40 Brutal Stories Of Friendships That Ended In The Most Unhinged Ways
Interview With ExpertYou hear that? That sharp, splintering crack? Was that a plate breaking? A window smashing? Nope. That was the sound of someone’s heart splitting in two after losing a friend they thought would last a lifetime.
It belongs to the people below. Their friendships ended suddenly, painfully, and for reasons they never imagined. Take a moment to read their stories, and if you have one of your own, feel free to share it in the comments. Letting it out might help.
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She told me I need to stop being a “Debby downer” minutes after being diagnosed with cancer 💀
So she slept with my (now) ex boyfriend which ya know whatever a tale as old as time, however not only was he my boyfriend but he is also her brother.
i 2nd he ewwww with extra wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
Load More Replies...I had to re-read and then re-read and, yup, that's what it said!
Step siblings, I hope. This of course is a very common plots for adults only maternals.
she full on SOBBED in my bed 3x the DAY AFTER my BROTHER DIED because me caring about my brother’s death “reminder her that shes not close with her (ALIVE) brother”
Maybe guilt about her relationship with her brother but for F***s sake!!
Perhaps you need to stop making excuses for bad people
Load More Replies...Bored Panda reached out to therapist Priya Harpaul, LMHC, to understand why friendship breakups hurt so deeply and what we can do to ease the pain of the fallout. Harpaul is also a mental health educator and the creator of the Instagram page The Therapy Notebook, where she shares advice on coping skills and relationships of all forms and sizes—so for more insights, be sure to check it out.
According to Harpaul, there are several reasons why friendship breakups can feel especially painful. “With romantic relationships, a certain level of heartbreak and rejection is to be expected and anticipated. We don’t typically prepare for ending friendships,” she explains. “And it’s easier to understand when romantic relationships don’t work out due to compatibility issues, but with friendships it can be harder to process why it didn’t work out.”
“Friends can also be a major source of emotional support when romantic relationships go wrong or when life happens,” she adds. “And there may not be a sense of closure or understanding of what went wrong. Society also tends to minimize the end of a friendship, which can invalidate the grieving process and make it seem trivial when it isn’t. Our friends are our chosen family and the end of a deep connection deserves to be grieved.”
She voted for Trump. That’s it, that’s the tweet.
Proving once again that it is liberals, not conservatives, who are the intolerant ones.
Load More Replies...No. She just never knew where her friend’s values stand. Now she does and that’s why she cut her off.
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Made me transfer 40p for using her shampoo on holiday 😍😍😍
Back in the 1980’s - the glorious days of big hair - I had a friend in college who told me I could use one squirt of her hairspray, but no more. (I had run out that morning). I said forget it and just had flat hair that day.
My college roommates and I would all split the cost of a gallon. Yep, 80s.😂
Load More Replies...40p??? How much did you use and WTF brand does she use would cost That much to wash your hair?? 😮 Did she charge you for the air you breathed too?? 😮 Bloody hell fire 😮
once I woke up struggling to breathe with a pillow over my face 😃
I hope OP at least tried to file attempted murder charges... >:-(
She came to my house, sat me down, read a list of reasons why she hated me, watched me cry, then asked for help with a Snapchat feature 💕
I hope you responded with a "Oh, HELL NO!! Do it yourself, ya twit!"
I took her to the eras tour with me and when I asked her for the money for her ticket she ghosted me and hasn’t responded since. We’d been friends for 8 years.
I'm so sorry that what would be a fabulous memory for you may be shadowed by your idiot ex-friend.
I would call a win. OP got off relatively cheap from a POS.
Load More Replies...Just see it as a celebration of the end of the friendship. I'm so sorry, that would really upset me.
Started dating my r*pist (we’re no longer friends)
that happened to me! we'd been friends for 5 years. i got really drunk, passed out, woke up next day with a video sent by him on my phone. needless to say anything else. hope you're ok...
Oh dear God in heaven, she knows what happened to you and she dates him???
I've been In a similar situation. My ex gf started hanging out and being friends with the man that se*ually assaulted me. We were friends with him beforehand but more just we all drank in the same bar. Anyway he is a builder with his own company and so she got close to him in order to get free and cheap work done to her house.
she recorded my sa
Some friend. Surely that makes her an accessory?? I cannot believe that a female would be so appalling to do this let alone a female Friend 😔
jesus absolute fkn christ :O don't need enemies with 'friends' like that. I'm so so sorry, OP, and I'm enraged for and with you. What a betrayal.
My ex friend used to be like my Wallace Wells. Super witty and charming. A class act. But after she transitioned her whole personality changed overnight. She was very, uh, forward about her body and wanted me to look at it. At the same time, my house was destroyed by flooding, my dog passed, and I was in the middle of a semester living in a hotel. I didn't really have the mind space to acclimate to my friend's new personality. This made her VERY upset. I tried to give it space but there was just SOME way she wanted me to act. We fought about it every day for a week. The final straw was her getting so god dang upset I didn't have a raving opinion about her new fursona while I was in the saddest chapter of my life. I blocked her and cried all night. 6 years of friendship down the drain.
[1/3 ]The beginning of this hits too close to home. After my best friend of 15 years transitioned, his personality changed so drastically I did not even recognise him anymore. He was not obnoxious like OP's friend but his personality did a 180° turn. We were friends since we were 13, he has always been the most easygoing, funny, chill kid who could always cheer me up with only one word or one silly smile. I stood by his side supporting him for all of his teenage years and early 20s while he tried to figure out his sexuality and gender identity. My family basically adopted him since his "family" were ábúsíve and homo/transphobic. After the transition he became so rude to me and our friends, he was always angry at everyone and I don't even remember seeing him smile.
[2/3] One time we did not invite him to play our usual online game with our friends (we all live hundreds of kilometers away from each other all across the EU so this was our way to "hang out") because he became so unpleasant to talk to, and he got so mad at especially me that he one by one started to turn all my friends against me. This was right after my dad was hospitalized with a heart disease and my sister had a miscarriage, I lost my university scholarship and got kicked out and my "friend" did not even check in with me or my family even though my family let him live with us, fed him, even bought him clothes for years when he was too afraid to go home to his grandparents. He fat shamed me (he was not thinner than me btw), he called me transphobic even though I always supported him and all of our queer and trans friends (and I'm queer myself.)
Load More Replies...I wonder if changing hormones played a part. But also Social Media. Those of us who are older are seeing completely new ways of speaking, body language, Mannerisms that completely did Not exist some years ago. These drama queens are all over social media and the world only exists for them. It's a Whole new level. However, that friend was completely self absorbed and I have learnt a new word, Fursona. In fact looking again at the Post, the OP states her friend wanted her to act a certain way. I feel incredibly sorry for both. The OP who's suffered and struggled so much and the ex friend who has No idea how to be herself. Hasn't the faintest idea of life outside a social media home made persona. What a life. I feel OLD
she made a voodoo doll of me and stabbed it repeatedly hoping i would die
Voodoo dolls aren't really Voudon. But that picture does have a voodoo doll in it. Why they couldn't find a picture of just a voodoo doll though I'm not sure.
Load More Replies...The picture makes this a poppet not a voodou doll. The posters ex friend is a dumb a**e 🙄 You should have feigned pain then slapped her around the head....
My fav is when our old gymnastics coach use to t0uch us (we all bonded over it and agreed that it happened) and i reported him, she decided to testify FOR him and lie on the stand.
WHAAAT? He must have really did a number on her to have her protect him.
There's something going on there. I hope you all got support and counselling, including the one in denial or groomed beyond her comprehension 😔
When I was blacked out drunk, like passed out, she tried to steal money from me by using my face id to pay a payment request she sent from her phone to me, I didnt know till next morning when I got 12 A notification on my search engine that said that the payment failed, she probably couldn’t get in my bank account, never said anything about it and I regret that
How do you get 'a notification on my search engine' that a bank payment failed?
I assume it’s someone drunk and/or high, or perhaps old and using the wrong words, or maybe someone whose English isn't 100%. I’m always using the wing words and was born in the US. Worse, I’m a writer and editor. 😬😔
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she and a group of my "friends" knocked on my door asked me to go on a walk with them, i did and they were going to shoot me, they had a gun and pulled it out on me...
I need more context. What was their intent? How did this person got away from them?
Her boyfriend pulled a gun and was threatening to unalive us all on my 20th birthday and she still stayed with him
Did the friend stay with him willingly? I hope she got help, either way. I don't blame OP for distancing from that insanity either though (self-preservation).
Tried poisoning me by putting ground up mechanical pencil lead in my water bottle because I was rude to them
But pencil lead is just graphite and not toxic. That one’s definitely not the brightest bulb in the chandelier
lol it is just carbon, can actually be good for the digestion... was doing you a favour
The friend. When gender is unspecified the pronouns would be they/them.
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Cut me off when I got diagnosed with cancer.
Well, that was one tumor that was easy to remove. I hope the rest of your cancer battle was helped through with lots of other people in your life.
told her my grandad had cancer and she said “oh ok”
Not everyone knows what to say or do. Some people end up with anxiety about what they say, how they said it, what they should have said or are oblivious to what should be said. Myself I'd be oh I'm sorry to hear that and then Have NO idea what next to say or ask. She could be a very good support to you. Or she could be absolutely bloody useless. You needed more at the time 😔
Some people don't know how to process bad news or how to be there for others. It isn't because they don't care about their friends, it's just that they don't know how to emotionally be there for them.
Was in the club with me telling random guys everything about me which was my deepest darkest secrets and then i got a message the next day from a random guy telling me my whole life story
Was he telling you to let you know your friend was an indiscrete t**t or because he was getting something out of this knowledge?? Horrible friend 😞
left me on the floor having a seizure
lied about her dad being 💀 because she wanted her life to be extremely similar to mine
i told her a mutual friend sa’d me and she called me a liar and said that if i told anyone i’d ruin the guys life
I hate that "don't ruin the guy's life over this" c**p. Where was that concern for you when it was happening?
The one ruining is life is himself, obviously. Who don't see that, ... cut off. Don't bother. They're not worth it.
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when my dad died she never said sorry for your loss to me because “she wasn’t the one who killed him”
She m*rdered the friendship instead. Good that you incarcerated her in your no-friend land. Also, sorry about your dad T_T
Lied to my face about having CANCER FOR 4 MONTHS and said that she had a 50% chance of survival.
used my dead brother for attention saying they were bestfriends or dating (they never met)
Ik this probably did happen but this is kinda similar to the plot of dear Evan Hansen
She was narcissistic and manipulative. She would always make degrading comments towards all of our friends and go “I’m just kidding” while laughing after. There’s much more too.
I used to have a “friend” like that. I just blocked them and never spoke to them again, i felt better than i had in months
let her bf beat us both up then took him back
She realized she liked me, couldnt accept that she was queer AND IN LOVE WITH ME (found this out thru her friends), so instead she told me she hated me, and that i made her someone that shes not
internalized homophobia is a b***h. I went through the same stages of denial when I realized I didn't feel like the "correct" gender. it was a dark time, but I got through it :D
She couldn't handle her feelings and YOU suffered for it. So did she though. Maybe brought up in a strong Christian background so fighting demons she can't comprehend. I'd say she hates herself and that's A Terrible place to be because of your own sexuality. I'm Asexual. Never could come out to my father as he was so homophobic. What an horrendous world we live in where LGBT+ still struggle so much. What's going on in America at the moment is insane, especially for a first world country 😔
I would have thought an asexual daughter would be a father's fondest dream.
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She wanted to take my place and steal my best friend and when she couldn’t she freaked out, started actual life ruining lies about me and still stalks me 4 years later 💀 I want to forget about her so bad but she refuses to leave me alone
She wrote her college essay about my mom being an abusive alcoholic to my dad and how it enabled her to realize how her parents were the epitome of a perfect relationship 😂😂😂
actively made it her mission to befriend people that disliked me. after i cut her off over it, they became a friend group so now my friends and i joke that i have a hate/fan club
This could be an advantage. Casey Stengel said that to succeed as a baseball manager "You have to keep the guys who hate you away from the ones who ain't made up their minds yet."
I used to have one... I wasn't part of the club, I was the hated one. It was soooo funny!
her and her mum spent £500 on uber eats on my card ✌🏽
My Mom passed away and she cancelled our meet up, because she was on her period and didn’t had the capacity to hold space for me.
So infuriating! This is how those stupid stereotypes about how women on their periods are unstable get perpetuated. S****y friend needed to blame someone else, so she took the easy stereotype.
she told me she’s glad my brothers dead
Constantly left me out, body shamed me, spread untrue rumors, turned one of my friends against me, and the best part… went with my ex to homecoming a week after we broke up!
forced me on a weighing scale so she could prove she weighed less than me 😆
If the only thing she liked about OP was being lighter than them there’s nothing to regret about this “friendship” ending
She hadn't included the weight of her self hatred so you still weighed less than her 😉
Well, the OP shed a lot of ugly pounds when she dumped this false friend.
blamed everything on his autism, literally used it for an excuse for being an overall horrible human being. (dating a f*****t, cheating on his bf who wasn’t the f*****t, leeching off of everyone, etc)
Autism is an explanation, not an excuse. And some people who do this have never been diagnosed with autism and don't even know what it really is.
I work with two people who have more diagnoses between them than a psychiatric textbook. They seem to think they can get away with rude behavior because of their "problems". I have clinical depression, but that does not give me the right to act like a B**CH.
YES!! I have a laundry list of diagnoses but don’t use that as an excuse to be a b**ch.
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she carved my name into her leg💗
So she didn't want it tattooed on herself, so she did the free version?
she ghosted me because she didn’t like when i would try to hold her accountable for her poor decisions and lies i would catch her in
her step dad sent me weird messages of wanting to kiss me and my body. spoke to her bf who was my friend and she blamed me for "painting him in bad light" later asked for a good word in my job 😂
I'd assume (and hope) OP painted an unflattering picture of her to her hiring department instead... XP
I had my phone confiscated for like 3 months so couldn’t contact any of my mates, my friend had a spare phone and said I could use it. My mum then found it a week later in my room and of course asked where did I get this phone, I said … let me borrow it so she rang her mum and the friend said I stole it from their house 🤡
Yes because her mother would have kept hold of the friend's phone.
Load More Replies...When i was at the lowest point of my life, got sent into a mental hospital where i got diagnosed with ED‘s, panic and anxiety attacks and even did stuff to myself, she just said, i hope you rot and die in there‘ then blocked me. She posted my text everywhere on her social account and THOUSANDDDSSSSSS of people sent me death wishes and threats.
Wtf? What the hell is wrong with you that you think it's acceptable to send someone a death threat?!
Sh1t, I thought this was about friendship ending. I can't imagine anyone who was a friend at any point would do such a horrible thing.
stole my whole personality , style and everything I would show her smth best believe she’d have it the next day 😭
So sad the 'friend' thinks she is so worthless a human that she needs to be (copy) someone else
Made me feel worthless for months and when I finally stood up for myself she turned EVERYONE against me
She went into my wardrobe and cut up my favourite tops 😫
Cancelled our holiday behind my back & then ghosted me (we were friends for 20 years). Then a different friend of 16 years couldn’t even take 5 minutes to write me a character reference & proceeded to ghost me because I settled down and she couldn’t use my house as a doss place 🤣
got me to weigh myself and read it out in front of the friend group when she knew i actively had an ed 😭
We were both trans, but s(he) refused to call me by my name and pronouns because I didn’t pass. S(he) bullied and mocked me for being held at pewpew point by my own half brother and mocked a lot of my other traumatic experiences. THEN she hacked into my account and said it wasn’t her but the hacker blocked me when I said h(is)er name..?? 💀
She called cps on my family cuz I got invited to a TØP concert and she didn’t
Let her move in my house because of her bad home situation, she repayed me by SLEEPING WITH MY BROTHER AND MY BF and when I kicked her out she stole all my new VS underwear and new clothes i just got.
Better if she had taken the brother and bf instead.
Load More Replies...forced me to go meet her boyfriend multiple times after he sa me and she knew.
She would hit me she would use me for money she would only talk to me when it was convenient for her or no one else would hang out with her she would degrade me and my life choices her mom pays her rent. Also trump supporter
Didn’t speak for a good few years, then popped up asking if I could adopt both her kids before they got taken into care
Not much need to wonder why her kids were being taken away.
I kept initiating hang outs and they kept rescheduling or ghosting the day we planned to meet up. I confronted them about it and they got mad which led to me ultimately ending the friendship atp🥰🥰🥰
Told her my dog died and she said “peak”…
It seems to be either very good or very bad.(MLE) Unlucky; unfortunate. Synonyms: see Thesaurus:unlucky You didn't get a spot? That's peak. (Internet slang) Very good or high-quality. That movie last night was so peak. So maybe the friend was saying "Your dog died. Good"?
Load More Replies...Stood outside my toilet cubicle and timed me cause she said I took too long
Really? Why would it matter to her how long you took? Was she waiting to use cubicle next?
As someone who has lived with a person who spends too long on the loo (to the point of others waiting outside desperately), I'm unsure about this one. It's also the amount of time spent waiting, waiting, waiting... for them when you're out together.
all day everyday “this boy” “that boy” “both boys” “10 boys”. one time me and another friend counted how many she’d been with in a month and it was 13!!! that was her entire personality
My old friend group used to bully me because I started taking care of myself. They made me spiral into a depression and guilt tripped me because I talked to other people than them. After I ghosted
All I got from her was “oh” or a “damn” so I stopped talking and we never spoke again
He became jealous of everything I was that he couldn’t achieve as a person. And because of that he was very two faced until the very end when he snapped. But behind the scenes he talked through his gf
She made me believe we were friends. Caused a fallout, act like she was the victim, got away with all the friends and friend group and left me looking like the bad guy. I literally told her my deepest darkest secret. I’m pretty she was borderline but hey, who am I to judge right? Everything she did was to get attention. When I’m telling you she would turn MY situations for her attention like it wasn’t good at home in those times and she made everyone tell her how it must be hard to have a “bestfriend” who had issues. I was always there to listen to her, when it came to me, she would turn it around to make it about her. And she said I did that.
she continuously put her boyfriend infront of me and our friendgroup. i tried communicating to her how i felt, along with the rest of our group but she persisted that i was trying to play victim and control her life??? they have also broken up and gotten togeyher like 5 times and occasionally tries to message me 😟😟
well to start off she’s been harassing me for three years straight, showed up to TWO OF MY SCHOOLS n proceeded to try and fight me… over a man! a toxic man at that! 🤗
So first she stole from me after i let her live with me. Then i got an autism diagnosis and she suddenly started treating me terribly, then i had to move away and that was the last straw for her ig
i didnt heal her once in a game of overwatch. she yells at me, tries to embarrass me, demands an apology 2 months later, crashes out when i dont give her one, sh*t talks me, then blocks me 💀💀
Deffo not the worst but weird,when she didn’t have a phone she’d hide mine and act like I lost it in her house,baring in mind she knew my password and would bring it to me the next day fully charged?
accused me of trying to set her house on fire??
i was tryna get with this boy messaging him for months and turns out she was also messaging him and meeting up with him but would convince me he was a bad person so i shouldn’t message him and then ask if i’d heard from him, just because SHE WANTED TO KNOW BECAUSE SHE WAS SEEING HIM.
wish i could say it was the only time
She was CONSTANTLY mentally abusing me & then gaslighting me abt it, and I mean WORSE than a man. I was conscious of it but she was my only "friend" back then so I was scared to let her go (I was 12)
my bf lives in italy and im in ireland so after i told her about where in italy (he lived she stalked him found the address and FLEW to his house and then expected him to let her stay for the week 😝
OH MY SHOW IS ONNN.....
1) she messaged my bf behind my back, and I don't mean normal friendly things, I mean flirty things AND photos
2) she also stole things from my bf and had a secret TikTok account where she posted stuff about him, is his sweaters or things of his in the background...
3) While me and my bf where on vacation she made him break up with me, 3 days after my birthday, and took the necklace he gave me 3 days before to "get rid of it" only to see it in her tiktoks later
4) she got with him a week after our break up, STILL made me meet up with them only to see her, touching him, kissing him, hugging him and stuff. and she made me watch, I literally trew up there
think she was secretly jealous and wanted my bf…
My "bestie" told my husband that he should have chosen her, that if she'd met him before me she new I would have never dated him, that she should be the one carrying his child (I was pregnant at the time). We had only been married a few months. He told her to kick rocks, and then told me about it.
left me outside my 🍇ists house while drunk and then got with someone’s baby daddy and refused to tell him to do a dna test because she didn’t want it to be his…..
It's not that you don't have friends; a large majority of people are f.ucked and you wish to not be a part of that toxicity.
Load More Replies...A lot of these feel like there are important details missing, and the other person might not be the villains
I knew this was going to be whiny garbage. I had to stop two in. People are pathetic all around.
After my best friend of 15 years transitioned, his personality changed so drastically I did not even recognise him anymore. His personality did a 180° turn. We were friends since we were 13, he has always been the most easygoing, funny, chill kid who could always cheer me up with only one word or one silly smile. I stood by his side supporting him for all of his teenage years and early 20s while he tried to figure out his sexuality and gender identity. My family basically adopted him since his "family" were ábúsíve and homo/transphobic. After the transition he became so rude to me and our friends, he was always angry at everyone and I don't even remember seeing him smile.
One time we did not invite him to play our usual online game with our friends (we all live hundreds of kilometers away from each other all across the EU so this was our way to "hang out") because he became so unpleasant to talk to, and he got so mad at especially me that he one by one started to turn all my friends against me. This was right after my dad was hospitalized with a heart disease and my sister had a miscarriage, I lost my university scholarship and got kicked out and my "friend" did not even check in with me or my family even though my family let him live with us, fed him, even bought him clothes for years when he was too afraid to go home to his grandparents. He fat shamed me (he was not thinner than me btw), he called me transphobic even though I always supported him and all of our queer and trans friends (and I'm queer myself.)
Load More Replies...A VERY good friend ( call eachother sister, rent cabins together, etc) called me super drunk at five am to come get her, because she was fighting with her big. We had walked him home, then walked her home. She called him to come over. Both my partner and I had work in a couple hours, no car, and she lived a mile away. If she were truly scared call the cops. The next day I get an essay about what a terrible person I am, and that we'll never speak again. I'm hurt, but okay. I asked a mutual friend to get my three laptops back from her. Got another vitriolic message, and was told she'd thrown them away. Saw red. (For those wondering, she was never in danger. I know both parties well, and if there was violence, it was her. She didn't call the cops because of all the c*****e in her apt.)
It's not that you don't have friends; a large majority of people are f.ucked and you wish to not be a part of that toxicity.
Load More Replies...A lot of these feel like there are important details missing, and the other person might not be the villains
I knew this was going to be whiny garbage. I had to stop two in. People are pathetic all around.
After my best friend of 15 years transitioned, his personality changed so drastically I did not even recognise him anymore. His personality did a 180° turn. We were friends since we were 13, he has always been the most easygoing, funny, chill kid who could always cheer me up with only one word or one silly smile. I stood by his side supporting him for all of his teenage years and early 20s while he tried to figure out his sexuality and gender identity. My family basically adopted him since his "family" were ábúsíve and homo/transphobic. After the transition he became so rude to me and our friends, he was always angry at everyone and I don't even remember seeing him smile.
One time we did not invite him to play our usual online game with our friends (we all live hundreds of kilometers away from each other all across the EU so this was our way to "hang out") because he became so unpleasant to talk to, and he got so mad at especially me that he one by one started to turn all my friends against me. This was right after my dad was hospitalized with a heart disease and my sister had a miscarriage, I lost my university scholarship and got kicked out and my "friend" did not even check in with me or my family even though my family let him live with us, fed him, even bought him clothes for years when he was too afraid to go home to his grandparents. He fat shamed me (he was not thinner than me btw), he called me transphobic even though I always supported him and all of our queer and trans friends (and I'm queer myself.)
Load More Replies...A VERY good friend ( call eachother sister, rent cabins together, etc) called me super drunk at five am to come get her, because she was fighting with her big. We had walked him home, then walked her home. She called him to come over. Both my partner and I had work in a couple hours, no car, and she lived a mile away. If she were truly scared call the cops. The next day I get an essay about what a terrible person I am, and that we'll never speak again. I'm hurt, but okay. I asked a mutual friend to get my three laptops back from her. Got another vitriolic message, and was told she'd thrown them away. Saw red. (For those wondering, she was never in danger. I know both parties well, and if there was violence, it was her. She didn't call the cops because of all the c*****e in her apt.)
