Just because someone is your biological parent doesn’t automatically make them family. Being a father is all about self-sacrifice, supporting your kids through all the ups and downs, and loving them unconditionally.
Unfortunately, not everyone fits the bill. Some dads are downright toxic and deeply mean-spirited. Bored Panda has collected some of the most awful message exchanges that people have ever had with their ‘dads.’ They’re examples of behavior that nobody should have to tolerate, and why healthy boundaries are vital, even when it comes to your relatives.
Warning: this topic may be triggering for some readers.
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My Father Tries To Say He Put Me Through College. My $1,000 Monthly Loan Payments Say Otherwise
I like how third comment is against the mother when even the jerk dad said he chose to have nothing to do with his child.
The same with me. My father would always use my college tuition as an excuse to his buddies --- "that's why I'm always broke." I spoke up " you gave me $20 for my entire 4 years - to pay for a book or something I desperately needed. I can pay that back now if you want but you did not PUT ME THROUGH COLLEGE. Never told that lie again.
Sounds like my family. Once when she was talking to who knows who and was boasting about paying for my college, I got my loan papers (while she was still on the phone) handed them to her and said loudly "If you put me through school, then you won't have a problem paying the $40k in student loans"
That's A Father Who Needs To Be Investigated
Ew! This is creepy as, like the promise ring thing (wouldn't be so creepy if it was for either everyone or no-one, rather than just dad's and daughters)
Would still be way creepy if it was both perants. I sure as hell wouldn’t want my perants whatching my genitals being examined!
Load More Replies...There is always a female nurse present if the doctor is the opposite sex of the patient. Makes sense, as it helps the patient feel calmer and safer in such stressful circumstances. So Daddy can stay TF out. I mean, I remember I was about 3 or 4 when I booted everyone out of the bathroom when I took a bath, starting with my father. They could stand at the door and listen all they wanted, but they couldn’t come in until I said so. That’s the usual age when children decide for themselves that they want privacy when doing private stuff like bathing. After that, it starts getting abnormal and downright creepy if the parents insist on being in the same room.
My doctor's office always has a nurse present regardless of the doctors gender.
Load More Replies...I really hope the dad was just overly concerned for the girl's safety, but yikes
My spidey-sense says dad didn't want daughter to "say the wrong thing" or make sure daughter "kept the secret" 😔
Load More Replies...Why was he even with her? Even if he gave her a lift he should wait in the car wtf
Load More Replies...I understand if he gave her a ride, fine; and if she needs a ride home. The father can wait at the waiting room or at a cafe nearby. Creepy and perverted father,
Yeah, that is creepy. I want as few people in the room as possible when my hoohah is exposed
Sounds like dad wanted to check on daughter's sexual activity - if any. Poor girl...move out now.
That’ sounds like someone trafficking/abusing a young girl not a “father figure”
My Stepdad Gave My PC Away To Goodwill. He Said I Waste My Time On It And I Should Be An Auto Mechanic Instead Of Going To College For Computer Science. I Spent Like $800 On That PC
I went to Goodwill and bought it back for $85. They had my computer for sale for $85.
And all your data... privacy/security wise I hope it was all wiped before your father handed it in. (Doubt it). For less hassle - I hope everything was still on it and you could just plug and play. Would like to advise a lock on the pc bolted to the desk, but I bet dad would see that as a challenge and get powertools or destroy it... :(
OP should probably inform the nearest goodwill stores that his stepdad has a tendency to do this, so they can keep the computer for him if it happens again
Load More Replies...What a jerk. A friends son was in a similar situation. His sorry Daddy demanded he take some kids and of PC classes in college but he wanted Auto Body. After he moved out of Mr control freaks house and in with his Mama he switched majors and was much happier.
This could be a true story but at least in WA state, that is not how Goodwill works. All electronics and I think also just general electrical items (toaster, blender) go to a central location near Seattle where they have people trained to test everything. Junk is recycled and still usable stuff is sent back out to the various stores. Meaning a given donated PC would not immediately be for sale and quite likely would not be at the same location it was donated at. That said, maybe some locations do it differently.
It works the same way here in Indiana. I don't believe this story, either.
Load More Replies...Parenting is a very difficult and sensitive topic to get into. Nearly everyone seems to have strong opinions on raising kids well (and might think others are wrong). There’s no single ‘best’ approach to childcare because a lot depends on the dynamics between your family members.
But broadly speaking, one parenting style is miles better than the alternatives. Spoiler warning: it’s authoritative (not to be confused with authoritarian) parenting.
Insane Dad
Download an app that looks for infrared or RF signals, or even "hidden camera detector" apps. (Yes, I know this is from reddit, but figured I'd post a solution that might help other people.)
Good to have if you stay in Airbnbs. Lots of hidden cameras in those places
Load More Replies...You cannot be sure it is your dad after all, even if all the evidence points to it, so better let the police find the culprit.
Load More Replies...Why’d I Have The Same Exact Experience
Honestly... my step-daughter's car wouldn't start after she finished work one day. She called, we tried a few things, and I drove over (only about 1/2 hour) in the dark, managed to get it started, and we tentatively drove home with me following her all the way. It's just what you do for your family and the people you care about. To not even ATTEMPT to help is just so s****y.
Good for you. My husband would do the same for my daughter (his stepdaughter). This is just messed up.
Load More Replies...My son's tire blew out about 45 minutes from the house at midnight. I drove out there, waited for tow truck and took him home (he didn't have a spare). Then I drove him back out the next day to pick his car up and paid for everything. It's called not being a d**k.
My dad actually got offended when I locked my keys in my car and called my brother in law who lives 10 miles away instead of calling my dad who lives 45 miles away because my dad wanted to be the one to help me. Any dad who doesn't have what we call "superman syndrome" with the desire and drive to help their children in need is not a dad in my opinion. This does not include dads who financially and physically can't help their kids of course.
Reminds me of the time I was stranded in NYC with very little money and a dying cell phone. It had also started snowing quite heavily. There was a new rule (circa 9/11) that you couldn't have more than a certain number of bags to travel on the train, and I had like 5 bags of film equipment. The rule did not apply in Philadelphia, where I had come from and where I was trying to get back to. My mother was 5 hours away. When I called my father, my stepmother wouldn't even let me speak to him. She just said "he's busy" and hung up. Thank Satan for one of my mother's good friends. She worked in the city and came to pick me up.
It's a good thing you know who you can call when you need help. If you can afford it get the mid level AAA, you get up to 100 miles of towing. They will jump your car off, unlock door is f you lock the keys inside.
Also if you're a Tmobile customer, they cover the cost of AAA basic plan. The basic only covers a few miles of towing, but they will fix a flat with a spare, deliver fuel if you run out, just gotta pay for the price of the gas, they also cover locksmith services for up to $50 and come out to jump start if battery dies. Plus quite a bit of other services, are all covered, just for being a Tmobile customer. You can upgrade to the mid or best level of AAA memberships at any time, just have to pay for those upgraded membership tiers.
Load More Replies...My father is the same.. I had a minor car accident about two months ago and I have REALLY BAD panic attacks and I couldn’t get my mum on the phone because she never answers…. So my moron father answered andddd he said those exact same words. Yeah. The guy whose car mine somehow rolled backwards into— but he had a massive bull bar- zero damage! Kept comforting me and checking on me…. My dïckhead father, ever the narcissist, couldn’t have cared less.. Oh I did indeed yell at him for it once my panic attack subsided.
My car for some reason stopped at the lights about two months ago and rolled backwards into car. It is not an electric car and I had my foot on the brakes and it did nothing. Literally it will not stop. It rolled into the car behind me. I called my father afterwards because I was having a panic attack and my mum, as usual, wasn’t answering her phone. My father in his NEVER CHANGING WAYS simply said to me; ‘what do you want me to do about it?’… Yeah… Even the guy whose car I had rolled into was more concerned about me and he got me to hang up the phone and helped with my panic attack while my dïckhead father didn’t even care at all. Yeah. Oh, and he is my biological father… he is just a narcissist. But let me tell you now, if it was his golden child, his first born daughter it would be a different story. He would drive to the ends of the earth for her. 🙄 Coincidentally, she too is a narcissist and they both get along…can’t stand her!
I can't even imagine being 17 and having that happen. If my dad didn't come, I wouldn't know what else to do. I bet my dad not only would've come, he'd have done the same for basically anyone else.
My Dad Is Sending Me To Boot Camp This Month Because I Didn't Get My Hair Cut The Way He Wanted. I Was Sobbing In The Back Of My Work When He Sent Me These Messages
And some years later, this very man is going to whine to everyone who happened to be around about his uNgRaTeFuL sOn who wants nothing to do with him.
I would screen shot everything, keep it. And when the time is right, come clean with him. Does not matter when. But when dad "forgets" what he said, wrote, did. Been there, done that. The most puzzling is, when they look at you in disbelief because they completely forgot how they behaved.
I would like to know OP's age. Not that this is appropriate at any age, but I can't imagine how anxiety inducing this would get as person gets more and more self aware.
There are four main parenting styles: authoritative (aka balanced), authoritarian (dictatorial and harsh), permissive (parents see their kids as friends), and uninvolved (neglectful).
To put it bluntly, you should aim to be an authoritative parent because it’s the healthiest for your children when it comes to building self-esteem, resilience, academic success, and emotional and mental well-being.
My Father Tracking Me While I’m On A Date
Depends on the age with this one. My neice has ADHD and we live in a massive sprawl. She's allowed to go just about anywhere, she just forgets to check in if plans change.
Consider before downvoting, minors are considered the responsibility of their parents in the US, so tracking by phone is the least intrusive option.
Load More Replies...I have location sharing on my teen's phone in case of emergencies. To date, I have never once looked at it, as there haven't been any emergencies. Teenagers need to learn to be independent adult humans. That will not happen if you continue to treat them like they're 5 years old.
depends on the kid's age and safety level of the country. If this is USA I'd be worried about public mass shootings so I would definitely track my kid.
By the locations they are in Brisbane, Australia on a place called the Queen St Mall which is super safe
Load More Replies...I wonder how people have the time and energy to do stupid stuff like this.
Because depending on her age you don't need to know where she is every second of the day. If she's an adult back off!
Once A Month From My Dad
Nah, you want a written record of harassment in case it escalated.
Load More Replies...Why not block? Not worth reading and not worth your time. That might be be the person who fathered you...but it's definitely not your Dad. At least no more.
I can think of only one reason... I would need a reminder to myself that he did not change. If I ever wonder if I should try again and have some relationship with that person because he couldn't be as bad as I remember it to be, those messages show, he is much worse...
Load More Replies...WTAF? From your Father???? Block him on every media site you use and do not ever speak to him again. What a f*cking monster.
I’m A Recovering Alcoholic Who Just Moved Into A New Apartment. This Is What My Dad Left Me
Never assume malice when stupidity is a possibility.
Load More Replies...im gonna guess dad's an alcoholic too - it was like that for me, some people don't want you to stop, it's too close to home for them
Yeah, those are the worst. Seeing you do better means losing their excuse to ignore their own failure
Load More Replies...He must have liked you better when you drank. You were probably much more easily manipulated. Congrats on getting sober. And either set some VERY clear boundaries or just don't talk to this f*cking asshat for a few years.
Jealous. Want you to fail so he can feel good about himself. Sick SOB
Your goal as a parent is to create a nurturing and supportive space for your munchkins, where they can not only survive but also thrive and grow into kind, capable, and confident adults.
Authoritative parenting is all about finding the right balance between unconditional love and firm boundaries for your kids.
Last Year's Thanksgiving With Dad Brought This Out. Not The First Time He's Made Comments Like This, And I Was Told I Was Gross For Getting Upset
He might win, or not. I don't care. I just grab my popcorn and watch. This might be Ivanka or not, but apparently only to ask the question gets your comment deleted. Ivanka, this you?
Load More Replies...go NC immediately. His next move will be to try to rape you. this is from experience!
sitting by my dad in the car while reading this is surreal, he does the same kind of thing (including the inappropriate jokes, like commenting on my chest etc)
My dad does this sĥït. It's so gross. I am not sure low-contact is enough. (It's been 15 mos since last in-person and 2 months since last phone convo). The man is 75, and will not ever change. I feel sorry for his wife.
Dad Decided To Tear My Room Down While I'm Away At College. He Also Threw All Of My Stuff Away Without Asking
Yes I agree but law says it's their property and the kid can't do anything about it
Load More Replies...There is no plan here. He didn't even move the furniture out. It's just vindictive.
My mother (and her partner) threw out most of my belongings when I went to university, on the basis that if I needed it, I would have taken it with me. And they sold my bicycle without telling me.
It gets better: they threw my little brother out on his 18th birthday, with a week’s notice.
Load More Replies...My mom threw my stuff out when I was at university. I came back "home" on every weekend. The worst was that she went through all my stuff. Together with my little sister. She still tells me I should have kept the room tidy like she told me ...
I thought I was alone in this: see my earlier post. I couldn’t take everything with me, as I had to use a train to/from uni: could therefore only take what I could carry.
Load More Replies...What a fekking horrible, jackarse of a monster that father is. I hope OP went completely NC and never looked back.
For The First Time In My Life, I Stood Up To My Psycho Dad. His Response Was To Cut Me Out Of His Will
No, OP is ONLY GETTING $20. In the UK & USA (and a lot of other countries), if you leave someone a token amount/item they will struggle to contest it, as they have clearly been considered in the will. If someone leaves their entire estate to one person/charity, you can easily contest the will, stating that they had forgotten to consider you, and were clearly not in their right mind, and, if you are direct family (husband, wife, child) you will likely get the main share.
Load More Replies...Oh boy you get $20 each go buy the big packs of Charmin to remember him by.
I would reply, that is amazing! I can't imagine the positive your donation will do for this fur babies
It is a pity you didn't think of replying: "Great dad. I love cats and dogs"
I can't imagine constantly having money held over your head like this. I'd say have fun spending your money and never contact me again!
He's donating to an animal shelter? Funny how he cares about animals but not his own kids.
Kids need lots of affection and attention, yes, but they also require structure and boundaries. Authoritative parents understand the massive value that clarity provides in a home setting. That’s why they’re so big on open and honest communication.
They establish very clear guidelines for their kids: they explain what behavior is acceptable, what’s not, and why. And they take their children’s feelings and opinions into account.
My Dad Thinks He Is Entitled To My Money (Which I Don't Have Much Of) Because "It's Christmas"
Sounds like an "I sired you and raised you so you OWE ME" kind of dad!
WOW. Who would even want to spend any time with him let alone Christmas?
"the money you deserve me?" English is not my first language but that makes no sense
Illiterate, drunk, completely off the rails. Easy to decide what to do (or better: NOT to do) here.
WTF? Man, I just can't get over how many Dad are such entitled pricks. I love the way he said he said you'd be sending him money "Yes, you will" like he had Darth Vader kind of power. No means no, you f*cking piece of sh*t.
Guessing no one here has been owed money and the debtorcrefuses to pay it.
So my brother passed away a few years ago. He wasn’t rich, didn’t have a wife or children. Lived very much alone and I hardly saw or talked to him. He passed from over dose. My mom has more money than my dad. She went to my brothers apartment with some of my cousins and took care of everything. His belongings. Sold his car and took out what money he did have (he had no life insurance so anything went towards his final expenses). My dad didn’t help in any way and continued asking my mom where his money is and what is she doing with it all and if there’s anything left if he could have it. While my mom is planning his funeral and everything.
That’s Probably Not The Only One
Find a friend that's a delivery driver to put it on their vehicle and lay low for a couple days! 😊
We have car-battery-attached GPS location/trackers in the fleet cars of our family business. Okay, kosher - they're our business's cars and our employees know about the trackers. Then my mom secretly had the same type of tracker installed in my dad's caregiver's PERSONAL vehicle. My dad died in 2021 and the caregiver has since moved to a different state, but the tracker is still on his truck and my mom looks at his location often. I'm often tempted to tell the caregiver, but the a-hole once filmed me while I was in the shower (while he was supposed to be watching my dad) and often crept into my bedroom at night to stare at me when he had a night shift, sooo I'm kinda also on the "eff him" train.
Omgosh. I dunno what I thought I was going to get when I clicked this article. These people don't deserve to be parents. Seriously.
So many people shouldn't be parents. It's heartbreaking.
Load More Replies...Attach it to an unmarked police car and see what they do when he starts following them around.
Wow. Throw it in a trash truck and let him track it to the landfill. Report him to the police.
Is there some police service maybe where they can scan the car for this stuff? I also doubt that would be the only one 😬
This is an AirTag and it will make noise after a relatively short time of being away from its linked owner.
Load More Replies...My Father Sent A Video To A Group Chat With Me And My Brother Of A Guy Smashing His Kid’s TV Because They Forgot Their Chores
That was yesterday morning. Since then, I’ve been getting complete silent treatment and he snaps at my mom and brother whenever they try to speak to him.
This was exactly my dad. And for the record--we're no contact. Went mostly no contact in my early 30s. I'd just had enough. Now I'm almost 50 and we're completely no contact.
I remember years ago watching a video of a dad running over his kids video games with his riding lawn mower and the poor kid (he looked about 15-16) was absolutely devastated and having a complete meltdown. People were actually siding with this dad! I was heartbroken for this kid. Now, I didn't have a lot of context of course but even if your kid was "lazy" and sat around playing games all day this did not seem like a legitimate way to handle it in my opinion. I'm not a parent so my opinion means little, but still it stuck with me and I always felt so bad for that kid.
why are people even like this? does it bring them joy? does it benefit them, or anyone around them?
These authoritative parents are calm. They’re assertive. They genuinely care about their emotional well-being, but they don’t shy away from setting expectations and rules, too.
It’s important to remember, though, that there is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ parent. No matter what your social media feeds and random parenting blog posts tell you, all parents make mistakes from time to time. And that’s okay.
My Dad Still Thinks I’m 13
Ha! This sounds like my mom - I'm 42 and she still tries to control my life like this.
I miss my mom. In my 20s I worked nights and would visit her. She would wake me up in the morning because I shouldn't be sleeping all day. She meant well haha.
Load More Replies...8:30 is stupid early, but if you live with your parents then having house rules is reasonable even if you are legally an adult. My brother used to stay up super late (2 AM etc) and my stepdad went to bed early / got up early due to our farm / cows. Thing is brother would often wake up my parents and keep them from getting a good night's sleep. They set a curfew, I forget time but not too unreasonable - 10 PM or something - for having the TV off. he tried to pull the "I'm an adult I'm independent" card. My mom pulled the, "If you're independent give me your house key and hit the road" card. It took less than a day for him to decide not making noise all night was not an unreasonable request. :)
I have no issue with house rules that are justified, such as not waking people up. On the other hand, I doubt the father in the screen shot is a super-light sleeper getting up at 3 am.
Load More Replies...I had a midnight curfew at 21. Then I pointed out that my friend group ranged in age from 15 to 32 and that no one else had a curfew. I informed my mother I was "coming home with the sun." I drove in during sunrise and found her crying on the couch. That said, I never had a curfew again after that and our relationship improved.
Move out, get a job, and live independent. Start small, but at least you are free.
My Biological Dad And I Have Always Had A Bad Relationship But I Thought We Had Worked Out Something Civil When He Got "Sober". I Received $2 Two Days Before My Wedding
Previously he disowned me for marrying a woman, he also said he had stopped drinking, which wasn’t true. I must also mention that he’s been an absent father and an addict my entire life.
Why do people even bother trying to have a relationship when they are treated like this?
Cause they get pressured into "being the bigger person" and to be the one that "forgives" and "puts it behind them". Always by people that have no clue.
Load More Replies...Just send the $2 back and block him. Why are you even still texting that dirtbag?
My mother in law has three brothers whom have nothing to do with my children or myself. When the first kid was born, only one of the brothers sent me a card and inside was ten dollar bills saying “for his college fund”. His own relatives and not a single person cares. We live in the same city, too. My kids are grown and have no idea who any of them are
My Father With Whom I Have Little To No Contact, Put Me (24 Years Old) And My Sister (40 Years Old) In A Group Chat To Chastise Us For Not Texting Him On Thanksgiving
About three years ago, my father cheated on my mother after 31 years of marriage. When my sister and I refused to accept the "other woman" as our new stepmom, he flipped out and cut us off because we hurt her feelings. Over the last three years, he has made no steps to apologize and has done irreparable damage to our relationship. He was constantly sending guilt-tripping texts like this to us, and I finally just snapped and blocked him after this.
I don’t get on with my stepmother. In 2014, after 30+ years, I forgot to send her a birthday card. She sulked for a month, until we all went to my sister’s house for a pre-Christmas get together. That went awfully: the 70+ year old refused to speak to me. That was the last time I saw them. As we left the “party”, my wife pointed out that she hadn’t received a birthday card, message, or wish from them in eight years at that point. One rule for me, another for them.
I love your wife for doing this. She held onto that for so long and like a Queen, she wiped the floor with them because of their own ársehole actions. Please tell her I’m proud of her, fellow bp, from Australia!
Load More Replies...I Never understand parents calling their child filthy cuss words under any circumstance
Why even bother having contact and putting up with bs like this? Just go NC ffs.
I was very glad to read the last sentence. There is no need to have someone like that in your life, just because you have known him a long time.
No need to apologize. He got all the answers he deserves. Wait. No. He deserves no answer. You are definitely good!
Parenting isn’t a competition. And you’re not aiming for a ‘perfect’ track record. Instead, you should focus on being there for your kids, guiding them as best as you can, and learning from your mistakes as you go along.
Your success as a parent depends on your kids’ happiness rather than doing things ‘perfectly,’ following the latest parenting trends, and taking influencers’ tips as gospel. Don’t give in to the pressure from social media and your local neighborhood parents to behave a certain way just because it’s popular.
My Dad Making My Accomplishments About Himself
For context, my sister and I are very low contact with our father. There was a small news article about my participation in a space mission and he is upset the journalist didn't credit him for my interest in space.
Indeed, and a very unrefined one. Any contact with such a person is an occasiont to abuse you.
Load More Replies...Daughter should have said, "Yes, it was my father that made me want to leave the planet. Later, fortunately, I also got interested in NASA."
Ugh, my ex used to do s**t like this whenever our daughter did well in school, take credit for her accomplishments . I stopped sending him updates on her activities. If he wants to know what’s going on with her, he can find out first hand by being there more than a call every now she then and a visit when he wants to play dad.
After I read this post I wondered why you and your sister are in even low contact with your father.
My Dad Is In Texas Right Now And Is Making Me Send Photos Of My Room Every Day Or He Takes 100$ From My Account
He’s taken 1000$ out of my brother's account for eating a Laffy Taffy, so this is actually pretty tame compared to other stuff.
If you have a job, get your own bank account separate from your parents.
Unfortunately, you can't do that if you're still a minor. The only exception is if you're emancipated, as far as I'm aware.
Load More Replies...Take many pics, curtains slightly different, pillow a bit different,... in one go. Set phone reminder and send from wherever you are when you see it.
Better yet, once a week schedule the texts for each day of the upcoming week. No reminder, the messages will go out at the scheduled time on their own.
Load More Replies...We have access to both my boys accounts (one in college, one in high school). We only access it to put money in their accounts. I just can't imagine taking money from my kids.
I’m really confused. Why does he have access to your accounts? Why does he do these things? Why do you still talk to him?
he's just using that as a way to get extra spending money. Rahul Pawa is right you are probably old enough to get your own account just don't Let him get a hold of your new account imfo.
My Dad Volunteered Me To Read At Church At 6 AM. He Also Refuses To Use My New Name
Ah yes, blatant transphobia. There truly is no hate like christian love.
People like this are allowed to roam free? Why has everything to be so manipulative, esp. all things "god". These people are beyond saving.
WOW. My response? "What f*cking part of NO did you not understand?" click, block.
(slightly unrelated) it’s odd that some christian people say things like “god will never love you” because christian people also say that god loves everyone?? but he (?) doesn’t love the devil? ???? (i’m somewhat christian idk really but my family is)
It is impossible for God not to love, they are Love. It is impossible for a Christian to judge. Jesus literally says: don't judge. The church (any and all) is too small for the Holy Spirit. The greatest commandment (according to J, not making this up) is to love JHWH, God, with all your heart, mind and power. That is to give everything you've got to tap into Creativity, because JHWH is the Creator. And, which is exactly the same, love thy neighbor. Whenever you create from this Source, you are making Love real. They are one.
Load More Replies...Contrary to authoritative parents, authoritarian parents often don’t care about their kids’ thoughts or feelings about their decisions. They don’t allow for much (if any) room for negotiations and compromise. They simply expect their kids to follow their commands and strict rules to the letter, no matter the context.
Authoritarians are also likely to punish their children for misbehavior and mistakes. They have very high expectations but little flexibility and less ability to be nurturing.
Texted Dad For The First Time In A While To Ask A Simple Question. That Was A Mistake
The correct response here would be "I would rather be a b*tch like her than whatever the f*ck you are"
Reading some of these make me realize my problems with my father... cannot compare. At all.
Stepdad Ate My Only Food I Had For Lunch At Work
"Omg pls tell me you are joking!! I mix estradiol in my food cause my doctor told me it would be more beneficial that way... Pls tell me you didn't eat/drink that!!"
Love how he texts you after the fact and I hope those hormones make him nicer
I read it as the child still lived at home, and it was in the family fridge (canned drink) and she was going to bring it to work.
Load More Replies...Gross Text My Girlfriend’s Dad Sent. He Almost Never Contacts Her And Sent This Out Of The Blue. He Never Replied
I wonder if she originally misspelled it, and then corrected it in MS Paint or similar before posting
Load More Replies...Meanwhile, permissive parents, unlike authoritarians, tend to have very few expectations for their children. They can be kind, warm, and nurturing, but they’re not the best when it comes to setting up and enforcing rules and boundaries inside and outside of the home.
Often, permissive parents see their kids as their friends, so they rarely discipline them. This, in turn, can lead to their munchkins developing lots of unhealthy habits, which will have a knock-on effect on their health later in life.
My Girlfriend Got These From Her Dad Last Night After Not Answering One Phone Call. Things Like This Happen At Least A Few Times A Month With Her Parents
Keep the text. If he really reports the car stolen, show the text to the cops, they will have an interesting chat with him.
Not if he owns the car and she's driving it on an expired license they won't.
Load More Replies...My father-in-law tried that threat with my son. He call the police station, they said it is a civil mater. Not their problem.
Please change the name of the sender, buy a car if possible, and go NC..
My mom and I fought a lot because I wouldn't let her being an abusive irrational person towards me, she wasn't aware how uncool she was and she is such a different and grateful person today. I am lucky to be born in my specific position I guess. Because, I couldn't have "💚 daddy 💚" like that for such abusive a******s. Whomever it is.
My Dad Always Knows How To Make Me Feel Guilty For Things I Shouldn’t Have To Feel Guilty Over
The characters more or less translate to "love/happiness", which is irony of the highest order.
Every Latina mother. Why didn't you answer your phone? Because I'm at work. Oh I guess I'm not the one who carried you for nine months, and raised you.
I cut anyone like this out. I don't have the energy to deal with adults that act like neurotic teenagers.
The Chinese meaning of that is really basic, the equivalent of live laugh love so, no, I don't like his bell
Dad Bruises My Arm After Losing His Temper. He’s Not Very Remorseful
Freedom is good. But too much freedom without any guidance can be toxic. Uninvolved, aka neglectful, parents are barely present in their children’s lives. Often, they have barely any expectations of them and don’t offer them a nurturing environment.
This can lead to self-sufficiency, sure, but it also results in poorer academic performance, difficulties maintaining relationships, and problems with emotional control.
I Went Out Of The House For A Bike Ride, And When I Came Back, Dad Locked Me Out Of The House. Luckily, I Had A Back Door Key, But He Physically Forced Me Out Of My Own Home
To be fair we have no context here. We only see an overreaction without knowing what pushed the father's limits. He seemed to have cooled down somewhat in the last text, perhaps feeling ashamed about his tantrum.
Looking at the account the OP is a seventeen year old who has suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of what sounds like a very mentally ill father. Sometimes a spade is just a spade, and I don't think ther are many circumstances under which repeatedly kicking your child out of their home and then changing your mind are acceptable.
Load More Replies...My dad said I never went to college bc he was mad at me for graduating top of my class bc he saw it as a personal attack on him bc he never went to college. He said I was a drunken whore when I said I was at college. (????) I told him this is why nobody likes him, bc he acts crazy. So he went to the police to try to get me charged with elder abuse… for saying nobody likes him… so I would have my funeral directors license (what I went to college for) taken. It didn’t work, so he and my mom moved out of their house one weekend while I was traveling for work. I came home in the middle of winter 2018-19 and everything was gone except for my stuff. All the electric was off, water, etc. My mom kept telling me to beg for his forgiveness but I couldn’t bring myself to do it so I lived in my car that winter.
It sounds as if your mother is mad too. Beg his forgiveness for what?
Load More Replies...Lot of mental illness in these posts. So difficult to live with someone who's ill and good luck getting real help for them & often they refuse
For real. That's the moment when we add manipulation to the abuse.
Load More Replies...My Dad Always Insults My Appearance In Pictures, So I Deleted His Comments. A Man Child
People keep saying "time to go to NC". I kept thinking, what's so good about north Carolina? 😅
Load More Replies...One important lesson I learned the hard way from my mom after I had a child; "just because it's funny doesn't mean you should say it". Thanks for the jokes mom... they felt,,, not good.
Compared to everything else on this list, this example is almost wholesome.
I’m So Glad My Dad Is Finally Paying Attention To Me
My Dad Called Me Almost 350 Times, Then Decided To Use A Relative's Recent Death As Leverage. This Is Over Me Packing For School
Move away, don't tell him where, get a new number, never look back again!
My Dad Is Threatening To Call The Cops On Me
The other day I backed into a parked car in a parking lot. I couldn’t find the owner so I called the non-emergency number, left my contact info on the vehicle, and took photos of the incident. I went back to the scene when the owner came back to his car and called me, talked with the police, and agreed to handle this civilly by paying for the minor damages (dent in the rear bumper).
My dad found out and was mad about it but got over it. I went out today and he started calling me to get back home. I didn’t answer so he threatened to call the cops on me for a hit and run (which didn’t happen) and call the owner of the car and tell them to sue me. He then called all my friends and started threatening them too.
Where are the Mothers? I'd hand my daughter's Dad his a*s on a plate if he started nonsense like this.
i am not a perfect father, but i cant imagine being like that to my son ( or daughter, but i dont have Daughters.)
Load More Replies...How Do I React To This From My Dad?
NC - you react by going NC and get your a**e out of there asap - even if you have to couch surf for a couple of months.
"accomplice to wickedness" reeks of religious extremism. GO NO CONTACT NOW.
Get out of there as fast as you can and don't tell him where you're going. Have somebody check your car for trackers.
He sounds like a deeply disturbed individual. Je needs to controll you. He would tear your down for this. Don't even bother to look for meaning into such mean and crazy words. Play along until you can leave. Be very careful in the future, don't rush in a fast track romantic relation. People coming from abusive families often end up in toxic relations. I know I did. Learn to trust yourself, and to set boundries when you can reinforce them.
Why not? She is 19, she can live in her own house, if not, there are rules. (Admittedly, these wouldn't be my rules, but still.)
Load More Replies...Wow I accually am those things and my parents have never said anything remotely near as mean as that
I'm sorry but I feel there is more to this story then OP is telling us. And tbf if you are 19 and want to come and go as you please then you move out, period.
Texting My Dad About A Previously Organized Visit With My 9-Week-Old Baby. We Agreed Yesterday That He Would Come Up Around Lunchtime. How Dare I Suggest A Time For Him To Arrive
My Grandma Is In The ER And All My Dad Is Thinking Of Is Calling Me
Conversation With My Dad About Him Forcing Me To Sleep On The Couch So His Other Kids Can Have My Room
Right? No jury of her peers would ever convict her.
Load More Replies...Oh dear God in heaven. You need to get away from that house before somebody hurts you.
I Am 22 Years Old, Living On My Own With My Husband, And My Dad Still Tries To Control What I Do
'I Am 22 Years Old, Living On My Own With My Husband, And My Dad Still Tries To Control What I Do.' Honey, he is not trying, he IS controlling you still, and it will remain that way for a very long time if you don't go NC with this yahoo.
Unpopular opinion: OP is enabling this erratic behaviour by doing what he says and then turns around and complains about it to strangers over the internet!? I mean wtf!?
Yeah, and this person LETS their Dad control what they do. Assert yourself, for goodness sake.
If this is what religion does to a human, then it was not a bad thinking like....
Ha ha, my answer to the "unlike it" would be "fck you, too". Gee. Some people.
Dad Decided To Throw My Boots Away Because They're In The "Middle" Of The Way
Mine got flung sarcastically past my door at times. But never thrown away. And he once left his shoes in the walkway, so I threw them past the door of the room he was in. Got a sigh and a nod of understanding
I don't get it, it looks like they are on a mat against the wall except for the person that took the pic. You can see part of their shoes/boots.
The two sets of shoes/boots closest to the picture taker are not touching the wall board, I guess that's it.
Load More Replies...Gotta Love My Homophobic Dad. I Wasn't Even Intentionally Making An LGBTQ+ Design, Just Wanted A Rainbow
Rainbow mafia?? That actually sounds like something cool, can we all join?
We're not everything rainbow- yr just obsessed with us lol
I suppose they have to stay indoors with the curtains drawn after it rains. Just to be sure of not seeing a rainbow.
Load More Replies...I don’t know what he means with the /-2 part but LGBTQ stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Queer. Sorry if that’s now what you were asking
Load More Replies...Didn’t Give My Dad 150$ For Beer. He Must Have Found Some Money Somewhere, Because He Drunk Texted Me This Lovely Mess
Dad Gave Away My Cat A Couple Of Months After I Moved Out. He Refuses To Tell Me Where He Is. I Can't Pursue Legal Action Because I'm 14 And He Was In Legal Ownership
It's easy to judge the dad but we had to give up my sisters dog and she wanted it back. We wouldn't tell her where it was because she had no place to keep it. She didn't take care of the dog and it was wild from being left alone and not trained. If she found it she would have tried to bring it back to our house where it had already wrecked a ton of stuff costing thousands in repairs or to our moms where it kept jumping on and injuring her. It also liked to tackle my 6 yo son and he was terrified of the dog and injuring my 13 year old dog. I hated to do it but the dog was a mess from lack of care from my sister. Just saying there are always two sides.
A Text From My Father, Who Has Blamed Me For All Of His Marriage Problems With My Mom Since I Was 9 Years Old. He Sent Me This Gem While My Husband Was Deployed
Where the f**k do these men come from? I am the father of three grown children and I would never, ever have said anything even remotely close to everything that these d***heads have said to their children. And the sexual innuendo on a few of these messages, gross!
Load More Replies...My mother's was a flat out "It's your fault Dad wants to divorce me." This was 2 years after she'd kicked me out because, in her words, "if you weren't here, he'd have to talk to me." I am NC with her. Go figure.
You didn't write very much, but it seems that your Dad wanting to leave is all on your Mum.
Load More Replies...And that text reveals a lot about the father's marriage problems.... What an awful person.
Shockingly sick..I hope your husband stays safe and thank him for his service
I’m The Only Kid In The Family Who Didn’t Become A Doctor. My Mom Forced My Dad To Post For My Graduation Since He Always Brags About My Doctor And Dentist Siblings. This Is What I Got
Bet you have those income streams well set up and rolling
Load More Replies...Kids don't have to live the lives their parents wanted for themselves. Parents: Make the footsteps you want your kids to follow. And don't cry when they choose otherwise. Some people should not have kids----ever.
23 And Can’t Spend Time With My Boyfriend, Without Dad Constantly Threatening To Come To His House
If my dad had ever texted me that first sentence, I would have been mortified and second hand embarrassed for him. Like, who says that to their kid?? My daughter is 20 and I don't even want to think of her intimate life, as I'm sure she doesn't mine.
Come on, something like I couldn't talk cos I had my mouth full would be more appropriate.
I'm a f*cking adult and will stay out as late and as long as I like. PFGU
My Father Sent Me This For My Birthday. The Bottom Says "You Didn’t Think This Was A Birthday Gift, Did You?"
So reneging on all parental responsibilities, including love and support and kindness? Winner. No loss at all there, and he's also making sure that some form of generational trauma keeps going on.
That’s not even a parent to begin with.. just a sperm donor. Nothing more.
Load More Replies...This is sad. I'm not saying this person should feel bad for their own actions, but for all of hate, & indifference we got, we just wanted to be loved. We don't miss the drama, but we miss what we never had.
Load More Replies...What the hell is wrong with this man? It definitely looks like you are so much better off without him.
All eighteen-year-olds are slightly childish, as the brain is not done developing until around 25, sometimes even until 30. This empty shell of a human being still doesn't seem to be done developing. No loss to not have him in your life.
This Was Completely Out Of Nowhere
I was at work and sent my dad this, he’s been kinda moody lately, so I was just sending it as more of a heads up. Keep in mind, my name is also on the lease and I pay half the rent. Also this girl is also like my sister and she moved away a year ago, she is also only in town for today and tomorrow.
"You're absolutely right, I DGAF how you feel. Just letting you know I was having company."
My Brother Has Some Major Behavioral Issues, So I Put My Mom And Dad Into A Group Chat So They Can Work Out Putting Him In Therapy. My Dad Refuses, And Has No Problem Calling Him A Loser
Tell your Dad he is an ignorant, uninformed twat. "I'm the adult, I know better" doesn't work anymore. It hasn't worked since the Internet went online.
I Turned Off My Location Services For My Own Privacy. My Dad, Citing Safety Reasons, Turned Off My Wireless Data Until I Share My Location
This one depends on context. How old is the child? Where do they live / what potential risks are in their environment? If my teenaged child was in the city on their own or even with friends I would like to keep track where they are for their own safety. You never who could be around them and teens don't always make the best decisions. Or maybe this child has broke their dad's trust in the past...
I'm so glad I grew up in a time when stalking and controlling your own children to this extent wasn't considered normal and acceptable parenting. This has everything to do with control and nothing whatsoever to do with safety. If he cared about the safety of his child he wouldn't have turned all service off making their phone entirely unusable in any sort of emergency.
Load More Replies...I agree this could depend on the child's age. If you are grown and pay for your own phone then of course the parent has no say. However, I am 47f and have location services on and shared with my parents and husband. If anything happens to me I want them to know where I was/where my phone is.
We're 49, our son is 24, my mom is 73, and sister-in-law is 54...we share location mostly for funsies. Husband and I travel a lot with his job, and it's fun for them to see our icons on Google maps. It's all consensual, and we can see theirs too.
Load More Replies...My Dad And I Were Having Such A Nice Conversation For Once, Until This
"They" has been a singular pronoun in English since the 14th century, long before "you" was singular. Dad needs to go back to english classes.
I can't get used to it. I try. I have a friend who is non-binary, and when talking about them (with their parent, asking how they're doing at uni, etc) both of us struggle to remember to say "them" or "they" because it just doesn't come naturally to me. "They" is plural, as far as I'm concerned, and I try to adapt, but it's really hard when you're programmed one way! (I had a similar thing when learning to horse ride - I did gymnastics as a child and they're always telling you to point your toes, so naturally I do, but when you horse ride it's the opposite! It's "Raise your heels!" and I still can't get used to it!)
Load More Replies...Shakespeare used singular they. Singular they (1375—over 600 years ago!) has been used before singular "you" (seventeenth century) according to some quick easy Google searches.
Just say: change and progress can be hard for some older people, I'm sure you will eventually catch up - eventually.
My Dad Doesn't Like When I Try To Cool Down The Hottest Side Of The House (My Side). He Closed All The Vents, Took My Fan, And Decided To Do This. It's Set To 82 Degrees. We're In Arizona
My dad did this growing up in Florida. His room was right by the AC and under a tree. He would set it to 85 in his room and mine was an addition with a flat black top roof without shade and sliders. I brought the outdoor thermometer in my room one day and it was over 100 degrees. I would sleep on the tile with a blanket over two box fans making a wind tunnel. The few times he would swing by my room to yell at me for something he would comment how hot it was. He would just pull the thermostat off the wall during the day and take it to work.
Maybe he thinks OP is a vampire of some sort. I guess a vampire that thrives in the cold
Load More Replies...When he's out, get a heat lamp and aim it at the thermostat (not close enough to set anything on fire) which will trick the AC setting into starting up.
My SiL's father was determined to save heating money, so not only was the house set to 55F, he aimed a heat lamp at it to trick it into thinking it was that hot...
Load More Replies...When we built onto my house I tried to get my now ex to do a split system because I knew the addition would be the hottest in the summer and coldest in the winter. He didn't agree, well our son was either freezing or burning up. After he moved out I bought him a window AC unit that my other son just replaced after 23 years I think and a heater with a timer. My other son that is still home has a Dr Heater in there, I have 1 in my office and it's great.
It's his thermostat to do as he pleases with. If you don't like it, get your own place.
My Dad Not Letting Me Borrow An Umbrella Because It’s In His "Bunker Room"
What use would an umbrella be in a BUNKER?! Logic has left that building long ago.
By his usage of the word "Libs", he's an extreme right-wing. And that means he is now completely divorced from any logic and common sense.
Load More Replies...Doomsday preppers are the weirdest bunch. Instead of learning things like basic alchemy, farming and other actually useful skills, they hoard canned goods and guns. Lunatics.
Weed might actually help this person to relax and find peace. Right wing propaganda is what's making this person paranoid
Load More Replies...Oh god, he’s one of those nutcases… that woman needs to do herself and her kid/s a favour and kick him out and/or leave with the kids. He will only get a LOT worse:. Especially when he starts making the kids did exercise training, guard training and depriving them of things…. 😠
Another Conversation With My Dad
My 75-Year-Old Dad, Asks Me, A 32-Year-Old Female, For An 8x10
I think his mind might be deteriorating. To go from that to chicken wings so quickly.
Can't believe dad doesn't trust daughter with her own body. She makes good chicken wings!!
Dad Refuses To Give Me Back My Keys After I Loaned Him My Car
My Father Set A Password... To The Thermostat
Compared to the others, not do bad, but still low. At least if they can afford it.
To be fair, I'm the one paying the electric bill and I would want to set a password, if I could.
Load More Replies...Sorry dad here. If you're not paying for it, me and the wife will decide the house temp. This is entitled kid stuff. We keep the house a very comfortable temp but random changes screw up the temp schedule and how we cool based on solar use. If my kid kept changing my thermostat I'd do the same thing.
I Confronted My Dad About Making My Little Brother Pay Half The Electricity Bill When He Barely Earns Any Money. This Was My Dad's Response
Children do not owe their parents ANYTHING. If you decide to have children (or can't keep it in your pants and forget contraception) it is your responsibility to care (and pay) for the child. Nobody asked to be born. Emotional blackmail is null and void.
Not enough context. How old is this brother? 23, sitting at home most of the time playing games and only working part time? Only paying half the electric bill is generous. 16, still in high school working to cover "fun money" and start a savings? Parents should still be 100% supporting. Can't make a judgement call on this info alone.
The One Time I Wish My Dad A Happy Thanksgiving
I'm 19 years old, my parents have been divorced since I was 3, and the last time I saw my dad was 10 years ago. He’s retired military so I’m on his medical, and that’s the extent he provides for me.
I message him happy birthday and holiday greetings. This time he was drunk and got mad because I didn’t reply to his text message, even though I made it clear to him that my phone is broken and I’m using one with no sim.
My Dad Always Asks For Expensive Things And Wants Me To Pay For Everything
My dad is probably my least favorite person on this earth. He’s emotionally manipulative, abusive, and controlling. He has screwed me over majorly in life. My grandparent’s house was supposed to be sold, and the money was to be given to me per their wishes for my college loans. My dad sold it and kept the money for himself. I am a pharmacist and went through 8 years of school to get my doctorate with no help from my parents, so I have a lot of loans. My dad constantly asks for expensive presents for special occasions or for me to pay for things for him, like my parent’s anniversary dinner at a steak house. It annoys me because it’s like rubbing salt in the wound of the money he stole from me.
I’ve Been At College For One Day. He Dropped Me Off Yesterday. It’s Orientation Week
I Have No Words. My Dad Suddenly Decided That He Doesn’t Want To Pay The Full Share Of His Rent And All I Asked For Was An Explanation
Need more context. Why is dad paying rent if they're not working but traveling?
Seems to me that only context we need is "We had a contract with Silva...". If it's an actual contract, he's in breach, and it doesn't matter why in the least.
Load More Replies...Ah yes, the mythical "I WAS going to give you..." My mother pulls this sh!t all the time.
Yeah! I WAS going to give you France but you decided to XXX
Load More Replies...Almost The 5-Year Anniversary Of When My Dad Sent These To Me
I had just turned 18 and moved out of my dad’s apartment into my mom’s because he’d constantly be drinking and saying horrible things to me and then wouldn’t remember it in the morning. I have more of these texts (16 more screenshots to be exact) but they’re kind of painful to read back. I honestly don’t really know if I was entitled to leave like that. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. Maybe I’m the insane one.
No, you are not insane. you are 18 and fully entitled to live where you choose. Please find support to help you work through this, and know a lot of strangers are pulling for you.
You've got a different roof over your head, and it's stable? Block, block, block block block, blockity-block. Don't just burn that bridge, annihilate it.
My Dad Says I’m Dead To Him
My siblings and I have cut our parents out of our lives because for too long there has been manipulation, lying, and just downright nasty behavior. A few weeks back I decided I wanted to reach out to my old stepdad (my parents divorced and married other people a while back, they ended up divorcing those people and getting back together). I wanted to let him know that what was done to him was awful and I also wanted to just reconnect. My parents caught wind of this and that sparked my dad to text me after months of no contact to tell me I’m dead to him.
The last two things he has said to me are that he’s ashamed of me and that I’m dead to him. And then an hour later he told me he loves me with all his heart. I didn’t respond.
“Your died to me” if YOU’RE going to be a horrible person to your offspring, at least spell “You’re” right and use past and present tense words correctly. (I’m not condoning being a horrible person to your offspring, please don’t downvote me to the underworld.)
This Is My Dad's Idea Of An Acceptable Amount Of Screen Time
My Dad Posted This On Facebook The Day I Moved In With My Mother When I Was 16
Screw him. Post the same thing on Facebook when you put him into a retirement home.
He doesn't deserve a retirement home.
Load More Replies...My Father Just Randomly Sends Messages Like This For No Reason, And Then I Hear Nothing Again For Months. I Hadn’t Heard From Him For About 5 Months Before This
Dad Will Text Me Stuff Like This To Guilt Me Into Ordering Him Take Out. I’m Sick Of It And Don’t Know What To Do
My Dad Only Contacts Me When He Wants Something. This Is What He Messaged Me Out Of The Blue With While I Was Crying At Work
He was going to use it for something fraudulent. Don't give your number to anyone.
"You just lost $250,000" he was going to use it in an MLM.
Load More Replies...okay i have to check out of reading now, OP's responses are exactly how I sound when trying to calm the outrage. stay safe fellow pandas
The saddest part about these is the kids just placating their abusive parents.
My Dad Threatening To Burn My House Down
If he does it, and lies about it, take these texts to the police. I don’t think he’ll be saying the same thing in the end.
Let him burn the house down. That is arson. He will go to jail/prison for a while. Yes, I know that will be a heartache for you. Losing things, at least he will be put our of your life for a while.
My Stepdad’s "Apology" After Two Decades Of Abuse
That better be some good biscuits and gravy, because if not, I’m ignoring your “apology”.
"biscuits and grave" is something I now cannot believe Danzig, nor any of its spinoffs, ever named an album.
Biological Dad Found My Post On A Public Game Group And Commented This. I'm No Contact With Him And 7 Years Sober
He sent me 900$ in 2012, I was using in 2014-2016. When I got sober I made a decision to completely cut him out, he’s extremely racist and “born again Christian” and it’s been going well. The mountains of texts before this public post are similar.
You should stop using whatever you're using, you poor sod.
Load More Replies...Dad Takes $20,000 Out Of My Account Which Had $17,000 And Proceeds To Guilt Trip, Gaslight, And Deny Me My Own Money. I Still Haven’t Received My Money Back, By The Way
The amount of people who seem to allow unfettered access to their money is astounding
I think this may be a cultural thing , my Asian friends are expected to allow their parents, and sometimes grandparents, to have access to their bank accounts, etc.
Load More Replies...Next WEEK? I don't know what other banks do, but mine charges $37.50 for each attempted transaction on an overdrawn account and charges $20/day for "extended overdraft" if it's overdrawn more than three days. This has the potential to be life-destroying. Cops. Now.
This is nuts, get your money back and cut off his access or go to another bank.
I Felt Good About My Response When Dad Tried To Make Fun Of My Mother's Spiritual Beliefs When She Mentioned That She Wanted To Get Me A Healing Crystal To Put In My New Apartment
We were all in the same room when he texted me, thinking he was being funny. They’ve been divorced for 16 years.
Dad Is Mad That His Subscription Didn’t Automatically Renew
He got a new bank card and “I need you to do this for me” way of asking to change all his subscriptions last month. I updated it and thought it was that.
I got this message not even 10 minutes ago. He does this every time something small doesn’t go his way and I’m tired of begging for him to calm down or stay in my life. I’m happy to not do anything for him anymore and I don’t care if he goes no contact with me anymore. Guilt-tripping me over an HBO subscription is crazy.
He's a grown up adult, he would be able to update the credit card on the subscriptions
My Dad Opens My Mail Without My Permission
Assuming USA, committing felonies as a way to 'get even' isn't very bright. It would probably never get reported, but if it did, "He did it first!" is not a valid defense.
Load More Replies...I Dared To Wish My Father A Happy Birthday. Now He Blames Me For All His Friends And Family Cutting Ties Because He Treats Everyone Like This
He sent me 45 texts like this before getting bored.
Doesn't anyone recognise the difference between 'your' and 'you're' anymore?
Yes, that should be the take away from this post, a grammar lesson.
Load More Replies...My Father Told The Cops I Came Onto His Property When I Was Getting My Cat, Whom He Told Me He Would Take To A Shelter If I Didn’t Collect
I was homeless because he kicked me out, and I risked where I was staying to have my cat with me.
Meet My Dad
"Behave like an adult" is another term for "do what I say". Every time.
My Dad Being Himself After I Told Him Happy Thanksgiving
My dad is very aware of our financial troubles, and it took every cent I had to get pull ups and diapers and put the remaining in gas to get to my uncle’s Thanksgiving, around 35 miles away. My dad says he lives 8 miles from me, but it is actually closer to 20 one way. My dad doesn’t usually do anything for Thanksgiving, and my mom has an order of protection against him and was with us, so I assumed the best place to take the kids to Thanksgiving dinner was my uncle’s who we don’t get to see much.
I'm so confused. She said she drove for 16 hours but then she said it was 35 miles away?
16 hours to where her family lives. She is staying down there, presumably in a motel. The motel is 35 miles from her uncle's house and 20 from her father's.
Load More Replies...My Dad Randomly Unplugged My Ethernet, And This Is What I Come Back To After I Plug It Back In
Yeah I need more than what is here to know if this is actually an unhinged dad or a kid being punished for legit reasons. For all we know the kid used his dads credit card to do a little online shopping, or the kid was on sites they shouldn't have been and got caught. So many understandable reasons why a kid could lose access to the internet.
Load More Replies...The way the cables are scrambled around that table leg is a safety hazard anyway. Plug it back in and wait for the house to burn down.
Pff, that would be a long wait with ethernet cable.
Load More Replies...My Dad Is Upset I Missed Class Because I Was Sick. He's Also Upset That I Am Not Home Much Even Though I'm 18 And A Working Student Athlete. My Sister Texted Me This
Apparently, My Dad And His Girlfriend Were Fighting When I Went Swimming With Her Today, And I Got A Chain Of Insane Texts
I don’t have a phone plan, so I didn’t get any of these messages until I got home. I do not live with him, so I’m not worried about my safety. Also, the cut-off message says: “Dad, I don’t have data on my phone”.
"blowing up [a] phone" is a derogatory comment. If you're using it about your own behavior, you already know you're a piece of s**t.
My Dad's Response After Calling Me At 3 AM For A Chat
My Biological Dad Messaged Me On Facebook After Discovering That I Plan On Getting Adopted
Am I Overreacting?
Long story short, had to move back home and my dad has never been an affectionate father. I can count on my fingers how many times I have gotten hugs from him, he was also very emotionally abusive to me growing up. As soon as I got back he started hugging me and planting kisses on my cheek and neck and I’ll move away and tell him it's weird and I always receive blacklash from my mother and other relatives that I'm being mean and hes trying to rebuild a relationship with me. He did it again tonight and I tried to pull away from him but he was squeezing me tight and I literally yelled let me go and tried to communicate it again but he’s not getting it.
If you’re not comfortable with someone touching YOUR body, they need to stop.
Exactly. Regardless of age, whether they’re related to you or not.
Load More Replies...Yeah he needs to not touch you when you say no, this seems to be getting very weird.
Definitely not over-reacting. I grew up in an affectionate home so hugs come naturally to me. I've had people tell me they don't like hugs and that's perfectly acceptable to me! Everyone has boundaries. And even in an affectionate home we didn't kiss each others necks...that's weird.
Our Roommate's Dad Has Decided We Don't Get To Live In Our Apartment Anymore
He has no power to do this. He does not live with us. His justification is that we aren't suited to living together (because the apartment isn't perfectly clean) despite us being very happy with our arrangement. Our roommate and her mom have both tried to tell him that he doesn't get to make that decision for us, but he has ignored them both. His name is on the lease, but only because he and his wife used to rent this apartment before us. They moved out 3 or 4 years ago and now live an hour away. No idea why he thinks this is ok.
if his name is on the lease and you don't have a contract with him then he can decide who lives there it sucks but without a contract not much you can do.
Agreed, this sucks especially if they had a verbal contract in place, but even with family ALWAYS get it in writing. Actually...probably especially with family.
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What Would You Guys Do If Your Dad Did This To Your $150 Monitor?
For at least twice the amount ot cost of buying the computer and setup.
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"Parents did the bare minimum after making the conscious choice to have you so do the bare minimum for them when they are old' there I fixed it
If parents want their kids to stick around when they're old to help care for them then they need to be parents WORTH sticking around for and helping out.
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I still tried to send an olive branch during the holidays but got this response in return. Some people just want to stay stubborn.
My Boomer Father Seeks Out My LinkedIn Profile And Sends Me A Message About How He Wished I Looked More Feminine In My Headshot
Mind you, I just have short hair, which was styled and curled, and a full face of makeup in the photo.
I Came Out As Bisexual On Facebook And Got These Texts From My Father
My Family Is On Vacation Without Me. I’m Away From Their House Visiting My Best Friend. Since I Don’t Run On Dad’s Time Anymore, He Had A Neighbor Do His Bidding And Blamed Me
I wouldn't play into the long conversations .... are you saying you can't do it? ... No .... can you do it .... yes .... are you going to do it now ... no ....where are you .... out ..... Honestly, this would end the endless/ senseless chatter on the other end ... if you don't play into the emotions, I bet he gets frustrated (which is what you want anyway.)
Mom Asked If We Wanted To Go See Avatar 2. Dad’s Response
My Stepdad (65) Rage Texting After I (42) Try To Set Some Boundaries
Oh the irony, talking about open mindness while pouring out all that hateful bs about liberals.
My Dad Says I Don't Deserve Or Need A Doorknob
A Growth Mindset With My Dad Is Impossible
I grew up having to walk on eggshells around my dad because any perceived slight inconvenience gets turned on you and his mood changes in an instant. We had a productive conversation recently where I finally told him it’s frustrating to deal with and he had a great response and promised to just make an effort to stop and think before reacting. I’m exhausted.
Mrs. #2 was like this. At least I was able to get away from it by divorcing her.
At least it sounds like he's trying? Exhausting yes, frustrating absolutely, but if he's willing to see his problem and work on it he's light years ahead of most of the other dads in this thread!
My Narcissist Dad Is Trying To Play Wounded Cow Again By Telling Family Members I Cut Him Off To Hide A Pregnancy And Marriage
I haven't spoken to my narcissistic dad since I told him it wasn't healthy for me to continue trying to have a relationship with him. This officially ended all forms of communication between us. Now, I'm in a group chat with the only two family members I still talk to. They were upset because they thought I was hiding major life events from them while I've been in quarantine. I'm not sure why my dad tells people I'm married or pregnant; it's likely his way of convincing himself and others that he's still the victim.
We Called Our Abusive Dad Abusive And Now He’s Refusing To Eat
My Narcissistic Father
I Know My Dad Is Trying To "Protect" Me And Stuff But This Is Too Far. He Never Let Me See My Friend After That
This is not being protective, this is being abusive and controlling. Please learn the difference or you will be controlled and abused in future relationships.
I could very well be wrong, since it's been a very long time since I've owned an iPhone, but isn't this screenshot from the dad's phone? As in the dad's point of view, because it says "read at 10:25pm" under the message from the daughter saying, Dad please I'm sorry. If so was the dad trying to see if he's the AH, without flat out asking AITA?? I'm really hoping I'm wrong, because even the title to this post, is made to look like it's from the daughter. Also these messages are lacking serious context. ETA- I also just noticed that every single message from the daughter, starts with Dad.? That's a little weird and idk about you but if I just got called out for having an attitude, whether I did or didn't, imo, best believe my àss would not be replying back in all Caps. This is all the dad's doing and he made up this entire post, that's my conclusion.
Parent Pushing Religion
My son (7) spent an afternoon with my dad today who is a fundamentalist Christian. My son first video called us and said god is real, why didn’t we know that. After he was dropped off, he was telling us how he needs to pray, the devil is real, everyone is corrupted etc. He now believes it’s all true because my dad has said it. I’ve always taught both sides and said it is up to them to decide.
I messaged my mum about this twice and she ignored all the messages. I don’t want them involved with us or my kids anymore.
This is on OP, she knows her parents and how they are and still exposes her kid to them. What did she think would happen!?
Ugh. I've got family like this. We're not religious but I'm not against my kid being so but he's 6. He's not ready to make that choice for himself. Unfortunately those family members give him kids bibles and religious gifts for his birthday and preach at him about Jesus and he parrots it back. That my issue with religious people, asking them to respect your views is oppressive and unreasonable but it's OK for them to push their views on my kids despite my asking them not too.
My Dad On A Post I Shared
I totally by get a bad creepy vibe from this. I got a playful and joking tone.
My Absent Dad Sent Me An Emoji After Not Talking For Nearly A Year
My Dad Wants Me To Scrub The Oil Off The Driveway
Apparently, someone’s car (probably my brother's) leaked oil on the driveway, and my dad (stepdad technically) wants me to scrub it off. Like just hose it down? I don’t have time for that. Plus it’s the driveway, it’s bound to get dirty. Also up until a few weeks ago, he made me turn in my phone at night and wouldn’t let me have it in my room at all. Not even during daytime. I’m 21, and he continues to treat me like a child. He won’t let me eat after 10 PM either, because it “wakes him up”. I am the quietest person in the house, and my parents don’t even go to bed until 11 PM.
It's clear that your dad can be a doucecanoe and I agree that at the age of 21, you're being treated like a child, in some aspects. First off, eat before 10pm or bring some snacks into your room, prior to 10, so you don't "disturb" him, or buy your own snacks/drinks and get a mini fridge for your room if you can. I would also get my own phone and plan, this way they can't take your property, that you solely pay for. I know it can be much harder and way more expensive to be able to move out, especially at 21, but even with a part time job, a cell phone and snacks should be well within financial means. This also gets dad off your case about some things. And if your car leaked the oil in the driveway, then just ask what is the best way to clean it and ask how to fix your car, so it doesn't keep happening. If it's bros car that did it, then take it up with bro. Either way you don't mention that you're paying any rent and if your car made the mess, why should your dad be the one to clean it up? If you want to be treated as an adult, you have to act as one.
Calling Your Own Daughter Like That
I get him being a little freaked that his daughter is having sex at 15 but I think it's the over the top reaction that's concerning. He went through her phone, compared what she did to death, wants to put her in therapy, can barely look at her? It's all a bit much. This Dad is the one who needs therapy before he dumps all his emotions on his 15 year old.
his daughter is 15 most parents would be concerned if they learn this
The only thing I would be concerned about is if she is using protection and that it is consensual.
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The guys a s****y dad but where does it say he wants to sleep with her?
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I don’t know which one of you is talking, but I wholeheartedly agree.
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These all seem very toxic. It is likely very triggering for some people.
I'm fortunate that I had a wonderful dad. I'm adopted but I was still 100% his daughter, just as much as my sister was (my adoptive parents' bio child.) My mother, however, is a textbook toxic narcissist who is abusive in every single way (she used to beat me on the regular, cut me with knives, all while verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusing me.) So, let's just say my mom is like all of these toxic dads above, just a mom instead of a dad XD
*nuzzles up against Wolfie and purrs loudly*
Load More Replies...What really baffles me is people insisting on having contact with these toxic a*sĥoles and then complaining about them to strangers on the internet. Grow some spine and cut these aholes out off your lives for good.
I couldn't read more than three posts. I had a toxic father (along with a toxic mother. Yay.) I won't repeat here the things they said or did to me. But I can give you some good advice: RUN AWAY! Leave them! There's absolutely no point in staying with them. And to say: “Yes, but it’s family”. No. Run away and build your own family. With good people.
my Dad up and disappeared for 3 years when i was a kid i had no male role model growing up he came back eventually. He has never apologised and only tries to justify what he did rather than accepting blame which he tries to pass onto my mum. I tried to explain to him that it doesn't matter what his reasons were the fact is he left his kids without a word or explanation worst part was that it was Christmas eve. It has seriously messed me up gave me bad abandonment issues that i still struggle with.
I don’t know which one of you is talking, but I wholeheartedly agree.
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These all seem very toxic. It is likely very triggering for some people.
I'm fortunate that I had a wonderful dad. I'm adopted but I was still 100% his daughter, just as much as my sister was (my adoptive parents' bio child.) My mother, however, is a textbook toxic narcissist who is abusive in every single way (she used to beat me on the regular, cut me with knives, all while verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusing me.) So, let's just say my mom is like all of these toxic dads above, just a mom instead of a dad XD
*nuzzles up against Wolfie and purrs loudly*
Load More Replies...What really baffles me is people insisting on having contact with these toxic a*sĥoles and then complaining about them to strangers on the internet. Grow some spine and cut these aholes out off your lives for good.
I couldn't read more than three posts. I had a toxic father (along with a toxic mother. Yay.) I won't repeat here the things they said or did to me. But I can give you some good advice: RUN AWAY! Leave them! There's absolutely no point in staying with them. And to say: “Yes, but it’s family”. No. Run away and build your own family. With good people.
my Dad up and disappeared for 3 years when i was a kid i had no male role model growing up he came back eventually. He has never apologised and only tries to justify what he did rather than accepting blame which he tries to pass onto my mum. I tried to explain to him that it doesn't matter what his reasons were the fact is he left his kids without a word or explanation worst part was that it was Christmas eve. It has seriously messed me up gave me bad abandonment issues that i still struggle with.
