Living in an apartment building means you are never completely alone — thin walls, shared corridors, and facing windows can turn a normal day into an unexpected encounter with your neighbor.
But not everyone is a full-time busybody like Aunt Petunia from the Harry Potter series, craning their necks to spy from their windows. Sometimes you just can’t help but overhear — or get a little curious about — whatever mischief your next-door neighbor is up to.
It also makes living in a city more interesting, where communication and connections are few and far between.
A reddit user recently asked people who live in apartment buildings “What’s the most unexpected thing you’ve accidentally seen through a neighbor’s window?”
Some of the responses are odd while others are downright hilarious. But they all remind us why living in an apartment is never boring.
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Saw my neighbor practicing a full breakup speech… to his houseplants. He even paused for their “responses.” Honestly I respected the commitment.
Looked outside once and saw my neighbor gently blow-drying a turtle. I didn’t even know she owned a turtle. Still confused to this day.
Goats. A handful of goats.
I was just taking my trash out, and there was a sound I didn't recognize. I turn to look, and there were goats in my neighbor's apartment. She was rather baffled when I asked about her hircine guest a few days later. Turns out, Her BF had rented a bunch of goats to play a prank of his best friend. He felt bad leaving the goats in the truck, so he brought them in the apartment for a few hours, until he packed them back up and drove them away to do the prank, without telling my neighbor.
Using "Hircine" in this context is what happens when you use video games as a source of knowledge.
Apartment living inevitably creates proximity and these strange encounters are bound to happen once in a while whether you like it or not, thanks to the way the buildings are designed.
We spoke to Quill R. Kukla, a philosophy professor at Georgetown University in the US, who says that “seeing and hearing (and sometimes smelling) things about one another is part of the fabric of urban life.”
“Our current trend of building glossy loft apartment buildings with huge windows, and building them with cheap material that is not soundproof, heightens our access to one another's business.”
Kukla is also the author of ‘City Living: How Urban Dwellers and Urban Spaces Make One Another’ (2021), a book that explores how living in close quarters shapes daily life and social interactions.
I have seen (and still see) all types of things out my windows.
The sweetest was a couple who would waltz in their very very tiny apartment. They seemed so happy
The weirdest was next door neighbors would take their dog out to their yard so he'd empty his bowels. The thing is they would both follow him around and stand there staring at him silently while holding hands. It was super creepy for some reason.
Not my apartment building but walking downtown Boston, waiting at crosswalk and happened to look up about 4 floors. Completely naked woman standing in a window so still I thought it was a mannequin at first. Then she waved at me. And started combing her hair. I kinda laughed and the lady standing next to me looked at me and then looked up. She started laughing and I started laughing and the light changed and we went on our separate ways.
A raccoon family scaling the side of a house and climbing into a hole in the roof.
It would be very neighborly if you let your neighbors know!! f*****g yikes
I personally wouldn't want a family of raccoons living in my house, but I do hope none of them fell down, while scaling the house.
My upstairs neighbor was giving a PowerPoint presentation to her cats. Like she had slides. Charts. Pointer stick. The cats were asleep. She kept presenting.
My question is how would you know that your UPSTAIRS, neighbor was giving a presentation to the CATS?How would you see this?
Not seen, but one day me and my wife where walking from our car to our apartment, maybe 11:00PM and we hear a women just exclaim very loudly "I AIN'T NEVER GONE TO BED!" from inside her second story apartment.
To this day one of us will randomly blurt out "I AIN'T NEVER GONE TO BED!" and both break out laughing.
In our family, it's "Stupid pole!" in honor of a 4-year old fisherwoman's final conclusion that the pole, was in fact, the problem. She's 21 now, my fishing coach and buddy, and we each caught a rainbow trout on a sunny day a couple of weeks ago. She generally outcatches me about 8 to 1. Same pole.
A neighbor watched the John Travolta version of Hairspray every night for over a month. Idk what that girl was going through, but I hope she’s doing ok now.
You watched the neighbour for over a month and she is the weird one?
People-watching is not just limited to apartment buildings or neighbors. Europeans have been doing it since the 17th century, when cafes became a place to not only have coffee but also watch life unfold. From city streets to public parks, many people enjoy observing human behaviour and social interactions in real time.
It is our inherent need for connectedness and curiosity that draws us in.
“I live in Germany, where yelling at your fellow building residents for misusing shared spaces like halls, courtyards, bicycle racks, and foyers is famously a national pastime. But even the yelling helps us all feel that we are people who share space rather than living in our own private bubbles,” Kukla shared with Bored Panda.
I once saw my neighbor having a full-blown, passionate argument with his cat. he was doing all the talking, the cat was just licking its privates. Honestly, the cat had the better points.
Lived in a building of just studio apartments. The one across from me always had the blinds closed, two guys lived there, never spoke to them rarely even saw them. One day blinds were wide open. Nothing inside but stacks of towels folded on the floor in neat rows.
Getting ready to go on a trip around the galaxy?
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Lots of arguments going on over there. One day she left for work he left for work about 30 minutes later she came back with a U-Haul and 5 college age looking guys and emptied the entire place out. He came home to an empty condo. I don’t think it took them more than an hour to empty the entire place.
I had a friend several years ago who was, I wouldn't say best friend, but a very good friend and co-worker. One day his GF turns up with a huge black eye. Says they were ridind in his open top jeep and a branch hit her. I knew better. She trusted me enought to ask if I would please make sure he doesn't come home for lunch break as she was moving out. I took him out to lunch, smoked with him, kept him busy. I don't feel the least bit bad about it. Friend or not I will not just stand there and watch someone be abused. Edit: In a sense I did feel like I betrayed him but oh well, I took the lesser of two evils.
You are a wonderful human being. Sincerely.
Load More Replies...Seems like she had this already set up and college dudes were on speed dial waiting for the go call. Good for her.
However, living in shared spaces also makes us think where the boundary really is.
Kukla believes urban dwellers are smart enough and “know how to deal with proximity.”
“We have distinctive skills for managing one another's comfort zones, knowing how to adjust to one another's pace, knowing when to engage and when to stay out of one another's business, and just generally how to cope with the chaotic intermixing of bodies,” they add.
Research shows that people living near shared spaces often report lower privacy levels and it’s no wonder that many add blinds or reflective glass to reclaim their personal space.
At the same time, being aware of our surroundings, as long as it is harmless and respectful, is simply a part of life in urban spaces.
“Surveys show that urban dwellers are more comfortable with diversity than others… It makes us more tolerant and understanding of the differences between us, and less threatened by these differences,” Kukla says.
Not even kidding, a faith healing exorcism. This was in 2020.
Have you heard of a reverse exorcism? If is when a demon tells the priest to get out of the child.
I was going to hell even before choke laughing, thanks.
Load More Replies...A pig. Used to live in a 3 floor building with a courtyard pool. The units had floor to ceiling windows. One summer day while floating around a pot belly pig pushed through the blinds and watched us swim for about a half hour.
Quite common on balconies in Hanoi, as it happens. Fattening up for a feast....
Went to pee in the middle of the night. Two ladies in the next building were dancing, one in just a thong, the other in flimsy pajamas. They seemed to be having a great time, like a home rave. 🥳.
I knocked on my neighbour's door as their drain was clearly blocked and leaking onto the pavement. The young lady (a student) answered the door in skimpy nightwear, fluffy mules and cat ears. I was a little surprised, my husband kindly offered to knock if needed again
Once saw my neighbor giving a full pep talk to a plant. Not watering it… literally hyping it up like it was about to run a marathon.
Sometimes they need a bit of encouragement. If they still don't improve, take the sickest one, show it in turn to all the others, and remove it. Permanently. They'll get the picture....
Visited a 5th floor youth hostel in Vancouver and couldn't sleep. A couple of presumably homeless guys took everything out of a long (40+ feet?) industrial dumpster, carefully picked through them, and they completely put everything back.
I saw my neighbor having a full blown argument with himself, like two different people, it was honestly kinda impressive and made me more curious about the people I live around.
Caught a neighbor practicing his ‘surprised face’ in the mirror for like 10 minutes straight. Oscar-worthy stuff.lmao.
Someone repeatedly dangling a giant fake non-realistic spider on a long rope out of their apartment window and over the sidewalk below. I would have guessed it was a prank but they were doing it while no one was walking by
I also worked in a high rise office across from a high rise hotel where I was one day lucky enough to be sat in a conference room in clear view of an attractive very naked man leisurely wandering around his hotel room. I did not pay very much attention to the meeting I was in haha.
Attractive very naked men, leisurely wandering can be very distracting.
Old guy with cat ears streaming with just boxers on to some daft punk.
A fox. A real fox (the chicken stealing kind) used to sit up in the window of an apartment I’d walk past on my way to grade school in San Francisco. Not a city known for foxes.
Felt kind of sorry for it because it didn’t look like a very large apartment.
Was staying in Boston my husband and son went to a baseball game. I was looking out the hotel window and there were some guys working on a car. I settled in with my book. It was nice to hear them ribbing each other. One new guy appeared he went inside the apartment and came out after kissing a woman, I saw through their window. He joined the guys at the car. A different guy went in the apartment then he and the woman went into the bedroom and disappeared from my view. I saw him next putting his shirt on and heading back down to hang with the group at the car. I realized I had just witnessed an affair with the other guys wife. How brazen and bold.
I used to live in Washington, DC. A Supreme Court justice lived in the building next to mine and left her blinds open frequently. She watched a lot of sports.
This is how Hunter S Thompson used to watch TV in Cuba. The neighbour over the road was deaf, so had the volume up loud, and he used binoculars. Obviously couldn't choose the channel!
Upvote for Hunter S Thompson :) Most people aren't aware that he also wrote "Fear and Lothing on the campaign trail" A chaotic view of the battle between Nixon and McGovern. It's written in true Gonzo style :)
Load More Replies... I was probably the one being watched. Hung out with a girl that worked there and would always show up after dark. Insisted on leaving the patio blinds opened while we had our time together.
Turned out her ex lived directly across the pool from me.
Walked past my window at night and saw the dude opposite me cutting his pizza with scissors. No shame, no hesitation. Just snip snip dinner time.
Why wouldn't you? I think you need to stop being weird about this one!
You can even get special angled scissors designed for this very purpose search "pizza scissors" on Amazon or your online retailer of choice and you'll see hundreds.
Load More Replies...This is how I cut my pizza. Never realised it was weird. Also bacon sandwiches
You use bacon sandwiches to cut pizza? I gotta try that!
Load More Replies...I too think this is weird, never saw anybody do it until I was well into adulthood. Probably my 30s. Never owned a pizza cutter before adulthood either, but a knife worked just fine now I have several pizza cutters because apparently pizza is a big thing now, but it always was in New York. 🤷🏻♀️
It'll be weird until the day you try it and find out it works soooo much better than a knife or pizza cutter!
Load More Replies... I was living on the third floor and one night I looked out my window and a guy on the first floor in the next building had all his windows open and the lights on.
He was taking a dump, completely naked, while his dog was just staring at him.
A guy in a Santa Speedo. Nothing else. I could see his bathroom from my apartment window and he was standing in front of the mirror posing.
Is it possible to write sentences without using the word "like" any more?
The house opposite mine has a frosted glass bathroom window. For some reason the residents felt that was enough. The bath is in front of the window, with a shower over the bath. I soon found out the lady who lived there wasn't a natural blonde as she stood in the bath with one foot on the window ledge whilst she shaved! I looked up one day and saw her partner vigorously 'washing' his genitals!
Ugly Naked Guy, he used to live in the apartment opposite Monica.
Didn't they also have a very ugly naked lady or something similar for valentines or Christmas?
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The house opposite mine has a frosted glass bathroom window. For some reason the residents felt that was enough. The bath is in front of the window, with a shower over the bath. I soon found out the lady who lived there wasn't a natural blonde as she stood in the bath with one foot on the window ledge whilst she shaved! I looked up one day and saw her partner vigorously 'washing' his genitals!
Ugly Naked Guy, he used to live in the apartment opposite Monica.
Didn't they also have a very ugly naked lady or something similar for valentines or Christmas?
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