“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Just Had To Shame These Weddings Online (New Posts)
There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
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Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"
It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"
Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
Sure, for $3,200. She can even wear her wedding dress if she wants to.
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts
Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
My mother wore white AND tried to catch the bouquet. (My dad had DIED 10 weeks earlier!)
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Pretty creepy having the mother of the groom dressed as a bride. Does she want to marry her own son?
This is not a wedding dress, this is a giant red flag 😂 Run !! No, seriously. RUN. 😐
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Omfg that MiL is nuts. She's straight up wearing a wedding gown! Why didn't the son/husband tell her to go home and change?!
Or not invite her in the first place, assuming this isn’t the first time she’s done something really weird and inappropriate. I can’t quite imagine it is.
Load More Replies... I’m not usually one to back the whole “only the bride can wear white at the wedding” thing but this dress really REALLY looks, well, weddingy. I don’t find it rude just…strange.
This is like those fathers who have 'weddings' with their daughters to keep them "pure." It's totally batsh!t crazy and I immediately want to call some kind of authorities about it. And this is a bit like that. It's like she can't take not being the woman in her son's life and can't cut the umbilical cord. Like...you aren't marrying your son, you lunatic. The difference is that the 12 year old girls don't know any better. I absolutely blame the men for this. How, as a grown man, can you be okay with this? Stand up to your mother or else your wife is forever going to know you'll never be in her corner. It's such a slap in the face to the wife.
My mil did the same thing....at a gay wedding.....still confused at what msg she was trying to send lol
There wouldn't have been a wedding if this was me. She totally over stepped her bounds
If I saw this at my wedding, I'd leave before the vows, with gratitude that I was given a chance to dodge that bullet.
It reminds me of the TLC show, 'I'm In Love w/a Mama's Boy'. Very cringey.
WTH man... these middle aged Karens have no self control? Mid-life crisis seeing her Son getting married? More like man-baby since they're divorced now! I'd never do this to my Boys.... or to my future DIL...
Why is it so hard for MILs to accept that it is illegal to marry your kids together, therefore kids will bring new family in. I agree that this is psycho!
There's a disproportionate amount of insane mothers at weddings. Its super weird
The Oedipal complex reversed 😳 the book "Women who marry men married to their mommies"
My feelings about the nonsensical notion that it's wrong to wear white to a wedding do not extend to the 'Mommy' s**t going on here..
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!
Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.
Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too
Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!
A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months
From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes
Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
Wow 🤦🏻♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!
A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited
I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.
I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.
My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
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I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
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Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies... Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
