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People Are Sharing Their Bad Date Stories, Here Are 30 That Might Make You Cringe
Blurting out something negative or insulting during a date can be a major faux pas and can cause significant damage to your potential relationship. But not everyone can avoid it.
So when Reddit user Batmanstitty posted a question on the platform a few days ago, asking everyone "what's the worst thing a person has said to you while on a date?", many came forward with pretty memorable and ridiculous statements.
No wonder 67% of Americans who are on the market say their romantic endeavors aren't going well!
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It was all going really well until she saw a group of people with various disabilities when we were going for a walk and proceeded to tell me how, while she had nothing against the disabled, they made her physically ill because of how "messed up" they are and she wished there were limits on how much they could be out in public.
I told her, as a person with an invisible disability of my own, that she made.my skin crawl and that she should be limited on how much she can be in public.
There was obviously no second date.
We were about the same height and he said I could never wear heels around him. Little did he know, I can do what the f**k I want.
We managed to get in touch with Batmanstitty and they agreed to have a little chat with us.
"I have thought about this question before," the Redditor told Bored Panda about the origins of their post. "[I was] wondering if people have had bad experiences like myself while dating, and it definitely blew my mind to see the response I got from everybody."
"The stories are honestly insane to read and to know people actually dealt with weird, scary, and mind-blowing dates," they added.
After ordering a really expensive meal and drink, after I had offered to buy dinner. Plate: 50 dollars. Drink: 25. Like holy s**t. I will admit I went with it until:
“I want to date someone like you but not you, I was going to tell you earlier but I was hungry” then she went and made plans with another dude for after our meal.
I went to the bathroom and then snuck out when our food was brought. I dunno how she paid for that because I ordered something equally as expensive.
I know you cant force attraction, but f**k you b***h.
I blocked her as I left.
“If we do this long term, I’m gonna call the shots, you won’t work, you’ll stay home and raise the kids, you won’t be allowed to leave the house and only have friends over that I approve of, you’ll have life 360 on your phone with me being the only one to access it, and we’ll sell your car too so you have money to buy the heels I want you to wear and the makeup you’ll wear everyday” so I took a hard pass
After going through the replies, the Redditor noticed a trend that many stories were by people who dabble in online dating, using apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc.
That might be due to the way people look at these services. A whopping 43% of men say they are using the apps to casually date (while 42% are downloading them to find a long-term partner).
Alternatively, 48% of women say they are using dating apps to find long-term partners and 37% use them to date casually.
“You know that cancer is a hoax perpetuated by big pharma and the government preying on the uneducated, right!?!?” He says to me, a cancer survivor who’s life was f*****g derailed by cancer…
‘You don’t want any more kids? Don’t worry, I’ll change your mind and you’ll enjoy carrying my child.’
There was no second date and I ended up having to block him everywhere.
Women are also more likely to see risk – both physical and emotional – when it comes to dating; when those who say dating has become harder for most people in the last 10 years were asked to describe in their own words why they think this is the case, women are twice as likely as men to cite increased risk.
For their part, men are more likely than women to say technology is a reason dating has gotten harder. Overall, 47% of Americans say dating is now harder than it was 10 years ago, and this thread illustrates it pretty well.
"What are you, a F****t?"
Because I declined to sleep with her on the first date... I don't sleep around, it's not for me. All power to you if that's something you enjoy, but don't pressure someone into it by questioning their sexual orientation. I also don't find it particularly attractive to be calling people slurs because you didn't get your way.
Calling someone gay because they do not want to sleep with you is the definition of CRINGE. How pathetic.
"I was reading about plus size models today. What do you think about plus size models considering you're a bigger girl?"
I am 5'4" and 125 lbs. He was not being sarcastic. Dude had the most warped sense of body image I've ever encountered. Joke's on him though because his head was shaped like a lightbulb.
“Stop pulling away when I try to kiss you because people are looking and it makes me seem rapey”
wistfully after 2 wines... "God, you are so amazing, such a shame you look like that."
"So, aren't you going to invite me to your place? I bought you lunch. You kind of owe me." from a guy I met ONCE and had breath so bad I am surprised it didn't melt the fork.
First date, I order a mocktail and he says, “I’m not going to pay for your drinks unless there’s alcohol in them.”
- asked me the worst crime I’d commit if I would get away with it. I said steal a few million from a bank. They said they’d “dahmer” someone
"I don't mind that you're... you know." *waves hand vaguely at my body*
We had a fun night having a personal date and then we pull up to his house for his birthday party, where I’m about to meet his family for the first time. He turns to me and says, “Oh btw my parents don’t like Mexicans.”
I am Mexican.
It wasn't what was said, but what was not said, because her face was buried in her phone screen the whole evening. She was shocked when I told her that we would not be going out again.
You should’ve told her via text what an idiot she was while she was sitting right there in front of you!😂
Not exactly a date, but at a dance when I was a teenager I sat down for a breather after I'd been dancing for a long time. Right then a slow song started and a couple girls came up, one of them introduced me to her friend and asked me to dance with her because nobody had asked her to dance yet. I felt really bad for her and said heck yeah, everybody deserves to dance. She spent the whole time talking about how I'm such a piece of garbage for sitting down when there are girls like her who haven't been asked to dance. I kept trying to change the subject, she just ignored me and kept trash talking me, so I walked away mid-dance.
If they didn't come to dance but trash-talk instead, they don't belong on the floor...
He asked me how frequently I would want sex if I were in my ideal relationship. I said 2-3x a week. He told me that means I'm a sex addict and that sex more often than once a month isn't really required for intimacy or connection between partners.
(Hey, if that's his level of drive, cool.... but no need to shame someone for having a higher drive than yours.)
This is a person who is clearly asexual - which is fine. There are lots of people for whom sex is a physical invasive turn off but only want love ave companionship. Just identify that in your dating profile and find like- minded people.
Her phone rang. She answered it. I expected it was a friend calling to see if she wanted to be saved.
She got concerned and hung up and said “that was my ex. He got arrested. Can you bring me to the police station?”
So I did. I even helped them fill out some paperwork so he could get released. I took them to his car and she looked at me. I laughed and said “The date was over hours ago. Go” and she got out and they drove away.
Why would this be terrible? My ex is the father of my children, he doesn't have family living close. (Not that I'd expect him to ever be arrested). Also, is it wrong to be on friendly terms with your ex? I'm a bit confused why her helping out her ex would be bad?
I don’t think OP thinks it’s a bad thing! He went along with it, after all. I think the point is that she ended up leaving with the ex, so it’s safe to assume there wasn’t a second date. Lol
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After explaining the call, which she really didn't have to go into detail, she should have excused herself and got an UBER.
You can bring someone as much as you can take, such as "bring a coat" or person.
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Your job is to sit there and look pretty.
(After I shared an opinion about something)
On a date with my wife, 12 years in. "I don't think I love you anymore".
Out of the blue.
“You know, you’d be really pretty if you didn’t have that whole jew nose thing going on. Have you thought about getting it fixed?” This was after the movie and make-out. I’m ashamed to say that 17 yr old me didn’t tell him to f**k off like I should’ve. It just gave me an insecurity about my nose.
I didn't realize Jews had a specific nose. LMAO. Every person in my family has a different-looking nose. LMAO
"A lot of people think my brother is gay. But he's not. I know. I've seen his penis a few times. And he's not gay. His penis doesn't look gay. I mean, he got hard."
1. I paraphrased.
2. The girl saying it was 18 and her brother was 25ish.
3. Mega-religious family.
He got angry when I said I did not want to go further than kissing and denied him putting his hand under my shirt. His argument: "I have a relationship with your whole body! Not just your head!"
First date from a dating app. I could tell he was maybe a touch too desperate based on the texts we exchanged. However, he was also whip smart and almost finished with grad school, so I still agreed to go out. We didn’t have a spark, which I noticed immediately. On the other hand, he was oblivious to it. No big deal. Then, he suggests a walk after dinner. I agree like an idiot. On that walk he proceeds to tell me that his ex girlfriend cheated on him, that he thinks he’ll always love her, even though she cheated on him with his best friend, and she gave him an STD. And the worst thing I ever heard on a date was, “But don’t worry- it’s one of the ones that clears up on its own." NOPE
I told him I would like to just pay for myself and he pay for himself so I don't feel uncomfortable ordering what I want. Fine. He dislikes every option we had to eat out except the one place I don't like. Whatever, I'll deal with it. We go, he orders seafood and several cups of wine. The check comes eventually and he stares at it and says "so you're paying? I didn't bring my wallet." I was instantly pissed off. On the way back to his house (I parked my car there and then we carpooled together to the restaurant) he stops at a Arby's and asks if I want anything and I said no then proceeds to bust out his fkn wallet and pay for his meal. Heated. Then he blew up my phone when I didn't want to go on another date and didn't respond back with "well, it's your loss"
EDIT:I'd like to change my answer. It was 10 years ago, I was extremely drunk and me and this date I had a were playing a drinking game in a group of my friends and roommate. He said "never have I ever molested my sister" then took a drink. My roommate physically threw him out of our apartment and I passed out on my couch.
After what I thought was a good date, we went for a couple of drinks, at the end of the night she told me "wow you really are a great guy, I just wish u were good looking"
"Wow, my boyfriend would love this place!"
Edit: This was about 25 years ago. I'm very happily married (obviously to a different woman) and things are awesome. But to all you folks getting stuck with bad dates, I see you and I wish you the best.
Sounds like a rather immature way of telling you that she wasn't into you.
"you're ugly and your art sucks"
Got me both from the outside and inside..
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What was supposed to be a first date, she was a no-show. I waited outside the restaurant for over an hour like a sucker. Shortly after I left, I got an email from her telling me how much fun she had watching me from the parking lot, and how funny it was.
Sitting in a car for an hour, watching someone standing around? That's her idea of fun? She can't have had more than 2 brain cells to be entertained by that. But at least you dodged a bullet there (even if it sucked doing so). Hope the next date was with a great person.
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Went on one blind date. Were to meet at one spot at the park, I'm wearing the striped shirt, he's wearing a red shirt. We see each other form about 25 ft, lock eyes, we both shake ours heads and we both walk away.
There was a guy that I was kinda sorta flirty with, and vice versa, though we hadn't even kissed yet. One of the weirdest things he did was when we were hanging out once he asked me if he could use my chapstick, which I had left on the table. Before I could answer, yes or no, he takes it and rubs it all over his lips-- and is like 'thanks a bunch, my lips were so dry'. I was like 'Uh, oh you can keep it,' and he's like 'no it's fine, have it back.' Well, readers, he had a massive cold sore on his lip at the time. As soon as he left, the chapstick went straight in the trash, haha. I get them myself so I wasn't judging him for that but to forcefully use my chapstick during an active infection was super weird. Who does that? lol. My current boyf knew him and said he thinks it was a weird power play-- but all it did was turn me way off. It kinda makes me laugh to think back on though.
I wouldn't have wanted it back anyway. It grosses me out when people share drinks and chapstick with each other, who knows if they are getting sick or something? (I will let my immediate family try a sip of my drinks, but mostly to avoid offending them. Inside I still cringe a little, and at least wipe off the straw as of the germs aren't still there 😅)
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This is why you meet in a public place and drive yourself. When your date starts waving those red flags you can make your escape before they waste any more of your time.
Damn. I'm so glad my last first date was over 10 years ago. One of my worst dates was not really a date, but he came to where I was working (my 2nd job) as a waitress and proceeded to get drunk, belligerent and racist. Then tells me that my job was s**t and no woman he'd date would work as a waitress. That was my 2nd damn job. He was exhausting.
To be honest, if he started spouting racist nonsense, it wasn’t the drink that made him racist. And you’re being generous if you assume he wouldn’t have acted racist eventually even if he’d stayed sober.
Load More Replies... 'Do you still menstruate?' About ten minutes after he arrived an hour late, then spent the rest of the evening putting all eight hands up my skirt. Last date I went on. Sadly the menopause removes your ability to spend the evening admiring a man who's showing off because there are no eggs left to fertilise.
Thought I'd add another. Dated a pretend Vietnam vet. He was a cop and liked his machismo. Would shudder when he heard a helicopter, still not a vet. Called me one morning, come over I've got a surprise! So I do. He's got a warm bath run wants me to get in. WHAT? I gave you crabs. This will kill them. I got in. I got out. I ran away.
What was supposed to be a first date, she was a no-show. I waited outside the restaurant for over an hour like a sucker. Shortly after I left, I got an email from her telling me how much fun she had watching me from the parking lot, and how funny it was.
Sitting in a car for an hour, watching someone standing around? That's her idea of fun? She can't have had more than 2 brain cells to be entertained by that. But at least you dodged a bullet there (even if it sucked doing so). Hope the next date was with a great person.
Load More Replies... Went on one blind date. Were to meet at one spot at the park, I'm wearing the striped shirt, he's wearing a red shirt. We see each other form about 25 ft, lock eyes, we both shake ours heads and we both walk away.
There was a guy that I was kinda sorta flirty with, and vice versa, though we hadn't even kissed yet. One of the weirdest things he did was when we were hanging out once he asked me if he could use my chapstick, which I had left on the table. Before I could answer, yes or no, he takes it and rubs it all over his lips-- and is like 'thanks a bunch, my lips were so dry'. I was like 'Uh, oh you can keep it,' and he's like 'no it's fine, have it back.' Well, readers, he had a massive cold sore on his lip at the time. As soon as he left, the chapstick went straight in the trash, haha. I get them myself so I wasn't judging him for that but to forcefully use my chapstick during an active infection was super weird. Who does that? lol. My current boyf knew him and said he thinks it was a weird power play-- but all it did was turn me way off. It kinda makes me laugh to think back on though.
I wouldn't have wanted it back anyway. It grosses me out when people share drinks and chapstick with each other, who knows if they are getting sick or something? (I will let my immediate family try a sip of my drinks, but mostly to avoid offending them. Inside I still cringe a little, and at least wipe off the straw as of the germs aren't still there 😅)
Load More Replies... This is why you meet in a public place and drive yourself. When your date starts waving those red flags you can make your escape before they waste any more of your time.
Damn. I'm so glad my last first date was over 10 years ago. One of my worst dates was not really a date, but he came to where I was working (my 2nd job) as a waitress and proceeded to get drunk, belligerent and racist. Then tells me that my job was s**t and no woman he'd date would work as a waitress. That was my 2nd damn job. He was exhausting.
To be honest, if he started spouting racist nonsense, it wasn’t the drink that made him racist. And you’re being generous if you assume he wouldn’t have acted racist eventually even if he’d stayed sober.
Load More Replies... 'Do you still menstruate?' About ten minutes after he arrived an hour late, then spent the rest of the evening putting all eight hands up my skirt. Last date I went on. Sadly the menopause removes your ability to spend the evening admiring a man who's showing off because there are no eggs left to fertilise.
Thought I'd add another. Dated a pretend Vietnam vet. He was a cop and liked his machismo. Would shudder when he heard a helicopter, still not a vet. Called me one morning, come over I've got a surprise! So I do. He's got a warm bath run wants me to get in. WHAT? I gave you crabs. This will kill them. I got in. I got out. I ran away.
