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Attracting someone of the opposite sex can be hit or miss. That 50-50 chance can make some people strive for perfection and obsess over things they shouldn’t.
Today, we’re talking about the things women unnecessarily dwell on to impress men—things that, in reality, only do the opposite. These behaviors range from the typical scenarios, like playing hard to get, to fixating too much on appearances during moments of physical intimacy.
These responses were from a few men who decided to get real on Reddit a few years ago. Scroll down to see what they said.
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#1
Fake eyelashes
They look like a cheap spider Halloween decoration is stuck to your eyelids.
Heffalump 4 hours ago
The right way to do them is to apply them to someone else, or the dog.
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keyboardtek 3 hours ago
My wife tells me there is a time and place for heavy makeup. A dark nightclub is where a woman uses more eye makeup, never for daily use.
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#2
A tan. After a certain point you just look like a leather handbag. Chill.
#3
I'm a woman but I think cellulite is a winner here. One of my boyfriends didn't even know what it was. I showed him pictures but the only thing he saw was butt.
#4
I would say all the makeup, nails and beauty stuff but I've realized that they just do it for themselves so fair play to them.
Crystalwitch60 39 minutes ago
HALLELUJAH THE MAN GETS IT !! Finally 🤷♀️how many decades did this take , wow who ever he is with ,he’s a keeper 👍
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
Some beauty stuff is important, although we (men) mostly don't realise it. That's the moisturiser and some hair products. It makes a huge difference, especially over the decades, and we don't even know it. I'm unusual as a man, because I moisturise, having acne problems. Combined with oily skin, I'm avoiding a LOT of wrinkles, especially around my mouth, as an ex smoker.
keyboardtek 3 hours ago
Most women do not realize that the current cultural beauty standards are created by men.
#5
Acting dumb to look cute...we just see it as dumb.
Howl's sleeping castle 6 hours ago
I absolutely hate when they start the baby talk. Unless it's coming out of a really baby, i have no idea how people don't find it yucky
Crystalwitch60 38 minutes ago
No no no no o L a y talk is for babies and fur babies ,NOT for men ICK ,
#6
Duck face.
#7
How their mid section looks during love-making. I've known a couple of girls who try to cover up their belly/love handles when it comes time to get down either by keeping their top on or hugging themselves. The truth is, if you've gotten that far, the guy more than likely doesn't care about the tiny bit of cushion you got there, he probably likes it.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
Definitely don't care about an overhang. Happy to keep it out of the way with my nose while getting down to business.... 😁
Stardust she/her 3 hours ago
I thought that some guys get turned off if they think the woman has extra fat there
Bumpuff 2 hours ago
Well that's their problem isn't? :) They shouldn't be getting naked with a woman if they can't handle her appearance.
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Luke || Kira (he/she) 33 minutes ago
As a midriff enthusiast - all shapes and sizes are perfect. Flat, chubby, curvy, ALL PERFECT and hiding it is like an angel hiding their wings.
#8
Lips. Collagen, botox, or whatever injections chasing some fake inner tube inflated dream when really they look grotesque. Thin lips look good. Big lips look bad look on everyone and it confounds me that people do it to themselves.
Stardust she/her 3 hours ago
Big lips look like you’re having an allergic reaction when they’re not a natural feature of your face
Crystalwitch60 29 minutes ago
Well we can try , as a woman even I’d ask em why the hell they messed up their bodies so much vanity is so shallow , no one likes it do they ,
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 30 minutes ago
From a woman. I 100% agree here !, it’s awful looks awful , makes you look vain high maintenance, n no man wants that !
#9
It’s nice if you sit down and watch the football with me, but if you’re doing it just to impress me with fake interest, I would rather you be genuine and do your own thing and join me after.
Earonn - 1 hour ago
How does OP differentiate between 'fake interest' and "he loves it so much, I'll have a look and share it, even if it's not totally my thing"?
nicholas nolan 16 minutes ago
You can't tell when someone is feigning interest in a topic?
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 34 minutes ago
Erm no way in hell am I ever watching bloody football or sports with any man , bar rugby (a real man’s game lol ) or horse racing n show jumping n F1 oh n can’t forget super bikes 😋other than that forget it , 100% not football over paid pansies as only need to get tapped n they scream blue mu r d e r , n are off all season, whilst getting paid stupid money 🤬while our forces get paid peanuts to fight , n face death constantly !did I mention I don’t like football 😂
#10
I once had a female roommate tell me that men loved it when she acted all helpless around them,as it made them feel like like protectors or somesuch.
When she demonstrated, at my request, I shuddered in disgust. Maybe some men like it, but I understood that day that I really like independent women who don't need me. Makes it clear that they're with me because they want to.
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 4 hours ago
Yep. I want a strong, independent woman, not someone who is helpless without me. I have three stepdaughters and a stepson, and I've made sure to *show them* when I fix things (change a tyre, for example) or cook things so they can do it themselves, rather than just doing it for them.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
Hah! My woman can fix my car, and do my decorating. I'm happy to cook!
Crystalwitch60 31 minutes ago
Lmao il do the car the diy , oh and sorry ITS MY KITCHEN ! pfft. 😂😂
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 31 minutes ago
Yeah pass ,I am a strong independent woman , and I am not being a thing other than who I really am end off ! Being that pathetic helpless idiot is ikky totally , and only ends up you be controlled used dumped lol dint be little yourselves ladies BE YOU ALWAYS ❤️
#11
Married dude here. My wife makes a big deal about apologizing for having hairy legs. It doesn't bother me in the slightest, but she definitely thinks it does. I'm very surprised I didn't see this higher up in the comments.
If it is for her, then shave away, but I imagine it is incredibly tedious. I cannot even fathom how much time it would take to shave my legs.
Crystalwitch60 28 minutes ago
Tell her from all us women on here (think I can speak for us all ? ) she DOES NOT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING SHE DOESNT WANT TO , less so if you actually don’t mind either bless her ,and thank you for loving her for exactly who she is x
dean tirmizi 2 hours ago
I am 70% bald and shave my head every 4-5 days. i do it cos I personally hate the way it looks when there is hair and like when its shaved. Women do ye feel the same or do you shave your legs as its beauty standard
#12
I'm a girl... but my friends do this; constantly being late and thinking that it makes them 'cute' somehow.
emorinelli49 8 hours ago
Oh god I hate that! I’m 76 and when I was a young hippie girl, I wasn’t “into time”, so I never wore a watch. I just planned my day for one event to run into the other and I’m rarely late, even to this day.
Rali Meyer 3 hours ago
late will make them miss the train/boat/flight. What's cute about that? Would look cute -... I mean dumb
Crystalwitch60 27 minutes ago
Eugh to be early is to be in time , to be in time is to be late … to be late JUST WONT DO , I CANT stand it either m be if from men or women or who ever .
#13
Those effects that they add to their pictures or videos, like hearts added to make themselves seem more cute. Instantly walk away.
Power puff scientist 6 hours ago
General obsession with taking photos. Girls who go somewhere and need to take dozens of pictures of themselves, they need to be evaluated, redone, then spend time during the date photoshopping them. Or need to wait before they can eat food because the table needs to be remodeled for her food pictures.
#14
I don't notice the shoes. Maybe I notice how they posture you, but I certainly don't notice designs or brands. Same with handbags/purses - but I do think the utilitarian "about to go on an adventure" ones are kind of cool.
I've been told that those are status things intended to be seen by other women, though.
Rali Meyer 3 hours ago
i recently learned what a Hermes bag costs... And I still don't know what it looks like
#15
The whole “playful but hard to get” act. A lot of guys are into it but I personally that’s a huge turn off. I can’t read mixed signals, anything mixed I read as a “no”. And quite frankly I don’t have the time or the patience to figure out someone who’s probably not even interested in me. No wonder I’m single.
Luke || Kira (he/she) 30 minutes ago
I guess it's an unrealistic expectation, but... I'd just love to experience a relationship where we meet, become friends and gradually realize we're no longer able to be without each other - no stupid games, tests, tedious courting.
Crystalwitch60 25 minutes ago
Actually playing hard to get is a turn off on both sides , it’s playing games n playing games is childish in a relationship! Dont do it ,
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago (edited)
Same. I probably missed a lot of opportunities over my lifetime because of this, but can't help thinking that those opportunities might have been mistakes for me anyway!
#16
The cosmetics are fine, because I know it can give a woman a confidence boost, but i could take it or leave it. Now if there is no personality, or they are inconsiderate or racist it’s over.
#17
Please don't do lips augmentation, in 99,9999% of cases girls look worse after and we couldn't care less.
#19
ITT: tons of things men assume Women do to impress them and not just because they like looking cute.
#20
I used to fly small, single engine planes a lot. I took a girl with me once and she was self-conscious about her glasses and didn’t wear them and subsequently couldn’t see anything past the instrument panel and it was a beautiful fall day and I flew over Letchworth State Park.
I knew she had coke-bottle glasses and I was still super-interested in her. I lost interest because she was too self-conscious to get something out of a thing I loved and wanted to share with her.
Rali Meyer 3 hours ago
do the goggles not fit over the glasses, or a diver mask? (serious question)
Ace 1 hour ago
One would not normally be wearing goggles in a light aircraft.
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I'm probably older and more married than most in this thread, but my wife seems obsessed with the idea that every woman in my family has to just think she is the best.
I get it. She's from a very tight-nit, rural family. Even extended family members like cousins are very close. When someone in their family is offended by something, they get really sassy with each other and backstabby. An example might be someone didn't get invited to go on a camping trip, and feel like they should have been invited, now they won't show up to the next thing out of spite. Mind you, these people get together like twice a month minimum. They are all up in each other's business all the time.
So my wife is super afraid of not being liked in my family. She's terrified that if we don't go to something, or we don't buy a nice enough gift, etc, that she's going to shunned or something. But my family isn't like that. We all live in different cities and rarely see each other. We're just happy to see each other, the few times a year we do. We don't usually sweat stuff like that.
But I think she still believes that she's letting me down and being a bad wife if all the women in my family don't just adore her. The thing is, they do. They have all loved her from the very beginning because she's great.
#22
Trying to be/act sassy and stuff like that. Not only do most men not like it, but they really dislike it too. It makes them feel like they’re raising a spoiled kid, not being with an equal partner.
#23
My partner and I were watching telly and there was a commercial for Dove deodorant. He looked over and told me that he’d never thought about my armpits. It was very romantic.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
It's romantic not to think about your partner's armpits? I guess.....
#24
The majority of things listed here are done more for a woman's confidence in her self, and less for actual attention from a man. The fact that the term "dad bod" is a celebrated term, while "mom jeans" is not should be proof that men (some of you) are great at being comfortable in their own skin, while women (even after we manage to nurture and produce a tiny human) still place too much value on our appearance over reality.
Studies have shown that men have truck loads more confidence than women (we love that you guys do! It is super attractive!)... Is it really so bad if we try to boost our own confidence artificially? I'm Not being judgmental by any means. I am genuinely curious, since men dislike our beauty rituals, but also dislike women who lack confidence. What's the guy secret to unwavering confidence? Is it a case of fake it til ya make it? Inquiring mind(s) want(s) to know. LOL.
nicholas nolan 10 minutes ago
THANK YOU! Applying new b******t negative meanings to pre-existing things is getting old.
Load More Replies... Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
I think it's because most women don't worry too much about body style/type. Men, however, seem obsessed with it. The source of confidence or lack is probably the other gender, in my opinion.
#25
These responses from guys saying women should be more natural, hmm ok.. but men are more likely to approach a woman who is dressed up... hair, makeup, nails, jewelry than one who isn't
Edit: Sorry, didn't mean to offend anyone I was making a casual comment on a general observation. It seems most guys on Reddit prefer women with little to no makeup. It's been interesting reading responses.
#26
It’s 2020, ladies. Live for yourself. Don’t let men dictate what is good or bad (or other women for that matter).
#27
No man cares about your eye brows unless they’re joined together or you shaved them off. Filling your eyebrows into a half inch thick square of make up is only appealing to other women.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 hours ago
A woman's eyebrows don't fall under "necessary self-care". A woman doesn't have to pluck/neaten her eyebrows in order to "take proper care of herself".
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When they think not saying they are into me is a sign of intrest... I'm a dumb man, with no time to keep reading people. If you decline, ignore me and other stuff, I just don't care...
Had 3 girls once tell me why I didn't write anymore, or went harder. And simple isn't worth it, especially if you wanna do that in a relationship.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
Although I understand what the point probably is, OP is really bad at putting it across.
Rali Meyer 3 hours ago
Yes, OP means, send clear signals. Interpretations leave too much room for error
#29
Eyebrows. They get sooo much attention.
But that’s not all I browse.
#30
For any women reading this: Stop trying to outdrink me/any man you're into. Unless you're bigger than him (which isn't particularly common) you're just gonna throw up over his shoes.
Source: Have new shoes.
V 9 hours ago
Size isn't a reliable indication of alcohol tolerance. As a petite woman I have had to help many much larger men than me get home safely even though we drank the same amount. Lol.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
Yeah, not always. My woman can probably drink me under the table, even when I was an active alcoholic. She never seems to have an dependence on it, and actually rarely drinks. Occasionally she'll go hell for leather, though. I think it's because of a lot of drinking as a young adult.
#31
If a woman is interested in something men are its cool but i couldn’t care less if you do mx. its cool that u do it but dont think i love you because of it. see a lot of girls fall for this trap.
#32
Sports, I’m a big nerd myself and know pretty much nothing about any sport. But for whatever reason women who really try to I guess relate to me immediately default to talking about sports. I always appreciate their efforts in the conversation, but sadly couldn’t care less about sports so I quickly steer the conversation somewhere else.
Rali Meyer 3 hours ago
well, at least they have a topic! In my younger years, women complained us men only talking about cars. I asked for an alternative (vegan wasn't a topic then), no answer
Glix Drap 1 hour ago
The price of fish - although you might ask what that's got to do with it.
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#33
You're gonna get a different answer depending on who you ask, but I for one adore really tall women. Especially if they're taller than me.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago (edited)
I used to care. I did try to go for taller women because being tall myself I thought I'd be more attractive to them than someone shorter. Definitely didn't make a difference. Now I don't care about height. The person is way more important!
keyboardtek 3 hours ago
As a tall guy it would have helped my back if I had married a tall woman.
#34
Acting overly “cutsey”
Just act like your normal self. If you try too hard to be cute, you look exactly that, like you’re trying too hard. Just let your natural self flow and a couple guys will probably like you.
Ive known this girl try to act wayy too much like a cute anime girl, and it was so obvious she was copying the anime she watched to be “cute,” it was almost painful to watch.
#35
Turning off shows I don't like when she is watching then. I tell her I am gonna read while she watches it so I don't care.
#36
Coming from a guy who's preferred type is naturally pale redheads. Anything to do with tanning or make up.. Trying to change the complexion of your skin. Like why?
#37
Not a man, but my boyfriend told me men don't notice women's jewelry. I. Love. Jewelry. I don't wear expensive jewelry but have lots of interesting, unusual earrings. I get compliments from lots of women and I love them, but I can see how guys just shrug.
M M 4 hours ago
I think they like it, they just don't care what exact piece. Necklaces, bracelets and earrings are quite s**y, they just don't care if it's special unique piece.
keyboardtek 3 hours ago
Now if a woman has a guitar, a man will be interested in specifically the details.
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I seriously don't care if you can make loops out of vape . I just don't care.
#39
When girls lie about their height to seem shorter, like in 6'4. Idc of you're 4'11 or 5'9 you're short to me either way.
#40
Tan lines
Majority of my female friends obsess over tan lines and get super self conscious over them, but if I’m being honest I think most guys can agree that we do not care if you have a beach bod tan or a farmers tan, as long as your skin doesn’t look like you spent the last decade in a dark room, you’re probably fine.
#41
Bringing up and boasting too much about their accomplishments and trying to build a perfect image of themselves in an effort to mask their less ideal aspects of their life. Sure, a well rounded and accomplished person is always a plus, but they certainly don’t go out of their way to bring them up whenever they can just to boost their self-esteem.
#42
Heels. They make your feet hurt and if they don't fit properly, they can even cause damage and make your feet ugly.
It would be better for everyone if you wore tennis shoes instead.
#43
Just "looking good" or "i look to ugly to go in there" is dumb. Its a Walmart you don't have to look like a Hollywood wedding.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
I thought you had to look ugly to go to Walmart. Probably all the Walmart pics on the internet, though.... 🤣
#44
I must be weird, but I think a little bit of acne/braces/glasses are cute.
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
Well, acne not so much, but glasses and braces tend to be an all, or nothing proposition....
#45
When they think smoking is cool...it’s not.
Alex Meurissen 2 hours ago
If you are dating people who thinks 'smoking is cool' you are dating teenagers.
Rali Meyer 3 hours ago
it looks cool, but uninteresting to me. If not worse. Same as wearing birken-stock or adilette with white socks. A women buying cheese with her Ferrari or Cessna. Now THAT is cool
#46
I'm a woman, but I'd like to say something on this. After years of, "Honey, can you open this jar," me acting like I was the "weaker" gender... We divorced. And you know what?!! I could no longer open the freakin' jars!!! Talk about mad... Stroked his ego so much, that I robbed myself of pickles that first stint of our separation. Gals! Open yer own jars, I beg of you! LOL. Take this both figuratively and literally.
winterwidow87 8 hours ago (edited)
This made me laugh, flip over the jar and use a knife to break the vacuum seal of the lid. No strenght needed.
Kristiina Männiste 5 hours ago
yes.. But you cant reuse that lid for canning your pickled vegetables any more (air will get in and the stuff will spoil). Soviet upbringing here😅
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Makeup.
Also, +1 just for saying ***couldn't*** care less instead of could care less, f**k knows why so many people in the US get that backwards.
Val 7 hours ago
I like a little foundation because I have a bit of rosacea and it makes me self conscious.
M M 4 hours ago
My Asian friend got envy because of my rosacea and couldn't believe that I don't wear blush 😁
Load More Replies... #48
Buying you tons of weird cheeses. Like I cannot fit anymore cheese in my home please stop. Cheese is exciting at first but there is such a thing as too much.
Edit: I was unaware this is unusual. All the women I’ve dated have always bought me cheese and now I’m wondering if it’s something I’m doing.
Rali Meyer 3 hours ago
here is the "killer": decide on one cheese (Gruyère?). Get red wine and a baguette. Hike for an hour. Have pic-nic. Best date ever!
Zig Zag Wanderer 5 hours ago
I think they might be hinting at something. A certain part of your anatomy may need more attention when washing, perhaps...?
What do you think ?
Pferdchen 2 minutes ago
Unlike a lot of the responders, I appreciate women who indulge their feminine side with things like cosmetics, heels, jewelry, etc. However, I think a lot of the Brazilian b**t lifts I see are ridiculous (and dangerous). Perhaps I overlooked it, but I was surprised that they didn't show up in the list.
Helena 6 hours ago
I don't give a rats hairy heiny about anything men in general want in a woman. Either like me for me and all that comes with it, or move on and find someone you can like all of them for.
Black Cat 5 hours ago
I dont know why you've been down voted for this. I think it would be great if everyone had the confidence to be authentic and people stopped trying to control, fix or change their partners. Either accept someone for who they are, rather than who you want them to be or leave them alone to find someone who does accept them.
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 3 hours ago
I only read this list to see what some women do to try and impress men, because I've never been good enough for any woman to try and impress me.
Pferdchen 2 minutes ago
Unlike a lot of the responders, I appreciate women who indulge their feminine side with things like cosmetics, heels, jewelry, etc. However, I think a lot of the Brazilian b**t lifts I see are ridiculous (and dangerous). Perhaps I overlooked it, but I was surprised that they didn't show up in the list.
Helena 6 hours ago
I don't give a rats hairy heiny about anything men in general want in a woman. Either like me for me and all that comes with it, or move on and find someone you can like all of them for.
Black Cat 5 hours ago
I dont know why you've been down voted for this. I think it would be great if everyone had the confidence to be authentic and people stopped trying to control, fix or change their partners. Either accept someone for who they are, rather than who you want them to be or leave them alone to find someone who does accept them.
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 3 hours ago
I only read this list to see what some women do to try and impress men, because I've never been good enough for any woman to try and impress me.
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