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40 Bartenders Reveal The Worst First Dates They’ve Seen That Range From Cringe To Heartbreaking
Going on a first date can be exciting. You’re getting ready wondering how the night is going to go, and whether or not you will hit it off; and while many couples do, others - not so much.
It’s no surprise that bartenders are the people who get to witness many first dates—both good and bad. So when the redditor ‘gilesvg’ addressed the bartenders in the ‘Ask Reddit’ community, asking them to share stories of first dates going sour, they had plenty. If you’re curious about the fairytales that ended before they even began, too, scroll down to find them on the list below.
Below you will also find Bored Panda’s interview with a certified love life strategist, dating and relationship expert, Lisa Concepcion, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions about how important first dates are.
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#1
Witnessed a high school reconnection/date where the girl showed up before him, dressed to the nines and obviously still infatuated with the idea of the football star. He shows up in a wife beater and a ball cap, scruffy/balding and not at all dressed for a date. Now its not a five star restaurant but a decent beach bar. She seems a bit put out but the date stumbles along.
I can't help but hover as things go from awkward reintroductions to attempts at conversation. She's trying desperately to convince herself this date is a good idea and he's a great guy and it's obvious he's not.
He's oblivious. Going on and on about how she'd make a great mom because she's a teacher. She replies joking "oh no, I love the kids but I get to give them back at the end of the day" etc and he doubles down. She changes the subject to fishing, he says she can't really enjoy fishing. She repeats herself and shares a story about fishing with her dad. He repeats its a man's hobby and she can't possibly actually find it fun. It just goes on like this and I can see she's getting more and more upset.
At one point, he leans over and says something into her ear. Her face contorts in disgust. She says something like "that's how you think this date is going?"
He goes to the bathroom (still oblivious, this man, gotta hand it to him), she takes her chance and waves me over.
"Two shots of fireball and the check, please."
I shoot over to her, shots in hand. She knocks them back one after the other and I start giggling.
"Can I just say something?" She nods. "This is in no way my business, but you seem really sweet and are way out of his league." She looks at me in shock and says "really?"
"Yes. 100%"
She decided to pay the whole tab and jetted off before he got back. He looked at me and the empty seats and tried to hand me cash, I waved him off saying she had already paid. His utter confusion was so precious. It's still my favorite awkward first date story. So uneventful but just -chefs kiss-.
EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇩🇿🇵🇸 1 year ago
So this turnip thought it was going well? Such an awful attitude. If someone is a traditionalist don't be a tool about it. The fishing comment was very strange.
Mike F 1 year ago
Traditionalist my @ss, the guy is/was a cave man. He stopped to buy a brick of Nattys, and went home to watch a taped football game while getting annihilated and passing out on the couch.
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_physically_insane_(he/him) 1 year ago
I’m pretty sure it’s a white tank top
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Justin Rogers 1 year ago
I would love a woman who would fish with me and I definitely have a soft spot for teachers and nurses. They are such an integral part of life and influence so much of our youth. I don't drink anymore but a woman who can knock back some fireball is fantastic
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#2
Not a bartender but saw a dude at the theater I used to work at. He was dressed up and had flowers for Valentine’s Day. He sat in the lobby for over an hour and quietly came up to the counter and asked if he could return his tickets.
EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇩🇿🇵🇸 1 year ago
That's so sad. Standing someone up is not nice at all. Just cancel.
Julie S 1 year ago
Especially in the era of mobile phones there is no excuse not to let someone know.
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That's cruel. If you are not going to turn up, let them know. I hope his date gets the same treatment when they go on their next date.
Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
Unless a major emergency came up (e.g. date had a medical crisis or car crash) and the date absolutely COULD NOT call to let the person waiting for them know what's up, this is inexcusably cruel.
María Hermida 1 year ago
They could have called, or tell somebody to call
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#3
Not witnessed but heard girl and guy go on blind date. They've been talking on phone before to get to know each other and here comes first Date. Met at a bar. He was there first waiting and she came in. They talk for minute and he says "oh let me get the flowers I got you. It's in the car" he walks out and doesn't return. Felt bad for her. You can at least finish date or drink and then gracefully leave.
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 1 year ago
Even if you find that you are not physically attracted to your date, have the decency and respect to at least have a drink or a bite to eat. Let them know that you two might be better off as friends, if that's true, but don't be rude and not say anything. If they ask for another date, tell them you're dating others and but maybe wouldn't mind hanging out again but amongst friends.
Jane Hower 1 year ago
In theory!!! Reality is that you NEVER know how someone is going to handle being 'turned down' - sometimes it's really loud and embarassing!! Best to just 'slip out' and be gone.
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David 1 year ago
If he really did that then he did her a favor. Though said favor could have been done more kindly.
Xitxarel•lo Panda 1 year ago
That kind of a******s doesn't have respect . He only see his bottom belly
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Candid Panda 1 year ago
Dating apps are enabling men to treat women this way and never be held accountable for their actions since it makes it easy for them to run like cowards, hide and ghost After encounters like these, women feel like prey and are realizing that dating apps are no longer a viable option for meaningful dating.
Tristan J 1 year ago
This was a blind date, it seems unlikely to have anything to do with dating apps. If they had met on an app, unless the photos were painfully inaccurate, this scenario would have been avoided.
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Pyla 1 year ago
People who go on blind dates are braver than me, and I used to take strange horses hunter trialing.
Nonna_SoF 1 year ago
My sister met her husband that way. But they were setup by mutual friends.
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kath morgan 1 year ago
That’s mean, at least come up with an excuse that doesn’t make it sound like you’re coming back.
Beachbum 1 year ago
I remember waiting on this one lady, thought the date was in the afternoon, it wasnt, so she comes back a couple horus of later, I had jsut got off work and was sitting at the bar having a drink. She comes up to the bar, and sits next to me I was like that was a quick date! She was an older woman, I was just like what happend? She was like well I met him on-line and we agreed to meet, but he only wanted sex! I was like, what site did you meet hom on, she shad plenty of fish, I was just like, hun, that is basically a f uck site, with hot real intentions or starting a relationship. I felt so bad for her, her husband left her, I guess she had gained some weightm I t old her get off that site and gt on christian mingle or something, but plenty of fish!
“The first date is all about the first impression,” the dating and relationship expert Lisa Concepcion told Bored Panda, discussing the importance of a first date. “This is when we are evaluating if the other person is a match to us. If a person is rude, distracted, lacks manners, isn't presentable and seems disheveled, it will impact our decision as to whether or not we choose to see them again.”
#4
A young couple, no more than twenty. He ordered for her (red flag #1). What he ordered for her was a salad (red flag #2, and a nice big "oof" to pair with it). He ordered a standard, meat-and-potatoes entree for himself.
Before the food arrived he went to the washroom, and she flagged me down, saying she was leaving and asked if she could pay her half. I told her no - he ordered everything, he could pay for it. She thanked me and bailed.
Took him probably 30 minutes to ask if she had left, and I explained that she had, and why.
And in the end, I got to eat the salad he ordered for her.
Tamra 1 year ago
I'm sure this is age and experience coloring my opinion, but I'm wondering why she didn't shut him down right away by saying something like: "I'll be ordering for myself, thanks, and I'll be having a full meal, not a salad".
Petra Schaap 1 year ago
Salads can be full meals, but yeah, she could have said something.
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AngelWingsYT 1 year ago
Why the HELL did she not speak up when he tried ordering for her?! I LOVE steak n ill wholop anyone that thinks im to "girly" for it
Crybaby 1 year ago
Never understood how food would be too girly.. it’s all gonna come out anyways.
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Moonwatcher the NightWing 1 year ago
Idk why someone downvoted you this is hilarious
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Jaya 1 year ago
Wait, isn't oof a very common word? I see it being used all the time.
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#5
Some old guy was describing some "oddities" of his childhood and why his kids and grandkids weren't raised to believe in Santa Clause (because he wasn't either) and this old lady just would not drop the issue and when he gently requested that they change the subject, she started raising her voice calling him spineless, useless, a disappointment of a man, and by that point I'd had enough and just told her she needed to hit the road because she was being an a*****e and scaring off customers. Told the old guy his tab was on me and that I'd arrange for either a cab for him or for his "date". He didn't take me up on it, just left me a few $20 bills and they walked out together before he sheepishly thanked me.
Another sad one, a guy showed up to the bar when it was a touch slow, I got him his first beer and noted he was dressed pretty nicely. Being the chatty guy I am, I asked him if there was a special occasion or something. He said he was waiting for a girl to show up for their first date and was pretty excited. Guy hangs out a bit at the bar top for a bit before milling around, comes back and orders some onion rings and another beer. Things got a bit busier so I didn't keep close tabs on him, but then an hour or two went by and I noticed he was still there alone, and he looked a bit confused and saddened, so I asked him how he was doing, he said she hadn't shown up yet. Because I've been there, I got him a drink on the house and asked if he needed anything else. Hour later, the date finally shows up, completely plastered and they walk up together to sit down and she tries ordering some shots. I know most bartenders in most places won't really stop themselves from over-serving someone, but I told her "perhaps you should slow down a bit, here's a glass of water and a free soda". She knocked both over, demanded shots. Guy was clearly embarrassed. They put in a small food order and about 30 minutes later I saw him pouring her into a cab with a to-go container. He came back in and we just chit-chatted when we could for the rest of the night.
Dan, I really hope you found the right woman for ya.
Anyone-for-tea? 1 year ago
Please someone make a pun about Santa “Clause” I don’t understand clauses enough to! I feel as if UK schooling let down anyone that went to school in the 80s/90s as I don’t think many of my peers understand it either! I can just about get my head around a verb, adjective, and noun 🤷🏻♀️
Robert T 1 year ago
"The Santa Clause" was a series of movies starring Tim Allen. In that case, and that case only, the spelling is correct. If we are talking about the jolly rotund bloke in a red suit that squeezes down your chimney to deliver presents, it's Santa Claus.
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Tabitha 1 year ago
When Dan finally does find the right woman, I sure hope he doesn’t eat onion rings on their first date.
Jas Warner 1 year ago
He waited over an hour. DAN CAN HAVE THE DAMM ONION RINGS!!!.
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For many couples, a first date is enough to see if there’s potential for future interaction; especially when there’s probably not. “Typically it's because they got enough information to know the person isn't someone they can see having anything more with,” Lisa Concepcion suggested.
“I advise giving people three dates if you think you are attracted to them and like them after the first date,” she continued. “By the third date you can decide if they're a fit for you.”
#6
Wasn’t the bartender, was the guy… started at a nice Italian place, and then we went for drinks and dessert at the latin bar across the street in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn. Group of mid late 30s-early 50s women next to us. An argument broke out at the table next to us, a lighter got thrown and exploded under our feet, their table flipped knocking all the dishes and glasses everywhere, shattered. One woman pulled out a box cutter and slashed the other across the forehead.
So. Much. Blood. Far too much to come back from.
We couldn’t leave till we paid our check so we just kinda sat there in shock for the next half hour. I ended up walking her home, kissed her goodnight and called it. Violent crime really does ruin the mood…
It ended up on Citizen app as “woman slashed” and we were in the videos background lol. Worst part was we worked together and didn’t want people to know we went on a date so we had to sit the whole day the next day and not say anything about it. The good news was that I took it as a sign from god to stop pretending I was straight and came out a few weeks later and I’m happy to report I haven’t had any violence or crime issues on any date since!
Tl;dr - Fight at table next to us led to a slashing, so much blood, now I’m gay.
Wendy Herman 1 year ago (edited)
That was def worth the read, and the brief summary at the end was a Hilarious Chef's Kiss. Enjoy a wonderful life out here in the open. Hope you found the Love you deserve.
TotallyNOTAFox 1 year ago
The scalp and forehead bleed quite heavily, even if only being injured superficially
#7
Her husband walking in and taking her keys. Telling her not to come home. Then stopping right before he stormed out the door, turning abruptly and yelling “and f**k you mike, what the hell?!”.
hcaballero57 1 year ago
To tell you the truth, i went to school with a guy named Mike Hunt, he was 2 years older than me
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unfilteredCigarette73 1 year ago
Lol in my experience the a$$holes usually want to be called "Michael"
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Lyoness 1 year ago
So was the husband yelling 'Mike' at the person whose keys they took away (therefore THEY are Mike) or yelling at the person about Mike (therefore the person cheated WITH was Mike)?
AngelWingsYT 1 year ago
Sounds like wifeypoo was cheating on hubby with Mike who is either brother or friend to hubby
Load More Replies... _physically_insane_(he/him) 1 year ago
Went on a date with someone who I presume to be his friend’s wife
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Wendy Herman 1 year ago (edited)
Whoops. You flunked this Q on the pop-quiz. BOTH are Wrong. He doesn't get a "pass" on having morals by blaming biology just b/c he has a penis.
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I was a bartender at a restaurant, and this teenage kid shows up, 15 or 16 years old, all nicely dressed up, a rose in his hands. Says he reserved a table for two people but wanted to wait at the entrance for his date. He stood there and waited and waited, ordered a coke at some point, and waited a little longer. The longer he waited, the worse he looked. After 45 min it was clear that she was not showing up. He didn't have to pay for his coke. Poor kid.
S Mi 1 year ago
Ghosting and no shows are awful. Not sure if this was an internet thing, but it seems like people often lose track of the fact that those are *human beings* you are taking to on the other side of the screen
Marla 1 year ago
The only real reason to ghost that I can think of is if you feel unsafe with the person
Load More Replies... FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 1 year ago
Sometimes I wonder,if the teen didn't get stood up, on their first date ever, if that would have changed things, for the better? 🤔
Narwhal Blast 1 year ago
Maybe their parents didn't let them come anymore? Grounded without phone?
According to the dating expert, people are often willing to see a person more if they are aligned on values and worldview, plus are attracted to one another. As for the reasons they might not be willing to, she suggested that there can be quite a few:
“They didn't share the same dreams, goals, ambitions. They drank excessively. They lacked manners. They seemed immature and non committal. They were hyper focused on sex, all conversations led back to sex. They weren't a person you could imagine bringing around your family. You regretted leaving your pet alone 30 minutes into the date. You didn't find them attractive.”
#9
Was a bartender for over a decade, watched a guy leave the bar to use the bathroom, the girl he was with( first date) said to me,“ how many times do I have to bring a date here for you to finally hit on me?” I told her I was engaged and have zero interest , the guy was otw back from the bathroom and overheard her say that, proceeds to lose it on her in front of everyone, which is understandable, and they both scream at each other and leave the bar, that was their first date, and I have not seen anything worse since.
UpQuarkDownQuark (he/him) 1 year ago
How about go there without a date and stop playing stupid games?
Cat Chat 1 year ago
Yeah. I mean, she's basically mad at him for being respectful to her being there with a date. If she was interested, but not brave enough to say anything, then show up with your bff and make it obvious they are there to shop around. She could even have her wingman say something to the bartender for her. 🤦♀️
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Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
Not sure whether I feel sorrier for the bartender she's very close to sexually harassing while he's on the job and can't be as blunt with her as she deserves or the date(s) being used as an excuse for her to goo-goo eye the bartender.
#10
So I’m scrolling looking to see if I recognize myself in a story. I was in a bar with a former Marine on our 3-4 date. He’d taken me shooting earlier in the week. I don’t even know how the conversation started, but it ended with him screaming that I needed to learn to shoot left handed because if I was shot in the right arm, how else would I be able to defend “our family”?! We barely knew each other and there was no family. It was so painfully awkward paying the bill. I had to ride home with him but never answered a call from him again.
Game Guy 1 year ago
No! If you stand during the national anthem that just makes you a bigger target and then how are you going to protect your family?
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JNDauterive 1 year ago
Ha ha ha. This reminds me of being a single woman in Alaska some years ago and wondering “ What is the DEAL where all the guys want you to shoot their guns?! I mean, I did (yawn) but wondered what the appeal was supposed to be.
Khall Khall 1 year ago
If you can't field strip an m249 saw blindfolded are you even trying in life? What will you do when the zombies come for your children? Do you have a backup box or bandolier of ammo? What if you run out? She needs to stop being so weak and defenseless and cowboy up. Every moment in life could turn into the plot of an action movie at any time. Be ready or be zombie/alien/supernatural entity food. Weaklings.
Barong 1 year ago
Perhaps because I live in a safe area, or one don’t make enemies, naive, or perhaps because I’m just perpetually optimistic, but home invasion and shooting people rarely crosses my mind and isn’t a fear I have. I really think I enjoy people, neighbors and life better because of it. Now seagulls, that’s something I’d worry about. The purposely s**t on people. I’ve had it happen on 3 separate occasions.
#11
I was witnessing what seemed like a great first date. So well they started making out at the bar. He had long hair but a 5 head and bald spot. His hat came off in the heated moment and I saw the look on her face.
I saw her weeks later and she used the phrase "hat fished" and I'll never forget it. Still feel bad for the dude, he was super nice and paid for everything.
Helen Mary Mutch 1 year ago
I dunno, if you're suddenly turned off by something do you really have to keep going? So the other person doesn't feel bad? F*CK THAT! I'll be polite as I can, but gone are the days when I did something I didn't want to cause my partner might be hurt.
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Don Johnson 1 year ago
People are defending her yet if this was a story about a guy rejecting a woman due to her weight he would be demonized.
Gaerwing 1 year ago
I mean a woman's weight isn't suddenly going to be revealed mid make out session though is it?
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N. 1 year ago
It's not cool when people misrepresent themselves in their photos. I think bald is sexy but the long hair with a bald patch like Gallagher?? That would turn me off too. I'd be polite and finish the date but I wouldn't want to see that every day.
Don Johnson 1 year ago
Okay so do you think she has no makeup on in any of her photos? If she does, she was doing the same thing.
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Saphyre Fyre 1 year ago
She is superficial. They were having a great date, so their personalities/souls worked out well so far. But something that has nothing to do with personality....I am quite sure he would have a full head of hair if he could choose...and she bails. He dodged a bullet.
София Харитонова 1 year ago
This wouldn't happen if the guy didn't attempt to hide his bald spot. Stop blaming the woman, guys, really. No one should pretend they like something they don't.
Five Years 1 year ago
Just being bald or balding is a little embarrassing. We were playing a pickup/ mixed age softball game. I picked up a grounder and tossed it down to first base but my cap came off right in front of a ten year old girl. She pointed at my bald head and just laughed away. So many years later and I remember that.
The expert emphasized that it’s important to think certain things through before going on a first date and to be honest both with yourself and the date.
“The key thing is to be very clear with yourself about your purpose for dating. Are you dating for fun and nothing serious? Or, are you dating to attract your spouse or serious long-term relationship? Once you know exactly what your intention is for dating, you gain confidence and can openly and honestly express what you're dating for.
“This is a very important thing to discuss on a first date and if possible even beforehand through an initial video call. Why waste time? If you are dating to attract your spouse you're not going to want to go on a date with someone who is recently divorced and not looking to get serious,” she pointed out.
#12
I've been bartending for 20+ years and have seen A LOT of bad first dates but the one that will always stick out to me was the guy who had his mom vet his date for him. Like he was there at the other end of the bar but she had to sit and meet his mom first. They were the only 3 people in the bar at the time so it was suuuuuper awkward. I pretended to watch hockey but I was so intrigued I was eaves dropping the whole time. The poor girl seamed so lovely that she was too polite to just bail out of the situation so she actually did it! I immediately knew something was f***y when she walked in and got stopped by the mom on her approach to him. The guy seamed so comfortable that it clearly was not the first time it happened. So f*****g weird.
Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
Nice of the guy to fly that big a red flag that fast so his dates don't waste too much time with someone who is nowhere near ready to date.
Ryan Mercer 1 year ago
Yeah, don't use parents or pets to vet FIRST dates. It's more then rude. It's a little disgusting. They didn't show up to date your mom or your dog. They have to WANT to meet them because the relationship is going well already. This does not lead to a second date, no matter how much your mom or dog might approve.
Mike F 1 year ago
You really mean I have to stop showing up with Sadie and my parrot on my shoulder? Dammit!
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tw 72 1 year ago
For her sake, I hope not. Those apron strings are tied wa-a-a-ay too tight.
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Mike F 1 year ago
Let them remain, that way she'll always be reminded of what a spineless mama's boy he is.
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Shawn Barry 1 year ago
He should just date his Mom. with a mom like that NO woman will ever be good enough
#13
Working at a craft beer bar, this guy asked me out right in front of his absolutely STUNNING date and kept winking at me throughout the night. She left, he did not get my number.
Farah the Turtle 1 year ago
*laughs so hard that I end up in hell (uh oh..)*
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viimatar 1 year ago
Was the bartender possibly male? (I'm not indicating that it would be somehow wrong to like one's own gender, just that this guy didn't really seem to have been attracted to his actual date at all. Why go on a date with someone if so? Let alone ignore the date and flirt with the bartender, instead. Douches come in all genders and orientations.)
Brittany 1 year ago
Back in the '90s and early 2000s, the pickup artist movement became more mainstream in the US. It encouraged men to present themselves as high-value while subtly putting down their dates. The idea was to make your date feel she wasn't good enough for you. It sometimes involved backhanded compliments ("negging") but could also include stuff like flirting with your server to make your date feel like you have options and she needs to act fast to get with you. Maybe this guy really liked the bartender, but he may also have been trying to appear more attractive to his date.
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Girl out with her friends ran into boyfriend who was supposed to be out with his friends...but was on a date. It turned into a whole thing in the parking lot.
Glen Ellyn 1 year ago
I will never understand people who do this. Yes, they are definitely cowards! If things aren't working for you, have the decency to end the relationship. Yes, breakups can be painful, but finding out that they were cheating on you is even worse.
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Margo Evans 1 year ago
lol a guy I was dating asked me to be his steady date, then he said he was too busy to go to a dance we had planned to attend. I went along and there he was escorting a different person. I walked up to him and poked him in the chest and said, “If anyone is going to have a harem it’s going to be me. Then i put him on ignore. He chased me for months but I never went out with him again. i do not put any effort out for liars.
“If you're both on the same page as far as what you want, then great topics are values-based topics,” Lisa Concepcion continued. “Asking open-ended questions such as ‘what was the last thing you splurged on for yourself,’ will give you a clear idea of how they are with money. Asking them how often they get to see their family will get you information on their family dynamic.
“It's very important to master communication and ask questions that encourage people to speak freely as you listen intently to gather data. Dating for data is all about engaging in meaningful conversation to learn more about the other person.
“It's also very important to have conversations about worldview, morals and values. You want to determine if you both are on the same page on important things that matter,” the expert emphasized.
#15
Was working a bar one weekday night. Woman comes in, orders a drink and sits at the bar. On the opposite end of the bar, a man comes in, orders a drink and takes a seat. An hour passes. They're sat in positions that block their view of the other. After an hour, I hear the man mutter, a f**k this, and put on his coat to leave. Heads for the exit near where the woman is sat. They spot each other, and realise what happened. Personally, if that happened to me I'd think it'd be very funny, but these two seemed annoyed with each other, didn't seem to talk a great deal and parted after about 45 minutes. The biggest question of all really was, why didn't either text their whereabouts to the other hahahaha? Surely they had communicated beforehand.
PandaGoPanda 1 year ago
I had a first date many years ago where we waited on opposite sides of the big stone pillars at the town hall for 40 minutes before we found each other. Had both been stepping forward to check a few times, just not at the same time. Pre-mobile phone days.
_physically_insane_(he/him) 1 year ago
How did the date go other than that? Better than the one described there?
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René Sauer 1 year ago
I once met a Girl in a city that was about 1 hour from me and 3 hours from her. I told her we would met at the model train at the train station. My City´s Train station had a model train, so I thought every Train Station had one (because that´s make sense, right?). Well, turns out this City didn´t. So is was there like " Damn, what now? I don´t have her number." So I walked around, looking, thinking. After a couple minutes I noticed a girl standing to the side, looking around, too. So I went to her and was like "Want some candy?" because for some reason I had some with me. Turns out it was indeed her and yay! We proceeded to explore the City and went to see a Movie, x-men 2, I think.
Tiny Dancer 1 year ago
So, just how often has this, "Want some candy?", line worked for ya, Rene? Just curious! ;-)
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I_imagine_even_worse_w***s 1 year ago (edited)
This could have ended in a funny story of how a couple first met! But apparently they weren't suited! Though considering both seemed passed at the situation instead of amused they seem quite alike.
Mimi M 1 year ago (edited)
I went on a first date. Sat down next to the guy who was in the spot he said he'd be and fit the description. Started up a charming conversation and ordered some tea. At some point I realized he was not the guy. The real guy (I called his number when I realized my mistake and explained and apologized, while laughing a bit) was not at all amused and stormed out. I sat with the new guy and finished my tea and we laughed together about it. I asked him why he hadn't said anything and he replied, 'a pretty woman comes and sits next to me, I'm not about to spoil it by saying anything'. I called the guy and apologized again but he didn't even answer - just let my apology go to voice mail. Funny story. Btw, actual date guy was the boss of a hedge fund, I don't think he'd ever had to wait for anyone and was used to ordering everyone around and having them defer to him. Ha.
michelle s 1 year ago (edited)
An ex colleague gave my address to his friend who sent me a valentines card and a date request And as i was young and sceptical about anybody fancying me I walked up to the meeting place, didn't recognise anyone I knew so went home. Ex Colleague phoned me the next day to say that I ditched his friend. Me and him arranged to catch up at the same pub and instead he tried to seduce me (ps was easily seduced as I had a crush on him). His friend I met up with and we just had nothing in common. Him I went to bed with and he could not perform and 10 years of hiding from him followed
Moosy Girl 1 year ago
This is my dad’s signature move, he did it to my mom on their first (blind) date and has been doing it to her (and us) ever since. However clear the meetup instructions, he’ll be there but standing somewhere unexpected and just out of sight, never moving. >.<
#16
Not bartender, but I was at a local red bird burger shop a week ago. Yum... My wife and I are just chilling with a couple burgers and beer, watching a game. A couple comes in and sits next to us in a booth. Clearly a 1st date, both in late 30s early 40s. Guy starts going on and on about himself and mid sentence, pushes his date out of the booth to stand, takes his hat off, and at full on attention, salutes the national anthem that just started at the game on the TV. He apologizes to everyone in the bar, (he is loud as s**t), and then tells his date that he's sorry, but as a former marine with buddies who died for the flag, he felt obligated to respect the anthem. Fair enough, I suppose. The woman ordered a salad. He then critiques her choice, and then orders the exact same salad while letting everyone in the bar, again, know that he has all the allergies and if he eats, smells or even looks in the general direction of a tomato, he is bound for the afterlife. He consumed his salad at Marine Corp bootcamp speed, and told everyone in the bar, again, that he eats fast because Marines. He then continues to talk about himself the entire time, all the while the entire bar is now enjoying this s**t show. The woman never said a word other than ordering her food and asking for a box. Turns out they rode together so the fun didn't stop after dinner. They rode off into the sunset in a mid 90s ram with no exhaust that would have garnered at least a participation ribbon at the County fair.
Salty_Sasquatch 1 year ago
Oh heck yeah. Also never never never let them pick you up at your house, way to get a stalker going. Meet neutral.
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Jerry Mathers 1 year ago
I'd put a twenty that this clown kept bringing up being a Marine so he get a "thank you for your service" from the rest of the restaurant.
TheElderNom 1 year ago
And the getting to fake being all modest about "just doing their duty".
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JNDauterive 1 year ago
I once had a date, my brother’s friend, that also spent the whole lunch talking about himself. I just kept paying out the rope, in awe, really, lol. I heard about his views, interests, habits, antidotes. Not one single question about me. And I just let him run with it.
#17
I was bouncing one night when there was a first date going on. (Was in earlier than my shift start time). His date went to the bathroom, he went up to the bar, pounded a few shots, then attempted to grope a woman sitting at the bar. His date walked out of the bathroom as I was hauling him out.
Five Years 1 year ago
I'll be back Babe just going to the car to get my rohypnol.
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Pani Trakovická 1 year ago
One of the etiquette rules is: "A gentleman should remove his hat as he enters a building, including a restaurant, home, classroom, theater, church." I am old school, so this would bother me first a bit.
While asking certain open-ended questions can help one get to know their date better, some topics are better left untouched on the first date. According to the certified love life strategist, they include complaints about work and your ex who is still driving you nuts, parents and friends.
“You don't want to treat a first date like a therapy session where you're complaining about what's wrong in your life. Avoid talking about how awful the dating scene is. Avoid talking about sex on the first date unless you are asserting a boundary. Sexual innuendo too soon gives off a predatory vibe. People want to feel safe.”
#18
There’s a bartender out there that probably tells people about the date I was on. Every day I suggested the guy had plans. We finally decide on a Sunday night, after I worked an 8 hour retail shift. I drove out of my way to meet him at the restaurant he chose. When I got there I texted to ask where he was and he said the bar. I had hoped for a table, but whatever. When I walked up he had 3 empty glasses in front of him. As soon as he started talking I could tell he was absolutely s**t faced. He admitted to drinking 2 bottles of wine before leaving his house. Needless to say, I was not impressed. When I asked if he drove, he said he took an Uber because I was going home with him and could drive. I hadn’t taken a break all day so I was starving and ordered an entree and a soda. He called me strange for not getting a drink. Then, when I wasn’t exactly thrilled to talk with a drunk, he kept saying “you’re so weird. Why are you so weird?” He kept trying to flirt with the bartender. She and I kept rolling our eyes. He finally got up to “take a p**s” and I asked for the check, paid, and left. He proceeded to blow up my phone calling me a n**ger lover and a wh*re. Super cool guy lol.
Anxious Aardvark 1 year ago
Unfortunately there are more than a few of them out there.
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Pandemonium 1 year ago
These are the men who make it so easy for plain dudes like me to look like princes by comparison. Thank you, you drunken racist misogynist fools
Lupita Nyong'heaux 1 year ago
ok, wait. i has confusion. why would he call her an N-word lover? who (and where) was the N-word in question? if she's black and he's white, then he is the NL; if she's white and he's black, he's calling himself an N-word. make it make sense...
kath morgan 1 year ago
Two bottles of wine to pre game is pretty impressive! But not in like, a good way.
Five Years 1 year ago
Maybe only one or two out of ten don't change personalities after crossing that line of intoxication. And almost always for the worse.
#19
I was a bartender HOWEVER, this date happened to me and I'm just throwing it here because I can. I was on a first date and things were OK. A little awkward but nothing beyond first date stuff. The woman had ordered a drink but by no means was tossed . I made the horrible mistake of asking about her family and the first thing out of her mouth was "Well I'm pretty sure my dad was an uncaught serial killer." She was the talker type and proceeded to tell me how he owned a cabin in the woods that was his man cave. Separate from the main house. Nobody was allowed there and nobody ever saw the inside. She said he brought her random jewelry after his trips to the cabin and she had to wear it nomatter if she liked it. I was horrified. I think she was just trying to be interesting but when she told it she was so nonchalant about it that it freaked me out. We never talked again after that date.
_physically_insane_(he/him) 1 year ago
Maybe her dad was a jewelry maker and the cabin was where he made jewelry but he was embarrassed about it or something
_physically_insane_(he/him) 1 year ago
I’d ask her to take me to the mancave and I’d look for bones
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#20
Dude said that he’s an Alpha like 6x times.
flower petals 1 year ago
Or a clue about how alfas, betas and that stuff isn’t even a thing among humans..
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ucp 1 year ago
Well, he claimed to be an Alfa, but was certainly no Romeo
Load More Replies... Don Johnson 1 year ago
Alphas aren't a thing. Wolves don't have alphas this isn't an episode of teen wolf
_physically_insane_(he/him) 1 year ago
Don’t you mean all alphas are incels?
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Andy Frobig 1 year ago
If there were such a thing as an alpha male, one pair of words he would never say is "alpha male"
Paul Brown 1 year ago
I'm always left wondering what is going on in these guys minds that they think proclaiming themselves as Alphas is impressive.
If you’re looking for more dating horror stories, we have quite a few in store for you; feel free to continue to this list of bad dates that ought to make you cringe or read about these dates that didn’t go well, or browse our romantic relationships category for more love-related tales.
#21
A guy pulled out a tech deck ( finger skateboards ) and was bragging that he was pro, showing tricks on the table. I felt so bad for the girl.
Sara Frazer 1 year ago
Hey, we all have our hobbies, at least she'd know he's good with his fingers!!/j (sorry, not sorry...XD)
ThisIsTheRealBruno 1 year ago
Plot twist: 20 years later, they're Mr. and Mrs. Tony Hawk.
Load More Replies... Ryan Mercer 1 year ago
Not everyone can feel comfortable so close to greatness. The fear of being eclipsed by someone else's talent makes for a bad first date. This is also why you should never pull out that guitar. Once they know you're a rock star, their insecurities set in.
EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇩🇿🇵🇸 1 year ago
So he's a pro at using a wee skateboard 🛹 with his fingers? I had to Google it to see what it was. A grown man playing with a toy on a date. He could have talked about it and maybe wait until the 4th date or something to whip the wee skateboard out.
Nikki Gross 1 year ago (edited)
I'm strange, because back when I still dated I really wouldn't mind if they were showing me something that they're passionate about. Plus, it would be great to see something different instead of the standard date and bonus points is that you know that they are good with their fingers. I'm Asexual, so I'm out of the dating pool, but even when I was younger that would have made you stand out from the other Men and Women and would at least be memorable.
Moosy Girl 1 year ago
Might work on me, depending how annoying the bragging is, those things are kinda cool and cute at the same time! (Had no idea this exists.)
Craig Reynolds 1 year ago
At least he didn't pull a bunch of Legos out of his pocket to build a skate park.
#22
I was a bartender at a restaurant. A 13 year old boy came in for his first date with a 13 year old girl. His mom brought them. She planned on getting them seated at the table and then leaving them alone to come eat at the bar herself.
The boy would not let her leave. The girl hinted multiple times about the mom leaving. The mom hinted about leaving too. He just ignored them. Finally, the mom says she's leaving to give them some privacy. When she tries to get up, the boy reaches out and grasps her arm and tells her not to leave.
They all sat there awkwardly at the table. One of the servers heard the girl in the bathroom on the phone making fun of how weird he was being about not letting his mom leave then.
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 1 year ago
Clearly at 13, this young man wasn't quite ready to date. I wonder why, he was so attached to his mother and so adamant she didn't leave him?
Con O Cuinn 1 year ago
Just normal anxiety. If it was something on the mother's part, she probably wouldn't have been willing to give them privacy.
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EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇩🇿🇵🇸 1 year ago
13 is quite young and maybe he was nervous and felt out of place and needed his mother. I think group activities can ease the tension of young people and instead of it being intense it can be fun and easy going.
Dan Holden 1 year ago (edited)
The first sentence: "I was a bartender at a restaurant"
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JNDauterive 1 year ago
How weird that this Mom would enable this awkward encounter. So kids need to DATE at 13? How about let them grow up and decide when they are capable of taking or getting someone for a date> If your logistics involve a parent, you are too young to go on “dates”.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
He’s 13. That seems a bit young to go on a “date”, even one with Mom sitting a few tables away. But maybe I’m just old XD
Load More Replies... Khall Khall 1 year ago
Funny how the responses to the story would change if the genders were reversed tho. Maybe he was weirdo. Maybe he had reasons.
Dave In MD 1 year ago
The first sentence: "I was a bartender at a restaurant"
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I was bartending at a causal fine dining seafood restaurant on a Monday night. An older man probably in his mid 60s comes to the corner of the bar and asks me for a glass of our “best red.” I give him the wine list and he selects the most expensive glass which he cannot pronounce. He tells me he’s waiting on someone as he sucks down the glass. He pays for it, and continues to wait. About 20 minutes later he orders another glass, and tabs out again. Roughly an hour after he got to the bar, a woman probably 10 years younger than him shows up. The man turns around and loudly says in a disappointed tone “wow, you don’t look anything like your picture!” She sits down despite his comment and orders a glass of house Chardonnay. I checked on them occasionally but neither of them wanted to order food. Every time I tuned into what they were saying I noticed that only he was talking and it was mainly about all his surgeries.
When a bar table freed up behind them, the man looked at me and said “we are sitting here and I am having dinner.” He stood up and sat down before she could even answer. When I brought menus over to them he pointed at something random, and she ordered a small pasta dish. He continued to only talk about himself, and showed her pictures of his ex wife throughout the meal. She barely spoke. Towards the end of the meal he looked at her and said “have another glass of wine.” She declined. He replied with “what do you think I’m going to do?! Take advantage of you?” And turned to wink at me. She pushed her plate away, and asked me for the check. Once the man said he was going to pay, she grabbed her purse and left.
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 1 year ago
Sounds like she definitely dodged a bullet, with this creep.
Tiny Dancer 1 year ago
Sometimes you just figure, hey, I got all gussied-up, I've listened to his litany of woes and operations, least I'm due is dinner.
Load More Replies... Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
I don't blame her at all for bailing out on this guy. I'd have probably bailed at the "greeting".
Slapdash1 1 year ago
Ah, but they didn't say it was 'casual,' did they? It was CAUSAL
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Sue Ellen Jensen 1 year ago
He sure as h#ll doesn't know anything about wine.
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Dude showed up an hour before his date and got hammered. Fell off his bar stool during the date at one point. She left with friends. Hard to watch. He seemed genuinely excited about the date when he got there.
Zoey Bear 1 year ago
Possibly was way nervous and drank to calm his nerves. I'm sure the nerves were back when he remembered it the next day.
Ephemera Image 1 year ago
Well, she dodged a bullet then. If he 'drinks to calm his nerves' he will probably reach for the bottle every time things get tough.
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#25
Her husband showed up and he was PISSED.
Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
Yeah, I'm on his side here. Also possibly the wife's date's side as well, depending on if the date knew the woman in question was not actually single.
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nottheactualphoto 1 year ago
To Elchinero: 1) Angry. b) Why are getting downvoted for asking a question?
#26
A younge man and woman walked in clearly on a first date. The woman proceeded to sit down on one side of the booth they were sat at. The man proceeded to attempt to sit down next to her, to which she got up and moved to the other side of the table. The man followed her again so he could sit next to her rather than across from her. When their menus were brought over (the food was predominantly Indian food) , the man proceeded to loudly proclaim that he ate indian food all the time and that he could never find a place that served it spicy enough. When the server returned, he proceeded to order for both of them (terribly mispronouncing both dishes I might add). When asked if they wanted Naan, he asked what it was before saying no. While waiting for their food, he continued to brag about eating all different kinds of spicy food and barely let her talk. When their food arrived, he was struggling to eat the food and was visibly sweating. Afterwards, they quickly paid the checks and left. I do not think there was a second date.
Katie Lutesinger 1 year ago
You should always eat curry with Naan. In fact, invite the whole family!
Sarah 1 year ago
Went to an Indian restaurant and asked for bread. There was Naan.
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Katie Lutesinger 1 year ago
Especially garlic naan! There used to be this place here that made garlic naan to die for, prepared fresh right there in their little food court shop, and you could tear pieces off and dip it in your equally amazing butter chicken and *incoherent Homer Simpson drooling noises*
Load More Replies... TotallyNOTAFox 1 year ago
Ah, the irresistible trait no woman can withstand - Being able to eat spicy food! /s
Rafael 1 year ago
I almost turn gay myself when I see a dude eating mildly spicy food, 'tis a powerful aphrodisiac!
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myyke haak 1 year ago
weird, but i dated 3 guys who insisted on sitting next to me instead of across the table when dining out. it felt super awkward. all 3 ended up being douche canoes. 🛶
Sarah Pryde 1 year ago
i LOVE indian food, but i am "weak" when it comes to spicy level.....most places will cater to the low-spicy palate
#27
Some douchy guy came in and proceeded to hit on me and was super cocky in how he was amping himself up. Said he was waiting for his date to show up. She was a pretty but shy girl and it looked like the first time they were meeting. He proceeded to act like he was such a hot commodity and she was lucky to be on a date with him. Talked about how rich he was, how hot his exs were and what a good lover in bed he was. Made comments about how i was pretty right in front of her etc. made both of us extremely uncomfortable we both didnt bother to laugh or entertain. Sadly she seemed upset because he was critisizing everything about her. I shot him dirty looks all night and he tipped less than 10%. funny enough he came back a week later with a conventionally pretty girl and all of a sudden acted like he was sophisticated and classy. Acted very mature and she looked like she didnt even want to be there. I noticed him catering to her every need like offering to buy her anything she wanted and buying an expensive bottle of wine. Absolute garbage of a man.
JNDauterive 1 year ago
I’m still wondering about the difference between pretty but shy and conventionally pretty.
🩶🩷Marvin HoG🩷🩶 1 year ago
If I were the waiter I would have casually enquired about the last date and if he has mentioned how "lucky" this one was to be on a date with him yet
#28
It was a few years ago. They were hanging out at the bar, she was excited and they were chatting happily. They were classmates who hadn't seen each other while Covid lockdown was happening and clearly over the isolation. She went to the bathroom and he looks at me, sighs and says, "it's rough out there" He was faking all the interest in their whole conversation and left with her to get laid. Ugh. Gave me such 'ick' that he was so good at humoring her despite his entire lack of interest.
Anna Ekberg 1 year ago
If he had warned her would she belive him? Would you if a total stranger warned you about someone you know?
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Jane Hower 1 year ago
Often all men want is a romp in the hay - they don't care about the woman at all.
JNDauterive 1 year ago
Wow. Just wow. Sigh. I worked a nontraditional job with thousands of men. It’s how they think 99% of the time. I once told my boyfriend, "I know when guys are chatting with me they’re thinking about" ... “f*cking you”, he finished my sentence. ... .Actually, I was going to say, “thinking about me without my clothes on” but, uh, out of the mouths of babes - and men!
tw 72 1 year ago
Actually, I appreciate that he didn't embarrass her and he just played along. Be polite and just don't have a second date.
Lupita Nyong'heaux 1 year ago
if i'm interpreting the story correctly, the bartender is saying the guy was only showing interest in order to get laid, and apparently, it worked because they left together. guy is a massive a*****e.
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Erla Zwingle 1 year ago
Well, you know -- plenty of girls do the same. I mean the "humoring despite entire lack of interest." PLENTY of girls. And so it goes....
#29
Not a bartender but I remember I was eating at the bartop and there was a date going on beside me. I eat alone a lot and work long hours so I was watching TV. This dude interrupts my me time to ask me what he thought he did for a living pointing out how clean his hands were. "Oh IDK an accountant" there's infinite jobs you can do with spotless hands. Then he went on like a 15 min rant about how he has the best job in the world as a scrub nurse and how every day he gets to see naked women which is extremely creepy knowing he's talking about unconscious women about to be cut open... She noped out of there shortly after and I told him he's delusional thinking that he has the best job.
funkybluegirl (she/her) 1 year ago
This is exactly what I came here to say.
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Lutz Herting 1 year ago
Soooo - am I the only one who would have answered "I don't know. Porn actor?"
#30
I assume he was a finance bro. He did a line before she came, only noticed because he was rubbing his nose immediately when he came back. Told the girl that he’s on a biz tear and that if she plays her cards right she’ll get a YSL BAG. then proceeded to tell her that he wants to do c*ke of her t*ts. Needless to say she left and I laughed.
LargeMarge 1 year ago
I like cake, I am willing to try that, and I am a woman.
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Jenna Kay 1 year ago
Expensive - Yves Saint Laurent (luxury brand) purse.
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#31
I was working at a bar in my town when i was 22, some dude and this hot chick come in and ordered a few drinks, basic stuff but then after a while he got real drunk and intoxicated and starting throwing a hissy fit, The owner which we'll call Tammy had to come out and kick the guy out. Few days later he came back apoligized and found out the lady he was going to date was a local gold digger, as he was complaining about it to his friend that lived next door he told Tammy "Thanks for kicking me out, might have not found out she was a gold digger if i hadn't have been kicked out" Then the man paid for the slight damages he caused to the bar seats and some dishes.
I_imagine_even_worse_w***s 1 year ago
Glad he did the right thing and came back and paid for damaged, even if it was a bit misguided considering he didn't sound apologetic just thankful he dodged a bullet! Still better than a lot of the a§shol3s here!
John Mosley 1 year ago
People that behave like this when they're drunk absolutely need to stop drinking. However, they seem to be the last ones to figure that out.
Ine Baetens 8 months ago
Don't call women gold diggers. If an insult applies only to women, not men, it's sexist. Like s**t and w***e. Just don't. Use a description instead. Just think of what you would say if the genders were reversed.
Ine Baetens 8 months ago
Don't call women gold diggers. If the insult is not used for both men and women, it's sexist. Like s**t and w***e. Just don't. Use a description instead.
Curry on... 1 year ago
Don't people who really have gold hang out with other people who have gold?
#32
Not a bartender, but I went to a pub with my then girlfriend around six or seven years ago. Guy comes in and sits down at a small table for two. Waiter brings two menus and a pitcher of beer with two glasses, even though he's by himself. It's obvious he's waiting for a date. Over the next 60-70 minutes, he kept checking his phone more and more. He ordered his food, he ate probably half of it. Around 90 minutes after arriving, he realized he'd been stood up and just started ordering what looked like jack and cokes. Powered through about seven or eight of them, while just staring blankly at the wall. He paid his tab, got up and stumbled out and walked down the street. Felt really bad for that dude.
#33
I actually knew the girl from several years back, only realised after the fact after she'd left.
Her and her date seemed to get along ok at the start, but after about half an hour neither of them seemed to be talking. For another half hour they kinda didn't say much, looking at their phones a lot until the guy literally just got up and left. She decided to just take out her laptop and work on some Photoshop project for a while before heading off.
cerinamroth 1 year ago
A date with technology, not with a person, though.
Load More Replies... Lutz Herting 1 year ago
How is that a "worst first date"? It sounds like "Ah, well - didn't work out for either of us. Let's just end it here and enjoy the rest of our nights." That's not a worst date, that's a completely normal "turns out we're not compatible, ah well, hope you find the right one for you" date.
#34
They were talking about the angel shot/cocktail and it's implecations. Both knew what it was. She ordered it in front of him. He just got up and left. She ordered a pound of wings and cried while eating them.
eric p 1 year ago
Angel shot/cocktail= something you order to let the bartender know you're on a bad date or the person is being creepy/handsy/scary
#35
Not a bartender, but I order some hot wings with ghost pepper sauce from one.
As he watched me eat the first wing, he told me about the last guy who had ordered them. It was a young guy in a suit who was clearly on a first date with the girl he brought along. The guy boldly ordered the ghost pepper wings trying to impress her, took a couple of bites, got up without saying a word, and walked off. After 30min or so, the girl realized he wasn’t coming back and angrily got up to leave… but the bartender had to stop her and reminder her that she still had to pay for the wings.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
*grabs a wing in her teeth and dashes under the sofa to eat it*
Amy S 1 year ago
Has any woman in the world ever been impressed by a man eating very spicy food on a first date? Why is this a common thing?
Ryan Mercer 1 year ago
Real men know what a woman is looking for: finger skateboard tricks!
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#36
I saw an uptight dude with what amounted to almost a hippy chick. Our place had a thing where we would cut off your tie if you wore one in the establishment (we'd give you a free drink). It was just something neat to do to say work time is over. Well, this dude was in a suit and tie, when I came over with the giant scissors, he freaked out. He thought I was joking, and she was laughing her a*s off. He decided to take off his "$150 silk tie, a*****e" instead of getting it cut off. She thought this whole charade was the greatest thing ever. I did my usual spiel offering food and specials, and he was rather indignant, all but mansplaining to me how he's here with a purpose, which just made her burst out laughing again. They ended up getting dinner, and more drinks, she was really into him for a while, or at least looked that way, but as the night went on, her body language definitely changed. I'd bust in with new drinks or whatever when they looked like they needed something. I'd make her giggle, and he had no sense of humor, it was such an odd pairing. Throughout the night, I did see him smile, and he was a handsome dude, but he was tight as a frog's a*s. After about 90 minutes to 2 hours they had worked up a $140 tab. He decided to close out, I give him the tab, he frowns, I already know I'm not getting a tip. He ends up tipping like $20, so about 15%, so not bad, really. At least he didn't pull out a calculator to figure out the tip (this was long before cell phones, much less smart phones), he seemed like that type of dude., So I did get a tip, albeit a small one. At least from him, his date left me a $50 bill and her phone number. Man, do I miss being young and skinny.
David 1 year ago
"So I did get a tip, albeit a small one." This is part of what is wrong with tipping culture in the US. Gives 15% tip, server gripes it is small. When I was young, 10% was pretty standard. Now if you don't give 20-25% you are somehow stingy.
René Sauer 1 year ago
And what was the deal with that "cutting of ties"? Since when is it okay to damage the property of other people?
Lost Penny 1 year ago
The whole 'cut off your tie' thing made me think of Timber Mill in Frasier. "Timber!!"
ANTIVICTORIA 1 year ago
How does someone mansplain to another man? And before cellphones means, over 20 years ago? I did an inflation calculator and that tie is worth $317 in 2024. He's TA for taking off his $300 tie and not letting you cut it, while you and his date mocked and laughed at him the whole time? And he STILL gave you an appropriate tip? On his (calc) $296 bill. And she could afford a $50 tip but didn't offer to split the bill? Poor guy.
#37
Not a bartender but right there. I was at a mom and pop shop. It had a stone fire pizza oven and the pizza station was right behind the racks for the alcohol. Some dude game in with an Italia shirt on and made sure to sit at the two seats that are three feet from the pizza guy (me). This guy was super Italian American and it was clear that was his whole personality, he looked and talked like a side character in the soprano's. They both ordered pizzas and he just sat there and talked about how traditional this pizza was and the art behind it (I had been working there for 2 weeks and had never worked a stone oven before that, also this is a small shop in the middle of Boston, and Cape cod, so not traditional at all, the owner and chef weren't Italian at all). The girl was clearly pretty shy and reserved and didn't say much. I was uncomfortable and I wasn't on the date. Eventually they ate and the guy asked if they should go back to his place. She just very shyly said that she would wait for a ride from her friend. He had already paid he got a bit upset by this but tired to play it off as her wanting to take it slow. As she waited alone I slid her a free garlic bread (I felt bad and I couldn't do much but it was something).
Ryan Mercer 1 year ago
Italian men are easily distracted with garlic bread.
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The one I can distinctly remember involved her using the phrase "my ex" three times in the first five minutes.
Ryan Mercer 1 year ago
Never talk about your ex. Your date didn't show up to give you closure. You have to find that on your own.
Sue Ellen Jensen 1 year ago
Can you make sure some my past dates get that message, please?
Load More Replies... TotallyNOTAFox 1 year ago (edited)
The People's Republic of China called, they want their red flags back
#39
Ex showed up to the guys date, sat down while they were eating and introduced herself and started flirting with him in front of her.
The guy had friends there and they all could not believe it you could hear a mutual wtf being said when she walked to their table
The ex was pretty hot and was a Miss World Runner up.
He left with the ex lol.
Holly Whittle 1 year ago (edited)
The first time my ex left me (yes I stupidly had him back) we had been separated 6 months. I had been devastated after being together 14 years married for 4 and two kids when he out of the blue informed me he hadn’t lived his youth and was off to do that. After a heartbreak diet (I wasn’t big to begin with) a new hair dye and good friends dragging me out we bumped into him and his friend at a bar. As we exchanged pleasantries he kept looking over my shoulder, his friends girlfriend and her friend came from the bathroom over. I said ‘oooh you’re on a date, hi I’m his wife’ and held out my hand. He just about died. I feel sorry for the girl now but I was so hurt. I proceeded to allow his arch rival at high school to buy me drinks all night. Funny to look back on now but embarrassing that I cared so much about a wife beating loser!
Ryan Mercer 1 year ago
Pretty people playing games. "I'll leave you!" Ha! I left you already. "I'll show up at your date!" Ha! I wanted you to!
#40
Best worst was the one where she went home with me instead.
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
Picture is typical. She looks like she took great care getting dressed for the date, and he looks like he just rolled out of bed after sleeping in his clothes all night. Do better guys.
Don Johnson 1 year ago
So a woman out on a date with a man went home and slept with the bartender instead? Dude on the date dodged a bullet.
Erla Zwingle 1 year ago
So the conclusion from all the men is that the guy looks fine. Whatever your opinion of each individual's appearance may be, it seems undeniable that she made some effort and he did not. Make of that what you will.
Szzone aka Rottyintós Batman 1 year ago
Lol, no. First, this is a fụcking stock photo. Second, he made an effort. Freshly ironed shirt, washed and combed hair, freshly shaven. You make a subjective statement and then say that it's "undeniable". Let me break it to you, it's highly deniable. And also, checkered shirt is "no effort" now I guess. What patterns count as "effort"? Are stripes okay? Stripes aren't okay I guess, too funky. Polka dots? Now that's just silly. Oh well. He's doomed either way because she's just too perfect for putting on a simple black dress.
Load More Replies... #41
I can tell you mine. I got an unexpected divorce when I was 40, faithful for 20 years. Very first date off of Match decide to meet for drinks. She had a cute face, but very few pics and they didn't seem clear/recent. I show up to the bar and there are 20 coworkers from another department there for a happy hour. I say hey then take a seat at the bar. She comes walking in... barely. She was 5 ft nothing and 300lbs if she was an ounce. Like completely round. Her feet were oozing out of her shoes. Not fat shaming, but she was not my type and DEFINITELY didn't match her pics. She wasn't curvy, she was just morbidly obese. I have a drink or two with her to be polite, meanwhile my coworkers are staring at me. It was a miserable first date after 20 years.
Pyla 1 year ago
At least you stayed for a drink. She took a lot of guts to go out, remember that.
François Bouzigues 1 year ago
Fakes pics / old pics is a d**k move, no matter the gender.
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Con O Cuinn 1 year ago
Had this happen to me, but on top of being much much bigger than her pictures, she was also at least 15 years older. I was 22 and already thought she was in her early 30s, in reality she was older than my ma.
#42
Saw a guy trying to explain to his date that since dog natural body temperature is a bit higher than humans, it isn’t bad if dogs are left in the car during 98 degree weather.
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 1 year ago
I can possibly comprehend the argument, if a dogs average body temp was a bit lower than humans, but you should never leave an animal in the car in 98 degree weather.
#43
I'm not a bartender, but I did work tickets at house of blues. This night was a disaster. This younger couple walks in and I scan their ticket and they go down into the venue. About an hour later there is a slam and a rush of people and yelling at the bottom of the steps. It took two of our biggest security officers to carry this girl up the steps. She had fallen asleep drunk at the bar, fallen out of the stool, slamming her head on the concrete in the process. They get her onto the couches and as they carry her up she is just projectile vomiting everywhere. Sitting there on the couch vomiting over the side. She tries to get up and presumably find her date, but she slips in her vomit and lands belly first. Practically swan dives into it. Like a cartoon character she is slipping and sliding in her vomit trying to get up, puking more as she does so. Security finally gets her an ambulance and as they load her up she's just dry heaving onto the side. They carry her away, the show goes on and ends. Finally the date comes up and starts telling me what happened. This had been the first time they went out together. She got so drunk she was getting yelled at for passing out at the bar and causing a scene. The guy said he would not be calling her back for a second date.
I have so many stories from this place.
Also, don't sit on the stuff at house of blues. They sprinkle puke powder on it until it is dry and flakes off. Then they flip the cushions and repeat. Nothing gets cleaned. If you smell cinnamon, it's puke. It's always puke.
eric p 1 year ago
Even if it was the world's worst date, it messed up he didn't at least try to get her help. Getting that drunk on a date is a big NO, but it sounds like she had bad alcohol poisoning and that s**t can kill you
viimatar 1 year ago
Or she'd gotten a bad concussion, or even a brain hemorrhage in the worst case. Being drunk doesn't protect from getting seriously injured from head trauma.
Load More Replies... weatherwitch 1 year ago
That sounds overly dramatic for being drunk. I wonder if someone slipped something into her drink or the head injury caused that. Either way, I'm stunned ambulance wasn't called earlier 😞
Mike F 1 year ago
If you ever spent time working in a bar, you've seen it. Many, many times people "pregame" before they arrive since drinks at those kind of places are expensive. Oftentimes they are sober enough to get in the door, but 15-20 minutes in, the pregame shots kick in and they are wiped out. I don't ever remember ems being called, but I do remember a lot of pissed off friends carrying out the person who couldn't hold their mud.
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#44
My own! I bartended a bar in between other things I had going on at the time (25+ yrs ago). A pretty RN from the local hospital would stop in after her shift, she eventually asked me out. On a free weekend (first date) we went to another bar that had a band that night. She went full Elaine (from Seinfeld) dancing! Like, people got out of her way to let her dance her crazy s**t, which only fed her idea that people thought she was an awesome dancer!
Ryan Mercer 1 year ago
Couldn't process seeing someone completely comfortable with themselves and enjoying life on their own terms. Too bad, cuz dat s**t is mad infectious. I do hope she found someone fun to dance with.
Debbie 1 year ago
If she enjoys it and is dancing because she wants to, feels the music, why not? I can go all out dancing and I don't care if people think I'm a bad or good dancer, because I just want to DANCE. and people who are ashamed of dancing - I'm sad for them. Dancing is so much fun. Who cares what others think.
#45
Couple walked in, couldn’t get a table so they ate at the bar. Told me they were on their first date in random convo. Check back at one point after they had a meal and a third guy was talking with them. Seemed like the two guys were just chatting over her (she was sitting in the middle). I thought they were buddies. Turns out they had all just met too. Original guy went to bathroom or something because when I checked back she ordered their tabs. He comes back, they both leave together. Later in the night I notice that third guy still going strong. In the midst of him deciding if he wanted his tab or another drink he reads a text before answering me and all the sudden just says he will take another beer. Fast forward to last call and I catch that third guy with the first date gal making out at the end of the bar followed by him asking me if they will tow his car if he leaves it here as he was going to ride with her. While some may feel bad for the original guy, I say he clearly dodged a bullet. I dunno, don’t recall seeing either of those two first daters again.
Don Johnson 1 year ago
No the guy def dodged the bullet, this is trash behavior.
Load More Replies... #46
Both on their phones and zero conversation the entire time.
_physically_insane_(he/him) 1 year ago
Maybe they were because one was deaf and the other didn’t know sign language, or maybe one or both didn’t like to/couldn't speak in some situations, maybe they didn’t speak the same language and used the translate feature on their phones to understand what the other was saying. Idk though
Load More Replies... #47
Aw man I've seen a few. But there was a woman my age ( late 20's at the time) and an older man (50's maybe)meeting each other for the first time. He spoke but she was zoned out completely. The vibe from the two of them was all over the place. She wasn't even pretending to listen to the guy. After he paid and left, she stayed with me and flirted only to find out I'm gay lol We hung out a couple times and I found out she was in an open marriage and has her own sex themed podcast. She was cool it's just-- I almost feel that the meetup at my bar was a catfish situation.
ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago
Catfish? Sounds like she was meeting a potential sugar daddy, but just my experience.
#48
I can't say for certain that I am about to describe a first date but it is definitely the most memorable thing that I witnessed during my bartender years. I worked at a bar whose clientele was largely made up of first time drinkers and slightly more experienced drinkers that we tried to train into being great customers. The bar was across the street from a large university campus so fairly typical. I seated the couple who were in my estimation dry as a bone when I took their order of food and two pints. She was getting through her pint much faster than him and when her hand signal for a refill brought me back to the table I could see the guy was maybe 1/4 through his first. Maybe 5 minutes go by. I have my back to them, skimming the shelves for a bottle when over the din I hear "OooOoaaah-- F****N' GNARLY!". Turning around I see that the guy has his hand to his mouth and is just rounding the corner out of sight towards the washrooms and back at the table there is an unhappy girl and a splash of vomit on the table along with the guy's pint glass being pretty much empty. I was starting to do the math... As I am taking this in, two dudes come around the corner from the washrooms saying "Some dude missed the bowls and threw up all over the bathroom!". I make my way to the bathroom. We had an outer and inner set of flapping doors that created a little gap of a hallway before the main bathroom. There was barf on the floor in the gap and a streak of it across the inner door. I push past to find the guy inside cleaning himself up. I am down one server and have zero time to deal with this so I push a roll of paper towel into his hands and say that he and his date aren't leaving until he cleans up his business on the floor and doors and back at the table. Yes I can see that you are likely sober, however your puke is all over my bar. I assume he felt he had to keep up with the girl's pace and tried to casually pound back the 3/4 pint. It did not agree with him. I felt for him but I was also not touching that puke when the chits were piling up. The girl paid while the guy finished wiping up. Neither of them had a "we are gonna laugh about this later" look on their faces on the way out. A teachable moment for all involved.
ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago
A bar for first time drinkers? That's a thing? Also, if we can drink we are women, not girls. Thanks.
Otto Katz 1 year ago
It's a bar across the street from university.So, for people away from home for first time, newly legal to drink for the first time. Just learning how to hold (or not) their liquor.
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Fellfromthemoon 1 year ago
Something does not add up. I've never heard that one pint of beer made anyone that sick. I suspect the food.
Seanette Blaylock 1 year ago
Awfully fast for it to be the food. I'm guessing he might have been iffy on arrival.
Load More Replies... #49
My mom was a waitress and was once waiting tables in the section next to a date that was going down in flames. she said she walked past just in time to see the man storming out and hear the woman yell after him, “and your mother’s a b***h!”.
Otto Katz 1 year ago
Maybe she's the one who dodged the bullet. I've had 2 b***h mothers in law, awful
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Guy watching sports more than being with the girl.
viimatar 1 year ago
Maybe find a girl who likes watching sports. I've been told that they exist.
Karen Lyon 1 year ago
They love talking about the game, too. I was one of those. I'm an old bag now, and not all that into the dating game at the moment, but I'd still enjoy a few hours in a bar watching some ball game or other with another fan.
Load More Replies... ThisIsTheRealBruno 1 year ago
And then they ended up going to Africa together, and got married. Go figure.
ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago
Can we please normalize calling women women. If you are dating and drinking you are a grownup. Not. A. Girl. Sorry, not sorry.
Amy S 1 year ago
I've certainly experienced this. There was no second date.
Load More Replies... #51
Whenever I was their most exciting part of their night. Otherwise they were sitting in silence just listening to the band.
Catlady6000 1 year ago
Sometimes, just sitting in silence, listening to a band is the best time. Honestly, if I ever date again, being able to be comfortably silent is going to be high on my list.
#52
I probably have a much better story for this but this is the only one that springs to mind: Saw a couple come in, one basic blonde Barbie type girl, dressed to the nines and all done up. The guy was a fairly bog standard Pacific Northwest Portland/Seattle dude in a flannel shirt with a beard and man-bun. They had clearly just met on Tinder or something and them sitting down was obviously their first in person interaction. I could tell the gal was skeptical immediately. But she was a good sport and gave him a shot. Within about 5 minutes of their butts hitting the seats she asked him to let down his man bun. Well, after some coaxing he let down his hair to reveal one of the most brutal looking bald spots I’ve ever seen. Think Fryer Tuck but choppy and patchy all the way around. Shiny on top and everything. She proceeds to “gently” laugh at him until he put his hair back up. I stopped paying attention to the their interactions after that cause that told the whole story. I mean I feel for the guy but like, don’t try to pull one over on people either. If you’re bald just embrace it and get on with your life. Hiding it like that just seems silly and leads to extremely embarrassing moments like this.
Laserleader 1 year ago
I think he embraced the man bun style, and it wasn't fair of her to demand it be shown in public. If you can grow luxurious side locks, but have a bald spot, you can choose how you want to look. Just don't leave any stringy hairs on the bald spot, it ruins the effect of cleanly coiffed hair.
Panda 1 year ago
That is so unfair. Would we judge a woman for hiding skin imperfections with make up?
PeePeePooPoo 1 year ago
My thought exactly! Imagine if he told her wipe down your makeup... We'd be calling him an a*****e.
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Ryan Mercer 1 year ago
Can you please remove your blouse? I want to see if your boobs are embarrassingly small so I can then laugh at you about it.
Tomato Smudge 1 year ago
I do know man buns can be harmful too depending on how it's done but the same can be said for, say, a ponytail. I don't know who dodged a bullet here if at all but good grief
Glasofruix 1 year ago
I'd rather go bald than trying to comb over or man bun the bald spot, some battles are meant to be lost.
Sinister Murder 1 year ago
I had a date once, who started every story that he had much better ones, but this is the s****y story that's going to be told. I left and I bet he told the good stories to the bar tender.
#53
One time my sister visited me at the bar I work at and I served two people on what seemed to be a dating app date. The girl seemed not into it, but was super friendly with me. As it got busier she started talking to a few people at the bar one of which being my sister. She ended up giving my sister her number to give to me before she left.
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 1 year ago
At least they're not calling us "females” lol
Load More Replies... #54
I guess it kinda depends on what you mean by 'bad', they did leave together at the end. Both got trashed over the course of the night, really vibing each other. The girl is working on the last bit of her drink when she vomits into the glass. Idk why, but that is the moment where dudebro decides to grab at her and go in for a kiss. A messy, sloppy drunken kiss full of vomit. Ugh.
Catlady6000 1 year ago (edited)
You and Don Johnson should compare "I Am Offended" notes
Load More Replies... #55
Gave Brad a close friend, (low alcohol tolerance) a pepperdraft. He was “feeling spicy tonight”. Right after talking to this cute girl, he faceplants right between her legs trying to get out of his chair! 😆 After that happened his impeccable drunken Scottish wisdom won her over. He somehow got her with “your a pot and I’m a pan, you know why? AM YOUR *GUH* I’M YOUR THE BURGER KINGGGG” anyways; The two get in bed and he “puked upriver”. 🤦♂️ Yeah I don’t want to talk about this anymore. Why did I even write this? Oh yeah now I remember. HE’S THE BURGER KINGGGGGGG (They also got married a couple years later).
Daniel Atkins 1 year ago
You know they have made up some overly romantic almost sickening story of how they met that they tell to everyone.
What do you think ?
The Darkest Timeline 1 year ago
Happily married for 21 years; would probably have a story here if I found myself single again. Dating sounds terrible, especially as you get older. So glad I have my wife!
Be_ Heard 1 year ago
Aww it's wonderful you talk about her like that! I'm so happy you guys have been happy for so many years 💓
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Joshua Moore 1 year ago
I have a few worst first dates for myself, but this one takes the cake. This is January 2017. I’m divorced after 11 years of marriage, 12 years together and going out in my first date in almost 13 years. She and I meet at a restaurant, after work, I’m understandably nervous and my phone is in my pocket, on vibrate. I’m tapping my foot a little bit, nervous energy I guess, the conversation is going well, we order and the food arrives. Because I’m tapping my foot, I don’t feel my phone vibrating 13 different times over the course of an hour. My ex-wife was calling me to let me know my mother had passed away just a few hours ago. My date gets up to go to the restroom, I check my phone and see I have 13 missed calls. I listen to the voicemails from my ex and hear the news about my mother. Needless to say, I told my date what happened and I needed to go. I was about an hour from home. Definitely a first date I’ll never forget.
Irishwoman abroad 1 year ago
Oh Gid, that's terrible, bad enough to hear it on the phone, without having to explain it to a date as well! I'm sure you won't ever forget it.
Load More Replies... Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
Read the relationship memes they've put up. Some of them will help.
Load More Replies... ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago
So the fact that most of these were about men and "girls" on dates. Come on. Woman isn't hard to use. And yeah, it might not seem like a big deal... but it is.
DC 1 year ago
Isn't "men" ond the same date as "girls" already ... somewhat suspicious? I'd assume that girl refers to an underage woman, so to say (or even younger), and that that's ... like, problematic, questioonable at least, unless the man in question qualifies to be called "boy" just as well.
Load More Replies... ADZ 1 year ago
Ok.so my worst date as a person om the date (lol the anonymity of the internet is why I'll tell it): Im.gay, went on a date with a guy, met online, bit clingy but he was attractive and fit (I was 20 so shallow and h*rny). I'm inside him (don't know each other well but young and such) tells me he loves me, i hear the door open, his grandmother (he said he lived alone, was her house) opens the door. In tje morning says lets buy a house together. 😬
John Nelson 1 year ago (edited)
Craziest first date was back in my late 30's. Things were going fine, and her cell phone rings. She says we have to go, her daughter's in the hospital. I'm expecting the worst, but as we drive to the hospital, she explains her daughter's having her baby. So I'm expecting to be sitting in the waiting room for a bit. Nope. We arrive, and are both wisked into the delivery room, where all the women in her family, aunts, mother, sisters, are gathered, chatting, knitting, and just having a grand time. I'm the only guy there, and let's just say I was put in a position to see everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING! She was doing a natural childbirth, so I got to hear everything too. The obstetrician even offered to let me cut the cord, assuming I was the father. (I declined) Shortly after it was over, the father finally arrived, having been at work and driving a long way to get there. He, along with the family, thanked me for standing in for him! It was pretty surreal, but memorable!
Tempest 1 year ago (edited)
For my first date my now ex took me to a bar-restaurant. It was a Friday night and around 9 pm (he didn’t have a place figured out until that late). The place was jam packed with people drinking and smoking. You couldn’t see few feet in front of you cause the air was thick with cigarette smoke. And I’m someone who can’t stand smoking. He knew that all along. It was also so loud that we could barely hear each other. We ordered by ourselves and he proceeded to order additional side dishes for the table. It was stuff I enjoy eating but it was way too much food for us. We ended up having so much food packed up to take home. Then came the bill. He wanted to foot it but, hear me out, forgot his wallet at home. So I paid (I don’t mind but it was so embarrassing with him doing a whole show of forgetting in front of the server). Few days later he proceeded to sneak in some cash to me as his payment. I paid by phone and didn’t like carrying loose change which was what he paid me back with…
megasmacky 1 year ago
Thank you for reminding me that I was never happy until I finally accepted that I like to be alone all of the time. I get whatever social interaction I might need with my business, but the rest of the time it's just me and the cat. Life is good.
Nanci York 1 year ago
My BF and I have been together going on 16 years now. We me through Match and met at a restaurant for dinner, then when it got too loud we moved to a bar nearby. Had a great time, a couple of drinks and chatted for a couple of hours. We said our goodbyes and went home. The next day I had a message on Match from someone I didn't recognize. Very friendly and said that he'd seen me around and would I like to go out? It was the bartender! He had eavesdropped the night before and thought that it would be great to hit me up. Creepy as hell! Told my now BF and we got an uncomfortable kind of laugh out of it. Certainly memorable!
The Darkest Timeline 1 year ago
Happily married for 21 years; would probably have a story here if I found myself single again. Dating sounds terrible, especially as you get older. So glad I have my wife!
Be_ Heard 1 year ago
Aww it's wonderful you talk about her like that! I'm so happy you guys have been happy for so many years 💓
Load More Replies... Joshua Moore 1 year ago
I have a few worst first dates for myself, but this one takes the cake. This is January 2017. I’m divorced after 11 years of marriage, 12 years together and going out in my first date in almost 13 years. She and I meet at a restaurant, after work, I’m understandably nervous and my phone is in my pocket, on vibrate. I’m tapping my foot a little bit, nervous energy I guess, the conversation is going well, we order and the food arrives. Because I’m tapping my foot, I don’t feel my phone vibrating 13 different times over the course of an hour. My ex-wife was calling me to let me know my mother had passed away just a few hours ago. My date gets up to go to the restroom, I check my phone and see I have 13 missed calls. I listen to the voicemails from my ex and hear the news about my mother. Needless to say, I told my date what happened and I needed to go. I was about an hour from home. Definitely a first date I’ll never forget.
Irishwoman abroad 1 year ago
Oh Gid, that's terrible, bad enough to hear it on the phone, without having to explain it to a date as well! I'm sure you won't ever forget it.
Load More Replies... Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 1 year ago
Read the relationship memes they've put up. Some of them will help.
Load More Replies... ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago
So the fact that most of these were about men and "girls" on dates. Come on. Woman isn't hard to use. And yeah, it might not seem like a big deal... but it is.
DC 1 year ago
Isn't "men" ond the same date as "girls" already ... somewhat suspicious? I'd assume that girl refers to an underage woman, so to say (or even younger), and that that's ... like, problematic, questioonable at least, unless the man in question qualifies to be called "boy" just as well.
Load More Replies... ADZ 1 year ago
Ok.so my worst date as a person om the date (lol the anonymity of the internet is why I'll tell it): Im.gay, went on a date with a guy, met online, bit clingy but he was attractive and fit (I was 20 so shallow and h*rny). I'm inside him (don't know each other well but young and such) tells me he loves me, i hear the door open, his grandmother (he said he lived alone, was her house) opens the door. In tje morning says lets buy a house together. 😬
John Nelson 1 year ago (edited)
Craziest first date was back in my late 30's. Things were going fine, and her cell phone rings. She says we have to go, her daughter's in the hospital. I'm expecting the worst, but as we drive to the hospital, she explains her daughter's having her baby. So I'm expecting to be sitting in the waiting room for a bit. Nope. We arrive, and are both wisked into the delivery room, where all the women in her family, aunts, mother, sisters, are gathered, chatting, knitting, and just having a grand time. I'm the only guy there, and let's just say I was put in a position to see everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING! She was doing a natural childbirth, so I got to hear everything too. The obstetrician even offered to let me cut the cord, assuming I was the father. (I declined) Shortly after it was over, the father finally arrived, having been at work and driving a long way to get there. He, along with the family, thanked me for standing in for him! It was pretty surreal, but memorable!
Tempest 1 year ago (edited)
For my first date my now ex took me to a bar-restaurant. It was a Friday night and around 9 pm (he didn’t have a place figured out until that late). The place was jam packed with people drinking and smoking. You couldn’t see few feet in front of you cause the air was thick with cigarette smoke. And I’m someone who can’t stand smoking. He knew that all along. It was also so loud that we could barely hear each other. We ordered by ourselves and he proceeded to order additional side dishes for the table. It was stuff I enjoy eating but it was way too much food for us. We ended up having so much food packed up to take home. Then came the bill. He wanted to foot it but, hear me out, forgot his wallet at home. So I paid (I don’t mind but it was so embarrassing with him doing a whole show of forgetting in front of the server). Few days later he proceeded to sneak in some cash to me as his payment. I paid by phone and didn’t like carrying loose change which was what he paid me back with…
megasmacky 1 year ago
Thank you for reminding me that I was never happy until I finally accepted that I like to be alone all of the time. I get whatever social interaction I might need with my business, but the rest of the time it's just me and the cat. Life is good.
Nanci York 1 year ago
My BF and I have been together going on 16 years now. We me through Match and met at a restaurant for dinner, then when it got too loud we moved to a bar nearby. Had a great time, a couple of drinks and chatted for a couple of hours. We said our goodbyes and went home. The next day I had a message on Match from someone I didn't recognize. Very friendly and said that he'd seen me around and would I like to go out? It was the bartender! He had eavesdropped the night before and thought that it would be great to hit me up. Creepy as hell! Told my now BF and we got an uncomfortable kind of laugh out of it. Certainly memorable!
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