Not every person is suited for parenthood, and that’s okay. What isn’t acceptable is choosing to raise a child even with the apparent lack of ability and willingness to do better.
Today, we’re putting a spotlight on toxic mothers. You’ll see screenshots showing their blatant disrespect for boundaries and privacy. Some may have even risked their kids’ health and well-being. Be forewarned, as a few of these are disturbingly wrong.
We’ve picked out these posts from this subreddit to highlight some of their behavior. Hopefully, none of you went through similar ordeals as children. If you’re a mom, let these bad parenting examples be your reminder of what to avoid at all costs.
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The Emojis Are The Icing On The Cake
A Mother’s Love 💕
Absolutely Accurate
Minimizing a child’s feelings is a common toxic mom behavior. Some are guilty of telling their kids not to feel a certain way because it is wrong. According to Florida-based psychotherapist Dr. Tracy Hutchinson, this sends a message that feelings are better off suppressed.
In an article for CNBC, Dr. Hutchinson recommends asking children what they think would make them feel better. She says this trains them to manage their emotions independently at a young age.
Homeopathic Side Effects
You Can Do Everything Right And Still Fail
I Don't Have A Problem With Extended Nursing, But Omg Still Using Months?
And here I am where my age should be counted by decades instead of by years.. a five decade old guy.
It’s one thing to encourage your child to strive for excellence. Demanding perfection is when things can get problematic. Dr. Hutchinson says it could lead to confidence and self-esteem issues as they grow older.
“Build mental strength in your kids by making sure expectations are realistic,” she wrote. She adds that setbacks will only teach kids how to bounce back and hopefully lead them to success in the future.
More Essential Oil S**t
A Water Bottle
Couldn't Have Seen This Coming?
Growing up with a toxic mom can have a profound effect on a person. According to licensed psychotherapist Christine Scott-Hudson, the inability to trust oneself is one of the few manifestations.
In her interview with Bustle, she says this mainly happens to people who dealt with a gaslighting mother. As a result, they could suffer a lifetime struggle with self-doubt.
Baby Boy Can't Date
Please For The Love Of God Say Sike
I Asked About Learning Activities For My Toddler
The inability to maintain healthy relationships or a constant attraction to toxic individuals is another by-product of having a toxic mom. New Jersey-based therapist Vanessa Watson-Hill says it’s because emotionally unavailable mothers fail to model a healthy relationship for their children.
So How's Your Morning Going? ....i Thought Mine Was Bad Until I Read Hers, Damn
Discrimination!
One time when I was like 6 years old, I was at a friend's house and trying to find the bathroom. Instead I walked in on my friend's mother breastfeeding her NINE YEAR OLD son. Whatever happens to me in life, that image will be seared into my brain until the day I die.
She should homeschool him, with any luck he'll be weened by 14 and just barely knowing his ABC's.
The government is forcing the ABCs on us all, as part of world domination.
Load More Replies...let him grow up, and teach him to eat solid food. His body will (already) need it.
My Son is 18 and he's going off to college. His Resident Assistant said I can't come to his dorm room twice a day to nurse him. I don't know what to do, they're discriminating against me! Just Ewwww!
Why are so many of these women trying to be like that Game of Thrones character who was breastf6her son when he was 8?
Pediatrics association would like you stop breast feeding generally around 2 years. You have entered the phase that now is seriously a concern for your child and definitely concern you may need extra help making decisions that won’t scar your child for life lol.
I genuinely do not understand mothers who refuse to stop breastfeeding their children when they get old enough for real food. YOU ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING HELPFUL FOR YOUR CHILD!!!
In the USA you don't legally have to enroll your kid in school until age 8 so you're good. Just stay home and breastfeed him another three years. /J Pro tip: If you time the appointments right you can breastfeed him in his therapist's waiting room and get two things done at once.
I thought it was bad when a mom brought her kindergartner to school on the first day with a bottle. In comparison, that was nothing.
Another case of it's for you and not the kid. I'm thinking these women need to be reported to social services.
It's true. They do have a tendency to discriminate against d1psh1tz. Unless it's about banning books. Those fools have carte blanche
I'm not against the idea of kids remainkng breast feeded beyond the normal point... but no that needs to stay at home once the kid is old enough to eat other kids of food.
I understand how amazing breast milk is, liquid golf for sure. If you're still nursing your kid directly at the source at 5, it ain't about getting nutrients. You can pump and put it in a cup for them to drink.
Alright… THIS mother sounds insane BUT I don‘t like when you all just bash on Moms who breastfeed past year 1. I hope you will take this with an open mind, so please listen. My son is 9 now. (No I do not breastfeed him now!). He has always been a sensitiv child and we just recently found out that he might be autistic and or have ADHD. I did not know that when he was little though. I taught him sign language when he was a toddler and he could speak coherently very early. I just tell you this, so you know, that HE could communicate what HE wanted! He WANTED to breastfeed for a very long time. It went from full breatfeeding to in the mornings when waking up and in the evenings to fall to sleep, so yes I did breastfeed him for a very long time, but no, he was not exclusively breastfeed for that long. I think it was for him a comfort thing, something like having your favourite blanket or plushy with you. He breastfed until he was 5 and he would have gone on if I had not told him that we have to stop it. He was very sad, but he understood it. He asked to cuddle with my breast insted. I can’t remember how long that went on but I think it was less then a year, so maybe he would have wanted to stop breastfeeding on his own in that timeframe too. I don’t know. Anyway: please just keep in mind, that not every Mother that breastfeeds for a long time is a lunatic. Don’t be mean to them by default. Every child is different. Mine wanted it. And I won’t apologise or feel guilty for complying with my sons wishes and needs.
Sex Ed Fail
Whether it’s about picking a major for college or choosing an ice cream flavor, indecisiveness isn’t always innate. Sometimes, a mother’s negative behavior could be a catalyst for developing such a trait.
That’s because moms greatly influence decision-making. According to research, those who’ve used psychological control as a primary parenting tactic may negatively impact their child’s sense of judgment when they reach their adolescent years.
I Wonder Why This Isn’t Working
"Monat Makes Me A Millionaire"
So Nice To Read Something Funny Where No Harm Is Done To Children
Tbf, with 14 they said if he wasn't out in the next 10 minutes they would do a C-section. That was my motivation.
People who grow up with toxic mothers carry that pain their entire life. This is the case for Randi Latzman, owner of the Surviving Mom blog. She created the site as an outlet for the abuse she endured. In one of her recent posts, she recalled the breaking point in their relationship.
She Has Quite A Burden To Bear
Bed Is Actually Going To Be On Fire Now!
Homeschool Group Comforting A Mom Who Never Taught Her 14 Year Old The Months Of The Year Or His Tables
“On that fateful day, she told me she didn’t like me and wanted nothing to do with me. I felt like a knife was plunged into my heart,” Latzman wrote.
The author ultimately decided to break all contact after that argument. According to her, what hurt the most was her daughter’s broken relationship with her grandmother.
Found: Sister Of The Wicked Witch Of The West
*stares In Cps*
This Extreme Fear-Mongering Pisses Me Off So Much
Dealing with a toxic mom may feel like coming to a dead end. According to psychotherapist Brittany Boufard in the same Bustle interview, the parent in question may resort to the same cycle of denying your feelings and rejecting the idea of change.
When the worst happens, most experts recommend seeking professional help. A licensed therapist or doctor could mediate the conversation as a third party. As Watson-Hill points out, a professional could also help adults gain a better understanding, especially about developing healthy boundaries.
Really Sorry Your Baby Is A Baby
(Just trying to imagine a baby with big, baffled eyes, who can't even walk yet, using stubby, randomly waggling snot-glazed fingers to say "Give Food" in sign language)
Wtf
"Your Not A Real Mum Unless You Gave Vaginal Birth To It"
Being a mum has nothing to do with vaginal birth, c-sections, or even squeezing them out of your belly button. Being a mum is about love, wiping tears, wiping bottoms, wiping snot (there's a lot of wiping in the early days). It's about singing silly songs, and reading the same book to your child 100 times in a row. It's about being there, doing the mum-ing, teaching them, and helping them to grow up into kind, loving adults who care about fairness and equality.
Now, we want to hear from you, dear reader. Do you know someone who grew up with a toxic mother? How has it affected their life? And how are they coping? We’d love to know your thoughts in the comments!
Poor Baby
How Can I Be Needlessly Strict And Not Respect My Child's Bodily Autonomy But Make Him Not Hate Me Like I Hate My Mom For Doing The Same Thing?
From A Mom Group On Instagram. I Guess People Without Children Are Not Allowed To Be Tired
Yup, I'm childless and tired, of people like this dingbucket thinking childless people don't get tired. Here's to you too, dingbucket -_-
Spank Your Kid Because They Have Accidents, With Bonus Ignoring Medical Professionals
I would check to see if there is anything funny going on. Kids will do this when they are being abused to make themselves "unattractive". Of course it might be stress, too scared to ask to go to the toilet, or too distracted to realise she wants to go. Might also be a regression because there is a baby at home and they want similar attention. I think we can agree spanking is a no no.
The Mom Group I'm In Is A Goldmine For Crazy. I Posted About My 2 Year Old Asking For Privacy In The Bathroom And This Was A Comment I Got
Yes, Destroy Your Daughter’s Confidence. Jfc
We Don’t Use Chemicals So Going To Starve My 3 Week Old Baby
Screenshot Taken From A Dad Group I’m In
Commenting has been turned off for this post. I wonder why? #Sarcasm
F**k You And Your Privacy. I’m Gonna Show 53,000 People Your Picture And Tell Them You Got Your Period Today!
I’m Sure Her Daughter Appreciates Her Business Being Out There For All To See
"As I Have With All My Babies"
It’s Gross Karen. I’m Also Pretty Certain It’s Illegal To Feed Unsuspecting People Your Bodily Fluids
Ex-F***king-Scuse Me?! 🤯
Full Time Job? How Do You Work Full Time Selling Oils From Your Garage?
She Insisted Its Normal To Have Your Infant Fall Off A Bed A Few Times After People Started Getting On Her
Can falling off a bed, multiple times, as 5-8 mo cause autism? No. Downs syndrome? No. Cerebral palsy? No. Traumatic brain injury leading to paralysis, development delays, seizures, and/or death? YES!!
A Little Tylenol Should Do The Trick
Oh, right. because you have to pay for ambulances in america, right. (I'm assuming america because of the 911)
Common Core Is Definitely Part Of The Leftist Agenda
I pity the kid, probably won't even be able to count to 10 when others are already doing equations. All because of parents that shouldn't have been...
In A Why Did Your Toddler Tantrum Thread Mom Admits To Sending Her Son To School With No Shoes Or Clothes And Posts Them Completely Unrestrained In The Car
She Has An Online Dictionary! Doctors Beware!
Nothing wrong with wanting to be informed, I did too, I just wasn't an idiot and had my child vaccinated is all..
Totally Normal To Want To Record Your Underage Child In Their Bedroom And Bathroom
Surefire way to make sure her son wants nothing to do with her after he moves out.
Kids Don't Need Doctors! Also Doctors Won't Exist Soon?
When Will My Child Magically Learn To Read?
Leave A 17 Month Old Alone By Himself Because She Wants A Date Night And Doesn’t Want To Pay For A Sitter. Time To Call Cps…
15 And Pregnant.....again
Popped Up On My Newsfeed
“I’m Just Curious”
Generational Trauma Personified. It’s Now Too Intimate For Your Daughter To Cut Your Husbands Hair
My Kid's Dentist Told Me Skipping Antibiotics Will Be Really Painful For Her, So I'd Like To Go Ahead And Do That
Pretty sure your kid would love nothing more than to rip a chunk out of you with her chompers after making her go through that kind of pain. SMH!
No Fatties Allowed!
What In The Even F**k?? Poor Baby Was Born In Salty Dirty Water
You Don’t Need Either
Please Don’t Judge Xx
Do Babies Give Hickies?
OMG same! He also got Chlamydia from a public toilet seat and herpes from the chapstick he found on the bus! /s
I Wonder Why My Toddler Isn't Sleeping?
Maybe Don’t Leave The House If Perfectly Normal Human Behavior Bothers You?
Bet She Put Nuggets In The Oven After Posting This
Just Keep Your Baby Underwater Forever. They’ll Never Die
Say What?
I Feel Bad For Her Daughters
She Can’t Afford To Feed The Current Kid So Let’s Get Pregnant Again!
"Disappointing And Frustrating" Yikes
I Didn’t See This Here Yet. I Didn’t Get To See The Original Post Comments Before It Got Deleted
Used to be relatively common, the thought being that once they've had the disease they'll develop immunity and therefore you won't need to Worry about it any more. If only there was another way to get the same or better immunity without making them seriously ill in the first place...
Essential Oils Do It All!
I Honestly Can't Even Fully Comprehend What They're Trying To Say. I Just Know It Belongs Here
Why Bother Sending Them?
Piggy back. Back. As in a piggy back ride. To jump onto something already going. That irritates me more than it should.
Imagine Being So Out Of Touch
And they've got another one on the way. And people wonder why our society is falling apart...BECAUSE WE LET THE CLEVONS BREED!!!
Gotta Keep Those Toddlers Looking Sharp
Gay Satanic Clowns
This Felt Like It Fit Here
I'm Sure Pure Goats Milk Is The Answer To A Baby With Stomach Problems
Comments On A Post About Using The Owlet/Snuza
Everything electrical generates EMF (Electromagnetic fields). Radio stations, refrigerators, cars, lights, anything with batteries, even cell phones in airplane mode. Even your brain, unless you are dead. If you stay outside too long, electromagnetic radiation will kill your skin cells, because sunlight is electromagnetic radiation.
You Get What You Pay For
Some Girl Posted A Question Asking Pregnant Moms If They Thought They Have Or Have Had Covid-19
Finally Found One In The Wild. Almost 450 Comments Flaming Her
Detoxing Baby??
As Seen In A Chicken Raising Group Of All Places 🐓
Baby Is About 3 Months Old… (From A Due Date Group). Suffocate Or Strangle Or Burn? What’s Going To Happen First?
Apparently Tylenol Is Full Of Glitter 😂
What’s Worse? Raw Goat Milk Or Homemade Vitamin Drops…
Yes, There’s Live Fish In There. Confirmed In Her Comments. I Presume Her “Work From Home With 25% Travel” Is Her Essential Oils Conferences
Homemade Formula
Ummmmm
I'm sure people will be lining up to have an unknown child attend their wedding.
Good For You?
Note: you can always put the cleaners and all those on the higher shelves, and just leave paper towels, big pots, and other harmless items under the sink.
Where Can I Get My Kid Tattooed?
this is one isn't TOO crazy. I mean yeah 15 is kind of young for tattoos, but at the same time, my sister let her daughter get one when she was 16. The kid was going to try and get it anyway, so my sis just figured she'd rather have her go to a legit tattoo artist rather than whatever my niece would have been able to find by herself (her friends were talking about buying a tattoo kit online T.T). Sis said she can always get it removed later if she really regrets it, but now niece is 19 and has five more tats, so she doesn't regret it yet.....
Interesting Definition Of “Need”
Y.....yes???
Why is it here ? Cinnamon rolls are pretty harmless, but it is better to ask than to eat something dangerous. Would you also think it strange if she asked about sushi ?
The further down the list I read, the more I hoped that these were all some kind of elaborate spoof. Toxic just isn't the word for what some of them are doing, they should be locked up.
Calm down. Have a cookie. No, not that cookie, that moron put poop in it and sold it to her kids' friends at a discount because it's his birthday. ;) I think most of them should be locked up. Some in jail, some in a nut farm
Load More Replies...I have less than no faith in humanity but half of these cant be real.
I would have doubted this level of ignorance could be real if I hadn't seen the people testifying about why they wouldn't wear a mask during covid, get vaccinated, or why they are supporting trump.
Remember the nutjobs claiming the Covid magnetized them??
Load More Replies...The Bible says in James 5:14 that if you're sick, you're to go to the elders of the church for prayer and be anointed with oil in the name of the Lord. So I can imagine that when you go to the doctor, he/she would be dumbfounded because they couldn't find anything wrong.
Okay, I'm a little distressed about the ant-vax posts being at the top when so many of the others are so grossly flat-out child abuse.
antivaxxers kill other, immunocompromised, children who do get caught up on their vaccines? No idea though.
Load More Replies...The further down the list I read, the more I hoped that these were all some kind of elaborate spoof. Toxic just isn't the word for what some of them are doing, they should be locked up.
Calm down. Have a cookie. No, not that cookie, that moron put poop in it and sold it to her kids' friends at a discount because it's his birthday. ;) I think most of them should be locked up. Some in jail, some in a nut farm
Load More Replies...I have less than no faith in humanity but half of these cant be real.
I would have doubted this level of ignorance could be real if I hadn't seen the people testifying about why they wouldn't wear a mask during covid, get vaccinated, or why they are supporting trump.
Remember the nutjobs claiming the Covid magnetized them??
Load More Replies...The Bible says in James 5:14 that if you're sick, you're to go to the elders of the church for prayer and be anointed with oil in the name of the Lord. So I can imagine that when you go to the doctor, he/she would be dumbfounded because they couldn't find anything wrong.
Okay, I'm a little distressed about the ant-vax posts being at the top when so many of the others are so grossly flat-out child abuse.
antivaxxers kill other, immunocompromised, children who do get caught up on their vaccines? No idea though.
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