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There are plenty of fish in the sea! But as you might know, many of them are taken. Some refuse to be in a committed relationship, and others are incredibly rude when they don’t get exactly what they want from potential romantic partners. So while there are plenty of fish out there, there are many that you’ll want to avoid as well.
Below, you’ll find a list of screenshots featuring interactions with people who should definitely remove themselves from the dating pool. From messages that make no sense to remarks that are outright mean, these posts might make you relieved to be single. Be sure to upvote the messages you can’t believe people actually sent, and keep reading to find conversations with dating coaches Rachel New and Amie Leadingham!
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#1
Dating/Hookup Apps Are Serious Trash Sometimes
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
The person who replied sounds like a really good person. Far more patient and polite than I would be, that's for sure.
Scott Wilkins 1 year ago
I wish EVERY horrible person would just announce it like that. Bullet dodged.
DC 1 year ago
... sometimes, if you ask 4 questions, and get a response to 3 - the less interesting ones - I can understand that makes one mad. But, ... this is all depending on context and stuff. Ignoring people isn't blanketly justified, just as it isn't to assume being entitled to an answer that the asking one sees as sufficient. Sometimes they are, sometimes not. He, in my opninion, is not.
Lady Lestrange 1 year ago
I am quite worried as to how much the response is going to penetrate his thickhead?!!
pineapple87 1 year ago
Yeah, if you don't understand that people can't text at work or they sleep at night, it's the biggest red flag there is
To learn more about the wild world of dating nowadays, we reached out to dating and relationships coach Rachel New, who was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda. First, we wanted to hear Rachel's perspective on how the internet has impacted the dating world.
"Online dating has opened up opportunities for more people to connect with more people," the expert shared. "This has lots of good and bad consequences. Shy or socially anxious people get to connect without having to go to parties, people who live in remote areas can connect with people further away, and everyone gets to see profiles of people from different walks of life, a greater range of ages, ethnicities, levels of education, and so on."
"Research shows people mix more through dating apps and that this is good for breaking down barriers of prejudice and making us more open to different cultural norms," Rachel added.
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#2
Put Your Children Up For Adoption
Content Wombat 1 year ago
Wow, it's a good thing we don't get attached to our children or anything. lol
Marcellus II 1 year ago (edited)
My wife was attached to them, very much; but she had a medical procedure to cure that. 9months was enough.
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Corvus 1 year ago
I would have replied with "Would you be willing to undergo a castration? I want to date someone without balls."
DC 1 year ago
That question, for sure, requires some unhandy sized balls to begin with!
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SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
Keep looking then, Aaron. I'm pretty sure the mother is more than willing to free herself from a "catch" like you... -_-
DC 1 year ago
... I'd make an appointment just to slap whoever asks for this regarding my cat. Likely, that would be a woman, and I'm not. Likely, this would be seen as very inappropriate, to say less than actually necessary, but then again, that cat has scratched me, bitten me and I'm still convinced she deeply loves me - why would I go through this just to get rid of her? Also, asking to remove a pet, a kid, or both is just so damned exposing of their character ... "Hey, your birthed that thing, you fed it through early childhood, rescued it from an abusive home - now, I wanna skru you, get rid of that!" - seriously? Slapping those is too polite. Regardless of any else.
kelliewhyte_85 1 year ago
Wtf is wrong with him??? That's f**ked up. I had an ex ask me to have an abortion so I could have a child with him once.
#3
Yeah, Why The Hell Are You On A Dating App Anyway?
Jack Smith 1 year ago
who hurt him, indeed. if he's so afraid of an "agenda", why the hell is he trying to meet a stranger online?
MattyCT 1 year ago
Agreed. If he is that paranoid then online dating probably isn't for him.
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But there are downsides to the internet's impact on our dating lives as well. "Some negative consequences of dating apps are that now we are connecting with people who might have very limited experience of connecting with others, and if we have a few bad experiences, we can start to believe the majority of people are like that," Rachel shared.
"There are lots of reasons why people can’t connect in the offline world that don’t make them evil or mean: it could be poor social skills, a lack of experience of mixing with others who are different from them, trauma, lack of good role models and attachments growing up, mental health challenges, neurodivergence, or other life challenges," the expert explained, adding that certainly not all people with those challenges will send problematic messages.
#4
Yikes?
Jack Smith 1 year ago
cheating is one person having two partners who do not know about each other. polyamory is three or more people in a relationship (how everyone is connected to each other varies) with lots of communication and consideration of each other. there is a difference. they are not the same. hate it when people say they're polyamorous, but really they're cheating and don't want to admit it
N. 1 year ago
People in poly relationships don't all have to know each other, but they do deserve to know ABOUT each other. A poly person should make their intentions clear. You can be single and poly, but your date should know exactly that.
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Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
I'm happily monogamous, but isn't it considered standard in poly situations for everyone to KNOW it's poly?
#5
Happened To A Friend Of Mine Today
Corvus 1 year ago
Struck a huge nerve there. Perhaps he never made any friends... and I can see why.
Donkey boi 1 year ago
I'm going to go out on a limb and say, 'No, they didn't make any friends on the app'.
Papa 1 year ago
I haven't dated in almost 40 years, so I'm not up to date on stuff, but are people really this crazy? Or is this just some troll trying to get a reaction?
P R 1 year ago
They are definitely mentally ill / personality disorder; but, yeah, some folks do this stuff for reaction
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#6
My Now Ex Boyfriend Has Been Sending Me Texts Non Stop. I Sent Him A Message Saying Me Moving Out And Us Breaking Up Is For The Best, And This Was His Response
Corvus 1 year ago
A have this strange feeling that his understanding of "traditional wife" is "a kitchen slave."
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
It's entirely possible he does want a traditional wife (as in stays at home, cooks, cleans and looks after the kid(s)). There is nothing wrong with that. BUT there is also nothing wrong with her not wanting any part of that lifestyle. So good on her for realising they're incompatible and getting out. Now it's time for him to move on and try to find a women who does want the same thing as him (good luck with that!)
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rmandevi831 1 year ago
He can go have his traditional wife, if one will have him. You've just decided it's not going to be you.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
I think I've seen this before and my proverbial answer remains the same: YES, IT IS!
LuLuBelle 1 year ago
They not only existed, they were the norm. That's why we had to have Women's Lib in the 60's and 70's. Young girls that are against feminism nowadays have ZERO clue how bad it used to be. When I told my junior high school counselor in the late 1960's I wanted to be a scientist, he said "oh, no. Don't you mean a science teacher?" The idea that a woman could be a scientist was inconceivable to him.
Load More Replies... kelliewhyte_85 1 year ago
Love all you women putting s**t on men, and putting s**t on people just because they have different values and live differently than you. Grow up and do better.
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 1 year ago
Hey some women are into that, there's a niche for everything. But you have to understand if the person you're currently talking to ISN'T into it and move on.
"We may judge that a message is inappropriate, offensive, aggressive, sexist, or defensive - like many of those illustrated here," Rachel continued. "But it’s possible that some of the people sending them may actually be unaware that their messages violate the rules of social interaction. In the offline world of people who have good social skills, they would be told immediately or socially ostracised – in other words, punished for not playing by the rules of safe, kind social interaction."
#7
Ngvc: “Fruit Of My Lions”
Rebekah Fuentes 1 year ago
We need to stop being polite to predators! Ladies, we have no obligation to anyone, EVER!!! F**K being polite! Protect yourself, at all costs.
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 1 year ago
I would have blocked long before it got to that point. Like when he didn't answer right away where he got her number from....
maka paka 1 year ago
I get that it's 100 percent not the person being messaged fault but why do people not block people more straight away. If my internal alarm is dinging about someone then away they go
Little Wonder 1 year ago
he knows where she works and is clearly unstable and potentially dangerous, she's being cautious and trying not to provoke.
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#datingsofun
MattyCT 1 year ago
Agreed. If he's that flaky I seriously doubt he's got a "back up lined up who is already naked and waiting with bated breath. Haha
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#9
The Absolute Gall
Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
Yeah, you know the one who asked (assuming they, you know, EXIST) is interested, so better bet for all parties, including the person you were trying to bully into meeting with you.
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Angelshark 1 year ago
Is there such a thing as the opposite of FOMO? I feel like that's what this is.
"But if they are not part of [the offline] world [of people with good social skills] – perhaps in their lives they have only experienced people getting angry and aggressive, or putting others down, or sulking – they won’t be familiar with other ways of doing things," Rachel explained. "A simple example is that of the person who thought going to a café for a first date was weird. To many of us, that is completely normal, but it wasn’t part of this person’s world, and so they equate unfamiliar with weird."
#10
Just Started Talking To This Guy
Went to the bar and ended up running into a guy friend. Guy I agreed to go on a date with saw that and got upset I was talking to him. This is what he’s been texting me
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
I could understand being a little miffed that your date was talking to another guy while on your date. But I don't think it warrants a stream of consciousness rant like that. Surely "who is that guy?" and let her tell you is sufficient.
Lila Allen 1 year ago
Ok so I feel like this is going to be an exhibit in a court case for stalking
#11
This Is What I Get For Not Answering My Phone…
Vinny DaPooh 1 year ago
If that was meant as dark humor it's pretty funny. If she's serious... run.
JP Purves 1 year ago
You know it was serious. I guess women can be incels too.
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Ken Beattie 1 year ago
The final reply is, but the line where she says " But I should've known you're the last guy to call in case of an emergency" is pretty rude.
Load More Replies... Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
Last I knew, mental health issues are not carried only on the Y chromosome.
Load More Replies... Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
So let's see, she CHOSE to go for that walk at night and is pissy because the guy needed some sleep (probably because she's so freaking high-maintenance exhausting)?
#12
A Girl I Use To Date Reinsuring Me That I Made The Right Choice
Lotekguy 1 year ago
Correct. But In the sense that "insure" can connote a guarantee, she certainly guaranteed that he made the right choice. Any doubt effectively eliminated.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 1 year ago
hmm speaking from experience, I find that women in my country find something like this - a single rose - more romantic than a bunch. A bunch is what you give to your ESTABLISHED partner. A new potential partner you give ONE to show interest. Giving a bunch to someone you do not know is creepy overkill.
Neil O'Connor 1 year ago
That is how I have always understood it, always a dozen on the first date. A dozen is more casual and a single is more intimate and I secretly wish it was the other way around for us broke single guys 😆
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Emma Claire 1 year ago
I feel like we need some back story to get on his level of how creepy this is. All I see is a hurt ex stalking him snd giving him a rose which as I say it put loud, yep, creepy
Dak Janiels 1 year ago (edited)
I had been dating a woman for about a year, no serious red flags - she didn't have a computer or TV and mentioned a couple of times that it would be nice to have (she was on a budget). I got her a 27 inch Samsung and a few days later I asked her how she liked it; her response was "Its OK I guess, it would've been nice to also have something to watch like cable or a streaming service." That was the first or the Red flags that suddenly started flying. Important to see that its not just men that ruin potential relationships.
We also asked the dating expert if she had any advice for people who simply want to date the "old fashioned" way. "Research from YouGov shows that most people in the UK still meet in real life – about 66-76%, depending on age," Rachel told Bored Panda. "This can be at work, through friends, in a bar, or at a social event/group activity such as volunteering, a choir, a language class, a sport, or a Meetup."
"I recommend that people try to meet people both online and offline, to get a healthy balance, especially as we use different parts of the brain when we meet in real life, for example being less likely to judge people by appearance," the coach says. "Having a short video or phone call to cut down on the messaging before you arrange an in-person date is a good idea too. More people are meeting through social media such as Instagram now, because people’s posts and videos are thought to be more authentic than dating profiles."
#13
He Asked What My Favorite Food Was. I Said Pizza. This Was His Response
PeepPeep the duck 1 year ago
He practiced his flirting skills with his waifu pillow before trying it out in real life obviously
Marcellus II 1 year ago
Someone might be on a spectrum. Because there’s awkward misreading of boundaries, and this.
Jon Steensen 1 year ago
dream on, you definitely need to work a bit on your technic, and a lot on your personality and ideas about how the world works.
Christopher Davis 1 year ago
I don't think this one is creepy. I think it's an awkward dude who is trying to figure his way around a joke. Honestly I can relate.
Roan The Demon Kitty 1 year ago (edited)
"i love sushi"... yea, try authentic sushi. spicy tuna rolls aren't even a thing in Japan. xP
#14
We Spoke For About A Week When I Asked Her What Red Flags She Has.. Here’s The Note She Sent Me 🚩
Marcellus II 1 year ago
32. Makes obsessive lists in response to simple relatively open question.
DrunkInPunkLove 1 year ago
okay that's crazy, I'll admit, but being bipolar isn't a redflag.. if you're not treating it and using it as an excuse for your behavior, than yeah, redflag, but just the diagnosis alone isn't necessarily one
Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
And "anemic" wouldn't qualify as a red flag, except to someone who demands a partner who's in perfect health.
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MadMom 1 year ago
I thought he was asking what her red flags were about other people, but then I realized she's talking about herself. Is this what we do now - just spill all our questionable behavior at the start? Saves time, I guess.
saw & order 1 year ago
Glad I’m not the only one who thought that at first lol
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Kristal 1 year ago
I don't think #29 is a red flag. I'm surprised it took 4 years to drive 2 hours
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
I'm wondering why it took more than one hour, tbh.
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#15
Are Low-Key Dates Not A Thing Anymore?
Vinny DaPooh 1 year ago
No. It's the new "I'm too special and important to go anywhere but a Michelin restaurant for a first date" attitude.
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Nice to see it's not just the men who are asshats on tinder. Even if they are the majority :(
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But Rachel also says that many people can enhance their online dating experiences with some expert input and support. "This includes tweaking their dating profiles, messaging skills and arranging a first date," she noted. "There is lots of research on what works best, particularly when it comes to creating that warm connection and becoming attuned to each other, as well as judging when someone isn’t right for you to date. I especially enjoy dissecting people’s unsuccessful online conversations with them and making suggestions about how they could have said something differently or avoided a misunderstanding!"
#16
My Friend Matched With This Guy On A Dating App
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Absolutely. It's ok to think that, but there's a heck of a difference between thinking and saying. What's the old saw? If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all?
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
I'm blaming parenting at this point. They were the first enablers.
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P R 1 year ago
Don't discourage openness and "honesty"! Good that this jerk has expressed his true, disgusting feelings
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A Friend Got This From A Guy She Went On A First Date With
Roxy222uk 1 year ago
Dude! Seriously! Yes, we all have those feelings sometimes. You earn the right to explore them with someone by building a relationship with them. Jeez. You don't impose them as, basically, a threat.
P R 1 year ago
In a dream or distant fantasy, okay. But verbalizing them to someone else, not okay.
Load More Replies... Ken Beattie 1 year ago
I really hope her reply was "Well I'm locking the damn cage and destroying the key! Goodbye."
P R 1 year ago
Even that is too much of a reply. "Blocking you" and "any future communication from you will be reported to police" is all she should say
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#18
She Proposed A Different Meeting Place For Their Date
Corvus 1 year ago
Well, at least he's honest about wanting a slave, rather than a partner in life.
pineapple87 1 year ago
Yeah, this makes me think I should suggest a different location every time from now on just to see how they react.
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Artsy Bookworm 1 year ago
Seriously, what goes on in the heads of these people? Have they never talked to an actual woman
Jon Steensen 1 year ago
They probably have, then the women rejected him, and he couldn't figure out why. So he consulted a "YouTube coach" who preys on insecure men by selling the talks that confirms that everything they dream of can come true, which probably just lead to him being an incel when it does not work out as planned. It is way to easy to be sucked into those rabbit holes, and then the negative spiral starts.
Load More Replies... Marcellus II 1 year ago
So he prefers imaginary over real? He’s entitled to, less bother for everybody.
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Man, he was reaaaaally getting ahead of himself. Whole thing planned out in his head like some sort of mini-porno.
MellonCollie 1 year ago
Okay, great, thank you for letting me know I dodged not just a bullet, but a whole machine gun going off.
When it comes to the posts on this list that feature people responding poorly to rejection, Rachel says that, "Sensitivity to rejection or feeling 'disrespected' is often a trauma response, where someone has experienced abandonment or ridicule, most likely in childhood, and not processed it."
"Such people develop survival strategies to protect them from the pain of rejection, such as denigrating the person rejecting them so that their opinion doesn’t matter (like number 24 and 30), or bigging themselves up so they feel less disempowered (like number 8), or having strict deal-breakers (like number 12 and 22)," the expert explained. "They may already feel bad about themselves but keep it buried by treating people badly or getting angry with them."
#19
I Went On An Awkward Tinder Date With This Guy About Two Years Ago. I Had Been So Relieved After He Finally Seemed To Stop Texting Me About A Year Ago. He's Back!!!!
Marcellus II 1 year ago
The old Groucho Marx line,”I’ve had a great evening, but it wasn’t this one”.
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#20
Asked A Girl On A Date A Week Ago, She Said Yes. Text Her Today, This Was Our Conversation
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
not necessarily - on a night out people can meet many people or get asked out by more than one so it helps to open with hi, it's X, we met at X - that way we would actually know who that is.
Load More Replies... Dak Janiels 1 year ago
I agree with him - if she meets and gives contact info to enough guys in a week that she can't remember them, I'm good, thanks.
pineapple87 1 year ago
Not saying she's in the right, but if he asked her out a week ago, why did he wait a week to make plans?
#21
A Girl I Dated For 2 Months Calling Me Off Of Different Numbers After I Broke It Off And Blocked Her
Vinny DaPooh 1 year ago
Looks like they're really having trouble reaching you about your cars extended warranty
MattyCT 1 year ago
I have dealt with someone like that and we never dated. It was just one date and then we became friends. Or so I thought. I'm not saying anything about the person in the OPs post but in my situation the woman had severe Borderline Personality Disorder and would do the same thing among other worse things. It is best to cut these people off.
Roan The Demon Kitty 1 year ago
at this point... change your number. and move somewhere new if possible.
Jon Steensen 1 year ago
well there are ligid persons who calls without an id, e.g. I think the police does it, when they call from an office line, to avoid some lunatics calling them back all the time.
"When I work with people who have suffered this kind of trauma, I use a variety of therapeutic approaches that include somatic psychology, mindfulness and self-compassion to process the trauma," Rachel told Bored Panda. "I help them to understand that their survival strategy has been keeping them safe for a long time, but now it’s become counterproductive. Then the person learns to tolerate dates not working out, people not being attracted to them or asking them to behave differently without getting triggered. Rather than seeing it as rejection or criticism, they can learn to tell themselves, 'This person isn’t right for me' or, 'We weren’t in tune with each other' or, 'I can learn something from this.'"
"If you are the recipient of a string of aggressive or inappropriate messages, it can help to understand it as the person desperately attempting to avoid feel bad about themselves," Rachel added.
If you're looking for more wise words and dating advice from Rachel, be sure to visit her website or purchase her dating workbook!
#22
Can't Think Of A Creative Title For This
spicy (she/he/they) 1 year ago
dude i did not need to hear about your fake scenarios you make up to say that you have a busy sex life
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Wait was this a dating app or was this just some guy bragging to his mate over texts?
Dak Janiels 1 year ago (edited)
Yeah, not a lot of clarity here. TBF, I have known people that mentally freak out if their gf/bf doesn't answer a text within 5-10 minutes and they just assume they are mad or ignoring them, so they get rage vengeful. Scary and time to block.
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#23
Could Anyone Of You Afford To Match With Her?
Gustav Gallifrey 1 year ago
Gulf States, in general, are dreadful, in more ways than one.
Load More Replies... Ken Beattie 1 year ago
I'd really want to match and then hit them with "So how much do you make?" And when it's (inevitably) far, far lower than the 500k they're demanding of you, flip it around and say "oh no, no. I can't date someone who makes less than 500k yearly."
Jon Steensen 1 year ago
she is gonna end up alone, and she probably can't figure out why. Some people really lacks the ability to distinguish between wishes and requirements.
censorshipsucks 1 year ago (edited)
I don't care if this girl is a 10, she's so narcissistic I'd not date her if she paid me. Edit, I found the original reddit. She's a she and she's 31. https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/11yksyl/could_anyone_of_you_afford_to_match_with_her/
#24
Two Kinds Of Date
Marcellus II 1 year ago
Medjoul or Deglet Noor? Because that’s the only dates I’d get that excited about (and would get both in one day).
Norwegian_Panda🇳🇴 1 year ago
Leah don’t waste her time🤣 She could at least be nice enough to not share she was going to bang someone after their date..
We were also lucky enough to get in touch with dating coach Amie Leadingham to hear her thoughts on the topic. "I do believe that dating apps/texting/online dating has made the dating landscape suffer as people have lost the ability to create in-person social connections and many have lost basic social skills," Amie told Bored Panda.
#25
The Amount Of Men Who Message Me Expecting Me To Hang Out With Them, A Complete Stranger, Immediately And Are Unwilling To Take Even A Second To Get To Know Each Other First
Roxy222uk 1 year ago
They think they can put in the least amount of effort possible and 'skip intro' straight to sex. The stupid thing is that sex is made so appealing partially so humans will put in all the effort to build the relationship, so they can get to the sex part.
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
This whole "by third date you should be ready to shag" b******t.
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Ansi 1 year ago
This person probably thinks it's a good idea to have the first date in his apartment too...
Jonas Fisher 1 year ago
How is this bad? They could meet at a park, a cafe, a coffee shop, a book store... I'm with the dude on this one. Rather than exchange a thousand texts, just meet for coffee, hang out, and get to know each other.
Duuuuuuude 1 year ago
I know things are different today, but when I was dating (before apps, or smart phones or anything) the only way to get to know someone was in person. It was the purpose of the first date. (Although, I wouldn't have led with "wanna hang out? " like we're in elementary school. Would you like to grab coffe? Would be a bit more adult).
#26
Idfk, Maybe Because You Matched With Me?!
Giovanni 1 year ago
I matched with a girl on tinder 3 times, she asked my height and then unmatched me, the foruth time i skipped the greatings and told her directly, she was confused and then unmatched me. Honestly the funniest tinder interaction i had.
Tamra 1 year ago
I hope this stupid height requirement thing is a passing fad. This was absolutely NOT a thing when I was dating. Yeah, it's normal for people to have preferences, but I also think it's normal to have f*****g manners and humanity. These dating apps allow people to be douchebags because they're behind the protection and anonymity of a screen. Social media has caused the erosion of good manners. And that's my Gen X rant for the day. 🤣
Load More Replies...And if anyone out there hasn't had much luck with dating apps, Amie's advice is to diversify the way you connect with singles. "Get outside of your house and meet actual people," the expert says. "Maybe work at a coffee shop, or don't wear your headphones at the gym. Start up conversations with people in person. The old-fashioned way of meeting people still works! Don't give up on online dating; keep doing that while making in-person connections."
#27
Ngvc: “Being Nice To You Made Me Look Like A Chump”. Nice Guys Response To Getting Rejected After A Single Coffee Date
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
I don't get these people. Why would you just not stop when she says "Just want to be friends" and move on. Or maybe you know, *actually be friends* and hang out and do stuff in a non-sexual way. I find it amazing that there are so many f****d up people out there who immediately leap of the deep end when someone says they're not interested.
Angelshark 1 year ago
I think if I were asked to witness this person's chemical castration, I'd be okay with it.
Guess Undheit 1 year ago
Her psychotherapy comeback was rough, but not over the line. The Ted Bundy wannabe's response definitely was.
I’ll have a treble thanks. 1 year ago
I’m learning an awful lot about how to dodge a bullet on this post !
#28
So Infuriating
spicy (she/he/they) 1 year ago
“well you did say on tinder like a year ago that you’re keen for anything 😉 “ yeah, A YEAR AGO.
Vinny DaPooh 1 year ago
Shotgun approach. Message enough people and someone will say yes. Kind of like the Nigerian Prince
Finally, Amie shared some wise words for anyone struggling with rejection. "Rejection is protection. If that person wasn't into you, let them go," she noted. "It doesn't mean you are not worthy. It just means you weren't a good fit. Take the higher road and wish them well on their dating journey. Take all that energy and move it into something productive, and look for someone who is actually into you, too!"
If you'd like to gain some advice for your own dating life from Amie, be sure to visit her website!
#29
This Dude Slept Thru Our Lunch Date And Blames Me (Because I Don’t Exchange Numbers Until Meeting/Vibe Check). Because Apparently I Should’ve Woken Him Up And Waited
Jack Smith 1 year ago
uh yes hello sir, have you perhaps heard of this fantastic new invention called an "alarm"?
cerinamroth 1 year ago
And taking responsibility for yourself, not relying on others to do everything for you. I guess he still lives at home and his mum usually wakes him up in the morning.
Load More Replies... Gwyn 1 year ago (edited)
No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who thinks the other person is responsible for making sure they get somewhere on time. What is he, 12?
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
12 is how many minutes it took them to get up and out the door which makes me think zero attempt at scrubbing up for the date.
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Ah The Joys Of Online Dating In Your 20s
Rebekah Fuentes 1 year ago
I'm allergic and don't even have a like for cats, but, I would absolutely go to a Cat Cafe instead of meeting with this absolute douche of a person.
CooperDooper81 1 year ago
Am I mistaken in thinking that he actually only been ghosted for 14 days?
Robert Beveridge 1 year ago
We don't know how long before the cat Cafe question those first three messages were sent.
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Guy Acts Like A Pig On Facebook Dating. Sh*t Gets Posted On Reddit. Gets Defensive About The Comments Calling Him Out
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
What a douche. Sensible guys love it when a women hits them up first. Why wouldn't you? Takes the pressure off you because you know they're interested (at least initially) and if she's doesn't appeal (for whatever reason) it's not that hard to politely decline.
LargeMarge 1 year ago
It makes the person feel like they are in power when they put you down or reject you. They want you to feel the same way they feel, like c**p. They always feel like c**p, whether they are trying to date someone or not, their whole life is c**p and so, they want to make others feel the same.
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#32
Man On Dating Sites Asks What I Do For Work, Informs Me He Can Teach Me How To Do My Job (Sales), And Then Proclaims That Men Are Better Salesmen. He Can Explain To Me Why That Is…because I’m Just A Dumb Woman
Rahul Pawa 1 year ago
Anyone else notice that he advised her to not use yes or no questions right before asking her a yes or no question?
Display Name 1 year ago
Such a salesman but still too lazy to type the word YOU. Jesus bro, if you swipe the keyboard it types for you.
#33
We Went On One Date And I Didn't Feel A Connection. One Date
#34
I'm *trying* To Date And I Encounter This Constantly. Why Is It Such A Big Deal That I Choose Not To Drink Alcohol??
Jack Smith 1 year ago
yeah i really don't understand why some people have such a problem with others not liking to drink poison. like sure, you can drink all you want (as long as it isn't a problem, of course), but why won't you let others just live their own lives? weird
Jon Steensen 1 year ago
It is because drinking alcohol and the effect that has on you is quite stupid. Especially when you get to excessive amount of the stuff, it often makes you say and do stupid things and become dumb and annoying to listen to. When that happens, it helps to have a partner in crime, who is at your level and experiencing similar things to what you are. I have seen it happen over and over again as I generally don't drink in excessive amounts, if I drink at all. In the beginning of the evening things are going quite well and the conversations flows, but at the others start to get deadly drunk, some kind of shift happens and they start acting silly/primitive/boring and we are no longer at the same wavelength, as I am seeing clearly and their vision is fogged up. Hence they try to drag me down to their level in an attempt at leveling the playing field, such that their behavior seem more acceptable. Alcohol is often used as a bad excuse for doing some really crappy things.
Load More Replies... TheCrazyBunnyLady 1 year ago
Half of our circle of friends doesn't drink, and we're all between 25 and 45. If you can't throw a party on a cup of tea, you're boring to begin with.
Cerise Hood 1 year ago
I enjoy drinking alcohol on special occasions. I don't care if someone else is not drinking. As long as they feel safe and comfortable, it's all good.
LargeMarge 1 year ago
I drink but because I take meds, I do not do it but if someone says they do not, there is always coffee.
#35
I Made It Clear On My Profile That I Occasionally Drink However It Just Says That They Occasionally Smoke And For Some Reason Just Because They Said That They Occasionally 420 Doesn't Necessarily Me And That's What They Meant In The Smoking Portion Of Their Dating Profile
Corvus 1 year ago
If they're so evasive about it, then there could be other substances involved as well...
Roxy222uk 1 year ago
Yeah, I think it's clear what they smoke and are insecure that it's off-putting
#36
Recently Started Dating Again
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Though I do wonder how long they'd been talking before he hit her with that gem...
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
This is not the kind of conversation you have a) over text, and b) before you even had a date and/or hooked up.
#37
This Guy Wanted Me To Know Just How Disinterested He Is In Me
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
If it is in fact true, then I kinda get it. But at the same time, if the person has been using dating apps for 7+ years maybe he's just really not remarkable and she keeps forgetting that she's swiped on him? Just cute enough to be interesting, but not so hot you'd remember lol
KatSaidWhat 1 year ago
Can't decide if idiot, arrogant or on some sort of spectrum keeping track of who swiped, how many times and exactly when. Possibly a combination since he too is still there 7 years later.
#38
A Guy I Am Kinda Seeing Is Mad I Don’t Follow Him On Instagram
Roxy222uk 1 year ago
Wut? Don't give this moron another second of your time. He isn't attracted to you as a person **at all**
kelliewhyte_85 1 year ago
LOL you don't know that at all, and can't POSSIBLY know that. You're just saying this because you're against men.
Load More Replies... Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Hmm, he's rude about it but maybe he has a point. If she's in social media talking with friends but won't add him it kinda demonstrates how important she thinks he is in comparison. I think there is a better way for him to express it, but maybe he's got a point.
Jon Steensen 1 year ago
respect is earned, and so is an instagram follow. A relationship ought to be a partnership between equal, but instead it sounds like you think you are so wonderful that you can basically charge people for being with you. The latter is in shorter terms called prostitution or escort service. And accusing her of not showing you respect when you can't force your way through is just guilt tripping.
#39
People On Online Dating Apps Who Ask For Money For No Reason. Online Dating Is Horrible
#40
When Someone Tries To Use Facebook Marketplace As A Dating Website
Norwegian_Panda🇳🇴 1 year ago
Has this happens to me before. More aggressive than this person. It was creepy and I got scared because he knew where we lived. He never came though. Thankfully!
#41
Why Even Make A Dating Profile Then?…
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Doesn't it imply that the person in the profile is underage? Which is very NOPE!
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#42
Dating App “Conversations”
Jon Steensen 1 year ago
Does everyone love cuddling though? For some people it just start all sort of anxiety reactions, and raises a lot tough question that must be dealt with, like: Am I being played, can I deliver what is expected of me, or where is this gonna end and is that a place I wanna be etc? Cudling is a very intimate process and not something you just do with anybody. You have to be comfortable with them and know enough about them to trust in them before it should even be put on the table.
KieLeaHar 1 year ago
Yep! Cuddling is really a very emotional and personal thing in my opinion… I’m not a touchy person in any way, shape or form but when I DO hug say someone it’s because they mean something to me and I trust them.
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When You Try To Let Your Tinder Date Down Gently
maka paka 1 year ago
there's not much wrong with this, the replyee is saying they'd like a second time as they enjoyed the first, the other person just needs to say. I'm not feeling it at all to the point a friendship is not on the cards either
Nina 1 year ago
They just let them know they're not interested in a deeper connection. Feels kinda blind to ask for another meet-up.
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Was Going Through My Camera Roll And Found This Gem
#45
Wearing Masks On Dating App Profiles
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
So take a selfie in the privacy of your own home and use it for a picture?
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 1 year ago
could be a muslim... some stricter muslims regard photos as haraam so you compensate by wearing a headscarf and/or mask etc.
Jon Steensen 1 year ago
No matter how you twist and turn it, a lot of attraction is about physical appearance and subtle signs. A lot of communication is about mimic, and that is e.g. why a lot of business meetings are still held face to face, despite means like Teams exist that can omit the traveling time ...and when you cover half of your face some information is inevitably lost. Wearing mask was a nessesary evil and came with a price that had to be paid in order to avoid a situation that came with far worse implications. But I am with OP on this one, post a picture where I can see the entirety of your face on a dating app, by either taking it in private where you don't have to wear a mask, or find an old photo from the time before corona. You can fall in love with a smile, but that is hard if you can't see the mouth.
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Kristal 1 year ago
I've deleted all dating apps. I came to the conclusion that the emotionally mature dudes don't use them.
maka paka 1 year ago
Nobody emotionally mature uses dating apps for long anymore. they're all just a hook up. when I was on my own using them the amount of nutcases i got from the woman who accused me of living a double life because i saw my kids on the weekend, to my own personal stalker (to be honest she was more lonely than anything and i hope she's okay). To the 24 year old who complained i never took her out for a meal when she helped with my profile when i specifically asked first if 'this is your way to start talking and ask someone out' and she said. No I just like to help ??????? That was over a few months, i dread to think how the woman have it.
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Kristal 1 year ago
I've deleted all dating apps. I came to the conclusion that the emotionally mature dudes don't use them.
maka paka 1 year ago
Nobody emotionally mature uses dating apps for long anymore. they're all just a hook up. when I was on my own using them the amount of nutcases i got from the woman who accused me of living a double life because i saw my kids on the weekend, to my own personal stalker (to be honest she was more lonely than anything and i hope she's okay). To the 24 year old who complained i never took her out for a meal when she helped with my profile when i specifically asked first if 'this is your way to start talking and ask someone out' and she said. No I just like to help ??????? That was over a few months, i dread to think how the woman have it.
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