50 Posts From Toxic Parents Who Simply Shouldn’t Have Had Kids, Shared On This Online Community
Let’s face it, parenting is one of the biggest challenges that we’ll ever have to face in our lives. It’s right up there alongside fighting off an alien invasion, surviving a zombie apocalypse, rocket science, and plugging in a USB cable on the first try. So it’s no wonder that most parents are less than perfect. In fact, it’s pretty much the norm.
However, they’re nowhere near the level that some of the parents featured on the ‘Parents Are Effing Dumb’ subreddit are. There, you’ll find some of the biggest fails that will make you gasp, shout “think of the children!”, and think about taking these people’s parenting license away. Remember to buckle up and upvote the pics that made your jaw drop as you scroll down the rollercoaster that is this descent into parenting weirdness.
When it comes to parenting, both extremes—absolute perfectionism/trying to be a ‘perfect’ parent and not trying hard enough—can be harmful to the family. And while it’s very clear what bad parenting is, perfectionism is more insidious and sneaky and can actually end up being just as harmful as actual neglect or ignorance, though in a very different way. We spoke about the pitfalls of this with an expert in the field of psychology.
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I'm Sorry, What??
He’s Not Wrong
My Family Does This To Me All The Time, And Each Time I Tell Them It Discourages Me But They Still Do It
Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, explained to Bored Panda the pitfalls of perfectionist thinking and how it spreads to many areas of a person’s life, contributing to poor mental health and even depression.
Believing that you should (or even that you can) be a so-called ‘perfect’ parent is actually detrimental to your health. What’s more, the belief that you can control every single outcome can spread to other areas of your life, not just parenting.
How Could She Not Know How Antlers Work?
And I Know That From Home
And how to use your mother's makeup to hide the bruises
Me Getting My Vaccinations After My Mother Refused For Me To Have Them
I love when teenagers actually start to think for themselves, and not just repeating what they parents think
“When we set excessive and inflexible high standards for ourselves and become self-critical about not meeting those, perfectionism can become a problem for our mental health and potentially contribute to depression or suicidal thoughts,” researcher Morton said.
Actually What The F**k
She Is Insane
That’s just the same as smashing down a Lego set, or destroying paintings, or any other project. It’s destroying property! And hours and hours of care and passion.
Very Not Cool
“Perfectionism is a very insidious problem—even if someone achieves great success in their personal or professional life, negative thinking patterns lead them to be highly self-critical, focus on perceived mistakes, or mentally discount their achievements,” Morton detailed that a perfectionist mindset dims even the biggest victories when we tend to laser-in on the various real and imagined flaws.
Oh Dear Mom
Tweet Says It All
What If The Neighbors Had Dogs
The anxiety surrounding perfectionism is just as much about personal pride as it is about the desire to be respected and liked by others. “People who struggle with perfectionism may worry that they will be judged for their perceived failures, feel that they are inadequate for needing help, or assume they will be a burden on their family and friends,” she said, adding that this can make perfectionists especially vulnerable mentally and emotionally.
Please Show Support To The Op On His Post Since His Parents Surely Won't
Can’t Imagine What That Kid Has To Deal With
Wow Just Wow
As such, it’s very important that parents who make mistakes with their kids don’t overcorrect and land in the ‘perfectionist’ zone. Similarly, any parents who realize that they’re being inflexible with their standards and are overly critical of their and their kids’ (real or perceived) faults need to learn to hold back and allow room for (at least some) failure. After all, learning to deal with failure and drawing wisdom from our mistakes is what being human is all about. One thing's for sure, though: nobody wants to be that parent who ends up on 'Parents Are Effing Dumb.'
Drip Or Drown
Oh god, there should be laws against this sort of "family youtube" thing. Using your kids for views and cash is revolting.
"Those Japanese cartoons are too violent. Here, watch this documentary about the genocide in Vendée on the French-German channel."
Florida Teen Dies From Covid-19 After Mom Takes Her To Church “Covid Party”
Atleast One Person In The Comments Had The Sense To Tell Her To Call A Doctor! This Is Too Much
Taking A Picture Instead Of Saving Your Child
Mum Is Angry At Her Child For Growing
Another Great Example Of Dumb Parents
Only took this picture for my lawyer. Oh, and the internet and the world.
Old people think they are gods, they always think they are always right about everything. Edit : not all of them, obviously, but it is more like a general tendency.
Big Brain Logic
I can see the composite in my head now from all I've seen that I couldn't stop: "how many times must I tell you *name*?! We *smack* don't *smack* hit *smack* people *wrenches kid away by the arm*
At least she apologized. Most parents would never do that.
Family Had Symptoms Of Covid But Sent Child To School Regardless
My Parents Think This Is A Cute Decoration
My MIL collects golli-dolls. I asked her mother (my wife's grandmother) about it a few years back. She told me that after the war, they were left with nothing, rationing was the only thing keeping them fed. She was out begging one day with her infant child (my MIL) and someone gave her a golli doll and she has kept it ever since. The doll, to my MIL, was the first and only gift she would receive as a child and holds huge sentimentality, if her house caught fire, she would try to save them, before her husband. She knows and understands why they are racist, but for her, they represent something else, kindness, charity, safety and childhood.
Found This On Facebook
Woke Up And Saw My Door Removed By My Parents. I Asked Them "Why?" And They Replied With "Privacy Isn't Necessary"
My parents didn't take my door, but they had the same attitude to privacy. They still do.
Tell Me Why
Sorry If Repost
Let Me Just Punish My Kid For Being Depressed Instead Of Trying To Deal With It
It's A Repost
Everyone Is Fine Today And No Bad Habits Were Formed
Well, He Tried
My Dad Needs To Stay Off The Internet
We Know Everything About You
That Kid Is Like 1
Cement burns and irritates skin- the kid needs to be washed off immediately. Whoever took the photo and/or stood watching this is a nunt
I Did It
Modern Names From Modern Parents... Parent Stupidity
7yo Gets Bullied At School For Sitting In A Car Seat, So Mom Waits Until He's Asleep, Takes A Photo Of Him, And Posts It On The Official Parents Magazine Instagram Page (855k Followers)
I think this person is actually evil. Maybe she will learn her lesson when she is not invited to his wedding, never meets her grandchildren, and is cremated in the cheapest casket and thrown away in the nearest lake with just a small prayer and two flowers.
We’re In A Crowded Terminal And This Toddler Wouldn’t Stop Crying And Screaming, So Her Mom Gave Her A Whistle To Play With
Yes, The Problem Is Definitely Not That You Gave A Phone To A 2 Year Old!
Sad We Have To Create Something So We Don’t Forget Children
If you 'never understand' why people make mistakes, you're another reason why people think they could never make a mistake, don't use any kind of failsafe, make a mistake, and have dire consequences.
My Son Likes To Do Something He Likes And He Deserves It, But Doesn't Need It. What Should I Do?
You could teach him the valuable lesson that, no matter how hard he works and how good he follows rules, people with power (you in that case) will never let him see a reward for it, let alone have some time to relax and recharge. That will teach him a lot about life. Or push him to burnout/suicide and stuff.
This Mom Be Like "I Wonder Why My Kids Don't Confide In Me For Anything?"
Note: this post originally had 95 images. It’s been shortened to the top 50 images based on user votes.
A lot of these left me speechless with horror. Some people really should not have children. Or be near children. Or be near anyone at all.
Agreed, but my dad still had us, dam* it.
I will say one sentence, ten words about that I think of this: all children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children.
Couldn't agree more
I just got into an argument with my mom. It goes: Me: *minding my own business on break and testing out my old raspberry pi 2* (Hag): WTFH ARE YOU DOING YOU B*TCH? YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING HOMEWORKING AND STUDYING FOR ALL OF YOUR FINALS!!!! Me: Mom, I'm just finishing up some extra homework for digital electronics, and plus, the only final I have left is my math, and it's easy and open notes. (HAG): I DON'T WANT TO HEAR ANY EXCUSES YOU BASTARD! YOUR GRADES ARE TRASH AND YOU'RE STILL HERE PLAYING VIDEO GAMES ON THAT COMPUTER?* *BTW, My grades are average 96, and the Raspberry Pi2 has 1 GB Ram and can barely access the internet. Me: WTH? I'm just minding my own business and you just came out of nowhere and started yelling at me? I'm supposed to eating lunch right now anyway? Why all the fuss? (HAG): WHY? BECAUSE I SAID SO! SO DO IT YOU MOTHERF*CKER!! And basically, that's my everyday life. It's sh*t. Usually I don't swear a lot on the internet, but I just have to vent my anger!
I am sending you a really big hug
me too! lots of big hugs!!!!!!!!!! and good fortune!!!!!
Oh Megumi I really hope you get away from her the first chance you get sweetheart, you don’t need to be treated this way nor be spoken to in such a foul mouthed horrible way. God bless and good luck with your grades. Get a job save up then run as fast and as far away from her as possible.
Please do. Thank you for the message!
Sorry about the toxicity today. I'm just not feeling well.
you arent toxic!!!!! your mom is. sending lots of hugs your way!
You are not toxic!!! I'm so sorry this is happening to you. This reminds me very much of the abuse I suffered from my ex-husband, who had narcissistic personality disorder and anti-social personality disorder. He would just follow me around and attack for no reason and would say similar (crazy, gaslighting, abusive, untrue) things. It is not your fault and you will be able to get away from it at some point. It might be worth telling someone what is going on, although in my experience, there is not a lot of help for victims of emotional and psychological abuse. But, if you do tell someone, and they don't help, keep telling people until you find someone who will listen and advocate for you. If that is not the road you choose to take, then research those disorders, because when my therapist told me what was going on, it really helped me understand how to deal with him better and to not internalize the abuse. There are online support groups, too. You sound like a good, smart kid.Hugs.