whatever sport you like. But it is and should be just that: a fun way to exercise and meet others. The world is not dependent on wether your team/favourite sports person win or not.
You mean taking supportership too seriously. Sports can be taken seriously if they're your actual job.
I'm thinking of bodybuilders on steroids ... sport taken too seriously. And maybe we shouldn't pay men to beat each other up for sport.
Load More Replies...I really do not understand why footballers are paid so much when nurses are paid so little.
I agree that nurses should be paid far more. Some footballers get paid a lot, that's also true. But once you drop out of the top levels of football into the second or third tier, wages drop quite spectacularly too. It's like acting. The big star gets millions and the extras get enough for a modest shop at Aldi. I'm not saying feel sorry for footballers, they do alright, but maybe it's worth noting that they are not all millionaire, Ferrari-driving, mansion-dwelling, prima donnas. But yeah, nurses deserve more, definitely. That's a no-brainer. (I know that this won't get many upvotes but please don't downvote me to hell. It's all true!)
Load More Replies...Sports is supposed to teach good sportsmanship; learning to win—-and lose—-graciously and congratulate the other team for playing a good game. Greed ruined that.
I briefly dated an Eagles fan. If they didn't win, I wouldn't hear from him for days.
I lived in Philly the year they lost the super bowl to the Patriots. I got stuck on my friend's couch that night because people were rioting in the streets and I did not feel safe enough to walk home.
Load More Replies...Here in Mexico, many football (soccer) matches end up in massive brawls. That's just stupid. I mean, I like football, both watching and playing it, but some people take it as it was their whole personality and would start a fight with anyone disagreeing with them
So you are saying that I should stop yelling at my neighbor across the street each season to tell him his football team sucks? Sorry but its the fun part of it. I know some take it to serious and it could because money due to betting is involved but I love football season. I wouldnt even let my brother come watch the superbowl at my house this past season because I didnt want his negativity in the air while my team was playing. It can get a little serious but I love the people I get to talk s**t to every season and tell them how much I think their team sucks and they tell me it right back.
I disagree. Sports can be a good, healthy outlet for someone to focus on. It can be good for your body, reduce stress, and just fun to not be serious about all the bills and politics in real life.
That was kind of what I meant. It should be fun to watch and fun to participate - and for way too many it is not.
Load More Replies...It's as if they crave to be the audience of a battle and the teams are more than just sports teams or something haha smh
It’s also annoying when athletes say “it’s gonna be a war, we’re going into battle”. Then they throw fits and cry when they don’t get a penalty. Timeouts, commercial breaks, trainers rubbing your legs and people squirting Gatorade in your mouth because you can’t hold the bottle yourself is not a fricking war.
Load More Replies...True in the UK where we have serious fights and even murders over soccer. Even more funny is that so many of these fans are so homophobic that many footballers are scared to come out as gay, but these same fans are happy to walk around wearing a shirt with another man's name on their back that they adore.
When female celebrities can touch/kiss/smack/whatever a male colleague and it's not considered harassment
It's like this IRL as well. I have seen women slap men in pubs or other public places during an argument and storm out and nobody would bat an eyelid. Some of them would say "He probably deserved it". But if a man did this all hell would break loose and the police would be called.
Ikr. I thought we wanted equality here so why is this okay?
Load More Replies...Hitting men in general, like even if a man hits another man it’s not seen as bad as if a man hits a woman. And then women hitting each other is sometimes sexualised lmaooo wtf
One thing that still gets me is cardi b outright admitting to drugging and stealing from men and her sycophants are all like "make those money moves" but if a guy were to do that, he'd be crucified
Are you sure? Chris Brown still has a career despite brutalizing a woman almost to her death.
Load More Replies...Giving your real name and dates on social surfaces. Like the Bored Panda.
In my early 30's (F), I was telling a sexist joke ABOUT MEN in my brother's office (brokerage trading desk - all men), and they were all good sports who laughed. My brother took me aside afterward and asked how come sexist jokes were okay if women told them ... but not men? It was a perceptive question, and I've never forgotten it. Don't BECOME that which you find icky in others.
I went to the shooting range today and the guy there couldn't keep his hands to himself. I got groped, touched, brushed against, nudged. And that was only today. So if men can't stop doing what they do, why shouldn't women do it too. So women should do it more often... equality?
Stopping what you're doing to answer the phone. Would you immediately stop what your doing to talk if someone was nearby shouting ring ring ring ring, I'm stopping in 10 seconds if you dont talk to me? No, you'd ignore them until they leave.
I think they’re talking about people who will interrupt delicate and/or important face-to-face conversations in favor of a non-emergency call from a friend who just wants to bullshit about nothing important with them. You don’t have to answer every call. No one should have to be THAT available.
Load More Replies...I don't think this is weird at all. I assume if someone calls, and it's a legit call, then whatever it is, is fairly urgent. Texts and email are for news that can be read & answered at leisure.
So you don't think the comparison of a phone call to someone standing and shouting "ring!ring!" Is weird? Ok.....
Load More Replies...In a shop, answering the phone while a customer waits, money in hand, right in front of you. If you don't tell the caller you'll be right with them then get back to me, I'll walk out and you can put all my intended purchases right back on the shelves.
A lady at my work did this the other day, I work front desk in a doctors office and she was talking to a patient on the phone , and then her personal cellphone rings and she puts the patient on hold for 10 minutes so she can answer her personal phone, rude
.... I usually stop what I'm doing when someone talks to me. If I'm busy I'll let them know I can't talk. Simple.
One reason I hate calling people and answering calls: I don't know if they are available, and it seems rude to just insinuate myself into their time because it's convenient for ME! I tell everyone who wants to call me to send me a text first so I can set that time aside to talk, or tell them I can't.
I phoned a friend the other day just to chat. She answered happily, and mentioned that they were still eating, rather later than usual because they'd been out. I simply asked if I should call back later. We settled on half an hour. I called back 40 minutes later and we had a good, long natter. If you call someone, you can always ask if it's convenient to talk. If a call is not convenient for you, say so, and arrange a better time. No one will mind.
Load More Replies...That's because you can tell those weird people around you that you'll be there in a minute if you want to, but a ringing phone is literally a technical means to announce the desire to communicate. Like, what are you gonna do instead?
Yes. If I'm in a conversation I don't stop the conversation to have a new one
Worse. Being forced to drop everything to answer calls on your multi line desk phone WHILE being expected to finish your regular pile of work on time. Multitasking is a myth, assholes. You choose. You want me just answering all 3 lines on my phone and dealing with that work as it comes in, or do you want me concentrating on my huge pile of everyday off-phone work you expect done by the end of the day? One or the other. NOT both.
It seems to be a very American thing to hate phonecalls in my experience. I live in Switzerland and have never had an issue with calls, however, it's not like I'd have ever been spammed with them. Not sure why the US dislikes it so much to have calls with friends and family.
The kiss hello greeting, why do people do this?
Because it's cultural. It's not normal in the UK, but I like it when I meet friends from abroad and can greet them like this. It's much more affectionate.
It's perfectly usual and common in the UK. But I do think it's a class thing.
Load More Replies...I hate this. I just refuse to do it. Nothing wrong with shaking hands or at most as far as relatives are concerned a quick hug.
To kiss on the cheek one has to get very close. With the closeness, one can 'frisk' for weaponry. You can also see/smell for illness/health. A common greeting from ancient Babylonian and Persian cultures; it is Biblical references which starts the tradition. But became popular in Europe with the Christian Crusades. It was originally a chivalrous signature between nobles and knights - an imitation of the allegiance of the Apostles to Christ. A kiss on each cheek is normal but in some cultures this is extended to three kisses. The multiple kisses may have evolved to distinguish between the kiss of betrayal Christ received.
Edit: illness/health thing shows no fear/trust in the other person.
Load More Replies...Eeeewww, no. Kiss hello greetings are a cultural thing in many cultures.
Very normal in our culture. Even men greet other males in the family with a kiss. Stop making other people's cultures sound weird when you have a warped sense of something.
Thinking the customer is always right.... No, in fact, they are not.
The phrase is “the customer is always right in matters of taste” which means that if someone is buying something you think is ugly or tacky, just let them buy it. Not that you should bend over backward for a customer’s will
This is one phrase that needs to disappear and when it does you will see a change in customer attitude.
That was never meant to mean an individual customer is right. At no point would any business think that, as an individual may ask for unreasonable things. It's referring to an overall customer base and consumer behavior trends. (e.g. u may think your product is great or cheap etc. , but if no one buys it you are wrong) Only idiotic Karen types ever thought it meant a single customer is always right.
Tipping! Pay servers a living wage already so they don't feel like they have to perform to make a living. Their job is to take your order, bring your food and answer questions about the menu, not to be your friend. Also every counter has a tip jar now. Don't make me feel guilty for not tipping when I know your wage does not depend on it. Rarely does tipping in general make sense, pay people a living wage and include it in the price of a service.
Yeah, but management’s idea of a better wage still won’t be enough. Hell, Amazon spent god knows how much on commercials where they pat themselves on the backs for offering a measly 15 f*****g bucks per hour, which is far from enough to live on. They should’ve used that money to pay their employees, instead of stroking their own egos. And blasting off in their d**k rockets.
I’m currently on holiday in Florida. Last night we went to the Olive Garden for the first time ever. Our server was great so he got a good tip from us. The bill actually has tip amounts based on a percentage of our bill. It was just under $100 so it has amounts for 15%, 18% and 20%. I have never seen this before. We left just over 20. As my SIL is with us and it’s he first time in the USA we had to explain why we tipped that much. Basically the server does not get paid a living wage and it’s expected here to give a good tip. I should say I don’t know how much Olive Garden pays their servers.
When the pandemic hit, (in Canada), I started tipping quite a lot more for the usual things, wait-persons mostly. One time, when s(he) noticed the amount, and commented/thanked me, I replied 'This is not a gratuity; this is an investment. Because I want you to do well at your job, and be here next time I'm in. And I want the restaurant to be here, too.'
People expecting you to tiptoe around their fragile, underdeveloped emotions so you don't "hurt" them. They'll expect you to change your behavior to suit them and their beliefs, but they won't change to respect yours.
Is someone grouchy? I think it's a fair expectation that people treat eachother well and with kindness.
Worse, those “expecting you to tiptoe around their fragile, underdeveloped emotions”, so they don’t hurt you.
The stigma associated with having incontinence and having to use some form of protection for “leaks” be it catheters and bags or absorbent underwear (of any type) I was in an RTC that caused damage to some of the nerves in my spine and now have days where I can not control my bladder at all, for these days I choose to use what is colloquially called fitted briefs (adult size nappies/diapers) as they are more comfortable and easier to change that the catheter and bags. There should not be any shame in having to use bladder protection nor should people be made to feel like they are peculiar for wearing absorbent underwear of any type.
I was really annoyed when people started saying that Trump was wearing diapers. Who cares? It's not something to shame people about. And besides, there are literally hundreds of other, more profane things to excoriate him over.
Exactly. Would you shame a person that needs a bypass or a wheelchair? Obviously not. Adult diapers and such are medical devices so I really don't understand the stigma.
Life must have been really smelly before all these products were inventted.
Blessing people when they sneeze but not for anything else like coughing or hiccups. Why??
I'm with you on this one. I heard it's origins have to do with the belief that at the moment of sneeze a demon could swoop in and possess you, so saying a blessing helps prevent that. Now you have to say it; and if you don't people get offended for some reason. I was roommates with a woman from Berlin and she said to say gesundheit, explaining it meant, roughly, 'don't die from the plague'. She was probably joking.
It has to do with disease and coughing or sneezing being a symptom of a disease that could kill you, so you bless the person to wish them health. Hiccups are just diaphragmatic spasms. You won't die from them and they are not contagious.
Load More Replies...People say bless you because a sneeze was like sin leaving your body or a demon entering or something similar to that, and so Puritans would bless those who sneezed because of this. They didn't believe these things for coughs or burps or anything else. I still think its weird, which is why I always go with the classic "gesundheit"
If some one says bless you if I fart, I'm going to think you started this. Now I'm thinking about it though.......
Load More Replies...I have always had a thing about this one. I mean, why do we need to ackowledge a sneeze when someone does it? I've been told 'because it's polite'. What does that even mean? The idea of it is born out of superstition and it just persists. 'Just because it's polite' is a terrible excuse. It's polite to hold a door for someone behind you, or to say please and thank you, but just to aknowledge a bodily function? How so? Because society has done so for centuries? That's a dumb reason.
Nice people who are generally polite and decent creating an anonymous identity so they can be rude and hostile. I also don't understand the ride-or-die mentality some people have for social media. Everyone I really love (as in, I would donate a kidney to this person), I can call directly, and I know their name and where they live. And we don't send each other manipulated photos and stuff, because why bother? We know what we look like.
I always say they’re not your friend if you don’t know their phone number. Get arrested, fall in a river, lose your purse or backpack, get mugged. All sorts of scenarios can leave you without your phone book. The saying “will your Facebook friends help you move” comes to mind.
I have one friend like that, the one of two numbers I have memorized. I once ran out of gas on Christmas Eve, called him, and he found a mutual friend to go rescue me.
Load More Replies...I try to be the same person online that I am in real life. If I say something onlineto someone, I like to think that I'd have the temerity to say it to their face.
People who live in the same place as their family/friends don’t really have the same need for online methods of connection as those of us who have friends all over the place - and by that I mean all over the world. No, I can’t go and see the vast majority my friends or any of my family as we’re all thousands of miles apart and the time differences are immense, so keeping connected online is a brilliant idea way to stay in touch/connected to each other’s lives. I’ve also literally not been able to see anyone overseas for 2 years due to our borders being closed (due to COVID). It annoys me that people assume everyone’s friends are just round the corner and anyone you can’t go and see/visit is some kind of fake/online friend.
Documenting every moment with a posted photo.
Like the rest of us really care, and apparently have all the time in the world to waste on you. The time it would take for me to look at the pictures or video from your dinner out would be better spent on my own life. Outside of the inner core of people who truly care about you, you are not as important as you think you are.
Graduation ceremonies for Elementary and Middle School.
You forgot kindergarten. Purely a USA idiotic thing, no where else needs this.
I don't know where this came from or when it started. I had a graduation for 8th grade and 12th grade.
worshipping a corpse of a tortured guy nailed to the cross
You don't worship the corpse but the sacrifice and I say that as a full blown atheist.
Non Denominational Christians do not worship the cross but the risen Savior. Jesus rose again on the third day. We remember his sacrifice but worship the living Jesus. I believe Catholics do worship the cross though.
Not the Cross but the sacrifice. His words on the cross that saved humanity were "Father forgive them for they know not what they do". It was his cross to bear...
Load More Replies...Using religion as an excuse to exclude people is what's really baffling to me
Never have understood this. Forgot to mention that he was a carpenter who got nailed to wood. Those authors were assholes
The feeling when a youtuber says: "LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, AND TURN ON THE NOTIFICATIONS OR ELSE THIS CENTIPEDE, SLENDER MAN, AND TARANTULA WILL HAUNT YOU WHEN YOUR SLEEPING" or "LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, AND TURN ON THE NOTIFICATIONS AND YOU'LL GET 9,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999 AMAZING YEARS OF VERY GOOD AND PROMISING LUCK"
Websites that won’t allow you to join without ticking the box to accept notifications you don’t want. I clip coupons before grocery shopping. The brand websites are notorious for this, so I create new email addresses to sign up with, and don’t care how overcrowded with bullshit notifications they become, because I never look at them.
i like YT, i learn a lot from some videos, it can be awesome. but you're absolutely right. let me watch your video, then I GET TO DECIDE if i want to 'like/sub". you just irritate me with all that other crap. OH, and also: i really don't need your life story, a tour or your place and kids, or a 5 minute intro to get to a how-to demo....good lord
Or like "only 10% of you guys are subscribed, that means only 10% of you guys are actually cool. If you wanna be cool subscribe"
well i guess it's better than those chain mail letters from back in the day. It's the same message, just a different format. The real question is, who originated the chain mail letter?...
Also, just the constant reminders to like, comment and subscribe. Yeah, I think we know what to do if we would like to do any of those things.
Having fun with friends by drinking until you can't remember what happens 😅
Same, it's more fun to watch everyone else make fools of themselves
Load More Replies...That people happily and willingly pay several thousand more for clothes, bags and shoes just so they can go around and do commercial for a company like Nike or Gucci. So you are telling me that you have paid 1000 dollars for a pair of shoes, so you can go around advertising for Nike and they dont even pay you for that? A thing they normally pay several 1000 dollars to get, you not only do for absolutly free, but they also made you believe you were cool and smart when doing it? And you think it is a great idea? Ok.
Like buying a truck and the dealers name is in big letters across the back window when I went to pick it up. Gave them the option to remove it, keep the truck or pay me $400.00 a month for advertising. Funny how fast it was removed.
exactly. the funny part is people who wear this clothes will defend their reasons to wear till their death bed: " oh no, I just wear it because I like the style, it is not because it is expensive so others might think I am worth spending time with" ( since they apperently have no personality of their own worth to spend time with) yeah right......
Load More Replies...Especially since people from old money families (the other side of my mother’s family were old money) will tell you the true mark of being fashionable is to have your clothes made specifically for you by a professional tailor. They’re one of a kind, so no one else will be wearing the exact same thing you are, because only one was made for you. Expensive, sure, unless you’re good at sewing for yourself. But unique to you, and you alone.
what a stupid thing to use motheir money for. the planet is dying, people are starving, but they wanna use their money for extra expensive clothes just so they can feel one of a kind? way to show you are an arogant selfish asshole.... jesus, they must have a very low self esteem. grow some balls, and start helping instead you moron.....>.<
Load More Replies...I don't think a Gucci bag is any better than a normal bag but what it does is it screams "I can afford it and you can't" which is horrible in itself.
well at least it makes them easier to spot, and therey stay far away from them, even from a distance...
Load More Replies...Did my Dad post this? He instilled this in me as a child and I totally agree. Now I vote every day with when and how I spend my money or my time.
oh i love this one! i buy all my clothes (and anything else actually) either clearance or second hand. i have better things to do with my money. entire outfits, top to bottom (ok, i do buy my underwear new , on sale lol) accessories, whole thing, ten bucks.
Or people "improving" regular clothes with DIY giant expensive brand logos.
Parents encouraging their young children to sit on Santa's lap.
And this is bad why? It's a good thing to visit Santa, see the smiles and giggles. Now my son just cried on Santa's lap so he didn't want to but if a kid wants to, why not?
They didn't say bad. The title of this says weird. It is weird that we get our children to sit in some stranger, so dressed up we couldn't pick him out again if we tried, to take a picture. Weird doesn't have to be bad. Honestly, I can't believe Halloween isn't on here. I love it, but what a weird set of traditions.
Load More Replies...pressuring gender roles. but also: pressuring gender identity. not everyone who likes nail polish is a girl and not everyone who likes sports is a guy. there is no need to suggest to change someone's pronouns or cut off penis or breasts just because they don't fit into stereotypes 100%.
Letting assholes and idiots, basically all who have no shame, talk whatever they want because it's seen as socially awkward or pointless for decent people to challenge their behavior.
All it takes is just one brave soul to step up and tell them to “just shut the f**k up, you’re just showing everyone how ignorant you are”—-in just the right tone of voice—-and they’ll dummy up and skulk off into the corner. Sounds mean, but sometimes an asshole like this just need to finally get their long overdue comeuppance.
When people talk on speaker phone, I like to comment to myself on their conversations. Not loudly but I dare them to say I'm being rude. Sorry Brenda, I think you're dead wrong for gossiping about Susan's pregnancy ankles!
Ask such people, in a caring and kindly tone, if they are suffering from the Kruger Dunning effect. (That's when people are so ignorant they don't know what they don't know and think they know everything.)
The incredible obsession with pushing an alternative gender identity/sexuality. By all means you do you boo but it's so much in my face anymore and everyone gets super offended when addressed incorrectly. Ok scenario: I'm in a Starbucks about to pick up my drink and me being my polite self says to the seemingly female barista by the name of star "thank you ma'am" (I regrettably live in the bible belt of the US) and she snaps at me "actually it's sir." Bitch I don't know you and you look like a girl I'm going to address you as such. Don't get pissy with me.
"snaps" or politely corrects? And I agree with cookie panda, avoid gender specific terms if you don't like being corrected. I got news for you, your ego and need to not ever be seen as incorrect doesn't trump anyone else's right to autonomy about how they want to be addressed.
Again, cool story bro as I stated in the south it is standard to say ma'am and sir to everyone and it's not my job to walk on egg shells with every random person I meet to try not to offend them with a simple ma'am or sir. 😘
Load More Replies...Well if you don’t want people to get mad, just don’t use gendered terms. Just say “thank you”. if you say mam or sir it’s just too easy to offend someone. And if you personally know someone, just ask their preferred terms.
Ok cool story as I stated in the south it is standard to say ma'am and sir to everyone and it's not my job to walk on egg shells with every random person I meet to try not to offend them with a simple ma'am or sir. 😘
Load More Replies...Ok, y'all I get what Sam is saying. I'm in the south too and it was literally beat into some of us. You say "Yes Ma'am/Sir, No Ma'am/Sir, Thank you Ma'am/Sir" period end of discussion and if you deviated from this as a child you were slapped, smacked upside the back of the head, or spanked. It's INGRAINED in some of us, we're expecting the beating that comes with not using these words
I was thinking about this the other day, and I came to the realization that I don't think I've ever actually called anyone "sir" or "ma'am" outside of the years I was in the Air Cadets. Even during that time I thought it was weird that up to a certain rank, you call out their rank when engaging with them (like "yes, Sergeant!") but beyond a certain rank it's suddenly "sir" or "ma'am" rather than just their rank. Not even my ex-Air Force dad required me to call him anything other than just "dad". And it's not that I'm impolite or even rude - I say please and thank you all the time and have lovely chats with all sorts of people. I just have always referred to people by name or instinctively used "they" in natural conversation unless they are my family members as using the terms "sir/ma'am" seems too weirdly formal to me and just doesn't roll off my tongue in any kind of natural flow during regular conversation.
What does looking like a girl mean? It’s the very foundations of what gender really means that needs to change. This “scenario” is totally acceptable imo.
You know that Starbucks baristas wear name tags right? So unless they’ve got a gender neutral name I don’t see how you could have got it wrong.
If they actually snapped back then thats bogus. The intent was to be polite.
Working for a living. I had an interesting career, as a researcher and academic. I liked my students, staff and colleagues. Since retiring I've realized how oppressive it all was.
I don't need to retire to realise how oppressive work is but these bills won't pay themselves and I wasn't fortunate enough to grow up with money...
People who say "you made me do this". Dude, you're in control of your body and your actions. It's not like my soul leaped out of my body and possessed you to do this. SMH
After years of emotional abuse I can say for certain that 'you made me do this' applies because I was brainwashed into believing it was the right thing to do. Yes I did the things myself, but looking back it wasn't my choice.
Anyone grow up I fundamentalist religion/cult? I can proudly say “They made me do this” for a lot of things because I was NOT in control.
True. Whether we’re conscious of it or not, we choose our actions/reactions. Unless they’re threatening you (real threat, or perceived), no one “makes” you do anything. YOU are the one choosing to do it. If it’s something bad, then YOU are the one not using your critical thinking skills to consider all possible outcomes of your actions, and choosing the least destructive one. Your fault, not theirs.
I have level one autism. When certain people figure out how to trigger me, unfortunately, sometimes they do it incessantly and the behavior that I go into is both my behavior and completely out of my control. Believe me, none of us want to be screaming like a 4 year old and curled up on the ground because we literally can't process or make the bullies stop/go away/just leave us alone. I have sobbed, asked, wrote down, sought support, compromised, begged, and lost it trying to beg for the harassment to stop. And then when I lose my s*** I get called a crazy b****.
Load More Replies...Hoe many people are saying this to you that it's become a problem? Either you're controlling or being controlled it seems like
Narrating one's life. My mom announces EVERYTHING she is doing/going to do. "I'm gonna ago brush my teeth." I can see announcing a shower so no one flushes the toilet or starts a load of laundry. But every tiny thing? Ugh.
Sometimes it's being offered as an opportunity to do something before I trot off. "I'm heading to the bathroom" is silently followed by "so if you need anything or wonder where I've dissappeared to etc"
Load More Replies...And what about people who narrate their life? Like my father, while doing a chore or something, narrates what he's doing/thinking, what's happening and what he's about to do. For example: "now I'll make dinner. I'll start chopping the onions. Where are the onions? Ah here they are. Oh that reminds me, I have to go buy some more tomorrow. Ok now zucchini... Chop chop chop. Ah perfect. Now I'll boil the pasta. Spaghetti? Nah, penne is better. Ok, penne it is..." He's not talking to anyone, he's just talking to himself out loud. I genuinely think some people love their own voice so much they like to hear it all the time.
My mother is like this. I think she just has no inner monologue so she needs to say every single thought out loud.
i do that as a warning that i'll take the one bathroom for a longer period of time - go use it now
Over eating at the holidays. Why? It's like you can't celebrate a holiday unless you end it laying on the couch, belt undone, pants unsnapped, slowly going comatose from all the food you just ate.....
Holiday celebrations are often group activities, and we humans tend to eat a lot more when we're eating with company
That's true, and then you open up another bottle of wine and there's cheese so ....
Load More Replies...That is the best thing about the holidays, in my opinion. All my favorite carby foods that I don’t really get to enjoy the rest of the year? You bet I’m going to overdo it and regret NOTHING.
"It doesn't matter how you eat between Christmas and New Year, it matters how you eat between New Year & Christmas".
Load More Replies...Hunter-gathers go through feasts and famine phases when different resources come become available. So periodic cycles of over-indulgence, often accompanied by social bonding rituals are very, very deeply ingrained in our past, perhaps even having a genetic basis. You over-indulged or you staved in the lean months.
Human beings have an inclination to overdue and exaggerate things, and celebrations and holidays gives s person to overdue things and thus he or she eats himself or herself to death.
So I'm risking my life if I accept second helpings of my sister's amazing borscht? Damn, I had no idea it was *literally* to die for. :(
Load More Replies...Maybe some people are strict with their diets the other 360-odd days of the year, and the holidays are a chance to reward their hard work by “letting their hair down” and indulging themselves for a couple hours that day. Besides, some food is only made or sold at certain times of the year, so we have it while we can. Basically it’s periodic overindulgence, and is usually done in moderation anyway, as the funny thing about eating healthy the rest of the year is that you tend to not gorge yourself when given the chance, even if it’s totally acceptable to do so.
Plus road trips. Driving 8 hours doesn’t require a bag of snacks. I wouldn’t eat all that crap on a regular day, why does the car bring that out in people
Cause I need my snackies! And it keeps kids quiet. And if I'm not eating I think I would distract the driver by talking nonstop. I eat for safety😂
Load More Replies...It's because this is what people would do everyday if there were no consequences. Same with drinking too much, etc. So people pick a few days when it's ok to do it without being judged.
All mammals do this hahaha binobos our closest relatives will masturbate each other if there’s an abundance of food cos they’re happy lol
Being called a Karen when you did nothing like a Karen...
Honestly though. Like my mom isn't a Karen by any means, but she will complain when it's needed, like one time when I was eleven, a group of staff were talking at the counter, and they would loudly using vulgar words, at a family restaurant. And being a mother of two kids, both under the age of 12, she got upset. The staff didn't listen and just continued talking like before, after twenty minuets the manager was called. The manager heard what happened and suggested to pay for the meal. And almost all the staff was calling her a Karen!
It comes to a point that I feel bad for people whose real name is Karen
My mom is named Karen ...she's the nicest person you'll ever meet 😁
Load More Replies...I'd be happy to regale you with my story...
Load More Replies...There are some foods (meat with bones, iceberg lettuce) that would be much easier to eat with our hands, but “good manners” require us to use utensils for. To me, it would make much more sense to drink soup out of a bowl than to spoon it to my lips from a bowl sitting on a table!
In informal (family/home) situations, I eat leftovers, especially steak or meat in general, with my hands. If I sit down to eat with the fam, yes I'll use silverware, but dang hands are easier. It's what they're gosh darn made for dangit!
Not being interested in experiencing life without the mental filters that bias every perception according to our own limited experiences.
A kind of learned helplessness. Locking themselves in mental and emotional cages, and throwing away the keys to the freedom of expanding their minds and lives. And they find having such small lives and minds completely acceptable. What a waste.
Yes but the flipside is that if I learnt something through my own experience, I don't need an academic source to validate it.
It's all about experiencing for yourself, not relying on knowledge learned from external sources.
Load More Replies...Sounds nice, not really possible I think. I think we can change the filters, but I'm not sure we can eliminate them.
Filters = xenophobia, distorted self-perceptions, attachment to appearances, greed, the list goes on...
Load More Replies...Not being to talk about your pay at work.
IT IS NOT ILLEGAL IN THE US! In fact, it is a protected right. Most employers don't want you to talk about it because then people know who's under paid and who's over paid for the same jobs. YOU CAN'T BE PENALIZED OR FIRED FOR DISCUSSING YOUR PAY! And if you are, wrongful dismissal suitas well as them breaking the law
Peeing shoulder to shoulder with another guy in a public bathroom.
Smalltalk.
It is far better than big talk (loud), harms no one and passes time with friends.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb0ef6NhY74
Load More Replies...Cell phones for each person in the family. Everyone turns into a cyborg and is available 24/7.
Of course I know cell phones are normal. But they're weird. That's what's so funny--- That you think I wouldn't be able to contact them if they didn't have cell phones. Because if no one had cell phones that would mean they had a landline. If they weren't home I would leave a message. Or not. Back in the day we were all still able to function without constant surveillance. There was never any emergency that could have been prevented if communication had been immediate, although that is one of the reasons cell phones actually are great. The misconception is that we MUST be available 24/7 to the whim of everyone else's needs, texts, etc. We don't. Most of our lives are not filled with emergencies. So constantly having a phone in my hand is weird. It's just my opinion.
Load More Replies...Gossiping, fake behavior. What is the point of talking sh*t about people behind their backs? How is this absolutely normal EVERYWHERE? If you don't have proof of something happening, why spread it further? And if you are having a problem with someone, why'd you tell everyone but them? It ruins workplaces, it ruins all teams, relationships... I swear most people are just overgrown toddlers terrified of communication/direct confrontation...
Not having proof hasn't stopped Trump World from selling their lies over and over again without any evidence whatsoever. It's a new American tradition, doncha know.
Defending yourself for your sexual preferences or even your gender.
Eating vegetarian or vegan versions of meat. If you don’t want to eat meat, why would you want to eat something that looks like meat, smells like meat, and tastes like meat if the actual concept of eating meat repulses you?
If I ever go vegan/vegetarian, it wouldn't be because I don't like the taste of meat but because I don't like the animals being slaughtered. And there's the answer to your question.
You've answered your own question. It's because the concept of eating actual meat repulses them, and many other reasons of course.
Because I like the way it tastes? Why judge people over their choice to be vegetarian?
The concept of eating something that was an animal's body repulses me. The concept of eating a substitute that any meat eater is all too eager to say doesn't quite taste the same does not.
People are veggie and vegan for a multitude of reasons. I’m veggie and don’t like meat substitutes but plenty of people do. I don’t know why anyone has an issue with other people eating meat substitutes, it’s none of their business. If anyone is really struggling with the concept, do they also have the same problem with someone giving up alcohol who is drinking alcohol-free wine or beer? Or a smoker using nicotine patches? Or people drinking oat milk?
Smacking someone in the butt after a particularly good sports play. It would not be acceptable to smack a co-worker on the butt after a good presentation, why is it ok if you score a basket?
Schools working like a "factory". Think about the school system; then think about how a factory works. It's similar to a prison. For kids. Like-
Assuming someone is heterosexual/cisgender from birth. And pressuring people to be straight/cis because its "normal" it's really weird to me
Glad I grew up when a girl could act like a boy and not be pressured into thinking she was not cis. I was just a tomboy!
Same. I wore male clothes cause I liked them, didn't wear makeup much, if someone had pushed some narrative about transgeder on me, instead of just letting me be me, I'd likely have more emotional or mental issues than I do
Load More Replies...Biology, facts and experience show you are correct. It is normal for some people to be different than the rest...maybe I would even go further and say being different is normal. Isn’t that basically what makes us human? And individual? But it is also fully ok to be average, just saying. You don’t want to be forced being someone you aren’t? Guess what, almost no one wants that. So let others the freedom you deserve aswell.
The towards business in the US K-12 education system. To me it’s odd and is creating a generation that sees business at the goal, not just one of many choices for what to do with their lives.
Running as a sport. It's weird, no one is chasing you! Sometimes I wonder what the other animals must think of us, like a deer : "why is he running? Is there a danger?" or a wolf "Is he hunting?". No we just like to run around in ridiculous outfits and expensive shoes for no reason at all.
Have you tried it? The endorphins are amazing! And you'll be able to outrun your friend when the bear shows up.
Humans evolved to be one of the most absurdly efficient runners in the animal kingdom. Really, choosing not to run is the weird thing for us to do.
Our early ancestors created a method of running down prey. One would start the chase until they were worn out then his homie would tag in and continue, then the other and the other until the animal was gassed. Dinner
Load More Replies...Think of the first person to go on a jog just for exercise, just having to stop explain to everybody that they're not late or being chased, just intentionally trying to get sweaty and exhausted.
Haha X) That's exactly that kind of situation I was thinking about! Imagine the incredulous looks! "But... why??"
Load More Replies...One of those, don't knock it until you've tried it. I love running, it's like my therapy
why dogs get zoomies and they start running laps? Why guinea pigs run in a wheel?
Drinking the milk of other animals.
While finding the idea of drinking breast milk revolting. Now that is weird!
Fun fact: humans are the only animals who regularly drink the milk of other animals. Also, we are the only animal to drink milk beyond infancy.
Well, I NEED my cheese, yogurt, and butter.
Load More Replies...do you eat eggs? wtf is wrong with milk? cheese? yogurt? butter? .....
It's definitely a strange thought, but if it wasn't meant to be, wouldnt it be more harmful then helpful
Lactose intolerance my friend. Technically we should all have it but most of us seem to have evolved to be able to tolerate it in adulthood, more's the pity...
Load More Replies...I think if non-human animals knew how to raise goats and cows and harvest their milk, they would.
Halloween. Children in disguises go to strangers' houses and ask for candy. Some people terrify both adults and children.
Dude, going into an almost adult life, I still freaking love Halloween. Def not a fan of the scary side, but being able to make a costume? Awesome. I'm actually sewing my own costume from scratch this year! Tim Burton season? Awesome! Free flippin' candy?! Awesome, with precautions. Ooh, and it's candy corn season, psl time, scarecrows hay and ravens everywhere! It's this spoopy girls dream lol
I remember as a very young child having to do a little dance or utter a nursery rhyme in order to get the good candy from my parents friends. Those were the good old days. LOL!
Parents saving their kids' teeth, or even worse, umbilical cord stumps.
you do know that some people also eat the placenta? yeah.... apperently this is the latest new thing. first they saved it in a jaw and had it on a shelve to show guests (!), then a year later it changed, then you had to dry it, and then make it into powder, and then eat it. but now 15 years later.... they are seriuosly eating it raw.... >.< we had a reality star him and his friend ate his wife's placenta raw.
And? Unless you're some sort of a scientist, not sure what you'd need stem cells for...
Load More Replies...Knowing everything about someone. I've been in situations where someone close to me has been upset because they realized they didn't know every little detail of my life....like yeah no that's never going to happen.
On the flip side, expecting someone to know everything about you, therefore being able to “just know” what you want every second. I am not psychic, so just f*****g tell me what you want/need/prefer, so I don’t have to mentally exhaust myself having to guess, and emotionally don’t have to hear you tell me I guessed wrong (which I suspect you would do, regardless of what I guessed you wanted). Because that’s just f*****g cruel, asshole.
Not sure what the problem is if they're close to you. Fair enough with people you don't know too well.
Yes, but people don’t stay the same their whole lives. We grow, we learn, we experience, we change—-or at least, we should.
Load More Replies...One of my friends does that. She askes really personal questions whenever she tells me some personal stuff of hers. It's like tit for tat. I always reply with "that's none of your business".
Yeah, it's rough when someone expects you to tell them everything. Proud of you for telling them what's what.
Load More Replies...Saying , it’s going to be all right “. Or everything’s gonna be just fine. I hate how often I hear this in movies, tv, school, hospitals. Find something more realistic to say if you want to comfort someone, but please just stop with the pie in the sky.
It’s not always “pie in the sky”. It depends on the person and/or the circumstances. Sometimes everything actually will be alright. You’ll get out of the present bad situation, and things can only look up from there. Other times, not so much. But, as long as there’s a chance, you can’t just doom yourself to failure without even trying to make things better.
Strategically planning the way you will eat your food so your mouth remembers the last part. Imagine looking over at me and seeing me stare at my food with a fork in hand and sorting it
Hahaha I do this too!! Whatever my absolute favorite thing is on the plate gets saved til last. My husband thinks I’m so weird.
You're not! Haha food is not only fuel, it can be so good
Load More Replies...OK, I go one step further. When I eat strawberries, I cut them in 1/2. Not all strawberries are sweet/ripe. They may look it, but there is no guarantee. But I you cut them in 1/2, you can save the best halves for last and get like 9 good bites in a row!
I’m with ya, when my wife throws off my cheeseburger to French fry ratio I get angry. When I was a smoker I savored that last bite so the cigarette tasted even better.
I really like it when the balance is maintained like that. I've added raisins so the last spoonful isn't"empty".
Load More Replies...Ha! I take one bite of each thing and when I run out of one thing, I'm done. But I accept I'm weird!
Similar method here! I just wanna have a bit of everything without feeling like Aunt Marge!
Load More Replies...Then being foiled by a chunk of black pepper that shows up to ruin dessert.
Asking people 'Are you ok' when they obviously aren't.
I disagree with this one. Asking 'are you ok?' is an entry level conversation starter with someone who appears to be struggling. It's the most caring question a person can ask, particularly to a stranger. Maybe they'll be able to help, maybe they can call someone who can help. By asking the question, they are just showing that they care and want to help. What are the alternatives? Just ignoring you as you struggle.
This! Some people find it really hard to ask for help. Or feel threatened in some situations, and feel like asking will make it worse. So, stepping up and offering it may be the only way to get them the help they truly need. All they can say is “no, but thanks for asking anyway”.
Load More Replies...Omg I did NOT expect people to actually scroll down enough to see this. Kudos to all the people who have that amount of patience!
'Are you ok' is just a polite version of 'I can see something is wrong, tell me about it'. If you ask the question, you've already assumed the person is not ok.
Because the more fitting "what is wrong with you?" has grown to have an ofensive connotation.
Or if they will be. Like, "How the fucck should I know right now?!". Depending on the situation, I guess.
Having to stuff yourself with overpriced junk when you watch a film.
.... Who is forcing you besides the masses of advertisements? Lol chill. Invest in a small backpack or handbag and beat the system cuz the workers in theatres dont care as long as you aren't disturbing and clean after yourself. And if you do this at home, thats all you friend.
Pretty much everything humans do is weird. We are weird animals. 🤷♀️
Why are almost all the comments from 9 months ago? Is this an old subject, dredged up to today?
This is a 9 month old article being rehashed now. At least remove the old comments so it looks like new to people who didn’t read a s comment on it 9 months ago.
What isn't weird? I try to undetstand mortals every day, but some things just seem needlessly complicated
Voting people down on BP for voicing an opinion contrary to that of the majority.
When someone says 'bless you' after you sneeze like you're exorcising some demon
Well, here we say "health", of which "bless you" would have a similar meaning, namely to express the hope for the other person to become or stay healthy (since people with colds usually sneeze more often). Which is a good wish, I think?
Load More Replies...1) Judging singers or actors about their beauty ... being pretty is not their job. 2) Trying to be as professional, smart and motivated as possible during the job interview in order to make someone let you earn his company more money
I dunno cause some people think standing up to wipe your ass is normal and yet to me that's like one of the craziest things i've ever heard..........I mean.. wtf would you?
Pretty much everything humans do is weird. We are weird animals. 🤷♀️
Why are almost all the comments from 9 months ago? Is this an old subject, dredged up to today?
This is a 9 month old article being rehashed now. At least remove the old comments so it looks like new to people who didn’t read a s comment on it 9 months ago.
What isn't weird? I try to undetstand mortals every day, but some things just seem needlessly complicated
Voting people down on BP for voicing an opinion contrary to that of the majority.
When someone says 'bless you' after you sneeze like you're exorcising some demon
Well, here we say "health", of which "bless you" would have a similar meaning, namely to express the hope for the other person to become or stay healthy (since people with colds usually sneeze more often). Which is a good wish, I think?
Load More Replies...1) Judging singers or actors about their beauty ... being pretty is not their job. 2) Trying to be as professional, smart and motivated as possible during the job interview in order to make someone let you earn his company more money
I dunno cause some people think standing up to wipe your ass is normal and yet to me that's like one of the craziest things i've ever heard..........I mean.. wtf would you?
