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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers
I hope that everyone agrees that not vaccinating your child is an ill way of parenting. Other parenting trends like letting kids do whatever they want and run amok like there’s no tomorrow are also questionable. But the subject matter is delicate, since we also like to believe that for the most part, parents know what’s best for their kids. Or do they?
Well, these two threads from Ask Reddit will shed some light on common parenting styles that are not necessarily healthy. In fact, people claim they’re everything but. “What is the worst parenting trend to date?” someone asked a while ago, and just recently a similar question popped up: "What parenting 'trend' do you strongly disagree with?"
Below we selected some thought-provoking arguments people shared in response to the questions. Also, let us know what parenting trend you don’t agree with in the comments below!
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Y'all need to cut this anti-vaccination s**t out like right now. Vaccines save lives.
This deserves it's place on top of the list. With the other things you'll have rude and uneducated kids that become entitled adults, but at least they get to become adults.
There are as many parenting styles as there are parents, and there’s no universal recipe on how to raise your children. But because the current generation faces unprecedented challenges, it also requires tact and special behavior from parents to be able to keep up with the changing times and the increased demands of parenting and child-rearing.
when ppl posts videos online of them punishing their kids. ex: “dad shaves girls head for txting boyfriend.” what in the sick hell kinda sh*t is that? and nobody seems to have a problem with that or thinks about how incredibly traumatic it’s going to be for that child. and the parents who do this literally make me sick. who is that for even? what are you trying to prove by humiliating your child in front of possibly thousands of ppl or more. ppl like this deserve to have their kids taken away. sorry not sorry.
Not teaching manners with other people's pets. You want to pat my dog you f**king ASK, then you introduce yourself to her (back of your hand to sniff), THEN you may pat her. DO NOT harass her. My dog is a sweetheart but she is an animal and she is at exactly the right height to bite your little darlings face off and then its my fault and my dog dies because you couldnt teach your brat some manners.
This should be so much higher. I have kids. I have dogs. One of my dogs LOVES kids. Loves being ridden like a horse (120lb german shepherd) and having small children climbing all over him. The other one is terrified of kids, luckily he has a very mean bark and isn't confrontational. He puffs himself up, barks as loud as he can and retreats backwards while barking. It's enough to scare them off. It's the parents not the kids or my dog. *EDIT* hey look it's number 2 now 😁
I totally agree, but I would also like the opposite to be true: just because your dog is friendly, it doesn't mean that I want it near me. Just because it's small it doesn't mean that you can let it run towards me yapping, or even jump on me.
I was thinking the same thing. It definitely goes both ways. Children need to be taught not to approach an animal, and dog owners need to realize not everyone wants your animal all over them. I don't know how many times I'm at a park and a dog jumps up on me all wet and dirty and the owner yells "don't worry they love people!" as if that is the part I'm concerned about, whether they love people...
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I taught my daughter from the time she was very little that she needs to ask the owner, "Is this a working dog, or a petting dog?" If the answer is a petting dog, still ask, "Then may I pet him?"
My dog is tiny. She is still a working dog. Good on you for "training" your kids, LOL.
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My son loves dogs I love dogs so not surprised and when he was about one every time he would see a dog he would just book it and I would practically tackle him pause like three feet from the dog politely ask the owner is it okay if he says hi and then show him the correct way to approach a dog I actually trained him my son to sit so when he saw a dog he wanted to pet he would sit on the ground and hold his hand out. You have to actually parent your children.
I think I love you. Responsible parent and the visual of you tackling the fastest land animal 3 feet away from it's fluffy target had me howling.
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Totally, totally agree. I hate to see a cat dragged around by a two year old,a nice patient old cat, but when the kids starts grabs you get hissy smack, and suddenly I have a terrible animal, who needs to be put down! Strangely all of my children, adults now, they grew up being taught animals have feelings. I caught my oldest teaching their youngest about kitties using her basically bomb proof cat. " Ok Luke, you see here on Freya's head between her ears? Good place to scritch. Rub her back slowly (no static) no pulling tails! Scritch under the chin. No tummies." And she was guiding his hand carefully. Because even the lovely Freya will bite if tickled on the tummy.
I ended up adopting a cat from the vet clinic where I used to work because the cat happened to scratch a little kid while scrambling to get away from him. No blood, just crying. She ended up being a great cat for me and my family for many years.
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We have really stressed this with our kids and they are very careful around other people’s dogs. I feel so much safer knowing they understand how important it is to respect another creature.
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I absolutely loathe the "cute" videos of babies and toddlers manhandling cats and dogs. The children may be laughing and cooing, but the animal's body language shows that they are at their last limit.
So so bad. Makes me sick to watch those. *shudder* It's a catastrophe waiting to happen
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Keep raising this Please! I raise German Shepherds and 99 percent of them love kids that THEY KNOW to crawl all over them. The other 1 percent are raised and trained as Guard dogs and my wife and I are the ones who know the difference.
First love of my life was a German Shepard/collie mix and he was my best friend, nanny and protector. He was my aunts dog and I didn't see him everyday but when i did he never left my side. There are so many pics of me napping on and snuggling him as a toddler.
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My best buddy, Rocky Balboa ,(boxer/chihuahua...don't ask, don't know...) is a street rescue. Very loving and protective. He's becoming socialized at his own pace, but he is quite leery of people who come right up on him, especially small, quick children. I usually deny "petting requests, but yesterday, our new downstairs neighbor met him and did everything right! He allowed her to pet him followed by a wag of the tail and hand kisses!! Such a good doggo and a smart, friendly neighbor!
Omg, do you have a picture?? I also have a weird mix, a shih tzu/labrador
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Manners towards pets are important. I was at the vet's office a while ago, and a kid was trying to pet someone's dog without asking or letting the dog sniff their hand. The kid got snapped at, and left the dog alone. The parent scolded the dog's owner for not disciplining the dog, but it's not the dog's fault.
A friend told me a story once from a vacation in France. Her dog wasn't unproblematic and would sometimes bite people who wanted to touch him but looked really cute. So one day they were on a bench and a kid ran up to them and without even asking first, reached for the dog under the bench. She screamed at the kid "no touching!" (in French) and the kid didn't stop and SNAP. Bite in the hand. Child screams and parents get over and scold the kid because the kid should have not done that and "see? This is what happens if you don't listen!". Then, they apologized to my friend. She was very sorry for the kid and felt bad, but was of course relieved the parents didn't blame her.
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Of course parents need to teach their kids to give pets space and respect. My child isn't allowed near strangers animals. That being said, kids are not brats anymore then your dog is a mutt or a fleabag. Children learn all their behaviors from their parents and the surrounding world. It's not their fault if they were not properly educated on how to behave with dogs, anymore then it's your dogs fault for acting on instincts. Dog owners are just as culpable as parents with children. I can't tell you how many times I have taken my child to a playground only for someone to bring their poorly trained dog and LET THEM OFF LEASH. What's worse, is twice now they brought a dog to the playground THAT DOESN'T LIKE CHILDREN. Then maybe go to the dog park Karen, this is a jungle gym covered in hyper crazy kids!
My 10 year old son was taught this from an early age he loves animals but knows they’re not all friendly and some r shy and scared so ask before u touch
I feel like owners shouldn't be forced to put down their animals at all.
never understood why is it considered fair to kill dogs because they bite like its just the dog trying to defend itself, charges and dog training would be fair but killing??? thats crazy
Depends on whether the bite was provoked or not. If it was provoked, the dog is fine and needn't be euthanized. Unprovoked bites are more dangerous to the dog's life. One unprovoked bite is permitted but two mean death for the dog.
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(i usually offer up my knuckles but to reach their own) Also!! KEEP YOUR DAMN DOGS ON A LEASH!!!
It always annoys me sooooo frikn much when I see a little kid hurting a dog by pulling on its ears, tail, etc. because they don't know better, but then the parents just let them do that!
Now that is a hard ask. Many adults are even more ignorant than children. I can protect my dogs from ignorant children. It is the ignorant adults who barge in with "All dogs love me!" and then scream "Dangerous dog!" :-( PS become a "Dangerous Dog Owner\Handler for your dogs' sakes
THIS. It amazes me the amount of parents that let their children run up to my Lab/Pit mix and pet him. Yes, he adores children, but you nor your child know that. 🙄
Wow.. Pet owners like this poster need to calm TF down and recognize there is a serious responsibility to prevent harm when owning an animal that can bite a "face off." I can totally respect having a big dog, but yes, if that dog does something horrific then there will be consequences. Kids petting, chasing, and teasing a dog is harmless compared to biting.
No. Take responsibility for your crotch goblins. I did not ask for them to approach me. Dog or no dog. Some people just don't like kids in general and there is nothing wrong with that.
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I can't remember how many times I told children around my apartment years ago, don't touch my dog...he was mostly a good boy and even-tempered but he didn't like being crowded and he hated people touching his head...he finally bit a little boy (not hard, didn't even break the skin) and the kid's mother came marching down the hill, demanding to be compensated because my dog was "vicious."
I've been bitten so often in my life. First time I was maybe 6 or 7 and it was totally my own fault and I felt soooo bad and didn't want to show anyone (i was bleeding) because I was afraid the dog would be punished. Second time was when I accidentally knelt on the dog's tail (whoops!) and twice for grabbing in between two fighting dogs to pull them apart and twice by my own dog, who had a very short fuse and some former owner had taught him that growling was bad so he never growled and just skipped the stage of warning and bit. Loved that old bastard, but he was NOT child-safe. So I'm really glad I don't have any kids. My now-dog loves kids and so I'm a lot more relaxed. (But never completely because it's a dog, not a toy)
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Goes both ways. When my daughter was a newborn a lady with a dog walked up to us in a park. "Would she like to pet the doggy?" B*tch I don't know you from Adam's housecat. Get that thing away from my child!!
Our beloved girl, ( now passed), was harassed by a neighbour’s out of control 3 year old who was pulling my girl’s tail, grabbing her face/body etc repeatedly. I asked her daughter to stop, explaining that she was being too rough. The mother did nothing. I fumed. Finally she had enough, arching her head to her tail and then unsnapping her body like a well aimed giant elastic to send the 3 year old flying!!! She was SUCH a brilliant girl! The funniest thing? It worked! The child was sort of dazed that any form of parental correcting had occurred, she got up and went silently to stand beside her mother. Inwardly I applauded my girl. RIP, you were such a huge part of my heart and life and when you died the world went from colour to black and white.
I am training my service dog; & I would greatly appreciate it if you would ask me if you can pet her, before allowing your “little angels” to come running up to us. Sophie is a parti-colored standard poodle, so I know it’s difficult for them; but she is trained to focus only on me & standard poodles can bite very hard. So far we have been extremely lucky; but…PLEASE ask any owner before you pet anyone’s dog—for everyone’s sake!
i don't have a dog, but i do have a horse and it's really similar in the sense of kids/people acting entitled to petting your pet. if my horse decides it's appropriate to nip your darling's precious dainty fingertips because they decide to be an entitled a*****e and completely ignore the sign on his stall that he bites, then i'm not going to stop him and your poor little baby can f*****g deal with it. ANIMALS. ARE. NOT. TOYS.
Yes, the owner seems to be responisble for the dogs actions no matter what, but if you push your hand in my face, I'd try to bite it too
My dogs are trained to sit at the edge of the pathway when other walkers or bikers approach. They are both good dogs but like many animals don’t like to be approached when on lead (it has to do with them feeling unable to escape). When kids want to pet them, we always say that they are being trained but would love it if the kids would wave to them. We have a number of lovely photos of small children waving madly at the dogs while the dogs smile and wag their tails.
My grandpa had a German Shepherd. That dog put up with so much from us kids. We rode on him, pulled hair and ears, dressed him up, put his fur in curlers, everything. Thunder loved us.
As long as you know that it's not the norm and that other dogs might not be so indulgent, that's alright.
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Yes! I have a very sweet pit/lab mix, but I cringe every time a child runs up and grabs her face and puts their nose to hers. Please teach them not to do that! My girl is sweet, but strong, and very protective of my grandkids, and I’m terrified she’s going to bite someone in the face.
Yes. Must teach your kids. My dumb ass will go up to any dog but if I get hurt I know it's my own damn fault and would never blame the dog; they are animals first and pets second
Parents should teach their kids if they don't know the dog don't attempt to pet it. Ask the dog parent for permission & he/she will guide you through steps as stated above. Al in all it's called having respect for the dog & it's owner
Brave. My small dog is a service dog and I hold her and still kids and even adults just reach out to pet her. Which she doesn't like. I'm tempted to bite them myself.
Here in the Netherlands we don't have a bite=kill rule, and I gotta tell ya, people behave a lot better around dogs here, but then, they always did.... Sorry dude, but that's murica for ya
I was bitten when a child of I think 7 years. I have later realised, that it was in part my fault, but I knew nothing about dogs, so I had no idea how to behave. How could i? I blame the owner mostly because instead of trying to comfort me she but a leash on the dog and raced away leaving a crying bleeding child behind all alone.
ill always remember my little buddy at 3yo, asking someone at the train station 'excuse me, can i please talk to your dog?' as a little french bulldog puppy was fair climbing his leg in an attempt to give him kisses! poor kid was trying so hard not to pet the dog because he knew he had to ask first!
I have three dogs two of which are bully breeds but omg so f***ing sweet the third one i swear try and her without me catching ya
I love the old joke, does your dog bite? Why no my dog doesn't bite. Then without asking the OP pets the dog with me without asking permission. LThen yelling at me, you said your dog doesn't bite. My dog doesn't bite. This isn't my dog!
So much this. I had a dog that was a real sweetheart, but I'd adopted from a very abusive background, and he was anxious and *very* protective of me. He was patient with most kids, and would retreat to me rather than scare them. BUT, one kid that lived next door would always rush up to him trying to climb on him, was very aggressive, and would chase him when he came to me to hide. One day I was talking to the parents and despite me telling them to call him back (he was chasing my dog again) they laughed it off with "kids will be kids" bs and my dog bit him. Not hard, didn't draw blood, and he could easily have really hurt him if he wanted to, but it was a warning nip on his jacket while growling. The f*ing AH parents called the police and demanded MY dog be PUT DOWN because they refused to control their kid. [I moved. With my dog.]
Yeah my dog is an anxious whippet cross, people always try to pat him but he barks and then I'm glared at like I'm a bad mother. I just wish ppl would ask sometimes. This exact thing happened today 😪
For sure. I had an Umbrella Cockatoo and people, all kids, just come up and pat him. Great way to get bit.
YES YES YES YESYESYES!!!! As a dogmom I can't agree more to this! I have a pittie that everybody is so damn worried about, but she is the sweetest, most loving dog, who happens to be a social butterfly- she adores people! That does NOT mean it's ok for kiddos to run at her, run into her, poke her in the eyes, pull on her ears or tail or anything else, or try to sit or stand on her. Yes, she is 80lbs of love but she's not furniture,she feels pain and if someone hurts her, she might nip out of reflex. Because she's a pittie, there would be a whole dang newscrew and special about her "mauling" a child so YES, kids need to learn manners very early on please! No hugs, ask first, intro first, no poking or pulling, and no trying to ride or step on dogs. Simple rules!
2 kids, no animals. Can‘t explain why I do it, but I teach this to my kids. Maybe because I‘m one of those who does not allow anyone to hug and kiss my kids without their permission too. Kids and animals deserve respect too.
Ppl who let their children tease, mistreat or disrespect an animal need to be charged with animal cruelty, just as if they themselves had done the act.
That's what I taught mine also kids need to learn that dogs are not toys. Dogs have a right to say no and not play.
applies to all pets. my cat, the only person she ever hated so far, she would insist "oh the cat loved me!" cat hated her. everyone else gives her a chance to sniff and backs off if she gets mad, she loves them. even with us, I make her mad a lot ill be honest lol but I can tell when I'm going too far; she's annoyed when she growls most of the time, hell she growls when happy, but if she's like proper biting me (sometimes she bites as in holding me in her mouth, but cant help it that her teeth are sharp - im talking abt purposely clamping down) or hissing i stop and i apologize to her and give her treats then leave her alone. shes adorable but she is still an animal that deserves respect
People are stupid, I was just getting my sticker for my truck yesterday an a woman came up in my service dogs face an ask could she pet her an he’s a boy lol as she’s acting all cutie with him I’m telling her no so she gets mad an still stands in his face an I put my hand up as to say no since she doesn’t understand the no word I guess. Everyone was looking in the line like how stupid. Omg people an you just can’t put it into words. My dog acts better than most kids an people. The ignorance just amazes me.
This is so simple. I taught my niece. The kids are so excited but that doesn't translate to animals the same. Kids will follow the directions because they want to pet the doggie. It's a polite social lesson as well. I don't even have a dog. My niece is 10 and still follows these rules.
My sister is 4 years old and she is really sweet about this kind of thing
If your pet attacks that easily then he needs a new human you definitely should not be allowed to own a pet
It's important to teach your child safety around strange animals and to teach your animals manners around strange people. Though admittedly children are easier to teach in this respect because you can explain things to them.
I’m a kid and I always ask and introduce :/ are people really that stupid
Didn't get to upvote this but it seems obvious. Until I did summer vacation Bible school. We had one boy at nine grabbing his crotch and talking to older people like they were trash. I couldn't take it. I pulled him aside and told him it was rude and disgusting and disrespectful. He asked why I told him Didn't have that problem rest of week.
I told my son to not get in our dogs or any dogs face and stare it down, snag hair, pull ears etc. I sat and watched while my son almost got bit cause he did not listen to me. Last time he treated an animal like a lower form. Never did understand why people let their babies and toddlers treat their pets so horribly. Then post it. Sad
From a very young age I made my kids ask the owners if they could pet their dog before approaching them. I told them They had to ask permission. Not me not their dad. This shows respect and I have only had 2 people tell them no because their dogs didn’t like strangers. Keeps everyone safe and teaches my kids to always ask
If it doesn't belong to you, don't touch it. Period. Some animals are rescue pets & while a certain breed looks extra cute & is known for a sweet disposition, if it's a rescued pet, it may react differently than expected. Ask. The. Owner. First.
My kid wants to pet every dog she sees, but yes, she asks and goes real slow, she knows to chill
It’s not just children who aren’t educated. I want to have a neighbor come into my yard and run straight at a new rescue dog for pets. The dog was doing well, but she scared him and he nipped. Well duh. It was just getting used to the idea that he might be in a good safe place when a stranger comes running at him.
Had a large dog that was very obviously hostile towards strangers. You'd be surprised how many parents seem to have too many kids and encourage them to be eaten by the dog.
I ask animals for pets and don't push if they don't want pets. People i avoid at all cost
People without pets don't know or think sometimes. People have to be more aware when they visit a pet owner.
Then don't buy da.... dog!!!!! You'vd got a mouth than use it!!!! What World you do, if your dog did that your kid?
In fairness, some kids just don't listen. I had a landlord with toddlers who was very active in teaching them how to interact with my dog (who is scared of most kids), but that didn't prevent them from each, at least once, getting nipped for not listening to (or forgetting) what he taught them.
where i live schools have an program that teaches kids the right and wrong way to approach pets
I do exactly this... and teach my kid to the same. I would really appreciate if dog owners would reciprocate; not all people want to be greeted by being ran into, jumped on, or have their @ss sniffed. It's rude.
this is sooo true! My puppy is very sweet but he doesn't know his own size and hid favorite thing to do is knock people over(with love). If people just asked me i would be able to hold his collar/harness and watch him :))) I think it's crucial for my dog to have more human interaction (he's a rescue and hasn't met many people), and i'll probably always say yes, but some people might just have normal dogs and not want to deal with it.
EXACTLY. I have a dog who is scared of people, but incredibly cute. He will bite people, and we make sure he can't so even if the dogs super cute and cuddly looking, always ask
If the dog has the personality as this comment, no way in heck would i wanna go near that thing. Brat? Bite someones face off? Hope you walk your dog far away from kids, me and other dogs
... they probably never had such teaching themselves, so I wouldn't exactly blame kids for not having received such teaching either. I think it is rude to assume your kid can pet someone's pet without asking, but you'd have to teach them the introduction part.
YES! I’ve had issues with this a few times already. I’m kinda glad my dog is a barker, at least that scares some of the kids (and adults, she loves barking, people… not so much) away. Then of course the kid starts crying because of the scary dog, and then it’s my fault and I didn’t train her well and and and… Yeah, I know she has issues, that isn’t her fault though. Rough start in life before she came to me, unfortunately that happens. But hey, I’d rather they blame me than my dog, who is just trying to communicate in her way that she’d rather sniff around on her own speed than be pet by anyone she doesn’t yet fully trust.
A friend of mine had a dog who was uncomfortable with kids. He'd never bitten anyone but she made sure to never put him in a situation where that could happen. She had a BBQ and one family thought it would be appropriate to bring their obnoxious toddler and expect everyone else to parent it. Running back and forth on the deck the toddler kept getting closer and closer to the dog. My friend warned them several times that the kid might get bitten and they said "oh well, he has to learn". As in it was OK for the dog to bite the kid because then he'd learn his lesson. And then obnoxious toddler got too close and dog leaped up and snarled at him. Frankly the dog showed great control by not biting the kid's face off. Everyone stared daggers at the couple until they took their little hellion home. WTF???? They actually thought getting bitten would be a good idea to teach their toddler a lesson? Many people just shouldn't procreate!
Had a neighbor kid come to a birthday party and while I was busy he was sitting on the back of the couch (!) kicking my GS, who finally snapped at him - no contact, but golly his dad was sooo mad. At my dog.
Had a retriever for a while. She was an ex-shelter dog. Had a very pleasant young mom ask if her 4 year old daughter could pet her. 4 year old daughter was straight up told "not the face and DO NOT SCREAM". 4 year old went right for the face and SCREAMED. Mother admonished daughter, daughter cried and laughed, dog ran away and hid. Sometimes, children and dogs are REALLY unmixable.
My kids are growing up with my GSD girl. She is very sweet but does not allow anyone in the street to come near them. When she's not with them She loves to be petted. I also taughted them to ask for permission before petting other dogs it is very Simple you don't like when someone you don't know touches you so why should dogs be ok with it??
Uh. If your dog is dangerous, why is he around kids at all? And the dog is a "pet", why can't you PET your pet? If there is a dog loose in a house, you expect the animal to be docile. If not, lock the dog up while you have company. Don't walk a snappy dog. If you're at the vet, muzzle the dog or crate the dog if you don't want interaction. Sorry, bit this just seems obvious to me.
How many innocent children's faces/lives does it take for dog owners to realise their precious darling can be a killer.
If a parent isn't a dog lover and doesn't encounter dogs day to day they won't even consider teaching this to their children this. I'm a grown adult I would never touch an animal without asking, but this introducing yourself to an animal is news to me. Lastly, in my opinion it is just as problematic having so many untrained dogs in public places especially off leash.
Just 'cause you don't own a dog doesn't mean that you shouldn't teach your children basic etiquette for what to do if they're in an extremely common situation
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And if the "victim" didn't listen when the owner said "stay back, she's not good with strangers!" ? What if the"victim" decided,"hey, this dog is growing and snarling and the owner is telling me to stay back while trying to keep the dog that they just said is a new dog from getting at me, i can tooootally jump at the dog for a hug, right?"
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Uh... by your logic let kids run feral and absolve parents of all responsibility because kids can't act like adults? THAT'S WHAT THE PARENT IS FOR YOU NUMBSKULL. WAUW!
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When the child provokes the dog it isn't the dog's fault. This is an explanation of the legalities. Your kid touching a dog without permission the kid may get his face bitten off. Keep your kids away from my dog.
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What if the dog is in training? What if the dog was provoked?
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ALL dogs can potentially bite when they feel scared or cornered. It is up to the parents to teach their kids to ask before petting, and to quickly correct them if they try to run up to a strange dog. The potential harm isn't just in getting bit. Repeat encounters with a loud unrestrained child in their space can absolutely RUIN a dog's training and make them fearful and anxious in public.
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Maybe teach your child to not run up to a stranger's animal without asking????
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How in gods name are you allowed to be a parent?
Load More Replies...The coronavirus pandemic and political turmoil and war we see in Europe right now, as well as the inflation reaching sky highs all bring their own kind of uncertainty. For this reason, many parents are reevaluating the common parenting tactics previous generations took for granted.
Communicating trauma and being open about difficulties is one such new trend we see among parents. Another new style emerging is that more and more parents choose to provide their kids with experiences instead of material gifts. This is how you create memorable experiences and establish a better bond with your kid.
Not teaching basic manners and giving them a ridiculous sense of entitlement.
Yes! That kid is your diamond, great! He/she is a pain in my butt. I do not live your diamond.
Shielding children from the natural consequences of their actions. They don't learn from their mistakes and the consequence price tags are so much higher when they become adults.
How I was taught and how I taught my daughter. Do not be afraid from making mistakes, just make sure you learn from the experience in not repeating them.
I hate when parents get mad at me for telling off their kids. I work in hospitality and we have a bowl of mints at the bar with tongs to grab them out. One night these three kids, all under age 10 but old enough to know better, just started diving their hands into the bowl. I told them politely to use the tongs, then I told them off when they ignored my request. The parents got mad at me instead of their kids, even though their kids just made me throw out a whole bowl of mints. If you're incapable of disciplining your child properly, don't get upset when someone else does it for you.
YES. It takes a village to raise a child and parents should expect that village will need to reprimand your kid once in a while.
But no matter what new trends emerge in parenting, one very common flaw will probably outlive them all. And you guessed it… it’s spoiling kids. In fact, over half this survey of 1,125 parents with kids between 4 and 10 confessed that they spoil their children too much. Another 2 in 5 go even further, saying they’re sometimes “embarrassed by how selfish their child acts.”
Spoiled kids don’t get to know and feel what it is like to be grateful, as gratitude is not something that children acquire automatically. It needs to be nurtured, in an age-appropriate way, but the more they get used to getting their way easily, the harder it is to turn them around.
Parent of teens here! All of my kids have had a friend that stayed the night at our house because the friend missed curfew at home and wasn't allowed in the house. I don't get it. Punishing the kid for missing curfew is totally acceptable. But not letting them in their own house in the middle of the night? What good can possibly come from that? My own kids rarely missed their curfew but when they did, they knew that they could come home, to a safe place, and face the consequences the next day.
I agree with this 1000%. I woke up one morning and saw the neighbor's kid asleep on the porch. When I went to see if he was OK, he told me he missed curfew and was locked out for the night. That is so horrible!
Gender reveal parties.
I get that parents-to-be are excited about their new lives and as long as they aren't setting fires or making a huge mess of things, then go for it. Just understand that most people aren't nearly as invested as you are in your future child's sex. This would be the second most boring social event, right behind the baby shower. Only my opinion.
Beauty Pageants. I have no problem with them it's just that the age these parents make their kids enter and the s**t they do to try to win like doping them up on sugar and energy drinks. Using spray tans and makeup on kids that are sometimes 1-2 years old! And in the end they extort their child for little to no monetary gain. I've seen parents neglect their other kids in favor of the pagent queen. And in the end you get a spoiled brat that throws a hissy fit and is disrespectful. But who cares, you spent 15k to win 5k and you're on TLC
So in order to find out more about how being spoiled in childhood may affect your adult life, we spoke with Lynn How, the author of “Positive Young Mind'' and life coach who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues. She also runs this Facebook teacher coaching group which is an excellent resource for teachers in need of support when leaving, changing their mindset, changing their schools or setting healthy work/life boundaries.
“Do you know anyone who has trouble keeping their emotions in check when they don’t get their own way?” Lynn said and added that it may be that they were spoilt as a child and this hasn’t done them any favors as they move into their adult life.
"Boys will be boys".
this should be used when boys are doing something like putting hot dogs on the slide, not for s3xual h@rassment (edit: ty all SO MUCH for the upvotes!!!)
Unschooling. I agree that kids should have some sort of say in what they learn - if your kid is really interested in, say, bugs, then by god you take them to every bug museum you can find and buy them all the bug books - BUT kids should have a basic curriculum whether they're interested in it or not. I get that most kids don't like math, or history, or the "boring" classes, but I strongly disagree with the unschooling attitude of "my kid does not want to learn it, so I won't make them."
Parents never telling their children "no" and refusing to set any boundaries.
I get empowering children by giving them a voice in decision-making and the freedom to speak their minds, but general social norms would be nice.
Listening to 8 year olds throw fits in public and being rude to family and strangers (at top volume) is not endearing in any way.
“These children may turn into adults who show less resilience when things go wrong and they may give up easily when things aren’t working out. Also, they want it all and they want it now whereas most adults can tolerate delayed gratification,” she explained.
Videoing kids at their worst moments and then posting it on social media.
A very distant relative of mine has a YouTube channel with her unschooled kids, and they’re always crying in the back or telling her to stop the camera and it’s just insane that she still posts it
Taking youth sports too seriously.
I helped with and attended games for years, and can count on one hand the number of times I saw a child lose their temper. Parents lost it all the time. More than once I've seen a parent have to be physically restrained.
Ear piercing babies. That pisses me off. Let them decide. Don't put your vanity onto your baby. ESPECIALLY with piercing guns.
Had my ears pierced as a baby. Now I have 6 in one ear, 4 in the other (including a Daith piercing). And tattoos. Hehe, maybe I can blame it on not having a choice when I was a kid. The rest were my choice and my decision.
Moreover, “other traits that they may display include a lack of independence as their problems were generally solved for them, an inability to take criticism as nothing they did badly would invoke the appropriate feedback and the idea that everything should just come to them easily without too much work.”
“This last point is also coupled with a huge sense of disappointment when it doesn’t work out. All in all, this doesn’t set a child up to have positive relationships or good mental health as an adult.”
Making a kid finish their plate.
Also, keep in mind serving size for a 5yo should be much smaller than a teenager or adult. If it doesn't satisfy, let them have a bit more, but never force food on kids.
taking the door off their room. i have neverrrrr understood this
Family vloggers. Growing up in front of a camera can be so damaging for a child. Don't even get me started on the child labour it is - using young kids to earn money isn't good parenting in my opinion.
Ryan's toy review. I remember the first time seeing it after my daughter told me about it. I had to explain to her that not everyone gets to go on vacation every month. Now I see that kid and he looks tired and miserable.
There are many different challenges a spoiled child is likely to face while growing up. “A lack of appropriate boundaries can be very confusing for a child and although on the outside, these children can seem argumentative and rude, this stems from a lack of self-confidence on the inside as they have not been given these tools,” Lynn explained.
“Once their safety blanket of the parents spoiling them has been removed, coping on their own would bring on anxiety which could manifest itself as a tantrum,” she added.
I think those parents who impose a raw vegan diet on their young kids - there is no way that a child can sustain itself on a raw vegan diet - you'd need to be constantly eating to get the necessary calories.
Vegetables and fruit are very high in fibre - both soluble and non-soluble - so you can be very full from relatively few calories compared with even a high-protein diet.
Vegan can be a struggle if the parent doesn't do the research. And a raw diet can be done as an adult, but it would still be difficult.
A raw vegan diet for a young child is basically child abuse.
Ohhhhh gaaaawd; a vegan parent; Dont force your kids to eat a sh1tty vegan diet
Modern day: Parents assuming that once a child hits school age that it's the schools responsibility to raise them. These same parents then get angry when their child is punished by the school.
See this FAR too often.
One of my best friends is an English teacher to 7-9th graders and..THIS. she doesn't get emails or calls from parents on how to help their kids learn. She gets angry emails about a child getting zeros on grades for not turning in homework. Emails stating "that was obviously A level work, all their other teachers gave them an A". In spelling and grammar there is only one correct way, there is rarely room for interpretation! After ten years of teaching she is rethinking her career choice. Not because of the children, because of the parents. She can't discipline a student who threw a desk at her twice. It's definitely a modern thing, my mom would have dragged me out of principal's office by my ear. This child's parent said she "misunderstood his actions".
Coddling sons while holding daughters to higher standards.
Moreover, Lynn argues that “often these children will have friendship issues as they find it challenging to let others have their own way and they may find it difficult to form positive relationships with other adults such as teachers due to difficulty with conformity.” She concluded that overall this adds up to a childhood that is more challenging than it needs to be.
Posting intimate pics of your kid all over social media.
Now, I have no issue with parents sharing adorable baby pics. Hell, I don't mind you guys sharing a lot of them. When you go through hell and back to carry, birth, and raise the kid, you get a pass on the social media sharing, somewhat.
HOWEVER, sharing pics of your kid in the bathtub and doing bodily functions is not okay. 1) It's gross. I don't think your kid's blowout diaper or "first poopy in the toilet" is funny or cute. I don't want that on my timeline. 2) Pedos are out there, be careful. 3) I know it's hard to imagine, but little Peighsyn is gonna be a big boy someday. In fact, he may even be on social media in the future. His friends (AND EMPLOYERS) are gonna see those gross vomit and poop pics. Not a good idea.
My sister in law keeps posting pictures of her daughters doing everyday kid activities, but what shocks me most are the comments. Every day there is at least one person commenting “wow so sexy” or other version of “sexy” on a picture where her daughters pose for the camera. It’s usually her female friends commenting and she replies things like “aww thank you” or such. Who the hell thinks a 5 year old is sexy? And what mother isn’t alarmed by such comments??
Maybe not the worst, but my parents forced me to play competitive sports for years when I clearly hated it and I'm still a little bitter. I was horrible at soccer, they even offered me 10 bucks for every goal I scored but I still couldn't do it. As an adult I still shudder a little every time I drive by a baseball field, thinking about how much time I wasted there and the embarrassment of sucking at something and getting laughed at by the other kids. This isn't to say I wasn't an athletic kid, I loved skating, riding bikes, hiking and all that. Parents - if your kid isn't good at a sport, doesn't have any interest in it and obviously has no talent for it, please don't make them do it.
My dad and his wife did this with their sons. I kid you not, they were forced to quit hockey and soccer due to damaged knees, shoulders and backs when they were in their teens.
Not giving kids privacy or personal space. I have teenagers and unless they give me a reason not to trust them, I don’t rummage around in their rooms or secretly read their texts.
I don't violate my kids personal space. Well they are adults now but still didn't do it while they were younger, but I also don't violate my wife's personal space either. I really dislike hearing people talking about going through their kids and spouses phones, wallets and other things, these people lack boundaries.
Not dressing your kids like kids.
Also raising your kids on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok before they're old enough to decide how much privacy they want in their lives.
Shielding their kid from failure. There are so many people now that are afraid of failing, so much so, that they don't even attempt something new if they have a hint that they may fail at it.
If a kid can't learn how to cope with failure, they turn into an adult man-child, who falsely claims that they had an election stolen from them!
Not saying a word about sexuality and shielding children from any sort of affection on tv or in real life.
I can't stress enough how much this has contributed to my intense shame whenever I masturbate and my inability to be intimate. Of course this is a compounded issue for me personally but such a censored childhood was the backbone for all of this pain.
Additionally....using "pet names" for your child's anatomy/genitals and not understanding why this is problematic/dangerous. If your child tells the teacher that uncle Tom licked their "cookie"....the teacher may not understand the SIGNIFICANCE of this confession. Teach kids the proper words for parts of their body.
Taking your kids to the pub with you on a weekend.
I'm not talking an afternoon lunch with a glass of wine or two. I'm talking about kids being left to run amok in car parks and on pavements while parents sit inside and have a drink.
Look after your f**king kids.
People having their kids stay up with them until the wee hours of the morning. By 11pm they are cranky, fussy, and clearly tired.
Put. Your. Kids. To. Bed.
Why would you even do that? It was hard for my parents to put me to bed. Sleep is really important, especially at this young age.
Pushing your kids to bring home flawless reports. Had a friend my sophomore year of highschool (straight A student, extra curricular stuff) with strict parents obviously living vicariously through her- who blew her head off with her dad's shotgun sitting at the kitchen table because it was near finals week, her grades were plummeting and the only boyfriend she's ever had had just broken up with her 3 days prior. I'd like to introduce a new parenting trend; Talking to your kids, listening and understanding.
Ugh, my parents had unrealistic expectations for me like the friend mentioned. I almost took my life plenty of times. I even would contemplate suicide when I didn't make my parents look perfect.
Not knocking “because what if the kid is secretly running a highly illegal business in there” Like please, knock. It will save you and your kids from discomfort.
Illegal business? What, do they think their teenager is running a drug ring from their bedroom?
Taking your kid's side when he's being an a****le to strangers. DO your job and educate your kid so I don't have to punch him in the face.
Publicly shaming your kids. If you do that s**t you are an as****le and a disgusting human being.
*If you do that s**t ON PURPOSE you are an as****le. If your kids do something incredibly stupid (like run in front of a moving car, or something like that) then go for it, they deserve it.
Never listening to your child. The whole children need to be seen and not heard schtick, f**ked up my social skills a whole lot with my parents and people.
Same. I was raised to be compliant and always caring about what other people think. Likely why I feel the need to comment on social media on a daily basis. .... sorry for my constant ramblings.
My aunt and uncle are and have been huge supporters of the "if you just give them a video game then they'll be quiet forever" so my 6-year old cousin has absolutely no social skills and is a difficult, struggling first grader but is alright at playing Angry Birds and Minecraft.
Tossing a phone to a kid any time there is a wait. I get the desire to keep busy while waiting but we don't learn patience without practice
Wanting to be "friends" with their kids. It really pisses me off. Parents that won't challenge, question or correct poor behaviour.
I've got three boys to raise and my attitude has always been - I'm your dad. I'm not your friend. I have friends you have friends. We can be friends when you're old enough to buy me a beer and I've done the sort of parenting that means I want to have a beer with you.
I don't know, my parents were our friends and still disciplined us. There's a middle ground between the two situations described here. I don't like parents like OP.
Non-parenting. That is, when people have kids but let their kids run wild with zero effort put into actually raising them into functional members of society.
Homeschooling. Frequently it just means non-schooling. Either the parent in question does not have the ability to teach, due to lack of education on their own part, has no intention of teaching with it all just falling back into non-parenting, or it's a deliberate attempt by fundies to keep their kids from getting an education. There are few exceptions.
Homeschooling, when done right, is amazing. I was brought up homeschooled and I'm in a much better place academically than I would have been had I grown up in public school. Unschooling is the problem, as well as parents who want to homeschool but don't take responsibility for their children's education.
Infant circumcision. Sorry but unneeded cosmetic surgery performed on non consenting minors is just stupid, useless, and illogical.
My first son (34) is uncircumcised however my second son (16)had to be at 3 due to constant infections and pain. Don’t criticise.
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My takeaway…. If you have kids, you’re doing it wrong. Sincerely, the internet. Trust me most parents worry enough that we are or have messed up our kids. Parenting is a LOT of trial and error as well as hoping you got the balancing act down enough that your kids will be ok adults.
That's exactly what I was thinking. A lot of people criticising parents up there probably don't have kids yet, and that's why the little empathy and so much judgement.
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Parenting is hard. Really hard. I have been so incredibly fortunate to be able to be a mom (I have one son), but I know I've made lots of mistakes, and I'm still learning. I think if you're open to learning, love them, keep them safe, support them throughout the ups and downs, teach them to be kind and honest...well that goes a long way. I don't know why I'm blathering on here...I need more coffee.
There's nothing so humbling as having an extremely judgemental opinion of parenting and then having reality handed to you when you have one of your own. Or at least it was like that for me lol.
Haha yes! I thought I will be amazing at parenting having like 20+ nieces and nephews around all the time.. now I have 2 and wonder if I will ever know what I'm doing:/
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I get the ones concerning actual safety but elf on a shelf and unique names? Mind your business lol the elf isn’t hurting anyone and biblical names aren’t popular times change. If they didn’t we’d all still be named Ebenezer and Agnes.
Haha just wait until Ebenezer makes a comeback. Ngl I kind of like it.
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The parenting trend that's really horrible is that parents (like everyone else) work such insanely long hours that they don't actually have time to parent, and are too exhausted to parent by the time they do finally see their kids. You can't raise functional human beings that way.
My god posts like this drive me crazy. READ THE ASSIGNMENT. I wonder if these people failed all their tests in school as well. To clarify, the assignment was "What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date". Not "name things that bug you about kids". Examples above like "boys will be boys" is NOT a current "trend", it is an age-old mindset, if anything the trend is to STOP putting up with that philosophy. And "kids have no manners these days"?? Really? There are quotes from Socrates saying that close to 2,500 years ago, and every generation since then has complained about "kids these days". Antivaxxers? Yeah, that's a new trend. Helicopter parents? Yeah that's a new trend. But most of these are BS
I know this may be very unpopular, but I think it's disturbing when parents allow or even encourage underage (ie, under 18) kids to get surgery that will permanently alter their appearance in some way. I saw this happen when I worked in the modeling industry often. 14 year olds getting nose jobs or other plastic surgery.
i think a single piercing on each ear is ok after they are old enough because they don't dramatically change their boddies and they can grow over
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Lots of parents don't want to actually parent their children, and shouldn't have been parents in the first place.
Not bringing something to keep your young child entertained. I know you need to repaint the bedroom, but your 2-year-old doesn't want to sit in a buggy quietly while you stare at samples for three hours. Or sit in a restaurant booth doing nothing while you ignore them. My parents always had books, a small toy, some crayons, something to keep me occupied when I was little, or at the very least they would TALK to me, they would engage me so I wasn't bored and pitching a fit.
My parents engaged with us. We were a family. They weren’t a couple with kids along.
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I have one to add to this list. Don't tell your kid to not cry. My mom did this with me ever since I was 4, and wondered why I had such severe anger issues a few years later.
So much this! My dad (wanker) told me "Only babies cry," and I was always punished for being upset or emotional by him and other adults around me. I still can't handle anger properly because I was never taught how to.
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The year our oldest was born we spent the night at my parent's house on Christmas Eve. She was 6 months old and you'll never guess who kept opening the door, locked even, to make sure that her parents knew what they were doing after 6 months. Forty year old parents, mind you. If you guessed my mother you would be correct. She did that s**t all the time while I was growing up and when I came home from college. She was stifling and I was extremely sheltered. You bet your a*s I knock on our daughters' door. I even wait for an answer when I hear giggling and know they're up to something "naughty." They're 5 and 2 so their naughty is still something we can cover with paint or the dolls stay bald.
My mom won't get the covid vax, bothers the c**p out of me. I'm 14 so not much I can do. A past teacher of ours son's dies right after he got the vaccine. Its the vaccine that caused it. He was very young. I'm not sure if I recall correctly but I think it was a heart attack. He could have led an unhealthy lifestyle. She thinks fake since vaccines like the small pox took years. Its 2022 things are more advanced. I haven't talked to her yet about getting the vaccine. Do you think I should? Byw I have several other vaccine just the covid one.
Parents: please don’t invade your kids’ (especially teens’) privacy. It’s seriously detrimental to trust and doesn’t contribute much to the relationship. Unless you’re willing to trade love for personal knowledge, don’t snoop. Just stay out of our stuff. Please.
I think those goodie bags after a birthday could be gone. What are they for anyway? Is it a reward for attending the birthday? Same with why inviting the whole class when the kid is not even friends with all of them? Dont go over the top. Let the kid choose who to invite, the best friends, go bowling, bake the favorite cake, order pizza, kids are usually easy to please when it comes to their special day.
Dear Parents - some girls are just tomboys. Don't freak out and drag us off to a counselor (or doctor, or therapist, or gender program, et...) There is nothing wrong with us - we just like to hunt/fish/play sports/work on cars, et... It's OK. We are not all born to be Disney Princesses.
Astounded that they don't have "bully" on this list. Growing up, my folks made it routine to be my bullies because it was fun for them! Get a boyfriend? A crush? Bad grades? Constant teasing and harassment. Then they wonder why I don't visit them after all these years...
So many of these, non parenting ones, are done by someone I know with her son. I fear for him.
I was a single mom. I raised 4 kids alone that are now 24-31 years old. They are all educated, mature, responsible and functioning adults. My key was balance. Don’t be lazy, it’s hard work and a full time job but also have your own personal boundaries that they know and understand. A healthy fear of your parents is not a bad thing. It’s strong motivation to do the right thing but not so much that it’s abuse. My kids could tell me anything and often told me more than I wanted to know but we have always had healthy relationships. I respect their boundaries and they respect mine. Balance, consistency, say no and let them lose occasionally. It builds strong adults.
I don't even know why I'm here. Don't have kids. Don't want them. Life is so much simpler. Thank you!
Screentime, forcing kids to talk to strangers/people, not believing their kids when they think/know they have any kind of disorder/etc, no privacy, abusive parents, I have a whole lot. I know out of experience
Stop filming everything they do for social media. I don't want to see your child having a poo !!
Also, forcing religion on your kids is a great way to end up with at least one bitter anti-theist adult offspring who make it their life’s mission to let everyone know that you failed as a parent. JS
Most of these were excellent in their comments. A lot of parents today DO NOT PARENT. That is sad that other people have to put up with ill mannered, and sometimes dangerous, children.
How are any of these trends? They span the generations, except maybe the gender reveals
by no means a perfect parent, we try and do our best. Try to teach them to be polite (goes a long way) basics to take care of themselves (cooking, laundry etc) and help when ever I can without doing it for them. So far working out ok :)
Lol. How about keep your nose out of people's business. Parenting is hard. Shut up and stop thinking you're the center of the universe and that you can tell people how to live their lives or how to treat their children. Yes. Some of those are true, without any doubt.. But the rest.. Just mind your own business and stop thinking you're the best parent in the world because you do it differently that the others.
You and your Single kid 24/7/365! Until 1st grade comes around and kid doesn't know what to Do and goes to preschool.
Love to see a bunch of people who feel entitled to parent other people's children act like the kids are being entitled just for being kids. Kids aren't good at listening, kids don't always remember social rules, that doesn't make them bad kids nor does it make their parents bad parents. While it's frustrating to encounter kids doing frustrating things, you aren't entitled to go off on them or treat them badly simply because they're children and you think it your responsibility to teach them some pedantic lesson.
'Gentle' parenting. Stupidest thing I've ever heard. As stupid as not getting your kids vaccinated.
What bothers me is all the people trying to tell me COVID vaccines are good for my baby, don't pierce her ears it's wrong, and don't circumcise my son, are the same people voting for young kids to take hormone blockers and cutting healthy breasts of young girls, like gtfoh 2 tiny holes and no flap of skin to worry about cleaning properly your hole life is way better then never being able to breast feed a future child if you decide to detransition in the future cause parents/teachers/doctors pushed it on you when you were young and couldn't fully comprehend what it truly mean to change genders. God forbid my daughter is anything like me and becomes the biggest tomboy, everyone's going to try to turn her into a boy, for something that's completely normal. Smh this world is going downhill fast. And it's so sad people are stuck on this woke agenda I don't mind the LGBTQ+ but don't shove it down our kids throats prek, kindergarten and up don't need to learn about that. Or remembering pronou
'Gentle parenting', kids need firm discipline, rules and strict boundaries.
My takeaway…. If you have kids, you’re doing it wrong. Sincerely, the internet. Trust me most parents worry enough that we are or have messed up our kids. Parenting is a LOT of trial and error as well as hoping you got the balancing act down enough that your kids will be ok adults.
That's exactly what I was thinking. A lot of people criticising parents up there probably don't have kids yet, and that's why the little empathy and so much judgement.
Load More Replies... Parenting is hard. Really hard. I have been so incredibly fortunate to be able to be a mom (I have one son), but I know I've made lots of mistakes, and I'm still learning. I think if you're open to learning, love them, keep them safe, support them throughout the ups and downs, teach them to be kind and honest...well that goes a long way. I don't know why I'm blathering on here...I need more coffee.
There's nothing so humbling as having an extremely judgemental opinion of parenting and then having reality handed to you when you have one of your own. Or at least it was like that for me lol.
Haha yes! I thought I will be amazing at parenting having like 20+ nieces and nephews around all the time.. now I have 2 and wonder if I will ever know what I'm doing:/
Load More Replies... I get the ones concerning actual safety but elf on a shelf and unique names? Mind your business lol the elf isn’t hurting anyone and biblical names aren’t popular times change. If they didn’t we’d all still be named Ebenezer and Agnes.
Haha just wait until Ebenezer makes a comeback. Ngl I kind of like it.
Load More Replies... The parenting trend that's really horrible is that parents (like everyone else) work such insanely long hours that they don't actually have time to parent, and are too exhausted to parent by the time they do finally see their kids. You can't raise functional human beings that way.
My god posts like this drive me crazy. READ THE ASSIGNMENT. I wonder if these people failed all their tests in school as well. To clarify, the assignment was "What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date". Not "name things that bug you about kids". Examples above like "boys will be boys" is NOT a current "trend", it is an age-old mindset, if anything the trend is to STOP putting up with that philosophy. And "kids have no manners these days"?? Really? There are quotes from Socrates saying that close to 2,500 years ago, and every generation since then has complained about "kids these days". Antivaxxers? Yeah, that's a new trend. Helicopter parents? Yeah that's a new trend. But most of these are BS
I know this may be very unpopular, but I think it's disturbing when parents allow or even encourage underage (ie, under 18) kids to get surgery that will permanently alter their appearance in some way. I saw this happen when I worked in the modeling industry often. 14 year olds getting nose jobs or other plastic surgery.
i think a single piercing on each ear is ok after they are old enough because they don't dramatically change their boddies and they can grow over
Load More Replies... Using filters on kids photos when sharing on social media. What is wrong with how your kids look naturally?
Lots of parents don't want to actually parent their children, and shouldn't have been parents in the first place.
Not bringing something to keep your young child entertained. I know you need to repaint the bedroom, but your 2-year-old doesn't want to sit in a buggy quietly while you stare at samples for three hours. Or sit in a restaurant booth doing nothing while you ignore them. My parents always had books, a small toy, some crayons, something to keep me occupied when I was little, or at the very least they would TALK to me, they would engage me so I wasn't bored and pitching a fit.
My parents engaged with us. We were a family. They weren’t a couple with kids along.
Load More Replies... I have one to add to this list. Don't tell your kid to not cry. My mom did this with me ever since I was 4, and wondered why I had such severe anger issues a few years later.
So much this! My dad (wanker) told me "Only babies cry," and I was always punished for being upset or emotional by him and other adults around me. I still can't handle anger properly because I was never taught how to.
Load More Replies... The year our oldest was born we spent the night at my parent's house on Christmas Eve. She was 6 months old and you'll never guess who kept opening the door, locked even, to make sure that her parents knew what they were doing after 6 months. Forty year old parents, mind you. If you guessed my mother you would be correct. She did that s**t all the time while I was growing up and when I came home from college. She was stifling and I was extremely sheltered. You bet your a*s I knock on our daughters' door. I even wait for an answer when I hear giggling and know they're up to something "naughty." They're 5 and 2 so their naughty is still something we can cover with paint or the dolls stay bald.
My mom won't get the covid vax, bothers the c**p out of me. I'm 14 so not much I can do. A past teacher of ours son's dies right after he got the vaccine. Its the vaccine that caused it. He was very young. I'm not sure if I recall correctly but I think it was a heart attack. He could have led an unhealthy lifestyle. She thinks fake since vaccines like the small pox took years. Its 2022 things are more advanced. I haven't talked to her yet about getting the vaccine. Do you think I should? Byw I have several other vaccine just the covid one.
Parents: please don’t invade your kids’ (especially teens’) privacy. It’s seriously detrimental to trust and doesn’t contribute much to the relationship. Unless you’re willing to trade love for personal knowledge, don’t snoop. Just stay out of our stuff. Please.
I think those goodie bags after a birthday could be gone. What are they for anyway? Is it a reward for attending the birthday? Same with why inviting the whole class when the kid is not even friends with all of them? Dont go over the top. Let the kid choose who to invite, the best friends, go bowling, bake the favorite cake, order pizza, kids are usually easy to please when it comes to their special day.
Dear Parents - some girls are just tomboys. Don't freak out and drag us off to a counselor (or doctor, or therapist, or gender program, et...) There is nothing wrong with us - we just like to hunt/fish/play sports/work on cars, et... It's OK. We are not all born to be Disney Princesses.
Astounded that they don't have "bully" on this list. Growing up, my folks made it routine to be my bullies because it was fun for them! Get a boyfriend? A crush? Bad grades? Constant teasing and harassment. Then they wonder why I don't visit them after all these years...
So many of these, non parenting ones, are done by someone I know with her son. I fear for him.
I was a single mom. I raised 4 kids alone that are now 24-31 years old. They are all educated, mature, responsible and functioning adults. My key was balance. Don’t be lazy, it’s hard work and a full time job but also have your own personal boundaries that they know and understand. A healthy fear of your parents is not a bad thing. It’s strong motivation to do the right thing but not so much that it’s abuse. My kids could tell me anything and often told me more than I wanted to know but we have always had healthy relationships. I respect their boundaries and they respect mine. Balance, consistency, say no and let them lose occasionally. It builds strong adults.
I don't even know why I'm here. Don't have kids. Don't want them. Life is so much simpler. Thank you!
Screentime, forcing kids to talk to strangers/people, not believing their kids when they think/know they have any kind of disorder/etc, no privacy, abusive parents, I have a whole lot. I know out of experience
Stop filming everything they do for social media. I don't want to see your child having a poo !!
Also, forcing religion on your kids is a great way to end up with at least one bitter anti-theist adult offspring who make it their life’s mission to let everyone know that you failed as a parent. JS
Most of these were excellent in their comments. A lot of parents today DO NOT PARENT. That is sad that other people have to put up with ill mannered, and sometimes dangerous, children.
How are any of these trends? They span the generations, except maybe the gender reveals
by no means a perfect parent, we try and do our best. Try to teach them to be polite (goes a long way) basics to take care of themselves (cooking, laundry etc) and help when ever I can without doing it for them. So far working out ok :)
Lol. How about keep your nose out of people's business. Parenting is hard. Shut up and stop thinking you're the center of the universe and that you can tell people how to live their lives or how to treat their children. Yes. Some of those are true, without any doubt.. But the rest.. Just mind your own business and stop thinking you're the best parent in the world because you do it differently that the others.
You and your Single kid 24/7/365! Until 1st grade comes around and kid doesn't know what to Do and goes to preschool.
Love to see a bunch of people who feel entitled to parent other people's children act like the kids are being entitled just for being kids. Kids aren't good at listening, kids don't always remember social rules, that doesn't make them bad kids nor does it make their parents bad parents. While it's frustrating to encounter kids doing frustrating things, you aren't entitled to go off on them or treat them badly simply because they're children and you think it your responsibility to teach them some pedantic lesson.
'Gentle' parenting. Stupidest thing I've ever heard. As stupid as not getting your kids vaccinated.
What bothers me is all the people trying to tell me COVID vaccines are good for my baby, don't pierce her ears it's wrong, and don't circumcise my son, are the same people voting for young kids to take hormone blockers and cutting healthy breasts of young girls, like gtfoh 2 tiny holes and no flap of skin to worry about cleaning properly your hole life is way better then never being able to breast feed a future child if you decide to detransition in the future cause parents/teachers/doctors pushed it on you when you were young and couldn't fully comprehend what it truly mean to change genders. God forbid my daughter is anything like me and becomes the biggest tomboy, everyone's going to try to turn her into a boy, for something that's completely normal. Smh this world is going downhill fast. And it's so sad people are stuck on this woke agenda I don't mind the LGBTQ+ but don't shove it down our kids throats prek, kindergarten and up don't need to learn about that. Or remembering pronou
'Gentle parenting', kids need firm discipline, rules and strict boundaries.
