“What’s Something You Wish Someone Had Told You When You Were Younger?”: 40 Useful Tips Shared By The Bored Panda Community

Whether that is health issues as well

Ask yourself, what do THEY benefit from this.

I made some of my best friends at work. Let's just agree on "NOT ALL of your coworkers are your friends". Like probably every other place in your life. Be careful who you choose to trust.

Amen

If my gut tells me that they are my friends...

So... Nobody else works in a small business with three other introverts?

Neither are your neighbours

I met my husband at work (married 15 years now) I also met my best friend at work and we go on holiday with each other without husbands every year, Mexico 2023 yay!

My best friend I met at my old job. We both don't work there anymore and we've been friends for 15 years now. I would say your boss is not your friend.

that is not true. i made good friends at workplaces

This one is just sad that people have "learnt" this lesson. At 48, some of my best friendships are from work colleagues, and if I start a new job and don't make good friends, I move on. If I'm spending 1/3 or more of my life someplace, I'm damn well going to have friends there.

Unless you are a musician and in a band! That is how I made most of my friends.

Exceptions exist. I have at least three people among my coworkers that I can rely on in case I need help. Of course, they can count on me as well - this has to be a mutual thing, otherwise it's not real friendship.

They may end up being your friends- but don't go into the job with that assumption or expectation. "Friendly acquaintances" is a good outcome too. Until you know the team dynamics and personalities, keep your mouth shut & lay low.

I married the guy that hired me, three kids and 15 years later things are great. Not all coworkers are out to get you.

Both my best friends were co workers 21 years and 12 years friendship.

What about even some of your friends don't have your best interests at heart

Working relationships don't work. Ever.

I'm glad no one ever told me this. Three of my closest, dearest friends, were once coworkers.

found THAT out the hard way.

They're your friends until you're no longer working there

Particularly in the corporate world. If they see you as an obstacle for a promotion, they will stab you in the back while smiling the whole time.

This is so true. I assumed my co-workers were my friends, and when I changed jobs, hardly any of them bothered with me anymore, despite my efforts to get together. Guess I was wrong!

Pick one person at work to talk to more openly (slightly) and just about work-related issues. Could be the janitor, or the secretary. But only that one person. And even be a bit careful with them.

Out of all my jobs I've had there's only been one girl I absolutely hated , and she was the reason I quit the job but she was young and immature , most other jobs I've made at least one friends

I've made many long lasting friendships with co workers. Not everyone has to be a miserable a*****e

I have this insane amnesia where I forget this and end up saying something i think is safe and they go and tell others.

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I’ve made several genuine friends at work

That is true! I always tell it to the youngers.

Some may say 'not all', but just keep in mind and make it as rule of thumb. Working is like competition, everyone want the same thing, but not all can get at the same time. You need to beat anyone else so you can be the top and reap the prizes. Prize = promotion, increase in salary, bonuses, benefits..

Don't forget to celebrate as well

And kindness is its own reward!

lol

Sometimes that can be a relief...not all parents are good

As a CIO I travel the world each week to each of our factories and offices. The receptionist (who are often also the telephone operator) at every site are all key contacts that I quickly get to know personally. I know their names, their kids names, family pets, birthdays, births, deaths, marriages etc, they know mine. We often catch up for a while whilst I'm travelling, arriving or watiing for a car to leave. Same with great people who drove the company cars and buses shuttling us between airports, hotels are our locations. We have hundreds of locations. On the frequent times glitches crop up with my interaries, these are the wonderful people who will go out of their way to remove my problems and keep me safe/housed/travelling etc. People are people the world over at any level - respect anyone irrespective of their salary, grade, religion, language, gender etc. People who pull rank or ignore others as they feel superior due to their role or position are generally a*****s

1 is great advice!

225-340 ml (Had to look it up and thought about sharing. 🙈)

I think it's supposed to meet *two out of three* of those criteria. So for example, if something is true and necessary, it should be said whether it is kind or not. If something is true and kind, say it even if there is no other reason. And if only say something untrue on the occasion that is both kind and necessary.

We stan Dolly

When we first got computers at school a teacher was hired to do her job plus be the IT person. I would send her emails about issues with the computer and she would send nasty replies and never do her job she was paid to do. I waited a couple of weeks and got a stack of them. Then replied " you know emails can be printed out". Then I acted on it.

I remember once being told - "take your time, think a lot. Think of everything you've got. For you will still be here tomorrow. But your dreams may not"

Exactly! When I was with my former employer (retired now), we had a Manager’s meeting that was going around in circles about how to respond to a recent politically delicate, yet absurd resource request. When it came my turn to contribute, I said simply “ ‘NO!’ is a perfectly good answer” and left it at that. Well, I was puzzled that others in the room were taken by surprise by what I thought to be obvious, and no one could offer any counter argument. At my retirement some years later, a few colleagues echoed that back to me as one of their most memorable moments, and to this day I do not understand why.

Apologies Glasia, first time posting and it didn't look like it had saved when I hit the button. I did report it as a duplicate and ask for it to be deleted. If there is a way I can do that myself I would be happy to learn it

I was told, never do anything to you don't want to explain to paramedics.

Let's not gatekeep all our emotions. Regret is normal. It's pathological if you hang on to it. But to sit around pretending like you have none because logically it doesn't make sense is silly. A lot of this advice is silly.

Nearly everything in life is situational, but not telling people hurtful things is generally going to be okay. That said, there will be times when it’s a kindness to tell someone they’re being delusional…just find a way to be gentle about how you tell them,

I've had great conversations by text. Maybe this is antiquated.

In Les Miserables, Jean Valjean steals from the priest who gave him shelter and sneaks out into the night. The police apprehend him and return him to the priest to give back what he stole. The priest then asks his wife to fetch the silver. She argues, but he insists. Telling the policemen that Valjean had not stolen anything from him, he hands the silver to the thief, saying 'Here, you forgot to take this'. The priest insists that Valjean is set free as he has committed no crime and the officers acquiesce. This is a turning point in Valjean's life. My questions would be, at what point should you stop being kind and why are we so afraid of being taken advantage of? BTW I'm not religious.

Yup....buy cheap, buy twice my Grampa used to say

Those were the exact words of my maths teacher before he failed me.

I was taught this. I was also taught to ‘drive like everyone around you is an idiot’ and also ‘the right of way is yielded never taken.’ Just because that person is supposed to stop doesn’t mean they always will. It helps you prepare to react to others when they make mistakes. Seriously, think of how many times you’ve seen someone do something dumb when you’re driving.

No.

I'll do you one better... always stack a stash of roles within a reach

Life is too short to be around miserable, toxic people. Sometimes the best way to deal with them is to cut them out of your life. Your well-being is important.

Brutus, duh. :)

I kind of like knowing what other people think. Is that bad? To actually want to hear another person's opinion?