“It Absolutely Blew My Mind”: 50 Traits People Thought Everyone Had, But Were Proven Wrong

If you only care about your own good - be polite. So many people would be gracious to you in return that you'll end up way ahead of where you'd be otherwise. Or as Mark Twain put it, "Always do right. It will gratify the good people and astonish the rest."

Manners cost nothing. And nor do apologies (when you are actually in the wrong). But they have value.

Since I was raised with all those things being the norm, not something special wich means you are “polite” I never have to think about doing them, I’m not even sure I could stop doing them. But while I love being nice and most people react very positive, I tend to be extremely confused by people not doing those things, I always wonder what happened to them to make them that way

The only thing you truly own is your personal character, treat it like the precious treasure it is. If other people want to poison their souls with rudeness and destroy their only real possession, good luck to them.

I deal with this a lot. I do delivery work where I have to go in and out of stores repeatedly and the amount of people who will let a door close in my face is astounding.

“Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that.” - George Carlin

The smartest people can do the dumbest things.

I'm always amused that everybody seems to believe that they are smarter than everybody else. Reddit and BP are like Lake Wobegon - they're all above average.

Just remember that sometimes people you don't consider bright can have skills you don't and talents that would surprise you. What we consider intelligent traits don't cover all the spheres of cognition, reflexes, or emotional intelligence.

If most people were bright, the term "bright" would not be very descriptive or useful.

Being late regularly is disrespectful. ANYWHERE (and by anywhere I mean those who cite cultural differences). The fact that somewhere is the norm doesn't make it less disrespectful

As a young adult one of my siblings was constantly late. I finally told her, "The next time you're late, we'll just go without you." Well, she did and - to her amazement - we did. I have never known her to be late for anything again.

I absolutely have no time for people who are late and waste my time. If you can't be bothered to show up for me on time, I will not bother with you.Chronically late people are dead to me.

Show up late, get left behind.

An HOUR?? Id go home!

During chemo, I was so hurt when many of those I truly thought would be there for me simply disappeared. On the other hand, my Facebook family (ladies I have never met, but have been friends with for over 20 years) stepped up immediately. There are about 25 of us that stay in touch. They called, emailed, texted, did a fund raiser, had meals sent to my house, sent gifts. One of them, from Canada, scheduled an overnight layover on her trip home so she could check on me in person!!! Yeah, is was devastating to realize so many people weren't who I thought they were. It crushed me. But it also showed me how true friends always come through for you. And the ones that didn't contact me? No longer in my life

Same. It's why I don't have friends anymore. I quit trying when I realized everything was a one way street.

Same. It took a long time for me to figure out I just hadn't found the right crew yet. Some ppl are truly loving and kind, and others can appear so but are a little on the flaky side when you need help. It's worth the effort to find the right friends in life.

It's upsetting and painful, because people expect the same they give to others. If we do it, they can do. The assumption that it will happen is what leads it to be so painful when it doesn't happen. It's an impossible thing to overcome though, because, like so many (myself included), we always expect that others will react the same way we do, and then...

and i keep f*****g doing it. I can't be mad at the next (innocent)person who needs help just because the last (not innocent) person f****d me over

You are DEFINITELY not alone. You just described the entire thought process that fuels my inescapable procrastination.

I have never related to something more in my life. I didn’t realize that other people didn’t think about things as just one thing that’s so odd to me

You mean that isn't normal? I'm the same way, but my psychologist father just called me lazy, so I've just owned it. Being a lazy waste of space I mean...

Maybe autism then?

I relate so much. Last yr at age 50, I got diagnosed w/inattentive adhd. Turns out that us women present opposite to boys so we usually dont get diagnosed til later in life where boys get their diagnosis in grade school. I now have all the answers as to why my life so far hasn't turned out good at all, & why I'm still in low wage jobs, job hopped excessively, would spend every cent of my paychecks the moment I got them, would put things off til the very last second, would start so many things that 'this time it'll stick and i'll be great at it' - and to this day I have 20395 projects just lying about. Unable to motivate myself. Executive dysfunction is REAL. Time blindness is REAL. I'm finally on meds & now truly understand HOW ppl can do the thing as soon as they decide to do the thing. My past was fully wasted all because I'm a female w/inattentive adhd. I hate we present 100% opposite to boys. If ppl/parents knew what to look for, most women would've thrived!

I LOVE learning new things! My family calls me the research queen because I want to know everything about something. With my cancer (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma), my oncologist said I was the most informed patient she'd ever had! 😆 I just have a need to have as much information on a subject as possible.