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“Not All Men”: Adult Industry Worker Reveals Top 3 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat
“Not All Men”: Adult Industry Worker Reveals Top 3 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat
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“Not All Men”: Adult Industry Worker Reveals Top 3 Reasons Why Married Men Cheat

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There are three reasons why married men cheat on their wives to spend the night with a sex worker, according to Samantha X, a woman dubbed “Australia’s most expensive escort.”

Samantha was a journalist for national magazines before she left her “normal life” to become an escort in her late 30s, as she shared withDaily Mail Australia

Highlights
  • A former adult industry worker revealed the top three reasons why men cheat on their partners.
  • Men feel too scared to show vulnerability at home and opt for escorts instead.
  • Missed foreplay is another reason men turn to escorts, not just for physicality.

“Not the decision most people make when looking for a change, but it suited me, for many complex reasons that even I struggle to understand.”

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    An adult industry worker revealed that there are three main reasons why married men cheat on their spouses

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    The former escort went on to write two books about her experience as a sex worker and founded her own escort agency “for mature women.”

    “I have hung up the heels recently, but I spent a decade in the adult industry. I charged a lot of money for my time and was dubbed Australia’s most expensive escort (as well as a few other things),” she wrote.

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    During her time as an escort, Samantha said she shared a bed with a diverse range of men—single, widowed, divorced, young, old, and married.

    Image credits: Amanda Goff

    “And the number one reason why men saw escorts? Connection. That’s right, connection,” theadult industry worker wrote.

    “The service that was requested most was the girlfriend experience – and that meant listening, supporting, and guiding.”

    Most of Samantha’s clients said they weren’t comfortable showing vulnerability at home

    Samantha said most men called her because they were looking for someone to talk to and felt insecure about asking for help at home.

    “They tell me they’re too scared to be vulnerable at home, and instead feel they need to be the ‘strong one.’ They worry they would be causing you undue stress if they whinged about their issues.”

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    When Samantha asked them why they saw an escort instead of a counselor, the men allegedly responded, “I don’t want to be judged.”

    Image credits: Amanda Goff

    The second reason on the list that men called her was because they missed foreplay. 

    “Men secretly want to spend hours in bed with you but say they got sick of being rejected. Theymiss foreplay (pleasuring you, not the other way round) and they don’t always want it all to be over before you can say ‘pass me the TV controls, MAFS is on.'”

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    Another reason married men call escorts is to seek revenge afterbeing cheated on by their wives. 

    Image credits: Amanda Goff

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    “One married man in his late 50s, spent two hours sitting on the bed fully dressed reeling about his wife who had just gone off with her personal trainer. Another man was shell-shocked after his wife walked out on him and theirkids.

    “While a wife may turn a blind eye to her husband’s slip up, men won’t. Their ego won’t allow it.”

    Image credits: Amanda Goff

    For a bonus fourth reason, Samantha stressed thatmarried men who request the services of a sex worker are not necessarily planning to leave their wives for another woman. It also doesn’t mean they don’t love their partners, the high-profile escort said.

    Image credits: Amanda Goff

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    “They don’t want to leave you for another woman, and they most certainly don’t want to run off with an escort. Men are like puppies that chew your shoes, they just can’t help themselves.”

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    Marina Urman

    Entertainment News Writer

    With a degree in social science and a love for culture, I approach entertainment journalism at Bored Panda with a research-driven mindset. I write about celebrity news, Hollywood highlights, and viral stories that spark curiosity worldwide. My work has reached millions of readers and is recognized for balancing accuracy with an engaging voice. I believe that pop culture isn’t just entertainment, it reflects the social conversations shaping our time.

    What do you think ?
    Sergio Bicerra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dude... a therapist is cheaper than an escort, deal with your sh*t.

    Surly Scot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So...she's saying most of the men she met cheated because they have an inability to communicate with their partners and take responsibility for their side of the relationship by going into therapy or dealing with their relationship issues? Also that "Men are like puppies chewing your shoes, they can't help it" seems like it's giving the guys a free pass to behave this way because this is just how they're wired? Make up your mind, either they're willfully choosing to cheat because they're immature at relationships, or they're just permanent victims of biology.

    tw 72
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “The service that was requested most was the girlfriend experience – and that meant listening, supporting, and guiding.” and “Men secretly want to spend hours in bed with you ..." ~~~~ I probably misinterpreted this whole thing -- but sometimes real life gets in the way. It is not easy when there are kids to be bathed, dishes and laundry to be done, groceries to buy, dinner to make, and everyone is also plain old exhausted from working all day.

    Jill Babb
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe I'm wrong, but it just seems like more justification for women to change their behavior to try to keep a man happy! 🙄 It especially irked me about men cheating because they miss foreplay! You want to give your woman pleasure, try doing your fair share with the house and the kids and then maybe she won't be so darn tired! Also, some women don't want a ton of foreplay! Women are always told to tell men what we like and want in bed, but if we do and they don't like it, it's an excuse to go cheat?! If you like foreplay and she doesn't, talk to her, not a hooker. If she tells you to do xyz, then actually do xyz instead of abc and then complaining you don't get "rewarded"!

    John Wesley
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have said this before, the best way to spy on a cheating spouse is to hire a professional spy. Reach out to Peter, a professional hacker who can spy on all social media and devices. Peterthespylord on gmail

    Sergio Bicerra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dude... a therapist is cheaper than an escort, deal with your sh*t.

    Surly Scot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So...she's saying most of the men she met cheated because they have an inability to communicate with their partners and take responsibility for their side of the relationship by going into therapy or dealing with their relationship issues? Also that "Men are like puppies chewing your shoes, they can't help it" seems like it's giving the guys a free pass to behave this way because this is just how they're wired? Make up your mind, either they're willfully choosing to cheat because they're immature at relationships, or they're just permanent victims of biology.

    tw 72
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “The service that was requested most was the girlfriend experience – and that meant listening, supporting, and guiding.” and “Men secretly want to spend hours in bed with you ..." ~~~~ I probably misinterpreted this whole thing -- but sometimes real life gets in the way. It is not easy when there are kids to be bathed, dishes and laundry to be done, groceries to buy, dinner to make, and everyone is also plain old exhausted from working all day.

    Jill Babb
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe I'm wrong, but it just seems like more justification for women to change their behavior to try to keep a man happy! 🙄 It especially irked me about men cheating because they miss foreplay! You want to give your woman pleasure, try doing your fair share with the house and the kids and then maybe she won't be so darn tired! Also, some women don't want a ton of foreplay! Women are always told to tell men what we like and want in bed, but if we do and they don't like it, it's an excuse to go cheat?! If you like foreplay and she doesn't, talk to her, not a hooker. If she tells you to do xyz, then actually do xyz instead of abc and then complaining you don't get "rewarded"!

    John Wesley
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have said this before, the best way to spy on a cheating spouse is to hire a professional spy. Reach out to Peter, a professional hacker who can spy on all social media and devices. Peterthespylord on gmail

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